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The Power of Making Connections | Andrea Tinianow | TEDxWilmingtonWomen


yen to the matchmaker from fiddler on

yen to the matchmaker from fiddler on the roof

the roof

the roof do you remember her she brought up

do you remember her she brought up

do you remember her she brought up brides and grooms together in that

brides and grooms together in that

brides and grooms together in that fictional little town of Anatevka

fictional little town of Anatevka

fictional little town of Anatevka in Czarist Russia sadly Yenta is long

in Czarist Russia sadly Yenta is long

in Czarist Russia sadly Yenta is long gone now we swipe right and left to find

gone now we swipe right and left to find

gone now we swipe right and left to find dates we invite people to connect with

dates we invite people to connect with

dates we invite people to connect with us on LinkedIn we seek to grow our

us on LinkedIn we seek to grow our

us on LinkedIn we seek to grow our networks by going to event after event

networks by going to event after event

networks by going to event after event and we find more people on social media

and we find more people on social media

and we find more people on social media platforms on television shows like The

platforms on television shows like The

platforms on television shows like The Bachelor and the Bachelorette and

Bachelor and the Bachelorette and

Bachelor and the Bachelorette and million-dollar matchmaker they’re all

million-dollar matchmaker they’re all

million-dollar matchmaker they’re all popular but how effective are they and

popular but how effective are they and

popular but how effective are they and how many of us are candidates for those

how many of us are candidates for those

how many of us are candidates for those programs certainly not me

programs certainly not me

programs certainly not me a great match can change your life

a great match can change your life

a great match can change your life forever

forever

forever they sure changed mine those kids those

they sure changed mine those kids those

they sure changed mine those kids those beautiful children they belong to me and

beautiful children they belong to me and

beautiful children they belong to me and it all started with a blind date my

it all started with a blind date my

it all started with a blind date my first job after college that was due to

first job after college that was due to

first job after college that was due to an introduction and that’s Christine and

an introduction and that’s Christine and

an introduction and that’s Christine and me over there we’re friends we go for

me over there we’re friends we go for

me over there we’re friends we go for walks in the neighborhood about six

walks in the neighborhood about six

walks in the neighborhood about six years ago a mutual friend introduced us

years ago a mutual friend introduced us

years ago a mutual friend introduced us and said I think you guys will hit it

and said I think you guys will hit it

and said I think you guys will hit it off you have a lot in common and we do I

off you have a lot in common and we do I

off you have a lot in common and we do I suspect that many of you if not all of

suspect that many of you if not all of

suspect that many of you if not all of you have benefited from a match or an

you have benefited from a match or an

you have benefited from a match or an introduction or referral so think about

introduction or referral so think about

introduction or referral so think about that now think about your inner circle

that now think about your inner circle

that now think about your inner circle your friends your family your colleagues

your friends your family your colleagues

your friends your family your colleagues how would you connect which two people

how would you connect which two people

how would you connect which two people could you business together or become

could you business together or become

could you business together or become friends

friends

friends maybe something more another way of

maybe something more another way of

maybe something more another way of thinking about this is instead of trying

thinking about this is instead of trying

thinking about this is instead of trying to grow our networks

to grow our networks

to grow our networks let’s nurture our networks it’s not the

let’s nurture our networks it’s not the

let’s nurture our networks it’s not the number of contexts that we have that

number of contexts that we have that

number of contexts that we have that matter it’s the depth of those

matter it’s the depth of those

matter it’s the depth of those relationships and one way one way to

relationships and one way one way to

relationships and one way one way to create that depth is by bringing people

create that depth is by bringing people

create that depth is by bringing people together who can really help each other

together who can really help each other

together who can really help each other achieve their personal and professional

achieve their personal and professional

achieve their personal and professional goals when you make a great match you

goals when you make a great match you

goals when you make a great match you are your friends your friends appreciate

are your friends your friends appreciate

are your friends your friends appreciate your act of kindness you’re giving them

your act of kindness you’re giving them

your act of kindness you’re giving them a gift a human connection and it is

a gift a human connection and it is

a gift a human connection and it is priceless

priceless

priceless and what do you get in return well your

and what do you get in return well your

and what do you get in return well your social capital Rises you’ve got more

social capital Rises you’ve got more

social capital Rises you’ve got more goodwill in the goodwill Bank and and

goodwill in the goodwill Bank and and

goodwill in the goodwill Bank and and you will have a stronger community for

you will have a stronger community for

you will have a stronger community for you and your friends and your family and

you and your friends and your family and

you and your friends and your family and everyone in your community but what

