what if I told you all that you had a superpower like Wonder Woman life you
superpower like Wonder Woman life you
superpower like Wonder Woman life you know bro a superpower that at any moment
know bro a superpower that at any moment
know bro a superpower that at any moment you could call up your mind and
you could call up your mind and
you could call up your mind and transform any adversity that you’re
transform any adversity that you’re
transform any adversity that you’re currently facing whether it be in life
currently facing whether it be in life
currently facing whether it be in life or at work to your next big opportunity
or at work to your next big opportunity
or at work to your next big opportunity you see in my experience I found that a
you see in my experience I found that a
you see in my experience I found that a calm mind is a receptive mind in a
calm mind is a receptive mind in a
calm mind is a receptive mind in a receptive mind is an open mind and an
receptive mind is an open mind and an
receptive mind is an open mind and an open mind is a creative mind a mind that
open mind is a creative mind a mind that
open mind is a creative mind a mind that is able to not be reactive but
is able to not be reactive but
is able to not be reactive but responsive in 2010 I was a fresh
responsive in 2010 I was a fresh
responsive in 2010 I was a fresh graduate and I managed to land a job
graduate and I managed to land a job
graduate and I managed to land a job with the Obama administration yeah
with the Obama administration yeah
with the Obama administration yeah you’re right the mechanized a Department
you’re right the mechanized a Department
you’re right the mechanized a Department of Energy and the environment was
of Energy and the environment was
of Energy and the environment was challenging everything was super fast
challenging everything was super fast
challenging everything was super fast paced and I was working with some of the
paced and I was working with some of the
paced and I was working with some of the best engineers scientists in the world
best engineers scientists in the world
best engineers scientists in the world you know it’s honor working alongside
you know it’s honor working alongside
you know it’s honor working alongside those folks but at the same time I had
those folks but at the same time I had
those folks but at the same time I had this syndrome maybe you’ve heard of it
this syndrome maybe you’ve heard of it
this syndrome maybe you’ve heard of it it’s called imposter syndrome it’s one
it’s called imposter syndrome it’s one
it’s called imposter syndrome it’s one of these things we have these questions
of these things we have these questions
of these things we have these questions that come up you start to doubt yourself
that come up you start to doubt yourself
that come up you start to doubt yourself start to say what I’m even doing here if
start to say what I’m even doing here if
start to say what I’m even doing here if these guys you know respect me I don’t
these guys you know respect me I don’t
these guys you know respect me I don’t know what I’m doing
this all came to a head one day when our
this all came to a head one day when our chief of staff of the office had just
chief of staff of the office had just
chief of staff of the office had just came back from a safari in Kenya and he
came back from a safari in Kenya and he
came back from a safari in Kenya and he told us he brought us all back a gift
told us he brought us all back a gift
told us he brought us all back a gift that represented how he worked in the
that represented how he worked in the
that represented how he worked in the office so at one point I’m like excited
office so at one point I’m like excited
office so at one point I’m like excited finally I get feedback because you know
finally I get feedback because you know
finally I get feedback because you know if we get feedback usually it’s because
if we get feedback usually it’s because
if we get feedback usually it’s because you did something really wrong okay or
you did something really wrong okay or
you did something really wrong okay or it could be really good I finally get to
it could be really good I finally get to
it could be really good I finally get to know how I fit so it’s 8 a.m. my morning
know how I fit so it’s 8 a.m. my morning
know how I fit so it’s 8 a.m. my morning meeting the shutters 10:00 deciding to
meeting the shutters 10:00 deciding to
meeting the shutters 10:00 deciding to do the the window that’s facing the
do the the window that’s facing the
do the the window that’s facing the National Mall we’re all seated around
National Mall we’re all seated around
National Mall we’re all seated around the rectangular table chief of staff is
the rectangular table chief of staff is
the rectangular table chief of staff is at the head so he’s calling us up one by
at the head so he’s calling us up one by
at the head so he’s calling us up one by one he calls up the budget advisor first
by the virus standing next to it he says
by the virus standing next to it he says here’s an office give them a wooden
here’s an office give them a wooden
here’s an office give them a wooden statue of a Thomas because you are
statue of a Thomas because you are
statue of a Thomas because you are strong and dependable and able to carry
strong and dependable and able to carry
strong and dependable and able to carry your weight in the weight of everyone
your weight in the weight of everyone
your weight in the weight of everyone else in this office he thing cause of
else in this office he thing cause of
else in this office he thing cause of the dead to eat you first and you get
the dead to eat you first and you get
the dead to eat you first and you get the giraffe because you’re able to stick
the giraffe because you’re able to stick
