people in general now have very poor posture yeah very bad for the junction
posture yeah very bad for the junction
posture yeah very bad for the junction is like take a look at the people that
is like take a look at the people that
is like take a look at the people that are around you and if they’re not on the
are around you and if they’re not on the
are around you and if they’re not on the side of what’s good for you then walk
side of what’s good for you then walk
side of what’s good for you then walk away you don’t know enough and the Riu
away you don’t know enough and the Riu
away you don’t know enough and the Riu can tell you don’t know enough because
can tell you don’t know enough because
can tell you don’t know enough because your life is not what it could be and
your life is not what it could be and
your life is not what it could be and neither is the life of the people around
neither is the life of the people around
neither is the life of the people around you you just don’t know enough what’s up
you you just don’t know enough what’s up
you you just don’t know enough what’s up believe in Asianet 7 my one word is
believe in Asianet 7 my one word is
believe in Asianet 7 my one word is believe and I believe in you I believe
believe and I believe in you I believe
believe and I believe in you I believe you have an amazing gift inside you that
you have an amazing gift inside you that
you have an amazing gift inside you that I want to see exploded onto the world
I want to see exploded onto the world
I want to see exploded onto the world now I started the mentor me series with
now I started the mentor me series with
now I started the mentor me series with the goal to try to learn from people
the goal to try to learn from people
the goal to try to learn from people who’ve done a lot more than us and
who’ve done a lot more than us and
who’ve done a lot more than us and hopefully by hanging around them a
hopefully by hanging around them a
hopefully by hanging around them a little bit longer some of their beliefs
little bit longer some of their beliefs
little bit longer some of their beliefs their mindsets their attitudes a way of
their mindsets their attitudes a way of
their mindsets their attitudes a way of seeing the world seeps into us to help
seeing the world seeps into us to help
seeing the world seeps into us to help us become the best version of ourselves
us become the best version of ourselves
us become the best version of ourselves so today we’re gonna learn from one of
so today we’re gonna learn from one of
so today we’re gonna learn from one of the best jordan peterson and the twelve
the best jordan peterson and the twelve
the best jordan peterson and the twelve rules for life in antidote for chaos
rules for life in antidote for chaos
rules for life in antidote for chaos mentor me Jordan
rule number one stand up straight with
rule number one stand up straight with your shoulders back my wife is a massage
your shoulders back my wife is a massage
your shoulders back my wife is a massage therapist and she’s very physiologically
therapist and she’s very physiologically
therapist and she’s very physiologically aware so she’s also helped me with this
aware so she’s also helped me with this
aware so she’s also helped me with this sort of thing but we watch people on the
sort of thing but we watch people on the
sort of thing but we watch people on the streets all the time people in general
streets all the time people in general
streets all the time people in general now have very poor posture yeah very bad
now have very poor posture yeah very bad
now have very poor posture yeah very bad for them but that’s that’s got to be
for them but that’s that’s got to be
for them but that’s that’s got to be phone related – right well yeah that’s
phone related – right well yeah that’s
phone related – right well yeah that’s part of it but I also think it’s
part of it but I also think it’s
part of it but I also think it’s something our culture doesn’t attend to
something our culture doesn’t attend to
something our culture doesn’t attend to like you kind of have to remind your
like you kind of have to remind your
like you kind of have to remind your kids to stand up you know it takes a
kids to stand up you know it takes a
kids to stand up you know it takes a certain amount of conscious effort but
certain amount of conscious effort but
certain amount of conscious effort but yeah in that chapter I talked a lot
yeah in that chapter I talked a lot
yeah in that chapter I talked a lot about lobsters which I’m going to I kind
about lobsters which I’m going to I kind
about lobsters which I’m going to I kind of have an affinity for lobsters and
of have an affinity for lobsters and
of have an affinity for lobsters and because they well the short story is
because they well the short story is
because they well the short story is that when a lobster loses a fight
that when a lobster loses a fight
that when a lobster loses a fight because they’re fighting all the time
because they’re fighting all the time
because they’re fighting all the time for dominance let’s say in their
for dominance let’s say in their
for dominance let’s say in their hierarchies
hierarchies
hierarchies he kind of crunches down so he looks
he kind of crunches down so he looks
he kind of crunches down so he looks smaller when he wins a fight he
smaller when he wins a fight he
smaller when he wins a fight he stretches out looks bigger and so he’s
stretches out looks bigger and so he’s
stretches out looks bigger and so he’s signaling to other lobsters the tally of
signaling to other lobsters the tally of
signaling to other lobsters the tally of his victories and then say so if a
his victories and then say so if a
his victories and then say so if a lobster has won a fight he’s more likely
lobster has won a fight he’s more likely
lobster has won a fight he’s more likely to win the next fight then you would
to win the next fight then you would
to win the next fight then you would calculate from having a tally of all his
calculate from having a tally of all his
calculate from having a tally of all his previous defeats and victories and if he
previous defeats and victories and if he
previous defeats and victories and if he loses a fight that he’s more likely to
loses a fight that he’s more likely to
loses a fight that he’s more likely to lose the next fight so that’s that that
lose the next fight so that’s that that
lose the next fight so that’s that that Matthieu principle at work okay so you
Matthieu principle at work okay so you
Matthieu principle at work okay so you think well so what so what does that
think well so what so what does that
think well so what so what does that have to do with anything it’s like okay
have to do with anything it’s like okay
have to do with anything it’s like okay part of the kicker is well that lobster
part of the kicker is well that lobster
part of the kicker is well that lobster runs on serotonin neurochemical and if
runs on serotonin neurochemical and if
runs on serotonin neurochemical and if the lobster loses the serotonin levels
the lobster loses the serotonin levels
the lobster loses the serotonin levels go down and if he wins the serotonin
go down and if he wins the serotonin
go down and if he wins the serotonin levels go up and when the serotonin
levels go up and when the serotonin
levels go up and when the serotonin levels go up he stretches out and he’s a
levels go up he stretches out and he’s a
levels go up he stretches out and he’s a confident lobster and one of the
confident lobster and one of the
confident lobster and one of the consequences of that is if a lobster
consequences of that is if a lobster
consequences of that is if a lobster loses a battle and you give him the
loses a battle and you give him the
loses a battle and you give him the equivalent of antidepressants then he
equivalent of antidepressants then he
equivalent of antidepressants then he stretches out and he’ll go fight again
stretches out and he’ll go fight again
stretches out and he’ll go fight again so antidepressants work on lobsters huh
so antidepressants work on lobsters huh
so antidepressants work on lobsters huh right and you think well who cares it’s
right and you think well who cares it’s
right and you think well who cares it’s like no no you don’t get it we diverged
like no no you don’t get it we diverged
like no no you don’t get it we diverged from lobsters from an evolutionary
from lobsters from an evolutionary
from lobsters from an evolutionary perspective 350 million years ago and
perspective 350 million years ago and
perspective 350 million years ago and it’s the same circuit it’s absolutely
it’s the same circuit it’s absolutely
it’s the same circuit it’s absolutely unbelievable and that shows you how deep
unbelievable and that shows you how deep
unbelievable and that shows you how deep inside you how basic how primordial that
inside you how basic how primordial that
inside you how basic how primordial that circuit is in you that sizing other
circuit is in you that sizing other
circuit is in you that sizing other people up and looking at where they fit
people up and looking at where they fit
people up and looking at where they fit in the hierarchy well with human society
in the hierarchy well with human society
in the hierarchy well with human society it’s more like hierarchies of competence
it’s more like hierarchies of competence
it’s more like hierarchies of competence then
then
then dominants per se but and like if your
dominants per se but and like if your
dominants per se but and like if your serotonin levels fall you get depressed
serotonin levels fall you get depressed
serotonin levels fall you get depressed you crunch forward and and the whole
you crunch forward and and the whole
you crunch forward and and the whole everything around you turns cloudy and
everything around you turns cloudy and
everything around you turns cloudy and black and and then you’re inviting more
black and and then you’re inviting more
black and and then you’re inviting more oppression right and so you get into
oppression right and so you get into
oppression right and so you get into this bad loop you know and so it’s
this bad loop you know and so it’s
this bad loop you know and so it’s really important to if you’re trying to
really important to if you’re trying to
really important to if you’re trying to get your act together it’s really
get your act together it’s really
get your act together it’s really important to stretch yourself out and
important to stretch yourself out and
important to stretch yourself out and and sit up properly because it’s it’s
and sit up properly because it’s it’s
and sit up properly because it’s it’s part of the psychophysiological loop
part of the psychophysiological loop
part of the psychophysiological loop that can start you on the upward curve
that can start you on the upward curve
that can start you on the upward curve and so it’s a really important thing to
and so it’s a really important thing to
and so it’s a really important thing to take note of rule number two is uh treat
take note of rule number two is uh treat
take note of rule number two is uh treat yourself like you’re someone that you
yourself like you’re someone that you
yourself like you’re someone that you care about and that that’s a deeper
care about and that that’s a deeper
care about and that that’s a deeper chapter I would say like chapter one is
chapter I would say like chapter one is
chapter I would say like chapter one is kind of comical but it’s also got this
kind of comical but it’s also got this
