so you’ve all heard of the Golden Rule right how many have heard of a golden
right how many have heard of a golden
right how many have heard of a golden rule okay so the golden rule basically
rule okay so the golden rule basically
rule okay so the golden rule basically says do unto others as you would have
says do unto others as you would have
says do unto others as you would have them do unto yourself right it works on
them do unto yourself right it works on
them do unto yourself right it works on two the basic principle that we all want
two the basic principle that we all want
two the basic principle that we all want to be treated the same but sometimes
to be treated the same but sometimes
to be treated the same but sometimes that doesn’t really work out very well
that doesn’t really work out very well
that doesn’t really work out very well right it doesn’t take into consideration
right it doesn’t take into consideration
right it doesn’t take into consideration how we identify or our culture right
how we identify or our culture right
how we identify or our culture right when I was in college I didn’t even
when I was in college I didn’t even
when I was in college I didn’t even realize how important it was to no
realize how important it was to no
realize how important it was to no identifications or the importance of
identifications or the importance of
identifications or the importance of cultural identity I just thought I am
cultural identity I just thought I am
cultural identity I just thought I am Who I am and you are who you are and
Who I am and you are who you are and
Who I am and you are who you are and that’s cool but it wasn’t that way when
that’s cool but it wasn’t that way when
that’s cool but it wasn’t that way when I was in college I got called the dark
I was in college I got called the dark
I was in college I got called the dark spot in the snow
spot in the snow
spot in the snow people used to insult me all the time I
people used to insult me all the time I
people used to insult me all the time I went to a predominantly white
went to a predominantly white
went to a predominantly white institution and sometimes it felt like
institution and sometimes it felt like
institution and sometimes it felt like an intentionally white institution and a
an intentionally white institution and a
an intentionally white institution and a lot of the things that people would say
lot of the things that people would say
lot of the things that people would say that they found funny
that they found funny
that they found funny I found racist and not the game that the
I found racist and not the game that the
I found racist and not the game that the guys would spit to me and my
guys would spit to me and my
guys would spit to me and my girlfriend’s leme but it was also sexist
girlfriend’s leme but it was also sexist
girlfriend’s leme but it was also sexist so we really struggled there was a huge
so we really struggled there was a huge
so we really struggled there was a huge divide between the communities and the
divide between the communities and the
divide between the communities and the culture and as a first gen college
culture and as a first gen college
culture and as a first gen college student so someone who had no parents or
student so someone who had no parents or
student so someone who had no parents or family who had gone to college before I
family who had gone to college before I
family who had gone to college before I didn’t know how to communicate those
didn’t know how to communicate those
didn’t know how to communicate those issues right I really struggled with
issues right I really struggled with
issues right I really struggled with telling people don’t treat me like that
telling people don’t treat me like that
telling people don’t treat me like that that’s not okay
that’s not okay
that’s not okay you’re being disrespectful and I’m not
you’re being disrespectful and I’m not
you’re being disrespectful and I’m not okay with you using that type of
okay with you using that type of
okay with you using that type of language it was really hard and when I
language it was really hard and when I
language it was really hard and when I tried
tried
tried sometimes the administration and the
sometimes the administration and the
sometimes the administration and the people that I would talk to said it’s a
people that I would talk to said it’s a
people that I would talk to said it’s a part of life that’s bullying you’re just
part of life that’s bullying you’re just
part of life that’s bullying you’re just being too sensitive grow some tougher
being too sensitive grow some tougher
being too sensitive grow some tougher skin but that’s not true that’s the
skin but that’s not true that’s the
skin but that’s not true that’s the wrong message to send it’s an alternate
wrong message to send it’s an alternate
wrong message to send it’s an alternate effect so what you need to understand is
effect so what you need to understand is
effect so what you need to understand is that you have the right to stand up for
that you have the right to stand up for
that you have the right to stand up for yourself and you have the right to
yourself and you have the right to
yourself and you have the right to embrace all that you are by owning your
embrace all that you are by owning your
embrace all that you are by owning your humanity
humanity
humanity now what does that mean it means
now what does that mean it means
now what does that mean it means self-love and giving more love and
self-love and giving more love and
self-love and giving more love and having a positive impact in society by
having a positive impact in society by
having a positive impact in society by embracing others you may not always
embracing others you may not always
embracing others you may not always understand how another person identifies
understand how another person identifies
understand how another person identifies but that’s why it’s important
but that’s why it’s important
but that’s why it’s important able to check yourself and communicate
able to check yourself and communicate
