I’m on my way home from work it’s a long commute and I fall into what I call the
commute and I fall into what I call the
commute and I fall into what I call the glaze this is where you’re brain dead
glaze this is where you’re brain dead
glaze this is where you’re brain dead but still driving safely and he could
but still driving safely and he could
but still driving safely and he could experience the glaze I was deep in the
experience the glaze I was deep in the
experience the glaze I was deep in the glaze and I was awakened for my glace
glaze and I was awakened for my glace
glaze and I was awakened for my glace just slightly by a phone call for my
just slightly by a phone call for my
just slightly by a phone call for my wife she asked if I could bring home
wife she asked if I could bring home
wife she asked if I could bring home some milk I received the message did
some milk I received the message did
some milk I received the message did back down into the glaze and I felt a
back down into the glaze and I felt a
back down into the glaze and I felt a little frustrated cuz I knew that the
little frustrated cuz I knew that the
little frustrated cuz I knew that the only place to get milk between myself
only place to get milk between myself
only place to get milk between myself and my home was a gas station and gas
and my home was a gas station and gas
and my home was a gas station and gas station had a milk gas station when you
station had a milk gas station when you
station had a milk gas station when you go buy milk at a gas station it’s like
go buy milk at a gas station it’s like
go buy milk at a gas station it’s like extortion right it take a lot of money
extortion right it take a lot of money
extortion right it take a lot of money anyway pull in I I get out of my car go
anyway pull in I I get out of my car go
anyway pull in I I get out of my car go get the milk have some nondescript
get the milk have some nondescript
get the milk have some nondescript conversation with the man behind the
conversation with the man behind the
conversation with the man behind the counter and I walk back out to my car at
counter and I walk back out to my car at
counter and I walk back out to my car at that point I was awoken from the glaze
that point I was awoken from the glaze
that point I was awoken from the glaze or at least I took a few minutes because
or at least I took a few minutes because
or at least I took a few minutes because I opened the door and I look and in my
I opened the door and I look and in my
I opened the door and I look and in my car there was a large that man sitting
car there was a large that man sitting
car there was a large that man sitting in my car now I hoped that the James
in my car now I hoped that the James
in my car now I hoped that the James bonded me would have come out and I
bonded me would have come out and I
bonded me would have come out and I would have said something really tough
would have said something really tough
would have said something really tough really brave but I had nothing I was
really brave but I had nothing I was
really brave but I had nothing I was still in the glaze and I’m trying to
still in the glaze and I’m trying to
still in the glaze and I’m trying to wake up trying to wake up you ever had
wake up trying to wake up you ever had
wake up trying to wake up you ever had that moment your brains dead come on
that moment your brains dead come on
that moment your brains dead come on come on come on come on come on and I’m
come on come on come on come on and I’m
come on come on come on come on and I’m staring at him he’s staring at me and
staring at him he’s staring at me and
staring at him he’s staring at me and then finally it dawns on me to bury the
then finally it dawns on me to bury the
then finally it dawns on me to bury the perfect thing to say and I turned to him
perfect thing to say and I turned to him
perfect thing to say and I turned to him and with all like the force that I could
and with all like the force that I could
and with all like the force that I could muster I say now here’s the thing
muster I say now here’s the thing
muster I say now here’s the thing the reason I share this story is because
the reason I share this story is because
the reason I share this story is because we all have experienced what it feels
we all have experienced what it feels
we all have experienced what it feels like to be going through the motions in
like to be going through the motions in
like to be going through the motions in life have you felt that before in your
life have you felt that before in your
life have you felt that before in your life where you’re just kind of going
life where you’re just kind of going
life where you’re just kind of going through the motions and I think that’s
through the motions and I think that’s
through the motions and I think that’s maybe okay on a drive home from work but
maybe okay on a drive home from work but
maybe okay on a drive home from work but it becomes tragic to me tragic to me
it becomes tragic to me tragic to me
it becomes tragic to me tragic to me when it’s happens for a day or a week or
when it’s happens for a day or a week or
when it’s happens for a day or a week or a month or even a year and I’ve met
a month or even a year and I’ve met
a month or even a year and I’ve met people who seem to have had a whole
