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The power of family stories | Elizabeth Gruebel | TEDxURI


I’m a marriage and Family Therapist and

I’m a marriage and Family Therapist and I also teach classes in Human

I also teach classes in Human

I also teach classes in Human Development and Family Studies here at

Development and Family Studies here at

Development and Family Studies here at URI one of the coolest parts about both

URI one of the coolest parts about both

URI one of the coolest parts about both of my jobs is that I get to hear a lot

of my jobs is that I get to hear a lot

of my jobs is that I get to hear a lot of family stories family stories have

of family stories family stories have

of family stories family stories have always intrigued me even when I was a

always intrigued me even when I was a

always intrigued me even when I was a little kid because not only do they

little kid because not only do they

little kid because not only do they connect us to our past into previous

connect us to our past into previous

connect us to our past into previous generations they also anchor us in the

generations they also anchor us in the

generations they also anchor us in the present and they even have the power to

present and they even have the power to

present and they even have the power to shape our futures sometimes family

shape our futures sometimes family

shape our futures sometimes family stories are warm and uplifting and

stories are warm and uplifting and

stories are warm and uplifting and sometimes they can be painful and kind

sometimes they can be painful and kind

sometimes they can be painful and kind of heartbreaking as a therapist I’m

of heartbreaking as a therapist I’m

of heartbreaking as a therapist I’m always curious about how we perceive our

always curious about how we perceive our

always curious about how we perceive our family stories because if we perceive

family stories because if we perceive

family stories because if we perceive our family stories to be painful or

our family stories to be painful or

our family stories to be painful or shameful or something to be avoided

shameful or something to be avoided

shameful or something to be avoided altogether then it’s a burden that we

altogether then it’s a burden that we

altogether then it’s a burden that we can take with us our whole lives it can

can take with us our whole lives it can

can take with us our whole lives it can even affect our current relationships I

even affect our current relationships I

even affect our current relationships I was teaching this very concept to a

was teaching this very concept to a

was teaching this very concept to a group of my students a couple of years

group of my students a couple of years

group of my students a couple of years ago and to illustrate my point I shared

ago and to illustrate my point I shared

ago and to illustrate my point I shared one of my own family stories and when I

one of my own family stories and when I

one of my own family stories and when I finished my students were like Liz you

finished my students were like Liz you

finished my students were like Liz you have to do a TED talk about this which I

have to do a TED talk about this which I

have to do a TED talk about this which I was like no no I don’t but of course you

was like no no I don’t but of course you

was like no no I don’t but of course you know really it works a couple of weeks

know really it works a couple of weeks

know really it works a couple of weeks ago one of my students from that very

ago one of my students from that very

ago one of my students from that very class emailed me and she said TEDx is

class emailed me and she said TEDx is

class emailed me and she said TEDx is coming and I really think you should do

coming and I really think you should do

coming and I really think you should do it and I felt so honored that she even

it and I felt so honored that she even

it and I felt so honored that she even remembered me at all but I thought well

remembered me at all but I thought well

remembered me at all but I thought well maybe this is a little bit valuable

maybe this is a little bit valuable

maybe this is a little bit valuable because we can all learn lessons from

because we can all learn lessons from

because we can all learn lessons from family stories even when they aren’t our

family stories even when they aren’t our

family stories even when they aren’t our own so here goes my family story begins

own so here goes my family story begins

own so here goes my family story begins in 1981 when my parents met at a country

in 1981 when my parents met at a country

in 1981 when my parents met at a country line dancing competition

line dancing competition

line dancing competition check out these really awesome outfits

check out these really awesome outfits

check out these really awesome outfits you guys my mom swears this was in style

you guys my mom swears this was in style

you guys my mom swears this was in style I don’t believe her at all they had both

