did you know that women have been graduating in the u.s. in greater
graduating in the u.s. in greater
graduating in the u.s. in greater numbers for the last 30 years
numbers for the last 30 years
numbers for the last 30 years interesting huh women even graduate in
interesting huh women even graduate in
interesting huh women even graduate in other countries in countries that we
other countries in countries that we
other countries in countries that we might not even think that they’re
might not even think that they’re
might not even think that they’re graduating like Saudi Arabia we also see
graduating like Saudi Arabia we also see
graduating like Saudi Arabia we also see that women receive more PhDs ever before
that women receive more PhDs ever before
that women receive more PhDs ever before in the last seven years the workforce
in the last seven years the workforce
in the last seven years the workforce has 40 percent or more of women in 80
has 40 percent or more of women in 80
has 40 percent or more of women in 80 different countries if you hear an
different countries if you hear an
different countries if you hear an accent I’m Danish we’ve been working on
accent I’m Danish we’ve been working on
accent I’m Danish we’ve been working on gender equality for 50 years long time
gender equality for 50 years long time
gender equality for 50 years long time and we have the same numbers of senior
and we have the same numbers of senior
and we have the same numbers of senior women at representation than you have
women at representation than you have
women at representation than you have isn’t that amazing
isn’t that amazing
isn’t that amazing so let’s figure out why because these
so let’s figure out why because these
so let’s figure out why because these stats are fantastic would you agree it
stats are fantastic would you agree it
stats are fantastic would you agree it shows progress but I have a secret to
shows progress but I have a secret to
shows progress but I have a secret to share with you that there’s something
share with you that there’s something
share with you that there’s something hidden in plain sight
hidden in plain sight
hidden in plain sight that you might find incredibly useful to
that you might find incredibly useful to
that you might find incredibly useful to know about let me start with my own
know about let me start with my own
know about let me start with my own story if you heard a little bit about
story if you heard a little bit about
story if you heard a little bit about ours first they called me the female
ours first they called me the female
ours first they called me the female salesman of the year and actually when I
salesman of the year and actually when I
salesman of the year and actually when I first won the rookie salesman of the
first won the rookie salesman of the
first won the rookie salesman of the year they gave me a big male watch big
year they gave me a big male watch big
year they gave me a big male watch big watch what are those square ones you
watch what are those square ones you
watch what are those square ones you know that we now actually have it’s just
know that we now actually have it’s just
know that we now actually have it’s just different format you know I mean so what
different format you know I mean so what
different format you know I mean so what was interesting is that when I came to
was interesting is that when I came to
was interesting is that when I came to the corporate office my boss I just
the corporate office my boss I just
the corporate office my boss I just shook my hand and said good luck I’ll
shook my hand and said good luck I’ll
shook my hand and said good luck I’ll give you one year how do you think that
give you one year how do you think that
give you one year how do you think that landed three and then the first course
landed three and then the first course
landed three and then the first course they ever sent me they said you know
they ever sent me they said you know
they ever sent me they said you know what you need some assertiveness
what you need some assertiveness
what you need some assertiveness training there’s something didn’t you
training there’s something didn’t you
training there’s something didn’t you need something right they were going to
need something right they were going to
need something right they were going to fix me so they sent me to San Francisco
fix me so they sent me to San Francisco
fix me so they sent me to San Francisco to a training three-day training
to a training three-day training
to a training three-day training intensive called guerrilla war tactics
intensive called guerrilla war tactics
intensive called guerrilla war tactics for women in business
for women in business
for women in business now imagine what I learned there imagine
now imagine what I learned there imagine
now imagine what I learned there imagine just think about it right long time ago
just think about it right long time ago
just think about it right long time ago 1980 25 years old and I was taught how
1980 25 years old and I was taught how
1980 25 years old and I was taught how to boom my voice lower my voice make
to boom my voice lower my voice make
to boom my voice lower my voice make sure it’s stuck on the back of the wall
sure it’s stuck on the back of the wall
sure it’s stuck on the back of the wall right spread my papers crack the first
right spread my papers crack the first
right spread my papers crack the first joke walk like a man talk like a man
joke walk like a man talk like a man
joke walk like a man talk like a man make sense and my boss at the end of
make sense and my boss at the end of