kind of comical but it’s also got this serious scientific end for example and
serious scientific end for example and
serious scientific end for example and it’s practical like most of the rules
it’s practical like most of the rules
it’s practical like most of the rules are chapter two is a bit of a meditation
are chapter two is a bit of a meditation
are chapter two is a bit of a meditation on why see I read this I read this cite
on why see I read this I read this cite
on why see I read this I read this cite this piece of work by Jung a long while
this piece of work by Jung a long while
this piece of work by Jung a long while back and hit it was a meditation on the
back and hit it was a meditation on the
back and hit it was a meditation on the injunction to treat your neighbor as as
injunction to treat your neighbor as as
injunction to treat your neighbor as as you would like to be treated
you would like to be treated
you would like to be treated something like that and what Jung
something like that and what Jung
something like that and what Jung pointed out which I really liked was
pointed out which I really liked was
pointed out which I really liked was that that wasn’t an injunction to be
that that wasn’t an injunction to be
that that wasn’t an injunction to be nice to other people it was an
nice to other people it was an
nice to other people it was an invitation to reciprocity it was
invitation to reciprocity it was
invitation to reciprocity it was something like this is like you should
something like this is like you should
something like this is like you should figure out how you would like to be
figure out how you would like to be
figure out how you would like to be treated like you were taking care of
treated like you were taking care of
treated like you were taking care of yourself not how you would like people
yourself not how you would like people
yourself not how you would like people to respond to you it’s it’s more
to respond to you it’s it’s more
to respond to you it’s it’s more important than that it’s like imagine
important than that it’s like imagine
important than that it’s like imagine you had a child that you really cared
you had a child that you really cared
you had a child that you really cared for and someone said well people will
for and someone said well people will
for and someone said well people will treat this child exactly like you want
treat this child exactly like you want
treat this child exactly like you want them to but you have to figure out what
them to but you have to figure out what
them to but you have to figure out what that is and so then you’d have to sit
that is and so then you’d have to sit
that is and so then you’d have to sit down for like a month and you think okay
down for like a month and you think okay
down for like a month and you think okay well how do you want your child to be
well how do you want your child to be
well how do you want your child to be treated you don’t want everyone just to
treated you don’t want everyone just to
treated you don’t want everyone just to be nice to him you know you want people
be nice to him you know you want people
be nice to him you know you want people to challenge them and you want people to
to challenge them and you want people to
to challenge them and you want people to discipline them and you want people to
discipline them and you want people to
discipline them and you want people to tell them when he is wrong it’s like you
tell them when he is wrong it’s like you
tell them when he is wrong it’s like you don’t just want everyone to be nice
don’t just want everyone to be nice
don’t just want everyone to be nice that’s that’s pathetic it’s pathetic
that’s that’s pathetic it’s pathetic
that’s that’s pathetic it’s pathetic isn’t there’s no challenge in that and
isn’t there’s no challenge in that and
isn’t there’s no challenge in that and so well you want to treat other people
so well you want to treat other people
so well you want to treat other people like you would like to be treated well
like you would like to be treated well
like you would like to be treated well then you have to figure out how would
then you have to figure out how would
then you have to figure out how would you like to be treated and while you’d
you like to be treated and while you’d
you like to be treated and while you’d like people to fawn all over you and
like people to fawn all over you and
like people to fawn all over you and just lay everything at your feet it’s
just lay everything at your feet it’s
just lay everything at your feet it’s like no that’s that’s not something
like no that’s that’s not something
like no that’s that’s not something you’d wish for for someone that you were
you’d wish for for someone that you were
you’d wish for for someone that you were taking care of and then then
taking care of and then then
taking care of and then then an additional problem which is it’s
an additional problem which is it’s
an additional problem which is it’s often the case that people will treat
often the case that people will treat
often the case that people will treat other people better than they treat
other people better than they treat
other people better than they treat themselves that happens extremely
themselves that happens extremely
themselves that happens extremely frequently so one of the things I
frequently so one of the things I
frequently so one of the things I pointed out chapter 2 is that if you
pointed out chapter 2 is that if you
pointed out chapter 2 is that if you have a dog and you take him to a vet and
have a dog and you take him to a vet and
have a dog and you take him to a vet and the vet gives you your prescription
the vet gives you your prescription
the vet gives you your prescription medicine you’ll go buy the medicine and
medicine you’ll go buy the medicine and
medicine you’ll go buy the medicine and you will give it to the dog and you will
you will give it to the dog and you will
you will give it to the dog and you will do it properly but if you go yourself to
do it properly but if you go yourself to
do it properly but if you go yourself to a doctor and you get a prescription
a doctor and you get a prescription
a doctor and you get a prescription there’s one that there’s a 30% chance
there’s one that there’s a 30% chance
there’s one that there’s a 30% chance you won’t even pick up the medication
you won’t even pick up the medication
you won’t even pick up the medication you need to take care of yourself
you need to take care of yourself
you need to take care of yourself because you’re in the best position to
because you’re in the best position to
because you’re in the best position to do that and it’s necessary for you to
do that and it’s necessary for you to
do that and it’s necessary for you to take care of yourself despite the fact
take care of yourself despite the fact
take care of yourself despite the fact that we’re mortal and vulnerable and
that we’re mortal and vulnerable and
that we’re mortal and vulnerable and self-conscious and capable not only
self-conscious and capable not only
self-conscious and capable not only capable of doing terrible things but
capable of doing terrible things but
capable of doing terrible things but actually do them despite all that you
actually do them despite all that you
actually do them despite all that you you’re still you still have that
you’re still you still have that
you’re still you still have that responsibility
responsibility
responsibility what’s the chapter about hanging around
what’s the chapter about hanging around
what’s the chapter about hanging around with you can’t want to see you do well
with you can’t want to see you do well
with you can’t want to see you do well yeah yeah yeah make friends with people
yeah yeah yeah make friends with people
yeah yeah yeah make friends with people who want the best for you right yeah
who want the best for you right yeah
who want the best for you right yeah it’s so well then it’s a really it’s a
it’s so well then it’s a really it’s a
it’s so well then it’s a really it’s a real technical idea so Carl Rogers who’s
real technical idea so Carl Rogers who’s
real technical idea so Carl Rogers who’s a psychotherapist great psychotherapist
a psychotherapist great psychotherapist
a psychotherapist great psychotherapist I’d very much recommend his books to
I’d very much recommend his books to
I’d very much recommend his books to people especially if they want to learn
people especially if they want to learn
people especially if they want to learn to listen because he was really good at
to listen because he was really good at
to listen because he was really good at teaching people how to listen he had
teaching people how to listen he had
teaching people how to listen he had this idea that what he would manifest
this idea that what he would manifest
this idea that what he would manifest towards his clients in therapy was
towards his clients in therapy was
towards his clients in therapy was unconditional positive regard and I’ve
unconditional positive regard and I’ve
unconditional positive regard and I’ve always had trouble with that because
always had trouble with that because
always had trouble with that because well because you don’t treat your
well because you don’t treat your
well because you don’t treat your children for example with unconditional
children for example with unconditional
children for example with unconditional positive for someone yes you’re saying
positive for someone yes you’re saying
positive for someone yes you’re saying yeah that’s a good idea well that’s
yeah that’s a good idea well that’s
yeah that’s a good idea well that’s that’s why it’s tricky well what do you
that’s why it’s tricky well what do you
that’s why it’s tricky well what do you what do you he didn’t articulate it I
what do you he didn’t articulate it I
what do you he didn’t articulate it I think as well as he might have what you
think as well as he might have what you
think as well as he might have what you want to do is for your child is that you
want to do is for your child is that you
want to do is for your child is that you want the best for the best in them
want the best for the best in them
want the best for the best in them that’s what you want and that’s what you
that’s what you want and that’s what you
that’s what you want and that’s what you want from people that you surround
want from people that you surround
want from people that you surround yourself with
yourself with
yourself with now they’ll hold you to our standard if
now they’ll hold you to our standard if
now they’ll hold you to our standard if that’s the case right because whenever
that’s the case right because whenever
that’s the case right because whenever you degenerate in any of the multiple
you degenerate in any of the multiple
you degenerate in any of the multiple ways that you’re likely to degenerate
ways that you’re likely to degenerate
ways that you’re likely to degenerate they’re gonna like whack you on the back
they’re gonna like whack you on the back
they’re gonna like whack you on the back of the head and say you know clue the
of the head and say you know clue the
of the head and say you know clue the hell in you know you’re you’re demeaning
hell in you know you’re you’re demeaning
hell in you know you’re you’re demeaning yourself you’re less than you could be
yourself you’re less than you could be
yourself you’re less than you could be and there’s real judgment in that it’s
and there’s real judgment in that it’s
and there’s real judgment in that it’s harsh you know but with friends it’s the