I don’t believe her at all they had both

I don’t believe her at all they had both been married and divorced and had kids

been married and divorced and had kids

been married and divorced and had kids of their own

of their own

of their own but they very quickly fell in love my

but they very quickly fell in love my

but they very quickly fell in love my father proposed to my mother on that

father proposed to my mother on that

father proposed to my mother on that exact dance floor they met they got

exact dance floor they met they got

exact dance floor they met they got married they had me and they created one

married they had me and they created one

married they had me and they created one big giant complicated but pretty happy

big giant complicated but pretty happy

big giant complicated but pretty happy blended family when I was two years old

blended family when I was two years old

blended family when I was two years old my father was diagnosed with an

my father was diagnosed with an

my father was diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer

aggressive form of cancer

aggressive form of cancer and it very quickly took his life so he

and it very quickly took his life so he

and it very quickly took his life so he was gone before I really got the chance

was gone before I really got the chance

was gone before I really got the chance to know him and as I was growing up I

to know him and as I was growing up I

to know him and as I was growing up I was always so curious about him I

was always so curious about him I

was always so curious about him I naturally wanted to hear stories and so

naturally wanted to hear stories and so

naturally wanted to hear stories and so my family gave me stories they told me

my family gave me stories they told me

my family gave me stories they told me stories about how he was a war hero

stories about how he was a war hero

stories about how he was a war hero and how he was a police officer and a

and how he was a police officer and a

and how he was a police officer and a pillar of our community they told me how

pillar of our community they told me how

pillar of our community they told me how he valued education he went back to

he valued education he went back to

he valued education he went back to school as a much older adult learner

school as a much older adult learner

school as a much older adult learner which I always think is like the coolest

which I always think is like the coolest

which I always think is like the coolest thing and he even built our house with

thing and he even built our house with

thing and he even built our house with his own two hands and like who does that

his own two hands and like who does that

his own two hands and like who does that you know but my favorite stories were

you know but my favorite stories were

you know but my favorite stories were always about his personality they told

always about his personality they told

always about his personality they told me about how he was really funny he’s to

me about how he was really funny he’s to

me about how he was really funny he’s to play pranks on us how he was really warm

play pranks on us how he was really warm

play pranks on us how he was really warm and loving and kind and how he was able

and loving and kind and how he was able

and loving and kind and how he was able to kind of when he walked into a room he

to kind of when he walked into a room he

to kind of when he walked into a room he was able to make everybody in that room

was able to make everybody in that room

was able to make everybody in that room feel at ease and comfortable so my

feel at ease and comfortable so my

feel at ease and comfortable so my father became this like giant of a man

father became this like giant of a man

father became this like giant of a man in my mind somebody that I wanted to be

in my mind somebody that I wanted to be

in my mind somebody that I wanted to be just like it was total hero worship but

just like it was total hero worship but

just like it was total hero worship but even still at that young age I

even still at that young age I

even still at that young age I understood that these were borrowed

understood that these were borrowed

understood that these were borrowed stories they weren’t exactly my direct

stories they weren’t exactly my direct

stories they weren’t exactly my direct relationship for experiences with my

relationship for experiences with my

relationship for experiences with my father and that was always just a little

father and that was always just a little

father and that was always just a little bit painful for me because I understood

bit painful for me because I understood

bit painful for me because I understood that I wasn’t really connected to him

that I wasn’t really connected to him

that I wasn’t really connected to him when I was 10 years old

when I was 10 years old

when I was 10 years old I was rummaging around in our basement

I was rummaging around in our basement

I was rummaging around in our basement looking for whatever 10 year olds look

looking for whatever 10 year olds look

looking for whatever 10 year olds look for I don’t really know I came across

for I don’t really know I came across

for I don’t really know I came across this really big box and inside the box I

this really big box and inside the box I

this really big box and inside the box I found two things I found this old Warren

found two things I found this old Warren

found two things I found this old Warren leather briefcase and I found this small

leather briefcase and I found this small

leather briefcase and I found this small wooden chest inside the briefcase

wooden chest inside the briefcase

wooden chest inside the briefcase I found these beautiful love letters

I found these beautiful love letters

I found these beautiful love letters that my father wrote to my mother when

that my father wrote to my mother when

that my father wrote to my mother when he was dying because again he wasn’t

he was dying because again he wasn’t

he was dying because again he wasn’t perfect enough already

perfect enough already

perfect enough already these awards that were signed by these

these awards that were signed by these

these awards that were signed by these very important sounding government

very important sounding government

very important sounding government officials but the real treasure was

officials but the real treasure was

officials but the real treasure was inside that small wooden box when I

inside that small wooden box when I

inside that small wooden box when I opened it I found my father’s service

opened it I found my father’s service

opened it I found my father’s service medals and right away I zeroed in on one

medals and right away I zeroed in on one

medals and right away I zeroed in on one in particular and it was his Bronze Star

in particular and it was his Bronze Star

in particular and it was his Bronze Star this exact Bond star the Bronze Star was

