I’m really pleased with today really pleased with being here with you because
pleased with being here with you because
pleased with being here with you because for a long time I wanted to do a TED and
for a long time I wanted to do a TED and
for a long time I wanted to do a TED and I had a dream in my heart and I wanted
I had a dream in my heart and I wanted
I had a dream in my heart and I wanted to do it but I never shared it with no
to do it but I never shared it with no
to do it but I never shared it with no one and then I was contacted to share
one and then I was contacted to share
one and then I was contacted to share and do its head and I thought wow
and do its head and I thought wow
and do its head and I thought wow you know the dreams of our hearts can
you know the dreams of our hearts can
you know the dreams of our hearts can come true and it gave me it gave me a
come true and it gave me it gave me a
come true and it gave me it gave me a dichotomy then to say what am I going to
dichotomy then to say what am I going to
dichotomy then to say what am I going to share about this Ted what am I going to
share about this Ted what am I going to
share about this Ted what am I going to talk about what am I going to put out
talk about what am I going to put out
talk about what am I going to put out there I know my expertise I know the
there I know my expertise I know the
there I know my expertise I know the things that I’ve been considering in
things that I’ve been considering in
things that I’ve been considering in life I know I can but then I have been
life I know I can but then I have been
life I know I can but then I have been in a certain place in my life
in a certain place in my life
in a certain place in my life at present and I’m on a journey and I
at present and I’m on a journey and I
at present and I’m on a journey and I recognized that I’m going to share my
recognized that I’m going to share my
recognized that I’m going to share my heart so I’m like yeah okay I know I’m
heart so I’m like yeah okay I know I’m
heart so I’m like yeah okay I know I’m going to share my heart I want to be
going to share my heart I want to be
going to share my heart I want to be honest I want to be real I want to be
honest I want to be real I want to be
honest I want to be real I want to be open I want to be me
open I want to be me
open I want to be me but then there was a greater challenge
but then there was a greater challenge
but then there was a greater challenge because there was a pool on my heart to
because there was a pool on my heart to
because there was a pool on my heart to become naked to become transparent to
become naked to become transparent to
become naked to become transparent to become vulnerable and sometimes we can
become vulnerable and sometimes we can
become vulnerable and sometimes we can share our heart but we don’t share all
share our heart but we don’t share all
share our heart but we don’t share all of who we are and all of who we are
of who we are and all of who we are
of who we are and all of who we are sometimes we don’t like all of who we
sometimes we don’t like all of who we
sometimes we don’t like all of who we are we like some parts and we don’t like
are we like some parts and we don’t like
are we like some parts and we don’t like others and we try to hide some parts and
others and we try to hide some parts and
others and we try to hide some parts and we try to celebrate some possible I’m
we try to celebrate some possible I’m
we try to celebrate some possible I’m recognizing that there is a value of all
recognizing that there is a value of all
recognizing that there is a value of all of us all of me and the brokenness that
of us all of me and the brokenness that
of us all of me and the brokenness that we will go through so where should I
we will go through so where should I
we will go through so where should I start I think I’ll start from the
start I think I’ll start from the
start I think I’ll start from the beginning
beginning
beginning now I want youse to join me whatever age
now I want youse to join me whatever age
now I want youse to join me whatever age you are you go back and add nine months
you are you go back and add nine months
you are you go back and add nine months and I’m just going to give this quick
and I’m just going to give this quick
and I’m just going to give this quick story and you know I was thinking about
story and you know I was thinking about
story and you know I was thinking about this story and it might seem gross but
this story and it might seem gross but
this story and it might seem gross but what excuse me and so I think about my
what excuse me and so I think about my
what excuse me and so I think about my mom and dad meeting you know there was
mom and dad meeting you know there was
mom and dad meeting you know there was young and you know the problem in school
young and you know the problem in school
young and you know the problem in school and I said I like you wanna do homework
and I said I like you wanna do homework
and I said I like you wanna do homework together with you and let’s yeah let the
together with you and let’s yeah let the
together with you and let’s yeah let the way we’re gonna do homework and library
way we’re gonna do homework and library
way we’re gonna do homework and library that’s too boring
that’s too boring
that’s too boring let’s go wimpy
