Very good evening.
I’m very glad I’m here with you.
I will share an experience with you, a story.
We are in the morning on a corridor in a school
and two girls, who seem to be friends,
they make one that passes across the corridor,
they fool her about her clothes, the way she walks,
for the way he speaks,
generally they are ridiculing it.
He says to each other, “Again yesterday we broke our nerves,
we crippled again, the dog’s nausea became “.
The other,
“Yes I know, I think it does it on purpose,
and listens and understands, just does not understand. “
The girl, therefore, who was the victim of the case,
in fact it was deaf.
She could understand that someone was kissing her,
she could understand that she did not like those two girls,
but could not find the strength to respond to all of this.
He felt weak and vulnerable.
So, he kept going with a bent head,
as invisible as possible,
not to be targeted.
This was not the first time.
It was done for the first time for accuracy
from the beginning of the school year.
Almost on a daily basis they had something to say about this girl.
Other times he cried, sometimes disappeared.
Anyway, he was trying in some way to defend himself,
to survive there.
Because, then, many people watched this incident,
among them a girl,
because injustice has stifled her,
this time he decided to speak.
And he first asked the two girls who were sneering the deaf girl:
“Why do you do this,
what do you gain from all this?
I personally am very angry,
I want to react to all this, I want to stop. “
The two girls looked at her ironically and said,
“Go further, you may be the next,
and we do so, so we know and we can do it. “
The girl did not want to stop there,
caught those who were watching
and they did not even watch for the first time.
And he asked, “Why do not you do something?
to react and stop all this?
And how would you feel if you were in this position?
Would you like it? And who expects you not to be the next? “
Some laughed as the other two girls froliced the deaf girl,
that is, they were allied with the other two.
Some responded a little bored and they said
“It does not matter, something has not happened,
from the moment we are not yet the target we missed. “
Another said, “Okay, put some water in your wine,
and no talk fell down,
something did not happen at the end. Oh, a plaque we did. “
Very likely to believe
that this story is still a story of school bullying
of the many we’ve heard, we’ve seen in social media
or on television.
Generally, school bullying sounds too much.
But the truth is that this time
the story is true and it is not about students.
It concerns adults and concerns workers.
And even the age of the workers is over 30.
Indeed, some are close to 50.
So the question arises as to what the school maids are doing
when they grow up and become adults?
Is there any work-related bullying in school bullying?
The other day I was talking to a mother in the treatment we are doing,
and he said to me that “There is no problem that my son is very lively
and intimidates the other children
because I have heard that when someone is a lively little,
the moment he grows he becomes the best child “.
Myth is this.
This is not the case.
Therefore, there is workplace bullying
and in fact they are like some
never to leave school yard.
They continue the same behavior,
just as they were in the courtyard of the school
so they are frightened, for example, in the corridor of work,
or in the canteen of their work.
So let’s see what the bullying profile is in the workplace.
Because they are not all fucked up, they are not all offenders.
They have some specific personality traits.
I do not know if you have heard the story of Narcissus from ancient mythology.
Narcissus is a deeply in love with himself,
who in the end, from the very love he had with himself,
absorbed so much that eventually drowned in the river.
You see that he is looking at himself in the river.
So, so is the modern narcissus-bully
has some specific features.
He is deeply absorbed in himself.
He is very self-centered.
He wants to always pass his own.
He seems arrogant and authoritarian,
but in fact all this is fake,
is fragile.
He shows to believe in himself, seems to have self-esteem,
but that’s not the way.
He is a person who is in absolute need of attention
and is also in absolute need of bumps and cliques,
to feel it has value.
Therefore, narcissus, who is the bully in the working environment,
he needs people to support him in what he does,
in order to weaken others and strengthen oneself.
What methods does it use to achieve this?
That’s exactly what the bully uses at school.
She despises in various ways,
can use any form of violence,
psychological, emotional, verbal and physical.
Do not be impressed, even in workplaces
we have heard cases of physical violence.
