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[Applause] so I invite you to come back in time
so I invite you to come back in time
so I invite you to come back in time with me it is a Friday night and it’s a
with me it is a Friday night and it’s a
with me it is a Friday night and it’s a beautiful Friday night and it’s a
beautiful Friday night and it’s a
beautiful Friday night and it’s a special Friday night it’s a date night
special Friday night it’s a date night
special Friday night it’s a date night with my wife Ariana and we’re in
with my wife Ariana and we’re in
with my wife Ariana and we’re in beautiful Burlington Vermont and we’re
beautiful Burlington Vermont and we’re
beautiful Burlington Vermont and we’re downtown street musicians outside
downtown street musicians outside
downtown street musicians outside playing on the street on this nice
playing on the street on this nice
playing on the street on this nice street called Church Street nice
street called Church Street nice
street called Church Street nice pedestrian street and we’re at our
pedestrian street and we’re at our
pedestrian street and we’re at our favorite restaurant called Lunik which
favorite restaurant called Lunik which
favorite restaurant called Lunik which is right on the corner you have Church
is right on the corner you have Church
is right on the corner you have Church Street yep College Street and lootings
Street yep College Street and lootings
Street yep College Street and lootings is right there and an old-world the
is right there and an old-world the
is right there and an old-world the bistro cafe very romantic spot it’s
bistro cafe very romantic spot it’s
bistro cafe very romantic spot it’s beautiful and we’re at our table and
beautiful and we’re at our table and
beautiful and we’re at our table and nice white tablecloth and we have a
nice white tablecloth and we have a
nice white tablecloth and we have a glass of red wine there a glass of red
glass of red wine there a glass of red
glass of red wine there a glass of red wine here our breadbasket right here in
wine here our breadbasket right here in
wine here our breadbasket right here in the middle and then the the the people
the middle and then the the the people
the middle and then the the the people are walking outside it’s just a
are walking outside it’s just a
are walking outside it’s just a beautiful night and then I look up and I
beautiful night and then I look up and I
beautiful night and then I look up and I hear my wife talking to me and she says
hear my wife talking to me and she says
hear my wife talking to me and she says have you heard a word that I’ve said
have you heard a word that I’ve said
have you heard a word that I’ve said it’s like your body’s here but you’re
it’s like your body’s here but you’re
it’s like your body’s here but you’re not where are you and and I was totally
not where are you and and I was totally
not where are you and and I was totally absolutely busted I had so much on my
absolutely busted I had so much on my
absolutely busted I had so much on my mind that I couldn’t pay attention in
mind that I couldn’t pay attention in
mind that I couldn’t pay attention in this nice beautiful wonderful night with
this nice beautiful wonderful night with
this nice beautiful wonderful night with my wife and I don’t think my journey to
my wife and I don’t think my journey to
my wife and I don’t think my journey to this point is all that unusual as a
this point is all that unusual as a
this point is all that unusual as a matter of fact I think we’ve all
matter of fact I think we’ve all
matter of fact I think we’ve all probably made a journey where you go
probably made a journey where you go
probably made a journey where you go from a single person and then you find a
from a single person and then you find a
from a single person and then you find a love interest and then you become an
love interest and then you become an
love interest and then you become an engaged person and then you become a
engaged person and then you become a
engaged person and then you become a married person then you become a person
married person then you become a person
married person then you become a person with a lot of little people running
with a lot of little people running
with a lot of little people running around so it’s hard to you know find the
around so it’s hard to you know find the
around so it’s hard to you know find the time simultaneously we may have climbed
time simultaneously we may have climbed
time simultaneously we may have climbed the ladder of our career you had your
the ladder of our career you had your
the ladder of our career you had your first job you did a good job at that you
first job you did a good job at that you
first job you did a good job at that you got your second job you got your third
got your second job you got your third
got your second job you got your third job you got your fourth job so here you
job you got your fourth job so here you
job you got your fourth job so here you are sitting at a table like this
are sitting at a table like this
are sitting at a table like this wondering what
wondering what
wondering what the heck is going on and how am I going
the heck is going on and how am I going
the heck is going on and how am I going to manage it all well it was during this
to manage it all well it was during this
to manage it all well it was during this time of overwhelmed that I found my
time of overwhelmed that I found my
time of overwhelmed that I found my mentor
mentor
mentor his name is David Allen fellow TEDx
