Steps to Fighting a Bully – Part 1 of 2

as a parent you want to protect your

as a parent you want to protect your child but you can’t be in the schoolyard

child but you can’t be in the schoolyard

child but you can’t be in the schoolyard with them fighting their battles hi I’m

with them fighting their battles hi I’m

with them fighting their battles hi I’m Rebecca Brayton and welcome to

Rebecca Brayton and welcome to

Rebecca Brayton and welcome to watchmojo.com and today we’ll be

watchmojo.com and today we’ll be

watchmojo.com and today we’ll be learning for simple rules you can teach

learning for simple rules you can teach

learning for simple rules you can teach your child to help them deal with a

your child to help them deal with a

your child to help them deal with a bully we need to talk to our children

bully we need to talk to our children

bully we need to talk to our children about bullying we need to give our

about bullying we need to give our

about bullying we need to give our children options we need to empower them

children options we need to empower them

children options we need to empower them that there are things they can do so in

that there are things they can do so in

that there are things they can do so in the workshops or in the private sessions

the workshops or in the private sessions

the workshops or in the private sessions that I give I give them four basic rules

that I give I give them four basic rules

that I give I give them four basic rules that we follow number one is that

that we follow number one is that

that we follow number one is that whatever confrontation your child is

whatever confrontation your child is

whatever confrontation your child is going through with the bully it cannot

going through with the bully it cannot

going through with the bully it cannot last long it cannot longer the

last long it cannot longer the

last long it cannot longer the interaction between your child and the

interaction between your child and the

interaction between your child and the Intimidator the worse things are for

Intimidator the worse things are for

Intimidator the worse things are for your child our second rule is no more

your child our second rule is no more

your child our second rule is no more than five words and we keep repeating

than five words and we keep repeating

than five words and we keep repeating the same words over and over we know

the same words over and over we know

the same words over and over we know that in a high-stress situation the body

that in a high-stress situation the body

that in a high-stress situation the body enters what is called tunnel vision

enters what is called tunnel vision

enters what is called tunnel vision tunnel hearing so when your child

tunnel hearing so when your child

tunnel hearing so when your child answers to the bully right leave me

answers to the bully right leave me

answers to the bully right leave me alone don’t touch me back off I said no

alone don’t touch me back off I said no

alone don’t touch me back off I said no whatever they choose it has to be no

whatever they choose it has to be no

whatever they choose it has to be no more than five words has to be small

more than five words has to be small

more than five words has to be small words and it has to be continuously

words and it has to be continuously

words and it has to be continuously repeated leave me alone I said leave me

repeated leave me alone I said leave me

repeated leave me alone I said leave me alone don’t leave me alone not getting

alone don’t leave me alone not getting

alone don’t leave me alone not getting hooked into what the person saying

hooked into what the person saying

hooked into what the person saying you’re fat and you’re ugly no I’m not

you’re fat and you’re ugly no I’m not

you’re fat and you’re ugly no I’m not fat while I just entered your

fat while I just entered your

fat while I just entered your conversation so no since you’re fat and

conversation so no since you’re fat and

conversation so no since you’re fat and you’re ugly leave me alone I said you’re

you’re ugly leave me alone I said you’re

you’re ugly leave me alone I said you’re fat and you smell I said leave me alone

fat and you smell I said leave me alone

fat and you smell I said leave me alone always repeating the same thing our rule

always repeating the same thing our rule

always repeating the same thing our rule number three is what I refer to as a

number three is what I refer to as a

number three is what I refer to as a baseball I say it once i say it twice

baseball I say it once i say it twice

baseball I say it once i say it twice strike one strike two as in baseball

strike one strike two as in baseball

strike one strike two as in baseball you’re out so you’re out meaning i do

you’re out so you’re out meaning i do

you’re out so you’re out meaning i do something i go get help i go to my

something i go get help i go to my

something i go get help i go to my friends i move away i turn it into a

friends i move away i turn it into a

friends i move away i turn it into a joke i hit i take a karate whatever but

joke i hit i take a karate whatever but

joke i hit i take a karate whatever but i do something our final rule is what i

i do something our final rule is what i

i do something our final rule is what i call the lion or mouse room

call the lion or mouse room

call the lion or mouse room I can tell you that as a police officer

I can tell you that as a police officer

I can tell you that as a police officer I listen a lot more to their body

I listen a lot more to their body

I listen a lot more to their body language then to what they’re telling me

language then to what they’re telling me

language then to what they’re telling me so here in the line and mouse rule it is

so here in the line and mouse rule it is

so here in the line and mouse rule it is essential that the message you send to

essential that the message you send to

essential that the message you send to the person who’s intimidating you that

the person who’s intimidating you that

the person who’s intimidating you that you’re a lion and you’re certainly not

you’re a lion and you’re certainly not

you’re a lion and you’re certainly not going to take this so through these four

going to take this so through these four

going to take this so through these four little simple rules we now enter

little simple rules we now enter

little simple rules we now enter scenario-based training where we now get

scenario-based training where we now get

scenario-based training where we now get the child to use these rules we need to

the child to use these rules we need to

the child to use these rules we need to push his buttons enough to get him to

push his buttons enough to get him to

push his buttons enough to get him to react in an intimidating situation so

react in an intimidating situation so

react in an intimidating situation so that he gets to apply these rules and

that he gets to apply these rules and

that he gets to apply these rules and gets to feel his way through being

gets to feel his way through being

gets to feel his way through being bullied in a controlled environment so

bullied in a controlled environment so

bullied in a controlled environment so that when he goes to school piece of

that when he goes to school piece of

that when he goes to school piece of cake