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Women: on-top and in-charge of our own destiny | Yvette Atekpe | TEDxAccraWomen


today I’m going to be speaking about a

today I’m going to be speaking about a few controversial things I know we keep

few controversial things I know we keep

few controversial things I know we keep talking about yes we need equality

talking about yes we need equality

talking about yes we need equality you know women need to get there but I I

you know women need to get there but I I

you know women need to get there but I I have a few thoughts and ideas around

have a few thoughts and ideas around

have a few thoughts and ideas around this I believe that as women we’ve

this I believe that as women we’ve

this I believe that as women we’ve achieved quite a lot quite a bit I have

achieved quite a lot quite a bit I have

achieved quite a lot quite a bit I have a story and that story occurred when I

a story and that story occurred when I

a story and that story occurred when I was growing up I don’t know how many of

was growing up I don’t know how many of

was growing up I don’t know how many of you would remember in the old days there

you would remember in the old days there

you would remember in the old days there was a popular Ghanaian drama series

was a popular Ghanaian drama series

was a popular Ghanaian drama series called a suffered a Z which I absolutely

called a suffered a Z which I absolutely

called a suffered a Z which I absolutely enjoyed however it was the theme song

enjoyed however it was the theme song

enjoyed however it was the theme song that didn’t do it for me you know and it

that didn’t do it for me you know and it

that didn’t do it for me you know and it went like I don’t know if you remember

went like I don’t know if you remember

went like I don’t know if you remember this the theme song we are girl we yes

this the theme song we are girl we yes

this the theme song we are girl we yes ever knows where we are going we know we

ever knows where we are going we know we

ever knows where we are going we know we will great you know I’m so glad you

will great you know I’m so glad you

will great you know I’m so glad you remember it was a fantastic drama series

remember it was a fantastic drama series

remember it was a fantastic drama series but I really didn’t like the theme song

but I really didn’t like the theme song

but I really didn’t like the theme song and in my childhood I assumed I didn’t

and in my childhood I assumed I didn’t

and in my childhood I assumed I didn’t like the theme song because it’s sort of

like the theme song because it’s sort of

like the theme song because it’s sort of you know marked the end of a lovely

you know marked the end of a lovely

you know marked the end of a lovely Sunday and my bedtime as a child and

Sunday and my bedtime as a child and

Sunday and my bedtime as a child and heralded the dreaded Monday morning at

heralded the dreaded Monday morning at

heralded the dreaded Monday morning at school however as I grew up I realized

school however as I grew up I realized

school however as I grew up I realized why I didn’t quite like the theme song

why I didn’t quite like the theme song

why I didn’t quite like the theme song it’s because I believe that we need to

it’s because I believe that we need to

it’s because I believe that we need to know where we are going we need to have

know where we are going we need to have

know where we are going we need to have a plan

a plan

a plan need to prepare we can’t just assume you

need to prepare we can’t just assume you

need to prepare we can’t just assume you know that yes we are going and heaven

know that yes we are going and heaven

know that yes we are going and heaven knows where we are going we must have a

knows where we are going we must have a

knows where we are going we must have a plan so I hope this is something we can

plan so I hope this is something we can

plan so I hope this is something we can all take take home I’m going to say a

all take take home I’m going to say a

all take take home I’m going to say a few stories and I will start with one

few stories and I will start with one

few stories and I will start with one such story I actually have a slide which

such story I actually have a slide which

such story I actually have a slide which great and I’d like you to just take a

great and I’d like you to just take a

great and I’d like you to just take a quick glance at the people you see on

quick glance at the people you see on

quick glance at the people you see on this slide I am sure you can make all of

this slide I am sure you can make all of

this slide I am sure you can make all of them out I’m sure you can see our chief

them out I’m sure you can see our chief

them out I’m sure you can see our chief justice Georgina Theodora would a very

justice Georgina Theodora would a very

justice Georgina Theodora would a very special person at this time I electro

special person at this time I electro

