[Applause] hi today I will share with you the rule
hi today I will share with you the rule
hi today I will share with you the rule of 10% it was 1992 and my mother and I
of 10% it was 1992 and my mother and I
of 10% it was 1992 and my mother and I were walking through her neighborhood it
were walking through her neighborhood it
were walking through her neighborhood it was midday on a sunny Sunday I was
was midday on a sunny Sunday I was
was midday on a sunny Sunday I was running around until I suddenly stopped
running around until I suddenly stopped
running around until I suddenly stopped I saw a man in dirty clothing under an
I saw a man in dirty clothing under an
I saw a man in dirty clothing under an overpass
overpass
overpass he was crouched down holding a spoon in
he was crouched down holding a spoon in
he was crouched down holding a spoon in one hand and a lighter in the other I
one hand and a lighter in the other I
one hand and a lighter in the other I took a step in his direction when he
took a step in his direction when he
took a step in his direction when he turned his head and looked looking
turned his head and looked looking
turned his head and looked looking straight and I i stood there frozen in
straight and I i stood there frozen in
straight and I i stood there frozen in time
time
time Kevin come now ain’t here my mother
Kevin come now ain’t here my mother
Kevin come now ain’t here my mother yelled which is pretty normal because
yelled which is pretty normal because
yelled which is pretty normal because she’s Dutch and I was her five-year-old
she’s Dutch and I was her five-year-old
she’s Dutch and I was her five-year-old son locking eyes with a heroin addict if
son locking eyes with a heroin addict if
son locking eyes with a heroin addict if we lived in a rough neighborhood in the
we lived in a rough neighborhood in the
we lived in a rough neighborhood in the outskirts of Amsterdam my father had
outskirts of Amsterdam my father had
outskirts of Amsterdam my father had left when I was only four years old
left when I was only four years old
left when I was only four years old drugs crime and broken families painted
drugs crime and broken families painted
drugs crime and broken families painted the picture of the streets I grew up in
the picture of the streets I grew up in
the picture of the streets I grew up in I saw no signs of a happy life love or
I saw no signs of a happy life love or
I saw no signs of a happy life love or desirable future for us life simply was
desirable future for us life simply was
desirable future for us life simply was surviving despite this all I had a
surviving despite this all I had a
surviving despite this all I had a burning desire a desire for more a
burning desire a desire for more a
burning desire a desire for more a desire
desire
desire for love a desire to create my own
for love a desire to create my own
for love a desire to create my own loving family 10% when I was 22 the
loving family 10% when I was 22 the
loving family 10% when I was 22 the distance between my desire and I was
distance between my desire and I was
distance between my desire and I was greater than ever before every
greater than ever before every
greater than ever before every relationship I started died a quick and
relationship I started died a quick and
relationship I started died a quick and often painful death my love life
often painful death my love life
often painful death my love life resembled a horror movie every time I
resembled a horror movie every time I
resembled a horror movie every time I started dating someone I would build her
started dating someone I would build her
started dating someone I would build her up to be the one this would either end a
up to be the one this would either end a
up to be the one this would either end a me losing interest or me coming on way
me losing interest or me coming on way
me losing interest or me coming on way too strong and her ending it
too strong and her ending it
too strong and her ending it nevertheless I had to do things
nevertheless I had to do things
nevertheless I had to do things differently but what I was so scared of
differently but what I was so scared of
differently but what I was so scared of the unknown
the unknown
the unknown I did nothing instead i numbed my
I did nothing instead i numbed my
I did nothing instead i numbed my feelings and fell into an emotional
feelings and fell into an emotional
feelings and fell into an emotional isolation after a year of darkness I was
isolation after a year of darkness I was
isolation after a year of darkness I was at an all-time low
at an all-time low
at an all-time low I felt sad overwhelmed and alone
I close my eyes and to my surprise I saw
I close my eyes and to my surprise I saw something clear as day I saw the words
something clear as day I saw the words
something clear as day I saw the words as long as you do what you did you’ll
as long as you do what you did you’ll
as long as you do what you did you’ll get what you got as long as you do what
get what you got as long as you do what
get what you got as long as you do what you did you’ll get what you got for the
you did you’ll get what you got for the
you did you’ll get what you got for the better part of my life I’ve been
better part of my life I’ve been