harsh you know but with friends it’s the
harsh you know but with friends it’s the same thing you want friends they’re not
same thing you want friends they’re not
same thing you want friends they’re not friends if they’re not these people you
friends if they’re not these people you
friends if they’re not these people you want friends who
want friends who
want friends who when something good happens to you there
when something good happens to you there
when something good happens to you there at that’s good for you right they’re
at that’s good for you right they’re
at that’s good for you right they’re happy about that they’re not like all
happy about that they’re not like all
happy about that they’re not like all bitter and resentful underground and
bitter and resentful underground and
bitter and resentful underground and like saying horrible things behind your
like saying horrible things behind your
like saying horrible things behind your back and telling you how they did
back and telling you how they did
back and telling you how they did something that was better and trying to
something that was better and trying to
something that was better and trying to drag you down it’s like that’s not
drag you down it’s like that’s not
drag you down it’s like that’s not helpful and then when something bad
helpful and then when something bad
helpful and then when something bad happens to you and you go to them and
happens to you and you go to them and
happens to you and you go to them and you say look this terrible thing
you say look this terrible thing
you say look this terrible thing happened to me first of all they don’t
happened to me first of all they don’t
happened to me first of all they don’t try to top it with some like horrible
try to top it with some like horrible
try to top it with some like horrible thing that happened to them because they
thing that happened to them because they
thing that happened to them because they don’t have the patience to listen and
don’t have the patience to listen and
don’t have the patience to listen and second they’re not secretly gloating
second they’re not secretly gloating
second they’re not secretly gloating about the fact that catastrophe finally
about the fact that catastrophe finally
about the fact that catastrophe finally befell you it’s like they’re actually
befell you it’s like they’re actually
befell you it’s like they’re actually hurt by it and that chapters an
hurt by it and that chapters an
hurt by it and that chapters an injunction is like take a look at the
injunction is like take a look at the
injunction is like take a look at the people that are around you and if
people that are around you and if
people that are around you and if they’re not on this side of what’s good
they’re not on this side of what’s good
they’re not on this side of what’s good for you then walk away because well
for you then walk away because well
for you then walk away because well first of all that’s best for them too if
first of all that’s best for them too if
first of all that’s best for them too if you put up with that all you’re doing is
you put up with that all you’re doing is
you put up with that all you’re doing is enabling it it’s like well it’s okay
enabling it it’s like well it’s okay
enabling it it’s like well it’s okay that you mistreat me in a way that’s
that you mistreat me in a way that’s
that you mistreat me in a way that’s harmful to me and everyone else it’s
harmful to me and everyone else it’s
harmful to me and everyone else it’s like actually no that is not okay
like actually no that is not okay
like actually no that is not okay it’s not an it’s not the least bit okay
it’s not an it’s not the least bit okay
it’s not an it’s not the least bit okay that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to
that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to
that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to help someone when they’re down that’s a
help someone when they’re down that’s a
help someone when they’re down that’s a whole different issue
whole different issue
whole different issue rule for compare yourself to who you
rule for compare yourself to who you
rule for compare yourself to who you were yesterday and not to who someone
were yesterday and not to who someone
were yesterday and not to who someone else is today because if you’re
else is today because if you’re
else is today because if you’re comparing yourself to someone else I
comparing yourself to someone else I
comparing yourself to someone else I mean first of all you don’t know very
mean first of all you don’t know very
mean first of all you don’t know very much about the life of the person you’re
much about the life of the person you’re
much about the life of the person you’re comparing yourself to you don’t know it
comparing yourself to you don’t know it
comparing yourself to you don’t know it in it you know it across all of its
in it you know it across all of its
in it you know it across all of its dimensions and second people are very
dimensions and second people are very
dimensions and second people are very different and so comparing yourself to
different and so comparing yourself to
different and so comparing yourself to someone else it’s it’s kind of useful I
someone else it’s it’s kind of useful I
someone else it’s it’s kind of useful I guess when you’re young but as you get
guess when you’re young but as you get
guess when you’re young but as you get older and more singular and more
older and more singular and more
older and more singular and more particularly it becomes increasingly
particularly it becomes increasingly
particularly it becomes increasingly less useful better to compare yourself
less useful better to compare yourself
less useful better to compare yourself to a previous version of yourself and
to a previous version of yourself and
to a previous version of yourself and work for improvement in that way chapter
work for improvement in that way chapter
work for improvement in that way chapter 5 is the one that I thought I would get
5 is the one that I thought I would get
5 is the one that I thought I would get in the most trouble for writing you know
in the most trouble for writing you know
in the most trouble for writing you know I figured people would be all over me
I figured people would be all over me
I figured people would be all over me for this and so far they haven’t been
for this and so far they haven’t been
for this and so far they haven’t been but they still might be so and it’s
but they still might be so and it’s
but they still might be so and it’s called do not let your children do
called do not let your children do
called do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them and
anything that makes you dislike them and
anything that makes you dislike them and I thought that would be contentious
I thought that would be contentious
I thought that would be contentious first of all because people would think
first of all because people would think
first of all because people would think well I never just like my children it’s
well I never just like my children it’s
well I never just like my children it’s like
like
like really really you know you’re gonna
really really you know you’re gonna
really really you know you’re gonna really tell me that see I kind of knew
really tell me that see I kind of knew
really tell me that see I kind of knew this when I had my kids I already
this when I had my kids I already
this when I had my kids I already undergone that to some degree and and
undergone that to some degree and and
undergone that to some degree and and understood what it meant to be a bad
understood what it meant to be a bad
understood what it meant to be a bad person a terrible person and one of the
person a terrible person and one of the
person a terrible person and one of the things I knew that was that that
things I knew that was that that
things I knew that was that that manifested itself in families all the
manifested itself in families all the
manifested itself in families all the time
time
time tyrannical father overprotective mother
tyrannical father overprotective mother
tyrannical father overprotective mother more rarely overprotective mother
more rarely overprotective mother
more rarely overprotective mother tyrannical overprotective father
tyrannical overprotective father
tyrannical overprotective father tyrannical mother it’s usually the other
tyrannical mother it’s usually the other
tyrannical mother it’s usually the other way around and the terrible pathological
way around and the terrible pathological
way around and the terrible pathological familial drama that Freud made much of
familial drama that Freud made much of
familial drama that Freud made much of in the early 20th century I had seen
in the early 20th century I had seen
in the early 20th century I had seen that in many many situations dismal
that in many many situations dismal
that in many many situations dismal brutal awful and I’ve seen parents
brutal awful and I’ve seen parents
brutal awful and I’ve seen parents punish their children and you can also
punish their children and you can also
punish their children and you can also take a page from Nietzsche if you really
take a page from Nietzsche if you really
take a page from Nietzsche if you really want to punish your children or anyone
want to punish your children or anyone
want to punish your children or anyone else if you have someone you’re
else if you have someone you’re
else if you have someone you’re interested in punishing including
interested in punishing including
interested in punishing including yourself you don’t you know whatever
yourself you don’t you know whatever
yourself you don’t you know whatever punished someone you really want to
punished someone you really want to
punished someone you really want to punish for doing something wrong because
punish for doing something wrong because
punish for doing something wrong because that’s actually a bit of a relief to
that’s actually a bit of a relief to
that’s actually a bit of a relief to them you know that’s the theme of
them you know that’s the theme of
them you know that’s the theme of Dostoyevsky’s crime and punishment the
Dostoyevsky’s crime and punishment the
Dostoyevsky’s crime and punishment the murderer gets away with it it’s a relief
murderer gets away with it it’s a relief
murderer gets away with it it’s a relief to him when he gets caught it’s like no
to him when he gets caught it’s like no
to him when he gets caught it’s like no if you really want to punish someone you
if you really want to punish someone you
if you really want to punish someone you wait till they do something good then
wait till they do something good then
wait till they do something good then you punish them because that’ll teach
you punish them because that’ll teach
you punish them because that’ll teach them that’s you’ve maximized the hurt
them that’s you’ve maximized the hurt
them that’s you’ve maximized the hurt that way you decrease the probability
that way you decrease the probability
that way you decrease the probability that they’ll ever do anything good again
that they’ll ever do anything good again
that they’ll ever do anything good again and I’ll tell you man if you want to
and I’ll tell you man if you want to
and I’ll tell you man if you want to have a good relationship with someone
have a good relationship with someone
have a good relationship with someone that’s one thing you don’t do you open
that’s one thing you don’t do you open
that’s one thing you don’t do you open your bloody eyes and if they do