make sense and my boss at the end of that year you know when we have feedback
that year you know when we have feedback
that year you know when we have feedback evaluation forms
evaluation forms
evaluation forms she said she has become a very dangerous
she said she has become a very dangerous
she said she has become a very dangerous woman can you hear the catch-22 in that
woman can you hear the catch-22 in that
woman can you hear the catch-22 in that first you know I need a service training
first you know I need a service training
first you know I need a service training now I’m dangerous right but what was
now I’m dangerous right but what was
now I’m dangerous right but what was interesting about this is that inside
interesting about this is that inside
interesting about this is that inside Sony I did take on that male behavior
Sony I did take on that male behavior
Sony I did take on that male behavior back then but with my clients I was
back then but with my clients I was
back then but with my clients I was myself as you can see here I was
myself as you can see here I was
myself as you can see here I was collaborative as a listener and that’s
collaborative as a listener and that’s
collaborative as a listener and that’s why I was so effective but unfortunately
why I was so effective but unfortunately
why I was so effective but unfortunately in side the male culture I contorted
in side the male culture I contorted
in side the male culture I contorted myself to fake it now hopefully that
myself to fake it now hopefully that
myself to fake it now hopefully that doesn’t happen today but it certainly
doesn’t happen today but it certainly
doesn’t happen today but it certainly happened back then now what I did I was
happened back then now what I did I was
happened back then now what I did I was there for eight years and then I stopped
there for eight years and then I stopped
there for eight years and then I stopped and I said you know what I’m gonna coach
and I said you know what I’m gonna coach
and I said you know what I’m gonna coach women how to survive in business and I
women how to survive in business and I
women how to survive in business and I started these workshops for women to
started these workshops for women to
started these workshops for women to teach them what I was taught big mistake
teach them what I was taught big mistake
teach them what I was taught big mistake the first classroom that I was in there
the first classroom that I was in there
the first classroom that I was in there was a woman she was a female German
was a woman she was a female German
was a woman she was a female German scientist and she stood up in the
scientist and she stood up in the
scientist and she stood up in the classroom she said why are we here why
classroom she said why are we here why
classroom she said why are we here why are you treating us to fit into a male
are you treating us to fit into a male
are you treating us to fit into a male paradigm and guess what do you think I
paradigm and guess what do you think I
paradigm and guess what do you think I had one single intelligent answer to
had one single intelligent answer to
had one single intelligent answer to give her nothing nada niente Mizuno so I
give her nothing nada niente Mizuno so I
give her nothing nada niente Mizuno so I went home and I rethought it and I said
went home and I rethought it and I said
went home and I rethought it and I said you know what I have made a huge mistake
you know what I have made a huge mistake
you know what I have made a huge mistake it was actually pretty it was like one
it was actually pretty it was like one
it was actually pretty it was like one of the low points of my life you know I
of the low points of my life you know I
of the low points of my life you know I actually didn’t know what I didn’t know
actually didn’t know what I didn’t know
actually didn’t know what I didn’t know that men and women are different and
that men and women are different and
that men and women are different and really the key for me in my work was not
really the key for me in my work was not
really the key for me in my work was not to Train women to fit into the
to Train women to fit into the
to Train women to fit into the traditional paradigm but change the
traditional paradigm but change the
traditional paradigm but change the culture transform it so it’s conclusive
culture transform it so it’s conclusive
culture transform it so it’s conclusive of all kinds of differences so what you
of all kinds of differences so what you
of all kinds of differences so what you can see here
can see here
can see here is that we need to move from this man
is that we need to move from this man
is that we need to move from this man fake business this is the shoulder pass
fake business this is the shoulder pass
fake business this is the shoulder pass that I used to wear just so you know
that I used to wear just so you know
that I used to wear just so you know over those shoulders right here back
over those shoulders right here back
over those shoulders right here back like that to something else to really
like that to something else to really
like that to something else to really understand that men and women are
understand that men and women are
understand that men and women are different we are different boys and
different we are different boys and
different we are different boys and girls are different how many of you have
girls are different how many of you have
girls are different how many of you have children have you noticed the difference
children have you noticed the difference
children have you noticed the difference right just so you know I have seven
