if you can remember far back enough you’ll remember 2016 2016 wasn’t a great
you’ll remember 2016 2016 wasn’t a great
you’ll remember 2016 2016 wasn’t a great time there was animosity caused by the
time there was animosity caused by the
time there was animosity caused by the presidential race there was the Dallas
presidential race there was the Dallas
presidential race there was the Dallas police shooting the Orlando shooting and
police shooting the Orlando shooting and
police shooting the Orlando shooting and it seemed like there were a ton of
it seemed like there were a ton of
it seemed like there were a ton of events last year that really showcased
events last year that really showcased
events last year that really showcased our countries and the world’s lack of
our countries and the world’s lack of
our countries and the world’s lack of empathy from all sides of social
empathy from all sides of social
empathy from all sides of social dilemmas now a lot of media outlets and
dilemmas now a lot of media outlets and
dilemmas now a lot of media outlets and people have discussed this so-called
people have discussed this so-called
people have discussed this so-called lack of empathy where it came from
lack of empathy where it came from
lack of empathy where it came from and how to get rid of it and a lot of
and how to get rid of it and a lot of
and how to get rid of it and a lot of people agree that this lack of empathy
people agree that this lack of empathy
people agree that this lack of empathy is results of people only listening to
is results of people only listening to
is results of people only listening to or watching to new watching news that
or watching to new watching news that
or watching to new watching news that they politically agree with and I can’t
they politically agree with and I can’t
they politically agree with and I can’t say I disagree but I also believe that
say I disagree but I also believe that
say I disagree but I also believe that the cause of this lack of empathy is
the cause of this lack of empathy is
the cause of this lack of empathy is much more fundamental and it starts with
much more fundamental and it starts with
much more fundamental and it starts with people telling us to find our groove now
people telling us to find our groove now
people telling us to find our groove now this is Naviance almost every public
this is Naviance almost every public
this is Naviance almost every public high school in the country uses this
high school in the country uses this
high school in the country uses this wonderful and magical machine Naviance
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wonderful and magical machine Naviance is a website that helps high school
is a website that helps high school
is a website that helps high school students find what they are passionate
students find what they are passionate
students find what they are passionate about non-violence will help you find an
about non-violence will help you find an
about non-violence will help you find an interests it will help you find a
interests it will help you find a
interests it will help you find a college that supports that interests and
college that supports that interests and
college that supports that interests and then hopefully a job career that you can
then hopefully a job career that you can
then hopefully a job career that you can pursue Naviance knows more about you
pursue Naviance knows more about you
pursue Naviance knows more about you than you know about you Naviance will
than you know about you Naviance will
than you know about you Naviance will help you find your groove my name is
help you find your groove my name is
help you find your groove my name is phillip bliss I am a senior at West Lake
phillip bliss I am a senior at West Lake
phillip bliss I am a senior at West Lake High School but Naviance didn’t work for
High School but Naviance didn’t work for
High School but Naviance didn’t work for me like every freshman at Westlake High
me like every freshman at Westlake High
me like every freshman at Westlake High School I was given an account so I could
School I was given an account so I could
School I was given an account so I could identify my strengths and hopefully
identify my strengths and hopefully
identify my strengths and hopefully stick to them over the next four years
stick to them over the next four years
stick to them over the next four years with the ultimate goal of kick starting
with the ultimate goal of kick starting
with the ultimate goal of kick starting my career
my career
my career as soon as possible thus I could steer
as soon as possible thus I could steer
as soon as possible thus I could steer early and have a head start over the
early and have a head start over the
early and have a head start over the people who joined my career later in
people who joined my career later in
people who joined my career later in life but there was a problem after I
life but there was a problem after I
life but there was a problem after I filled out the Naviance personality and
filled out the Naviance personality and
filled out the Naviance personality and profession finding questionnaires
profession finding questionnaires
profession finding questionnaires Naviance could not specify what I was
Naviance could not specify what I was
Naviance could not specify what I was interested in my future ranged from
interested in my future ranged from
interested in my future ranged from lawyer to architects to farmer and to
lawyer to architects to farmer and to
lawyer to architects to farmer and to understand that why I failed so
understand that why I failed so
understand that why I failed so miserably here’s a little background on
miserably here’s a little background on
miserably here’s a little background on me ever since I was little my parents
me ever since I was little my parents
me ever since I was little my parents had this desire to make me what they
