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we are born curious for nine months we

we are born curious for nine months we sit in this dark holding cell and then

sit in this dark holding cell and then

sit in this dark holding cell and then all a sudden there’s light and

all a sudden there’s light and

all a sudden there’s light and everything that we’re experiencing is

everything that we’re experiencing is

everything that we’re experiencing is for the very first time every smell

for the very first time every smell

for the very first time every smell every taste every touch and as the

every taste every touch and as the

every taste every touch and as the minutes become hours and the hours

minutes become hours and the hours

minutes become hours and the hours become days we start to become more

become days we start to become more

become days we start to become more curious about our surroundings we will

curious about our surroundings we will

curious about our surroundings we will later find out that the seven women

later find out that the seven women

later find out that the seven women throwing us around like a football

throwing us around like a football

throwing us around like a football aren’t actually trying to kill us

aren’t actually trying to kill us

aren’t actually trying to kill us they’re called nurses and that these two

they’re called nurses and that these two

they’re called nurses and that these two large humans that are making weird faces

large humans that are making weird faces

large humans that are making weird faces and noises from the moment we wake up to

and noises from the moment we wake up to

and noises from the moment we wake up to the moment we go to sleep aren’t aliens

the moment we go to sleep aren’t aliens

the moment we go to sleep aren’t aliens they’re called our parents and they love

they’re called our parents and they love

they’re called our parents and they love us and somewhere around the age of two

us and somewhere around the age of two

us and somewhere around the age of two or three years old we’re able to

or three years old we’re able to

or three years old we’re able to verbalize all this curiosity into a

verbalize all this curiosity into a

verbalize all this curiosity into a one-word question why now if you have

one-word question why now if you have

one-word question why now if you have kids of your own or you’ve watched any

kids of your own or you’ve watched any

kids of your own or you’ve watched any movie with some annoying child that

movie with some annoying child that

movie with some annoying child that knows more than the adults you know that

knows more than the adults you know that

knows more than the adults you know that that question of why cannot be answered

that question of why cannot be answered

that question of why cannot be answered in a single sentence know that question

in a single sentence know that question

in a single sentence know that question of why is going to need explanation and

of why is going to need explanation and

of why is going to need explanation and counter explanations because somehow

counter explanations because somehow

counter explanations because somehow this three-year-old that still wets the

this three-year-old that still wets the

this three-year-old that still wets the bed knows more about life than you do my

bed knows more about life than you do my

bed knows more about life than you do my son Bryce is four years old I’m still

son Bryce is four years old I’m still

son Bryce is four years old I’m still answering a question from when he was

answering a question from when he was

answering a question from when he was two the struggle is real

two the struggle is real

two the struggle is real trust me when I say this but something

trust me when I say this but something

trust me when I say this but something happens when we get older our curiosity

happens when we get older our curiosity

happens when we get older our curiosity turns into cautiousness I remember being

turns into cautiousness I remember being

turns into cautiousness I remember being ten years old and standing on top of a

ten years old and standing on top of a

ten years old and standing on top of a flight of stairs equipped with nothing

flight of stairs equipped with nothing

flight of stairs equipped with nothing but a garbage bag because I was sure

but a garbage bag because I was sure

but a garbage bag because I was sure once I jumped that hefty bag was going

once I jumped that hefty bag was going

once I jumped that hefty bag was going to turn into a parachute 17 stairs later

to turn into a parachute 17 stairs later

to turn into a parachute 17 stairs later I realized that was not the case I got

I realized that was not the case I got

I realized that was not the case I got messed up I got hurt but I made that

messed up I got hurt but I made that

messed up I got hurt but I made that discovery on

and when you start learning things and

and when you start learning things and being taught things like fear by your

being taught things like fear by your

being taught things like fear by your parents by your teachers by your

parents by your teachers by your

parents by your teachers by your siblings you start accepting answers and

siblings you start accepting answers and

siblings you start accepting answers and you stop asking why and the problem with

you stop asking why and the problem with

you stop asking why and the problem with that is this the most important question

