Wow the room does feel different from the side of the room sometimes we think
the side of the room sometimes we think
the side of the room sometimes we think a personal since worthiness is based on
a personal since worthiness is based on
a personal since worthiness is based on their age educational qualifications or
their age educational qualifications or
their age educational qualifications or what we seem for success would we have
what we seem for success would we have
what we seem for success would we have listened to any of the world leaders if
listened to any of the world leaders if
listened to any of the world leaders if they hadn’t been as successful or when
they hadn’t been as successful or when
they hadn’t been as successful or when they had just started out in life we
they had just started out in life we
they had just started out in life we often won credentials to validate a
often won credentials to validate a
often won credentials to validate a person’s importance but the truth is
person’s importance but the truth is
person’s importance but the truth is everyone has a story to tell
everyone has a story to tell
everyone has a story to tell everyone has an experience to share so
everyone has an experience to share so
everyone has an experience to share so when I got this opportunity to talk on
when I got this opportunity to talk on
when I got this opportunity to talk on the stage instead of wondering what I
the stage instead of wondering what I
the stage instead of wondering what I did to deserve the same opportunity I
did to deserve the same opportunity I
did to deserve the same opportunity I thought what I could share that could
thought what I could share that could
thought what I could share that could probably be food for thought I wish I
probably be food for thought I wish I
probably be food for thought I wish I could tell you I know how to get the
could tell you I know how to get the
could tell you I know how to get the perfect scores on GRE or cap or how I
perfect scores on GRE or cap or how I
perfect scores on GRE or cap or how I could get in how you guys could get into
could get in how you guys could get into
could get in how you guys could get into the early pic team but unfortunately I
the early pic team but unfortunately I
the early pic team but unfortunately I don’t know that I can assure you though
don’t know that I can assure you though
don’t know that I can assure you though I can tell you how to stand on you
I can tell you how to stand on you
I can tell you how to stand on you possibly high heels but for 15 minutes
besides I don’t know I had to make a
besides I don’t know I had to make a choice to stop people from taking my
choice to stop people from taking my
choice to stop people from taking my choices away from me so here is my story
the first thing when I got on stage I
the first thing when I got on stage I wanted to do was let out of your
wanted to do was let out of your
wanted to do was let out of your splitting screen a loud one because for
splitting screen a loud one because for
splitting screen a loud one because for years people have me I can’t speak up
years people have me I can’t speak up
years people have me I can’t speak up then I can’t do a turtle thing because
then I can’t do a turtle thing because
then I can’t do a turtle thing because of my gender and I think it’s time to
of my gender and I think it’s time to
of my gender and I think it’s time to change that gender equality feminism
change that gender equality feminism
change that gender equality feminism women empowerment all of us topics
women empowerment all of us topics
women empowerment all of us topics individually with different dimensions
individually with different dimensions
individually with different dimensions so here I am NOT I’m here to talk about
so here I am NOT I’m here to talk about
so here I am NOT I’m here to talk about what specifically means to me and I’m
what specifically means to me and I’m
what specifically means to me and I’m going to leave you with three messages
going to leave you with three messages
going to leave you with three messages before that for all the men in the
before that for all the men in the
before that for all the men in the audience please don’t zone out this is
audience please don’t zone out this is
audience please don’t zone out this is as much is your issue as our gods
as much is your issue as our gods
as much is your issue as our gods because we have a mother a sister
because we have a mother a sister
because we have a mother a sister a friend so how many of you here think
a friend so how many of you here think
a friend so how many of you here think feminism is hating men or anti men it is
feminism is hating men or anti men it is
feminism is hating men or anti men it is not it is about it and we are focusing
not it is about it and we are focusing
not it is about it and we are focusing on women empowerment because the scales
on women empowerment because the scales
on women empowerment because the scales are tipped that way
the moment we save women’s issues it
the moment we save women’s issues it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t involve the
doesn’t mean that it doesn’t involve the
doesn’t mean that it doesn’t involve the men sorry to say but I have to point out
men sorry to say but I have to point out
men sorry to say but I have to point out here rape sexual violence domestic
here rape sexual violence domestic
here rape sexual violence domestic violence all involve the men so it is as
violence all involve the men so it is as
violence all involve the men so it is as much as you’re here as as for all the
much as you’re here as as for all the
much as you’re here as as for all the women out here this is my first message
women out here this is my first message
women out here this is my first message carve out that place for yourself in