people who seem to have had a whole
people who seem to have had a whole lifetime where they were just going
lifetime where they were just going
lifetime where they were just going through the motions did you know that
through the motions did you know that
through the motions did you know that only 15 percent of the global workforce
only 15 percent of the global workforce
only 15 percent of the global workforce is engaged they probably learned it in
is engaged they probably learned it in
is engaged they probably learned it in school because two out of three kids are
school because two out of three kids are
school because two out of three kids are bored in school every day now this kind
bored in school every day now this kind
bored in school every day now this kind of tragedy this kind of atrocity is so
of tragedy this kind of atrocity is so
of tragedy this kind of atrocity is so familiar so Universal that it becomes
familiar so Universal that it becomes
familiar so Universal that it becomes invisible
we laugh about it on sitcoms and yet to
we laugh about it on sitcoms and yet to me it’s tragic consider all the wasted
me it’s tragic consider all the wasted
me it’s tragic consider all the wasted days all the wasted hours all the
days all the wasted hours all the
days all the wasted hours all the absentee looks on parents faces as they
absentee looks on parents faces as they
absentee looks on parents faces as they just go through the motions in their
just go through the motions in their
just go through the motions in their lives so there is stood and I said to
lives so there is stood and I said to
lives so there is stood and I said to this man
and I closed the door
and I closed the door and then the worst part about it wasn’t
and then the worst part about it wasn’t
and then the worst part about it wasn’t the same make it wasn’t the same model
the same make it wasn’t the same model
the same make it wasn’t the same model it wasn’t it was nothing like my car I
it wasn’t it was nothing like my car I
it wasn’t it was nothing like my car I walk quite a ways away because it wasn’t
walk quite a ways away because it wasn’t
walk quite a ways away because it wasn’t close to my car either and I get in my
close to my car either and I get in my
close to my car either and I get in my car and I kind of peek up hoping that
car and I kind of peek up hoping that
car and I kind of peek up hoping that the man doesn’t make eye contact because
the man doesn’t make eye contact because
the man doesn’t make eye contact because I’m just checking to make sure he wasn’t
I’m just checking to make sure he wasn’t
I’m just checking to make sure he wasn’t calling 9-1-1 and reporting a carjacking
calling 9-1-1 and reporting a carjacking
calling 9-1-1 and reporting a carjacking and I look up and of course we lock eyes
and I look up and of course we lock eyes
and I look up and of course we lock eyes and – as a mortal credit this man simply
and – as a mortal credit this man simply
and – as a mortal credit this man simply turns to me and goes good job buddy
so today I hope that I can be a little
so today I hope that I can be a little bit of a fat man for you
bit of a fat man for you
bit of a fat man for you in other words if there’s any part of
in other words if there’s any part of
in other words if there’s any part of your life in which you’re just going
your life in which you’re just going
your life in which you’re just going through the motions I hope to wake you
through the motions I hope to wake you
through the motions I hope to wake you up if perhaps more importantly I hope
up if perhaps more importantly I hope
up if perhaps more importantly I hope that if I can I can shine a light on how
that if I can I can shine a light on how
that if I can I can shine a light on how you can help your children and your
you can help your children and your
you can help your children and your students and your employees to wake up
students and your employees to wake up
students and your employees to wake up as well now as was mentioned I’m a dream
as well now as was mentioned I’m a dream
as well now as was mentioned I’m a dream manager which means my job is to help
manager which means my job is to help
manager which means my job is to help people to identify articulate and
people to identify articulate and
people to identify articulate and accomplish their personal dreams now out
accomplish their personal dreams now out
accomplish their personal dreams now out of curiosity how many of you in the
of curiosity how many of you in the
of curiosity how many of you in the audience have have worked in a company
audience have have worked in a company
audience have have worked in a company that had a dream manager by raise of
that had a dream manager by raise of
that had a dream manager by raise of hands raise I’m high so I can see him no
hands raise I’m high so I can see him no
hands raise I’m high so I can see him no go ahead and raise him up all right I
go ahead and raise him up all right I
go ahead and raise him up all right I don’t see anyone and how many of you
don’t see anyone and how many of you
don’t see anyone and how many of you maybe worked in a company where there’s
maybe worked in a company where there’s
maybe worked in a company where there’s I could dream crusher any of those oh
I could dream crusher any of those oh
I could dream crusher any of those oh yeah most most of you that’s a little