the giraffe because you’re able to stick your neck down for everyone and see
your neck down for everyone and see
your neck down for everyone and see above the frame please doing this my
above the frame please doing this my
above the frame please doing this my heart is pounding I have that a syndrome
heart is pounding I have that a syndrome
heart is pounding I have that a syndrome you know maybe those questions will be
you know maybe those questions will be
you know maybe those questions will be fine validated maybe I’ll finally be the
fine validated maybe I’ll finally be the
fine validated maybe I’ll finally be the one that he seizes I’m doing something
one that he seizes I’m doing something
one that he seizes I’m doing something here
they calls me on the last one as I’m
they calls me on the last one as I’m standing next to he’s breeches down to
standing next to he’s breeches down to
standing next to he’s breeches down to his left pocket and pulled out a wooden
his left pocket and pulled out a wooden
his left pocket and pulled out a wooden figures about this big said to them he
figures about this big said to them he
figures about this big said to them he falls over and picks it up hands in in
falls over and picks it up hands in in
falls over and picks it up hands in in my direction and he says
my direction and he says
my direction and he says excellent this is for you an ostrich
because you think you can fly but you
because you think you can fly but you never will my heart hit the floor I’m
never will my heart hit the floor I’m
never will my heart hit the floor I’m angry I’m humiliated this guy just to
angry I’m humiliated this guy just to
angry I’m humiliated this guy just to make matters worse I had to take this
make matters worse I had to take this
make matters worse I had to take this thing and put it on my desk like
thing and put it on my desk like
thing and put it on my desk like everyone else proudly display it for the
everyone else proudly display it for the
everyone else proudly display it for the rest of the day look at it but at least
rest of the day look at it but at least
rest of the day look at it but at least I do one thing I knew where I stood that
I do one thing I knew where I stood that
I do one thing I knew where I stood that I don’t even stand at all it was awful
you might be this is think this is the
you might be this is think this is the point where I stood up and ran to his
point where I stood up and ran to his
point where I stood up and ran to his office and gave him that letter of
office and gave him that letter of
office and gave him that letter of resignation but I didn’t I didn’t it
resignation but I didn’t I didn’t it
resignation but I didn’t I didn’t it took me five years five years to finally
took me five years five years to finally
took me five years five years to finally make the change I needed to improve my
make the change I needed to improve my
make the change I needed to improve my life I’m sure you will probably go
life I’m sure you will probably go
life I’m sure you will probably go through something like this is why I’m
through something like this is why I’m
through something like this is why I’m sharing with you this is a promise that
sharing with you this is a promise that
sharing with you this is a promise that nothing is real or you may have gone
nothing is real or you may have gone
nothing is real or you may have gone through something like this before
when I finally resigned in February 2015
when I finally resigned in February 2015 I went on an 18-month research
I went on an 18-month research
I went on an 18-month research sabbatical where I got to explore the
sabbatical where I got to explore the
sabbatical where I got to explore the question how can i generate happiness
question how can i generate happiness
question how can i generate happiness for myself and reduce my own suffering
for myself and reduce my own suffering
for myself and reduce my own suffering so that I can do the same for others you
so that I can do the same for others you
so that I can do the same for others you know I learned a lot on this journey but
know I learned a lot on this journey but
know I learned a lot on this journey but the main thing that I learned was that
the main thing that I learned was that
the main thing that I learned was that happiness is a choice I think this is a
happiness is a choice I think this is a
happiness is a choice I think this is a choice mrs. made proven and I stumbled
choice mrs. made proven and I stumbled
choice mrs. made proven and I stumbled upon a research study by a very good
upon a research study by a very good
upon a research study by a very good time psychologist and a birthday she
time psychologist and a birthday she
time psychologist and a birthday she basically found that outside of our
basically found that outside of our
basically found that outside of our genetics the next biggest influence on
genetics the next biggest influence on
genetics the next biggest influence on our overall perception of happiness is
our overall perception of happiness is
our overall perception of happiness is the choices we make the choices we make
the choices we make the choices we make
the choices we make the choices we make and if the choices we made bring us
and if the choices we made bring us
and if the choices we made bring us happiness to meet choice equals power
happiness to meet choice equals power
happiness to meet choice equals power okay towards means power and power means
okay towards means power and power means
okay towards means power and power means creativity creation if you are able to
creativity creation if you are able to
creativity creation if you are able to have be empowered
have be empowered
have be empowered you’re able to create the future you
you’re able to create the future you
you’re able to create the future you want
this notion was kind of echoing goodness