carve out that place for yourself in
carve out that place for yourself in your life my tinder profile there’s
your life my tinder profile there’s
your life my tinder profile there’s three things about me a law student
three things about me a law student
three things about me a law student which is a fact a feminist which is my
which is a fact a feminist which is my
which is a fact a feminist which is my belief and a solo traveler which is a
belief and a solo traveler which is a
belief and a solo traveler which is a hobby I get a message from this guy
hobby I get a message from this guy
hobby I get a message from this guy who’s who matched with me saying hi
who’s who matched with me saying hi
who’s who matched with me saying hi beautiful
beautiful
beautiful that’s really flattered I was thinking
that’s really flattered I was thinking
that’s really flattered I was thinking when I looked at your profile that you
when I looked at your profile that you
when I looked at your profile that you have a lot of attitude but despite that
have a lot of attitude but despite that
have a lot of attitude but despite that I would still want to go out with you
I would still want to go out with you
I would still want to go out with you would you want to go on a date you know
would you want to go on a date you know
would you want to go on a date you know how that went as women most of us don’t
how that went as women most of us don’t
how that went as women most of us don’t ask what we deserve for ourselves or
ask what we deserve for ourselves or
ask what we deserve for ourselves or what we need from childhood we will you
what we need from childhood we will you
what we need from childhood we will you ask to give up so many things because
ask to give up so many things because
ask to give up so many things because you know boys will be boys the first
you know boys will be boys the first
you know boys will be boys the first time was when you longingly look through
time was when you longingly look through
time was when you longingly look through the window and your brother went off to
the window and your brother went off to
the window and your brother went off to play with his friends or later when you
play with his friends or later when you
play with his friends or later when you were when you needed to make a career
were when you needed to make a career
were when you needed to make a career choice which was fit for a woman or when
choice which was fit for a woman or when
choice which was fit for a woman or when you were forced to go to a mute class
you were forced to go to a mute class
you were forced to go to a mute class instead of boxing as a person as a woman
instead of boxing as a person as a woman
instead of boxing as a person as a woman we have a lot of roles to play a loving
we have a lot of roles to play a loving
we have a lot of roles to play a loving daughter a doting sister a dutiful wife
daughter a doting sister a dutiful wife
daughter a doting sister a dutiful wife a dedicated employee an understanding
a dedicated employee an understanding
a dedicated employee an understanding employer selfless mother everybody needs
employer selfless mother everybody needs
employer selfless mother everybody needs something from us and it is up to us to
something from us and it is up to us to
something from us and it is up to us to save something selves
save something selves
save something selves we as women keep working really hard to
we as women keep working really hard to
we as women keep working really hard to be accepted in our society by people
be accepted in our society by people
be accepted in our society by people close and random to us but will restrict
close and random to us but will restrict
close and random to us but will restrict ourselves of all the roles and titles we
ourselves of all the roles and titles we
ourselves of all the roles and titles we have when we look at us ourselves as
have when we look at us ourselves as
have when we look at us ourselves as individuals we need something for
individuals we need something for
individuals we need something for ourselves and that is self-identity
carving out the Claysville life is a
carving out the Claysville life is a long process and often has a lot of
long process and often has a lot of
long process and often has a lot of people and circumstances influencing it
people and circumstances influencing it
people and circumstances influencing it but the first question we really have to
but the first question we really have to
but the first question we really have to ask is honestly and to ourself is while
ask is honestly and to ourself is while
ask is honestly and to ourself is while I here what is my purpose in life
I here what is my purpose in life
I here what is my purpose in life prickly shape questions I know but
prickly shape questions I know but
prickly shape questions I know but protecting yourself and your time is
protecting yourself and your time is
protecting yourself and your time is important there will be times when you
important there will be times when you
important there will be times when you need to be able to do things with no
need to be able to do things with no
need to be able to do things with no other explanation ask but I need to do
other explanation ask but I need to do
other explanation ask but I need to do this because it means something to me
this because it means something to me
this because it means something to me meet a new dress a job a courier a life
meet a new dress a job a courier a life
meet a new dress a job a courier a life partner you need the choice if you don’t
partner you need the choice if you don’t
partner you need the choice if you don’t prioritize yourself one day you will
prioritize yourself one day you will
prioritize yourself one day you will wake to wake up to a load of regret