your bloody eyes and if they do
your bloody eyes and if they do something that you would like them to do
something that you would like them to do
something that you would like them to do again then you tell them how much you
again then you tell them how much you
again then you tell them how much you appreciated the fact that that happened
appreciated the fact that that happened
appreciated the fact that that happened and you hope that it replicates you know
and you hope that it replicates you know
and you hope that it replicates you know you see that that’s if there’s one thing
you see that that’s if there’s one thing
you see that that’s if there’s one thing you can take away from tonight’s lecture
you can take away from tonight’s lecture
you can take away from tonight’s lecture that’s that’s an extraordinarily useful
that’s that’s an extraordinarily useful
that’s that’s an extraordinarily useful thing to know watch and when people do
thing to know watch and when people do
thing to know watch and when people do something that they should do more of
something that they should do more of
something that they should do more of say look I saw that you did this
say look I saw that you did this
say look I saw that you did this specific thing I saw that it took some
specific thing I saw that it took some
specific thing I saw that it took some effort here’s what it meant here’s
effort here’s what it meant here’s
effort here’s what it meant here’s here’s how I observed it’s like keep
here’s how I observed it’s like keep
here’s how I observed it’s like keep that up and man if you love someone you
that up and man if you love someone you
that up and man if you love someone you do that to them that’s that’s
do that to them that’s that’s
do that to them that’s that’s encouragement that’s such a great thing
encouragement that’s such a great thing
encouragement that’s such a great thing rule number six set your house in
rule number six set your house in
rule number six set your house in perfect order before you criticize the
perfect order before you criticize the
perfect order before you criticize the world that’s a rough one now it’s about
world that’s a rough one now it’s about
world that’s a rough one now it’s about us that’s about a mass murderer and
us that’s about a mass murderer and
us that’s about a mass murderer and about mass murderers yeah so I didn’t I
about mass murderers yeah so I didn’t I
about mass murderers yeah so I didn’t I didn’t get this far because as I said I
didn’t get this far because as I said I
didn’t get this far because as I said I just got
just got
just got well there’s plenty of things to
well there’s plenty of things to
well there’s plenty of things to criticize about being it’s tragic
criticize about being it’s tragic
criticize about being it’s tragic and there’s malevolence that’s basically
and there’s malevolence that’s basically
and there’s malevolence that’s basically the issue and you can complain about
the issue and you can complain about
the issue and you can complain about that but the thing is if you complain
that but the thing is if you complain
that but the thing is if you complain about that if you adopt that attitude
about that if you adopt that attitude
about that if you adopt that attitude which is sort of an anti being attitude
which is sort of an anti being attitude
which is sort of an anti being attitude you go places that if you knew you were
you go places that if you knew you were
you go places that if you knew you were going you probably wouldn’t want to go
going you probably wouldn’t want to go
going you probably wouldn’t want to go it’s the places where like the kids that
it’s the places where like the kids that
it’s the places where like the kids that shot up Columbine went those are bad
shot up Columbine went those are bad
shot up Columbine went those are bad places like Yuri if you read the
places like Yuri if you read the
places like Yuri if you read the writings of the Columbine high school
writings of the Columbine high school
writings of the Columbine high school kids and you really read them mm-hmm if
kids and you really read them mm-hmm if
kids and you really read them mm-hmm if they don’t make the hairs that stand up
they don’t make the hairs that stand up
they don’t make the hairs that stand up in the back your neck you are not paying
in the back your neck you are not paying
in the back your neck you are not paying attention like Keith then one kid wrote
attention like Keith then one kid wrote
attention like Keith then one kid wrote things I cannot believe that people
things I cannot believe that people
things I cannot believe that people could write and I’ve exposed myself to a
could write and I’ve exposed myself to a
could write and I’ve exposed myself to a lot of crazy things that people have
lot of crazy things that people have
lot of crazy things that people have done and said you just can’t understand
done and said you just can’t understand
done and said you just can’t understand it it’s it’s it’s uncanny you know well
it it’s it’s it’s uncanny you know well
it it’s it’s it’s uncanny you know well that’s where you end up if you’re if you
that’s where you end up if you’re if you
that’s where you end up if you’re if you get bitter it’s like well what can you
get bitter it’s like well what can you
get bitter it’s like well what can you do about that well the world is harsh
do about that well the world is harsh
do about that well the world is harsh it’s like should you criticize it it’s
it’s like should you criticize it it’s
it’s like should you criticize it it’s like not until you put yourself together
like not until you put yourself together
like not until you put yourself together you got to bring everything you can to
you got to bring everything you can to
you got to bring everything you can to bear on the problem before you have any
bear on the problem before you have any
bear on the problem before you have any right to stand in judgment about being
right to stand in judgment about being
right to stand in judgment about being itself and that’s what these mass
itself and that’s what these mass
itself and that’s what these mass murderers do that’s what they’re doing
murderers do that’s what they’re doing
murderers do that’s what they’re doing that’s what they’re acting out they’re
that’s what they’re acting out they’re
that’s what they’re acting out they’re saying well I’m looking out in the world
saying well I’m looking out in the world
saying well I’m looking out in the world I don’t like people they’re full of
I don’t like people they’re full of
I don’t like people they’re full of flaws they act badly they’re a cancer on
flaws they act badly they’re a cancer on
flaws they act badly they’re a cancer on the face of the planet
the face of the planet
the face of the planet it’d be better if they didn’t exist at
it’d be better if they didn’t exist at
it’d be better if they didn’t exist at all so I don’t like being it’s too full
all so I don’t like being it’s too full
all so I don’t like being it’s too full of suffering and and an evil I’m the
of suffering and and an evil I’m the
of suffering and and an evil I’m the judge of this it’s like I’m gonna make
judge of this it’s like I’m gonna make
judge of this it’s like I’m gonna make my goddamn case I’m gonna take them out
my goddamn case I’m gonna take them out
my goddamn case I’m gonna take them out and then it’s more than that it’s like
and then it’s more than that it’s like
and then it’s more than that it’s like I’m gonna take them out and I’m gonna do
I’m gonna take them out and I’m gonna do
I’m gonna take them out and I’m gonna do it with innocence first because that’s
it with innocence first because that’s
it with innocence first because that’s the thing you got to get about the mass
the thing you got to get about the mass
the thing you got to get about the mass murderer types it’s like they’re not
murderer types it’s like they’re not
murderer types it’s like they’re not hunting down the guilty that’s too
hunting down the guilty that’s too
hunting down the guilty that’s too obvious right you’re hunting down the
obvious right you’re hunting down the
obvious right you’re hunting down the innocent that’s the best protest that’s
innocent that’s the best protest that’s
innocent that’s the best protest that’s why the guy showed up the elementary
why the guy showed up the elementary
why the guy showed up the elementary school in Connecticut it’s like why do
school in Connecticut it’s like why do
school in Connecticut it’s like why do you shoot kids well think about it well
you shoot kids well think about it well
you shoot kids well think about it well I don’t want to think about it well
I don’t want to think about it well
I don’t want to think about it well that’s for sure you bloody well don’t
that’s for sure you bloody well don’t
that’s for sure you bloody well don’t want to
want to
want to about it but you better think about it
about it but you better think about it
about it but you better think about it it’s like well that’s where you go when
it’s like well that’s where you go when
it’s like well that’s where you go when you take that criticism of being
you take that criticism of being
you take that criticism of being approached it’s like you don’t get to do
approached it’s like you don’t get to do
approached it’s like you don’t get to do that not unless you want to end up there
that not unless you want to end up there
that not unless you want to end up there it’s bad so what do you do instead it’s
it’s bad so what do you do instead it’s
it’s bad so what do you do instead it’s like okay stop doing stupid things stop
like okay stop doing stupid things stop
like okay stop doing stupid things stop lying stop making things worse
lying stop making things worse
lying stop making things worse stop making yourself weak you know
stop making yourself weak you know
stop making yourself weak you know everyone does that they know it you know
everyone does that they know it you know
everyone does that they know it you know and I’m not saying follow the rules I’m
and I’m not saying follow the rules I’m
and I’m not saying follow the rules I’m not saying that I’m saying even in a day
not saying that I’m saying even in a day
not saying that I’m saying even in a day you’ll see that you have choices in
you’ll see that you have choices in
you’ll see that you have choices in front of you and sometimes you don’t
front of you and sometimes you don’t
front of you and sometimes you don’t know what to do it’s okay you’re
know what to do it’s okay you’re
know what to do it’s okay you’re ignorant maybe you make a mistake
ignorant maybe you make a mistake
ignorant maybe you make a mistake whatever
whatever
whatever that’s just ignorance malevolence is
that’s just ignorance malevolence is
that’s just ignorance malevolence is when you know what you shouldn’t do mm
when you know what you shouldn’t do mm
when you know what you shouldn’t do mm and you do it anyways and people do that
and you do it anyways and people do that
and you do it anyways and people do that all the time and that’s arrogance that’s
all the time and that’s arrogance that’s
all the time and that’s arrogance that’s all get away with it it’s okay it’s
all get away with it it’s okay it’s
all get away with it it’s okay it’s deceit because you’re lying to yourself
deceit because you’re lying to yourself
deceit because you’re lying to yourself about whether you should do this or not
about whether you should do this or not
about whether you should do this or not you know you shouldn’t write you know
you know you shouldn’t write you know