better part of my life I’ve been insecure about who I was I was too
insecure about who I was I was too
insecure about who I was I was too scared to take a stand for what I
scared to take a stand for what I
scared to take a stand for what I believe I deserve no more I deserve to
believe I deserve no more I deserve to
believe I deserve no more I deserve to have love in my life I deserve to make
have love in my life I deserve to make
have love in my life I deserve to make my dreams come true I deserve happiness
my dreams come true I deserve happiness
my dreams come true I deserve happiness I stepped into a new world a will
I stepped into a new world a will
I stepped into a new world a will without any limitations a world in which
without any limitations a world in which
without any limitations a world in which everything was possible
in a spring of 2012 I worked for jobs
in a spring of 2012 I worked for jobs this took up all of my waking hours then
this took up all of my waking hours then
this took up all of my waking hours then and there I made a decision more time
and there I made a decision more time
and there I made a decision more time for finding love in that manner I remade
for finding love in that manner I remade
for finding love in that manner I remade choices in every aspect of my life I
choices in every aspect of my life I
choices in every aspect of my life I remade choices to align my actions with
remade choices to align my actions with
remade choices to align my actions with my desires 10% I changed my life I
my desires 10% I changed my life I
my desires 10% I changed my life I started cooking and went from takeout
started cooking and went from takeout
started cooking and went from takeout menus to cookbooks I started working out
menus to cookbooks I started working out
menus to cookbooks I started working out and went from once to twice a week I
and went from once to twice a week I
and went from once to twice a week I started a dating profile and shifted my
started a dating profile and shifted my
started a dating profile and shifted my chances from lust to love it just didn’t
chances from lust to love it just didn’t
chances from lust to love it just didn’t go as fast as I wanted and I started to
go as fast as I wanted and I started to
go as fast as I wanted and I started to wonder should I just quit internet
wonder should I just quit internet
wonder should I just quit internet dating and if I stopped what do I do
dating and if I stopped what do I do
dating and if I stopped what do I do with a day that I’ve already planned do
with a day that I’ve already planned do
with a day that I’ve already planned do I just cancel it
this resulted in a marathon of inner
this resulted in a marathon of inner dialogue will I go won’t I go will I
dialogue will I go won’t I go will I
dialogue will I go won’t I go will I won’t I when I won’t I
okay I’ll go reluctantly I took the tram
okay I’ll go reluctantly I took the tram to our rendezvous
10% and there I met her for the first
10% and there I met her for the first time
time
time Ava this was the most significant
Ava this was the most significant
Ava this was the most significant encounter that I’ve ever had we said in
encounter that I’ve ever had we said in
encounter that I’ve ever had we said in a small bar and talked for hours and
a small bar and talked for hours and
a small bar and talked for hours and hours straight she asked me all these
hours straight she asked me all these
hours straight she asked me all these questions about Who I am and what
questions about Who I am and what
questions about Who I am and what inspires me in life
inspires me in life
inspires me in life she blew my mind I never met someone
she blew my mind I never met someone
she blew my mind I never met someone like her before the bar closed down and
like her before the bar closed down and
like her before the bar closed down and we weren’t even nearly done with our
we weren’t even nearly done with our
we weren’t even nearly done with our conversation and after we said our
conversation and after we said our
conversation and after we said our goodbyes just before we left she kissed
goodbyes just before we left she kissed
goodbyes just before we left she kissed me
me
me our first kiss the weeks and months
our first kiss the weeks and months
our first kiss the weeks and months after our first kiss it only got better
after our first kiss it only got better
after our first kiss it only got better and better and after six months we
and better and after six months we
and better and after six months we decided to move in together finally I
decided to move in together finally I
decided to move in together finally I had found what I’ve been searching for
had found what I’ve been searching for
had found what I’ve been searching for all these years she is the one I was
all these years she is the one I was
all these years she is the one I was working towards she is the one I knew
working towards she is the one I knew
working towards she is the one I knew existed without having any proof she is
existed without having any proof she is
existed without having any proof she is more than I ever dreamed of
if I also had a long ways to travel
if I also had a long ways to travel she had a desire for a loving family of