wake to wake up to a load of regret
wake to wake up to a load of regret three months back I was on a trip I was
three months back I was on a trip I was
three months back I was on a trip I was on a trek to Dharamsala there was
on a trek to Dharamsala there was
on a trek to Dharamsala there was another woman in my group I assumed she
another woman in my group I assumed she
another woman in my group I assumed she was probably my maybe a year or two
was probably my maybe a year or two
was probably my maybe a year or two older probably working another IT job
older probably working another IT job
older probably working another IT job but she told me she was a wedding
but she told me she was a wedding
but she told me she was a wedding planner and she had been married for six
planner and she had been married for six
planner and she had been married for six years but after the wedding season she
years but after the wedding season she
years but after the wedding season she often takes off alone to travel some
often takes off alone to travel some
often takes off alone to travel some part of India
part of India
part of India sometimes even abroad alone she said
sometimes even abroad alone she said
sometimes even abroad alone she said marriage did not change herself she had
marriage did not change herself she had
marriage did not change herself she had to make accommodation and compromises
to make accommodation and compromises
to make accommodation and compromises but at the end of the day she as a
but at the end of the day she as a
but at the end of the day she as a person needed her space
what she fundamentally did was she
what she fundamentally did was she carved out that space for herself and
carved out that space for herself and
carved out that space for herself and let didn’t let a small part of her life
let didn’t let a small part of her life
let didn’t let a small part of her life called marriage change that how you
called marriage change that how you
called marriage change that how you carve out that space is a very
carve out that space is a very
carve out that space is a very personalized and individual thing for
personalized and individual thing for
personalized and individual thing for which first you have to start loving
which first you have to start loving
which first you have to start loving yourself
yourself
yourself knowing yourself best and the best way
knowing yourself best and the best way
knowing yourself best and the best way to start is by speaking up which leads
to start is by speaking up which leads
to start is by speaking up which leads me to my second message ask for what you
me to my second message ask for what you
me to my second message ask for what you need
need
need demand it when needed at the age of 19 I
demand it when needed at the age of 19 I
demand it when needed at the age of 19 I call my parents one day from college and
call my parents one day from college and
call my parents one day from college and I said I got an internship from in
I said I got an internship from in
I said I got an internship from in Russia and I wanted to go like expected
Russia and I wanted to go like expected
Russia and I wanted to go like expected in every family especially when you’re a
in every family especially when you’re a
in every family especially when you’re a girl child single girl child actor the
girl child single girl child actor the
girl child single girl child actor the chaos broke out bitch
chaos broke out bitch
chaos broke out bitch the debates vicar’s the anger all if it
the debates vicar’s the anger all if it
the debates vicar’s the anger all if it happened but I knew deep down I had to
happened but I knew deep down I had to
happened but I knew deep down I had to do this that this was the time that
do this that this was the time that
do this that this was the time that going this was at a time when going to
going this was at a time when going to
going this was at a time when going to streets away to a girlfriend’s house for
streets away to a girlfriend’s house for
streets away to a girlfriend’s house for a sleepover was not permitted and every
a sleepover was not permitted and every
a sleepover was not permitted and every weekend then used to be a fight that for
weekend then used to be a fight that for
weekend then used to be a fight that for that but guess what in the end I did go
that but guess what in the end I did go
that but guess what in the end I did go a teenager from a South Indian
a teenager from a South Indian
a teenager from a South Indian conservative family traveling abroad for
conservative family traveling abroad for
conservative family traveling abroad for the first time I was there for seven
the first time I was there for seven
the first time I was there for seven whole weeks all along but making friends
whole weeks all along but making friends
whole weeks all along but making friends along the way
along the way
along the way when I first started thinking about this
when I first started thinking about this
when I first started thinking about this I didn’t start with the obstacle God
I didn’t start with the obstacle God
I didn’t start with the obstacle God there were so many I was scheduled to go
there were so many I was scheduled to go
there were so many I was scheduled to go mid-november and come back mid-january
mid-november and come back mid-january
mid-november and come back mid-january I was going to a silicon chili oven
I was going to a silicon chili oven
I was going to a silicon chili oven which was also known as the Gateway to
which was also known as the Gateway to
which was also known as the Gateway to Siberia and the temperatures was
Siberia and the temperatures was
Siberia and the temperatures was hovering around minus 20 and minus 30
hovering around minus 20 and minus 30
hovering around minus 20 and minus 30 years now nobody there knew English it