this notion was kind of echoing goodness you might not have heard this guy before
you might not have heard this guy before
you might not have heard this guy before but he’s a well-known neurologist and a
but he’s a well-known neurologist and a
but he’s a well-known neurologist and a Holocaust survivor he says that between
Holocaust survivor he says that between
Holocaust survivor he says that between a stimulus something that’s causing you
a stimulus something that’s causing you
a stimulus something that’s causing you trouble and the response that you had
trouble and the response that you had
trouble and the response that you had there’s this space in the middle you
there’s this space in the middle you
there’s this space in the middle you gotta realize that there’s a space you
gotta realize that there’s a space you
gotta realize that there’s a space you can choose in that space lies our power
can choose in that space lies our power
can choose in that space lies our power to choose how we want to respond might
to choose how we want to respond might
to choose how we want to respond might seem simple but it’s quite big in that
seem simple but it’s quite big in that
seem simple but it’s quite big in that power in our response is inaudible is
power in our response is inaudible is
power in our response is inaudible is our freedom is our growth this happiness
our freedom is our growth this happiness
our freedom is our growth this happiness to me does that got me thinking you know
to me does that got me thinking you know
to me does that got me thinking you know what’s the common thread here what is
what’s the common thread here what is
what’s the common thread here what is the common thread about this creation
the common thread about this creation
the common thread about this creation thing that to me the most the first
thing that to me the most the first
thing that to me the most the first point of creation everything you see
point of creation everything you see
point of creation everything you see Edna’s multiverse was started here
Edna’s multiverse was started here
Edna’s multiverse was started here started with a bump that’s the first
started with a bump that’s the first
started with a bump that’s the first unit of creation don’t take my word for
unit of creation don’t take my word for
unit of creation don’t take my word for new breakthroughs in the fields of
new breakthroughs in the fields of
new breakthroughs in the fields of neural cardiology in mine science and
neural cardiology in mine science and
neural cardiology in mine science and you know what else you’re showing that
you know what else you’re showing that
you know what else you’re showing that the brain does not have a monopoly on
the brain does not have a monopoly on
the brain does not have a monopoly on thing the heart and the gut can do
thing the heart and the gut can do
thing the heart and the gut can do something of their own and many times
something of their own and many times
something of their own and many times they’re sending orders to the brain this
they’re sending orders to the brain this
they’re sending orders to the brain this research has been seen in countless
research has been seen in countless
research has been seen in countless number of books on emotional
number of books on emotional
number of books on emotional intelligence and positive psychology
intelligence and positive psychology
intelligence and positive psychology specifically business related books
specifically business related books
specifically business related books business leaders are some of the most
business leaders are some of the most
business leaders are some of the most successful companies are leveraging the
successful companies are leveraging the
successful companies are leveraging the multiverse within them to make some of
multiverse within them to make some of
multiverse within them to make some of the best decisions to make more creative
the best decisions to make more creative
the best decisions to make more creative decisions make more innovative decisions
decisions make more innovative decisions
decisions make more innovative decisions so that’s the case how can everyone how
so that’s the case how can everyone how
so that’s the case how can everyone how can the average employee how can the
can the average employee how can the
can the average employee how can the average student leverage their inner
average student leverage their inner
average student leverage their inner multiverses wealth to get out of there
multiverses wealth to get out of there
multiverses wealth to get out of there at first situation luckily there are
at first situation luckily there are
at first situation luckily there are lots of tools out there but they’re
lots of tools out there but they’re
lots of tools out there but they’re quite kind of dance
quite kind of dance
quite kind of dance and what we’ve done at human ii is
and what we’ve done at human ii is
and what we’ve done at human ii is really kind of pump those tools into a
really kind of pump those tools into a
really kind of pump those tools into a simple framework and we utilize some
simple framework and we utilize some
simple framework and we utilize some tools and experiences i call it empathy
tools and experiences i call it empathy
tools and experiences i call it empathy map and two basic principles of
map and two basic principles of
map and two basic principles of cognitive psychology as well so another
cognitive psychology as well so another
cognitive psychology as well so another thought that you don’t want to try it
thought that you don’t want to try it
thought that you don’t want to try it you want to try some of these tools okay
you want to try some of these tools okay
you want to try some of these tools okay let’s try some so this is a really
let’s try some so this is a really