It grossises,
usually in public, as we said, in the presence of other people,
humiliates.
Another way is to create rumors that do not have a true basis.
But in this way his victim seems less moral.
So it can affect the rest of the world at work.
Social networks have also become very fashionable.
Can the bully out of the workplace send,
for example, a Facebook message to his victim,
or create a whole group
who will upload pictures, will speak badly about his victim,
will even organize an action plan for the coming days
how to weaken his victim.
At the end it becomes an obsession with all this.
And of course, we said, if he does not find allies, he can not continue all this.
So who is the bully, where does it come from?
Why can the question arise?
“But, well, from what family environment comes from,
or where are these people? “
They are among us and there are not many.
We will then look at some statistics.
The bully, then, builds this behavior, this way of thinking.
It usually comes from families
who have not learned to solve their conflicts.
They have not learned to speak in their home.
Equally the opposite, they think that you are going to fall on corpses
is a way of survival, a means of survival so it must be done.
If you ask the bully if she understands
if what he does, has a negative impact on his victim,
he will probably answer ‘no’
does not understand that this is bad or is wrong.
On the contrary, he thinks it is right.
He is a man who has no empathy,
what we psychologists say,
can not get into the shoes of the other.
He can not understand the other, can not feel the feelings,
the thoughts and reactions of the other.
Everything that escapes from its microcosm is a target.
On the other hand, he does not randomly choose his victims.
Victims are usually individuals
which may have many qualifications in the workplace.
They can be people who have a high position,
that’s why they become even bigger targets.
Surveys usually show that women are more often drowsy
in the workplace and intimidate other women.
Also target are people who differ,
as is the case in school.
It may differ in its appearance, the victim.
He may have some disability,
as in the case we just mentioned,
be dear, have some other kinetic problem,
have a health problem.
Everything that differs in general draws attention,
such as in school, and in the working environment.
What can we do, then,
because I guess we will all agree that we can not continue
if we perceive such a situation.
In America there is the Institute for Labor Intimidation.
There, workers can report such incidents
and indeed in America and Northern Europe,
mainly in Scandinavia,
they can also face legal sanctions
at the level of mischief the dads.
Therefore, it has appeared that the incidents have decreased somewhat
precisely because there was a social policy and a specialized legal framework.
In Greece, however, there is still not much specialized.
There is no specific legislation.
What a victim can do if he wants to go legal is
to sue against the violation of his personal dignity.
We hope, of course, that a similar center will be created in the future
with that of America because there are few cases
and we hope that the legal framework will also come under special regulation
which, why not, is considered a misdemeanor, as is seen in other countries.
To see what happened next with the story we just mentioned.
The girl who was the victim changed the workplace.
He asked to move to another workplace because he did not withstand pressure.
The girl who drowned her right was me and I felt too troubled,
so I am among you and I wanted to share this experience.
Why do I want to pass the message to you
that if you are a victim, try to talk,
do not hold it in you, it makes no sense.
Find allies, find people to support you.
Under no circumstances do you consider that you are responsible for all this.
If you are an offender, try to find out what is really what makes you angry.
Because if you have your own family, personal problems,
no one is at fault in the workplace.
If you are an observer, try not to enter any clique,
however, if you are taking a position,
take a seat to be able to find a solution all together,
so that we have a good cooperation in the working environment.
To see some percentages, why the numbers are talking on their own.
20%, according to America,
has been intimidated at work,
there is no small percentage.
At present, 7% is experiencing work-related intimidation.
21% are witnesses, 23% know what it means labor intimidation
and another 28% do not know,
so people should be sensitized,
to know that, yes, there is labor intimidation
and, yes, we can do things to deal with.
We live, therefore, in a society that we tend to have
to repress our feelings, our thoughts,
not to give weight to what we feel.
Through this speech I want to send you the message that it is good
to give a basis, to give weight to our thoughts, our feelings
and our reactions.
Thank you.
(Clap)
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