had this desire to make me what they
had this desire to make me what they thought was well-rounded so I ended up
thought was well-rounded so I ended up
thought was well-rounded so I ended up participating in a lot of activities
participating in a lot of activities
participating in a lot of activities that really don’t seem to go together
that really don’t seem to go together
that really don’t seem to go together I now play have been playing violin for
I now play have been playing violin for
I now play have been playing violin for about 12 years and I’ve been playing
about 12 years and I’ve been playing
about 12 years and I’ve been playing lacrosse for about seven years and
lacrosse for about seven years and
lacrosse for about seven years and before I played lacrosse I played hockey
before I played lacrosse I played hockey
before I played lacrosse I played hockey in combination with violin now being a
in combination with violin now being a
in combination with violin now being a violin playing lacrosse player or a
violin playing lacrosse player or a
violin playing lacrosse player or a lacrosse playing violinist doesn’t make
lacrosse playing violinist doesn’t make
lacrosse playing violinist doesn’t make any sense at all
any sense at all
any sense at all violin requires agile and healthy
violin requires agile and healthy
violin requires agile and healthy fingers while lacrosse spends most of
fingers while lacrosse spends most of
fingers while lacrosse spends most of its time trying to break those fingers
its time trying to break those fingers
its time trying to break those fingers with metal sticks but actually the
with metal sticks but actually the
with metal sticks but actually the biggest difference between violin and
biggest difference between violin and
biggest difference between violin and the crosses the mindsets required for
the crosses the mindsets required for
the crosses the mindsets required for each now if you’re a musician or
each now if you’re a musician or
each now if you’re a musician or especially a classical musician that
especially a classical musician that
especially a classical musician that then you know that success in an
then you know that success in an
then you know that success in an instrument like violin requires really
instrument like violin requires really
instrument like violin requires really intense focus on precision movements
intense focus on precision movements
intense focus on precision movements every fingering every vibrato with every
every fingering every vibrato with every
every fingering every vibrato with every dynamic change and even emotional phrase
dynamic change and even emotional phrase
dynamic change and even emotional phrase is plans through arduous hours of hard
is plans through arduous hours of hard
is plans through arduous hours of hard work this is the kind of thinking that
work this is the kind of thinking that
work this is the kind of thinking that will actually hurt lacrosse performance
will actually hurt lacrosse performance
will actually hurt lacrosse performance which relies more on instincts action to
which relies more on instincts action to
which relies more on instincts action to succeed with a little bit of brute force
succeed with a little bit of brute force
succeed with a little bit of brute force now
now
now as long as I can remember I’ve been
as long as I can remember I’ve been
as long as I can remember I’ve been exposed to these two mindsets because I
exposed to these two mindsets because I
exposed to these two mindsets because I never really found a groove
never really found a groove
never really found a groove I never specialized and as a result I’ve
I never specialized and as a result I’ve
I never specialized and as a result I’ve spent a lot of equal time with two
spent a lot of equal time with two
spent a lot of equal time with two groups that are fairly polar on the
groups that are fairly polar on the
groups that are fairly polar on the social spectrum and here come the
social spectrum and here come the
social spectrum and here come the starett first we have the orchestra
starett first we have the orchestra
starett first we have the orchestra nerds primarily of in the sense the
nerds primarily of in the sense the
nerds primarily of in the sense the orchestra nerds at my school have a an
orchestra nerds at my school have a an
orchestra nerds at my school have a an average GPA of four point seven which is
average GPA of four point seven which is
average GPA of four point seven which is pretty high the orchestra nerds spend
pretty high the orchestra nerds spend
pretty high the orchestra nerds spend their time doing school talking about
their time doing school talking about
their time doing school talking about schoolwork practicing their instruments
schoolwork practicing their instruments
schoolwork practicing their instruments and figuring out new places to get bobba
the other side of the spectrum are the
the other side of the spectrum are the lacrosse players or otherwise known as
lacrosse players or otherwise known as
lacrosse players or otherwise known as the blacks pros lacrosse players at my
the blacks pros lacrosse players at my
the blacks pros lacrosse players at my school have an average GPA of 3.7 which
school have an average GPA of 3.7 which
school have an average GPA of 3.7 which is a little bit lower and they spend
is a little bit lower and they spend
is a little bit lower and they spend their free time doing sports talk sports
their free time doing sports talk sports
their free time doing sports talk sports looking as preppy as possible and
looking as preppy as possible and
looking as preppy as possible and occasionally talking about girls with
occasionally talking about girls with
occasionally talking about girls with the utmost respect
the utmost respect
the utmost respect now while this second group may not be
now while this second group may not be
