Shakespeare once said to be why not to be that is a real question in other
be that is a real question in other
be that is a real question in other words who you are and who you want to be
words who you are and who you want to be
words who you are and who you want to be depend upon yourself it’s on you
depend upon yourself it’s on you
depend upon yourself it’s on you but perhaps you forgot to mention that
but perhaps you forgot to mention that
but perhaps you forgot to mention that who we are and who will will be comes
who we are and who will will be comes
who we are and who will will be comes back to the decisions we made because
back to the decisions we made because
back to the decisions we made because our choices our habits build up the
our choices our habits build up the
our choices our habits build up the total sum of your life so no pressure to
total sum of your life so no pressure to
total sum of your life so no pressure to know this is to understand are you
know this is to understand are you
know this is to understand are you making the right decisions what I mean
making the right decisions what I mean
making the right decisions what I mean determines our right decision our lives
determines our right decision our lives
determines our right decision our lives they’re full of choices today for
they’re full of choices today for
they’re full of choices today for example you will have to decide whether
example you will have to decide whether
example you will have to decide whether to go out with your friends or do your
to go out with your friends or do your
to go out with your friends or do your homework to eat a healthy meal or to
homework to eat a healthy meal or to
homework to eat a healthy meal or to pass through tip top to get the
pass through tip top to get the
pass through tip top to get the recommended 8 hours of sleep or to binge
recommended 8 hours of sleep or to binge
recommended 8 hours of sleep or to binge watch your favorite TV show until 2:00
watch your favorite TV show until 2:00
watch your favorite TV show until 2:00 a.m.
a.m.
a.m. and these choices as unimportant as they
and these choices as unimportant as they
and these choices as unimportant as they might seem determine who you are and
might seem determine who you are and
might seem determine who you are and life at least when it comes to decision
life at least when it comes to decision
life at least when it comes to decision making might have become easier in our
making might have become easier in our
making might have become easier in our generation which ironically is also
generation which ironically is also
generation which ironically is also because life has become very complex
because life has become very complex
because life has become very complex advancements in technology have created
advancements in technology have created
advancements in technology have created so many options which have created so
so many options which have created so
so many options which have created so many unnecessary choices which is why
many unnecessary choices which is why
many unnecessary choices which is why it’s easier for us to stick to default
it’s easier for us to stick to default
it’s easier for us to stick to default choices and have you ever noticed in
choices and have you ever noticed in
choices and have you ever noticed in yourself or in people around you the
yourself or in people around you the
yourself or in people around you the tendency to stick to default choices as
tendency to stick to default choices as
tendency to stick to default choices as we have seen before these choices need
we have seen before these choices need
we have seen before these choices need to yield less personal benefit Adam
to yield less personal benefit Adam
to yield less personal benefit Adam grant brings to our attention that
grant brings to our attention that
grant brings to our attention that Internet Explorer and Safari users tend
Internet Explorer and Safari users tend
Internet Explorer and Safari users tend to be less efficient and productive
to be less efficient and productive
to be less efficient and productive because their search engine was already
because their search engine was already
because their search engine was already installed this means that they didn’t
installed this means that they didn’t
installed this means that they didn’t have to ask the extra questions or take
have to ask the extra questions or take
have to ask the extra questions or take the extra step let’s say a chrome user
the extra step let’s say a chrome user
the extra step let’s say a chrome user would this and many other daily
would this and many other daily
would this and many other daily interactions show that we don’t always
interactions show that we don’t always
interactions show that we don’t always end up owning our own decisions
end up owning our own decisions
end up owning our own decisions sometimes they might have come
sometimes they might have come
sometimes they might have come pre-installed
pre-installed
pre-installed so do we take the risk of committing to
so do we take the risk of committing to
so do we take the risk of committing to a new search engine or of trying
a new search engine or of trying
a new search engine or of trying something new even if it doesn’t work
something new even if it doesn’t work
something new even if it doesn’t work out new options for better or worse are
out new options for better or worse are
out new options for better or worse are unpredictable and they involve
unpredictable and they involve
unpredictable and they involve vulnerability so we avoid them and free
vulnerability so we avoid them and free
vulnerability so we avoid them and free up the headspace were far more important
up the headspace were far more important
up the headspace were far more important decisions but there is a problem with
decisions but there is a problem with
decisions but there is a problem with this mindset those that don’t take the
this mindset those that don’t take the
this mindset those that don’t take the risk will lose the reward we’re missing
