my best friend has an expression she says life just happens eighteen
she says life just happens eighteen
she says life just happens eighteen years ago the 30th of April 1998 at
years ago the 30th of April 1998 at
years ago the 30th of April 1998 at exactly 12:30 my wife and I they have an
exactly 12:30 my wife and I they have an
exactly 12:30 my wife and I they have an appointment at hooding your hospitals
appointment at hooding your hospitals
appointment at hooding your hospitals out of stock or our son has gone through
out of stock or our son has gone through
out of stock or our son has gone through a number of tests and we were about to
a number of tests and we were about to
a number of tests and we were about to get results as many of you already know
get results as many of you already know
get results as many of you already know children than they are six months 18
children than they are six months 18
children than they are six months 18 months and three years old their mental
months and three years old their mental
months and three years old their mental and physical developments are tested we
and physical developments are tested we
and physical developments are tested we stepped into the doctor’s office it’s a
stepped into the doctor’s office it’s a
stepped into the doctor’s office it’s a white called very sterile and very
white called very sterile and very
white called very sterile and very unwelcome an office like any other
unwelcome an office like any other
unwelcome an office like any other hospital room that the doctor started
hospital room that the doctor started
hospital room that the doctor started explaining to us that our son’s
explaining to us that our son’s
explaining to us that our son’s perception of the world was totally
perception of the world was totally
perception of the world was totally different than others it was if as if he
different than others it was if as if he
different than others it was if as if he was living in his own world
was living in his own world
was living in his own world my wife was then more knowledgeable
my wife was then more knowledgeable
my wife was then more knowledgeable socialist that our question is she is he
socialist that our question is she is he
socialist that our question is she is he a logistic she said the doctor gently
a logistic she said the doctor gently
a logistic she said the doctor gently avoid the answer the question directly
avoid the answer the question directly
avoid the answer the question directly and she continually explained after a
and she continually explained after a
and she continually explained after a few minutes and an awkward silence she
few minutes and an awkward silence she
few minutes and an awkward silence she finally says yes your son is autistic or
son was autistic
son was autistic that was his diagnosis
they got back home I was driving but I
they got back home I was driving but I have no memory whatsoever having at home
have no memory whatsoever having at home
have no memory whatsoever having at home it was blank in my head I come from a
it was blank in my head I come from a
it was blank in my head I come from a male-dominated culture I’m an engineer
male-dominated culture I’m an engineer
male-dominated culture I’m an engineer done my military services as an officer
done my military services as an officer
done my military services as an officer in the Turkish army I am 190 tall made a
in the Turkish army I am 190 tall made a
in the Turkish army I am 190 tall made a turkey steel tough guy had big muscles
turkey steel tough guy had big muscles
turkey steel tough guy had big muscles in my culture there are certain and
in my culture there are certain and
in my culture there are certain and simple set of rules things are either
simple set of rules things are either
simple set of rules things are either black or white right or wrong good or
black or white right or wrong good or
black or white right or wrong good or bad but for this specific answer and the
bad but for this specific answer and the
bad but for this specific answer and the diagnosis there were no answers I was
diagnosis there were no answers I was
diagnosis there were no answers I was ordered answers and when it happens I
ordered answers and when it happens I
ordered answers and when it happens I have a tendency to get nerdy another
have a tendency to get nerdy another
have a tendency to get nerdy another Mina you know cute nerdy I’m in a weird
Mina you know cute nerdy I’m in a weird
Mina you know cute nerdy I’m in a weird way and on the detailed and I studied
way and on the detailed and I studied
way and on the detailed and I studied about things in 1998 it’s free Internet
about things in 1998 it’s free Internet
about things in 1998 it’s free Internet ages there was no Google I couldn’t just
ages there was no Google I couldn’t just
ages there was no Google I couldn’t just google it so I went to the library I
google it so I went to the library I
google it so I went to the library I went to library bar of a bunch of books
went to library bar of a bunch of books
went to library bar of a bunch of books 20 maybe 25 books and I start reading
20 maybe 25 books and I start reading
20 maybe 25 books and I start reading into the topic I wanted to know anything
into the topic I wanted to know anything
into the topic I wanted to know anything and everything about autism I want to
and everything about autism I want to
and everything about autism I want to know what the cause was
know what the cause was
know what the cause was I wanted to know can this be helped
I wanted to know can this be helped
I wanted to know can this be helped what can we do what can I do in one of
what can we do what can I do in one of
what can we do what can I do in one of the books I read it said something like
the books I read it said something like
the books I read it said something like children with autism have a behavior
children with autism have a behavior
children with autism have a behavior that they repeat and then when they
that they repeat and then when they
that they repeat and then when they repeat that behavior they feel comfort
repeat that behavior they feel comfort
repeat that behavior they feel comfort and secure children with autism have a
and secure children with autism have a
and secure children with autism have a behavior that they repeat and when they
behavior that they repeat and when they
behavior that they repeat and when they repeat that behavior they feel comfort