yeah most most of you that’s a little
yeah most most of you that’s a little startling uh so let me start at the
startling uh so let me start at the
startling uh so let me start at the beginning I want to teach you what an
beginning I want to teach you what an
beginning I want to teach you what an about the anatomy of a dream the first
about the anatomy of a dream the first
about the anatomy of a dream the first thing that’s important to recognize is
thing that’s important to recognize is
thing that’s important to recognize is that we all have a biological propensity
that we all have a biological propensity
that we all have a biological propensity to live rather boring or rather humdrum
to live rather boring or rather humdrum
to live rather boring or rather humdrum lives have you noticed that maybe you
lives have you noticed that maybe you
lives have you noticed that maybe you notice that in someone you know that
notice that in someone you know that
notice that in someone you know that they seem biologically prone to boredom
they seem biologically prone to boredom
they seem biologically prone to boredom and it’s not necessarily our fault it’s
and it’s not necessarily our fault it’s
and it’s not necessarily our fault it’s by its biological we’re much the same as
by its biological we’re much the same as
by its biological we’re much the same as the deer who wanders down to water and
the deer who wanders down to water and
the deer who wanders down to water and when he gets water and if he wanders
when he gets water and if he wanders
when he gets water and if he wanders back which path will he take the next
back which path will he take the next
back which path will he take the next Sun same path again and again and again
Sun same path again and again and again
Sun same path again and again and again until what’s created a little divot a
until what’s created a little divot a
until what’s created a little divot a little rut in the ground
little rut in the ground
little rut in the ground our brains are the same way our brains
our brains are the same way our brains
our brains are the same way our brains desire familiarity and consistency and
desire familiarity and consistency and
desire familiarity and consistency and they care about that so much that they
they care about that so much that they
they care about that so much that they put up a barrier they put up a wall of
put up a barrier they put up a wall of
put up a barrier they put up a wall of fear around anything new have you felt
fear around anything new have you felt
fear around anything new have you felt that before and even if it’s a good
that before and even if it’s a good
that before and even if it’s a good thing they’ll put up a little barrier of
thing they’ll put up a little barrier of
thing they’ll put up a little barrier of fear around it and I call that the rut
fear around it and I call that the rut
fear around it and I call that the rut and all of us have this tendency to fall
and all of us have this tendency to fall
and all of us have this tendency to fall into a bit of a rut and this rut has
into a bit of a rut and this rut has
into a bit of a rut and this rut has something of a gravitational effect on
something of a gravitational effect on
something of a gravitational effect on us have you noticed this before in your
us have you noticed this before in your
us have you noticed this before in your life it’s called a new year’s resolution
life it’s called a new year’s resolution
life it’s called a new year’s resolution it’s like lose weight lose weight lose
it’s like lose weight lose weight lose
it’s like lose weight lose weight lose weight lose weight lose weight donuts
weight lose weight lose weight donuts
weight lose weight lose weight donuts donuts donuts right and and and we have
donuts donuts right and and and we have
donuts donuts right and and and we have this kind of gravitational pull where we
this kind of gravitational pull where we
this kind of gravitational pull where we get pulled back down to the mean I think
get pulled back down to the mean I think
get pulled back down to the mean I think Allen do which one puts a finer
Allen do which one puts a finer
Allen do which one puts a finer he talks about a group of cardiologists
he talks about a group of cardiologists
he talks about a group of cardiologists at Johns Hopkins University they would
at Johns Hopkins University they would
at Johns Hopkins University they would talk to people who had major cardiac
talk to people who had major cardiac
talk to people who had major cardiac surgery and in the post-op they would
surgery and in the post-op they would
surgery and in the post-op they would turn to them and they would say listen
turn to them and they would say listen
turn to them and they would say listen your current lifestyle is not working it
your current lifestyle is not working it
your current lifestyle is not working it got you here and if you don’t change
got you here and if you don’t change
got you here and if you don’t change your behavior you will die out of ten
your behavior you will die out of ten
your behavior you will die out of ten people how many do you think would make
people how many do you think would make
people how many do you think would make a change one one in ten people would
a change one one in ten people would