risk will lose the reward we’re missing
risk will lose the reward we’re missing informative experiences because we’re
informative experiences because we’re
informative experiences because we’re clinging to what’s familiar avoidance
clinging to what’s familiar avoidance
clinging to what’s familiar avoidance means also waiting events that would
means also waiting events that would
means also waiting events that would otherwise shape us into the amazing
otherwise shape us into the amazing
otherwise shape us into the amazing people we could be so the question
people we could be so the question
people we could be so the question remains are you making the right
remains are you making the right
remains are you making the right decisions do your habits today with like
decisions do your habits today with like
decisions do your habits today with like something your future itself will be
something your future itself will be
something your future itself will be grateful for let’s look at what goes
grateful for let’s look at what goes
grateful for let’s look at what goes into making a decision
into making a decision
into making a decision our brains are able to analyze sensory
our brains are able to analyze sensory
our brains are able to analyze sensory evidence through vision and sound so
evidence through vision and sound so
evidence through vision and sound so that the sensory circuits in our brain
that the sensory circuits in our brain
that the sensory circuits in our brain make a choice depending on the stimuli
make a choice depending on the stimuli
make a choice depending on the stimuli seems pretty simple so why is that even
seems pretty simple so why is that even
seems pretty simple so why is that even with the best intentions we have to look
with the best intentions we have to look
with the best intentions we have to look back and notice that the decisions we
back and notice that the decisions we
back and notice that the decisions we made we’re not the right ones this is
made we’re not the right ones this is
made we’re not the right ones this is not a glitch in our neurology but rather
not a glitch in our neurology but rather
not a glitch in our neurology but rather an epic battle between efficiency I
an epic battle between efficiency I
an epic battle between efficiency I think doing something quickly and
think doing something quickly and
think doing something quickly and precision as in doing something right
precision as in doing something right
precision as in doing something right and the decision you make often depend
and the decision you make often depend
and the decision you make often depend on the highest standards set by a
on the highest standards set by a
on the highest standards set by a complicated T in each line it also
complicated T in each line it also
complicated T in each line it also depends on your minds and Carol Dweck
depends on your minds and Carol Dweck
depends on your minds and Carol Dweck when studying the phenomenon of mindsets
when studying the phenomenon of mindsets
when studying the phenomenon of mindsets concluded one that when it came to
concluded one that when it came to
concluded one that when it came to learning there were those with a growth
learning there were those with a growth
learning there were those with a growth mindset and later those with a fixed
mindset and later those with a fixed
mindset and later those with a fixed until it believed that their success was
until it believed that their success was
until it believed that their success was based on inherited intelligence and
based on inherited intelligence and
based on inherited intelligence and abilities had a fixed mindset this group
abilities had a fixed mindset this group
abilities had a fixed mindset this group was more afraid to fail because
was more afraid to fail because
was more afraid to fail because vulnerability threatened to contradict
vulnerability threatened to contradict
vulnerability threatened to contradict their supposed talents on the other hand
their supposed talents on the other hand
their supposed talents on the other hand those were that growth mindsets and even
those were that growth mindsets and even
those were that growth mindsets and even their success is based on hard work and
their success is based on hard work and
their success is based on hard work and dedication and they think they can and
dedication and they think they can and
dedication and they think they can and therefore should improve consider what
therefore should improve consider what
therefore should improve consider what is your mindset and also consider what
is your mindset and also consider what
is your mindset and also consider what changing your mindset could do in your
changing your mindset could do in your
changing your mindset could do in your life let’s talk about the last
life let’s talk about the last
life let’s talk about the last you took did you starting for it did you
you took did you starting for it did you
you took did you starting for it did you think your abilities had you covered
think your abilities had you covered
think your abilities had you covered or did you not care about the outcome at
or did you not care about the outcome at
or did you not care about the outcome at all and this leads to another thing that
all and this leads to another thing that
all and this leads to another thing that inhibits whether we live up to our
inhibits whether we live up to our
inhibits whether we live up to our potential it stops us from making the
potential it stops us from making the
potential it stops us from making the most upper line here pukin must be
most upper line here pukin must be
most upper line here pukin must be described as a chain reaction that
described as a chain reaction that
described as a chain reaction that occurs when the brain is out there by
occurs when the brain is out there by
occurs when the brain is out there by stimulus creating a pipeline by like
stimulus creating a pipeline by like
stimulus creating a pipeline by like response and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