special person at this time I electro commissioner Charlotte oh say patience a

commissioner Charlotte oh say patience a

commissioner Charlotte oh say patience a channel of Barclays Bank Theresa May

channel of Barclays Bank Theresa May

channel of Barclays Bank Theresa May Prime Minister of the United Kingdom in

Prime Minister of the United Kingdom in

Prime Minister of the United Kingdom in Ireland

Ireland

Ireland Angela Merkel Chancellor of Germany no

Angela Merkel Chancellor of Germany no

Angela Merkel Chancellor of Germany no Cod RIA MD of Lowell enters an advantage

Cod RIA MD of Lowell enters an advantage

Cod RIA MD of Lowell enters an advantage group sure you see so many more the CEO

group sure you see so many more the CEO

group sure you see so many more the CEO of Yahoo we also see the iMF Managing

of Yahoo we also see the iMF Managing

of Yahoo we also see the iMF Managing Director Christine Lagarde so many more

Director Christine Lagarde so many more

Director Christine Lagarde so many more I could actually stand here for the next

I could actually stand here for the next

I could actually stand here for the next 48 hours going through a roll call of

48 hours going through a roll call of

48 hours going through a roll call of female achievers who have done so much

female achievers who have done so much

female achievers who have done so much so I believe that it’s about time women

so I believe that it’s about time women

so I believe that it’s about time women stop guessing themselves we have

stop guessing themselves we have

stop guessing themselves we have achieved a lot we need to stop guessing

achieved a lot we need to stop guessing

achieved a lot we need to stop guessing ourselves we have today so many women

ourselves we have today so many women

ourselves we have today so many women climbing atop the corporate ladder and

climbing atop the corporate ladder and

climbing atop the corporate ladder and climbing in their stilettos in their

climbing in their stilettos in their

climbing in their stilettos in their wedges in their platforms in their

wedges in their platforms in their

wedges in their platforms in their trainers

trainers

trainers and achieving great things and making

and achieving great things and making

and achieving great things and making such a positive difference we have women

such a positive difference we have women

such a positive difference we have women who are impacting the lives of so many

who are impacting the lives of so many

who are impacting the lives of so many women whose decisions when they take

women whose decisions when they take

women whose decisions when they take them have far-reaching consequences in

them have far-reaching consequences in

them have far-reaching consequences in their communities and across the globe

their communities and across the globe

their communities and across the globe now I have another little story to tell

now I have another little story to tell

now I have another little story to tell you a few years ago we had the

you a few years ago we had the

you a few years ago we had the unfortunate loss of our president

unfortunate loss of our president

unfortunate loss of our president professor John Evans a Tamils and he was

professor John Evans a Tamils and he was

professor John Evans a Tamils and he was interred at the Marine Drive in osoo

interred at the Marine Drive in osoo

interred at the Marine Drive in osoo which we properly call assumed JPAC my

which we properly call assumed JPAC my

which we properly call assumed JPAC my kids were eager to go and visit that

kids were eager to go and visit that

kids were eager to go and visit that become quite a bit of an attraction and

become quite a bit of an attraction and

become quite a bit of an attraction and in the words of my teenage daughter

in the words of my teenage daughter

in the words of my teenage daughter Andrea Mommy we have to go there I do

Andrea Mommy we have to go there I do

Andrea Mommy we have to go there I do not want to be social media bankrupt so

not want to be social media bankrupt so

not want to be social media bankrupt so we went and as we got there we were

we went and as we got there we were

we went and as we got there we were trying to park and suddenly this

trying to park and suddenly this

trying to park and suddenly this gentleman very irate comes out and

gentleman very irate comes out and

gentleman very irate comes out and speaks in the local language the

speaks in the local language the

speaks in the local language the language of Accra Ghana where nawa who

language of Accra Ghana where nawa who

language of Accra Ghana where nawa who need nama Paki

need nama Paki

need nama Paki you know so of course my driver was a

you know so of course my driver was a

you know so of course my driver was a bit perturbed and cause well this is

bit perturbed and cause well this is

bit perturbed and cause well this is public access and we can park here and

public access and we can park here and