a change one one in ten people would make a change now before you stare at
make a change now before you stare at
make a change now before you stare at those people and you judge them I want
those people and you judge them I want
those people and you judge them I want you to notice in yourself have you felt
you to notice in yourself have you felt
you to notice in yourself have you felt that tendency that that kind of
that tendency that that kind of
that tendency that that kind of gravitational pull to keep you put to
gravitational pull to keep you put to
gravitational pull to keep you put to keep you stuck so there are two ways to
keep you stuck so there are two ways to
keep you stuck so there are two ways to escape this virtual rut way number one
escape this virtual rut way number one
escape this virtual rut way number one is to be compelled or pushed out that
is to be compelled or pushed out that
is to be compelled or pushed out that happens when we have some kind of major
happens when we have some kind of major
happens when we have some kind of major life event we have a death in the family
life event we have a death in the family
life event we have a death in the family a divorce we lose our jobs we get
a divorce we lose our jobs we get
a divorce we lose our jobs we get married we have children something
married we have children something
married we have children something really traumatic so if you have children
really traumatic so if you have children
really traumatic so if you have children I understand and the second way is that
I understand and the second way is that
I understand and the second way is that we get we get enticed out of the rat we
we get we get enticed out of the rat we
we get we get enticed out of the rat we can kind of encourage to leave and
can kind of encourage to leave and
can kind of encourage to leave and that’s where dreaming comes in dreaming
that’s where dreaming comes in dreaming
that’s where dreaming comes in dreaming to me as a surprisingly practical tool
to me as a surprisingly practical tool
to me as a surprisingly practical tool to help us move forward in our lives and
to help us move forward in our lives and
to help us move forward in our lives and dreaming at the end of the day is simply
dreaming at the end of the day is simply
dreaming at the end of the day is simply identifying things that are possible
identifying things that are possible
identifying things that are possible that live outside of our current
that live outside of our current
that live outside of our current familiar and then identifying them
familiar and then identifying them
familiar and then identifying them writing them down so some of our dreams
writing them down so some of our dreams
writing them down so some of our dreams might be to buy a new house some dreams
might be to buy a new house some dreams
might be to buy a new house some dreams might be to travel to I had one person
might be to travel to I had one person
might be to travel to I had one person who wanted to ride elephants in Thailand
who wanted to ride elephants in Thailand
who wanted to ride elephants in Thailand another person who wanted to get a US
another person who wanted to get a US
another person who wanted to get a US citizenship and another person who
citizenship and another person who
citizenship and another person who wanted to meet Will Smith and spend a
wanted to meet Will Smith and spend a
wanted to meet Will Smith and spend a day with Will Smith I have a little man
day with Will Smith I have a little man
day with Will Smith I have a little man crush on him so I’m mentioning that here
crush on him so I’m mentioning that here
crush on him so I’m mentioning that here just in case this ever makes its way to
just in case this ever makes its way to
just in case this ever makes its way to him
him
him does that make sense it’s those things
does that make sense it’s those things
does that make sense it’s those things that are so compelling so exciting that
that are so compelling so exciting that
that are so compelling so exciting that they would actually move us outside of
they would actually move us outside of
they would actually move us outside of our rut now here’s where it gets
our rut now here’s where it gets
our rut now here’s where it gets exciting what happens if I get the
exciting what happens if I get the
exciting what happens if I get the courage to go out and accomplish a dream
courage to go out and accomplish a dream
courage to go out and accomplish a dream what happens to the red
what happens to the red
what happens to the red this is I’m really asking what happens
this is I’m really asking what happens
this is I’m really asking what happens to the rod it gets bigger that’s right
to the rod it gets bigger that’s right
to the rod it gets bigger that’s right it gets bigger it expands and then what
it gets bigger it expands and then what
it gets bigger it expands and then what happens to those dreams that seemed
happens to those dreams that seemed
happens to those dreams that seemed really far off they feel closer in fact
really far off they feel closer in fact
really far off they feel closer in fact I had one dreamer that said dance since
I had one dreamer that said dance since
I had one dreamer that said dance since I’ve been dreaming those dreams that
I’ve been dreaming those dreams that