let’s try some so this is a really simple tool called the empathy map but
simple tool called the empathy map but
simple tool called the empathy map but before we do that let’s so maybe get
before we do that let’s so maybe get
before we do that let’s so maybe get calm and relaxed in our chairs but here
calm and relaxed in our chairs but here
calm and relaxed in our chairs but here anything you have in your hands you can
anything you have in your hands you can
anything you have in your hands you can put it in your lap or and just let your
put it in your lap or and just let your
put it in your lap or and just let your wait sit in the chair with the chair
wait sit in the chair with the chair
wait sit in the chair with the chair take you you can take a deep breath in
just relax can’t even look down at the
just relax can’t even look down at the floor close your eyes you awaken as
floor close your eyes you awaken as
floor close your eyes you awaken as you’re relaxing your eyes are closed
you’re relaxing your eyes are closed
you’re relaxing your eyes are closed bring to mind the last maybe three
bring to mind the last maybe three
bring to mind the last maybe three months a challenging situation whether
months a challenging situation whether
months a challenging situation whether that they have worked with a colleague
that they have worked with a colleague
that they have worked with a colleague or something in life let it come to my
or something in life let it come to my
or something in life let it come to my let it come into your body mind continue
let it come into your body mind continue
let it come into your body mind continue to relax you have your eyes closed
to relax you have your eyes closed
to relax you have your eyes closed continue to keep them closed now you
continue to keep them closed now you
continue to keep them closed now you want to pay attention through five
want to pay attention through five
want to pay attention through five different things you want to take
different things you want to take
different things you want to take yourself out of that situation and go
yourself out of that situation and go
yourself out of that situation and go behind almost the video camera as if you
behind almost the video camera as if you
behind almost the video camera as if you are looking at yourself in this
are looking at yourself in this
are looking at yourself in this challenging situation through a video
challenging situation through a video
challenging situation through a video camera you looking for a couple things
camera you looking for a couple things
camera you looking for a couple things one what are you doing what is the
one what are you doing what is the
one what are you doing what is the physical thing dirt them are you running
physical thing dirt them are you running
physical thing dirt them are you running are you shouting are you wishing
are you shouting are you wishing
are you shouting are you wishing something what do you doing capture that
something what do you doing capture that
something what do you doing capture that thanks what are you saying what are you
thanks what are you saying what are you
thanks what are you saying what are you saying to this person into your
saying to this person into your
saying to this person into your colleague what are you actually saying
colleague what are you actually saying
colleague what are you actually saying almost if you could capture the okay
almost if you could capture the okay
almost if you could capture the okay what are you thinking as this situation
what are you thinking as this situation
what are you thinking as this situation happen what is going in your mind what
happen what is going in your mind what
happen what is going in your mind what do you what are the thoughts that are
do you what are the thoughts that are
do you what are the thoughts that are happening next what are you feeling what
happening next what are you feeling what
happening next what are you feeling what are those unpleasant feelings that are
are those unpleasant feelings that are
are those unpleasant feelings that are coming up capture it and last what do
coming up capture it and last what do
coming up capture it and last what do you need give it that you feeling you
you need give it that you feeling you
you need give it that you feeling you have these unpleasant thoughts and
have these unpleasant thoughts and
have these unpleasant thoughts and feelings what are you needing and it’s
feelings what are you needing and it’s
feelings what are you needing and it’s time something tangible maybe it’s
time something tangible maybe it’s
time something tangible maybe it’s overvalued possibly you got that image
overvalued possibly you got that image
overvalued possibly you got that image hold it
good you can open your eyes and will
good you can open your eyes and will affect up here now for example what if I
affect up here now for example what if I
affect up here now for example what if I would have had a Timothy back into and
would have had a Timothy back into and
would have had a Timothy back into and this is just training wheels sometimes
this is just training wheels sometimes
this is just training wheels sometimes you can use this just on the spot what
you can use this just on the spot what
you can use this just on the spot what if I was it had a tool like this when I
if I was it had a tool like this when I
if I was it had a tool like this when I was called an ostrich what I realized
was called an ostrich what I realized
was called an ostrich what I realized maybe that what I was doing was choosing
maybe that what I was doing was choosing
maybe that what I was doing was choosing to sit in the back of the room when the
to sit in the back of the room when the
to sit in the back of the room when the boss was telling me to come sit next to
boss was telling me to come sit next to
