[Applause] beautiful search the term feminist what
beautiful search the term feminist what
beautiful search the term feminist what is it you think you’d find go on do it
is it you think you’d find go on do it
is it you think you’d find go on do it and while you’re doing it consider this
and while you’re doing it consider this
and while you’re doing it consider this is what you’re seeing portraying angry
is what you’re seeing portraying angry
is what you’re seeing portraying angry women
women
women picket signs the reasonable campaign
picket signs the reasonable campaign
picket signs the reasonable campaign group the elusive redhead now generally
group the elusive redhead now generally
group the elusive redhead now generally speaking when we think of this term
speaking when we think of this term
speaking when we think of this term feminist the first image to pop into our
feminist the first image to pop into our
feminist the first image to pop into our heads is usually just that angry women
heads is usually just that angry women
heads is usually just that angry women with picket signs protesting against I
with picket signs protesting against I
with picket signs protesting against I don’t know fair wages cases of sexual
don’t know fair wages cases of sexual
don’t know fair wages cases of sexual violence or abort anti-abortion laws now
violence or abort anti-abortion laws now
violence or abort anti-abortion laws now can you even envision an alternate
can you even envision an alternate
can you even envision an alternate reality which when you made that exact
reality which when you made that exact
reality which when you made that exact same Google search my face popped up
allow me to introduce myself my name is
allow me to introduce myself my name is Nick and two things that you must know
Nick and two things that you must know
Nick and two things that you must know about me or that I have a tendency to
about me or that I have a tendency to
about me or that I have a tendency to look like a Tyrannosaurus Rex when I get
look like a Tyrannosaurus Rex when I get
look like a Tyrannosaurus Rex when I get a really enthusiastic about anything and
a really enthusiastic about anything and
a really enthusiastic about anything and I am an AB feminist and before I go into
I am an AB feminist and before I go into
I am an AB feminist and before I go into what feminism means to me there are some
what feminism means to me there are some
what feminism means to me there are some misconceptions that I feel I must clear
misconceptions that I feel I must clear
misconceptions that I feel I must clear up that you may have and that Google
up that you may have and that Google
up that you may have and that Google really has for starters there is a
really has for starters there is a
really has for starters there is a substantial difference between militant
substantial difference between militant
substantial difference between militant feminism and what I like to call
feminism and what I like to call
feminism and what I like to call realistic feminism bills in feminism is
realistic feminism bills in feminism is
realistic feminism bills in feminism is in no way different than the opposite
in no way different than the opposite
in no way different than the opposite extreme misogyny militant feminism is
extreme misogyny militant feminism is
extreme misogyny militant feminism is man-hating
man-hating
man-hating plain and simple now in a different
plain and simple now in a different
plain and simple now in a different sphere realistic feminists strive for
sphere realistic feminists strive for
sphere realistic feminists strive for both the equality and equity of both
both the equality and equity of both
both the equality and equity of both genders and while there are a great many
genders and while there are a great many
genders and while there are a great many realistic feminists out there the
realistic feminists out there the
realistic feminists out there the preachings of militant feminists are the
preachings of militant feminists are the
preachings of militant feminists are the first to reach our ears seemingly only
first to reach our ears seemingly only
first to reach our ears seemingly only because they can yell more loudly and
because they can yell more loudly and
because they can yell more loudly and this takes us back to a Google search
this takes us back to a Google search
this takes us back to a Google search the media has thus perpetrated an image
the media has thus perpetrated an image
the media has thus perpetrated an image wholly inaccurate of feminism as with
wholly inaccurate of feminism as with
wholly inaccurate of feminism as with all groups whether political religious
all groups whether political religious
all groups whether political religious or activists the members that should be
or activists the members that should be
or activists the members that should be heard are often the ones that are
heard are often the ones that are
heard are often the ones that are drowned out but this isn’t to discredit
drowned out but this isn’t to discredit
drowned out but this isn’t to discredit the enormous strides taken in the last
the enormous strides taken in the last
the enormous strides taken in the last 150 years you’ve got a long road ahead
150 years you’ve got a long road ahead
150 years you’ve got a long road ahead of us
of us
of us there’s no point in stopping not now
there’s no point in stopping not now
there’s no point in stopping not now what feminism means to me may be
what feminism means to me may be
what feminism means to me may be different from the set definition every