response and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs
response and Maslow’s hierarchy of needs even proof that we need to find a place
even proof that we need to find a place
even proof that we need to find a place where we feel safe before we can reach
where we feel safe before we can reach
where we feel safe before we can reach self-actualization before we can reach
self-actualization before we can reach
self-actualization before we can reach our potential and whereas our comfort
our potential and whereas our comfort
our potential and whereas our comfort zone might create the illusion of safety
zone might create the illusion of safety
zone might create the illusion of safety it can actually prevent us from going
it can actually prevent us from going
it can actually prevent us from going through experiences that would provide
through experiences that would provide
through experiences that would provide learning and personal growth and have
learning and personal growth and have
learning and personal growth and have you ever postponed something because it
you ever postponed something because it
you ever postponed something because it was out of her comfort zone or because
was out of her comfort zone or because
was out of her comfort zone or because you were afraid or because you would you
you were afraid or because you would you
you were afraid or because you would you thought you would have time to do that
thought you would have time to do that
thought you would have time to do that later this is a nature of Rickon missing
later this is a nature of Rickon missing
later this is a nature of Rickon missing out on an opportunity that could have
out on an opportunity that could have
out on an opportunity that could have made your life better that could have
made your life better that could have
made your life better that could have made you better
made you better
made you better telling someone you care telling someone
telling someone you care telling someone
telling someone you care telling someone your story
your story
your story I’m meeting failure and do you think
I’m meeting failure and do you think
I’m meeting failure and do you think it’s a little bit weird to be listening
it’s a little bit weird to be listening
it’s a little bit weird to be listening to a 14 year old talk to your bubbly
to a 14 year old talk to your bubbly
to a 14 year old talk to your bubbly breath but the thing is if we’re all
breath but the thing is if we’re all
breath but the thing is if we’re all enough to make choices we’re old enough
enough to make choices we’re old enough
enough to make choices we’re old enough to feel regret
to feel regret
to feel regret so what do we do to avoid this first we
so what do we do to avoid this first we
so what do we do to avoid this first we need to stop dreaming and start planning
need to stop dreaming and start planning
need to stop dreaming and start planning start acting and yet sometimes the peer
start acting and yet sometimes the peer
start acting and yet sometimes the peer failure might sabotage our success
failure might sabotage our success
failure might sabotage our success whether we win whether we lose whether
whether we win whether we lose whether
whether we win whether we lose whether we avoid the game all together it’s
we avoid the game all together it’s
we avoid the game all together it’s critical that we set and manage our own
critical that we set and manage our own
critical that we set and manage our own expectations
expectations
expectations you don’t want flexes muscles don’t work
you don’t want flexes muscles don’t work
you don’t want flexes muscles don’t work comfortable we will become I also care
comfortable we will become I also care
comfortable we will become I also care that people thought I was mine but this
that people thought I was mine but this
that people thought I was mine but this mentality made me afraid of
mentality made me afraid of
mentality made me afraid of disappointing people are on me I have to
disappointing people are on me I have to
disappointing people are on me I have to control this fear that seem so dominant
control this fear that seem so dominant
control this fear that seem so dominant in my life so that it wouldn’t prevent
in my life so that it wouldn’t prevent
in my life so that it wouldn’t prevent me from taking out for the challenges
me from taking out for the challenges
me from taking out for the challenges these what it really is
these what it really is
these what it really is instead of pushing it forward was
instead of pushing it forward was
instead of pushing it forward was crippled with her momentum so here’s the
crippled with her momentum so here’s the
crippled with her momentum so here’s the truth
truth
truth I got upgrade I get afraid often and
I got upgrade I get afraid often and
I got upgrade I get afraid often and unless somebody pushes me I end up
unless somebody pushes me I end up
unless somebody pushes me I end up choosing the safer path I am NOT a child
choosing the safer path I am NOT a child
choosing the safer path I am NOT a child genius I am NOT an athletic prodigy I
genius I am NOT an athletic prodigy I
genius I am NOT an athletic prodigy I haven’t been through an epic or tragic
haven’t been through an epic or tragic
haven’t been through an epic or tragic experience and then as I consider an
experience and then as I consider an
experience and then as I consider an exit strategy to this talk this is
exit strategy to this talk this is
exit strategy to this talk this is surely one of you would be more equipped
surely one of you would be more equipped
surely one of you would be more equipped to talk to this audience I would be such
to talk to this audience I would be such
to talk to this audience I would be such a hypocrite to stand here and tell you
a hypocrite to stand here and tell you
a hypocrite to stand here and tell you guys to make the most of your life if I
guys to make the most of your life if I
guys to make the most of your life if I was afraid to take a little risk so here
was afraid to take a little risk so here