years now nobody there knew English it
years now nobody there knew English it was not Moscow or st. Petersburg where
was not Moscow or st. Petersburg where
was not Moscow or st. Petersburg where you can find people who have basic
you can find people who have basic
you can find people who have basic English knowledge and sometimes a lot of
English knowledge and sometimes a lot of
English knowledge and sometimes a lot of Indians do go there to do their masters
Indians do go there to do their masters
Indians do go there to do their masters or whatever but in Chaves it was a
or whatever but in Chaves it was a
or whatever but in Chaves it was a little city and nobody even knew the
little city and nobody even knew the
little city and nobody even knew the meaning of good morning so the cost list
meaning of good morning so the cost list
meaning of good morning so the cost list was miles long but I had one reason as
was miles long but I had one reason as
was miles long but I had one reason as to why I had to go I would be making a
to why I had to go I would be making a
to why I had to go I would be making a statement to everyone and myself that I
statement to everyone and myself that I
statement to everyone and myself that I was capable and being a girl is not
was capable and being a girl is not
was capable and being a girl is not going to hinder me from going after my
going to hinder me from going after my
going to hinder me from going after my dream there was a very very important
dream there was a very very important
dream there was a very very important lesson I learned during the
lesson I learned during the
lesson I learned during the strip and that was in life you have to
strip and that was in life you have to
strip and that was in life you have to make a lot of tough choices and tough
make a lot of tough choices and tough
make a lot of tough choices and tough choices include losing relationships
choices include losing relationships
choices include losing relationships hurting loved ones stepping out of
hurting loved ones stepping out of
hurting loved ones stepping out of comfort zones falling down and getting
comfort zones falling down and getting
comfort zones falling down and getting back up and sometimes without
back up and sometimes without
back up and sometimes without complaining and sometimes even smiling
complaining and sometimes even smiling
complaining and sometimes even smiling until I got my visa and tickets booked
until I got my visa and tickets booked
until I got my visa and tickets booked which was around a week before I was
which was around a week before I was
which was around a week before I was leaving for the trip I didn’t tell
leaving for the trip I didn’t tell
leaving for the trip I didn’t tell anybody except my parents about it I
anybody except my parents about it I
anybody except my parents about it I knew I didn’t want it to become an
knew I didn’t want it to become an
knew I didn’t want it to become an example of too many cooks spoil the
example of too many cooks spoil the
example of too many cooks spoil the broth sometimes you hurt your near and
broth sometimes you hurt your near and
broth sometimes you hurt your near and dear ones because of your decisions
dear ones because of your decisions
dear ones because of your decisions people told me I was being selfish for
people told me I was being selfish for
people told me I was being selfish for making my parents go through that stress
making my parents go through that stress
making my parents go through that stress that I was being insolent for keeping
that I was being insolent for keeping
that I was being insolent for keeping things away from my family and friends
things away from my family and friends
things away from my family and friends but I knew I had to do what was best for
but I knew I had to do what was best for
but I knew I had to do what was best for me I had to draw the boundaries to
me I had to draw the boundaries to
me I had to draw the boundaries to balance the concerns of my family and
balance the concerns of my family and
balance the concerns of my family and friends with my ambitions which is one
friends with my ambitions which is one
friends with my ambitions which is one of the most important challenges kids
of the most important challenges kids
of the most important challenges kids these days face and I was also part of
these days face and I was also part of
these days face and I was also part of it often we decline opportunities
it often we decline opportunities
it often we decline opportunities because we know our parents wouldn’t
because we know our parents wouldn’t
because we know our parents wouldn’t agree and it would cause unnecessary
agree and it would cause unnecessary
agree and it would cause unnecessary arguments in the house we don’t want to
arguments in the house we don’t want to
arguments in the house we don’t want to cause ripples in our call carefully
cause ripples in our call carefully
cause ripples in our call carefully structured lives we don’t even ask for
structured lives we don’t even ask for
structured lives we don’t even ask for we make excuses because it is easier
we make excuses because it is easier
we make excuses because it is easier than causing trouble well is important
than causing trouble well is important
than causing trouble well is important to value their concern to be sensitive
to value their concern to be sensitive
to value their concern to be sensitive to their emotions it shouldn’t become a
to their emotions it shouldn’t become a
to their emotions it shouldn’t become a stumbling block in our lives so
stumbling block in our lives so
stumbling block in our lives so communicate have conversations don’t
communicate have conversations don’t
communicate have conversations don’t ever assume on the behalf that they