this exact Bond star the Bronze Star was

this exact Bond star the Bronze Star was awarded for heroic service in a combat

awarded for heroic service in a combat

awarded for heroic service in a combat zone I didn’t know that when I was 10

zone I didn’t know that when I was 10

zone I didn’t know that when I was 10 but what I did know was that when I held

but what I did know was that when I held

but what I did know was that when I held the star in my

the star in my

the star in my I felt more connected to my father than

I felt more connected to my father than

I felt more connected to my father than I ever had in my entire life and I

I ever had in my entire life and I

I ever had in my entire life and I imagined that he had also held the star

imagined that he had also held the star

imagined that he had also held the star in his own hand at some point and so it

in his own hand at some point and so it

in his own hand at some point and so it connected us through time and through

connected us through time and through

connected us through time and through space so this very quickly became my

space so this very quickly became my

space so this very quickly became my most prized possession and not long

most prized possession and not long

most prized possession and not long after I found that star I had had this

after I found that star I had had this

after I found that star I had had this really bad day at school and when I got

really bad day at school and when I got

really bad day at school and when I got home I ran into my room I slammed the

home I ran into my room I slammed the

home I ran into my room I slammed the door shut I grabbed that star and then I

door shut I grabbed that star and then I

door shut I grabbed that star and then I threw myself as dramatically as possible