you know you shouldn’t write you know and then it’s resentment because well
and then it’s resentment because well
and then it’s resentment because well it’s like I’m gonna do this bad thing
it’s like I’m gonna do this bad thing
it’s like I’m gonna do this bad thing because that’ll teach the people or
because that’ll teach the people or
because that’ll teach the people or whatever that’ll teach God to treat me
whatever that’ll teach God to treat me
whatever that’ll teach God to treat me this way it’s like that’s that’s the
this way it’s like that’s that’s the
this way it’s like that’s that’s the that’s the terrible Trinity deceit
that’s the terrible Trinity deceit
that’s the terrible Trinity deceit arrogance resentment it’s like chase
arrogance resentment it’s like chase
arrogance resentment it’s like chase those out of your life rule seven rule
those out of your life rule seven rule
those out of your life rule seven rule seven just about killed me like I I’ve
seven just about killed me like I I’ve
seven just about killed me like I I’ve had a lot of bad health in the last year
had a lot of bad health in the last year
had a lot of bad health in the last year and having to rewrite rule seven
and having to rewrite rule seven
and having to rewrite rule seven coincided with one of those periods that
coincided with one of those periods that
coincided with one of those periods that lasted about a month and it was was the
lasted about a month and it was was the
lasted about a month and it was was the hardest chapter by far and it went down
hardest chapter by far and it went down
hardest chapter by far and it went down the deepest by far and it was really
the deepest by far and it was really
the deepest by far and it was really hard to get right it’s called do what is
hard to get right it’s called do what is
hard to get right it’s called do what is meaningful not what is expedient and
meaningful not what is expedient and
meaningful not what is expedient and I’ll just tell you a little bit about
I’ll just tell you a little bit about
I’ll just tell you a little bit about the chapter because I figured something
the chapter because I figured something
the chapter because I figured something out in it that and then explained it
out in it that and then explained it
out in it that and then explained it something that took me decades to figure
something that took me decades to figure
something that took me decades to figure out so there’s this idea it’s a it’s a
out so there’s this idea it’s a it’s a
out so there’s this idea it’s a it’s a very deep Christian idea that the
very deep Christian idea that the
very deep Christian idea that the Messiah is the person who takes the
Messiah is the person who takes the
Messiah is the person who takes the world’s sins upon himself right that’s a
world’s sins upon himself right that’s a
world’s sins upon himself right that’s a characteristic of Christ right it’s
characteristic of Christ right it’s
characteristic of Christ right it’s something the idea is something like
something the idea is something like
something the idea is something like Christ died for your sins like what the
Christ died for your sins like what the
Christ died for your sins like what the hell does that mean exactly you know and
hell does that mean exactly you know and
hell does that mean exactly you know and partly what it means and I would say a
partly what it means and I would say a
partly what it means and I would say a slightly corrupted form of Christianity
slightly corrupted form of Christianity
slightly corrupted form of Christianity is that you just have to believe that
is that you just have to believe that
is that you just have to believe that that happened in the and you’re redeemed
that happened in the and you’re redeemed
that happened in the and you’re redeemed it’s like well that’s
it’s like well that’s
it’s like well that’s we’ll leave that aside for a second but
we’ll leave that aside for a second but
we’ll leave that aside for a second but there’s an idea there a psychological
there’s an idea there a psychological
there’s an idea there a psychological idea you know that because the idea
idea you know that because the idea
idea you know that because the idea doesn’t go away it’s lasted for
doesn’t go away it’s lasted for
doesn’t go away it’s lasted for thousands of years it’s like whoa
thousands of years it’s like whoa
thousands of years it’s like whoa so the idea signifies something it has a
so the idea signifies something it has a
so the idea signifies something it has a psychological reality independent of its
psychological reality independent of its
psychological reality independent of its metaphysical reality whatever that might
metaphysical reality whatever that might
metaphysical reality whatever that might be and so I thought about that for a
be and so I thought about that for a
be and so I thought about that for a long time it’s like what in the world
long time it’s like what in the world
long time it’s like what in the world does that possibly mean and then I
does that possibly mean and then I
does that possibly mean and then I realized and you knew this Carl Jung
realized and you knew this Carl Jung
realized and you knew this Carl Jung knew this that it was associated with
knew this that it was associated with
knew this that it was associated with this idea of the shadow I had this
this idea of the shadow I had this
this idea of the shadow I had this client once who ha her parents man they
client once who ha her parents man they
client once who ha her parents man they were pieces of work she her parents
were pieces of work she her parents
were pieces of work she her parents taught her I’m swear to you that this is
taught her I’m swear to you that this is
taught her I’m swear to you that this is the truth her parents taught her that
the truth her parents taught her that
the truth her parents taught her that adults were angels literally and when I
adults were angels literally and when I
adults were angels literally and when I saw her she was about 30 and she had a
saw her she was about 30 and she had a
saw her she was about 30 and she had a lot of strange symptoms symptoms of
lot of strange symptoms symptoms of
lot of strange symptoms symptoms of sorts I’d never seen psychosomatic
sorts I’d never seen psychosomatic
sorts I’d never seen psychosomatic symptoms she she she had kind of like
symptoms she she she had kind of like
symptoms she she she had kind of like quasi epileptic seizures at night and no
quasi epileptic seizures at night and no
quasi epileptic seizures at night and no but she stayed conscious during them it
but she stayed conscious during them it
but she stayed conscious during them it was very difficult to understand at
was very difficult to understand at
was very difficult to understand at night I won’t walk through it but her
night I won’t walk through it but her
night I won’t walk through it but her parents told her that adults were angels
parents told her that adults were angels
parents told her that adults were angels and and she was like 28 she had a
and and she was like 28 she had a
and and she was like 28 she had a university degree and and I said well
university degree and and I said well
university degree and and I said well did you ever wonder about that I said
did you ever wonder about that I said
did you ever wonder about that I said didn’t you read any history and she said
didn’t you read any history and she said
didn’t you read any history and she said yeah what I read something about the
yeah what I read something about the
yeah what I read something about the terrible things that people did to each
terrible things that people did to each
terrible things that people did to each other and I would just compartmentalize
other and I would just compartmentalize
other and I would just compartmentalize it and that was actually the key that I
it and that was actually the key that I
it and that was actually the key that I used to unlock what was wrong with her
used to unlock what was wrong with her
used to unlock what was wrong with her which was eventually fixed and I won’t
which was eventually fixed and I won’t
which was eventually fixed and I won’t go into that but but I said I gave her
go into that but but I said I gave her
go into that but but I said I gave her this book give her two books I gave her
this book give her two books I gave her
this book give her two books I gave her a book called the terror that comes in
a book called the terror that comes in
a book called the terror that comes in the night which is a book about about
the night which is a book about about
the night which is a book about about sleep paralysis and nightmares because I
sleep paralysis and nightmares because I
sleep paralysis and nightmares because I thought that was what might’ve be
thought that was what might’ve be
thought that was what might’ve be bothering her
bothering her
bothering her turned out that wasn’t yet and I gave
turned out that wasn’t yet and I gave
turned out that wasn’t yet and I gave her this other book called ordinary
her this other book called ordinary
her this other book called ordinary ordinary men and it’s a great book
ordinary men and it’s a great book
ordinary men and it’s a great book it’s a terrible book terrible dark book
it’s a terrible book terrible dark book
it’s a terrible book terrible dark book about about this police battalion that
about about this police battalion that
about about this police battalion that was moved into Poland during World War
was moved into Poland during World War
was moved into Poland during World War two after the Nazis had marched through
two after the Nazis had marched through
two after the Nazis had marched through and it was all made of middle-aged guys
and it was all made of middle-aged guys
and it was all made of middle-aged guys who weren’t like victims of Nazi
who weren’t like victims of Nazi
who weren’t like victims of Nazi totalitarian propaganda when they were
totalitarian propaganda when they were
totalitarian propaganda when they were kids they were just you know burgeois
kids they were just you know burgeois
kids they were just you know burgeois middle class guys kind of like all of us
middle class guys kind of like all of us
middle class guys kind of like all of us let’s say
let’s say
let’s say and they went to police Poland and they
and they went to police Poland and they
and they went to police Poland and they were going to have to do some terrible
were going to have to do some terrible
were going to have to do some terrible things essentially but the commander
things essentially but the commander
things essentially but the commander told them quite forthrightly that if
told them quite forthrightly that if
told them quite forthrightly that if being involved in wartime policing was
being involved in wartime policing was
being involved in wartime policing was too hard on them if they felt that it
too hard on them if they felt that it
too hard on them if they felt that it ever violated the more psychologically
ever violated the more psychologically
ever violated the more psychologically violated that they could just go back to
violated that they could just go back to
violated that they could just go back to policing in germany and very few of them
policing in germany and very few of them
policing in germany and very few of them did be partly because they didn’t want
did be partly because they didn’t want
did be partly because they didn’t want to abandon their comrades let’s say they
to abandon their comrades let’s say they