now while this second group may not be the best standard for academically
the best standard for academically
the best standard for academically driven or well behaved kids in
driven or well behaved kids in
driven or well behaved kids in comparison to the orchestra students
comparison to the orchestra students
comparison to the orchestra students I’ve still managed to grow fond of both
I’ve still managed to grow fond of both
I’ve still managed to grow fond of both groups I relate to both groups in
groups I relate to both groups in
groups I relate to both groups in different ways and if you’ve taken any
different ways and if you’ve taken any
different ways and if you’ve taken any psychology courses then you know that
psychology courses then you know that
psychology courses then you know that this is a lot of the mere-exposure
this is a lot of the mere-exposure
this is a lot of the mere-exposure effect which means that the more time
effect which means that the more time
effect which means that the more time you spend with someone the more you tend
you spend with someone the more you tend
you spend with someone the more you tend to relate to that person and like that
to relate to that person and like that
to relate to that person and like that person now this is actually why I didn’t
person now this is actually why I didn’t
person now this is actually why I didn’t do all the Naviance tests because I
do all the Naviance tests because I
do all the Naviance tests because I spent an equal time with these two poll
spent an equal time with these two poll
spent an equal time with these two poll groups
groups
groups so in general orchestra kids tend to be
so in general orchestra kids tend to be
so in general orchestra kids tend to be more interested in STEM careers this
more interested in STEM careers this
more interested in STEM careers this most likely relates to the intense focus
most likely relates to the intense focus
most likely relates to the intense focus on precision movements that we see in
on precision movements that we see in
on precision movements that we see in classical instruments like violin on the
classical instruments like violin on the
classical instruments like violin on the other hands a lot of lacrosse players
other hands a lot of lacrosse players
other hands a lot of lacrosse players are interested in banking and finance
are interested in banking and finance
are interested in banking and finance careers which relates more to the
careers which relates more to the
careers which relates more to the instincts and anticipation that you see
instincts and anticipation that you see
instincts and anticipation that you see in lacrosse but when I filled out the
in lacrosse but when I filled out the
in lacrosse but when I filled out the Naviance
Naviance
Naviance questionnaires I mixed these two
questionnaires I mixed these two
questionnaires I mixed these two mindsets which resulted in an
mindsets which resulted in an
mindsets which resulted in an unsuccessful hybrid and by the time that
unsuccessful hybrid and by the time that
unsuccessful hybrid and by the time that I realized what was the problem a lot of
I realized what was the problem a lot of
I realized what was the problem a lot of my friends had already started
my friends had already started
my friends had already started specializing maybe not technically but I
specializing maybe not technically but I
specializing maybe not technically but I noticed that a lot of my orchestra
noticed that a lot of my orchestra
noticed that a lot of my orchestra friends were decidedly more interested
friends were decidedly more interested
friends were decidedly more interested in their math and science classes even
in their math and science classes even
in their math and science classes even though they still had to take humanities
though they still had to take humanities
though they still had to take humanities courses and the opposite happened to a
courses and the opposite happened to a
courses and the opposite happened to a lot of my lacrosse friends and the worst
lot of my lacrosse friends and the worst
lot of my lacrosse friends and the worst thing about all of this was that my two
thing about all of this was that my two
thing about all of this was that my two friend groups seemed to grow farther and
friend groups seemed to grow farther and
friend groups seemed to grow farther and farther apart it’s you know violinists
farther apart it’s you know violinists
farther apart it’s you know violinists and lacrosse players have never been
and lacrosse players have never been
and lacrosse players have never been known to mingle but it seemed that as
known to mingle but it seemed that as
known to mingle but it seemed that as both groups specialized they grew into
both groups specialized they grew into
both groups specialized they grew into completely completely separate worlds
completely completely separate worlds
completely completely separate worlds now my lacrosse friends think of my
now my lacrosse friends think of my
now my lacrosse friends think of my orchestra friends as wimpy nerds and my
orchestra friends as wimpy nerds and my
orchestra friends as wimpy nerds and my orchestra friends think of my lacrosse
orchestra friends think of my lacrosse
orchestra friends think of my lacrosse friends as dumb and worthless jocks so I
friends as dumb and worthless jocks so I
friends as dumb and worthless jocks so I especially noticed this when I was
especially noticed this when I was
especially noticed this when I was listening to political conversations and
listening to political conversations and
listening to political conversations and both of my friend groups so again in
both of my friend groups so again in
both of my friend groups so again in general Orchestra students tend to be
general Orchestra students tend to be
general Orchestra students tend to be more politically liberal and lacrosse
more politically liberal and lacrosse