threw myself as dramatically as possible

threw myself as dramatically as possible in my bed 10-year olds are prone to – I

in my bed 10-year olds are prone to – I

in my bed 10-year olds are prone to – I could just kind of let the tears kind of

could just kind of let the tears kind of

could just kind of let the tears kind of come and at some point I looked down at

come and at some point I looked down at

come and at some point I looked down at that star in my hand and it prompted me

that star in my hand and it prompted me

that star in my hand and it prompted me to ask myself two things what would my

to ask myself two things what would my

to ask myself two things what would my father say and what would make my father

father say and what would make my father

father say and what would make my father proud and it helped me to feel I don’t

proud and it helped me to feel I don’t

proud and it helped me to feel I don’t know a little bit better a little bit

know a little bit better a little bit

know a little bit better a little bit calmer a little bit stronger if I’m

calmer a little bit stronger if I’m

calmer a little bit stronger if I’m being totally honest with you

being totally honest with you

being totally honest with you I felt like my dad was there with me in

I felt like my dad was there with me in

I felt like my dad was there with me in the room which was a huge source of

the room which was a huge source of

the room which was a huge source of comfort for me at that age so this

comfort for me at that age so this

comfort for me at that age so this process repeated itself like a million

process repeated itself like a million

process repeated itself like a million times as I was growing up especially as

times as I was growing up especially as

times as I was growing up especially as an angsty teen ain’t in the 90s blasting

an angsty teen ain’t in the 90s blasting

an angsty teen ain’t in the 90s blasting my Alanis Morissette I had Alanis I had

my Alanis Morissette I had Alanis I had

my Alanis Morissette I had Alanis I had that star and so they both had my back

that star and so they both had my back

that star and so they both had my back it was great but that star was there for

it was great but that star was there for

it was great but that star was there for me for everything it was there for me

me for everything it was there for me

me for everything it was there for me when I went through really dramatic

when I went through really dramatic

when I went through really dramatic breakups with boyfriends and it was

breakups with boyfriends and it was

breakups with boyfriends and it was there for me when I got into fights with

there for me when I got into fights with

there for me when I got into fights with friends or family

friends or family

friends or family it came with me to college and job

it came with me to college and job

it came with me to college and job interviews grad school and more job

interviews grad school and more job

interviews grad school and more job interviews it was always there for me

interviews it was always there for me

interviews it was always there for me when I needed a little bit more strength

when I needed a little bit more strength

when I needed a little bit more strength and comfort when I finished grad school

and comfort when I finished grad school

and comfort when I finished grad school I had wanted nothing more than to get a

I had wanted nothing more than to get a

I had wanted nothing more than to get a place of my own I’d live with college

place of my own I’d live with college

place of my own I’d live with college roommates forever you guys know how that

roommates forever you guys know how that

roommates forever you guys know how that goes right

goes right

goes right eventually you just kind of want to do

eventually you just kind of want to do

eventually you just kind of want to do the thing on your own so I got myself an

the thing on your own so I got myself an

the thing on your own so I got myself an apartment in the city and I shared it

apartment in the city and I shared it

apartment in the city and I shared it only with my dog Sierra I’m still alive

only with my dog Sierra I’m still alive

only with my dog Sierra I’m still alive and enjoying her old age today and when

and enjoying her old age today and when

and enjoying her old age today and when I got the apartment I got to decorate it

I got the apartment I got to decorate it

I got the apartment I got to decorate it the way I want it to which was awesome

the way I want it to which was awesome

the way I want it to which was awesome so I have this big bookcase and on the

so I have this big bookcase and on the

so I have this big bookcase and on the bookcase I had a shelf on that shelf I

bookcase I had a shelf on that shelf I

bookcase I had a shelf on that shelf I put my father’s pictures and his awards

put my father’s pictures and his awards

put my father’s pictures and his awards and his service medals and it just

and his service medals and it just

and his service medals and it just served this very warm focal point in my

served this very warm focal point in my

served this very warm focal point in my home I totally loved living there

home I totally loved living there

home I totally loved living there flash forward just a little bit it was

flash forward just a little bit it was

flash forward just a little bit it was Memorial Day weekend of 2011 and I had

Memorial Day weekend of 2011 and I had

Memorial Day weekend of 2011 and I had been out with some friends celebrating

been out with some friends celebrating

been out with some friends celebrating and it was getting a little bit late so

and it was getting a little bit late so

and it was getting a little bit late so I decided to pack it up and head home

I decided to pack it up and head home

I decided to pack it up and head home and when I got home I walked through the

and when I got home I walked through the

and when I got home I walked through the back door of my apartment and right away