ever assume on the behalf that they
ever assume on the behalf that they won’t let you go it was my
won’t let you go it was my
won’t let you go it was my responsibility to assure my parents that
responsibility to assure my parents that
responsibility to assure my parents that it was going to be okay and I value
it was going to be okay and I value
it was going to be okay and I value their opinions and that their support
their opinions and that their support
their opinions and that their support meant a lot to me meanwhile my parents
meant a lot to me meanwhile my parents
meant a lot to me meanwhile my parents trusted me and actually also their
trusted me and actually also their
trusted me and actually also their parenting skills for me to be safe and
parenting skills for me to be safe and
parenting skills for me to be safe and responsible so I did go and I had two
responsible so I did go and I had two
responsible so I did go and I had two wonderful months a while back I read on
wonderful months a while back I read on
wonderful months a while back I read on Facebook that a girl had decided
Facebook that a girl had decided
Facebook that a girl had decided to decline a marriage proposal because
to decline a marriage proposal because
to decline a marriage proposal because the groom didn’t want her to bring her
the groom didn’t want her to bring her
the groom didn’t want her to bring her dog
dog
dog this might seem silly to a lot of people
this might seem silly to a lot of people
this might seem silly to a lot of people but what she fundamentally did was carve
but what she fundamentally did was carve
but what she fundamentally did was carve out a space for herself in her little
out a space for herself in her little
out a space for herself in her little world in this case a marriage because
world in this case a marriage because
world in this case a marriage because after all it is usually the woman who
after all it is usually the woman who
after all it is usually the woman who take the drastic changes in their lives
take the drastic changes in their lives
take the drastic changes in their lives for a marriage as in their jobs they
for a marriage as in their jobs they
for a marriage as in their jobs they change their surname
change their surname
change their surname leaving behind everything they have
leaving behind everything they have
leaving behind everything they have known all their lives so it is not wrong
known all their lives so it is not wrong
known all their lives so it is not wrong to expect some compromises from the
to expect some compromises from the
to expect some compromises from the groom – well accommodation and
groom – well accommodation and
groom – well accommodation and compromising is very important for
compromising is very important for
compromising is very important for everyone to make relationships works for
everyone to make relationships works for
everyone to make relationships works for everyday routines to go well it is also
everyday routines to go well it is also
everyday routines to go well it is also important that there should be a few
important that there should be a few
important that there should be a few points which are non-negotiable to every
points which are non-negotiable to every
points which are non-negotiable to every individuals and it is okay to expect
individuals and it is okay to expect
individuals and it is okay to expect people to respect them at the end of the
people to respect them at the end of the
people to respect them at the end of the day every decision made be it by
day every decision made be it by
day every decision made be it by yourself or when others make it for you
yourself or when others make it for you
yourself or when others make it for you it is going to be you who is living it
it is going to be you who is living it
it is going to be you who is living it no one but you can replace that and
no one but you can replace that and
no one but you can replace that and unless you have a deep conviction about
unless you have a deep conviction about
unless you have a deep conviction about it and voices loved and clear the choice
it and voices loved and clear the choice
it and voices loved and clear the choice is going to be taken away from you
is going to be taken away from you
is going to be taken away from you the month after I came back from Prussia
the month after I came back from Prussia
the month after I came back from Prussia who’s the hardest ever let me picture
who’s the hardest ever let me picture
who’s the hardest ever let me picture for you for two whole months I was
for you for two whole months I was
for you for two whole months I was surrounded by snow I even listen to
surrounded by snow I even listen to
surrounded by snow I even listen to exotic by Priyanka Chopra on loop when I
exotic by Priyanka Chopra on loop when I
exotic by Priyanka Chopra on loop when I walked around people stopped me on the
walked around people stopped me on the
walked around people stopped me on the street to take pictures with me I felt
street to take pictures with me I felt
street to take pictures with me I felt like a mini celebrity but I didn’t wear
like a mini celebrity but I didn’t wear
like a mini celebrity but I didn’t wear the heels on the snow I visited colleges
the heels on the snow I visited colleges
the heels on the snow I visited colleges to give lectures I was given standing
to give lectures I was given standing
to give lectures I was given standing ovations I worked with top lawyers
ovations I worked with top lawyers
ovations I worked with top lawyers judges professors I even thought cute
judges professors I even thought cute
judges professors I even thought cute little kids English and they taught me
little kids English and they taught me
little kids English and they taught me Russian so when I came back it was back
Russian so when I came back it was back