repeat that behavior they feel comfort
repeat that behavior they feel comfort and secure so we decided me and my wife
and secure so we decided me and my wife
and secure so we decided me and my wife to start observing our son and very soon
to start observing our son and very soon
to start observing our son and very soon we found out yet that behavior our son
we found out yet that behavior our son
we found out yet that behavior our son enjoyed sitting on the kitchen floor and
enjoyed sitting on the kitchen floor and
enjoyed sitting on the kitchen floor and spinning a coin so I joined him
spinning a coin so I joined him
spinning a coin so I joined him he’s on my side I just said beside him
he’s on my side I just said beside him
he’s on my side I just said beside him there is no contact his business going
there is no contact his business going
there is no contact his business going and I spent my going every day for at
and I spent my going every day for at
and I spent my going every day for at least two hours after dinner a Vika past
least two hours after dinner a Vika past
least two hours after dinner a Vika past two weeks three weeks one month two
two weeks three weeks one month two
two weeks three weeks one month two months the shimmering lights of the
months the shimmering lights of the
months the shimmering lights of the sunset was turning our kitchen into a
sunset was turning our kitchen into a
sunset was turning our kitchen into a disco ball three months and four months
disco ball three months and four months
disco ball three months and four months and after a wine over so much into it so
and after a wine over so much into it so
and after a wine over so much into it so if you just listen to the verbal
if you just listen to the verbal
if you just listen to the verbal annoyance now pay attention now even
annoyance now pay attention now even
annoyance now pay attention now even here magic happening isn’t it beautiful
let me share a secret video I still spin
let me share a secret video I still spin a coin when I’m by myself maybe in a
a coin when I’m by myself maybe in a
a coin when I’m by myself maybe in a coffee house in a restaurant maybe maybe
coffee house in a restaurant maybe maybe
coffee house in a restaurant maybe maybe at work and people are on they may think
at work and people are on they may think
at work and people are on they may think that I’m weird and strange and they’re
that I’m weird and strange and they’re
that I’m weird and strange and they’re welcome to do so that’s when I find
welcome to do so that’s when I find
welcome to do so that’s when I find comfort feel secure and close to my son
comfort feel secure and close to my son
comfort feel secure and close to my son after five months and two weeks as of a
after five months and two weeks as of a
after five months and two weeks as of a spinning one coin I realized that my son
spinning one coin I realized that my son
spinning one coin I realized that my son stopped spinning his and moves around he
stopped spinning his and moves around he
stopped spinning his and moves around he sits right across me but I’m so much
sits right across me but I’m so much
sits right across me but I’m so much into my own coin spinning our continued
into my own coin spinning our continued
into my own coin spinning our continued after 15 minutes or so I see his hand
after 15 minutes or so I see his hand
after 15 minutes or so I see his hand reaching out he grabs my arm he fills me
reaching out he grabs my arm he fills me
reaching out he grabs my arm he fills me toward him and for the first time for
toward him and for the first time for
toward him and for the first time for the first time ever we have eye contact
the first time ever we have eye contact
the first time ever we have eye contact real eye contact for the first time ever
real eye contact for the first time ever
real eye contact for the first time ever I get to see into host:is beautiful eyes
I get to see into host:is beautiful eyes
I get to see into host:is beautiful eyes into this beautiful world what a
into this beautiful world what a
into this beautiful world what a beautiful thought that was and a very
beautiful thought that was and a very
beautiful thought that was and a very big beautiful world that is I understood
big beautiful world that is I understood
big beautiful world that is I understood then that if you want to create a real
then that if you want to create a real
then that if you want to create a real human connection a real human relation
human connection a real human relation
human connection a real human relation you want to do things on his terms
you want to do things on his terms
you want to do things on his terms appreciate what he appreciates
appreciate what he appreciates
appreciate what he appreciates understand what he understands then he
understand what he understands then he
understand what he understands then he can feel the joy the pain what they feel
can feel the joy the pain what they feel
can feel the joy the pain what they feel only then you can create the strongest
only then you can create the strongest
only then you can create the strongest relationship shifts ever whether if it’s
relationship shifts ever whether if it’s
relationship shifts ever whether if it’s with your son your daughter your brother
with your son your daughter your brother
with your son your daughter your brother your sister your neighbor your friend
your sister your neighbor your friend
your sister your neighbor your friend your colleague or your customer only
your colleague or your customer only
your colleague or your customer only then you can create the strongest
then you can create the strongest
then you can create the strongest relationships ever
in it only costs one Swedish kronor or
in it only costs one Swedish kronor or whatever currency you may have you spin
whatever currency you may have you spin
whatever currency you may have you spin that coin for five months and two weeks
that coin for five months and two weeks
that coin for five months and two weeks life just happened
there is massive research about health
there is massive research about health mental health conditions in the world
mental health conditions in the world
mental health conditions in the world and the latest research indicates that
and the latest research indicates that
and the latest research indicates that children born with autism increase
children born with autism increase
children born with autism increase rapidly and continue to do so is that