I’ve been dreaming those dreams that seemed impossible now seem possible
seemed impossible now seem possible
seemed impossible now seem possible those dreams that seem just possible now
those dreams that seem just possible now
those dreams that seem just possible now seem likely those dreams that seem
seem likely those dreams that seem
seem likely those dreams that seem likely now seem inevitable they get
likely now seem inevitable they get
likely now seem inevitable they get closer still
closer still
closer still and one dream after the other we expand
and one dream after the other we expand
and one dream after the other we expand now more important than a way the dreams
now more important than a way the dreams
now more important than a way the dreams engage with the individual is what
engage with the individual is what
engage with the individual is what happens to the individual as they dream
happens to the individual as they dream
happens to the individual as they dream think about it what happens what change
think about it what happens what change
think about it what happens what change transpires as I go on this journey and I
transpires as I go on this journey and I
transpires as I go on this journey and I accomplish one dream after the other
accomplish one dream after the other
accomplish one dream after the other what happens to the person well they
what happens to the person well they
what happens to the person well they grow how do they grow well they grow
grow how do they grow well they grow
grow how do they grow well they grow more confident more creative they have a
more confident more creative they have a
more confident more creative they have a greater ability to face life’s
greater ability to face life’s
greater ability to face life’s challenges they’re more gritty and now
challenges they’re more gritty and now
challenges they’re more gritty and now if I’m a teacher if I’m an employer and
if I’m a teacher if I’m an employer and
if I’m a teacher if I’m an employer and I look at the employee who’s made that
I look at the employee who’s made that
I look at the employee who’s made that journey guess what I think that’s the
journey guess what I think that’s the
journey guess what I think that’s the person I want and so why is it that if
person I want and so why is it that if
person I want and so why is it that if that’s the person we want we aren’t as
that’s the person we want we aren’t as
that’s the person we want we aren’t as companies and schools demanding that our
companies and schools demanding that our
companies and schools demanding that our employees that our students dream why
employees that our students dream why
employees that our students dream why aren’t we as individuals in the game of
aren’t we as individuals in the game of
aren’t we as individuals in the game of dreaming far more often if that’s the
dreaming far more often if that’s the
dreaming far more often if that’s the outcome that’s the result that we can
outcome that’s the result that we can
outcome that’s the result that we can get that we can have creative innovative
get that we can have creative innovative
get that we can have creative innovative members within our organizations why not
members within our organizations why not
members within our organizations why not it’s a good question right i I came up
it’s a good question right i I came up
it’s a good question right i I came up with it I think it’s fantastic years ago
with it I think it’s fantastic years ago
with it I think it’s fantastic years ago I was a school teacher of a very small
I was a school teacher of a very small
I was a school teacher of a very small private high school it was so small that
private high school it was so small that
private high school it was so small that I was the only teacher and I taught all
I was the only teacher and I taught all
I was the only teacher and I taught all the subjects that’s us upon us
the subjects that’s us upon us
the subjects that’s us upon us and I remember one day I was teaching a
and I remember one day I was teaching a
and I remember one day I was teaching a class and the class we were teaching the
class and the class we were teaching the
class and the class we were teaching the American Revolution and I looked out of
American Revolution and I looked out of
American Revolution and I looked out of my class and they were looking up at me
my class and they were looking up at me
my class and they were looking up at me wide-eyed they were a part of the two
wide-eyed they were a part of the two
wide-eyed they were a part of the two out of three that were bored in school
out of three that were bored in school
out of three that were bored in school every day there they were and I the best
every day there they were and I the best
every day there they were and I the best I can say is I threw a little bit of an
I can say is I threw a little bit of an
I can say is I threw a little bit of an adult tantrum and I turned to them and I
adult tantrum and I turned to them and I
adult tantrum and I turned to them and I said
said
said actually I if you don’t want to learn
actually I if you don’t want to learn
actually I if you don’t want to learn this stuff I don’t care about it I’m
this stuff I don’t care about it I’m
this stuff I don’t care about it I’m going to my office teach ourselves it
going to my office teach ourselves it
