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The Other Side of the Glass Window | Shilpa Alva | TEDxJHU


what are these things that make you

what are these things that make you really uncomfortable cringe-worthy

really uncomfortable cringe-worthy

really uncomfortable cringe-worthy uncomfortable I hate the sound of

uncomfortable I hate the sound of

uncomfortable I hate the sound of fingernails screeching across the

fingernails screeching across the

fingernails screeching across the blackboard and I really hate being dirty

blackboard and I really hate being dirty

blackboard and I really hate being dirty I especially hate when my feet are

I especially hate when my feet are

I especially hate when my feet are covered in filth so yeah I am on a rainy

covered in filth so yeah I am on a rainy

covered in filth so yeah I am on a rainy day in a remote Ugandan village or

day in a remote Ugandan village or

day in a remote Ugandan village or waiting to shin deep muddy water and I’m

waiting to shin deep muddy water and I’m

waiting to shin deep muddy water and I’m afraid of the leeches and the parasites

afraid of the leeches and the parasites

afraid of the leeches and the parasites my clothes are soaking wet and I am so

my clothes are soaking wet and I am so

my clothes are soaking wet and I am so so cold

so cold

so cold at this point my thought he’s got it

at this point my thought he’s got it

at this point my thought he’s got it entirely into it I’m finding all the

entirely into it I’m finding all the

entirely into it I’m finding all the constants were limit pillows and my

constants were limit pillows and my

constants were limit pillows and my precious feet of caked in mud I had not

precious feet of caked in mud I had not

precious feet of caked in mud I had not comfortable where is my podomatic

comfortable where is my podomatic

comfortable where is my podomatic and where are those Louboutin shoes it’s

and where are those Louboutin shoes it’s

and where are those Louboutin shoes it’s now almost dusk when we finally get to

now almost dusk when we finally get to

now almost dusk when we finally get to the fifth and last water source of the

the fifth and last water source of the

the fifth and last water source of the day it’s a contraceptive spring future

day it’s a contraceptive spring future

day it’s a contraceptive spring future smells and even more mosquitoes greet us

smells and even more mosquitoes greet us

smells and even more mosquitoes greet us at this brown murky almost stagnant hole

at this brown murky almost stagnant hole

at this brown murky almost stagnant hole in the ground but there’s something else

in the ground but there’s something else

in the ground but there’s something else here beautiful women encircling the

here beautiful women encircling the

here beautiful women encircling the watering hole and they’ve dressed in the

watering hole and they’ve dressed in the

watering hole and they’ve dressed in the most vibrant colors blue green purple

most vibrant colors blue green purple

most vibrant colors blue green purple orange but there’s one color that shines

orange but there’s one color that shines

orange but there’s one color that shines the brightest and that’s yellow with

the brightest and that’s yellow with

the brightest and that’s yellow with each having a low Jerry camp just like

each having a low Jerry camp just like

each having a low Jerry camp just like this except there’s a worn and dirty

this except there’s a worn and dirty

this except there’s a worn and dirty from Daily News we take turns getting

from Daily News we take turns getting

from Daily News we take turns getting down on their knees to fill the skin

down on their knees to fill the skin

down on their knees to fill the skin with their share of brown monkey water

with their share of brown monkey water

with their share of brown monkey water this is the same water that they have

this is the same water that they have

this is the same water that they have washed their dirty clothes in

washed their dirty clothes in

washed their dirty clothes in it’s the same water that the animals

it’s the same water that the animals

it’s the same water that the animals have Putin they will drink this water

have Putin they will drink this water

have Putin they will drink this water and they will feed it to their children

and they will feed it to their children

and they will feed it to their children and if this isn’t bad enough a herd of

and if this isn’t bad enough a herd of

and if this isn’t bad enough a herd of cows comes by when you move to the side

cows comes by when you move to the side

cows comes by when you move to the side so they too can have their fill to

so they too can have their fill to

so they too can have their fill to survive it’s at this moment that I see

survive it’s at this moment that I see

survive it’s at this moment that I see one of the most striking images I have

one of the most striking images I have

one of the most striking images I have ever encountered the reflection of these

ever encountered the reflection of these

ever encountered the reflection of these beautiful women and me looking back at

beautiful women and me looking back at

beautiful women and me looking back at me from the still water these mothers

me from the still water these mothers

me from the still water these mothers were standing in solidarity watching

were standing in solidarity watching

were standing in solidarity watching over and protecting their only water

over and protecting their only water

over and protecting their only water source their main source of life and as

source their main source of life and as

source their main source of life and as I looked at this reflection I no longer

I looked at this reflection I no longer

I looked at this reflection I no longer saw dirty water

saw dirty water

saw dirty water I saw shed humanity I saw an intense

I saw shed humanity I saw an intense

I saw shed humanity I saw an intense will to survive because no matter who

will to survive because no matter who

will to survive because no matter who you are or where you’re from or what you

you are or where you’re from or what you

you are or where you’re from or what you do we all need water to live it’s one of

