My name is Miguel Bermudez Gutierrez
I am a teacher in the secretariat of
education of bogota and and from my
experience as an educator in a
sexuality
I have learned many things that I want
share with you
I currently believe that we have all
heard that the
discourse on gender violence
we hear about gender violence
in the family in the news in the
media
in order everywhere but generally
we all think that those
Gender violence only affects
women or in the case of
collective
the gti but sometime you have
put to reflect that violence
of gender may not be affecting
all and all equally and for this I
I want you to reflect on
of what makes them feel the next
phrase all men of this
public are dogs a few dogs
how does that make you feel that maybe
phrase can have multiple
interpretations but in our culture
the big dog man emphasizes
the privileges that we have as a man
as for having all the women
that we want but if I on the contrary
kobe I say to all of you all
you bitches this one who thinks
the thing changes true why tell
Bitch a woman is one of the worst
insults in our culture is the
question is because for us that we
say, but it ‘s a compliment to me
Manhood and being told a bitch by a woman
It is a total offense towards his femininity
Well, that is gender violence only
affects one in particular but that
they believed that we men do not
we suffer
I want you to start imagining this one
is this scenario this event
we are the two men we started
play soccer
we go out weary exhausted and we go to
drink
is not a beer freshen us
we sit and talk about sports we talk
of politics and suddenly the bar comes in
a woman spam pan to 90 60 90 and that’s
as if something in the atmosphere did not say
to all the men we have to lift
the look and start to wima half that
delicious
hui who asked for chicken buyema me me quiere
birds to buy the bread
of course many of you should be
saying typical haha the macho man
morbid vulgar all men are
same cortaditos with the same scissors and
peking
They are right but the problem is not
is that macho man
the problem is that man that being in
the group did not get up to look at both
already own area
what do you think they’re going to start saying
who thinks they’re going to start thinking about
him for something he heard today not so
I heard it from me and I know that I
it was weird this month will have it as weird
is that he does not like women said
peak is gay
oh clear then there we realized
that effectively also men
we suffer from gender violence
and is that if we think about the
Western societies especially in
Latin American
no woman has been saved that james
never some moment of his life
treat them like bitches or whores if
It sounds ugly but the truth and how it is
because they simply put on makeup differently
it looks different to speak differently
they think differently or speak differently and what
same goes with the men in us
none of us have been saved that in some
moment of our lives are us
questioning our bible our
musculin since they are telling us
little fag or gay women because they do not
we are violent because we do not like
the same things that you should like
men because I do not know are not the
dogs that everyone wants
then we see effectively that here
what we have to think to reflect
is that gender violence to their
cousins
all and all equally and you know why
because they saw such violence
a social function that I had and
at school and what function does it have
educate ourselves in gender roles
make us those macho men
who wants society and those women
submissive that society also wants
or four follows him alone which is that you
outside the stereotype of
male and udi and severe flora and behave
as a man and if a woman gets out of
that stereotype of virtue but they put him
the ap ap the giant then imagine yourself
how this starts to develop in
the schools in the schools and that’s why
these opportunities to teach
Sex education does not drink allowed
observe that
in fact agree so much that in a
class we were talking about the
sexual courtship with boys and girls
when one of my students gets up
the hand and 6 and prof that in that courtship
sexual is that you do not see that man
proposes and the woman disposes and joey
gee that phrase as it transcends
generation after generation
and of course, why not go when
we talk about sexual courtship
all the boys talked about everything
have to do to convince anyone
have sex and how
girls have to do everything to
avoid them or postpone them pc that both
genders accepted that they had desire
sexual
and that’s where I realized that when
we talk about the man proposes and the woman
has
that’s a sexual economy like that
simple
but then that sexual economy
It works with these gender violence
who seek to control the body and
sexuality of men and women
especially when they are teenagers
to turn them into those goals of
genres that everyone wants and how
that control works
you see when they were teenagers if
they were women
that control of the body and sexuality
focuses on virginity and
families rather suffer from caring
the virginia to his daughters but that
they believed that men are
2 if the girl is cared for by her virginity
the male are constantly
promoting watching your manhood
the girl has to say no to the
relations
instead the man today friend to him
havre true and clear I think we have
to start thinking about where
begins that violent acquisition of
genders in the family at school and
in the rest of our lives
we will only see one thing we are with the
girls when they were teenagers
all wanted to go to parties today to
mom let me go to the party that as no
my little daughter, you do not leave the house
that look bad is my valentina I
I do not want problems with you you do not
I get
I do not want surprises there is that I
I do not even want to think
look valentina that every time I
I see that the goal comes with the boyfriend
yours
you leave everything bounced per hour and
will be already at the door with that
little boy the gossip has already started
with the neighbors
look valentina I come back and I repeat I do not
I want surprises you know what I
I mean what I mean, understand certain
at least valentina make yourself wish
yes, I let her go to the party but
I’m going with his brother
instead if we were men can
go to the party clear or there goes the
ribbon of silver but believe me that the
control of us is different
nobody is the mom the dad says my
love that happens is that I’m worried
by andresito and what’s up with andresito
is that my daughter turned 16 and more noticed
who does not have a girlfriend when she’s seen
with a woman he’s already playing with
the video games with those little boys
imagine that the other night came
marianita the classmate up
in the notebooks when he did not go to class and
I see that the girl like that she likes
andresito
but Andrew and Tony looked at her
worried I get tired we’re going to do