let’s go wimpy
let’s go wimpy because you know we’re talking way back
because you know we’re talking way back
because you know we’re talking way back there were no Nando’s or nothing it
there were no Nando’s or nothing it
there were no Nando’s or nothing it didn’t you know and then the probably
didn’t you know and then the probably
didn’t you know and then the probably says you know I really like you can I be
says you know I really like you can I be
says you know I really like you can I be your pen pal because there was no email
your pen pal because there was no email
your pen pal because there was no email then and you know and and then they
then and you know and and then they
then and you know and and then they probably met up and hopefully was
probably met up and hopefully was
probably met up and hopefully was somewhere decent and there was some
somewhere decent and there was some
somewhere decent and there was some music and for my age it was probably our
music and for my age it was probably our
music and for my age it was probably our green or or or it was probably Marvin
green or or or it was probably Marvin
green or or or it was probably Marvin Gaye or it was you know Barry White or
Gaye or it was you know Barry White or
Gaye or it was you know Barry White or so I don’t know I don’t know
so I don’t know I don’t know
so I don’t know I don’t know Freddie McGregor I don’t know and then
Freddie McGregor I don’t know and then
Freddie McGregor I don’t know and then something happened
something happened
something happened and then I started so I was just Jenny
and then I started so I was just Jenny
and then I started so I was just Jenny ink and I was like hey whoa spinning
ink and I was like hey whoa spinning
ink and I was like hey whoa spinning around and enough I turned the corner
around and enough I turned the corner
around and enough I turned the corner and then I thought wow this loads what’s
and then I thought wow this loads what’s
and then I thought wow this loads what’s going on here I don’t know what
going on here I don’t know what
going on here I don’t know what everyone’s and then we’re just all going
everyone’s and then we’re just all going
everyone’s and then we’re just all going together and we’re just traveling I was
together and we’re just traveling I was
together and we’re just traveling I was just traveling with traveling and then
just traveling with traveling and then
just traveling with traveling and then we just all just turned the corner and
we just all just turned the corner and
we just all just turned the corner and then we all seen like like like the Sun
then we all seen like like like the Sun
then we all seen like like like the Sun like the Sun you know I was like and the
like the Sun you know I was like and the
like the Sun you know I was like and the software just pulled me up there and we
software just pulled me up there and we
software just pulled me up there and we was all traveling then something just
was all traveling then something just
was all traveling then something just happened there’s some competitiveness
happened there’s some competitiveness
happened there’s some competitiveness going on and there was shoulder bar
going on and there was shoulder bar
going on and there was shoulder bar Jimmy and I were never in our shoulders
Jimmy and I were never in our shoulders
Jimmy and I were never in our shoulders but you know we you know was all trying
but you know we you know was all trying
but you know we you know was all trying to get there and and and and then we all
to get there and and and and then we all
to get there and and and and then we all got in and you know I was using my head
got in and you know I was using my head
got in and you know I was using my head and you know they probably look the same
and you know they probably look the same
and you know they probably look the same shape as my head and you know and and
shape as my head and you know and and
shape as my head and you know and and and then I got through and then it
and then I got through and then it
and then I got through and then it closed and the reason I say this is
closed and the reason I say this is
closed and the reason I say this is because anyone that can hear my voice
because anyone that can hear my voice
because anyone that can hear my voice you’ve gone through that as well and the
you’ve gone through that as well and the
you’ve gone through that as well and the very fact that you’re here you’re a
very fact that you’re here you’re a
very fact that you’re here you’re a winner already you you’re a winner
winner already you you’re a winner
winner already you you’re a winner before you was born before you came out
before you was born before you came out
before you was born before you came out you’s a winner you’s a champion before
you’s a winner you’s a champion before
you’s a winner you’s a champion before you had a degree before you had this
you had a degree before you had this
you had a degree before you had this before you add that before you had a car
before you add that before you had a car
before you add that before you had a car before you know you was a winner already
before you know you was a winner already
before you know you was a winner already but something happens in life that takes
but something happens in life that takes
but something happens in life that takes that away
something happens in life that takes it