right just so you know I have seven
right just so you know I have seven children did you get over that for a
children did you get over that for a
children did you get over that for a moment right I got remarried I had four
moment right I got remarried I had four
moment right I got remarried I had four we made three that said right five boys
we made three that said right five boys
we made three that said right five boys two girls five boys two girls seven
two girls five boys two girls seven
two girls five boys two girls seven grandchildren six boys one girl so I
grandchildren six boys one girl so I
grandchildren six boys one girl so I have my own little lab at home we’re
have my own little lab at home we’re
have my own little lab at home we’re different now how are we different well
different now how are we different well
different now how are we different well you know what we didn’t start
you know what we didn’t start
you know what we didn’t start researching neuroscience of gender
researching neuroscience of gender
researching neuroscience of gender didn’t until 1990 isn’t that how long
didn’t until 1990 isn’t that how long
didn’t until 1990 isn’t that how long we’ve been around in this planet a long
we’ve been around in this planet a long
we’ve been around in this planet a long time right now the reason we didn’t
time right now the reason we didn’t
time right now the reason we didn’t start research till 1990 is that
start research till 1990 is that
start research till 1990 is that scientists were concerned about harming
scientists were concerned about harming
scientists were concerned about harming pregnant women which is a valid concern
pregnant women which is a valid concern
pregnant women which is a valid concern right and they assumed that men and
right and they assumed that men and
right and they assumed that men and women more or less the same so therefore
women more or less the same so therefore
women more or less the same so therefore they tested only men and male animals
they tested only men and male animals
they tested only men and male animals fascinating right here’s the problem
fascinating right here’s the problem
fascinating right here’s the problem every cell in our body has a gender
every cell in our body has a gender
every cell in our body has a gender every single cell and not studying that
every single cell and not studying that
every single cell and not studying that created a huge breakdown and it started
created a huge breakdown and it started
created a huge breakdown and it started with the female heart so the female
with the female heart so the female
with the female heart so the female heart is different it has different
heart is different it has different
heart is different it has different beats it’s got different protein
beats it’s got different protein
beats it’s got different protein compositions and for example a female
compositions and for example a female
compositions and for example a female heart attack shows up very different
heart attack shows up very different
heart attack shows up very different than men and doctors did not know that
than men and doctors did not know that
than men and doctors did not know that and they were literally sending women
and they were literally sending women
and they were literally sending women home to die like they thought they had
home to die like they thought they had
home to die like they thought they had the flu and they send them home because
the flu and they send them home because
the flu and they send them home because women had different symptoms right so
women had different symptoms right so
women had different symptoms right so that was create a kind of an explosion
that was create a kind of an explosion
that was create a kind of an explosion of research and what we saw was that
of research and what we saw was that
of research and what we saw was that were different in the very beginning of
were different in the very beginning of
were different in the very beginning of the first trimester first trimester
the first trimester first trimester
the first trimester first trimester where either X Y or X X male female or
where either X Y or X X male female or
where either X Y or X X male female or male and before we have a brain or heart
male and before we have a brain or heart
male and before we have a brain or heart it defines our gender I’m
it defines our gender I’m
it defines our gender I’m sorry some gender difference that you’re
sorry some gender difference that you’re
sorry some gender difference that you’re probably going to find pretty
probably going to find pretty
probably going to find pretty interesting I hope so how many women in
interesting I hope so how many women in
interesting I hope so how many women in this audience have ever asked a man when
this audience have ever asked a man when
this audience have ever asked a man when he’s relaxing what are you thinking and
he’s relaxing what are you thinking and
he’s relaxing what are you thinking and what does he say nothing now let me ask
what does he say nothing now let me ask
what does he say nothing now let me ask you this why is it that all over the
you this why is it that all over the
you this why is it that all over the world were never asked this question
world were never asked this question
world were never asked this question women say that it’s gotta be something
women say that it’s gotta be something
women say that it’s gotta be something to it right watch this is a male brain
to it right watch this is a male brain
to it right watch this is a male brain at rest right so you can see the
at rest right so you can see the