was afraid to take a little risk so here I am I stand as living proof that you
I am I stand as living proof that you
I am I stand as living proof that you can do whatever it is you set yourself
can do whatever it is you set yourself
can do whatever it is you set yourself up to do don’t avoid critical
up to do don’t avoid critical
up to do don’t avoid critical opportunities due to fear you have to
opportunities due to fear you have to
opportunities due to fear you have to get up on life stage and try get it out
get up on life stage and try get it out
get up on life stage and try get it out of your comfort zone telling your
of your comfort zone telling your
of your comfort zone telling your boundaries make your life interest and I
boundaries make your life interest and I
boundaries make your life interest and I know it’s by no means easy but I urge
know it’s by no means easy but I urge
know it’s by no means easy but I urge you to get over the imaginary hurdles
you to get over the imaginary hurdles
you to get over the imaginary hurdles and the supposed boundaries you build
and the supposed boundaries you build
and the supposed boundaries you build around yourself believe that your
around yourself believe that your
around yourself believe that your opinion is what matters the most tree
opinion is what matters the most tree
opinion is what matters the most tree not everyone’s also Google and this
not everyone’s also Google and this
not everyone’s also Google and this leads me to my next recommendation to
leads me to my next recommendation to
leads me to my next recommendation to some extent we are and will always be
some extent we are and will always be
some extent we are and will always be afraid of the world around us full of
afraid of the world around us full of
afraid of the world around us full of jagged corners and competition but we
jagged corners and competition but we
jagged corners and competition but we have to allow ourself not only of
have to allow ourself not only of
have to allow ourself not only of dreaming of becoming great but actually
dreaming of becoming great but actually
dreaming of becoming great but actually become free and there are some times
become free and there are some times
become free and there are some times like these that we have to remember yes
like these that we have to remember yes
like these that we have to remember yes we will not always be strong enough but
we will not always be strong enough but
we will not always be strong enough but we can always be brave because life is
we can always be brave because life is
we can always be brave because life is full of great weight also take a leap of
full of great weight also take a leap of
full of great weight also take a leap of faith and trust their abilities and the
faith and trust their abilities and the
faith and trust their abilities and the only way people will start believing in
only way people will start believing in
only way people will start believing in us the only way the world was stopping
us the only way the world was stopping
us the only way the world was stopping so jagged and scary is that when we
so jagged and scary is that when we
so jagged and scary is that when we realize that our competence lies within
realize that our competence lies within
realize that our competence lies within our heart weight if you believe in
our heart weight if you believe in
our heart weight if you believe in nothing believe in yourself and make
nothing believe in yourself and make
nothing believe in yourself and make decisions in your life that bad are you
decisions in your life that bad are you
decisions in your life that bad are you and yet there are some people that will
and yet there are some people that will
and yet there are some people that will take this advice to an extreme the live
take this advice to an extreme the live
take this advice to an extreme the live will tangle themselves into trying to
will tangle themselves into trying to
will tangle themselves into trying to live such a fascinating life that they
live such a fascinating life that they
live such a fascinating life that they will actually destroy your chances of
will actually destroy your chances of
will actually destroy your chances of fact of enjoying
fact of enjoying
fact of enjoying hear me out I am by no means saying that
hear me out I am by no means saying that
hear me out I am by no means saying that you clutter your calendar over what you
you clutter your calendar over what you
you clutter your calendar over what you can manage or injury after all
can manage or injury after all
can manage or injury after all moves pretty fast if you don’t stop
moves pretty fast if you don’t stop
moves pretty fast if you don’t stop around once in a while you could miss it
around once in a while you could miss it
around once in a while you could miss it the acclaimed researcher and
the acclaimed researcher and
the acclaimed researcher and psychologists learned by God’s key even
psychologists learned by God’s key even
psychologists learned by God’s key even proves that we have to find the sweet
proves that we have to find the sweet
proves that we have to find the sweet spot between boredom and exhausted and
spot between boredom and exhausted and
spot between boredom and exhausted and City because the outcome is the same
City because the outcome is the same
City because the outcome is the same wasted potential and unproductivity
wasted potential and unproductivity
wasted potential and unproductivity living your life to the fullest means
living your life to the fullest means
living your life to the fullest means trying and trying again and knowing to
trying and trying again and knowing to
trying and trying again and knowing to get something out of every experience
get something out of every experience
get something out of every experience whether you succeed or fail we grow
whether you succeed or fail we grow
whether you succeed or fail we grow through failure it’s an integral part of
through failure it’s an integral part of