his name is David Allen fellow TEDx
his name is David Allen fellow TEDx speaker and he wrote a beautiful book
speaker and he wrote a beautiful book
speaker and he wrote a beautiful book called getting things done the art of
called getting things done the art of
called getting things done the art of stress-free productivity and one of the
stress-free productivity and one of the
stress-free productivity and one of the quotes from that book is your brains for
quotes from that book is your brains for
quotes from that book is your brains for having ideas not holding them and it’s
having ideas not holding them and it’s
having ideas not holding them and it’s so interesting that that evening led me
so interesting that that evening led me
so interesting that that evening led me on this incredible journey a few years
on this incredible journey a few years
on this incredible journey a few years later David invited me to join his
later David invited me to join his
later David invited me to join his company run his company for him as a
company run his company for him as a
company run his company for him as a president and CEO but more important
president and CEO but more important
president and CEO but more important than that I got the opportunity to play
than that I got the opportunity to play
than that I got the opportunity to play the role as a coach a trainer and a
the role as a coach a trainer and a
the role as a coach a trainer and a speaker and worked with thousands of
speaker and worked with thousands of
speaker and worked with thousands of people across different kinds of
people across different kinds of
people across different kinds of industries so I got to work with rocket
industries so I got to work with rocket
industries so I got to work with rocket scientists I got to work with
scientists I got to work with
scientists I got to work with neuroscientists I got to work with moms
neuroscientists I got to work with moms
neuroscientists I got to work with moms I got to work with dads I got to work
I got to work with dads I got to work
I got to work with dads I got to work with students I got to work with clergy
with students I got to work with clergy
with students I got to work with clergy I got to work with nonprofit
I got to work with nonprofit
I got to work with nonprofit organizations and all these people were
organizations and all these people were
organizations and all these people were beautiful beautiful people and what I
beautiful beautiful people and what I
beautiful beautiful people and what I found was I was not alone as a matter of
found was I was not alone as a matter of
found was I was not alone as a matter of fact we’re all kind of alone in this
fact we’re all kind of alone in this
fact we’re all kind of alone in this together this feeling so it was very
together this feeling so it was very
together this feeling so it was very humble
humble
humble it was very human to see that after this
it was very human to see that after this
it was very human to see that after this journey but there’s something else that
journey but there’s something else that
journey but there’s something else that started entering the picture as our our
started entering the picture as our our
started entering the picture as our our lies evolved and as technology evolved a
lies evolved and as technology evolved a
lies evolved and as technology evolved a little bit of Pandora’s Box in our
little bit of Pandora’s Box in our
little bit of Pandora’s Box in our pocket so here is what I’m observing and
pocket so here is what I’m observing and
pocket so here is what I’m observing and experiencing it at certain points of
experiencing it at certain points of
experiencing it at certain points of time where you have this wonderful tool
time where you have this wonderful tool
time where you have this wonderful tool in your pocket called a mobile phone now
in your pocket called a mobile phone now
in your pocket called a mobile phone now it can both bring you joy because you
it can both bring you joy because you
it can both bring you joy because you can do all these wonderful things like
can do all these wonderful things like
can do all these wonderful things like play words with friends and then search
play words with friends and then search
play words with friends and then search and make communication and get
and make communication and get
and make communication and get communication from folks but what I’m
communication from folks but what I’m
communication from folks but what I’m seeing is it can also cause pain because
seeing is it can also cause pain because
seeing is it can also cause pain because now the world has access to you and as a
now the world has access to you and as a
now the world has access to you and as a result of that are you ever off are you
result of that are you ever off are you
result of that are you ever off are you always on so it’s a very interesting
always on so it’s a very interesting
always on so it’s a very interesting thing but it’s not 100% your fault
thing but it’s not 100% your fault
thing but it’s not 100% your fault you see your brain is being tricked by
you see your brain is being tricked by
you see your brain is being tricked by design and one of our contemporary folks
design and one of our contemporary folks
design and one of our contemporary folks Seth Godin I think sums it up really
Seth Godin I think sums it up really
Seth Godin I think sums it up really well he says trust and attention these
well he says trust and attention these