at rest right so you can see the activities there right digestion
activities there right digestion
activities there right digestion breathing all of that good stuff right
breathing all of that good stuff right
breathing all of that good stuff right but men are relaxing and by the way men
but men are relaxing and by the way men
but men are relaxing and by the way men and boys need to do this to de-stress
and boys need to do this to de-stress
and boys need to do this to de-stress and what we as women think is that
and what we as women think is that
and what we as women think is that they’re what they’re not talking to us
they’re what they’re not talking to us
they’re what they’re not talking to us they’re withholding we’ve got to try
they’re withholding we’ve got to try
they’re withholding we’ve got to try something else
something else
something else right no they’re relaxing and this is
right no they’re relaxing and this is
right no they’re relaxing and this is what they need to do because watch the
what they need to do because watch the
what they need to do because watch the female brain here this is the female
female brain here this is the female
female brain here this is the female brain arrest so the female brain at rest
brain arrest so the female brain at rest
brain arrest so the female brain at rest is this it’s as active as remain awake
is this it’s as active as remain awake
is this it’s as active as remain awake working on problems right and the key
working on problems right and the key
working on problems right and the key here is to really understand our
here is to really understand our
here is to really understand our differences and honor them not blame
differences and honor them not blame
differences and honor them not blame each other for our differences make
each other for our differences make
each other for our differences make sense let’s play this out and how it
sense let’s play this out and how it
sense let’s play this out and how it works
works
works how it plays out in the workplace so
how it plays out in the workplace so
how it plays out in the workplace so there’s an explosion of research that’s
there’s an explosion of research that’s
there’s an explosion of research that’s happened in this but I would just want
happened in this but I would just want
happened in this but I would just want to give you a little warning because men
to give you a little warning because men
to give you a little warning because men and women are different but there’s also
and women are different but there’s also
and women are different but there’s also a bell curve would you agree with that
a bell curve would you agree with that
a bell curve would you agree with that we can’t just leave here and say all men
we can’t just leave here and say all men
we can’t just leave here and say all men are there’s an old men and women of that
are there’s an old men and women of that
are there’s an old men and women of that yeah so I’ll show you what I mean by
yeah so I’ll show you what I mean by
yeah so I’ll show you what I mean by that but before that I’m going to really
that but before that I’m going to really
that but before that I’m going to really talk to boot you about the stats that
talk to boot you about the stats that
talk to boot you about the stats that you saw they were really great now we’re
you saw they were really great now we’re
you saw they were really great now we’re gonna have a little moment of some stats
gonna have a little moment of some stats
gonna have a little moment of some stats but just aren’t great and we haven’t
but just aren’t great and we haven’t
but just aren’t great and we haven’t made progress and this is something we
made progress and this is something we
made progress and this is something we really need to look at so let me show
really need to look at so let me show
really need to look at so let me show you
you
you so startup founders women are brilliant
so startup founders women are brilliant
so startup founders women are brilliant entrepreneurs I don’t know if know that
entrepreneurs I don’t know if know that
entrepreneurs I don’t know if know that I’m sure there’s women here they’re
I’m sure there’s women here they’re
I’m sure there’s women here they’re entrepreneurs that are brilliant right
entrepreneurs that are brilliant right
entrepreneurs that are brilliant right but look at this 17% and it hasn’t
but look at this 17% and it hasn’t
but look at this 17% and it hasn’t changed in the last five years this is
changed in the last five years this is
changed in the last five years this is us nine percent of women CEOs women have
us nine percent of women CEOs women have
us nine percent of women CEOs women have been in middle management for 30 years
in Denmark it’s been 50 years right and
in Denmark it’s been 50 years right and this is so interesting to me computer
this is so interesting to me computer
this is so interesting to me computer engineers are at 18%
engineers are at 18%
engineers are at 18% it used to be in the 80s
it used to be in the 80s
it used to be in the 80s 37% what happened
37% what happened
37% what happened women make brilliant engineers what
women make brilliant engineers what
women make brilliant engineers what happened right when Melinda Gates
happened right when Melinda Gates
happened right when Melinda Gates graduated from engineering 30% students
graduated from engineering 30% students
graduated from engineering 30% students graduated with her we assume that women
graduated with her we assume that women
graduated with her we assume that women leave because of what having babies
leave because of what having babies