back door of my apartment and right away

back door of my apartment and right away I knew that there was something wrong

I knew that there was something wrong

I knew that there was something wrong and it was that my dog Sierra hadn’t

and it was that my dog Sierra hadn’t

and it was that my dog Sierra hadn’t come to greet me at the back door which

come to greet me at the back door which

come to greet me at the back door which was weird so I got worried and I thought

was weird so I got worried and I thought

was weird so I got worried and I thought maybe she’s sick or maybe she got stuck

maybe she’s sick or maybe she got stuck

maybe she’s sick or maybe she got stuck in a room somewhere so I started to look

in a room somewhere so I started to look

in a room somewhere so I started to look for her and I walked into the apartment

for her and I walked into the apartment

for her and I walked into the apartment I got about halfway in and I started to

I got about halfway in and I started to

I got about halfway in and I started to notice that the place was a mess and my

notice that the place was a mess and my

notice that the place was a mess and my husband will tell you I am NOT the

husband will tell you I am NOT the

husband will tell you I am NOT the neatest person in the world he says I

neatest person in the world he says I

neatest person in the world he says I have a tendency to hoard our closets

have a tendency to hoard our closets

have a tendency to hoard our closets with clothes and shoes and knickknacks I

with clothes and shoes and knickknacks I

with clothes and shoes and knickknacks I say that’s what closets are for but he

say that’s what closets are for but he

say that’s what closets are for but he doesn’t believe me but this looked like

doesn’t believe me but this looked like

doesn’t believe me but this looked like a closet had been dumped on my living

a closet had been dumped on my living

a closet had been dumped on my living room floor there were clothes everywhere

room floor there were clothes everywhere

room floor there were clothes everywhere papers furniture was askew and I stood

papers furniture was askew and I stood

papers furniture was askew and I stood there looking at it for a second kind of

there looking at it for a second kind of

there looking at it for a second kind of puzzled thinking like my dog do this

puzzled thinking like my dog do this

puzzled thinking like my dog do this that’s impressive I don’t know how she

that’s impressive I don’t know how she

that’s impressive I don’t know how she did that until I realized that I had

did that until I realized that I had

did that until I realized that I had been robbed and then the hair on the

been robbed and then the hair on the

been robbed and then the hair on the back of my neck just stood up because I

back of my neck just stood up because I

back of my neck just stood up because I knew I wasn’t alone in that apartment

knew I wasn’t alone in that apartment

knew I wasn’t alone in that apartment and I wasn’t but thankfully almost

and I wasn’t but thankfully almost

and I wasn’t but thankfully almost immediately after I had that thought I

immediately after I had that thought I

immediately after I had that thought I heard the front door slam shut and I

heard the front door slam shut and I

heard the front door slam shut and I realized whoever had just been in there

realized whoever had just been in there

realized whoever had just been in there with me

with me

with me I just left but I still stood there for

I just left but I still stood there for

I just left but I still stood there for a moment totally frozen because that’s

a moment totally frozen because that’s

a moment totally frozen because that’s what you do when you’re in this

what you do when you’re in this

what you do when you’re in this traumatic scary situation right so I

traumatic scary situation right so I

traumatic scary situation right so I stood there until I heard the sound off

stood there until I heard the sound off

stood there until I heard the sound off to my right and I looked down and it was

to my right and I looked down and it was

to my right and I looked down and it was Sierra and she was underneath the table

Sierra and she was underneath the table

Sierra and she was underneath the table and she was shaking she was really

and she was shaking she was really

and she was shaking she was really scared and I kind of knocked me out of

scared and I kind of knocked me out of

scared and I kind of knocked me out of it so I knelt down I scooped her up with

it so I knelt down I scooped her up with

it so I knelt down I scooped her up with one arm and I pulled my cellphone out of