something happens in life that takes it away we takes away the belief that we
away we takes away the belief that we
away we takes away the belief that we are in nothing we are more than enough
are in nothing we are more than enough
are in nothing we are more than enough without anything else but then we have
without anything else but then we have
without anything else but then we have all these different things and we start
all these different things and we start
all these different things and we start wearing all these masks you know we try
wearing all these masks you know we try
wearing all these masks you know we try to hide ourselves we try to be someone
to hide ourselves we try to be someone
to hide ourselves we try to be someone else we’ll try to be someone we’re not
else we’ll try to be someone we’re not
else we’ll try to be someone we’re not we think that we need to be this way to
we think that we need to be this way to
we think that we need to be this way to be accepted we need to have education to
be accepted we need to have education to
be accepted we need to have education to be accepted I need to be taller need to
be accepted I need to be taller need to
be accepted I need to be taller need to be small I need to whatever it is I need
be small I need to whatever it is I need
be small I need to whatever it is I need to be something and we have all these
to be something and we have all these
to be something and we have all these masculine 4 4 4 men you know as a boy
masculine 4 4 4 men you know as a boy
masculine 4 4 4 men you know as a boy you’re told not to cry as a boy you said
you’re told not to cry as a boy you said
you’re told not to cry as a boy you said you are not strong if you cry so then we
you are not strong if you cry so then we
you are not strong if you cry so then we repress our feelings we were piss
repress our feelings we were piss
repress our feelings we were piss ourselves and hold back ourselves and
ourselves and hold back ourselves and
ourselves and hold back ourselves and then as men we struggle to cry we
then as men we struggle to cry we
then as men we struggle to cry we struggle to express ourselves or
struggle to express ourselves or
struggle to express ourselves or struggle because we think being
struggle because we think being
struggle because we think being vulnerable is being weak but the reality
vulnerable is being weak but the reality
vulnerable is being weak but the reality of it is it’s beautiful and when you
of it is it’s beautiful and when you
of it is it’s beautiful and when you look at a butterfly a butterfly looks so
look at a butterfly a butterfly looks so
look at a butterfly a butterfly looks so beautiful but the reality of it a
beautiful but the reality of it a
beautiful but the reality of it a butterfly cannot become a butterfly
butterfly cannot become a butterfly
butterfly cannot become a butterfly until it is a caterpillar that goes
until it is a caterpillar that goes
until it is a caterpillar that goes through the process of being broken to
through the process of being broken to
through the process of being broken to become a butterfly and many of us have
become a butterfly and many of us have
become a butterfly and many of us have got hang-ups about the process or the
got hang-ups about the process or the
got hang-ups about the process or the that the understandings or the
that the understandings or the
that the understandings or the connotations to brokenness when I think
connotations to brokenness when I think
connotations to brokenness when I think about brokenness I’m not speaking or
about brokenness I’m not speaking or
about brokenness I’m not speaking or thinking about being destitute or being
thinking about being destitute or being
thinking about being destitute or being homeless or being down and out or you
homeless or being down and out or you
homeless or being down and out or you know that’s a part of brokenness for
know that’s a part of brokenness for
know that’s a part of brokenness for many of us what many of us are broken
many of us what many of us are broken
many of us what many of us are broken and with where everything many of us a
and with where everything many of us a
and with where everything many of us a broker who got home with her family with
broker who got home with her family with
broker who got home with her family with that car we got to agree what were
that car we got to agree what were
that car we got to agree what were broken on the inside and there’s nothing
broken on the inside and there’s nothing
broken on the inside and there’s nothing wrong with being broken because a part
wrong with being broken because a part
wrong with being broken because a part of it but many of us when we think about
of it but many of us when we think about
of it but many of us when we think about being broke and we think about it’s not
being broke and we think about it’s not
being broke and we think about it’s not nice it’s not worthy of anything it’s
nice it’s not worthy of anything it’s
nice it’s not worthy of anything it’s not good that’s what we think about
not good that’s what we think about
not good that’s what we think about being broken but when I think about
being broken but when I think about
being broken but when I think about broken I think about the joy that comes
broken I think about the joy that comes