leave because of what having babies right right work-life balance reasons in
right right work-life balance reasons in
right right work-life balance reasons in the engineering world only 11 percent of
the engineering world only 11 percent of
the engineering world only 11 percent of women left for that reason the other
women left for that reason the other
women left for that reason the other reason was even though we tend to leave
reason was even though we tend to leave
reason was even though we tend to leave and say we leave for personal reasons so
and say we leave for personal reasons so
and say we leave for personal reasons so it kind of creates that myth the other
it kind of creates that myth the other
it kind of creates that myth the other was that women didn’t feel valued for
was that women didn’t feel valued for
was that women didn’t feel valued for their authentic self they didn’t see a
their authentic self they didn’t see a
their authentic self they didn’t see a future inside the company and the
future inside the company and the
future inside the company and the culture didn’t engage them that’s what’s
culture didn’t engage them that’s what’s
culture didn’t engage them that’s what’s happening in engineering and it’s
happening in engineering and it’s
happening in engineering and it’s happening in other parts of the world so
happening in other parts of the world so
happening in other parts of the world so what I say is if we look at it from not
what I say is if we look at it from not
what I say is if we look at it from not great minds think alike but great minds
great minds think alike but great minds
great minds think alike but great minds think alike and watch what I’m saying
think alike and watch what I’m saying
think alike and watch what I’m saying now I just want to mention something
now I just want to mention something
now I just want to mention something because I’m talking about women a lot so
because I’m talking about women a lot so
because I’m talking about women a lot so far yeah men have challenges too
far yeah men have challenges too
far yeah men have challenges too especially in the context of gender men
especially in the context of gender men
especially in the context of gender men feel political correct they feel they
feel political correct they feel they
feel political correct they feel they have to be careful and cautious right
have to be careful and cautious right
have to be careful and cautious right men it’s really fascinating one of the
men it’s really fascinating one of the
men it’s really fascinating one of the things we do when we do Diagnostics we
things we do when we do Diagnostics we
things we do when we do Diagnostics we see that men the number one challenge
see that men the number one challenge
see that men the number one challenge they have is giving sensitive feedback
they have is giving sensitive feedback
they have is giving sensitive feedback to women which can be a huge challenge
to women which can be a huge challenge
to women which can be a huge challenge so keep in mind that their challenges
so keep in mind that their challenges
so keep in mind that their challenges for men as well now I mentioned there’s
for men as well now I mentioned there’s
for men as well now I mentioned there’s a bell curve in everything so we are
a bell curve in everything so we are
a bell curve in everything so we are similar and we’re different so let’s
similar and we’re different so let’s
similar and we’re different so let’s look at some of these differences now
look at some of these differences now
look at some of these differences now keep in mind that we’re looking in the
keep in mind that we’re looking in the
keep in mind that we’re looking in the norms there are all kinds of other
norms there are all kinds of other
norms there are all kinds of other differences gay transgender and
differences gay transgender and
differences gay transgender and many more differences within the bell
many more differences within the bell
many more differences within the bell curve but for now we’re just going to
curve but for now we’re just going to
curve but for now we’re just going to look at the norms this is the prefrontal
look at the norms this is the prefrontal
look at the norms this is the prefrontal cortex by the way for those who have
cortex by the way for those who have
cortex by the way for those who have daughters or sons I have some good news
daughters or sons I have some good news
daughters or sons I have some good news and bad news
and bad news
and bad news right so the prefrontal cortices the
right so the prefrontal cortices the
right so the prefrontal cortices the consequence of thinking of the brain it
consequence of thinking of the brain it
consequence of thinking of the brain it developed earlier in guess who girls
developed earlier in guess who girls
developed earlier in guess who girls later and guess who boys and I remember
later and guess who boys and I remember
later and guess who boys and I remember sitting with my sons in there as their
sitting with my sons in there as their
sitting with my sons in there as their teens and I would say okay explain to me
teens and I would say okay explain to me
teens and I would say okay explain to me when you did that what were you thinking
when you did that what were you thinking
when you did that what were you thinking guess what he said exactly do you got it
guess what he said exactly do you got it
guess what he said exactly do you got it right now let’s put it in the workplace
right now let’s put it in the workplace
right now let’s put it in the workplace the prefrontal cortex is the