one arm and I pulled my cellphone out of

one arm and I pulled my cellphone out of my back pocket and I called the police

my back pocket and I called the police

my back pocket and I called the police when I hung up with the police I was

when I hung up with the police I was

when I hung up with the police I was still kneeling on the floor and I

still kneeling on the floor and I

still kneeling on the floor and I happened to be in front of my bookcase

happened to be in front of my bookcase

happened to be in front of my bookcase and I can remember vividly looking up

and I can remember vividly looking up

and I can remember vividly looking up and my heart just collapsed and my

and my heart just collapsed and my

and my heart just collapsed and my stomach kind of dropped

stomach kind of dropped

stomach kind of dropped because all of my father’s service

because all of my father’s service

because all of my father’s service medals including the Bronze Star were

medals including the Bronze Star were

medals including the Bronze Star were gone they were stolen in the days that

gone they were stolen in the days that

gone they were stolen in the days that followed I searched pawn shops and

followed I searched pawn shops and

followed I searched pawn shops and craigslist ads to no avail and I started

craigslist ads to no avail and I started

craigslist ads to no avail and I started to understand that I was probably never

to understand that I was probably never

to understand that I was probably never going to see that bronze star again and

going to see that bronze star again and

going to see that bronze star again and I was truly truly devastated by that I

understood that that star was so much of

understood that that star was so much of my development it was the only

my development it was the only

my development it was the only connection I had to my father so I was

connection I had to my father so I was

connection I had to my father so I was completely heartbroken one night I found

completely heartbroken one night I found

completely heartbroken one night I found myself sitting in my bed tears of my

myself sitting in my bed tears of my

myself sitting in my bed tears of my eyes not very much I’m like I had done

eyes not very much I’m like I had done

eyes not very much I’m like I had done all those years ago was a little kid

all those years ago was a little kid

all those years ago was a little kid except this time I didn’t have the

except this time I didn’t have the

except this time I didn’t have the Bronze Star in my hand but even still

Bronze Star in my hand but even still

Bronze Star in my hand but even still some of those familiar thoughts began to

some of those familiar thoughts began to

some of those familiar thoughts began to creep in thoughts like what would my

creep in thoughts like what would my

creep in thoughts like what would my father say and what would make my father

father say and what would make my father

father say and what would make my father proud which led me to thinking a little

proud which led me to thinking a little

proud which led me to thinking a little bit more critically about the star what

bit more critically about the star what

bit more critically about the star what did it really mean what did it really

did it really mean what did it really

did it really mean what did it really represent and I came up with these two

represent and I came up with these two

represent and I came up with these two overarching and kind of overlapping

overarching and kind of overlapping

overarching and kind of overlapping categories on the one hand the star

categories on the one hand the star

categories on the one hand the star directly represented my father who he

directly represented my father who he

directly represented my father who he was as a man how he lived his life how

was as a man how he lived his life how

was as a man how he lived his life how he loved and laughed so easily and on

he loved and laughed so easily and on

he loved and laughed so easily and on the other hand I represented these more

the other hand I represented these more

the other hand I represented these more intangible values things like integrity

intangible values things like integrity

intangible values things like integrity and strength kindness and compassion and

and strength kindness and compassion and

and strength kindness and compassion and the grit it takes to make it in this

the grit it takes to make it in this

the grit it takes to make it in this increasingly fierce worlds and then I

increasingly fierce worlds and then I

increasingly fierce worlds and then I kind of thought you know my father is

kind of thought you know my father is

kind of thought you know my father is legacy it’s not bound to that star but

legacy it’s not bound to that star but

legacy it’s not bound to that star but rather it’s bound to me and I know that

rather it’s bound to me and I know that

rather it’s bound to me and I know that it’s bound to me because I can see it

it’s bound to me because I can see it

it’s bound to me because I can see it every day I can see it in small acts of

every day I can see it in small acts of

every day I can see it in small acts of kindness I might do I can see it in the

kindness I might do I can see it in the

kindness I might do I can see it in the way I care incredibly deeply for my

way I care incredibly deeply for my

way I care incredibly deeply for my students my clients I can see it in the

students my clients I can see it in the

students my clients I can see it in the way I value teaching and learning

way I value teaching and learning

way I value teaching and learning definitely there when I laugh with my

definitely there when I laugh with my

definitely there when I laugh with my husband my friends my family and it is

husband my friends my family and it is

husband my friends my family and it is most

most

most certainly there when I feel that

certainly there when I feel that

certainly there when I feel that profound parental love when I hold my

profound parental love when I hold my

profound parental love when I hold my daughter these are the spaces where my

daughter these are the spaces where my

daughter these are the spaces where my father really lives so what really

father really lives so what really

father really lives so what really connects us through time and through

connects us through time and through

connects us through time and through space are our shared values the way we

space are our shared values the way we

space are our shared values the way we want to make the world a little bit

want to make the world a little bit

want to make the world a little bit better of a place so I found myself

better of a place so I found myself

better of a place so I found myself feeling surprisingly detached from the

feeling surprisingly detached from the

feeling surprisingly detached from the star because I realized that I didn’t

star because I realized that I didn’t

star because I realized that I didn’t need it in my possession to be my

need it in my possession to be my

need it in my possession to be my father’s daughter what an amazing gift

father’s daughter what an amazing gift

father’s daughter what an amazing gift that is to feel that kind of connection

that is to feel that kind of connection

that is to feel that kind of connection because of that profound loss so as I

because of that profound loss so as I

because of that profound loss so as I stand here I ask all of you to consider

stand here I ask all of you to consider

stand here I ask all of you to consider your own family stories especially the

your own family stories especially the

your own family stories especially the ones that are painful

ones that are painful

ones that are painful or maybe that you’ve been avoiding and

or maybe that you’ve been avoiding and

or maybe that you’ve been avoiding and you need to shift your perspective of

you need to shift your perspective of

you need to shift your perspective of those family stories to see yourself to

those family stories to see yourself to

those family stories to see yourself to someone who has survived and thrived no

someone who has survived and thrived no

someone who has survived and thrived no matter what this life has thrown at you

matter what this life has thrown at you

matter what this life has thrown at you the narrative theorist Michael White and

the narrative theorist Michael White and

the narrative theorist Michael White and David Epstein said that through the art

David Epstein said that through the art

David Epstein said that through the art of storytelling we can create new

of storytelling we can create new

of storytelling we can create new meaning in our lives and I couldn’t

meaning in our lives and I couldn’t

meaning in our lives and I couldn’t agree more with that so once you’re able

agree more with that so once you’re able

agree more with that so once you’re able to shift that perspective to see

to shift that perspective to see

to shift that perspective to see yourself as the survivor then share your

yourself as the survivor then share your

yourself as the survivor then share your story maybe not with a live TEDx

story maybe not with a live TEDx

story maybe not with a live TEDx audience as I’ve so chosen to do don’t

audience as I’ve so chosen to do don’t

audience as I’ve so chosen to do don’t we’ll make you do that but with somebody

we’ll make you do that but with somebody

we’ll make you do that but with somebody that you know and trust maybe a friend a

that you know and trust maybe a friend a

that you know and trust maybe a friend a family member a therapist your dog

family member a therapist your dog

family member a therapist your dog I don’t care whoever really but this

I don’t care whoever really but this

I don’t care whoever really but this time recast yourself as the hero of your

time recast yourself as the hero of your

time recast yourself as the hero of your own story as someone that’s learned

own story as someone that’s learned

own story as someone that’s learned valuable lessons and grown despite your

valuable lessons and grown despite your

valuable lessons and grown despite your experiences because if you’re able to do

experiences because if you’re able to do

experiences because if you’re able to do that you’re going to live a much

that you’re going to live a much

that you’re going to live a much healthier and happier life with a much

healthier and happier life with a much

healthier and happier life with a much much brighter future ahead thank you

much brighter future ahead thank you

much brighter future ahead thank you you

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