different from the set definition every
different from the set definition every day I wake up and I go to school and my
day I wake up and I go to school and my
day I wake up and I go to school and my mom goes to work and generally speaking
mom goes to work and generally speaking
mom goes to work and generally speaking that’s been our paradigm for the last 17
that’s been our paradigm for the last 17
that’s been our paradigm for the last 17 years mind you she’s actually had a life
years mind you she’s actually had a life
years mind you she’s actually had a life before me so she’s been doing this for
before me so she’s been doing this for
before me so she’s been doing this for quite some time
quite some time
quite some time feminism for me is women going out and
feminism for me is women going out and
feminism for me is women going out and making them a name for themselves
making them a name for themselves
making them a name for themselves providing if you will it’s my mom
providing if you will it’s my mom
providing if you will it’s my mom being the best boss meaty person
being the best boss meaty person
being the best boss meaty person imaginable it’s one of my best friends
imaginable it’s one of my best friends
imaginable it’s one of my best friends being one of the smartest in the grade
being one of the smartest in the grade
being one of the smartest in the grade well also juggling an exhausting social
well also juggling an exhausting social
well also juggling an exhausting social life and a series of other horrible
life and a series of other horrible
life and a series of other horrible teenage responsibilities that I’m sure
teenage responsibilities that I’m sure
teenage responsibilities that I’m sure we’re all terribly familiar with and
we’re all terribly familiar with and
we’re all terribly familiar with and it’s me staying on one side standing up
it’s me staying on one side standing up
it’s me staying on one side standing up for what I believe is right for what I
for what I believe is right for what I
for what I believe is right for what I believe we all as individuals deserve
believe we all as individuals deserve
believe we all as individuals deserve that’s equal footing so I ask regardless
that’s equal footing so I ask regardless
that’s equal footing so I ask regardless of gender or age to help shed this false
of gender or age to help shed this false
of gender or age to help shed this false identity feminism even the men out there
identity feminism even the men out there
identity feminism even the men out there especially the men out there since the
especially the men out there since the
especially the men out there since the dawn of civilization there has been this
dawn of civilization there has been this
dawn of civilization there has been this notion that all men are meant to be
notion that all men are meant to be
notion that all men are meant to be these strong powerful stoic creatures
these strong powerful stoic creatures
these strong powerful stoic creatures sculpted out of marble and with the
sculpted out of marble and with the
sculpted out of marble and with the sweep of an armed man commands an entire
sweep of an armed man commands an entire
sweep of an armed man commands an entire army and declares himself protector of
army and declares himself protector of
army and declares himself protector of all that is good and pure I mean we’ve
all that is good and pure I mean we’ve
all that is good and pure I mean we’ve seen this all throughout history right
seen this all throughout history right
seen this all throughout history right the entirety of Spartan culture the mere
the entirety of Spartan culture the mere
the entirety of Spartan culture the mere existence of Alexander the Great Chris
existence of Alexander the Great Chris
existence of Alexander the Great Chris Evans men you don’t have to look like
Evans men you don’t have to look like
Evans men you don’t have to look like that we don’t have to look to such an
that we don’t have to look to such an
that we don’t have to look to such an unrealistic expectation which society
unrealistic expectation which society
unrealistic expectation which society unfortunately it’s just thrust upon us
unfortunately it’s just thrust upon us
unfortunately it’s just thrust upon us and this is especially important for our
and this is especially important for our
and this is especially important for our young boys who are thinking that this is
young boys who are thinking that this is
young boys who are thinking that this is what being a man is all about being a
what being a man is all about being a
what being a man is all about being a man is complicated being a woman is
man is complicated being a woman is
man is complicated being a woman is complicated
complicated
complicated being human is complicated that’s just a
being human is complicated that’s just a
being human is complicated that’s just a fact of life in all cases as we’ve seen
fact of life in all cases as we’ve seen
fact of life in all cases as we’ve seen there seems to be this sort of big
there seems to be this sort of big
there seems to be this sort of big standard that we imagine ourselves
standard that we imagine ourselves
standard that we imagine ourselves needing to live by so I ask you do we
needing to live by so I ask you do we
needing to live by so I ask you do we really need to live by these standards
really need to live by these standards
really need to live by these standards and if your answer is no then well why
and if your answer is no then well why
and if your answer is no then well why do we just