the prefrontal cortex is the
the prefrontal cortex is the consequential thinking of the brain so
consequential thinking of the brain so
consequential thinking of the brain so if you’re in a meeting men and you have
if you’re in a meeting men and you have
if you’re in a meeting men and you have women there and they say it say things
women there and they say it say things
women there and they say it say things like wait a minute let’s think about
like wait a minute let’s think about
like wait a minute let’s think about this long-term and how it might affect
this long-term and how it might affect
this long-term and how it might affect over here over here over here that’s an
over here over here over here that’s an
over here over here over here that’s an asset that women can bring right and men
asset that women can bring right and men
asset that women can bring right and men really want to get the action would you
really want to get the action would you
really want to get the action would you agree what are we gonna do and how we’re
agree what are we gonna do and how we’re
agree what are we gonna do and how we’re gonna do it and when we’re gonna do it
gonna do it and when we’re gonna do it
gonna do it and when we’re gonna do it the combination of both is really the
the combination of both is really the
the combination of both is really the win-win one is not better than the other
win-win one is not better than the other
win-win one is not better than the other it’s just a different approach
the amygdala you’ve probably read a lot
the amygdala you’ve probably read a lot about the amygdala but it’s a fight and
about the amygdala but it’s a fight and
about the amygdala but it’s a fight and flight center of the brain but what’s
flight center of the brain but what’s
flight center of the brain but what’s interesting that’s happening here is it
interesting that’s happening here is it
interesting that’s happening here is it calm so in difficult situations how many
calm so in difficult situations how many
calm so in difficult situations how many of you have mothers in difficult
of you have mothers in difficult
of you have mothers in difficult situations women tend to calm the
situations women tend to calm the
situations women tend to calm the situation right imagine if we had the
situation right imagine if we had the
situation right imagine if we had the most complex difficult situation we had
most complex difficult situation we had
most complex difficult situation we had women at the table like politics just a
women at the table like politics just a
women at the table like politics just a thought
thought
thought right governments all over the world war
right governments all over the world war
right governments all over the world war right risky business like Wall Street
right risky business like Wall Street
right risky business like Wall Street this is an interesting combination I
this is an interesting combination I
this is an interesting combination I wrote an article gender blind spots on
wrote an article gender blind spots on
wrote an article gender blind spots on Wall Street please grab it it talks
Wall Street please grab it it talks
Wall Street please grab it it talks about this now the insula how many women
about this now the insula how many women
about this now the insula how many women have had an intuition and you’ve talked
have had an intuition and you’ve talked
have had an intuition and you’ve talked yourself out of it and then you say oh
yourself out of it and then you say oh
yourself out of it and then you say oh my god I knew
my god I knew
my god I knew all along yeah trust your intuition
all along yeah trust your intuition
all along yeah trust your intuition women have that intuitive sense and in
women have that intuitive sense and in
women have that intuitive sense and in meetings experiment with these
meetings experiment with these
meetings experiment with these differences don’t take my word for it
differences don’t take my word for it
differences don’t take my word for it but these differences show up all the
but these differences show up all the
but these differences show up all the time how women remember everything it’s
time how women remember everything it’s
time how women remember everything it’s just connected for us we can remember
just connected for us we can remember
just connected for us we can remember all the earliest situations dating back
all the earliest situations dating back
all the earliest situations dating back to the first date right it’s connected
to the first date right it’s connected
to the first date right it’s connected and for men it’s not connected men
and for men it’s not connected men
and for men it’s not connected men remember the gist of it but not the
remember the gist of it but not the
remember the gist of it but not the actual memory and we misinterpret men
actual memory and we misinterpret men
actual memory and we misinterpret men don’t we we say well if he doesn’t
don’t we we say well if he doesn’t
don’t we we say well if he doesn’t remember that wonderful vacation we went
remember that wonderful vacation we went
remember that wonderful vacation we went to and all the details we did right
to and all the details we did right
to and all the details we did right obviously he wasn’t particularly engaged
obviously he wasn’t particularly engaged
obviously he wasn’t particularly engaged in application you with me so there’s
in application you with me so there’s
in application you with me so there’s those potential misinterpretation of
those potential misinterpretation of
those potential misinterpretation of differences so this is what I find