that is this the most important question

that is this the most important question we can ask ourselves as human beings is

we can ask ourselves as human beings is

we can ask ourselves as human beings is why are we here there are billions not

why are we here there are billions not

why are we here there are billions not millions billions of people that occupy

millions billions of people that occupy

millions billions of people that occupy this planet that believe their only

this planet that believe their only

this planet that believe their only purpose in life is to go to school go to

purpose in life is to go to school go to

purpose in life is to go to school go to college get a job to pay for said

college get a job to pay for said

college get a job to pay for said college get married have two-and-a-half

college get married have two-and-a-half

college get married have two-and-a-half cancers I still cannot figure out how

cancers I still cannot figure out how

cancers I still cannot figure out how you have to want to have kids retire at

you have to want to have kids retire at

you have to want to have kids retire at the ripe age of 80 and then die they

the ripe age of 80 and then die they

the ripe age of 80 and then die they feel that’s the reason they exist that’s

feel that’s the reason they exist that’s

feel that’s the reason they exist that’s not an existence that’s just existing

not an existence that’s just existing

not an existence that’s just existing that’s taking up space I feel that every

that’s taking up space I feel that every

that’s taking up space I feel that every single one of us has a purpose you’re

single one of us has a purpose you’re

single one of us has a purpose you’re probably sitting there right now like

probably sitting there right now like

probably sitting there right now like okay crazy man on stage why are you so

okay crazy man on stage why are you so

okay crazy man on stage why are you so sure well here’s the reason I used to

sure well here’s the reason I used to

sure well here’s the reason I used to work at this place called the Denville

work at this place called the Denville

work at this place called the Denville pharmacy in the very back counter I used

pharmacy in the very back counter I used

pharmacy in the very back counter I used to call it the sink counter I used to

to call it the sink counter I used to

to call it the sink counter I used to sell cigarettes and a lottery tickets

sell cigarettes and a lottery tickets

sell cigarettes and a lottery tickets and I had this older gentleman that used

and I had this older gentleman that used

and I had this older gentleman that used to come into the pharmacy every single

to come into the pharmacy every single

to come into the pharmacy every single day and by hundreds of lottery tickets

day and by hundreds of lottery tickets

day and by hundreds of lottery tickets hundreds and one day he came up to me

hundreds and one day he came up to me

hundreds and one day he came up to me said young man I’ve been playing the

said young man I’ve been playing the

said young man I’ve been playing the lottery for 30 years I never got more

lottery for 30 years I never got more

lottery for 30 years I never got more than three winning numbers I’m 18 so my

than three winning numbers I’m 18 so my

than three winning numbers I’m 18 so my mind says like stop but then I started

mind says like stop but then I started

mind says like stop but then I started to think about it think about how many

to think about it think about how many

to think about it think about how many millions of people play the lottery

millions of people play the lottery

millions of people play the lottery every day and how many tens of thousands

every day and how many tens of thousands

every day and how many tens of thousands of people play it as aggressively as

of people play it as aggressively as

of people play it as aggressively as this older gentleman and never ever win

this older gentleman and never ever win

this older gentleman and never ever win and there’s a reason for that

and there’s a reason for that

and there’s a reason for that you know when the lottery is a 1 in 175

you know when the lottery is a 1 in 175

you know when the lottery is a 1 in 175 million chance one in 175 million that’s

million chance one in 175 million that’s

million chance one in 175 million that’s like me walking out of the theater

like me walking out of the theater

like me walking out of the theater getting struck by lightning coming back

getting struck by lightning coming back

getting struck by lightning coming back in here getting struck by the same

in here getting struck by the same

in here getting struck by the same lightning ball only to walk back outside

lightning ball only to walk back outside

lightning ball only to walk back outside and get eaten by a freaking unicorn

that’s what 1 and 175 million look like

that’s what 1 and 175 million look like so when someone finally does win from

so when someone finally does win from

so when someone finally does win from Louisiana because they’re always from

Louisiana because they’re always from

Louisiana because they’re always from down south I don’t know why what’s the

down south I don’t know why what’s the

down south I don’t know why what’s the first 2 things they say they bring him

first 2 things they say they bring him

first 2 things they say they bring him up to the podium his hair is all

up to the podium his hair is all

up to the podium his hair is all disheveled

disheveled

disheveled his shirts and buns he found he has 30

his shirts and buns he found he has 30

his shirts and buns he found he has 30 new family members he’s never met before

new family members he’s never met before

new family members he’s never met before in his life and they say sir how do you

in his life and they say sir how do you

in his life and they say sir how do you feel and he gets up there he wipes his

feel and he gets up there he wipes his

feel and he gets up there he wipes his brown he goes man I just want to thank

