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some people might never figure out what
some people might never figure out what their purpose in life is and have spent
their purpose in life is and have spent
their purpose in life is and have spent all of their time trying to which
all of their time trying to which
all of their time trying to which probably sucks but I wouldn’t know
probably sucks but I wouldn’t know
probably sucks but I wouldn’t know see I had it all figured out in
see I had it all figured out in
see I had it all figured out in elementary school my purpose for being
elementary school my purpose for being
elementary school my purpose for being alive my ultimate goal my destiny the
alive my ultimate goal my destiny the
alive my ultimate goal my destiny the smartest most perfect kid ever now I
smartest most perfect kid ever now I
smartest most perfect kid ever now I know it doesn’t seem like the worst
know it doesn’t seem like the worst
know it doesn’t seem like the worst thing in the world but this label
thing in the world but this label
thing in the world but this label followed me throughout elementary middle
followed me throughout elementary middle
followed me throughout elementary middle and now high school along with the
and now high school along with the
and now high school along with the expectation that I will always go above
expectation that I will always go above
expectation that I will always go above and beyond and maybe it’s just me but
and beyond and maybe it’s just me but
and beyond and maybe it’s just me but there’s something about having everyone
there’s something about having everyone
there’s something about having everyone around you tell you to be perfect that
around you tell you to be perfect that
around you tell you to be perfect that makes you want to be perfect
makes you want to be perfect
makes you want to be perfect it sets up failure to seem like the
it sets up failure to seem like the
it sets up failure to seem like the worst possible option and sometimes in
worst possible option and sometimes in
worst possible option and sometimes in order to not fail you don’t try in a
order to not fail you don’t try in a
order to not fail you don’t try in a global epidemic that sweeps everyone
global epidemic that sweeps everyone
global epidemic that sweeps everyone from children to adults a fixed mindset
from children to adults a fixed mindset
from children to adults a fixed mindset prevents us from taking the final step
prevents us from taking the final step
prevents us from taking the final step towards success we’ve all felt this
towards success we’ve all felt this
towards success we’ve all felt this pressure of achieving perfection a
pressure of achieving perfection a
pressure of achieving perfection a constant desire to reach the 100% the
constant desire to reach the 100% the
constant desire to reach the 100% the gold star the above-average mark where
gold star the above-average mark where
gold star the above-average mark where does this need for excellence come from
does this need for excellence come from
does this need for excellence come from and why is it so hard for us to face
and why is it so hard for us to face
and why is it so hard for us to face failure so let’s talk about the mindsets
failure so let’s talk about the mindsets
failure so let’s talk about the mindsets were put into and brought up to believe
were put into and brought up to believe
were put into and brought up to believe we’re a fixed point of view steps from
we’re a fixed point of view steps from
we’re a fixed point of view steps from and how we can grow past our failures
and how we can grow past our failures
and how we can grow past our failures one step at a time our judgments of
one step at a time our judgments of
one step at a time our judgments of ourselves and our abilities reflect the
ourselves and our abilities reflect the
ourselves and our abilities reflect the mindsets we’ve developed throughout our
mindsets we’ve developed throughout our
mindsets we’ve developed throughout our lives these mindsets are the beliefs and
lives these mindsets are the beliefs and
lives these mindsets are the beliefs and perceptions towards the extent of what
perceptions towards the extent of what
perceptions towards the extent of what we’re capable of our intelligence and
we’re capable of our intelligence and
we’re capable of our intelligence and personality
personality
personality heavily assessed by these judgments I
heavily assessed by these judgments I
heavily assessed by these judgments I have seen as static unchanging
have seen as static unchanging
have seen as static unchanging characteristics or traits that can be
characteristics or traits that can be
characteristics or traits that can be changed and improved over time growing
changed and improved over time growing
changed and improved over time growing up I was always told that I was at the
up I was always told that I was at the
up I was always told that I was at the top of the class and praised for going
top of the class and praised for going
top of the class and praised for going above and beyond what was expected as a
above and beyond what was expected as a
above and beyond what was expected as a result I was placed into my school’s
result I was placed into my school’s
result I was placed into my school’s gifted and talented program GT was
gifted and talented program GT was
gifted and talented program GT was intended to weed out the more advanced
intended to weed out the more advanced
intended to weed out the more advanced students presumably so that they would
students presumably so that they would
students presumably so that they would be in an environment where they could
be in an environment where they could
be in an environment where they could reach their full potential
reach their full potential