differences so this is what I find
differences so this is what I find really fascinating at this for a long
really fascinating at this for a long
really fascinating at this for a long time all over the world men find this
time all over the world men find this
time all over the world men find this conversation incredibly freeing what do
conversation incredibly freeing what do
conversation incredibly freeing what do I mean by that men say we can actually
I mean by that men say we can actually
I mean by that men say we can actually talk about this remember the politically
talk about this remember the politically
talk about this remember the politically correct challenges we can actually have
correct challenges we can actually have
correct challenges we can actually have this conversation and women find it
this conversation and women find it
this conversation and women find it incredibly validating and I’ll give you
incredibly validating and I’ll give you
incredibly validating and I’ll give you two examples
two examples
two examples I had a CEO who was very concerned about
I had a CEO who was very concerned about
I had a CEO who was very concerned about bringing these topics up saw the
bringing these topics up saw the
bringing these topics up saw the differences but really thought they’ve
differences but really thought they’ve
differences but really thought they’ve gone through bias training and all kinds
gone through bias training and all kinds
gone through bias training and all kinds of things and thought oh no we can’t
of things and thought oh no we can’t
of things and thought oh no we can’t talk about that but I see it with my
talk about that but I see it with my
talk about that but I see it with my daughter I see it with my wife and I see
daughter I see it with my wife and I see
daughter I see it with my wife and I see it with my female colleagues but we’re
it with my female colleagues but we’re
it with my female colleagues but we’re not talking about it right when they
not talking about it right when they
not talking about it right when they went through the science he really got
went through the science he really got
went through the science he really got to open up there was a woman in Silicon
to open up there was a woman in Silicon
to open up there was a woman in Silicon Valley who was in an audience in the
Valley who was in an audience in the
Valley who was in an audience in the science he was an engineer and she heard
science he was an engineer and she heard
science he was an engineer and she heard the science and she said and I heard her
the science and she said and I heard her
the science and she said and I heard her the table she was it was a breakout
the table she was it was a breakout
the table she was it was a breakout table and she said and I thought there
table and she said and I thought there
table and she said and I thought there was something wrong with me now you got
was something wrong with me now you got
was something wrong with me now you got to get this when I was at Sony I thought
to get this when I was at Sony I thought
to get this when I was at Sony I thought there was something wrong with me I had
there was something wrong with me I had
there was something wrong with me I had a coach for a long time I met him once a
a coach for a long time I met him once a
a coach for a long time I met him once a week at lunch and I said I can’t stand
week at lunch and I said I can’t stand
week at lunch and I said I can’t stand this anymore he’s suck it up and get
this anymore he’s suck it up and get
this anymore he’s suck it up and get back in there
back in there
back in there right who wants to suck it up and get
right who wants to suck it up and get
right who wants to suck it up and get back in there for the rest their lives
back in there for the rest their lives
back in there for the rest their lives right she found incredibly validating so
right she found incredibly validating so
right she found incredibly validating so I’m going to share two stories with you
I’m going to share two stories with you
I’m going to share two stories with you one is with millennial sales guy who was
one is with millennial sales guy who was
one is with millennial sales guy who was in charge of a technology company global
in charge of a technology company global
in charge of a technology company global sales business and he said this he said
sales business and he said this he said
sales business and he said this he said I had no idea I treated everybody
I had no idea I treated everybody
I had no idea I treated everybody equally therefore I treated them the
equally therefore I treated them the
equally therefore I treated them the same I have no women on my sales team
same I have no women on my sales team
same I have no women on my sales team but I didn’t think it mattered at all
but I didn’t think it mattered at all
but I didn’t think it mattered at all no women this is 2017 no women in sales
no women this is 2017 no women in sales
no women this is 2017 no women in sales team didn’t matter at all he took a
team didn’t matter at all he took a
team didn’t matter at all he took a stand and he transformed his sales team
stand and he transformed his sales team
stand and he transformed his sales team and he has 50 50 men and women and he
and he has 50 50 men and women and he
and he has 50 50 men and women and he says different words a little more rude
says different words a little more rude
says different words a little more rude than I would say so I’m gonna say it
than I would say so I’m gonna say it
than I would say so I’m gonna say it differently
differently