do we just
do we just that way to be human there’s no set way
that way to be human there’s no set way
that way to be human there’s no set way to being a man as well being a man means
to being a man as well being a man means
to being a man as well being a man means more than brawn and protein shakes being
more than brawn and protein shakes being
more than brawn and protein shakes being a man means more than innate empowerment
a man means more than innate empowerment
a man means more than innate empowerment being a man means knowing how would you
being a man means knowing how would you
being a man means knowing how would you use that power and when and where to use
use that power and when and where to use
use that power and when and where to use that power to stand up for your
that power to stand up for your
that power to stand up for your daughters and sisters and wives and
daughters and sisters and wives and
daughters and sisters and wives and mothers because there are some men as
mothers because there are some men as
mothers because there are some men as there are some women who don’t take this
there are some women who don’t take this
there are some women who don’t take this seriously enough and we need to show
seriously enough and we need to show
seriously enough and we need to show them that we mean business and that
them that we mean business and that
them that we mean business and that change is inevitable
change is inevitable
change is inevitable yes it’s taken us this long to come this
yes it’s taken us this long to come this
yes it’s taken us this long to come this far but it takes so many years for coal
far but it takes so many years for coal
far but it takes so many years for coal to turn into a diamond now the other
to turn into a diamond now the other
to turn into a diamond now the other reason we should take us take this into
reason we should take us take this into
reason we should take us take this into consideration is for the sake of our
consideration is for the sake of our
consideration is for the sake of our poor horrible malleable fluctuating self
poor horrible malleable fluctuating self
poor horrible malleable fluctuating self esteems like many of you I spend an
esteems like many of you I spend an
esteems like many of you I spend an inordinate amount of time on the
inordinate amount of time on the
inordinate amount of time on the internet and as mentioned in the
internet and as mentioned in the
internet and as mentioned in the previous talk by Megan Ramsey boys and
previous talk by Megan Ramsey boys and
previous talk by Megan Ramsey boys and girls are constantly and heavily
girls are constantly and heavily
girls are constantly and heavily bombarded by body Stander’s or as we the
bombarded by body Stander’s or as we the
bombarded by body Stander’s or as we the youth call it body goals and for those
youth call it body goals and for those
youth call it body goals and for those of us that don’t meet these requirements
of us that don’t meet these requirements
of us that don’t meet these requirements it cuts especially deep but for as long
it cuts especially deep but for as long
it cuts especially deep but for as long as society has been talking about body
as society has been talking about body
as society has been talking about body image for girls we seem to have
image for girls we seem to have
image for girls we seem to have forgotten that this hurts boys just as
forgotten that this hurts boys just as
forgotten that this hurts boys just as badly particularly because we are meant
badly particularly because we are meant
badly particularly because we are meant to be strong and silent and not express
to be strong and silent and not express
to be strong and silent and not express pain regardless of the circumstance no
pain regardless of the circumstance no
pain regardless of the circumstance no one looks like that rather in incredibly
one looks like that rather in incredibly
one looks like that rather in incredibly small percentage of population actually
small percentage of population actually
small percentage of population actually looks like that and that’s what’s
looks like that and that’s what’s
looks like that and that’s what’s considered attractive sorry
considered attractive sorry
considered attractive sorry no real guy is sculpted like an Adonis
no real guy is sculpted like an Adonis
no real guy is sculpted like an Adonis and also happens to be 64 we’re told
and also happens to be 64 we’re told
and also happens to be 64 we’re told from an entirely young age to be happy
from an entirely young age to be happy
from an entirely young age to be happy with who we are so why aren’t we it’s
with who we are so why aren’t we it’s
with who we are so why aren’t we it’s entirely possible that it’s something
entirely possible that it’s something
entirely possible that it’s something primitive something Neolithic like how
primitive something Neolithic like how
primitive something Neolithic like how when we were Neanderthals women with
when we were Neanderthals women with
when we were Neanderthals women with larger breasts and wider hips were
larger breasts and wider hips were
larger breasts and wider hips were always preferred because it meant a
always preferred because it meant a
always preferred because it meant a better chance of one us passing down our
better chance of one us passing down our
better chance of one us passing down our genes and to the offspring actually
genes and to the offspring actually
genes and to the offspring actually surviving same goes for males at the
surviving same goes for males at the