broken I think about the joy that comes from being broken because many times our
from being broken because many times our
from being broken because many times our mindset I want me to be broken you know
mindset I want me to be broken you know
mindset I want me to be broken you know being a young black man coming from
being a young black man coming from
being a young black man coming from hansworth
hansworth
hansworth and I grew up in a very challenging time
and I grew up in a very challenging time
and I grew up in a very challenging time and lots of I mean many of you know
and lots of I mean many of you know
and lots of I mean many of you know about hands were for the wrong reasons
about hands were for the wrong reasons
about hands were for the wrong reasons times and I grew up in that era and
times and I grew up in that era and
times and I grew up in that era and there was mindsets and stereotypes and
there was mindsets and stereotypes and
there was mindsets and stereotypes and you’ve got to be this kind of way you
you’ve got to be this kind of way you
you’ve got to be this kind of way you got to be that kind of way you gotta
got to be that kind of way you gotta
got to be that kind of way you gotta have this kind of image you gotta you
have this kind of image you gotta you
have this kind of image you gotta you know you got to be into hip-hop or you
know you got to be into hip-hop or you
know you got to be into hip-hop or you got to be you and there’s these mindsets
got to be you and there’s these mindsets
got to be you and there’s these mindsets that we get there’s these constructs
that we get there’s these constructs
that we get there’s these constructs that we get and they need to be broken
that we get and they need to be broken
that we get and they need to be broken if we’re going to experience what we
if we’re going to experience what we
if we’re going to experience what we could become so today for me it’s about
could become so today for me it’s about
could become so today for me it’s about helping and sharing to look at a
helping and sharing to look at a
helping and sharing to look at a different perspective how we see
different perspective how we see
different perspective how we see brokenness is one of the things that
brokenness is one of the things that
brokenness is one of the things that hinders us or it encourages us many
hinders us or it encourages us many
hinders us or it encourages us many times we want to be around many people
times we want to be around many people
times we want to be around many people you know a lot of times we want this
you know a lot of times we want this
you know a lot of times we want this sense of belonging we want to be a part
sense of belonging we want to be a part
sense of belonging we want to be a part of a family one that you know for young
of a family one that you know for young
of a family one that you know for young boys sometimes they want to be a part of
boys sometimes they want to be a part of
boys sometimes they want to be a part of a gang because I don’t have a family
a gang because I don’t have a family
a gang because I don’t have a family because it’s not just that they want to
because it’s not just that they want to
because it’s not just that they want to do bad things it’s about the camaraderie
do bad things it’s about the camaraderie
do bad things it’s about the camaraderie it’s about they want to be in oneness
it’s about they want to be in oneness
it’s about they want to be in oneness with others I want to be accepted and
with others I want to be accepted and
with others I want to be accepted and sometimes in society only people that
sometimes in society only people that
sometimes in society only people that are like them accept them and only
are like them accept them and only
are like them accept them and only people that understand them accept them
people that understand them accept them
people that understand them accept them and they gravitate towards them and and
and they gravitate towards them and and
and they gravitate towards them and and and it’s not unusual we all want some
and it’s not unusual we all want some
and it’s not unusual we all want some form of belonging we all want to be a
form of belonging we all want to be a
form of belonging we all want to be a part of something whether it’s a union
part of something whether it’s a union
part of something whether it’s a union where there’s a fraternity
where there’s a fraternity
where there’s a fraternity whether it’s we’ve all got a degree
whether it’s we’ve all got a degree
whether it’s we’ve all got a degree we’ve got a master’s we got this we got
we’ve got a master’s we got this we got
we’ve got a master’s we got this we got that we want to become something well
that we want to become something well
that we want to become something well sometimes what we want want to become
sometimes what we want want to become
sometimes what we want want to become makes us think that we’re not enough and
makes us think that we’re not enough and
makes us think that we’re not enough and it’s us being broken from that reality
it’s us being broken from that reality
it’s us being broken from that reality because the reality of it is a butterfly
because the reality of it is a butterfly
because the reality of it is a butterfly cannot share this cocoon sometimes it’s
cannot share this cocoon sometimes it’s