going to my office teach ourselves it was kind of what I did I went my office
was kind of what I did I went my office
was kind of what I did I went my office I sat down and I felt frustrated and I
I sat down and I felt frustrated and I
I sat down and I felt frustrated and I felt annoyed with the students and I’m
felt annoyed with the students and I’m
felt annoyed with the students and I’m sure they were annoyed with me and I
sure they were annoyed with me and I
sure they were annoyed with me and I started pondering the American
started pondering the American
started pondering the American Revolution I started considering the
Revolution I started considering the
Revolution I started considering the British aristocracy and the British
British aristocracy and the British
British aristocracy and the British aristocracy and King George at the time
aristocracy and King George at the time
aristocracy and King George at the time they looked at this little upstart
they looked at this little upstart
they looked at this little upstart Americans and they said those folks need
Americans and they said those folks need
Americans and they said those folks need us because without us they’ll fall into
us because without us they’ll fall into
us because without us they’ll fall into lawlessness and debauchery and then I
lawlessness and debauchery and then I
lawlessness and debauchery and then I had an incredible epiphany I was King
had an incredible epiphany I was King
had an incredible epiphany I was King George because I thought to myself
George because I thought to myself
George because I thought to myself without me they will fall those
without me they will fall those
without me they will fall those teenagers will fall into lawlessness and
teenagers will fall into lawlessness and
teenagers will fall into lawlessness and debauchery and so I walked out in a
debauchery and so I walked out in a
debauchery and so I walked out in a moment of insanity I walked out I said
moment of insanity I walked out I said
moment of insanity I walked out I said listen students I’m so so sorry I’m King
listen students I’m so so sorry I’m King
listen students I’m so so sorry I’m King George you’re the Americans I said I I
George you’re the Americans I said I I
George you’re the Americans I said I I just assumed you needed me but I’m wrong
just assumed you needed me but I’m wrong
just assumed you needed me but I’m wrong you don’t mean me and so here are the
you don’t mean me and so here are the
you don’t mean me and so here are the contracts I have out contract with the
contracts I have out contract with the
contracts I have out contract with the building I have a contract with your
building I have a contract with your
building I have a contract with your parents have a contract with the the
parents have a contract with the the
parents have a contract with the the accreditation agency which means that I
accreditation agency which means that I
accreditation agency which means that I can’t give you grades that you don’t
can’t give you grades that you don’t
can’t give you grades that you don’t earn but other than that it’s up to you
earn but other than that it’s up to you
earn but other than that it’s up to you and I went back in my office and for the
and I went back in my office and for the
and I went back in my office and for the next three weeks those students taught
next three weeks those students taught
next three weeks those students taught themselves the first complaint came in
themselves the first complaint came in
themselves the first complaint came in fifteen-year-old girl came in my office
fifteen-year-old girl came in my office
fifteen-year-old girl came in my office mr. rouse mr. Ralph’s it’s not fair the
mr. rouse mr. Ralph’s it’s not fair the
mr. rouse mr. Ralph’s it’s not fair the assignments they’re assigning are way
assignments they’re assigning are way
assignments they’re assigning are way harder than anything you would have
harder than anything you would have
harder than anything you would have assigned it was fantastic well
assigned it was fantastic well
assigned it was fantastic well eventually they hired me back it’s
eventually they hired me back it’s
eventually they hired me back it’s really a good day for me I was a little
really a good day for me I was a little
really a good day for me I was a little nervous I’m like what if they actually
nervous I’m like what if they actually
nervous I’m like what if they actually don’t need me this would not be good for
don’t need me this would not be good for
don’t need me this would not be good for job security purposes and and so I
job security purposes and and so I
job security purposes and and so I eventually was hired back but the class
eventually was hired back but the class
eventually was hired back but the class forever was changed I had students who
forever was changed I had students who
forever was changed I had students who were being punished because they were
were being punished because they were
were being punished because they were studying too much at home their parents
studying too much at home their parents
studying too much at home their parents were couldn’t get them to do anything
were couldn’t get them to do anything
were couldn’t get them to do anything else
else
else I had one student who was crying
I had one student who was crying
I had one student who was crying literally as she left a math class