brown he goes man I just want to thank

brown he goes man I just want to thank God I want to thank God and baby Jesus

God I want to thank God and baby Jesus

God I want to thank God and baby Jesus and Jesus is nephew and everybody and

and Jesus is nephew and everybody and

and Jesus is nephew and everybody and what’s the second thing he says it’s a

what’s the second thing he says it’s a

what’s the second thing he says it’s a miracle

miracle

miracle it’s a miracle and he’s right one in 175

it’s a miracle and he’s right one in 175

it’s a miracle and he’s right one in 175 million is a miracle but here’s a

million is a miracle but here’s a

million is a miracle but here’s a crazier stat I’m not trying to get too

crazier stat I’m not trying to get too

crazier stat I’m not trying to get too personal I don’t know your father’s

personal I don’t know your father’s

personal I don’t know your father’s exact sperm count and I don’t want to

exact sperm count and I don’t want to

exact sperm count and I don’t want to know it but for you to be born is

know it but for you to be born is

know it but for you to be born is somewhere in the one in four hundred

somewhere in the one in four hundred

somewhere in the one in four hundred trillion range with a T one in four

trillion range with a T one in four

trillion range with a T one in four hundred trillion so please do not sit

hundred trillion so please do not sit

hundred trillion so please do not sit here and tell me that you don’t have

here and tell me that you don’t have

here and tell me that you don’t have purpose you didn’t play the lottery you

purpose you didn’t play the lottery you

purpose you didn’t play the lottery you are the freaking lottery you are the

are the freaking lottery you are the

are the freaking lottery you are the miracle every time you wake up and you

miracle every time you wake up and you

miracle every time you wake up and you look in the mirror the miracle is

look in the mirror the miracle is

look in the mirror the miracle is looking right back at you so why are so

looking right back at you so why are so

looking right back at you so why are so many of us unconvinced some of you guys

many of us unconvinced some of you guys

many of us unconvinced some of you guys are sitting there right now I can see it

are sitting there right now I can see it

are sitting there right now I can see it on your little faces man he’s tripping

I’ll tell you why

I’ll tell you why when I was 16 years old I fell in love

when I was 16 years old I fell in love

when I was 16 years old I fell in love with basketball head over heels in love

with basketball head over heels in love

with basketball head over heels in love with basketball the problem was this I

with basketball the problem was this I

with basketball the problem was this I never played ball before in my life ever

never played ball before in my life ever

never played ball before in my life ever and I sucked badly but I play a

and I sucked badly but I play a

and I sucked badly but I play a basketball for a really big reason I

basketball for a really big reason I

basketball for a really big reason I want to play basketball so my mother the

want to play basketball so my mother the

want to play basketball so my mother the great Tina Thomas never had to work

great Tina Thomas never had to work

great Tina Thomas never had to work another job again in her life because

another job again in her life because

another job again in her life because when I was three years old my father

when I was three years old my father

when I was three years old my father Bobby Thomas passed away from cancer and

Bobby Thomas passed away from cancer and

Bobby Thomas passed away from cancer and he left my mom the task of raising five

he left my mom the task of raising five

he left my mom the task of raising five kids on her own with no money so since I

kids on her own with no money so since I

kids on her own with no money so since I was three

was three

was three I’ve seen this woman struggle I’ve seen

I’ve seen this woman struggle I’ve seen

I’ve seen this woman struggle I’ve seen this woman come home and us have bills

this woman come home and us have bills

this woman come home and us have bills from the table to the ceiling so when I

from the table to the ceiling so when I

from the table to the ceiling so when I started playing ball I said to my mom

started playing ball I said to my mom

started playing ball I said to my mom she’s the only one I share my dream with

she’s the only one I share my dream with

she’s the only one I share my dream with mom I’m gonna be a professional

mom I’m gonna be a professional

mom I’m gonna be a professional basketball player you’re never gonna

basketball player you’re never gonna

basketball player you’re never gonna have to work again and my mom would

have to work again and my mom would

have to work again and my mom would always say all right baby I believe you

always say all right baby I believe you

always say all right baby I believe you all right and somehow some way through

all right and somehow some way through

all right and somehow some way through having the coordination of a baby dear

having the coordination of a baby dear

having the coordination of a baby dear when I first started I was able to get a

when I first started I was able to get a

when I first started I was able to get a scholarship to play in North Dakota and

scholarship to play in North Dakota and

scholarship to play in North Dakota and then after I got home I got a contract

then after I got home I got a contract

then after I got home I got a contract to play professional basketball in

to play professional basketball in

to play professional basketball in Europe in 168 hours before I was

Europe in 168 hours before I was

Europe in 168 hours before I was supposed to leave I ruptured my Achilles

supposed to leave I ruptured my Achilles

supposed to leave I ruptured my Achilles tendon now understand something my whole