well he says trust and attention these are the scarce items in a post-scarcity
are the scarce items in a post-scarcity
are the scarce items in a post-scarcity world so when you have access to
world so when you have access to
world so when you have access to everything and everybody has access to
everything and everybody has access to
everything and everybody has access to you where are we suffering the most
you where are we suffering the most
you where are we suffering the most probably trust and attention and how do
probably trust and attention and how do
probably trust and attention and how do we maintain that so what created the
we maintain that so what created the
we maintain that so what created the conditions for us to have our brains
conditions for us to have our brains
conditions for us to have our brains tricked the Deloitte Consulting Group
tricked the Deloitte Consulting Group
tricked the Deloitte Consulting Group recently released a survey and do you
recently released a survey and do you
recently released a survey and do you realize that on average we pull our
realize that on average we pull our
realize that on average we pull our phone out of our pockets 40 times a day
phone out of our pockets 40 times a day
phone out of our pockets 40 times a day now I don’t even do 40 push-ups a day I
now I don’t even do 40 push-ups a day I
now I don’t even do 40 push-ups a day I imagine if I did 40 push-ups a day it
imagine if I did 40 push-ups a day it
imagine if I did 40 push-ups a day it would be fantastic and I’d be a little
would be fantastic and I’d be a little
would be fantastic and I’d be a little bigger than I am now
bigger than I am now
bigger than I am now but 40 times a day we pulled the phones
but 40 times a day we pulled the phones
but 40 times a day we pulled the phones out of our pocket now tend to about 10%
out of our pocket now tend to about 10%
out of our pocket now tend to about 10% of us pull our phones out of our pocket
of us pull our phones out of our pocket
of us pull our phones out of our pocket about a hundred times a day and you know
about a hundred times a day and you know
about a hundred times a day and you know who you are and there’s nothing wrong
who you are and there’s nothing wrong
who you are and there’s nothing wrong with that it just is now if our brains
with that it just is now if our brains
with that it just is now if our brains are being tricked by design who are the
are being tricked by design who are the
are being tricked by design who are the tricksters in this there’s there are a
tricksters in this there’s there are a
tricksters in this there’s there are a group of folks behind the phone that are
group of folks behind the phone that are
group of folks behind the phone that are creating these wonderful phone escapes
creating these wonderful phone escapes
creating these wonderful phone escapes for us and you go to your phone and you
for us and you go to your phone and you
for us and you go to your phone and you see this wonderful beautiful screen and
see this wonderful beautiful screen and
see this wonderful beautiful screen and it’s got you charmed and it calls you
it’s got you charmed and it calls you
it’s got you charmed and it calls you back all the time right
back all the time right
back all the time right but charm that’s an interesting world
but charm that’s an interesting world
but charm that’s an interesting world it’s just another word for being tricked
it’s just another word for being tricked
it’s just another word for being tricked so how are they charming us and who’s
so how are they charming us and who’s
so how are they charming us and who’s doing the charming so behind each one of
doing the charming so behind each one of
doing the charming so behind each one of these beautiful little squares on your
these beautiful little squares on your
these beautiful little squares on your phone is a group of tricksters and
phone is a group of tricksters and
phone is a group of tricksters and they’re just like you and I really
they’re just like you and I really
they’re just like you and I really bright intelligent people there the
bright intelligent people there the
bright intelligent people there the computer programmers they’re the
computer programmers they’re the
computer programmers they’re the designers they’re the business
designers they’re the business
designers they’re the business strategists they’re our sole purpose is
strategists they’re our sole purpose is
strategists they’re our sole purpose is to congregate
to congregate
to congregate every day and say how can I get you to
every day and say how can I get you to
every day and say how can I get you to look at my app more often and they have
look at my app more often and they have
look at my app more often and they have meetings and they have scrums and they
meetings and they have scrums and they
meetings and they have scrums and they daily daily daily are thinking about
daily daily daily are thinking about
daily daily daily are thinking about that now multiply that times all the
that now multiply that times all the
that now multiply that times all the pieces of real estate on your phone and
pieces of real estate on your phone and
pieces of real estate on your phone and you’ve got quite a bit of competition
you’ve got quite a bit of competition
you’ve got quite a bit of competition for your attention so it’s a jungle out
for your attention so it’s a jungle out
for your attention so it’s a jungle out there’s literally a jungle out there
there’s literally a jungle out there