differently he says paraphrasing we have gotten the
he says paraphrasing we have gotten the
he says paraphrasing we have gotten the best results we ever had but not only
best results we ever had but not only
best results we ever had but not only that my team is so engaged other people
that my team is so engaged other people
that my team is so engaged other people come to our offices and say what are you
come to our offices and say what are you
come to our offices and say what are you smoking
smoking
smoking because they’re so engaged together men
because they’re so engaged together men
because they’re so engaged together men and women working and winning together
and women working and winning together
and women working and winning together another example is a engineering firm
another example is a engineering firm
another example is a engineering firm that was command-and-control
that was command-and-control
that was command-and-control hierarchical siloed you get what I’m
hierarchical siloed you get what I’m
hierarchical siloed you get what I’m saying right
saying right
saying right very traditional engineering and we did
very traditional engineering and we did
very traditional engineering and we did a diagnostic and I showed it to the
a diagnostic and I showed it to the
a diagnostic and I showed it to the senior team it wasn’t pretty how they
senior team it wasn’t pretty how they
senior team it wasn’t pretty how they reacted just so you know in terms of how
reacted just so you know in terms of how
reacted just so you know in terms of how women were feeling but the CEO took a
women were feeling but the CEO took a
women were feeling but the CEO took a stand and he said we’re going all the
stand and he said we’re going all the
stand and he said we’re going all the way with this and this is the first time
way with this and this is the first time
way with this and this is the first time I’ve seen this timeline on this to keep
I’ve seen this timeline on this to keep
I’ve seen this timeline on this to keep in mind in nine months get this nine
in mind in nine months get this nine
in mind in nine months get this nine months that’s like a pregnancy right
months that’s like a pregnancy right
months that’s like a pregnancy right they transformed that culture to an
they transformed that culture to an
they transformed that culture to an inclusive culture and this is what a
inclusive culture and this is what a
inclusive culture and this is what a woman who was Ted had been there – an
woman who was Ted had been there – an
woman who was Ted had been there – an engineer for 22 years she said I have
engineer for 22 years she said I have
engineer for 22 years she said I have never felt so valued and included my CEO
never felt so valued and included my CEO
never felt so valued and included my CEO calls me and asked me for my opinion
calls me and asked me for my opinion
calls me and asked me for my opinion remember command and control
remember command and control
remember command and control hierarchical right it’s like a won a
hierarchical right it’s like a won a
hierarchical right it’s like a won a million dollars so that’s the
million dollars so that’s the
million dollars so that’s the possibility to really engage in this
possibility to really engage in this
possibility to really engage in this conversation now imagine
conversation now imagine
conversation now imagine if we could create a world where we move
if we could create a world where we move
if we could create a world where we move through the distinction of great minds
through the distinction of great minds
through the distinction of great minds think alike to create my distinct
think alike to create my distinct
think alike to create my distinct unalike what if we appreciated those
unalike what if we appreciated those
unalike what if we appreciated those different differences we’ve seen
different differences we’ve seen
different differences we’ve seen organizations be able to do that all
organizations be able to do that all
organizations be able to do that all over the world we need a lot more you
over the world we need a lot more you
over the world we need a lot more you know we’re failing at educating boys in
know we’re failing at educating boys in
know we’re failing at educating boys in elementary school today because we don’t
elementary school today because we don’t
elementary school today because we don’t understand the differences imagine if we
understand the differences imagine if we
understand the differences imagine if we could bring that to the equation to
could bring that to the equation to
could bring that to the equation to create gender intelligent teachers
create gender intelligent teachers
create gender intelligent teachers general intelligence leaders so my dream
general intelligence leaders so my dream
general intelligence leaders so my dream of course I have to tell you my dream
of course I have to tell you my dream
of course I have to tell you my dream right is to create a world that works
right is to create a world that works
right is to create a world that works for everyone is to create a world where
for everyone is to create a world where
for everyone is to create a world where we valued girls and boys for the
we valued girls and boys for the
we valued girls and boys for the contributions they brought imagine think
contributions they brought imagine think
contributions they brought imagine think of certain countries imagine if that
of certain countries imagine if that
of certain countries imagine if that happened thank you
happened thank you
happened thank you [Applause]
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