literally as she left a math class
literally as she left a math class because she had to go to a dentist
because she had to go to a dentist
because she had to go to a dentist appointment I had to console her like
appointment I had to console her like
appointment I had to console her like it’s gonna be okay the math will be here
it’s gonna be okay the math will be here
it’s gonna be okay the math will be here when you get back I had one student was
when you get back I had one student was
when you get back I had one student was failing gin the year before he would
failing gin the year before he would
failing gin the year before he would later say I don’t know how you failed
later say I don’t know how you failed
later say I don’t know how you failed Jim went on to
Jim went on to
Jim went on to 800 plate pages of Plato that summer
800 plate pages of Plato that summer
800 plate pages of Plato that summer voluntarily and not only that he went on
voluntarily and not only that he went on
voluntarily and not only that he went on to double major at Northwestern and what
to double major at Northwestern and what
to double major at Northwestern and what happened what changed I simply gave them
happened what changed I simply gave them
happened what changed I simply gave them permission to create and I got out of
permission to create and I got out of
permission to create and I got out of their way because let’s face it the
their way because let’s face it the
their way because let’s face it the relationship between employer and
relationship between employer and
relationship between employer and employee is has been and historically
employee is has been and historically
employee is has been and historically large part adversarial and it’s not
large part adversarial and it’s not
large part adversarial and it’s not necessarily bad and badly intentioned by
necessarily bad and badly intentioned by
necessarily bad and badly intentioned by the employer by the school it’s just
the employer by the school it’s just
the employer by the school it’s just they simply have such a big agenda it
they simply have such a big agenda it
they simply have such a big agenda it fills the whole room and there’s no room
fills the whole room and there’s no room
fills the whole room and there’s no room for the individual dreams the individual
for the individual dreams the individual
for the individual dreams the individual agendas of those people that they lead
agendas of those people that they lead
agendas of those people that they lead and ironically in that vice-grip on the
and ironically in that vice-grip on the
and ironically in that vice-grip on the agenda they lose out on the very thing
agenda they lose out on the very thing
agenda they lose out on the very thing they’re trying to inspire namely
they’re trying to inspire namely
they’re trying to inspire namely inspired committed passionate
inspired committed passionate
inspired committed passionate individuals it’s sort of like we if we
individuals it’s sort of like we if we
individuals it’s sort of like we if we were we were to be friends and I walked
were we were to be friends and I walked
were we were to be friends and I walked out and I said hi nice to meet my name’s
out and I said hi nice to meet my name’s
out and I said hi nice to meet my name’s Dan um let’s be friends and then I said
Dan um let’s be friends and then I said
Dan um let’s be friends and then I said but just so you’re clit so it’s clear
but just so you’re clit so it’s clear
but just so you’re clit so it’s clear it’s all gonna be all about me and
it’s all gonna be all about me and
it’s all gonna be all about me and nothing about you and not only that I’m
nothing about you and not only that I’m
nothing about you and not only that I’m you need to be at my beck and call
you need to be at my beck and call
you need to be at my beck and call whenever I need anything and but don’t
whenever I need anything and but don’t
whenever I need anything and but don’t worry I’m gonna give you some money and
worry I’m gonna give you some money and
worry I’m gonna give you some money and if at any point I’m dissatisfied with a
if at any point I’m dissatisfied with a
if at any point I’m dissatisfied with a relationship I’m gonna end it let’s be
relationship I’m gonna end it let’s be
relationship I’m gonna end it let’s be friends
friends
friends that wouldn’t work in any other
that wouldn’t work in any other
that wouldn’t work in any other circumstance to have a healthy
circumstance to have a healthy
circumstance to have a healthy relationship where two people were
relationship where two people were
relationship where two people were committed to each other and yet we
committed to each other and yet we
committed to each other and yet we expect it to work in our schools and we
expect it to work in our schools and we
expect it to work in our schools and we expect it to work in our jobs so what
expect it to work in our jobs so what
expect it to work in our jobs so what would happen what would happen if we
would happen what would happen if we
would happen what would happen if we turn to our employees and we said what’s
turn to our employees and we said what’s
turn to our employees and we said what’s your dream we asked that simple question
your dream we asked that simple question