reach their full potential instead gifted and talented was more of
instead gifted and talented was more of
instead gifted and talented was more of a safety net if we ever made a mistake
a safety net if we ever made a mistake
a safety net if we ever made a mistake we could fall back on the reassurance
we could fall back on the reassurance
we could fall back on the reassurance that we were smart
that we were smart
that we were smart unfortunately outside of elementary
unfortunately outside of elementary
unfortunately outside of elementary school this philosophy doesn’t hold up
school this philosophy doesn’t hold up
school this philosophy doesn’t hold up in the article mindsets and student
in the article mindsets and student
in the article mindsets and student agency at right arsenio writes studies
agency at right arsenio writes studies
agency at right arsenio writes studies show that when we praise kids for being
show that when we praise kids for being
show that when we praise kids for being smart when they perform well we
smart when they perform well we
smart when they perform well we inadvertently put them in a fixed
inadvertently put them in a fixed
inadvertently put them in a fixed mindset they start focusing on trying to
mindset they start focusing on trying to
mindset they start focusing on trying to look smart
look smart
look smart avoid challenge the effort as a sign of
avoid challenge the effort as a sign of
avoid challenge the effort as a sign of weakness and fall apart when things get
weakness and fall apart when things get
weakness and fall apart when things get hard the development of a fixed mindset
hard the development of a fixed mindset
hard the development of a fixed mindset is usually completely unintentional we
is usually completely unintentional we
is usually completely unintentional we try to motivate and encourage the people
try to motivate and encourage the people
try to motivate and encourage the people around us it always realize whether
around us it always realize whether
around us it always realize whether we’re praising their effort or their
we’re praising their effort or their
we’re praising their effort or their success saying things like you learn
success saying things like you learn
success saying things like you learn that so quickly or that so easy for you
that so quickly or that so easy for you
that so quickly or that so easy for you son AHS ative messages in the moment but
son AHS ative messages in the moment but
son AHS ative messages in the moment but evolved in a harsher self judgments
evolved in a harsher self judgments
evolved in a harsher self judgments later on being commended on learning
later on being commended on learning
later on being commended on learning something quickly makes us think that
something quickly makes us think that
something quickly makes us think that taking longer to learn something in the
taking longer to learn something in the
taking longer to learn something in the future means that we aren’t smart
future means that we aren’t smart
future means that we aren’t smart praised for not happy to try as hard at
praised for not happy to try as hard at
praised for not happy to try as hard at one thing or how did something come more
one thing or how did something come more
one thing or how did something come more easily to us than someone
easily to us than someone
easily to us than someone leads to the idea that effort equals a
leads to the idea that effort equals a
leads to the idea that effort equals a lack of intelligence Carol Dweck one of
lack of intelligence Carol Dweck one of
lack of intelligence Carol Dweck one of the world’s leading researchers in the
the world’s leading researchers in the
the world’s leading researchers in the psychology of mindsets determines
psychology of mindsets determines
psychology of mindsets determines through many studies ranging from
through many studies ranging from
through many studies ranging from elementary to middle school students but
elementary to middle school students but
elementary to middle school students but your mindset predicts your achievements
your mindset predicts your achievements
your mindset predicts your achievements in Dweck’s book mindset the new
in Dweck’s book mindset the new
in Dweck’s book mindset the new psychology of success she writes
psychology of success she writes
psychology of success she writes believing that your qualities are carved
believing that your qualities are carved
believing that your qualities are carved in stone the fixed mindset creates an
in stone the fixed mindset creates an
in stone the fixed mindset creates an urgency to prove yourself over and over
urgency to prove yourself over and over
urgency to prove yourself over and over this is a destructive viewpoint because
this is a destructive viewpoint because
this is a destructive viewpoint because it leads someone to think that the
it leads someone to think that the
it leads someone to think that the opposite of success is failure in
opposite of success is failure in
opposite of success is failure in reality failure is part of the process
reality failure is part of the process
reality failure is part of the process leading up to success learning what does
leading up to success learning what does
leading up to success learning what does and doesn’t work and pushing forward to
and doesn’t work and pushing forward to
and doesn’t work and pushing forward to an ultimate goal people with a growth
an ultimate goal people with a growth
an ultimate goal people with a growth mindset realize this and can determine
mindset realize this and can determine
mindset realize this and can determine how to improve their work rather than
how to improve their work rather than
how to improve their work rather than giving up the mindsets we put ourselves
giving up the mindsets we put ourselves