cannot share this cocoon sometimes it’s lonely sometimes you’ve got to be alone
lonely sometimes you’ve got to be alone
lonely sometimes you’ve got to be alone sometimes you’re gonna be by yourself to
sometimes you’re gonna be by yourself to
sometimes you’re gonna be by yourself to go through the process of being broken
go through the process of being broken
go through the process of being broken to go to the next place in your life and
to go to the next place in your life and
to go to the next place in your life and who you need to become a way you want to
who you need to become a way you want to
who you need to become a way you want to be and sometimes we don’t like being
be and sometimes we don’t like being
be and sometimes we don’t like being lonely but I heard the other day talking
lonely but I heard the other day talking
lonely but I heard the other day talking about you know was so viral with so
about you know was so viral with so
about you know was so viral with so social medias that we were so dis or so
social medias that we were so dis or so
social medias that we were so dis or so that we got that many friends ELISA and
that we got that many friends ELISA and
that we got that many friends ELISA and many of us are more lonely now than
many of us are more lonely now than
many of us are more lonely now than before and we’ve got 5,000 friends if
before and we’ve got 5,000 friends if
before and we’ve got 5,000 friends if I’d listened that and if they’re not
I’d listened that and if they’re not
I’d listened that and if they’re not really friends and many times we meet so
really friends and many times we meet so
really friends and many times we meet so many people but we don’t meet ourselves
because we’re scared to look at what
because we’re scared to look at what we’re going to see you not everything’s
we’re going to see you not everything’s
we’re going to see you not everything’s going to be nice and sometimes to become
going to be nice and sometimes to become
going to be nice and sometimes to become whole we have to be broken but the key
whole we have to be broken but the key
whole we have to be broken but the key word is we need to let it be and I want
word is we need to let it be and I want
word is we need to let it be and I want to share just a few examples or three a
to share just a few examples or three a
to share just a few examples or three a few areas where I’ve been broken in and
few areas where I’ve been broken in and
few areas where I’ve been broken in and I always didn’t want them but there are
I always didn’t want them but there are
I always didn’t want them but there are examples because we want to grow old
examples because we want to grow old
examples because we want to grow old with the wisdom of hindsight recognizing
with the wisdom of hindsight recognizing
with the wisdom of hindsight recognizing that life is about the totality of
that life is about the totality of
that life is about the totality of experiences transition is not just about
experiences transition is not just about
experiences transition is not just about smoothness sometimes we have become so
smoothness sometimes we have become so
smoothness sometimes we have become so accustomed eyes and accustomed to
accustomed eyes and accustomed to
accustomed eyes and accustomed to comfort and when something’s edgy you
comfort and when something’s edgy you
comfort and when something’s edgy you always be it’s uncle we don’t like it
always be it’s uncle we don’t like it
always be it’s uncle we don’t like it and that’s what’s preventing us because
and that’s what’s preventing us because
and that’s what’s preventing us because imagine a caterpillar it’s not gonna
imagine a caterpillar it’s not gonna
imagine a caterpillar it’s not gonna like being liquidized or a caterpillar
like being liquidized or a caterpillar
like being liquidized or a caterpillar is not gonna like the process it has the
is not gonna like the process it has the
is not gonna like the process it has the goal to become a butterfly buddy car
goal to become a butterfly buddy car
goal to become a butterfly buddy car become a butterfly until it goes through
become a butterfly until it goes through
become a butterfly until it goes through the process so many of us settle for
the process so many of us settle for
the process so many of us settle for less because we don’t want to feel the
less because we don’t want to feel the
less because we don’t want to feel the turbulence our transformation we don’t
turbulence our transformation we don’t
turbulence our transformation we don’t want to feel the turbulence of change
want to feel the turbulence of change
want to feel the turbulence of change and for me that’s been something that’s
and for me that’s been something that’s
and for me that’s been something that’s been very challenging for me but I want
been very challenging for me but I want
been very challenging for me but I want to be able to know when I am growing old
to be able to know when I am growing old
to be able to know when I am growing old and I’ve got wisdom and I look back and
and I’ve got wisdom and I look back and
and I’ve got wisdom and I look back and I say you know something life is made up
I say you know something life is made up
I say you know something life is made up of all of this it’s a part of life it’s
of all of this it’s a part of life it’s
of all of this it’s a part of life it’s all about how we view it and I really