your dream we asked that simple question what would happen if we turn to students
what would happen if we turn to students
what would happen if we turn to students and we said what’s your dream there’s a
and we said what’s your dream there’s a
and we said what’s your dream there’s a incredible book by the name I by a man
incredible book by the name I by a man
incredible book by the name I by a man by the name of Raja Jaya
by the name of Raja Jaya
by the name of Raja Jaya and he wrote entitled firms of
and he wrote entitled firms of
and he wrote entitled firms of endearment and he talks about companies
endearment and he talks about companies
endearment and he talks about companies who do that who have turned to their
who do that who have turned to their
who do that who have turned to their employees to their stakeholders and are
employees to their stakeholders and are
employees to their stakeholders and are as committed to the interests of their
as committed to the interests of their
as committed to the interests of their employees and stakeholders as they are
employees and stakeholders as they are
employees and stakeholders as they are interested in they’re committed to their
interested in they’re committed to their
interested in they’re committed to their to their shareholders and those
to their shareholders and those
to their shareholders and those companies outperform the market six to
companies outperform the market six to
companies outperform the market six to one as a dream manager in my company I
one as a dream manager in my company I
one as a dream manager in my company I noticed a similar phenomena those who
noticed a similar phenomena those who
noticed a similar phenomena those who accomplished personal dreams
accomplished personal dreams
accomplished personal dreams outperformed those who did not does it
outperformed those who did not does it
outperformed those who did not does it surprise you I want to close by sharing
surprise you I want to close by sharing
surprise you I want to close by sharing my dream I’m gonna borrow some words
my dream I’m gonna borrow some words
my dream I’m gonna borrow some words from one of my very favorite dreamers I
have a dream that someday employers will
have a dream that someday employers will turn to their employees and say I know
turn to their employees and say I know
turn to their employees and say I know we have important work to do here but I
we have important work to do here but I
we have important work to do here but I want to make sure we make space for your
want to make sure we make space for your
want to make sure we make space for your dream I have a dream that someday that
dream I have a dream that someday that
dream I have a dream that someday that employ that leaders will be judged as
employ that leaders will be judged as
employ that leaders will be judged as much about what they put to the
much about what they put to the
much about what they put to the bottom-line as how many dreams are
bottom-line as how many dreams are
bottom-line as how many dreams are accomplished under their watch I have a
accomplished under their watch I have a
accomplished under their watch I have a dream that someday schools and school
dream that someday schools and school
dream that someday schools and school boards will consider the 21st century
boards will consider the 21st century
boards will consider the 21st century skill of dreaming in an information age
skill of dreaming in an information age
skill of dreaming in an information age as important as arithmetic was in an
as important as arithmetic was in an
as important as arithmetic was in an industrial age I have a dream that
industrial age I have a dream that
industrial age I have a dream that teachers will care about and nurture the
teachers will care about and nurture the
teachers will care about and nurture the dreams of those that they teach and will
dreams of those that they teach and will
dreams of those that they teach and will be as interested in those dreams being
be as interested in those dreams being
be as interested in those dreams being accomplished as moving their students on
accomplished as moving their students on
accomplished as moving their students on to the next grade level I have a dream
to the next grade level I have a dream
to the next grade level I have a dream that parents will teach their children
that parents will teach their children
that parents will teach their children to dream and they’ll do it mostly by
to dream and they’ll do it mostly by
to dream and they’ll do it mostly by example I have a dream that all of us
example I have a dream that all of us
example I have a dream that all of us will choose to find something worthy of
will choose to find something worthy of
will choose to find something worthy of waking us up in the morning and that we
waking us up in the morning and that we
waking us up in the morning and that we will never spend a week or a month
will never spend a week or a month
will never spend a week or a month much less a year just going through the
much less a year just going through the
much less a year just going through the motions in life that’s my dream and I
motions in life that’s my dream and I
motions in life that’s my dream and I hope you’ll join me thank you
hope you’ll join me thank you
hope you’ll join me thank you [Applause]
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