there’s literally a jungle out there that you have to go through every time
that you have to go through every time
that you have to go through every time you pull your phone out of your pocket
you pull your phone out of your pocket
you pull your phone out of your pocket but what are they actually doing what
but what are they actually doing what
but what are they actually doing what are they doing to us so some of the
are they doing to us so some of the
are they doing to us so some of the tricks that they’re pulling are very
tricks that they’re pulling are very
tricks that they’re pulling are very very interesting and they actually tap
very interesting and they actually tap
very interesting and they actually tap into our nervous system so our nervous
into our nervous system so our nervous
into our nervous system so our nervous system is something that with badges
system is something that with badges
system is something that with badges sounds notification buzzing lights
sounds notification buzzing lights
sounds notification buzzing lights lights up all our sensory neural
lights up all our sensory neural
lights up all our sensory neural pathways and every time you go to an
pathways and every time you go to an
pathways and every time you go to an application and you look at it it lays
application and you look at it it lays
application and you look at it it lays down a neuro pathway and the more you go
down a neuro pathway and the more you go
down a neuro pathway and the more you go there the stronger the neural pathway
there the stronger the neural pathway
there the stronger the neural pathway gets as a matter of fact if you go back
gets as a matter of fact if you go back
gets as a matter of fact if you go back and back and back again you probably
and back and back again you probably
and back and back again you probably even get a shot at dopamine that says
even get a shot at dopamine that says
even get a shot at dopamine that says wow that felt really really good come on
wow that felt really really good come on
wow that felt really really good come on back come on back next time to check
back come on back next time to check
back come on back next time to check your email and just do a randomly and
your email and just do a randomly and
your email and just do a randomly and I’ll give you another shot of dopamine
I’ll give you another shot of dopamine
I’ll give you another shot of dopamine so it’s kind of interesting that we
so it’s kind of interesting that we
so it’s kind of interesting that we enter this jungle and there’s a part of
enter this jungle and there’s a part of
enter this jungle and there’s a part of our brain when we go to this jungle that
our brain when we go to this jungle that
our brain when we go to this jungle that is just like we’re back in the jungle
is just like we’re back in the jungle
is just like we’re back in the jungle our brains were designed to notice
our brains were designed to notice
our brains were designed to notice little twitches and behind those
little twitches and behind those
little twitches and behind those twitches it’s either food or we’re food
twitches it’s either food or we’re food
twitches it’s either food or we’re food so it really really plays on that part
so it really really plays on that part
so it really really plays on that part of our brain now the other interesting
of our brain now the other interesting
of our brain now the other interesting thing is also in this jungle if you take
thing is also in this jungle if you take
thing is also in this jungle if you take a look at the American psychology
a look at the American psychology
a look at the American psychology Association report 62 percent of us go
Association report 62 percent of us go
Association report 62 percent of us go to some place some kind of screen space
to some place some kind of screen space
to some place some kind of screen space to manage our stress so in the same
to manage our stress so in the same
to manage our stress so in the same place where we go to do our productive
place where we go to do our productive
place where we go to do our productive work we also go there to a
work we also go there to a
work we also go there to a Cape so when we go to the phone what are
Cape so when we go to the phone what are
Cape so when we go to the phone what are we going to do we’re going to be
we going to do we’re going to be
we going to do we’re going to be productive or we’re going to escape it’s
productive or we’re going to escape it’s
productive or we’re going to escape it’s all sitting there right in front of us
all sitting there right in front of us
all sitting there right in front of us and we have to make some of those
and we have to make some of those
and we have to make some of those decisions now this is a jungle but there
decisions now this is a jungle but there
decisions now this is a jungle but there is a way out so what I’d like you to do
is a way out so what I’d like you to do
is a way out so what I’d like you to do just for a moment is look at this screen
just for a moment is look at this screen
just for a moment is look at this screen just ponder it just for a second just
just ponder it just for a second just
just ponder it just for a second just look at it
look at it
look at it notice how your brain feels now look at
notice how your brain feels now look at
notice how your brain feels now look at this screen notice how your brain feels
this screen notice how your brain feels
this screen notice how your brain feels now what if by design we could take a