do we all need water to live it’s one of

do we all need water to live it’s one of those great beautiful equalizers and

those great beautiful equalizers and

those great beautiful equalizers and this dirty water was the only choice

this dirty water was the only choice

this dirty water was the only choice these mothers have with their families

these mothers have with their families

these mothers have with their families survival and as I look deeper at this

survival and as I look deeper at this

survival and as I look deeper at this reflection I saw myself even more

reflection I saw myself even more

reflection I saw myself even more clearly and I was no longer feeling that

clearly and I was no longer feeling that

clearly and I was no longer feeling that extreme discomfort what is a city girl

extreme discomfort what is a city girl

extreme discomfort what is a city girl who hates being journeys doing at this

who hates being journeys doing at this

who hates being journeys doing at this remote waterhole in Uganda and how am i

remote waterhole in Uganda and how am i

remote waterhole in Uganda and how am i no longer uncomfortable what brings me

no longer uncomfortable what brings me

no longer uncomfortable what brings me here and what will take me to the remote

here and what will take me to the remote

here and what will take me to the remote mountains of Haiti and the winding

mountains of Haiti and the winding

mountains of Haiti and the winding rivers of Cambodia I’m here because I

rivers of Cambodia I’m here because I

rivers of Cambodia I’m here because I made a bold choice to give up those

made a bold choice to give up those

made a bold choice to give up those products and follow my breakfast

products and follow my breakfast

products and follow my breakfast I started

I started

I started search for water an organization that

search for water an organization that

search for water an organization that works hand in hand with local leaders to

works hand in hand with local leaders to

works hand in hand with local leaders to provide safe water and sanitation to

provide safe water and sanitation to

provide safe water and sanitation to people in need and it all started when I

people in need and it all started when I

people in need and it all started when I was just a few years ago but I was just

was just a few years ago but I was just

was just a few years ago but I was just seven years old these Indians were born

seven years old these Indians were born

seven years old these Indians were born and raised in Dubai we’d go back to the

and raised in Dubai we’d go back to the

and raised in Dubai we’d go back to the motherland every summer and one of these

motherland every summer and one of these

motherland every summer and one of these trips we were in our comfortable

trips we were in our comfortable

trips we were in our comfortable air-conditioned car from the colorful

air-conditioned car from the colorful

air-conditioned car from the colorful chaotic streets of Mumbai and we stuck

chaotic streets of Mumbai and we stuck

chaotic streets of Mumbai and we stuck in traffic in this little girl around my

in traffic in this little girl around my

in traffic in this little girl around my age knocks on the glass window she’s

age knocks on the glass window she’s

age knocks on the glass window she’s covered in dirt and her torn tattered

covered in dirt and her torn tattered

covered in dirt and her torn tattered clothes barely cover her bare bottoms a

clothes barely cover her bare bottoms a

clothes barely cover her bare bottoms a little baby and equally counted clothes

little baby and equally counted clothes

little baby and equally counted clothes whose nestled in one of her eyes and her

whose nestled in one of her eyes and her

whose nestled in one of her eyes and her other arm it’s just missing so here I am