to abandon their comrades let’s say they didn’t want them to have to do the dirty
didn’t want them to have to do the dirty
didn’t want them to have to do the dirty work you know and they ended up they
work you know and they ended up they
work you know and they ended up they were normal policemen they ended up the
were normal policemen they ended up the
were normal policemen they ended up the sorts of people who could take naked
sorts of people who could take naked
sorts of people who could take naked Prague wouldn’t women out into the
Prague wouldn’t women out into the
Prague wouldn’t women out into the middle of the field and shoot them in
middle of the field and shoot them in
middle of the field and shoot them in the back of the head that’s how the book
the back of the head that’s how the book
the back of the head that’s how the book that’s the culmination of their training
that’s the culmination of their training
that’s the culmination of their training it’s very interesting to read about
it’s very interesting to read about
it’s very interesting to read about their training because they were
their training because they were
their training because they were absolutely sickened by what they learned
absolutely sickened by what they learned
absolutely sickened by what they learned to do like physically sick and vomiting
to do like physically sick and vomiting
to do like physically sick and vomiting shaking traumatised but they didn’t stop
shaking traumatised but they didn’t stop
shaking traumatised but they didn’t stop and and if you want to know why then you
and and if you want to know why then you
and and if you want to know why then you can read the book and I said look read
can read the book and I said look read
can read the book and I said look read this book but don’t bloody well
this book but don’t bloody well
this book but don’t bloody well compartmentalize it enough of that it’s
compartmentalize it enough of that it’s
compartmentalize it enough of that it’s like read it like you’re one of the damn
like read it like you’re one of the damn
like read it like you’re one of the damn policemen which is how you should read
policemen which is how you should read
policemen which is how you should read history right you read about Nazi
history right you read about Nazi
history right you read about Nazi Germany and you think well I’m Oscar
Germany and you think well I’m Oscar
Germany and you think well I’m Oscar Schindler I’d save the Jews it’s like no
Schindler I’d save the Jews it’s like no
Schindler I’d save the Jews it’s like no you wouldn’t right you wouldn’t because
you wouldn’t right you wouldn’t because
you wouldn’t right you wouldn’t because people didn’t and the probability is
people didn’t and the probability is
people didn’t and the probability is very high that you wouldn’t and all you
very high that you wouldn’t and all you
very high that you wouldn’t and all you have to do is think it through you know
have to do is think it through you know
have to do is think it through you know what and Frank it’s like you’re really
what and Frank it’s like you’re really
what and Frank it’s like you’re really gonna put your family at risk to hide a
gonna put your family at risk to hide a
gonna put your family at risk to hide a group of another family in your attic
group of another family in your attic
group of another family in your attic for like multiple years while there’s
for like multiple years while there’s
for like multiple years while there’s Nazis parading the street and where if
Nazis parading the street and where if
Nazis parading the street and where if you get exposed you all die you’re gonna
you get exposed you all die you’re gonna
you get exposed you all die you’re gonna do that are you it’s like very unlikely
do that are you it’s like very unlikely
do that are you it’s like very unlikely and and no wonder it’s not surprising
and and no wonder it’s not surprising
and and no wonder it’s not surprising that it’s unlikely but you don’t want to
that it’s unlikely but you don’t want to
that it’s unlikely but you don’t want to be inflating yourself with self you know
be inflating yourself with self you know
be inflating yourself with self you know with with fictional heroism without
with with fictional heroism without
with with fictional heroism without actually knowing the facts on the ground
actually knowing the facts on the ground
actually knowing the facts on the ground so I told her to read read it and to
so I told her to read read it and to
so I told her to read read it and to understand that the policemen were her
understand that the policemen were her
understand that the policemen were her and that’s the thing to understand rule
and that’s the thing to understand rule
and that’s the thing to understand rule 8 tell the truth or at least don’t lie
8 tell the truth or at least don’t lie
8 tell the truth or at least don’t lie yeah well it’s not that easy to tell the
yeah well it’s not that easy to tell the
yeah well it’s not that easy to tell the truth because who knows about the truth
truth because who knows about the truth
truth because who knows about the truth but you can learn not to say things that
but you can learn not to say things that
but you can learn not to say things that you know to be false and if you stop
you know to be false and if you stop
you know to be false and if you stop saying things that you know to be false
saying things that you know to be false
saying things that you know to be false and
and
and life will improve the lot simplifies it
life will improve the lot simplifies it
life will improve the lot simplifies it and it puts you in the linemen with
and it puts you in the linemen with
and it puts you in the linemen with reality and you should be an alignment
reality and you should be an alignment
reality and you should be an alignment with reality because there’s a lot more
with reality because there’s a lot more
with reality because there’s a lot more of it than there is of you chapter 9 is
of it than there is of you chapter 9 is
of it than there is of you chapter 9 is assume that the person you are listening
assume that the person you are listening
assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t this
to might know something you don’t this
to might know something you don’t this is a chapter about conversation and
is a chapter about conversation and
is a chapter about conversation and about the different forms conversation
about the different forms conversation
about the different forms conversation takes and so chapter about humility and
takes and so chapter about humility and
takes and so chapter about humility and it’s the chapter about listening and
it’s the chapter about listening and
it’s the chapter about listening and humility element is it took me a long
humility element is it took me a long
humility element is it took me a long time to understand why there’s religious
time to understand why there’s religious
time to understand why there’s religious injunctions supporting humility but to
injunctions supporting humility but to
injunctions supporting humility but to even understand what the word really
even understand what the word really
even understand what the word really meant and that sort of technical sense
meant and that sort of technical sense
meant and that sort of technical sense and it means something like this it
and it means something like this it
and it means something like this it means what you don’t know is more
means what you don’t know is more
means what you don’t know is more important than what you know and that’s
important than what you know and that’s
important than what you know and that’s a lovely thing too then then what you
a lovely thing too then then what you
a lovely thing too then then what you don’t know can start to be your friend
don’t know can start to be your friend
don’t know can start to be your friend you see people are very defensive about
you see people are very defensive about
you see people are very defensive about what they know and for the reasons we’ve
what they know and for the reasons we’ve
what they know and for the reasons we’ve already discussed but the thing is you
already discussed but the thing is you
already discussed but the thing is you don’t know enough and the Riu can tell
don’t know enough and the Riu can tell
don’t know enough and the Riu can tell you don’t know enough because your life
you don’t know enough because your life
you don’t know enough because your life is not what it could be and neither is
is not what it could be and neither is
is not what it could be and neither is the life of the people around you you
the life of the people around you you
the life of the people around you you just don’t know enough and so what that
just don’t know enough and so what that
just don’t know enough and so what that means is that every time you encounter
means is that every time you encounter
means is that every time you encounter some evidence that you’re ignorant
some evidence that you’re ignorant
some evidence that you’re ignorant someone points it out you should be
someone points it out you should be
someone points it out you should be happy about that because you think oh
happy about that because you think oh
happy about that because you think oh you just told me how I’m wrong it’s like
you just told me how I’m wrong it’s like
you just told me how I’m wrong it’s like great like maybe I had to sift through a
great like maybe I had to sift through a
great like maybe I had to sift through a lot of nonsense to get through the real
lot of nonsense to get through the real
lot of nonsense to get through the real message that you’re telling me but if
message that you’re telling me but if
message that you’re telling me but if you could actually tell me some way that
you could actually tell me some way that
you could actually tell me some way that I’m wrong and then maybe give me a hint
I’m wrong and then maybe give me a hint
I’m wrong and then maybe give me a hint about how to not be wrong like that well
about how to not be wrong like that well
about how to not be wrong like that well then I wouldn’t have to be wrong like
then I wouldn’t have to be wrong like
then I wouldn’t have to be wrong like that any more that that would be a good
that any more that that would be a good
that any more that that would be a good thing and and you can you can you can
thing and and you can you can you can
thing and and you can you can you can embark on that adventure by listening to
embark on that adventure by listening to
embark on that adventure by listening to people and if you listen to people they
people and if you listen to people they
people and if you listen to people they will tell you they’ll tell you amazing
will tell you they’ll tell you amazing
will tell you they’ll tell you amazing things if you listen to them and many of
things if you listen to them and many of
things if you listen to them and many of those things are little tools that you
those things are little tools that you
those things are little tools that you can put in your toolkit like Batman and
can put in your toolkit like Batman and
can put in your toolkit like Batman and then you can go out into the world and
then you can go out into the world and
then you can go out into the world and use those tools and you don’t have to
use those tools and you don’t have to
use those tools and you don’t have to fall blindly into a pit quite as often
fall blindly into a pit quite as often
fall blindly into a pit quite as often and so the humility element is well do
and so the humility element is well do