tendon now understand something my whole

tendon now understand something my whole purpose in life was pure it was for this

purpose in life was pure it was for this

purpose in life was pure it was for this woman that I love more than anything

woman that I love more than anything

woman that I love more than anything else on this planet in the hardest day

else on this planet in the hardest day

else on this planet in the hardest day of my life was the day after my surgery

because the day after my surgery my mom

because the day after my surgery my mom came in my room it kissed me on my

came in my room it kissed me on my

came in my room it kissed me on my forehead and I watched her walk out the

forehead and I watched her walk out the

forehead and I watched her walk out the house on her way to one of the three

house on her way to one of the three

house on her way to one of the three jobs I promised

jobs I promised

jobs I promised she never have to work again and when I

she never have to work again and when I

she never have to work again and when I talk about it now I still feel it and

talk about it now I still feel it and

talk about it now I still feel it and when she left I asked myself why why

when she left I asked myself why why

when she left I asked myself why why would I get injured now and I’m cursing

would I get injured now and I’m cursing

would I get injured now and I’m cursing the heavens all upset I’m I’m pissed off

the heavens all upset I’m I’m pissed off

the heavens all upset I’m I’m pissed off but that’s the answer to why we don’t

but that’s the answer to why we don’t

but that’s the answer to why we don’t think we have purpose because what we

think we have purpose because what we

think we have purpose because what we don’t understand when we’re going

don’t understand when we’re going

don’t understand when we’re going through it is a lot of times it’s going

through it is a lot of times it’s going

through it is a lot of times it’s going to take pain to find your purpose and us

to take pain to find your purpose and us

to take pain to find your purpose and us as humans when we experience pain one of

as humans when we experience pain one of

as humans when we experience pain one of the first things that we do is tuck tail

the first things that we do is tuck tail

the first things that we do is tuck tail and we run without realizing that on the

and we run without realizing that on the

and we run without realizing that on the other side of that pain your purpose is

other side of that pain your purpose is

other side of that pain your purpose is waiting for you you just got to stick it

waiting for you you just got to stick it

waiting for you you just got to stick it out last year they did a like a mini

out last year they did a like a mini

out last year they did a like a mini documentary at my house it was just my

documentary at my house it was just my

documentary at my house it was just my uncle not fancy was it was my uncle he’s

uncle not fancy was it was my uncle he’s

uncle not fancy was it was my uncle he’s just recording some stuff I tried to say

just recording some stuff I tried to say

just recording some stuff I tried to say like I was cool he was like oh did a doc

like I was cool he was like oh did a doc

like I was cool he was like oh did a doc it was just uncle Joey he just came over