public access and we can park here and the gentleman goes no you can’t mean war

the gentleman goes no you can’t mean war

the gentleman goes no you can’t mean war mean Paki oh now to translate what does

mean Paki oh now to translate what does

mean Paki oh now to translate what does irate man is saying who should move for

irate man is saying who should move for

irate man is saying who should move for you to pack he mows so he expects to

you to pack he mows so he expects to

you to pack he mows so he expects to park there and this public access is

park there and this public access is

park there and this public access is right in front of his house you know

right in front of his house you know

right in front of his house you know after calming nerves down in parking

after calming nerves down in parking

after calming nerves down in parking might take home from this little

might take home from this little

might take home from this little incident was that as women we need to

incident was that as women we need to

incident was that as women we need to learn to carve our own parts we cannot

learn to carve our own parts we cannot

learn to carve our own parts we cannot afford to be given anything on a silver

afford to be given anything on a silver

afford to be given anything on a silver platter it mustn’t be expecting quotas

platter it mustn’t be expecting quotas

platter it mustn’t be expecting quotas you know that we need a quota for women

you know that we need a quota for women

you know that we need a quota for women women we need a quota for women to do

women we need a quota for women to do

women we need a quota for women to do this we must build our own capacity and

this we must build our own capacity and

this we must build our own capacity and get there we must take our future into

get there we must take our future into

get there we must take our future into our lands and we must make sure that

our lands and we must make sure that

our lands and we must make sure that what we are able to now Park in the

what we are able to now Park in the

what we are able to now Park in the boardrooms in the seats of government

boardrooms in the seats of government

boardrooms in the seats of government and in the corridors of power have

and in the corridors of power have

and in the corridors of power have another little story and this evening is

another little story and this evening is

another little story and this evening is all about stories

all about stories

all about stories that’s so much you know that as women we

that’s so much you know that as women we

that’s so much you know that as women we begin to feel that well should I really

begin to feel that well should I really

begin to feel that well should I really be doing this you know but I want you to

be doing this you know but I want you to

be doing this you know but I want you to just think about how a man buys a pair

just think about how a man buys a pair

just think about how a man buys a pair of shoes and the men in this audience

of shoes and the men in this audience

of shoes and the men in this audience and I believe my husband is here too

and I believe my husband is here too

and I believe my husband is here too they get into the shop they go directly

they get into the shop they go directly

they get into the shop they go directly pick a pair of shoes try them on

pick a pair of shoes try them on

pick a pair of shoes try them on take a look stamp your feet look around

take a look stamp your feet look around

take a look stamp your feet look around go straight to the cashier and pick it

go straight to the cashier and pick it

go straight to the cashier and pick it up they make a purchase now here is how

up they make a purchase now here is how

up they make a purchase now here is how women buy a pair of shoes first of all

women buy a pair of shoes first of all

women buy a pair of shoes first of all we stand at the window and we look at

we stand at the window and we look at

we stand at the window and we look at all the shoes on display then we get

all the shoes on display then we get

all the shoes on display then we get into the shop and when we get into the

into the shop and when we get into the

into the shop and when we get into the shop we take five different pairs we

shop we take five different pairs we

shop we take five different pairs we look for color will look for style we

look for color will look for style we

look for color will look for style we look for with we look for height and

look for with we look for height and

look for with we look for height and then we sit and we try them out and then

then we sit and we try them out and then

then we sit and we try them out and then we ask the opinion of average shoppers

we ask the opinion of average shoppers

we ask the opinion of average shoppers how does this look we take a 12 here and

how does this look we take a 12 here and

how does this look we take a 12 here and there then pick another paying this is a