surviving same goes for males at the time bigger and beefier males were
time bigger and beefier males were
time bigger and beefier males were always preferred because it meant a
always preferred because it meant a
always preferred because it meant a better chance of one defending the tribe
better chance of one defending the tribe
better chance of one defending the tribe from enemy invaders and to defending the
from enemy invaders and to defending the
from enemy invaders and to defending the tribe from while
tribe from while
tribe from while animals but let’s face it are we really
animals but let’s face it are we really
animals but let’s face it are we really fighting with other tribes over
fighting with other tribes over
fighting with other tribes over territory and natural resources and are
territory and natural resources and are
territory and natural resources and are we really bending off attacks from wild
we really bending off attacks from wild
we really bending off attacks from wild boars every other day in a modern sense
boars every other day in a modern sense
boars every other day in a modern sense it’s because these same standards have
it’s because these same standards have
it’s because these same standards have prevailed they’ve only just adapted with
prevailed they’ve only just adapted with
prevailed they’ve only just adapted with the times and if feminism has based
the times and if feminism has based
the times and if feminism has based itself on anything it’s disrupting these
itself on anything it’s disrupting these
itself on anything it’s disrupting these same standards for women
same standards for women
same standards for women so let’s disrupt some per men in the
so let’s disrupt some per men in the
so let’s disrupt some per men in the process so we talked we’ve talked about
process so we talked we’ve talked about
process so we talked we’ve talked about how about society’s perceptions of the
how about society’s perceptions of the
how about society’s perceptions of the body specifically yours like you as an
body specifically yours like you as an
body specifically yours like you as an individual and how you have a right to
individual and how you have a right to
individual and how you have a right to look a certain way and be treated a
look a certain way and be treated a
look a certain way and be treated a certain way now do you also have a right
certain way now do you also have a right
certain way now do you also have a right so the way you are treated physically
so the way you are treated physically
so the way you are treated physically you may want to embrace yourself as I
you may want to embrace yourself as I
you may want to embrace yourself as I move into the second more explicit and
move into the second more explicit and
move into the second more explicit and personal area of my talk sexual violence
personal area of my talk sexual violence
personal area of my talk sexual violence it’s not a joke the word rape is tossed
it’s not a joke the word rape is tossed
it’s not a joke the word rape is tossed around like it doesn’t mean what it does
around like it doesn’t mean what it does
around like it doesn’t mean what it does and I know this from personal experience
and I know this from personal experience
and I know this from personal experience a particularly common joke amongst
a particularly common joke amongst
a particularly common joke amongst teenage boys makes light of prison rape
teenage boys makes light of prison rape
teenage boys makes light of prison rape for example don’t drop the soap or
for example don’t drop the soap or
for example don’t drop the soap or aren’t morning hookups fun not if you’re
aren’t morning hookups fun not if you’re
aren’t morning hookups fun not if you’re in prison mind you these are only two of
in prison mind you these are only two of
in prison mind you these are only two of a multitude of other existing and
a multitude of other existing and
a multitude of other existing and popular rape jokes
popular rape jokes
popular rape jokes and what these jokes to do with their
and what these jokes to do with their
and what these jokes to do with their constant reinforcement is that they act
constant reinforcement is that they act
constant reinforcement is that they act as a sort of numbing agent on our
as a sort of numbing agent on our
as a sort of numbing agent on our collective minds making us young boys
collective minds making us young boys
collective minds making us young boys think that this sort of thing can’t and
think that this sort of thing can’t and
think that this sort of thing can’t and won’t happen much less hit anyone we
won’t happen much less hit anyone we
won’t happen much less hit anyone we actually care about an incredibly close
actually care about an incredibly close
actually care about an incredibly close friend of mine was sexually assaulted
friend of mine was sexually assaulted
friend of mine was sexually assaulted last night and some of you may be
last night and some of you may be
last night and some of you may be thinking oh he’s only talking about this
thinking oh he’s only talking about this
thinking oh he’s only talking about this and he only cares because this happened
and he only cares because this happened
and he only cares because this happened someone close to him wrong this is the
someone close to him wrong this is the
someone close to him wrong this is the second time it’s happened and I never
second time it’s happened and I never
second time it’s happened and I never want to let it happen again
want to let it happen again
want to let it happen again but I can’t do that no one person can do