rapidly and continue to do so is that
rapidly and continue to do so is that good or is that bad the fact the numbers
good or is that bad the fact the numbers
good or is that bad the fact the numbers our number is increasing so rapidly is
our number is increasing so rapidly is
our number is increasing so rapidly is that a threat or an opportunity as an
that a threat or an opportunity as an
that a threat or an opportunity as an entrepreneur I know that diversity van
entrepreneur I know that diversity van
entrepreneur I know that diversity van well-managed
well-managed
well-managed with inclusive leadership means
with inclusive leadership means
with inclusive leadership means competitive edge and profitability so
competitive edge and profitability so
competitive edge and profitability so very few and I hear an avi decide on a
very few and I hear an avi decide on a
very few and I hear an avi decide on a paradigm shift you and I we decided
paradigm shift you and I we decided
paradigm shift you and I we decided there are no disabilities there are only
there are no disabilities there are only
there are no disabilities there are only special abilities and there are no
special abilities and there are no
special abilities and there are no diagnosis there are only superpowers I
have an idea – Ravi the superpower he
have an idea – Ravi the superpower he has multiple superpowers and one of his
has multiple superpowers and one of his
has multiple superpowers and one of his superpowers has changed my my
superpowers has changed my my
superpowers has changed my my professional life tremendously
professional life tremendously
professional life tremendously especially when it comes to how I handle
especially when it comes to how I handle
especially when it comes to how I handle my meetings and I do it and many many
my meetings and I do it and many many
my meetings and I do it and many many meetings in my days before I was the
meetings in my days before I was the
meetings in my days before I was the person who went to any meeting at an
person who went to any meeting at an
person who went to any meeting at an animating and dominated meeting to get
animating and dominated meeting to get
animating and dominated meeting to get the results I needed but these days I am
the results I needed but these days I am
the results I needed but these days I am more I have another approach I take my
more I have another approach I take my
more I have another approach I take my time to tune in and try to identify all
time to tune in and try to identify all
time to tune in and try to identify all the different stakeholders for our daily
the different stakeholders for our daily
the different stakeholders for our daily needs what do they want an adulterant
needs what do they want an adulterant
needs what do they want an adulterant try to provide an environment where
try to provide an environment where
try to provide an environment where everybody the others can perform to the
everybody the others can perform to the
everybody the others can perform to the best of their abilities and you know
best of their abilities and you know
best of their abilities and you know what things seems to get quicker many
what things seems to get quicker many
what things seems to get quicker many thoughts better and I don’t have to do
thoughts better and I don’t have to do
thoughts better and I don’t have to do all the work good deal
I’m just going to ask you close your
I’m just going to ask you close your eyes for a moment close your eyes think
eyes for a moment close your eyes think
eyes for a moment close your eyes think about people the differences I want you
about people the differences I want you
about people the differences I want you to think about one special person in
to think about one special person in
to think about one special person in your life yet really in touch with your
your life yet really in touch with your
your life yet really in touch with your feelings
feelings
feelings have the you field people the diversity
have the you field people the diversity
have the you field people the diversity are all around us you may open your eyes
are all around us you may open your eyes
are all around us you may open your eyes now open your eyes open your hearts and
now open your eyes open your hearts and
now open your eyes open your hearts and open your mind to see the differences
look around people with special
look around people with special abilities and superpowers are closer to
abilities and superpowers are closer to
abilities and superpowers are closer to you than you think maybe sitting right
you than you think maybe sitting right
you than you think maybe sitting right next to you
so I’m gonna ask you to go out there and
so I’m gonna ask you to go out there and find your unusual guru someone who’s
find your unusual guru someone who’s
find your unusual guru someone who’s different someone who sees the world
different someone who sees the world
different someone who sees the world differently I promise you your your life
differently I promise you your your life
differently I promise you your your life will take a turn for the better
will take a turn for the better
will take a turn for the better I promise your life will never be the
I promise your life will never be the
I promise your life will never be the same yes of course I wanted to enter
same yes of course I wanted to enter
same yes of course I wanted to enter into my son’s world never would I think
into my son’s world never would I think
into my son’s world never would I think that a coin would be Dicky into such
that a coin would be Dicky into such
that a coin would be Dicky into such beautiful world full of beauty and
beautiful world full of beauty and
beautiful world full of beauty and wisdom my gurus wisdom and guidance has
wisdom my gurus wisdom and guidance has
wisdom my gurus wisdom and guidance has formed me and transmitted referred to
formed me and transmitted referred to
formed me and transmitted referred to the person in front of you doing one of
the person in front of you doing one of
the person in front of you doing one of the most Friday frightening things I can
the most Friday frightening things I can
the most Friday frightening things I can think of I am Who I am thanks to my guru
think of I am Who I am thanks to my guru
think of I am Who I am thanks to my guru I do what I do thanks to my guru my son
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