other arm it’s just missing so here I am

other arm it’s just missing so here I am in my prettiest pink dress of always

in my prettiest pink dress of always

in my prettiest pink dress of always life dresses nothing into the eyes of a

life dresses nothing into the eyes of a

life dresses nothing into the eyes of a girl who could have just as easily been

girl who could have just as easily been

girl who could have just as easily been me except she’s on the other side of

me except she’s on the other side of

me except she’s on the other side of this glass window begging for survival

this glass window begging for survival

this glass window begging for survival as our car moved away her hand friend

as our car moved away her hand friend

as our car moved away her hand friend was smeared on the glass and etched

was smeared on the glass and etched

was smeared on the glass and etched forever in my heart even as a

forever in my heart even as a

forever in my heart even as a seven-year-old I knew that there was

seven-year-old I knew that there was

seven-year-old I knew that there was something wrong but I did what children

something wrong but I did what children

something wrong but I did what children do they return home and I continue to

do they return home and I continue to

do they return home and I continue to live my relatively privileged life when

live my relatively privileged life when

live my relatively privileged life when it plenty of food water clothes presents

it plenty of food water clothes presents

it plenty of food water clothes presents for every occasion and sometimes for no

for every occasion and sometimes for no

for every occasion and sometimes for no occasion at all I was a happy child only

occasion at all I was a happy child only

occasion at all I was a happy child only truly remembering children less

truly remembering children less

truly remembering children less fortunate when we returned to India on

fortunate when we returned to India on

fortunate when we returned to India on the summer

the summer

the summer patience and then as a junior in college

patience and then as a junior in college

patience and then as a junior in college I signed up for a volunteer teaching

I signed up for a volunteer teaching

I signed up for a volunteer teaching assignment in the lush green foothills

assignment in the lush green foothills

assignment in the lush green foothills of the Indian Himalayas and on this trip

of the Indian Himalayas and on this trip

of the Indian Himalayas and on this trip we get this icy cold water once

we get this icy cold water once

we get this icy cold water once in three days but I was dragged over to

in three days but I was dragged over to

in three days but I was dragged over to the shower stalls stalls that had the

the shower stalls stalls that had the

the shower stalls stalls that had the floors smeared in urine and the stench

floors smeared in urine and the stench

floors smeared in urine and the stench of poo overshadowed the crisp mountain

of poo overshadowed the crisp mountain

of poo overshadowed the crisp mountain air but I’d still relish washing

air but I’d still relish washing

air but I’d still relish washing Malaya’s of dust and dirt off my body

Malaya’s of dust and dirt off my body

Malaya’s of dust and dirt off my body because even this bucket of icy cold

because even this bucket of icy cold

because even this bucket of icy cold water was so much more than what my

water was so much more than what my

water was so much more than what my fellow villagers had and that’s how I

fellow villagers had and that’s how I

fellow villagers had and that’s how I experienced water shortages for the

experienced water shortages for the

experienced water shortages for the first time a few more friends happen on

first time a few more friends happen on

first time a few more friends happen on this trip I started to understand the

this trip I started to understand the

this trip I started to understand the correlation between water access poverty

correlation between water access poverty

correlation between water access poverty and the result of choices that people

and the result of choices that people

and the result of choices that people had I often see my students young

had I often see my students young

had I often see my students young children up in the distant Hills

children up in the distant Hills

children up in the distant Hills fetching water for their family’s

fetching water for their family’s

fetching water for their family’s survival they’d be trekking hours

survival they’d be trekking hours

survival they’d be trekking hours carrying 30 to 40 pounds of water is

carrying 30 to 40 pounds of water is

carrying 30 to 40 pounds of water is really heavy so heavy but I’m not making

really heavy so heavy but I’m not making

really heavy so heavy but I’m not making this up I can still bear any lifting

this was not let the choices I have but

this was not let the choices I have but instead the difference between life and

instead the difference between life and

instead the difference between life and death

death

death and that’s when it hit me but even

and that’s when it hit me but even

and that’s when it hit me but even having the choice is a privilege in

having the choice is a privilege in

having the choice is a privilege in itself and so if this intense experience

itself and so if this intense experience

itself and so if this intense experience a spark had been ignited but instead of

a spark had been ignited but instead of

a spark had been ignited but instead of erasing it I chose to do nothing I came

erasing it I chose to do nothing I came

erasing it I chose to do nothing I came back to the u.s. graduated college and

back to the u.s. graduated college and

back to the u.s. graduated college and joined corporate America and very early

joined corporate America and very early

joined corporate America and very early on I got

on I got

on I got into the system and I did what I was

into the system and I did what I was

into the system and I did what I was supposed to do I left the motions happen

supposed to do I left the motions happen

supposed to do I left the motions happen did in and day out and completely forgot