there then pick another paying this is a

there then pick another paying this is a sixth pay try it on and then decide

sixth pay try it on and then decide

sixth pay try it on and then decide which pair we are getting and then we

which pair we are getting and then we

which pair we are getting and then we make a purchase and when we make that

make a purchase and when we make that

make a purchase and when we make that purchase we’ve made the purchase because

purchase we’ve made the purchase because

purchase we’ve made the purchase because we know it’s the best fit it’s the best

we know it’s the best fit it’s the best

we know it’s the best fit it’s the best style

style

style it’s the

it’s the

it’s the best color and it has rave reviews so

best color and it has rave reviews so

best color and it has rave reviews so this is I’m sure you can deduce that as

this is I’m sure you can deduce that as

this is I’m sure you can deduce that as women we are very analytical in our

women we are very analytical in our

women we are very analytical in our thinking we take decisions not of the

thinking we take decisions not of the

thinking we take decisions not of the cuff we really look around us we seek

cuff we really look around us we seek

cuff we really look around us we seek the opinion of others and we take a

the opinion of others and we take a

the opinion of others and we take a decision we need to realize that women

decision we need to realize that women

decision we need to realize that women in position in in decision-making

in position in in decision-making

in position in in decision-making positions work so much better in the

positions work so much better in the

positions work so much better in the recent credits with gender report of

recent credits with gender report of

recent credits with gender report of September this year they did mention

September this year they did mention

September this year they did mention that the research showed that women

that the research showed that women

that the research showed that women companies that hire had higher

companies that hire had higher

companies that hire had higher participation of women in

participation of women in

participation of women in decision-making were more profitable

decision-making were more profitable

decision-making were more profitable they had higher margins so what are we

they had higher margins so what are we

they had higher margins so what are we saying this is who we are

saying this is who we are

saying this is who we are let us continue to toot our horns and

let us continue to toot our horns and

let us continue to toot our horns and let everyone know that yes we need to be

let everyone know that yes we need to be

let everyone know that yes we need to be a lot more in the boardrooms we need to

a lot more in the boardrooms we need to

a lot more in the boardrooms we need to be a lot more in all the decision making

be a lot more in all the decision making

be a lot more in all the decision making areas I have another story I was looking