boss was telling me to come sit next to him what I want to realize that you know
him what I want to realize that you know
him what I want to realize that you know I was saying to my colleagues that you
I was saying to my colleagues that you
I was saying to my colleagues that you know I don’t know how to do this for you
know I don’t know how to do this for you
know I don’t know how to do this for you know this time seems impossible maybe I
know this time seems impossible maybe I
know this time seems impossible maybe I would have realized that I was thinking
would have realized that I was thinking
would have realized that I was thinking that I don’t know what I’m doing I’m
that I don’t know what I’m doing I’m
that I don’t know what I’m doing I’m telling myself that I’m thinking I’m not
telling myself that I’m thinking I’m not
telling myself that I’m thinking I’m not experience I’m feeling anxious I’m
experience I’m feeling anxious I’m
experience I’m feeling anxious I’m feeling maybe hesitant and just burnt
feeling maybe hesitant and just burnt
feeling maybe hesitant and just burnt out and at the end of the day what I
out and at the end of the day what I
out and at the end of the day what I need is support I need clarity and maybe
need is support I need clarity and maybe
need is support I need clarity and maybe some fun so coming back to you if you
some fun so coming back to you if you
some fun so coming back to you if you were to use something like this think
were to use something like this think
were to use something like this think about that situation you had and map out
about that situation you had and map out
about that situation you had and map out those things those are your centers of
those things those are your centers of
those things those are your centers of intelligence this is where you’re going
intelligence this is where you’re going
intelligence this is where you’re going to find that next creative solution and
to find that next creative solution and
to find that next creative solution and I believe if you do this this will be to
I believe if you do this this will be to
I believe if you do this this will be to some sort of new approach to looking at
some sort of new approach to looking at
some sort of new approach to looking at your challenge so what if you did this
your challenge so what if you did this
your challenge so what if you did this the next time you had something smaller
the next time you had something smaller
the next time you had something smaller like planning your day or firefighting a
like planning your day or firefighting a
like planning your day or firefighting a situation at work what if you did this
situation at work what if you did this
situation at work what if you did this in partnership you have something more
in partnership you have something more
in partnership you have something more than blame and judgment to communicate
than blame and judgment to communicate
than blame and judgment to communicate about you had actually needs to say in
about you had actually needs to say in
about you had actually needs to say in the word one of our organizations use
the word one of our organizations use
the word one of our organizations use this as a way to make their employee and
this as a way to make their employee and
this as a way to make their employee and experience more engaging more productive
experience more engaging more productive
experience more engaging more productive employees or an innovative employee
employees or an innovative employee
employees or an innovative employee pulling that look like and then you know
pulling that look like and then you know
pulling that look like and then you know and I challenge you today
before the challenge you must remember
before the challenge you must remember one thing that no remember that those
one thing that no remember that those
one thing that no remember that those that will help you develop the feelings
that will help you develop the feelings
that will help you develop the feelings that’s probably the most important part
that’s probably the most important part
that’s probably the most important part of the graph is the feelings list I
of the graph is the feelings list I
of the graph is the feelings list I think it’s a really hard thing to define
think it’s a really hard thing to define
think it’s a really hard thing to define people to struggle with that and also
people to struggle with that and also
people to struggle with that and also the needs okay but again the thing if
the needs okay but again the thing if
the needs okay but again the thing if you’re going to take away anything today
you’re going to take away anything today
you’re going to take away anything today is remember that that combine that you
is remember that that combine that you
is remember that that combine that you have leads to it a receptivity okay that
have leads to it a receptivity okay that
have leads to it a receptivity okay that receptivity will lead to openness and
receptivity will lead to openness and
receptivity will lead to openness and that openness will lead to creativity
that openness will lead to creativity
that openness will lead to creativity and that’s what you need a gap in that
and that’s what you need a gap in that
and that’s what you need a gap in that situation so goes back to you please
situation so goes back to you please
situation so goes back to you please choose to use that super power of choice
choose to use that super power of choice
choose to use that super power of choice to choose calmness and open yourself to
to choose calmness and open yourself to
to choose calmness and open yourself to that inner creative intelligence that
that inner creative intelligence that
that inner creative intelligence that you have thank you
you have thank you
you have thank you [Applause]
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