everyone in your community but what

everyone in your community but what about you

about you

about you what about your objectives is there

what about your objectives is there

what about your objectives is there someone you’re trying to meet is there

someone you’re trying to meet is there

someone you’re trying to meet is there an opportunity you’re looking to achieve

an opportunity you’re looking to achieve

an opportunity you’re looking to achieve don’t keep it a secret

don’t keep it a secret

don’t keep it a secret tell your friends and family and

tell your friends and family and

tell your friends and family and everyone else to help to make a match on

everyone else to help to make a match on

everyone else to help to make a match on your behalf now I know it’s tricky

your behalf now I know it’s tricky

your behalf now I know it’s tricky making introductions can be tricky first

making introductions can be tricky first

making introductions can be tricky first of all we don’t think about it it can be

of all we don’t think about it it can be

of all we don’t think about it it can be time-consuming and awkward and

time-consuming and awkward and

time-consuming and awkward and anxiety-producing that’s how it was for

anxiety-producing that’s how it was for

anxiety-producing that’s how it was for me I’m in business development and after

me I’m in business development and after

me I’m in business development and after a long day of meetings I would have a

a long day of meetings I would have a

a long day of meetings I would have a list a laundry list of people that I

list a laundry list of people that I

list a laundry list of people that I promised to introduce take a deep breath

promised to introduce take a deep breath

promised to introduce take a deep breath and I’d start drafting emails each time

and I’d start drafting emails each time

and I’d start drafting emails each time I would sit before a blank computer

I would sit before a blank computer

I would sit before a blank computer screen starting to tighten and each

screen starting to tighten and each

screen starting to tighten and each introduction each email introduction was

introduction each email introduction was

introduction each email introduction was unique and thoughtful and exhausting I

unique and thoughtful and exhausting I

unique and thoughtful and exhausting I wanted them to be perfect

wanted them to be perfect

wanted them to be perfect they were reflection of me but then I

they were reflection of me but then I

they were reflection of me but then I got smart and I realized they don’t have

got smart and I realized they don’t have

got smart and I realized they don’t have to be long and complicated you don’t

to be long and complicated you don’t

to be long and complicated you don’t have to flatter and extol virtues just

have to flatter and extol virtues just

have to flatter and extol virtues just keep it simple and use plain language to

keep it simple and use plain language to

keep it simple and use plain language to explain why the two people should meet

explain why the two people should meet

explain why the two people should meet now this screen is from an app I created

now this screen is from an app I created

now this screen is from an app I created called connector Street it’s in beta

called connector Street it’s in beta

called connector Street it’s in beta right now and I created it for just that

right now and I created it for just that

right now and I created it for just that purpose to help people make

purpose to help people make

purpose to help people make introductions fast fun and easily you

introductions fast fun and easily you

introductions fast fun and easily you can do it with social connections

can do it with social connections

can do it with social connections friendship romance and for business in

friendship romance and for business in

friendship romance and for business in this in this introduction I’m

this in this introduction I’m

this in this introduction I’m introducing two people one of whom needs

introducing two people one of whom needs

introducing two people one of whom needs to learn about Millennials and that was

to learn about Millennials and that was

to learn about Millennials and that was that simple and the next one that’s for

that simple and the next one that’s for

that simple and the next one that’s for romance to people who have an interest

romance to people who have an interest

romance to people who have an interest in biking and just keep it simple

so my hope my hope is that making

so my hope my hope is that making matches making connections become well

matches making connections become well

matches making connections become well as routine as you know brushing your

as routine as you know brushing your

as routine as you know brushing your teeth do it twice a day I make between

teeth do it twice a day I make between

teeth do it twice a day I make between two and ten matches every day can’t help

two and ten matches every day can’t help

two and ten matches every day can’t help it just happens

it just happens

it just happens last week no kidding I introduced two

last week no kidding I introduced two

last week no kidding I introduced two Chinese scientists they both went to the

Chinese scientists they both went to the

Chinese scientists they both went to the same grad school and they both had an

same grad school and they both had an

same grad school and they both had an interest in edamame and I’ve already

interest in edamame and I’ve already

interest in edamame and I’ve already heard back that it was a good match

heard back that it was a good match

heard back that it was a good match Julie so where will this all lead the

Julie so where will this all lead the

Julie so where will this all lead the world will get a little smaller a little

world will get a little smaller a little

world will get a little smaller a little kinder and we’ll all be more connected

kinder and we’ll all be more connected

kinder and we’ll all be more connected than ever before

than ever before

than ever before thank you

thank you

thank you [Applause]

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