areas I have another story I was looking

areas I have another story I was looking for a quick sandwich and went to the

for a quick sandwich and went to the

for a quick sandwich and went to the deli and met this renowned banker the

deli and met this renowned banker the

deli and met this renowned banker the deli

deli

deli he was absolutely frazzled grabbing

he was absolutely frazzled grabbing

he was absolutely frazzled grabbing sandwiches for sandwiches for his kids

sandwiches for sandwiches for his kids

sandwiches for sandwiches for his kids he had a bag of stationery on one arm he

he had a bag of stationery on one arm he

he had a bag of stationery on one arm he was trying so hard to juggle the

was trying so hard to juggle the

was trying so hard to juggle the stationery and the sandwiches he just

stationery and the sandwiches he just

stationery and the sandwiches he just picked up and had his phone on his ear

picked up and had his phone on his ear

picked up and had his phone on his ear telling whoever was on the other end

telling whoever was on the other end

telling whoever was on the other end I’ll be there in the next thirty minutes

I’ll be there in the next thirty minutes

I’ll be there in the next thirty minutes and I looked at him I knew he wouldn’t

and I looked at him I knew he wouldn’t

and I looked at him I knew he wouldn’t be there in the next thirty minutes so

be there in the next thirty minutes so

be there in the next thirty minutes so as women we tend to make excuses that we

as women we tend to make excuses that we

as women we tend to make excuses that we do too much that we are so inundated

do too much that we are so inundated

do too much that we are so inundated with work

with work

with work we have to juggle so much but believe

we have to juggle so much but believe

we have to juggle so much but believe you me it does not out preserve it is

you me it does not out preserve it is

you me it does not out preserve it is not men face it too so what we ought to

not men face it too so what we ought to

not men face it too so what we ought to be looking at is collaboration how do we

be looking at is collaboration how do we

be looking at is collaboration how do we collaborate we need to collaborate and

collaborate we need to collaborate and

collaborate we need to collaborate and create partnerships we are not in

create partnerships we are not in

create partnerships we are not in competition with men we must collaborate

competition with men we must collaborate

competition with men we must collaborate it is also important to realize that as

it is also important to realize that as

it is also important to realize that as women we need to have a very successful

women we need to have a very successful

women we need to have a very successful network of women behind us it’s so

network of women behind us it’s so

network of women behind us it’s so important they are the down times I was

important they are the down times I was

important they are the down times I was privileged to have a wonderful friend

privileged to have a wonderful friend

privileged to have a wonderful friend and mentor the late Eva loco and I

and mentor the late Eva loco and I

and mentor the late Eva loco and I really remember she would just call she

really remember she would just call she

really remember she would just call she would Skype the least thing she had and

would Skype the least thing she had and

would Skype the least thing she had and say congratulations you guys are doing a

say congratulations you guys are doing a

say congratulations you guys are doing a great job great job I just had this and

great job great job I just had this and

great job great job I just had this and he was so so rewarding it was so

he was so so rewarding it was so

he was so so rewarding it was so comforting to know that there’s somebody

comforting to know that there’s somebody

comforting to know that there’s somebody who got your back it’s important to have

who got your back it’s important to have

who got your back it’s important to have a great network of friends a great

a great network of friends a great

a great network of friends a great family that you can have that support

family that you can have that support

family that you can have that support from it’s so important otherwise is

from it’s so important otherwise is

from it’s so important otherwise is really difficult for us to stay in those

really difficult for us to stay in those

really difficult for us to stay in those boardrooms as women we tend to make

boardrooms as women we tend to make

boardrooms as women we tend to make quite a few excuses well it’s not the

quite a few excuses well it’s not the

quite a few excuses well it’s not the right time you know and you tend to get

right time you know and you tend to get

right time you know and you tend to get the few people behind you who would say

the few people behind you who would say

the few people behind you who would say no did you why did you do that let’s

no did you why did you do that let’s

no did you why did you do that let’s avoid those and let’s find women who are

avoid those and let’s find women who are

avoid those and let’s find women who are supportive and I’m grateful for the

supportive and I’m grateful for the

supportive and I’m grateful for the likes of my mom I am grateful for the

likes of my mom I am grateful for the

likes of my mom I am grateful for the likes of Zonta the likes of EWN and my

likes of Zonta the likes of EWN and my

likes of Zonta the likes of EWN and my wonderful friends who are always around

wonderful friends who are always around

wonderful friends who are always around to cheer you on

to cheer you on

to cheer you on so just as we’re deliberating on what we

so just as we’re deliberating on what we

so just as we’re deliberating on what we need to do and what we need to stop

need to do and what we need to stop

need to do and what we need to stop doing

doing

doing I’d like us I think um this evening his

I’d like us I think um this evening his

I’d like us I think um this evening his Excellency John Benjamin just conferred

Excellency John Benjamin just conferred

Excellency John Benjamin just conferred on himself

on himself

on himself prophets John Benjamin because I believe

prophets John Benjamin because I believe

prophets John Benjamin because I believe his prophecy that in this garden tonight

his prophecy that in this garden tonight

his prophecy that in this garden tonight there is our future first female

there is our future first female

there is our future first female president of Ghana and we must see that

president of Ghana and we must see that

president of Ghana and we must see that through who knows in a few weeks a very

through who knows in a few weeks a very

through who knows in a few weeks a very accomplished woman Hillary Clinton may

accomplished woman Hillary Clinton may

accomplished woman Hillary Clinton may just become the first female president

just become the first female president

just become the first female president of the United States of America and I

of the United States of America and I

of the United States of America and I was surely becoming my Ghana pest was to

was surely becoming my Ghana pest was to

was surely becoming my Ghana pest was to make it to her inauguration just to say

make it to her inauguration just to say

make it to her inauguration just to say you know world it’s about time thank you

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