did in and day out and completely forgot

did in and day out and completely forgot about that inner seven year old and the

about that inner seven year old and the

about that inner seven year old and the new fonts box so for yours I would wake

new fonts box so for yours I would wake

new fonts box so for yours I would wake up early check my email drink some tea

up early check my email drink some tea

up early check my email drink some tea what are my high view take a bus to the

what are my high view take a bus to the

what are my high view take a bus to the office work really hard run errands come

office work really hard run errands come

office work really hard run errands come home and work some more and of course I

home and work some more and of course I

home and work some more and of course I had to balance all of this hard work

had to balance all of this hard work

had to balance all of this hard work with an adequate amount of tithing so

with an adequate amount of tithing so

with an adequate amount of tithing so there were plenty of fancy restaurants

there were plenty of fancy restaurants

there were plenty of fancy restaurants bars exotic trips clothes even more

bars exotic trips clothes even more

bars exotic trips clothes even more designer shoes and bags I was winning

designer shoes and bags I was winning

designer shoes and bags I was winning business awards Chuck setting the world

business awards Chuck setting the world

business awards Chuck setting the world and earning six figures at a really

and earning six figures at a really

and earning six figures at a really young age my life was full so full of

young age my life was full so full of

young age my life was full so full of meaningless minutiae and that when I

meaningless minutiae and that when I

meaningless minutiae and that when I realized I had to do something about it

realized I had to do something about it

realized I had to do something about it I had to take control of the situation

I had to take control of the situation

I had to take control of the situation and no longer that life just happened to

and no longer that life just happened to

and no longer that life just happened to me I decided to embrace that inner seven

me I decided to embrace that inner seven

me I decided to embrace that inner seven year old and that spark and so I started

year old and that spark and so I started

year old and that spark and so I started to make a series of really uncomfortable