giving up the mindsets we put ourselves into don’t only influence who we are on
into don’t only influence who we are on
into don’t only influence who we are on a daily basis but who will become in the
a daily basis but who will become in the
a daily basis but who will become in the long-term and ultimately we’re the only
long-term and ultimately we’re the only
long-term and ultimately we’re the only ones that can decide if it’s going to be
ones that can decide if it’s going to be
ones that can decide if it’s going to be a positive or a negative impact one of
a positive or a negative impact one of
a positive or a negative impact one of my biggest obstacles in life then
my biggest obstacles in life then
my biggest obstacles in life then something that haunts me to this day
something that haunts me to this day
something that haunts me to this day is dancing and I think it really started
is dancing and I think it really started
is dancing and I think it really started in fifth grade when my school host did a
in fifth grade when my school host did a
in fifth grade when my school host did a ballroom dancing competition and I
ballroom dancing competition and I
ballroom dancing competition and I wasn’t worthy of even in the waltz in
wasn’t worthy of even in the waltz in
wasn’t worthy of even in the waltz in seventh and eighth grade I auditioned
seventh and eighth grade I auditioned
seventh and eighth grade I auditioned for the school musicals
for the school musicals
for the school musicals both times I ended up with very minor
both times I ended up with very minor
both times I ended up with very minor roles which was probably for the best
roles which was probably for the best
roles which was probably for the best seeing as I dropped out of each one but
seeing as I dropped out of each one but
seeing as I dropped out of each one but it wasn’t laziness or a scheduling
it wasn’t laziness or a scheduling
it wasn’t laziness or a scheduling conflict that held me back my fear of
conflict that held me back my fear of
conflict that held me back my fear of dancing or more so my fear of messing up
dancing or more so my fear of messing up
dancing or more so my fear of messing up prevented me from following through it
prevented me from following through it
prevented me from following through it wasn’t until this year that I gained
wasn’t until this year that I gained
wasn’t until this year that I gained enough confidence to try auditioning
enough confidence to try auditioning
enough confidence to try auditioning again forcing myself to push through the
again forcing myself to push through the
again forcing myself to push through the immense things they had anxiety I felt
immense things they had anxiety I felt
immense things they had anxiety I felt at the time I survived happy to start
at the time I survived happy to start
at the time I survived happy to start over my audition song spitting a
over my audition song spitting a
over my audition song spitting a mouthful of water on the stage manager
mouthful of water on the stage manager
mouthful of water on the stage manager and wrapping it up by hitting all the
and wrapping it up by hitting all the
and wrapping it up by hitting all the wrong notes even just a year ago my
wrong notes even just a year ago my
wrong notes even just a year ago my overwhelming fear of embarrassing myself
overwhelming fear of embarrassing myself
overwhelming fear of embarrassing myself would have made it impossible for me to
would have made it impossible for me to
would have made it impossible for me to take chances like this it took a long
take chances like this it took a long
take chances like this it took a long time for me to realize that progress
time for me to realize that progress
time for me to realize that progress only comes from trial and error and the
only comes from trial and error and the
only comes from trial and error and the power to push push through but growth
power to push push through but growth
power to push push through but growth mindsets aren’t only about leaving your
mindsets aren’t only about leaving your
mindsets aren’t only about leaving your comfort zone so much as creating a new
comfort zone so much as creating a new
comfort zone so much as creating a new one merriam-webster defines comfort zone
one merriam-webster defines comfort zone
one merriam-webster defines comfort zone as the level at which one can function
as the level at which one can function
as the level at which one can function with ease and familiarity while
with ease and familiarity while
with ease and familiarity while discomfort is defined as mental or
discomfort is defined as mental or
discomfort is defined as mental or physical uneasiness so how do we find a
physical uneasiness so how do we find a
physical uneasiness so how do we find a balance between the two surprisingly the
balance between the two surprisingly the
balance between the two surprisingly the separation between comfort and challenge
separation between comfort and challenge
separation between comfort and challenge isn’t as big as you might think
isn’t as big as you might think
isn’t as big as you might think daily activities continually shift our
daily activities continually shift our
daily activities continually shift our comfort zones as we’re thrown into new
comfort zones as we’re thrown into new
comfort zones as we’re thrown into new situations and experiences so it seems
situations and experiences so it seems
situations and experiences so it seems easy and it is but where do we start on
easy and it is but where do we start on
easy and it is but where do we start on our path towards progress in 25 ways to
our path towards progress in 25 ways to
our path towards progress in 25 ways to develop a growth mindset saga Briggs
develop a growth mindset saga Briggs
develop a growth mindset saga Briggs explains the best ways to establish