Russian so when I came back it was back to plus 40 degrees I was once again
to plus 40 degrees I was once again
to plus 40 degrees I was once again bound by curfews dress codes and was
bound by curfews dress codes and was
bound by curfews dress codes and was bombarded with all the judgments it’s
bombarded with all the judgments it’s
bombarded with all the judgments it’s turnin hurts me to think of those days
turnin hurts me to think of those days
turnin hurts me to think of those days when I used to lie down for hours
when I used to lie down for hours
when I used to lie down for hours wondering how I was going to carve out
wondering how I was going to carve out
wondering how I was going to carve out my space
my space
my space how I was going to keep going on without
how I was going to keep going on without
how I was going to keep going on without breaking down because college
breaking down because college
breaking down because college unfortunately is when people keep
unfortunately is when people keep
unfortunately is when people keep constantly asking you what you want to
constantly asking you what you want to
constantly asking you what you want to be where do you want to be
be where do you want to be
be where do you want to be have you written GRE have you written
have you written GRE have you written
have you written GRE have you written cat oh my god you’re 22 what have you
cat oh my god you’re 22 what have you
cat oh my god you’re 22 what have you done so all of this was asked to me as
done so all of this was asked to me as
done so all of this was asked to me as well and these were the times I had to
well and these were the times I had to
well and these were the times I had to save myself there was this interesting
save myself there was this interesting
save myself there was this interesting comment made before I left to Russia
comment made before I left to Russia
comment made before I left to Russia someone asked me whether my primary
someone asked me whether my primary
someone asked me whether my primary motive to go to Russia was to ask ertl
motive to go to Russia was to ask ertl
motive to go to Russia was to ask ertl sleeveless tops so I don’t understand
sleeveless tops so I don’t understand
sleeveless tops so I don’t understand how it makes sense to take short skirts
how it makes sense to take short skirts
how it makes sense to take short skirts and see the stops to a place where it’s
and see the stops to a place where it’s
and see the stops to a place where it’s -20 trust me I didn’t wear any of those
-20 trust me I didn’t wear any of those
-20 trust me I didn’t wear any of those I would also like to point out that a
I would also like to point out that a
I would also like to point out that a lot of time we have to consider going to
lot of time we have to consider going to
lot of time we have to consider going to a whole new country to have control over
a whole new country to have control over
a whole new country to have control over something as simple as our clothing when
something as simple as our clothing when
something as simple as our clothing when a house is burgers and a complaint is
a house is burgers and a complaint is
a house is burgers and a complaint is lodged we go after the burglar the same
lodged we go after the burglar the same
lodged we go after the burglar the same thing when there’s a murder then when a
thing when there’s a murder then when a
thing when there’s a murder then when a girl is raped strangely it is the girl
girl is raped strangely it is the girl
girl is raped strangely it is the girl who is blamed her clothes her
who is blamed her clothes her
who is blamed her clothes her companionship the time of the day she
companionship the time of the day she
companionship the time of the day she dared to venture out and all of the
dared to venture out and all of the
dared to venture out and all of the above reasoning doesn’t explain the six
above reasoning doesn’t explain the six
above reasoning doesn’t explain the six month old baby who was raped
month old baby who was raped
month old baby who was raped the 16 year 69 year old lady was raped
the 16 year 69 year old lady was raped
the 16 year 69 year old lady was raped nor does it explain the rapes which
nor does it explain the rapes which
nor does it explain the rapes which happened in the broad daylight nor does
happened in the broad daylight nor does
happened in the broad daylight nor does it explain the rapist when he is a
it explain the rapist when he is a
it explain the rapist when he is a family member right now as I’m talking
family member right now as I’m talking
family member right now as I’m talking there is a girl up there resigning her
there is a girl up there resigning her
there is a girl up there resigning her job a girl giving up her dreams
job a girl giving up her dreams
job a girl giving up her dreams a girl who is hiding from her husband
a girl who is hiding from her husband
a girl who is hiding from her husband for the fear of getting abused a girl
for the fear of getting abused a girl
for the fear of getting abused a girl who is living with the fear of not being
who is living with the fear of not being
who is living with the fear of not being good enough and a girl who’s being caged
good enough and a girl who’s being caged
good enough and a girl who’s being caged inside because of her gender a girl
inside because of her gender a girl
inside because of her gender a girl who’s reliving the night when she was
who’s reliving the night when she was
who’s reliving the night when she was raped a girl who is an acid with Tim
raped a girl who is an acid with Tim
raped a girl who is an acid with Tim whose canal who is considered dirty
whose canal who is considered dirty
whose canal who is considered dirty because she has her periods and this
because she has her periods and this