to make a series of really uncomfortable

to make a series of really uncomfortable and scary choices that led me to my

and scary choices that led me to my

and scary choices that led me to my partner I decided to walk away from my

partner I decided to walk away from my

partner I decided to walk away from my precondition American Dream an immigrant

precondition American Dream an immigrant

precondition American Dream an immigrant dream that my parents had worked so

dream that my parents had worked so

dream that my parents had worked so incredibly hard for so that it was

incredibly hard for so that it was

incredibly hard for so that it was within my reach and I had the privilege

within my reach and I had the privilege

within my reach and I had the privilege to just walk away I chose to leave my

to just walk away I chose to leave my

to just walk away I chose to leave my secure stable corporate job and exchange

secure stable corporate job and exchange

secure stable corporate job and exchange my fancy Chicago downtown apartment for

my fancy Chicago downtown apartment for

my fancy Chicago downtown apartment for storage unit I started to strip away

storage unit I started to strip away

storage unit I started to strip away non-essential shopping and all the

non-essential shopping and all the

non-essential shopping and all the staple luxuries who wants an essential

staple luxuries who wants an essential

staple luxuries who wants an essential part of my life like gym memberships the

part of my life like gym memberships the

part of my life like gym memberships the process yeah

process yeah

process yeah the process was really hard I was no

the process was really hard I was no

the process was really hard I was no longer meeting the life and career

longer meeting the life and career

longer meeting the life and career expectations of my family and friends

expectations of my family and friends

expectations of my family and friends and it started to get lonely and I

and it started to get lonely and I

and it started to get lonely and I started to feel disconnected from some

started to feel disconnected from some

started to feel disconnected from some of the people who are once in my closest

of the people who are once in my closest

of the people who are once in my closest circle

circle

circle but through this conscious transition of

but through this conscious transition of

but through this conscious transition of choices something really beautiful

choices something really beautiful

choices something really beautiful happened I found in search water I start

happened I found in search water I start

happened I found in search water I start to live my purpose and today nearly

to live my purpose and today nearly

to live my purpose and today nearly 400,000 people in 11 countries have

400,000 people in 11 countries have

400,000 people in 11 countries have access to safe water a few weeks ago I

access to safe water a few weeks ago I

access to safe water a few weeks ago I was in the Dominican Republic and I met

was in the Dominican Republic and I met

was in the Dominican Republic and I met seven year old Diana Vasquez she dreams

seven year old Diana Vasquez she dreams

seven year old Diana Vasquez she dreams of becoming a chef’s when she grows up

of becoming a chef’s when she grows up

of becoming a chef’s when she grows up now that her family has take water in

now that her family has take water in

now that her family has take water in their homes

their homes

their homes Diana can go to school get an education

Diana can go to school get an education

Diana can go to school get an education and do what all children should do which

and do what all children should do which

and do what all children should do which is dream big that’s what water did for

is dream big that’s what water did for

is dream big that’s what water did for Diana and does for so many children

Diana and does for so many children

Diana and does for so many children around the world do you remember that

around the world do you remember that

around the world do you remember that dirty watering hole in Uganda that I

dirty watering hole in Uganda that I

dirty watering hole in Uganda that I told you about well I’ll never forget

told you about well I’ll never forget

told you about well I’ll never forget this moment almost a year later the 70

this moment almost a year later the 70

this moment almost a year later the 70 year old village Aldo he would propose

year old village Aldo he would propose

year old village Aldo he would propose this looked me in the eyes and thanked

this looked me in the eyes and thanked

this looked me in the eyes and thanked me for making you feel like a human

me for making you feel like a human

me for making you feel like a human being again

being again

being again he used to be on his knees drinking that

he used to be on his knees drinking that

he used to be on his knees drinking that same water as those cows and bass now

same water as those cows and bass now

same water as those cows and bass now not only does a booth who have safe

not only does a booth who have safe

not only does a booth who have safe water but he also had dignity

people like buco and Diana I what

people like buco and Diana I what inspire me and I’ll tell you something

inspire me and I’ll tell you something

inspire me and I’ll tell you something I’ll never forget this other moment

I’ll never forget this other moment

I’ll never forget this other moment because we’re who looked me in the eyes

because we’re who looked me in the eyes

because we’re who looked me in the eyes not only did he inspire me he also made

not only did he inspire me he also made

not only did he inspire me he also made me feel like a human being but yet I

me feel like a human being but yet I

me feel like a human being but yet I would choose Lucas

would choose Lucas

would choose Lucas Dianna’s and my life a million times

Dianna’s and my life a million times

Dianna’s and my life a million times over that Prada bad

over that Prada bad

over that Prada bad all those Louboutin shoes when I started

all those Louboutin shoes when I started

all those Louboutin shoes when I started served I chose to break away from the

served I chose to break away from the

served I chose to break away from the systems and the expectations and

systems and the expectations and

systems and the expectations and imprison me I started to live a

imprison me I started to live a

imprison me I started to live a conscious mindful life and because of

conscious mindful life and because of

conscious mindful life and because of that I got gets now get to live

that I got gets now get to live

that I got gets now get to live purposefully and fully I have exposure

purposefully and fully I have exposure

purposefully and fully I have exposure to beautiful villages on stunning

to beautiful villages on stunning

to beautiful villages on stunning mountains across running streams all

mountains across running streams all

mountains across running streams all across a beautiful world I meet local

across a beautiful world I meet local

across a beautiful world I meet local heroes that inspire me to become a

heroes that inspire me to become a

heroes that inspire me to become a better person every day teach me about

better person every day teach me about

better person every day teach me about love privilege perseverance and strength

love privilege perseverance and strength

love privilege perseverance and strength so I ask you what if some of the choices

so I ask you what if some of the choices

so I ask you what if some of the choices that you are faced with which side of

that you are faced with which side of

that you are faced with which side of the glass window are you on are you

the glass window are you on are you

the glass window are you on are you filling your can with mosquito-infested

filling your can with mosquito-infested

filling your can with mosquito-infested brown murky water or are you choosing

brown murky water or are you choosing

brown murky water or are you choosing between your morning milk obverses latte

between your morning milk obverses latte

between your morning milk obverses latte or perhaps your afternoon sandwich

or perhaps your afternoon sandwich

or perhaps your afternoon sandwich versus a salad do you have privilege in

versus a salad do you have privilege in

versus a salad do you have privilege in your choices and if so what do you do

your choices and if so what do you do

your choices and if so what do you do with that privilege and let’s take this

with that privilege and let’s take this

with that privilege and let’s take this even further are you living a life that

even further are you living a life that

even further are you living a life that the system has precondition usefulness

the system has precondition usefulness

the system has precondition usefulness or are you living the life you really

or are you living the life you really

or are you living the life you really want

are you using meaningless choices to

are you using meaningless choices to distract from that one choice that

distract from that one choice that

distract from that one choice that really means something

what is that inner voice what is that

what is that inner voice what is that voice you can no longer ignore what is

voice you can no longer ignore what is

voice you can no longer ignore what is that one choice but is so authentically

that one choice but is so authentically

that one choice but is so authentically you that will make you a slightly better

you that will make you a slightly better

you that will make you a slightly better and happier person what is that one

and happier person what is that one

and happier person what is that one choice that could defy all reason to

choice that could defy all reason to

choice that could defy all reason to make the world just a slightly better

make the world just a slightly better

make the world just a slightly better place I definitely don’t have all the

place I definitely don’t have all the

place I definitely don’t have all the answers and I still have a lot of Life

answers and I still have a lot of Life

answers and I still have a lot of Life to Live stories to tell and choices to

to Live stories to tell and choices to

to Live stories to tell and choices to make I feel like my life’s work has just

make I feel like my life’s work has just

make I feel like my life’s work has just begun but what I do know is that when

begun but what I do know is that when

begun but what I do know is that when you embrace the uncomfortable and start

you embrace the uncomfortable and start

you embrace the uncomfortable and start making mindful conscious choices change

making mindful conscious choices change

making mindful conscious choices change becomes possible and perhaps tomorrow

becomes possible and perhaps tomorrow

becomes possible and perhaps tomorrow because of you one more person will have

because of you one more person will have

because of you one more person will have the privilege to choose

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