through failure it’s an integral part of our learning process that we should
our learning process that we should
our learning process that we should learn to embrace and then get it
learn to embrace and then get it
learn to embrace and then get it we stress out failure is not a pretty
we stress out failure is not a pretty
we stress out failure is not a pretty part of life but it’s a vital one and
part of life but it’s a vital one and
part of life but it’s a vital one and those that haven’t failed haven’t lived
those that haven’t failed haven’t lived
those that haven’t failed haven’t lived and the only thing it really shows is
and the only thing it really shows is
and the only thing it really shows is that we can and should improve if we can
that we can and should improve if we can
that we can and should improve if we can be humbled enough to admit that we’re
be humbled enough to admit that we’re
be humbled enough to admit that we’re not the best are we’re not perfect then
not the best are we’re not perfect then
not the best are we’re not perfect then we can overcome this fear of defeat when
we can overcome this fear of defeat when
we can overcome this fear of defeat when we think a big picture we need to
we think a big picture we need to
we think a big picture we need to imagine what it would be like to get to
imagine what it would be like to get to
imagine what it would be like to get to the end to be at complete peace to meet
the end to be at complete peace to meet
the end to be at complete peace to meet the most out of every single moment of
the most out of every single moment of
the most out of every single moment of your life we should make decisions in
your life we should make decisions in
your life we should make decisions in your life that allow us to go to sleep
your life that allow us to go to sleep
your life that allow us to go to sleep at night satisfied because we made the
at night satisfied because we made the
at night satisfied because we made the most of the hand we were we were dumb
most of the hand we were we were dumb
most of the hand we were we were dumb today
today
today and wake up in the morning content
and wake up in the morning content
and wake up in the morning content because we have another set of
because we have another set of
because we have another set of completely and unique possibilities to
completely and unique possibilities to
completely and unique possibilities to try perhaps fail but then try again
try perhaps fail but then try again
try perhaps fail but then try again we who said character shaping habits our
we who said character shaping habits our
we who said character shaping habits our choices filled up to create our lives
choices filled up to create our lives
choices filled up to create our lives and if you make the same decisions are
and if you make the same decisions are
and if you make the same decisions are the people around you you will become
the people around you you will become
the people around you you will become that repetition of a story so do not
that repetition of a story so do not
that repetition of a story so do not fill your life with regret fill it with
fill your life with regret fill it with
fill your life with regret fill it with memories that provide contrasting
memories that provide contrasting
memories that provide contrasting perspectives fill it with empowering
perspectives fill it with empowering
perspectives fill it with empowering choices we often think we have more time
choices we often think we have more time
choices we often think we have more time but our lives are unmeasurable
but our lives are unmeasurable
but our lives are unmeasurable and extinguished ripple and in depending
and extinguished ripple and in depending
and extinguished ripple and in depending upon what you believe we may only get
upon what you believe we may only get
upon what you believe we may only get one shot so do not waste your precious
one shot so do not waste your precious
one shot so do not waste your precious time
time
time grow up stop procrastinating stop
grow up stop procrastinating stop
grow up stop procrastinating stop letting fear sabotage your success set
letting fear sabotage your success set
letting fear sabotage your success set your own expectations dream big don’t
your own expectations dream big don’t
your own expectations dream big don’t settle think of the big picture be brave
settle think of the big picture be brave
settle think of the big picture be brave enough to take unique risks and don’t
enough to take unique risks and don’t
enough to take unique risks and don’t overcook let’s look back at the amazing
overcook let’s look back at the amazing
overcook let’s look back at the amazing things within one of the things we wish
things within one of the things we wish
things within one of the things we wish we done
we done
we done and you know what you heard the TED
and you know what you heard the TED
and you know what you heard the TED talks you watch the TED talks but at the
talks you watch the TED talks but at the
talks you watch the TED talks but at the end of the day it’s up to you if you
end of the day it’s up to you if you
end of the day it’s up to you if you want to make a difference in the world
want to make a difference in the world
want to make a difference in the world we have to remember that it’s never too
we have to remember that it’s never too
we have to remember that it’s never too late to make different choices and never
late to make different choices and never
late to make different choices and never too late to build up different habits
too late to build up different habits
too late to build up different habits and never too late to live a more
and never too late to live a more
and never too late to live a more interesting life and above all never too
interesting life and above all never too
interesting life and above all never too late to become the better version of
late to become the better version of
late to become the better version of ourselves thank
ourselves thank
ourselves thank [Applause]
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