because she has her periods and this girl is probably a brother a sister a
girl is probably a brother a sister a
girl is probably a brother a sister a mother or
mother or
mother or friend the trip domestic violence sexual
friend the trip domestic violence sexual
friend the trip domestic violence sexual harassment or the everyday struggles of
harassment or the everyday struggles of
harassment or the everyday struggles of women we are all party to it yes
women we are all party to it yes
women we are all party to it yes you mean our parents the educational
you mean our parents the educational
you mean our parents the educational institutions because that is what a
institutions because that is what a
institutions because that is what a society is made of which leads me to the
society is made of which leads me to the
society is made of which leads me to the third part of my speech a small change
third part of my speech a small change
third part of my speech a small change in our everyday lives have a bigger part
in our everyday lives have a bigger part
in our everyday lives have a bigger part than you know change is not a separate
than you know change is not a separate
than you know change is not a separate entity it is something which is a
entity it is something which is a
entity it is something which is a culmination of a conscious effort from
culmination of a conscious effort from
culmination of a conscious effort from each and every one of us and when I say
each and every one of us and when I say
each and every one of us and when I say every one of us it includes the mentor
every one of us it includes the mentor
every one of us it includes the mentor somehow in the recent times there is a
somehow in the recent times there is a
somehow in the recent times there is a strange pattern one is when we say
strange pattern one is when we say
strange pattern one is when we say change we want it to be instant with the
change we want it to be instant with the
change we want it to be instant with the trends of Instagram and instant likes we
trends of Instagram and instant likes we
trends of Instagram and instant likes we want change to happen overnight do we
want change to happen overnight do we
want change to happen overnight do we are promoting ignorance unconsciously we
are promoting ignorance unconsciously we
are promoting ignorance unconsciously we are thinking that being silent is the
are thinking that being silent is the
are thinking that being silent is the best way to solve a problem our
best way to solve a problem our
best way to solve a problem our education systems our families us we all
education systems our families us we all
education systems our families us we all unconsciously think the same recently
unconsciously think the same recently
unconsciously think the same recently there was a survey conducted on the
there was a survey conducted on the
there was a survey conducted on the psychological and academic impacts of
psychological and academic impacts of
psychological and academic impacts of curfews and rules by colleges in Tamil
curfews and rules by colleges in Tamil
curfews and rules by colleges in Tamil Nadu not surprising it dips a regressive
Nadu not surprising it dips a regressive
Nadu not surprising it dips a regressive rules are hurting careers and mental
rules are hurting careers and mental
rules are hurting careers and mental health of the girls but we refuse to
health of the girls but we refuse to
health of the girls but we refuse to talk about this we refuse to talk how we
talk about this we refuse to talk how we
talk about this we refuse to talk how we can teach our kids the difference
can teach our kids the difference
can teach our kids the difference between good and bad we are resting to
between good and bad we are resting to
between good and bad we are resting to teach our boys that a no is a no and
teach our boys that a no is a no and
teach our boys that a no is a no and consent is very important we are not
consent is very important we are not
consent is very important we are not teaching our girls to protect themselves
teaching our girls to protect themselves
teaching our girls to protect themselves we are you teaching them to be brave
we are you teaching them to be brave
we are you teaching them to be brave instead we are telling them to be a
instead we are telling them to be a
instead we are telling them to be a coward and stay inside the house we are
coward and stay inside the house we are
coward and stay inside the house we are in telling them that they can dream big
in telling them that they can dream big
in telling them that they can dream big and as families we will support them no
and as families we will support them no
and as families we will support them no matter what we are in telling them that
matter what we are in telling them that
matter what we are in telling them that it is not weak to be a girl we are in
it is not weak to be a girl we are in
it is not weak to be a girl we are in telling our boys that they can’t be in
telling our boys that they can’t be in
telling our boys that they can’t be in tight
tight
tight because of the agenda and worst of all
because of the agenda and worst of all
because of the agenda and worst of all we are telling everyone that everyone
we are telling everyone that everyone
we are telling everyone that everyone but them knows what’s good for them and
but them knows what’s good for them and
but them knows what’s good for them and they just have to learn to deal with it
they just have to learn to deal with it
they just have to learn to deal with it this small change like girls refusing to
this small change like girls refusing to
this small change like girls refusing to marry if the groom’s family demands for
marry if the groom’s family demands for
marry if the groom’s family demands for dowry or the groom starting strong and