but I can’t do that no one person can do
but I can’t do that no one person can do that so how do we go about facing this
that so how do we go about facing this
that so how do we go about facing this reality
reality
reality step one is protect yourself in both
step one is protect yourself in both
step one is protect yourself in both these cases the big the perpetrators
these cases the big the perpetrators
these cases the big the perpetrators with someone close someone trusted the
with someone close someone trusted the
with someone close someone trusted the notion that you are going to be snatched
notion that you are going to be snatched
notion that you are going to be snatched off the street and have unspeakable
off the street and have unspeakable
off the street and have unspeakable things done to you in the back of some
things done to you in the back of some
things done to you in the back of some bad
bad
bad by some creepy stranger is mostly wrong
by some creepy stranger is mostly wrong
by some creepy stranger is mostly wrong not entirely but mostly generally
not entirely but mostly generally
not entirely but mostly generally speaking in cases of sexual violence the
speaking in cases of sexual violence the
speaking in cases of sexual violence the perpetrator was in fact someone close
perpetrator was in fact someone close
perpetrator was in fact someone close and someone trusted now the second step
and someone trusted now the second step
and someone trusted now the second step is don’t victims in yourself again in
is don’t victims in yourself again in
is don’t victims in yourself again in both of these cases the victims felt as
both of these cases the victims felt as
both of these cases the victims felt as though it was as though it was entirely
though it was as though it was entirely
though it was as though it was entirely their fault that this happens them but
their fault that this happens them but
their fault that this happens them but this could not be further from the truth
this could not be further from the truth
this could not be further from the truth yet it is a very real part of our
yet it is a very real part of our
yet it is a very real part of our culture many of us will be attending
culture many of us will be attending
culture many of us will be attending colleges in the United States where
colleges in the United States where
colleges in the United States where thousands of girls are sexually
thousands of girls are sexually
thousands of girls are sexually assaulted on college campuses but the
assaulted on college campuses but the
assaulted on college campuses but the number of reported cases it is projected
number of reported cases it is projected
number of reported cases it is projected to be substantially lower than the
to be substantially lower than the
to be substantially lower than the actual amount why it’s because many of
actual amount why it’s because many of
actual amount why it’s because many of these victims are fed the notion that
these victims are fed the notion that
these victims are fed the notion that this event was their fault that somehow
this event was their fault that somehow
this event was their fault that somehow they had caused it this is victim
they had caused it this is victim
they had caused it this is victim shaming is a very real part of our
shaming is a very real part of our
shaming is a very real part of our culture and institutions need to support
culture and institutions need to support
culture and institutions need to support just justice to perpetrators much like
just justice to perpetrators much like
just justice to perpetrators much like the case of brock turner the stanford
the case of brock turner the stanford
the case of brock turner the stanford rapist yes he was taken to court and yes
rapist yes he was taken to court and yes
rapist yes he was taken to court and yes he was sentenced but to three months out
he was sentenced but to three months out
he was sentenced but to three months out of initial 20-year sentence to put this
of initial 20-year sentence to put this
of initial 20-year sentence to put this in perspective I’ll give you an example
in perspective I’ll give you an example
in perspective I’ll give you an example in the United States federal law
in the United States federal law
in the United States federal law mandates that if you are caught with any
mandates that if you are caught with any
mandates that if you are caught with any amount of marijuana in your possession
amount of marijuana in your possession
amount of marijuana in your possession you can be sentenced with up to one year
you can be sentenced with up to one year
you can be sentenced with up to one year in a federal prison and up to a maximum
in a federal prison and up to a maximum
in a federal prison and up to a maximum fine of $1,000 now it is beyond
fine of $1,000 now it is beyond
fine of $1,000 now it is beyond infuriating that kids found committing
infuriating that kids found committing
infuriating that kids found committing substantially minor crimes are being
substantially minor crimes are being
substantially minor crimes are being given longer sentences than actual
given longer sentences than actual
given longer sentences than actual criminals naturally boys get sexual
criminals naturally boys get sexual
criminals naturally boys get sexual assault as well and I know this sounds
assault as well and I know this sounds
assault as well and I know this sounds weird but bear with me but cross college
weird but bear with me but cross college
weird but bear with me but cross college campuses the United States the numbers