able to check yourself and communicate with others effectively so how do we do
with others effectively so how do we do
with others effectively so how do we do that
that
that author HP new quest says that the brain
author HP new quest says that the brain
author HP new quest says that the brain and it’s full develop mental capacity
and it’s full develop mental capacity
and it’s full develop mental capacity weighing nearly three pounds give us
weighing nearly three pounds give us
weighing nearly three pounds give us gives us an amazing gift to critically
gives us an amazing gift to critically
gives us an amazing gift to critically think now what does that mean it means
think now what does that mean it means
think now what does that mean it means that we have the right and the ability
that we have the right and the ability
that we have the right and the ability to process things to be really
to process things to be really
to process things to be really intentional about how we take
intentional about how we take
intentional about how we take information in and how we give
information in and how we give
information in and how we give information out then UCLA professor
information out then UCLA professor
information out then UCLA professor Matthew Lieberman in his book social how
Matthew Lieberman in his book social how
Matthew Lieberman in his book social how humans are how humans are wired to
humans are how humans are wired to
humans are how humans are wired to connect states that the lifelong passion
connect states that the lifelong passion
connect states that the lifelong passion of humans is connection so if we put
of humans is connection so if we put
of humans is connection so if we put those together we’re thinking critically
those together we’re thinking critically
those together we’re thinking critically and then we want to connect with people
and then we want to connect with people
and then we want to connect with people so we should think critically about how
so we should think critically about how
so we should think critically about how to connect with people in a positive way
to connect with people in a positive way
to connect with people in a positive way how to support one another and engage
how to support one another and engage
how to support one another and engage one another and give more love to one
one another and give more love to one
one another and give more love to one another and that’s owning your humanity
another and that’s owning your humanity
another and that’s owning your humanity right it’s uplifting each other
right it’s uplifting each other
right it’s uplifting each other uplifting your next person next to you
uplifting your next person next to you
uplifting your next person next to you you may not know the person next to you
you may not know the person next to you
you may not know the person next to you right so let’s see your left maybe
right so let’s see your left maybe
right so let’s see your left maybe that’s your friend
that’s your friend
that’s your friend let’s see your right maybe that’s your
let’s see your right maybe that’s your
let’s see your right maybe that’s your classmate but do you know how they fully
classmate but do you know how they fully
classmate but do you know how they fully identify holistically you may not know
identify holistically you may not know
identify holistically you may not know their gender right so whether or not
their gender right so whether or not
their gender right so whether or not they’re feminine masculine source or
they’re feminine masculine source or
they’re feminine masculine source or trans you may not know their sexual
trans you may not know their sexual
trans you may not know their sexual orientation you may not know their
orientation you may not know their
orientation you may not know their disability or their earth they’re
disability or their earth they’re
disability or their earth they’re able-bodied because now all identities
able-bodied because now all identities
able-bodied because now all identities are visible right so I’ve had the
are visible right so I’ve had the
are visible right so I’ve had the privilege to be the student the teacher
privilege to be the student the teacher
privilege to be the student the teacher and the administrator and you don’t see
and the administrator and you don’t see
and the administrator and you don’t see those identities are me a lot of times
those identities are me a lot of times
those identities are me a lot of times people mislabeled me all the time and
people mislabeled me all the time and
people mislabeled me all the time and they stereotype me
they stereotype me
they stereotype me and what’s a stereotype it’s when we
and what’s a stereotype it’s when we
and what’s a stereotype it’s when we make assumptions and we do it all the
make assumptions and we do it all the
make assumptions and we do it all the time right you’re walking in class
time right you’re walking in class
time right you’re walking in class you’re in the hallway and maybe you see
you’re in the hallway and maybe you see
you’re in the hallway and maybe you see a girl with a brand-name bag and you
a girl with a brand-name bag and you
a girl with a brand-name bag and you think she got money look at her look at
think she got money look at her look at
think she got money look at her look at that brand-name bag or you see the
that brand-name bag or you see the
that brand-name bag or you see the student with the always raising his hand
student with the always raising his hand
student with the always raising his hand and he always has the A’s
and he always has the A’s
and he always has the A’s you think oh my god he must be such a
you think oh my god he must be such a
you think oh my god he must be such a nerd or the teacher with the accent must
nerd or the teacher with the accent must
nerd or the teacher with the accent must be an emigrant right we think those
be an emigrant right we think those
be an emigrant right we think those things but they’re so wrong we’re always
things but they’re so wrong we’re always
things but they’re so wrong we’re always making assumptions and we need to check