more politically liberal and lacrosse players politically conservative and as
players politically conservative and as
players politically conservative and as I was listening to conversations and
I was listening to conversations and
I was listening to conversations and both friend groups I noticed that
both friend groups I noticed that
both friend groups I noticed that everyone in one friend group would
everyone in one friend group would
everyone in one friend group would pretty much agree on every topic they
pretty much agree on every topic they
pretty much agree on every topic they would leave the conversation convinced
would leave the conversation convinced
would leave the conversation convinced that they were right and there was no
that they were right and there was no
that they were right and there was no point to a valid opposing arguments and
point to a valid opposing arguments and
point to a valid opposing arguments and this is where finding your groove goes
this is where finding your groove goes
this is where finding your groove goes wrong
wrong
wrong as my friend groups as the members of my
as my friend groups as the members of my
as my friend groups as the members of my friend of my friend groups became so
friend of my friend groups became so
friend of my friend groups became so comfortable in their own cliques they
comfortable in their own cliques they
comfortable in their own cliques they limit their exposure to different types
limit their exposure to different types
limit their exposure to different types of people and different ways of thinking
of people and different ways of thinking
of people and different ways of thinking they grow a false sense of the
they grow a false sense of the
they grow a false sense of the sensibilities everyone around them
sensibilities everyone around them
sensibilities everyone around them and by being unable to adequately
and by being unable to adequately
and by being unable to adequately empathize with others they’re unable to
empathize with others they’re unable to
empathize with others they’re unable to resolve potential conflicts that needs
resolve potential conflicts that needs
resolve potential conflicts that needs an understanding to solve this is the
an understanding to solve this is the
an understanding to solve this is the same lack of empathy that we see on the
same lack of empathy that we see on the
same lack of empathy that we see on the news every day now Naviance may not be
news every day now Naviance may not be
news every day now Naviance may not be the root cause of this divide but it’s
the root cause of this divide but it’s
the root cause of this divide but it’s just another example of the craze the
just another example of the craze the
just another example of the craze the craze that everyone needs to find a
craze that everyone needs to find a
craze that everyone needs to find a groove in this case it’s the early
groove in this case it’s the early
groove in this case it’s the early specialization that so many kids are
specialization that so many kids are
specialization that so many kids are forced to go through from earlier and
forced to go through from earlier and
forced to go through from earlier and earlier on kids are pressured to focus
earlier on kids are pressured to focus
earlier on kids are pressured to focus on one activity so that basic can
on one activity so that basic can
on one activity so that basic can succeed in a rising level of competition
succeed in a rising level of competition
succeed in a rising level of competition and we’ve seen this early specialization
and we’ve seen this early specialization
and we’ve seen this early specialization work in cases such as Tiger Woods but it
work in cases such as Tiger Woods but it
work in cases such as Tiger Woods but it doesn’t always work and I’ve seen it
doesn’t always work and I’ve seen it
doesn’t always work and I’ve seen it divide my friends it’s divided them the
divide my friends it’s divided them the
divide my friends it’s divided them the same way that’s I’ve seen people across
same way that’s I’ve seen people across
same way that’s I’ve seen people across the country and across the world divided
the country and across the world divided
the country and across the world divided by their inability to adequately
by their inability to adequately
by their inability to adequately empathize with one another so finding
empathize with one another so finding
empathize with one another so finding your groove might feel good at first
your groove might feel good at first
your groove might feel good at first eventually that groove can become a rut
eventually that groove can become a rut
eventually that groove can become a rut that you follow without thinking and
that you follow without thinking and
that you follow without thinking and soon you’re stuck in one profession
soon you’re stuck in one profession
soon you’re stuck in one profession surrounded by a bunch of people who are
surrounded by a bunch of people who are
surrounded by a bunch of people who are exactly the same as we saw last year the
exactly the same as we saw last year the
exactly the same as we saw last year the consequences of this could be a little
consequences of this could be a little
consequences of this could be a little bit more severe than we think so
bit more severe than we think so
bit more severe than we think so don’t find a groove don’t listen to
don’t find a groove don’t listen to
don’t find a groove don’t listen to these TEDx kids
step beyond your intellectual comfort
step beyond your intellectual comfort you may not like it
you may not like it
you may not like it experiencing someone else’s groove but
experiencing someone else’s groove but
experiencing someone else’s groove but your involvement will help to prevent
your involvement will help to prevent
your involvement will help to prevent more years like 2016 thank you
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