and I sat down with my mom my mom’s

and I sat down with my mom my mom’s supposed to be here today but she gets

supposed to be here today but she gets

supposed to be here today but she gets embarrassed when I talk about her so she

embarrassed when I talk about her so she

embarrassed when I talk about her so she gets embarrassed a lot and I said mom I

gets embarrassed a lot and I said mom I

gets embarrassed a lot and I said mom I said how did you get through all the

said how did you get through all the

said how did you get through all the madness now when I say fi5 I’ve four

madness now when I say fi5 I’ve four

madness now when I say fi5 I’ve four siblings is five of us one of my

siblings is five of us one of my

siblings is five of us one of my brother’s is autistic if you have

brother’s is autistic if you have

brother’s is autistic if you have anybody on the spectrum you know that’s

anybody on the spectrum you know that’s

anybody on the spectrum you know that’s tough so how did you get through all

tough so how did you get through all

tough so how did you get through all that what did you dream about what was

that what did you dream about what was

that what did you dream about what was your purpose and my mom said baby boy

your purpose and my mom said baby boy

your purpose and my mom said baby boy she goes my only purpose was to make

she goes my only purpose was to make

she goes my only purpose was to make sure you guys had a roof over your head

sure you guys had a roof over your head

sure you guys had a roof over your head you have food in your stomach and you

you have food in your stomach and you

you have food in your stomach and you were raised the right way now understand

were raised the right way now understand

were raised the right way now understand something sometimes that’s all that

something sometimes that’s all that

something sometimes that’s all that purpose has to be we get it misconstrued

purpose has to be we get it misconstrued

purpose has to be we get it misconstrued we think purpose is everybody has to

we think purpose is everybody has to

we think purpose is everybody has to save the planet man sometimes you just

save the planet man sometimes you just

save the planet man sometimes you just got to save your house and that’s

got to save your house and that’s

got to save your house and that’s powerful if it wasn’t for my mom I

powerful if it wasn’t for my mom I

powerful if it wasn’t for my mom I wouldn’t be here right

wouldn’t be here right

wouldn’t be here right now and man if it wasn’t for my injury I

now and man if it wasn’t for my injury I

now and man if it wasn’t for my injury I wouldn’t be here either

wouldn’t be here either

wouldn’t be here either my injury has bought me my beautiful

my injury has bought me my beautiful

my injury has bought me my beautiful family my injury has allowed me to speak

family my injury has allowed me to speak

family my injury has allowed me to speak in front of thousands of people an

in front of thousands of people an

in front of thousands of people an impact and be impacted and my injury is

impact and be impacted and my injury is

impact and be impacted and my injury is bringing me to this stage right now

bringing me to this stage right now

bringing me to this stage right now where I’m getting a chance to have a

where I’m getting a chance to have a

where I’m getting a chance to have a conversation with you beautiful people

conversation with you beautiful people

conversation with you beautiful people now understand something Kurt Vonnegut

now understand something Kurt Vonnegut

now understand something Kurt Vonnegut once said we are whatever we pretend to

once said we are whatever we pretend to

once said we are whatever we pretend to be so if you want to sit there in this

be so if you want to sit there in this

be so if you want to sit there in this auditorium and act like you don’t have

auditorium and act like you don’t have

auditorium and act like you don’t have purpose you want to act like there’s no

purpose you want to act like there’s no

purpose you want to act like there’s no reason that you exist you want to act

reason that you exist you want to act

reason that you exist you want to act like you’re not good enough you’re not

like you’re not good enough you’re not

like you’re not good enough you’re not smart enough you’re not the right shade

smart enough you’re not the right shade

smart enough you’re not the right shade of color etc etc etc so be it but do

of color etc etc etc so be it but do

of color etc etc etc so be it but do this for me think of your age and

this for me think of your age and

this for me think of your age and subtract it by a hundred how much time

subtract it by a hundred how much time

subtract it by a hundred how much time do you think you have left that’s if

do you think you have left that’s if

do you think you have left that’s if everything goes right we’re just renters

everything goes right we’re just renters

everything goes right we’re just renters on this planet we own nothing these

on this planet we own nothing these

on this planet we own nothing these clothes my car that barely works my

clothes my car that barely works my

clothes my car that barely works my house in a hundred years all that is

house in a hundred years all that is

house in a hundred years all that is gone but what I could do is this every

gone but what I could do is this every

gone but what I could do is this every day I am blessed with the opportunity to

day I am blessed with the opportunity to

day I am blessed with the opportunity to wake up

wake up

wake up I can impact my life for the better and

I can impact my life for the better and

I can impact my life for the better and my family’s life for the better I can

my family’s life for the better I can

my family’s life for the better I can impact somebody else’s and I can leave

impact somebody else’s and I can leave

impact somebody else’s and I can leave this world a little bit better than

this world a little bit better than

this world a little bit better than where I got it if you look around this

where I got it if you look around this

where I got it if you look around this auditorium right now we all won the

auditorium right now we all won the

auditorium right now we all won the lottery today we’re all awake we’re all

lottery today we’re all awake we’re all

lottery today we’re all awake we’re all alive and if you don’t have gratitude

alive and if you don’t have gratitude

alive and if you don’t have gratitude for that if you don’t realize there are

for that if you don’t realize there are

for that if you don’t realize there are tens of thousands of people all over the

tens of thousands of people all over the

tens of thousands of people all over the world that didn’t then you don’t

world that didn’t then you don’t

world that didn’t then you don’t understand the miracle so my big

understand the miracle so my big

understand the miracle so my big question to you is this today

question to you is this today

question to you is this today you have opportunity what the hell are

you have opportunity what the hell are

you have opportunity what the hell are you gonna do with it

you gonna do with it

you gonna do with it thank you

thank you

thank you you

you

you [Applause]

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