making assumptions and we need to check
making assumptions and we need to check how we think about people we don’t know
how we think about people we don’t know
how we think about people we don’t know anything about these people maybe the
anything about these people maybe the
anything about these people maybe the girl with the brand-name bag that could
girl with the brand-name bag that could
girl with the brand-name bag that could have been a gift maybe she acts
have been a gift maybe she acts
have been a gift maybe she acts he works three jobs just to make it to
he works three jobs just to make it to
he works three jobs just to make it to high school and is trying really hard to
high school and is trying really hard to
high school and is trying really hard to get to college and you know why that’s a
get to college and you know why that’s a
get to college and you know why that’s a possibility because that was me when I
possibility because that was me when I
possibility because that was me when I was in high school I got my first Coach
was in high school I got my first Coach
was in high school I got my first Coach bag and it’s a coach bag that I still
bag and it’s a coach bag that I still
bag and it’s a coach bag that I still carry to this day and I worked three
carry to this day and I worked three
carry to this day and I worked three jobs I came from a lower socioeconomic
jobs I came from a lower socioeconomic
jobs I came from a lower socioeconomic status I were I lived in the projects
status I were I lived in the projects
status I were I lived in the projects and I tried really hard to make it to
and I tried really hard to make it to
and I tried really hard to make it to college college was my pathway out and
college college was my pathway out and
college college was my pathway out and so the only way I was gonna do that was
so the only way I was gonna do that was
so the only way I was gonna do that was by working really hard so I traveled
by working really hard so I traveled
by working really hard so I traveled five hours every day to go to school and
five hours every day to go to school and
five hours every day to go to school and back round-trip and then I also worked
back round-trip and then I also worked
back round-trip and then I also worked three jobs it’s really important you
three jobs it’s really important you
three jobs it’s really important you have to find your way and make your way
have to find your way and make your way
have to find your way and make your way and not let anybody else stereotype you
and not let anybody else stereotype you
and not let anybody else stereotype you but they do because people used to
but they do because people used to
but they do because people used to always think oh you got money and I
always think oh you got money and I
always think oh you got money and I didn’t have no money I didn’t even have
didn’t have no money I didn’t even have
didn’t have no money I didn’t even have any savings to go to college so it’s
any savings to go to college so it’s
any savings to go to college so it’s really important that you always find
really important that you always find
really important that you always find the way it’s a not stereotype sometimes
the way it’s a not stereotype sometimes
the way it’s a not stereotype sometimes when we stereotype we stereotype threat
when we stereotype we stereotype threat
when we stereotype we stereotype threat stereotype threatening is basically when
stereotype threatening is basically when
stereotype threatening is basically when you have someone live up to the
you have someone live up to the
you have someone live up to the stereotype so all the times that you
stereotype so all the times that you
stereotype so all the times that you continue to tell somebody negative
continue to tell somebody negative
continue to tell somebody negative images they start to live up to that
images they start to live up to that
images they start to live up to that height so for example you give negative
height so for example you give negative
height so for example you give negative messages daily right so social
messages daily right so social
messages daily right so social psychologist Claude Steele says that
psychologist Claude Steele says that
psychologist Claude Steele says that that’s a microaggression
that’s a microaggression
that’s a microaggression microaggressions are the daily negative
microaggressions are the daily negative
microaggressions are the daily negative messages that we give to each other so
messages that we give to each other so
messages that we give to each other so sometimes it’s in humor sometimes people
sometimes it’s in humor sometimes people
sometimes it’s in humor sometimes people use jokes and they’re like oh can I
use jokes and they’re like oh can I
use jokes and they’re like oh can I touch your hair I want to touch your
touch your hair I want to touch your
touch your hair I want to touch your hair how’s that look or you look really
hair how’s that look or you look really
hair how’s that look or you look really cute today and there’s all types of hate
cute today and there’s all types of hate
cute today and there’s all types of hate in those messages right you wondering
in those messages right you wondering
in those messages right you wondering like oh you something’s wrong with you
like oh you something’s wrong with you
like oh you something’s wrong with you there’s all types of hate but it’s not
there’s all types of hate but it’s not
there’s all types of hate but it’s not direct it’s not upfront it’s all
direct it’s not upfront it’s all
direct it’s not upfront it’s all subliminal and indirect those are
subliminal and indirect those are
subliminal and indirect those are microaggressions and a lot of times they
microaggressions and a lot of times they
microaggressions and a lot of times they do add up and the person who’s receiving
do add up and the person who’s receiving
do add up and the person who’s receiving all of that feel some type of way
all of that feel some type of way
all of that feel some type of way especially when it comes to language