dowry or the groom starting strong and
dowry or the groom starting strong and the fact that they’re going to split the
the fact that they’re going to split the
the fact that they’re going to split the expenses of her wedding and will not
expenses of her wedding and will not
expenses of her wedding and will not accept a dowry in no form goes a long
accept a dowry in no form goes a long
accept a dowry in no form goes a long way in making a change when every
way in making a change when every
way in making a change when every brother stands up to his errands to
brother stands up to his errands to
brother stands up to his errands to treat their sisters equally every time
treat their sisters equally every time
treat their sisters equally every time we teach our kids to cook clean because
we teach our kids to cook clean because
we teach our kids to cook clean because they need to be independent and not to
they need to be independent and not to
they need to be independent and not to please their in-laws every time a girl
please their in-laws every time a girl
please their in-laws every time a girl walks out of an abusive marriage and the
walks out of an abusive marriage and the
walks out of an abusive marriage and the parents welcome her back and support her
parents welcome her back and support her
parents welcome her back and support her this is all going to be a step forward
this is all going to be a step forward
this is all going to be a step forward in a better future so when I started my
in a better future so when I started my
in a better future so when I started my initiative my story as a woman I
initiative my story as a woman I
initiative my story as a woman I insisted women write their own stories
insisted women write their own stories
insisted women write their own stories for us they share their experiences
for us they share their experiences
for us they share their experiences their way I was very reluctant to do
their way I was very reluctant to do
their way I was very reluctant to do interviews but I did do any a couple of
interviews but I did do any a couple of
interviews but I did do any a couple of interviews in between and I realized I
interviews in between and I realized I
interviews in between and I realized I didn’t want them too scripted answers
didn’t want them too scripted answers
didn’t want them too scripted answers shape their experiences to the questions
shape their experiences to the questions
shape their experiences to the questions I asked I wanted them to share it
I asked I wanted them to share it
I asked I wanted them to share it because they felt deeply about it my
because they felt deeply about it my
because they felt deeply about it my very first post in fact that was like
very first post in fact that was like
very first post in fact that was like exactly one year two days back was about
exactly one year two days back was about
exactly one year two days back was about an entrepreneur in Mumbai who is doing a
an entrepreneur in Mumbai who is doing a
an entrepreneur in Mumbai who is doing a lot of things successfully in a in her
lot of things successfully in a in her
lot of things successfully in a in her professional life but when I asked her
professional life but when I asked her
professional life but when I asked her to write her story for me I was
to write her story for me I was
to write her story for me I was surprised actually horrified she had
surprised actually horrified she had
surprised actually horrified she had wrote about two of her marriages which
wrote about two of her marriages which
wrote about two of her marriages which had left her physically and mentally
had left her physically and mentally
had left her physically and mentally abused in fact left her half our lives
abused in fact left her half our lives
abused in fact left her half our lives but what inspired me the most was she
but what inspired me the most was she
but what inspired me the most was she didn’t stop there
didn’t stop there
didn’t stop there she got right back up and she today
she got right back up and she today
she got right back up and she today she’s working so much to make a
she’s working so much to make a
she’s working so much to make a difference in other people’s life so if
difference in other people’s life so if
difference in other people’s life so if I’m going to
I’m going to
I’m going to keep asking questions if I’m not going
keep asking questions if I’m not going
keep asking questions if I’m not going to ask the right question what is going
to ask the right question what is going
to ask the right question what is going to happen so my initiative was basically
to happen so my initiative was basically
to happen so my initiative was basically to encourage women to write their
to encourage women to write their
to encourage women to write their experiences to share so that it makes a
experiences to share so that it makes a
experiences to share so that it makes a difference in their lives and that ISA
difference in their lives and that ISA
difference in their lives and that ISA didn’t change the course of my action
didn’t change the course of my action
didn’t change the course of my action and today I’m standing testimony that I
and today I’m standing testimony that I
and today I’m standing testimony that I am a woman with dreams and I have the
am a woman with dreams and I have the
am a woman with dreams and I have the choice to make it my reality and I’m
choice to make it my reality and I’m
choice to make it my reality and I’m embracing it and I strongly encourage
embracing it and I strongly encourage
embracing it and I strongly encourage you to do it make that small impact it
you to do it make that small impact it
you to do it make that small impact it makes a huge impact thank you
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