explains the best ways to establish
explains the best ways to establish attitudes based around improvement and
attitudes based around improvement and
attitudes based around improvement and personal growth but of these 25 what can
personal growth but of these 25 what can
personal growth but of these 25 what can we do right now first cultivate a sense
we do right now first cultivate a sense
we do right now first cultivate a sense of purpose in order for us to work hard
of purpose in order for us to work hard
of purpose in order for us to work hard we have to work towards something by
we have to work towards something by
we have to work towards something by understanding the purpose behind what
understanding the purpose behind what
understanding the purpose behind what the motivation to succeed increases with
the motivation to succeed increases with
the motivation to succeed increases with our effort second-place effort before
our effort second-place effort before
our effort second-place effort before talent in Carol Dweck’s even geniuses
talent in Carol Dweck’s even geniuses
talent in Carol Dweck’s even geniuses work hard she describes the processes
work hard she describes the processes
work hard she describes the processes teachers can go through in order to
teachers can go through in order to
teachers can go through in order to create a sense of improvement in their
create a sense of improvement in their
create a sense of improvement in their students she does this by explaining
students she does this by explaining
students she does this by explaining meaningful learning tasks gives students
meaningful learning tasks gives students
meaningful learning tasks gives students a clear sense of progress leading to
a clear sense of progress leading to
a clear sense of progress leading to mastery that is teachers can point out
mastery that is teachers can point out
mastery that is teachers can point out that the students efforts we’re what led
that the students efforts we’re what led
that the students efforts we’re what led to the progress and improvement over
to the progress and improvement over
to the progress and improvement over time in order for us to place effort
time in order for us to place effort
time in order for us to place effort before speed or Talent we have to
before speed or Talent we have to
before speed or Talent we have to understand and accept that learning
understand and accept that learning
understand and accept that learning styles of the people around us by doing
styles of the people around us by doing
styles of the people around us by doing this praising the process leading up to
this praising the process leading up to
this praising the process leading up to success becomes communicable and
success becomes communicable and
success becomes communicable and understandable and third use the word
understandable and third use the word
understandable and third use the word yet instead of saying I can’t say I
yet instead of saying I can’t say I
yet instead of saying I can’t say I can’t yet
can’t yet
can’t yet to open up these possibilities for
to open up these possibilities for
to open up these possibilities for progress and improvement it really is
progress and improvement it really is
progress and improvement it really is that easy three simple attitude changes
that easy three simple attitude changes
that easy three simple attitude changes in your everyday life are enough to move
in your everyday life are enough to move
in your everyday life are enough to move on from believing that your abilities
on from believing that your abilities
on from believing that your abilities are permanent and to begin the
are permanent and to begin the
are permanent and to begin the cultivation of a growth mindset I still
cultivation of a growth mindset I still
cultivation of a growth mindset I still don’t know very much about dancing and
don’t know very much about dancing and
don’t know very much about dancing and it’s definitely something that I
it’s definitely something that I
it’s definitely something that I struggle with learning luckily I’ve
struggle with learning luckily I’ve
struggle with learning luckily I’ve realized that most of the time
realized that most of the time
realized that most of the time struggling is necessary to get better
struggling is necessary to get better
struggling is necessary to get better and what you’re doing I’m trying to not
and what you’re doing I’m trying to not
and what you’re doing I’m trying to not hold myself back and to understand that
hold myself back and to understand that
hold myself back and to understand that in order for me to progress I have to
in order for me to progress I have to
in order for me to progress I have to start somewhere first
start somewhere first
start somewhere first we all know our limits but we also know
we all know our limits but we also know
we all know our limits but we also know exactly how we can push past them how we
exactly how we can push past them how we
exactly how we can push past them how we can continue to improve no matter what
can continue to improve no matter what
can continue to improve no matter what happens there’s always going to be times
happens there’s always going to be times
happens there’s always going to be times where we’re discouraged
where we’re discouraged
where we’re discouraged and feel like our efforts are taking us
and feel like our efforts are taking us
and feel like our efforts are taking us nowhere but by understanding that these
nowhere but by understanding that these
nowhere but by understanding that these challenges are what lead up to our
challenges are what lead up to our
challenges are what lead up to our ultimate goal we can develop our own
ultimate goal we can develop our own
ultimate goal we can develop our own mindset we just have to start
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