especially when it comes to language
especially when it comes to language identification the way we carry
identification the way we carry
identification the way we carry ourselves so we need to be able to
ourselves so we need to be able to
ourselves so we need to be able to bridge the gap and ask questions and
bridge the gap and ask questions and
bridge the gap and ask questions and check ourselves dr. Laura Brown a would
check ourselves dr. Laura Brown a would
check ourselves dr. Laura Brown a would say we would do that with insa cultural
say we would do that with insa cultural
say we would do that with insa cultural communication now that sounds like a
communication now that sounds like a
communication now that sounds like a super spiffy theory but it’s really
super spiffy theory but it’s really
super spiffy theory but it’s really simple it’s basically just finding ways
simple it’s basically just finding ways
simple it’s basically just finding ways to communicate between the cultures and
to communicate between the cultures and
to communicate between the cultures and how you do that is really simple you see
how you do that is really simple you see
how you do that is really simple you see a person you don’t necessarily know how
a person you don’t necessarily know how
a person you don’t necessarily know how they
they
they identify you’re confused about something
identify you’re confused about something
identify you’re confused about something so you sincerely ask
so you sincerely ask
so you sincerely ask there is no dumb question I’m sure you
there is no dumb question I’m sure you
there is no dumb question I’m sure you hear that all the time in school there’s
hear that all the time in school there’s
hear that all the time in school there’s no dumb question you don’t understand
no dumb question you don’t understand
no dumb question you don’t understand something have a conversation you want
something have a conversation you want
something have a conversation you want to know something more about something
to know something more about something
to know something more about something just do it intercultural communication
just do it intercultural communication
just do it intercultural communication happens all the time but we need to be
happens all the time but we need to be
happens all the time but we need to be intentional about it right
intentional about it right
intentional about it right we need to critically think like new
we need to critically think like new
we need to critically think like new quiz says so that we can build that
quiz says so that we can build that
quiz says so that we can build that connection the way Lieberman says and
connection the way Lieberman says and
connection the way Lieberman says and that’s really important you probably do
that’s really important you probably do
that’s really important you probably do it with your parents all the time think
it with your parents all the time think
it with your parents all the time think about it the language you use this idea
about it the language you use this idea
about it the language you use this idea of varying English it’s true the things
of varying English it’s true the things
of varying English it’s true the things that you say now imma get it your
that you say now imma get it your
that you say now imma get it your parents didn’t use lit they use dope or
parents didn’t use lit they use dope or
parents didn’t use lit they use dope or they used cool it’s so different you use
they used cool it’s so different you use
they used cool it’s so different you use Facebook now as a tools to connect they
Facebook now as a tools to connect they
Facebook now as a tools to connect they didn’t have that they didn’t even have
didn’t have that they didn’t even have
didn’t have that they didn’t even have cell phones most of them they had
cell phones most of them they had
cell phones most of them they had handsets connected to the walls y’all
handsets connected to the walls y’all
handsets connected to the walls y’all looking at me like I don’t know what
looking at me like I don’t know what
looking at me like I don’t know what that is because there’s a difference in
that is because there’s a difference in
that is because there’s a difference in generation and it’s really important
generation and it’s really important
generation and it’s really important that you understand the difference and
that you understand the difference and
that you understand the difference and you build those connections with
you build those connections with
you build those connections with everybody it’s really important to check
everybody it’s really important to check
everybody it’s really important to check your assumptions and build the bridges
your assumptions and build the bridges
your assumptions and build the bridges within the cultures you also need to
within the cultures you also need to
within the cultures you also need to make sure that you’re not micro
make sure that you’re not micro
make sure that you’re not micro aggressing which we do all the time and
aggressing which we do all the time and
aggressing which we do all the time and it’s hard right owning your humanity is
it’s hard right owning your humanity is
it’s hard right owning your humanity is not always so simple
not always so simple
not always so simple especially when the nation is telling
especially when the nation is telling
especially when the nation is telling you that certain lives don’t matter when
you that certain lives don’t matter when
you that certain lives don’t matter when global warming is taking away our
global warming is taking away our
global warming is taking away our resources when terrorism is on the rise
resources when terrorism is on the rise
resources when terrorism is on the rise now it’s more complex than ever to try
now it’s more complex than ever to try
now it’s more complex than ever to try to stay positive but the reality is is
to stay positive but the reality is is
to stay positive but the reality is is that you need to be able to do that when
that you need to be able to do that when