now what if by design we could take a
now what if by design we could take a little slice of whatever you’re feeling
little slice of whatever you’re feeling
little slice of whatever you’re feeling now and I bet it’s a little calmer than
now and I bet it’s a little calmer than
now and I bet it’s a little calmer than the situation before what if we could
the situation before what if we could
the situation before what if we could take a little slice of that and grab it
take a little slice of that and grab it
take a little slice of that and grab it and make it our own what would happen if
and make it our own what would happen if
and make it our own what would happen if we took that slice and actually did
we took that slice and actually did
we took that slice and actually did three things one make that little slice
three things one make that little slice
three things one make that little slice of your own personal paradise whatever
of your own personal paradise whatever
of your own personal paradise whatever photo you find inspiring grab it and set
photo you find inspiring grab it and set
photo you find inspiring grab it and set it as as your home screen number two
it as as your home screen number two
it as as your home screen number two take the jungle that you have to go
take the jungle that you have to go
take the jungle that you have to go through every time forty times a day
through every time forty times a day
through every time forty times a day when you open up your phone and move the
when you open up your phone and move the
when you open up your phone and move the jungle to your second screen and then
jungle to your second screen and then
jungle to your second screen and then third go in and turn off all your
third go in and turn off all your
third go in and turn off all your notifications and then go back and turn
notifications and then go back and turn
notifications and then go back and turn on as many as you need in as few as you
on as many as you need in as few as you
on as many as you need in as few as you can get by with what might not leave you
can get by with what might not leave you
can get by with what might not leave you with here you now have a device that’s
with here you now have a device that’s
with here you now have a device that’s in your pocket that becomes just a space
in your pocket that becomes just a space
in your pocket that becomes just a space to be before you choose to engage how
to be before you choose to engage how
to be before you choose to engage how many people could use a little space
many people could use a little space
many people could use a little space before engaging how many people have
before engaging how many people have
before engaging how many people have ever gone to your phone to do one thing
ever gone to your phone to do one thing
ever gone to your phone to do one thing 20 minutes later you still haven’t done
20 minutes later you still haven’t done
20 minutes later you still haven’t done the thing that you wanted to
the thing that you wanted to
the thing that you wanted to right so this is just a micro space to
right so this is just a micro space to
right so this is just a micro space to engage so calm by design it’s in your
engage so calm by design it’s in your
engage so calm by design it’s in your power it’s in your control it’s
power it’s in your control it’s
power it’s in your control it’s something that is is is available to us
something that is is is available to us
something that is is is available to us right now so what I invite you to do is
right now so what I invite you to do is
right now so what I invite you to do is try the test see if it works for you and
try the test see if it works for you and
try the test see if it works for you and then perhaps perhaps that space that you
then perhaps perhaps that space that you
then perhaps perhaps that space that you created would create space for you to be
created would create space for you to be
created would create space for you to be available to that next creative idea
available to that next creative idea
available to that next creative idea that’s waiting for you out there
that’s waiting for you out there
that’s waiting for you out there perhaps it’s there waiting for you so
perhaps it’s there waiting for you so
perhaps it’s there waiting for you so you can play with your children
you can play with your children
you can play with your children just a little more perhaps it’s there so
just a little more perhaps it’s there so
just a little more perhaps it’s there so that haze of overwhelm that’s in your
that haze of overwhelm that’s in your
that haze of overwhelm that’s in your eyes can be replaced by the twinkle in
eyes can be replaced by the twinkle in
eyes can be replaced by the twinkle in your eyes of expectation of loving of
your eyes of expectation of loving of
your eyes of expectation of loving of paying attention to the one that you
paying attention to the one that you
paying attention to the one that you love and perhaps my next date night can
love and perhaps my next date night can
love and perhaps my next date night can be romantic and filled with paying
be romantic and filled with paying
be romantic and filled with paying attention to the people that I love in
attention to the people that I love in
attention to the people that I love in the moments that are created when we
the moments that are created when we
the moments that are created when we create them thank you
create them thank you
create them thank you [Applause]
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