and so the humility element is well do you want to be right or do you want to
you want to be right or do you want to
you want to be right or do you want to be learning and then it’s deeper than
be learning and then it’s deeper than
be learning and then it’s deeper than that it’s do you want to be that the
that it’s do you want to be that the
that it’s do you want to be that the tyrannical king who’s already got
tyrannical king who’s already got
tyrannical king who’s already got everything figured out or do you want to
everything figured out or do you want to
everything figured out or do you want to be the continually transforming hero or
be the continually transforming hero or
be the continually transforming hero or fool for that matter who’s getting
fool for that matter who’s getting
fool for that matter who’s getting better all the time and that’s actually
better all the time and that’s actually
better all the time and that’s actually a choice you know
a choice you know
a choice you know it’s a deep choice and it’s better to be
it’s a deep choice and it’s better to be
it’s a deep choice and it’s better to be the self-transforming fool who’s humble
the self-transforming fool who’s humble
the self-transforming fool who’s humble enough to make friends with what he or
enough to make friends with what he or
enough to make friends with what he or she doesn’t know and to listen when
she doesn’t know and to listen when
she doesn’t know and to listen when people talk and listening is a
people talk and listening is a
people talk and listening is a transformative exercise like if if you
transformative exercise like if if you
transformative exercise like if if you listen to the people in your life for
listen to the people in your life for
listen to the people in your life for example if you actually listen to them
example if you actually listen to them
example if you actually listen to them they’ll tell you what’s wrong with them
they’ll tell you what’s wrong with them
they’ll tell you what’s wrong with them and how to fix it and what they want
and how to fix it and what they want
and how to fix it and what they want they can’t even help it if you start
they can’t even help it if you start
they can’t even help it if you start listening because people are so shocked
listening because people are so shocked
listening because people are so shocked if you actually listen to them that they
if you actually listen to them that they
if you actually listen to them that they tell you also those sorts of things that
tell you also those sorts of things that
tell you also those sorts of things that they might not have even intended to
they might not have even intended to
they might not have even intended to things they don’t even know and then you
things they don’t even know and then you
things they don’t even know and then you can you can work with that I like this
can you can work with that I like this
can you can work with that I like this one and I think I mean this is very
one and I think I mean this is very
one and I think I mean this is very clearly what you do be precise in your
clearly what you do be precise in your
clearly what you do be precise in your speech so in in Genesis one of the
speech so in in Genesis one of the
speech so in in Genesis one of the things God has Adam do first so God
things God has Adam do first so God
things God has Adam do first so God makes the world by speaking okay so
makes the world by speaking okay so
makes the world by speaking okay so that’s the first thing to think about
that’s the first thing to think about
that’s the first thing to think about you’re supposed to think like in a
you’re supposed to think like in a
you’re supposed to think like in a sophisticated way about this the idea is
sophisticated way about this the idea is
sophisticated way about this the idea is that there’s some integral relationship
that there’s some integral relationship
that there’s some integral relationship between communication and the structure
between communication and the structure
between communication and the structure of being it’s part of the role that
of being it’s part of the role that
of being it’s part of the role that consciousness plays in the world
consciousness plays in the world
consciousness plays in the world whatever that role is language takes the
whatever that role is language takes the
whatever that role is language takes the chaos and makes it into things and so
chaos and makes it into things and so
chaos and makes it into things and so God has Adam named all the animals
God has Adam named all the animals
God has Adam named all the animals they’re not even really real until they
they’re not even really real until they
they’re not even really real until they have names now those are more implicit
have names now those are more implicit
have names now those are more implicit that’s another you know here’s a here’s
that’s another you know here’s a here’s
that’s another you know here’s a here’s an example let’s say that you’re having
an example let’s say that you’re having
an example let’s say that you’re having a rough patch in your relationship and
a rough patch in your relationship and
a rough patch in your relationship and you don’t know why it’s unnameable is it
you don’t know why it’s unnameable is it
you don’t know why it’s unnameable is it real well yeah it’s manifesting itself
real well yeah it’s manifesting itself
real well yeah it’s manifesting itself in there like a physiological discomfort
in there like a physiological discomfort
in there like a physiological discomfort then you talk about it you name it it’s
then you talk about it you name it it’s
then you talk about it you name it it’s like it goes from this blurry thing
like it goes from this blurry thing
like it goes from this blurry thing that’s kind of potential it goes snap
that’s kind of potential it goes snap
that’s kind of potential it goes snap and then it’s this thing right and then
and then it’s this thing right and then
and then it’s this thing right and then that’s a horrible thing it’s like a
that’s a horrible thing it’s like a
that’s a horrible thing it’s like a little poisonous thing but it’s not a
little poisonous thing but it’s not a
little poisonous thing but it’s not a whole foggy cloud of potential poison
whole foggy cloud of potential poison
whole foggy cloud of potential poison it’s like this little sharp poison thing
it’s like this little sharp poison thing
it’s like this little sharp poison thing and then you think okay it’s real it’s a
and then you think okay it’s real it’s a
and then you think okay it’s real it’s a little monster but it’s not it’s little
little monster but it’s not it’s little
little monster but it’s not it’s little at least and now probably we can do
at least and now probably we can do
at least and now probably we can do something about it if we can admit to it
something about it if we can admit to it
something about it if we can admit to it so it’s this precision that specifies
so it’s this precision that specifies
so it’s this precision that specifies and like so
and like so
and like so a little bit of the Voldemort effect
a little bit of the Voldemort effect
a little bit of the Voldemort effect right if you since you’re a Harry Potter
right if you since you’re a Harry Potter
right if you since you’re a Harry Potter guy they wouldn’t name right this is a
guy they wouldn’t name right this is a
guy they wouldn’t name right this is a problem we got a name them first oh yeah
problem we got a name them first oh yeah
problem we got a name them first oh yeah you got a name them first absolutely
you got a name them first absolutely
you got a name them first absolutely because the unnameable is far more
because the unnameable is far more
because the unnameable is far more terrifying than the nameable you see
terrifying than the nameable you see
terrifying than the nameable you see that in there was a great Blair Witch
that in there was a great Blair Witch
that in there was a great Blair Witch Project terrifying move oh it’s good
Project terrifying move oh it’s good
Project terrifying move oh it’s good yeah it’s unnamed there’s nothing
yeah it’s unnamed there’s nothing
yeah it’s unnamed there’s nothing terrible happens in that movie it’s all
terrible happens in that movie it’s all
terrible happens in that movie it’s all the unnameable it’s like what’s goin on
the unnameable it’s like what’s goin on
the unnameable it’s like what’s goin on what’s goin on what’s goin on and no
what’s goin on what’s goin on and no
what’s goin on what’s goin on and no matter how terrible the actuality is
matter how terrible the actuality is
matter how terrible the actuality is it’s rarely as terrible as your
it’s rarely as terrible as your
it’s rarely as terrible as your imagination because your imagination
imagination because your imagination
imagination because your imagination like it’s an old thing it’s seen a lot
like it’s an old thing it’s seen a lot
like it’s an old thing it’s seen a lot of terrible things in the history of
of terrible things in the history of
of terrible things in the history of life like it can put monsters everywhere
life like it can put monsters everywhere
life like it can put monsters everywhere and so it’s almost always better it
and so it’s almost always better it
and so it’s almost always better it might be better without exception to
might be better without exception to
might be better without exception to name the thing no matter how terrible it
name the thing no matter how terrible it
name the thing no matter how terrible it is and if you can’t name it what that
is and if you can’t name it what that
is and if you can’t name it what that means is that you’re you’re telling
means is that you’re you’re telling
means is that you’re you’re telling yourself that you’re so terrified that
yourself that you’re so terrified that
yourself that you’re so terrified that you can’t bring your attention to bear
you can’t bring your attention to bear
you can’t bring your attention to bear on it and that makes you you’re the
on it and that makes you you’re the
on it and that makes you you’re the loser
loser
loser instantly if it’s so terrifying that you
instantly if it’s so terrifying that you
instantly if it’s so terrifying that you cannot face it it’s one rule number 11
cannot face it it’s one rule number 11
cannot face it it’s one rule number 11 do not bother children when they are
do not bother children when they are
do not bother children when they are skateboarding that’s a very specific one
skateboarding that’s a very specific one
skateboarding that’s a very specific one there yeah yeah it is well that’s it
there yeah yeah it is well that’s it
there yeah yeah it is well that’s it that’s an essay about masculinity mostly
that’s an essay about masculinity mostly
that’s an essay about masculinity mostly you know I used to watch kids skateboard
you know I used to watch kids skateboard
you know I used to watch kids skateboard on st. George Street which is kind of
on st. George Street which is kind of
on st. George Street which is kind of cool because obviously st. George is the
cool because obviously st. George is the
cool because obviously st. George is the dragon’s lair that’s the street I work
dragon’s lair that’s the street I work
dragon’s lair that’s the street I work on which i think is quite funny and
on which i think is quite funny and
on which i think is quite funny and anyways these kids used to you know
anyways these kids used to you know
anyways these kids used to you know there are teenagers young teenagers we
there are teenagers young teenagers we