that you need to be able to do that when I was in college it would have been easy
I was in college it would have been easy
I was in college it would have been easy to retaliate I grew up in the hood we
to retaliate I grew up in the hood we
to retaliate I grew up in the hood we could have fought but this the thing I
could have fought but this the thing I
could have fought but this the thing I didn’t want to lose my scholarship right
didn’t want to lose my scholarship right
didn’t want to lose my scholarship right I had an 80% scholarship to go to
I had an 80% scholarship to go to
I had an 80% scholarship to go to college I didn’t want to lose that that
college I didn’t want to lose that that
college I didn’t want to lose that that was more important to me
was more important to me
was more important to me leaving the hood was more important to
leaving the hood was more important to
leaving the hood was more important to me so that I could make it out there and
me so that I could make it out there and
me so that I could make it out there and that’s what I’m saying you need to make
that’s what I’m saying you need to make
that’s what I’m saying you need to make sure that you prioritize what’s going to
sure that you prioritize what’s going to
sure that you prioritize what’s going to be your story what’s gonna be the way
be your story what’s gonna be the way
be your story what’s gonna be the way that you connect with the world how are
that you connect with the world how are
that you connect with the world how are you gonna fulfill your passions and how
you gonna fulfill your passions and how
you gonna fulfill your passions and how are you gonna make a positive impact
are you gonna make a positive impact
are you gonna make a positive impact with each other what’s gonna be your
with each other what’s gonna be your
with each other what’s gonna be your footprint not just your carbon footprint
footprint not just your carbon footprint
footprint not just your carbon footprint but the footprint that you leave when
but the footprint that you leave when
but the footprint that you leave when you think about your next steps some of
you think about your next steps some of
you think about your next steps some of you talked about going to college
you talked about going to college
you talked about going to college some of you are thinking about going
some of you are thinking about going
some of you are thinking about going into the work field and that’s great but
into the work field and that’s great but
into the work field and that’s great but the only way you can do that is making
the only way you can do that is making
the only way you can do that is making sure that you build those connections
sure that you build those connections
sure that you build those connections because it’s so important
because it’s so important
because it’s so important to have a community of people behind you
to have a community of people behind you
to have a community of people behind you don’t forget about the person next to
don’t forget about the person next to
don’t forget about the person next to you don’t forget about the family that
you don’t forget about the family that
you don’t forget about the family that you have don’t forget about the people
you have don’t forget about the people
you have don’t forget about the people that are gonna be coming up behind you
that are gonna be coming up behind you
that are gonna be coming up behind you that’s so important so instead of
that’s so important so instead of
that’s so important so instead of treating people how you think they
treating people how you think they
treating people how you think they should be treated make sure that you ask
should be treated make sure that you ask
should be treated make sure that you ask the question how do you like to be
the question how do you like to be
the question how do you like to be called what’s the way I can best respect
called what’s the way I can best respect
called what’s the way I can best respect you how do you like to be appreciated
you how do you like to be appreciated
you how do you like to be appreciated because that matters and every time that
because that matters and every time that
because that matters and every time that somebody mistreats you think about that
somebody mistreats you think about that
somebody mistreats you think about that we don’t always walk in the same
we don’t always walk in the same
we don’t always walk in the same footsteps right we don’t always wear
footsteps right we don’t always wear
footsteps right we don’t always wear each other’s shoes and if you ever
each other’s shoes and if you ever
each other’s shoes and if you ever wonder if that’s true sometimes you
wonder if that’s true sometimes you
wonder if that’s true sometimes you drive up six ninety least and west
drive up six ninety least and west
drive up six ninety least and west people have the signs out there
people have the signs out there
people have the signs out there sometimes they don’t have shoes so
sometimes they don’t have shoes so
sometimes they don’t have shoes so always let that be a reminder we don’t
always let that be a reminder we don’t
always let that be a reminder we don’t walk in each other’s shoes because
walk in each other’s shoes because
walk in each other’s shoes because sometimes we don’t even have the shoes
sometimes we don’t even have the shoes
sometimes we don’t even have the shoes to share each other’s footprints make
to share each other’s footprints make
to share each other’s footprints make sure that you’re always building
sure that you’re always building
sure that you’re always building community and when you don’t know how to
community and when you don’t know how to
community and when you don’t know how to do that just ask the question that’s the
do that just ask the question that’s the
do that just ask the question that’s the Platinum rule forget the golden rule
Platinum rule forget the golden rule
Platinum rule forget the golden rule have a good day everyone thank you
have a good day everyone thank you
have a good day everyone thank you [Applause]
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