she had a desire for a loving family of
she had a desire for a loving family of her own and she stood though for what
her own and she stood though for what
her own and she stood though for what she believes she deserves she made hard
she believes she deserves she made hard
she believes she deserves she made hard decisions to align her actions with her
decisions to align her actions with her
decisions to align her actions with her desire just a few weeks ago we were
desire just a few weeks ago we were
desire just a few weeks ago we were walking in the park and she told me that
walking in the park and she told me that
walking in the park and she told me that us being together is her dream come true
us being together is her dream come true
us being together is her dream come true if there’s one thing you’ll take away
if there’s one thing you’ll take away
if there’s one thing you’ll take away from this story let it be the thing she
from this story let it be the thing she
from this story let it be the thing she said next all you need is 10% when all
said next all you need is 10% when all
said next all you need is 10% when all odds are stacked against you when
odds are stacked against you when
odds are stacked against you when there’s no sign of your desire when
there’s no sign of your desire when
there’s no sign of your desire when everybody tells you you’re either wrong
everybody tells you you’re either wrong
everybody tells you you’re either wrong or insane to believe when you manage to
or insane to believe when you manage to
or insane to believe when you manage to fully believe in your goals 10% of the
fully believe in your goals 10% of the
fully believe in your goals 10% of the time you will achieve your goals usually
time you will achieve your goals usually
time you will achieve your goals usually this is the part where we live happily
this is the part where we live happily
this is the part where we live happily ever after but before we do so I want to
ever after but before we do so I want to
ever after but before we do so I want to introduce to you someone very very
introduce to you someone very very
introduce to you someone very very special will you give a warm round of
special will you give a warm round of
special will you give a warm round of applause for the love of my life
applause for the love of my life
applause for the love of my life Ava
Ava
Ava [Applause]
give her a warm welcome
give her a warm welcome give her a warm welcome I can only
give her a warm welcome I can only
give her a warm welcome I can only imagine that being on stage like this is
imagine that being on stage like this is
imagine that being on stage like this is a bit uncomfortable and a surprise for
a bit uncomfortable and a surprise for
a bit uncomfortable and a surprise for your information about up to 15 minutes
your information about up to 15 minutes
your information about up to 15 minutes ago she didn’t know I was going to speak
ago she didn’t know I was going to speak
ago she didn’t know I was going to speak here today and 60 minutes ago she didn’t
here today and 60 minutes ago she didn’t
here today and 60 minutes ago she didn’t know she was going to attend this event
know she was going to attend this event
know she was going to attend this event it’s always quite a surprise I also
it’s always quite a surprise I also
it’s always quite a surprise I also believed more than 10% and I’m so
believed more than 10% and I’m so
believed more than 10% and I’m so grateful that I did it’s my goal in life
grateful that I did it’s my goal in life
grateful that I did it’s my goal in life to be the best man and father that I can
to be the best man and father that I can
to be the best man and father that I can be it’s my dream to support each other
be it’s my dream to support each other
be it’s my dream to support each other in achieving our purpose in life and I
in achieving our purpose in life and I
in achieving our purpose in life and I can promise you my unwavering 10 percent
by sharing with you all that I am and
by sharing with you all that I am and all that I believe I will be I can
all that I believe I will be I can
all that I believe I will be I can finally ask you the question I’ve been
finally ask you the question I’ve been
finally ask you the question I’ve been dying to ask Ava will you marry me
post yes
post yes yeah
yeah I’m not gonna live in a liquid
yeah I’m not gonna live in a liquid ocean in three homeless my whether I’m
ocean in three homeless my whether I’m
ocean in three homeless my whether I’m gonna collect less these all talk about
gonna collect less these all talk about
gonna collect less these all talk about it or those catalogs it’s very own miss
it or those catalogs it’s very own miss
it or those catalogs it’s very own miss most nights okay Vancouver I ever found
most nights okay Vancouver I ever found
most nights okay Vancouver I ever found this is a big favor – yeah I sleep like
this is a big favor – yeah I sleep like
this is a big favor – yeah I sleep like your face girls good plan
your face girls good plan
your face girls good plan thank you that yeah we see the same
thank you that yeah we see the same
thank you that yeah we see the same applies Naomi
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