campuses the United States the numbers
campuses the United States the numbers for young men reporting sexual assault
for young men reporting sexual assault
for young men reporting sexual assault are shockingly low lower than that of
are shockingly low lower than that of
are shockingly low lower than that of women a 2012 report by the CDC claims
women a 2012 report by the CDC claims
women a 2012 report by the CDC claims that one in five women is projected to
that one in five women is projected to
that one in five women is projected to be a victim of sexual violence and one
be a victim of sexual violence and one
be a victim of sexual violence and one in 71 men is also a victim but experts
in 71 men is also a victim but experts
in 71 men is also a victim but experts say that this fight that this number is
say that this fight that this number is
say that this fight that this number is most likely much higher as and I quote
most likely much higher as and I quote
most likely much higher as and I quote incidents of sexual violence are
incidents of sexual violence are
incidents of sexual violence are severely underreported in the United
severely underreported in the United
severely underreported in the United States particularly among male victims
States particularly among male victims
States particularly among male victims this brings us back to shame in this
this brings us back to shame in this
this brings us back to shame in this particular shame derives from a notion
particular shame derives from a notion
particular shame derives from a notion that all guys
that all guys
that all guys sex all the time no means no even if he
sex all the time no means no even if he
sex all the time no means no even if he says it and if the statistics look like
says it and if the statistics look like
says it and if the statistics look like this over the United States what do you
this over the United States what do you
this over the United States what do you think they look like here and I might
think they look like here and I might
think they look like here and I might work and me get out work and are they
work and me get out work and are they
work and me get out work and are they even reported and I know I have no right
even reported and I know I have no right
even reported and I know I have no right to tell the victim how they should feel
to tell the victim how they should feel
to tell the victim how they should feel how they should react but as though but
how they should react but as though but
how they should react but as though but as a witness to not one but two such
as a witness to not one but two such
as a witness to not one but two such events I can guarantee you that shaming
events I can guarantee you that shaming
events I can guarantee you that shaming yourself is never an option now for the
yourself is never an option now for the
yourself is never an option now for the last I don’t know like 12 minutes we’ve
last I don’t know like 12 minutes we’ve
last I don’t know like 12 minutes we’ve been talking we’ve covered a number of
been talking we’ve covered a number of
been talking we’ve covered a number of topics but nothing stands out more
topics but nothing stands out more
topics but nothing stands out more consistently than shame and how society
consistently than shame and how society
consistently than shame and how society deals with it this is the Merriam
deals with it this is the Merriam
deals with it this is the Merriam Webster’s dictionary of definition of
Webster’s dictionary of definition of
Webster’s dictionary of definition of Shannon and from a psychological
Shannon and from a psychological
Shannon and from a psychological standpoint shame is considered as an
standpoint shame is considered as an
standpoint shame is considered as an internal state of inadequacy dishonor
internal state of inadequacy dishonor
internal state of inadequacy dishonor disrepute or regret shame is like a
disrepute or regret shame is like a
disrepute or regret shame is like a leech latching on say anything at cam
leech latching on say anything at cam
leech latching on say anything at cam and draining the life force out of it we
and draining the life force out of it we
and draining the life force out of it we know this we do it to ourselves and we
know this we do it to ourselves and we
know this we do it to ourselves and we do it to each other on a pretty regular
do it to each other on a pretty regular
do it to each other on a pretty regular basis again it’s just another part of us
basis again it’s just another part of us
basis again it’s just another part of us being human but to combat shame of this
being human but to combat shame of this
being human but to combat shame of this nature what I propose are two things
nature what I propose are two things
nature what I propose are two things self respect and common decency let’s
self respect and common decency let’s
self respect and common decency let’s start with self respect being you is
start with self respect being you is
start with self respect being you is hard being you in this reality is
hard being you in this reality is
hard being you in this reality is arduous beyond measure being one of
arduous beyond measure being one of
arduous beyond measure being one of today’s youth in today’s reality is
today’s youth in today’s reality is
today’s youth in today’s reality is especially difficult and as a number of
especially difficult and as a number of
especially difficult and as a number of the youth I can vouch for that
the youth I can vouch for that
the youth I can vouch for that we’re told and untold and told yet again