a gala that this Chinese does not leave me
I do not want it or think true and if
soon andresito for the first time brought to
girlfriend
that’s not going to be like valentina that
They scare the groom, not the other way around
obliges half sit down wants is a
case and a soda appointment and they even say
to the fence brother he was left alone
my love, I’m happy let’s leave it alone
as they are comfortable there are thousands who
we have to go to the bank I think that you
we delayed about two hours
children or with 15 minutes have to be
well comfortable as two of us were going there
holy faith directs holy less evil
andresito I was saved then clear
there we began to manifest how is the
gender violence
they start to work but in women
they start to be more violent you know
when does my girl start telling me
teacher is that analyzing my life I
changed when I developed when I
my first menstruation went
as well as I played, I jumped
I ran but when I developed
started a surveillance a control no longer
they let me out and they did not let me
have fun they started telling me that
Take care and take care of yourself and take care of yourself
piece family violence
gender so that to control the
body of the girl
even the one about that speech is that you
I do not get pregnant or go home
of his gender violence is believed to
we men suffer that that is
supremely violent very violent and for
that I want for example to tell you who
tell us the stories of my girls
when the jobs they do counted their
experience about its development
mir and one of the strategies that I have
seen in my mom to take care of
virginity is wondering what if
I have a boyfriend and start asking questions
what I have to take care and not open
the legs to anyone who does not
show so much on one occasion it happened to me
something very particular when once
we were reunited the whole family and of
they suddenly started talking about sex
they involved telling me that they do not
They were sure it was virgin
my way of walking because according to them
when
does not lose the virginity they are made a
hollow when it’s for nothing clear
imagine now you would go those that
it’s still current and that’s why
is that when we see a woman or a
empowered teenager who has
sexual freedom that defends your pleasure to
Salam the woman as one not the example
is the model we do not want to stop
see but here we can understand has
that economy of sex that we can see
that the woman’s body becomes
a property in an exchange good
the man proposes that he means that
demand the woman arranges that she wants
say that offer and that you offer your body
and their sexuality allowing in that
education that the body becomes a
good exchange but losing water
It has value
according to upload your sexual then that
woman who defends her sexuality
freely becomes a woman of
second category
already there seems to them that that is not violent
there starts everything and now imagine
how does that happen in teenagers
terrible
Now what we are seeing then is
that in education
we are promoting the
construction of a new woman one
woman in fairy power who feels that her
body is yours that she governs her
own body that defends its sexuality
who knows when to demand that I do not
that does not allow any man to see his
body no woman like any
country that sees its body as property
that is the model of women in power
adic everyone and I know if what
we all want but actually I say
as a teacher
the majority of parents and society
wants is that we continue educating the
girls and boys under that model to those
girls under the model of submission on
bolero of virginity chastity and
sexual purity
you know what you do with that to
times we all leave in vulnerability to
our children girls and teenagers
example when I was giving the
kinds of regulation methods
fertility be of planning and
inquiring because many of them do not
they used a girl raise your hand and I
says ja profe is you how do you think I
They already planned that none of us
let’s plan do not see that
planning is like putting a snag
it’s on my forehead and I
p teacher explain the bitch and bitch
Jobs explains I looked professed if I
I plan that you think my
mommy my mom the first thing is that she
will give to everyone but for everything
the neighborhood and if my dad gets to ctera
is that I do not even think about it and if I
I’m for example in school and my
little companions starts etcetera that I
I plan to become like that
I’m going to take away all the boyfriends and
men and all my colleague from my school
they will think that as I plan is
because I’m willing to give sex to
everyone though no worse than even
my boyfriend that is why I plan
think that planning is because soon
I also want to be unfaithful
so to plan because the
are we these decisions this right to
access the methods of regulation of
the fertility that the woman implies
adolescent being excluded rejected
discriminated and knows especially in
where in your family nucleus
So that’s when we have to
start to enter to change that model
education but we men
we do not have it easy either and it has
especially teenagers
and it is that if the woman has to be
taking care of her virginity and showing her
virtue to us men touches us
be showing our ability because
has that sex economy
man has to own provide and
protect that property that is women
of my girlfriend
that’s my wife and I now have to
to defend is not that the teacher can
be healing year those men are
there is behind my property and how do you think
that I have to defend it
because with violence that’s why the
masculinity is constructed with violence
and with sex not because we are naturally
violent for being a man they educate us like this
to defend our property
is the woman then there was when
we said we have to change that
economy of sex in school and what
we did from a curriculum and what
we become sexual citizenship and
we seek to reconfigure that economy of
the sexual in favor of our
teenagers who will really enter the
21st century and we started having excellent
results nor first we denature
sexual and gender violence
Ha because no one of my Chinese is going to
allow them to see your body as a
property
the body is mine and only mine and I
government over him
we also had something very particular and it is
that with this new education
we achieved the unthinkable to reduce the
pregnancy at a young age that the school
gerardo teshuva walls had the
palms high pregnancy rates
adolescent in the locality
we got to have a historical average
of 70 deliveries a year and today
currently that number was reduced by more
of 90% are we become an example
national know why because we
we teach our children girls
and teenagers that a human being is
valuable for what it carries in the heart
for what he thinks and not for what he has
between the legs
many thanks
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