there are teenagers young teenagers we have these long bar hand railings going
have these long bar hand railings going
have these long bar hand railings going down some shallow stairs but a fairly
down some shallow stairs but a fairly
down some shallow stairs but a fairly good flight of them and they would
good flight of them and they would
good flight of them and they would boardslide down these rails it’s crazy
boardslide down these rails it’s crazy
boardslide down these rails it’s crazy it’s this concrete that’s pebbled it’s
it’s this concrete that’s pebbled it’s
it’s this concrete that’s pebbled it’s like you don’t want to land on that
like you don’t want to land on that
like you don’t want to land on that you’ve probably heard a lot of bones
you’ve probably heard a lot of bones
you’ve probably heard a lot of bones crunching over them it’s like you know
crunching over them it’s like you know
crunching over them it’s like you know but and they didn’t have much protective
but and they didn’t have much protective
but and they didn’t have much protective gear on and you know and eventually this
gear on and you know and eventually this
gear on and you know and eventually this university put up things to stop them
university put up things to stop them
university put up things to stop them you know from doing this which I
you know from doing this which I
you know from doing this which I complain about in this chapter for a
complain about in this chapter for a
complain about in this chapter for a bunch of reasons but like I liked
bunch of reasons but like I liked
bunch of reasons but like I liked watching those kids I like watching
watching those kids I like watching
watching those kids I like watching skateboarders do those crazy things
skateboarders do those crazy things
skateboarders do those crazy things because they’re trying to become
because they’re trying to become
because they’re trying to become competent like in there they’re facing
competent like in there they’re facing
competent like in there they’re facing danger they don’t want the damn
danger they don’t want the damn
danger they don’t want the damn protective gear like sometimes it’s just
protective gear like sometimes it’s just
protective gear like sometimes it’s just stupidity it’s like wear a damn helmet
stupidity it’s like wear a damn helmet
stupidity it’s like wear a damn helmet you know but sometimes it’s not it’s
you know but sometimes it’s not it’s
you know but sometimes it’s not it’s like no I don’t want to wear a helmet
like no I don’t want to wear a helmet
like no I don’t want to wear a helmet I want to expose myself to this danger
I want to expose myself to this danger
I want to expose myself to this danger it’s not that I’m stupid maybe it is you
it’s not that I’m stupid maybe it is you
it’s not that I’m stupid maybe it is you know I’m just being careless right but
know I’m just being careless right but
know I’m just being careless right but maybe it’s not it’s like no I I’m facing
maybe it’s not it’s like no I I’m facing
maybe it’s not it’s like no I I’m facing the danger I’m trying to master it and
the danger I’m trying to master it and
the danger I’m trying to master it and if you watch kids board slide down like
if you watch kids board slide down like
if you watch kids board slide down like handrails if you don’t think that that’s
handrails if you don’t think that that’s
handrails if you don’t think that that’s courageous then you’re and may be stupid
courageous then you’re and may be stupid
courageous then you’re and may be stupid those two things aren’t so easy to
those two things aren’t so easy to
those two things aren’t so easy to distinguish yeah but it’s brave and when
distinguish yeah but it’s brave and when
distinguish yeah but it’s brave and when they do it it’s like amazing it’s it’s
they do it it’s like amazing it’s it’s
they do it it’s like amazing it’s it’s impossible to do that you jump in the
impossible to do that you jump in the
impossible to do that you jump in the air you grab your skateboard you balance
air you grab your skateboard you balance
air you grab your skateboard you balance on this stupid rail you slide for 20
on this stupid rail you slide for 20
on this stupid rail you slide for 20 feet and then you know the price for
feet and then you know the price for
feet and then you know the price for failure is well you do the splits on the
failure is well you do the splits on the
failure is well you do the splits on the rail that’s not fun you know or you land
rail that’s not fun you know or you land
rail that’s not fun you know or you land headfirst oh that’s change your
headfirst oh that’s change your
headfirst oh that’s change your masculine masculinity like yeah yeah and
masculine masculinity like yeah yeah and
masculine masculinity like yeah yeah and so like and the kids are often shooed
so like and the kids are often shooed
so like and the kids are often shooed away it’s like wait a sec they’re there
away it’s like wait a sec they’re there
away it’s like wait a sec they’re there practicing being courageous they’re
practicing being courageous they’re
practicing being courageous they’re practicing mastering something in the
practicing mastering something in the
practicing mastering something in the face of danger you know and a lot of the
face of danger you know and a lot of the
face of danger you know and a lot of the rebellious behavior of young men in
rebellious behavior of young men in
rebellious behavior of young men in particular which is very frowned upon in
particular which is very frowned upon in
particular which is very frowned upon in the schools it’s like that’s toxic
the schools it’s like that’s toxic
the schools it’s like that’s toxic masculinity you know that horrid horrid
masculinity you know that horrid horrid
masculinity you know that horrid horrid phrase it’s like leave those damn kids
phrase it’s like leave those damn kids
phrase it’s like leave those damn kids alone rule 12 pet a cat when you
alone rule 12 pet a cat when you
alone rule 12 pet a cat when you encounter one on the street yeah well
encounter one on the street yeah well
encounter one on the street yeah well that’s about trying to orient yourself
that’s about trying to orient yourself
that’s about trying to orient yourself towards life so that even when you’re in
towards life so that even when you’re in
towards life so that even when you’re in the middle of a crisis or a tragedy you
the middle of a crisis or a tragedy you
the middle of a crisis or a tragedy you can find bits and pieces of experience
can find bits and pieces of experience
can find bits and pieces of experience that are positive and sustaining so that
that are positive and sustaining so that
that are positive and sustaining so that you can stay positively oriented towards
you can stay positively oriented towards
you can stay positively oriented towards your own existence and towards existence
your own existence and towards existence
your own existence and towards existence itself
now I’ve got a special Jordyn Peterson
now I’ve got a special Jordyn Peterson bonus clip for you guys but before that
bonus clip for you guys but before that
bonus clip for you guys but before that the question of the day is I want to
the question of the day is I want to
the question of the day is I want to know which of the twelve rules resonates
know which of the twelve rules resonates
know which of the twelve rules resonates the most with you is your personal
the most with you is your personal
the most with you is your personal favorite is what you’re gonna start
favorite is what you’re gonna start
favorite is what you’re gonna start applying to your life I’d love to hear
applying to your life I’d love to hear
applying to your life I’d love to hear from you leave it down the comments
from you leave it down the comments
from you leave it down the comments below thank you guys so much for
below thank you guys so much for
below thank you guys so much for watching I believe in you I hope you
watching I believe in you I hope you
watching I believe in you I hope you continue to believe in yourself and
continue to believe in yourself and
continue to believe in yourself and whatever your one word is much love I’ll
whatever your one word is much love I’ll
whatever your one word is much love I’ll see you soon and enjoy the bonus clip
twelve rules for life is about how to
twelve rules for life is about how to live properly in the face of
live properly in the face of
live properly in the face of vulnerability tragedy and malevolence
vulnerability tragedy and malevolence
vulnerability tragedy and malevolence one of the propositions in 12 rules for
one of the propositions in 12 rules for
one of the propositions in 12 rules for life is that life existence is usefully
life is that life existence is usefully
life is that life existence is usefully characterized as an interplay of order
characterized as an interplay of order
characterized as an interplay of order and chaos were unknown and known you are
and chaos were unknown and known you are
and chaos were unknown and known you are always striving to balance those two if
always striving to balance those two if
always striving to balance those two if if what you what you’re doing is too
if what you what you’re doing is too
if what you what you’re doing is too familiar you’re bored and if what you’re
familiar you’re bored and if what you’re
familiar you’re bored and if what you’re doing is too unfamiliar then you’re
doing is too unfamiliar then you’re
doing is too unfamiliar then you’re anxious and what you want to do is find
anxious and what you want to do is find
anxious and what you want to do is find the harmonious line between those two
the harmonious line between those two
the harmonious line between those two and that’s signified by meaning if you
and that’s signified by meaning if you
and that’s signified by meaning if you can get those two things right then you
can get those two things right then you
can get those two things right then you can have your cake and eat it too I hope
can have your cake and eat it too I hope
can have your cake and eat it too I hope people can take away the idea that there
people can take away the idea that there
people can take away the idea that there is a mode of being in the face of the
is a mode of being in the face of the
is a mode of being in the face of the vulnerability and tragedy of life that
vulnerability and tragedy of life that
vulnerability and tragedy of life that is noble and powerful and capable of
is noble and powerful and capable of
is noble and powerful and capable of sustaining them through the worst
sustaining them through the worst
sustaining them through the worst possible times without becoming corrupt
possible times without becoming corrupt
possible times without becoming corrupt and bitter raise your standard Apple at
and bitter raise your standard Apple at
and bitter raise your standard Apple at the core its core value is that that
the core its core value is that that
the core its core value is that that people need passion and not one drop of
people need passion and not one drop of
people need passion and not one drop of most self-worth depends on your it’s
most self-worth depends on your it’s
most self-worth depends on your it’s suppose to mean I don’t ever give up I’d
suppose to mean I don’t ever give up I’d
suppose to mean I don’t ever give up I’d have to be
have to be
have to be dead or completely incapacitated hey
dead or completely incapacitated hey
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