we’re told and untold and told yet again
we’re told and untold and told yet again that the way we look matters as it
that the way we look matters as it
that the way we look matters as it defines us as who we are and who we will
defines us as who we are and who we will
defines us as who we are and who we will be that if you are a guy you need to be
be that if you are a guy you need to be
be that if you are a guy you need to be a chiseled demigod and straight up pick
a chiseled demigod and straight up pick
a chiseled demigod and straight up pick fruit from trees and if you are a girl
fruit from trees and if you are a girl
fruit from trees and if you are a girl you need to have a size zero waist and
you need to have a size zero waist and
you need to have a size zero waist and just please everybody by just standing
just please everybody by just standing
just please everybody by just standing there to be completely honest from bring
there to be completely honest from bring
there to be completely honest from bring one guy that looks like Chris Evans
one guy that looks like Chris Evans
one guy that looks like Chris Evans there’s at least three that look like
there’s at least three that look like
there’s at least three that look like Danny DeVito and I’ve learned so much
Danny DeVito and I’ve learned so much
Danny DeVito and I’ve learned so much more from Danny DeVito than I ever will
more from Danny DeVito than I ever will
more from Danny DeVito than I ever will through Chris Evans now the second theme
through Chris Evans now the second theme
through Chris Evans now the second theme of this talk is comedies
of this talk is comedies
of this talk is comedies again from incredibly young aids were
again from incredibly young aids were
again from incredibly young aids were taught to treat each other the same way
taught to treat each other the same way
taught to treat each other the same way we want to be treated
we want to be treated
we want to be treated this goes for how we want to be treated
this goes for how we want to be treated
this goes for how we want to be treated physically and how we want to be
physically and how we want to be
physically and how we want to be perceived if someone asks you to be
perceived if someone asks you to be
perceived if someone asks you to be treated a certain way by all means do it
treated a certain way by all means do it
treated a certain way by all means do it but if there is even the slightest
but if there is even the slightest
but if there is even the slightest inkling it out of doubt that this goes
inkling it out of doubt that this goes
inkling it out of doubt that this goes against their wishes
against their wishes
against their wishes just stop let’s leave it there mind you
just stop let’s leave it there mind you
just stop let’s leave it there mind you this can literally apply to just about
this can literally apply to just about
this can literally apply to just about anything what I want to leave with you
anything what I want to leave with you
anything what I want to leave with you today is as a self-proclaimed feminist a
today is as a self-proclaimed feminist a
today is as a self-proclaimed feminist a guy and as he and as a youth is that I
guy and as he and as a youth is that I
guy and as he and as a youth is that I want to live in a world in which men and
want to live in a world in which men and
want to live in a world in which men and women can both be perceived equally and
women can both be perceived equally and
women can both be perceived equally and fairly and so with that I’ll leave you
fairly and so with that I’ll leave you
fairly and so with that I’ll leave you with something I can go to just about
with something I can go to just about
with something I can go to just about any city on the planet and no one will
any city on the planet and no one will
any city on the planet and no one will care I can go to just about any city on
care I can go to just about any city on
care I can go to just about any city on the planet and I can take a walk and I
the planet and I can take a walk and I
the planet and I can take a walk and I can do that the whole time feeling safe
can do that the whole time feeling safe
can do that the whole time feeling safe but too many men too many of my friends
but too many men too many of my friends
but too many men too many of my friends don’t have that luxury and I cannot
don’t have that luxury and I cannot
don’t have that luxury and I cannot believe I actually have to call it a
believe I actually have to call it a
believe I actually have to call it a luxury to many of my friends can’t even
luxury to many of my friends can’t even
luxury to many of my friends can’t even go to the bathroom alone in certain
go to the bathroom alone in certain
go to the bathroom alone in certain situations so what do I want you to do
situations so what do I want you to do
situations so what do I want you to do with this I want you to take this image
with this I want you to take this image
with this I want you to take this image and keep it and pass it down to your
and keep it and pass it down to your
and keep it and pass it down to your kids because one day our sons and
kids because one day our sons and
kids because one day our sons and daughters are going to take a walk as
daughters are going to take a walk as
daughters are going to take a walk as well and all we want is for them to feel
well and all we want is for them to feel
well and all we want is for them to feel loved to feel safe let’s feel respected
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