all about how we view it and I really
all about how we view it and I really believe that without us going beyond
believe that without us going beyond
believe that without us going beyond comforts we can’t achieve purpose when
comforts we can’t achieve purpose when
comforts we can’t achieve purpose when you think about the great people that
you think about the great people that
you think about the great people that lived the great people that we’re
lived the great people that we’re
lived the great people that we’re talking and it’s not just about your
talking and it’s not just about your
talking and it’s not just about your Martin Luther King and your Gandhi’s and
Martin Luther King and your Gandhi’s and
Martin Luther King and your Gandhi’s and all that yet your weekend we can mention
all that yet your weekend we can mention
all that yet your weekend we can mention them they all went through turbulence
them they all went through turbulence
them they all went through turbulence and challenge and orable and are
and challenge and orable and are
and challenge and orable and are disgusting I wish it wasn’t this way and
disgusting I wish it wasn’t this way and
disgusting I wish it wasn’t this way and that’s why we talk about them but it’s
that’s why we talk about them but it’s
that’s why we talk about them but it’s not just about those people that were
not just about those people that were
not just about those people that were considered to be heroes it’s about the
considered to be heroes it’s about the
considered to be heroes it’s about the the brave single mothers it’s about
the brave single mothers it’s about
the brave single mothers it’s about those that have been societies about
those that have been societies about
those that have been societies about those people that their young children
those people that their young children
those people that their young children are carriers to their parents that what
are carriers to their parents that what
are carriers to their parents that what they go
they go
they go through its what helps them to become
through its what helps them to become
through its what helps them to become who they who they are
who they who they are
who they who they are we have to embrace brokenness with a
we have to embrace brokenness with a
we have to embrace brokenness with a different paradigm and that’s what I’m
different paradigm and that’s what I’m
different paradigm and that’s what I’m trying to share today this is one of the
trying to share today this is one of the
trying to share today this is one of the first things that really introduced me
first things that really introduced me
first things that really introduced me to brokenness when I was in school and I
to brokenness when I was in school and I
to brokenness when I was in school and I was doing English I mean when I was at
was doing English I mean when I was at
was doing English I mean when I was at school I loved like the socializing more
school I loved like the socializing more
school I loved like the socializing more than anything and you know the boys and
than anything and you know the boys and
than anything and you know the boys and you know we used to tax the football
you know we used to tax the football
you know we used to tax the football after the little kids and say this is
after the little kids and say this is
after the little kids and say this is our playground and all that kind of you
our playground and all that kind of you
our playground and all that kind of you know just being a younger I go and
know just being a younger I go and
know just being a younger I go and playing football I played for Great
playing football I played for Great
playing football I played for Great Britain when I was 15 me I can’t even
Britain when I was 15 me I can’t even
Britain when I was 15 me I can’t even say the name but a number of very
say the name but a number of very
say the name but a number of very prolific players in the Premiership are
prolific players in the Premiership are
prolific players in the Premiership are played with so when I was at school I
played with so when I was at school I
played with so when I was at school I never really got it because I was a
never really got it because I was a
never really got it because I was a footballer and that’s what I was going
footballer and that’s what I was going
footballer and that’s what I was going to do and in English and order I just
to do and in English and order I just
to do and in English and order I just never got some of it to tell the truth
never got some of it to tell the truth
never got some of it to tell the truth but a teacher said to me you’re not
but a teacher said to me you’re not
but a teacher said to me you’re not going to amount to anything and I got so
going to amount to anything and I got so
going to amount to anything and I got so mad as so crazy because I was like how
mad as so crazy because I was like how
mad as so crazy because I was like how can you say that how can you make such a
can you say that how can you make such a
can you say that how can you make such a judgment and at home I was going for a
judgment and at home I was going for a
judgment and at home I was going for a challenge
challenge
challenge you know I’d difficulties my parents
you know I’d difficulties my parents
you know I’d difficulties my parents weren’t together as the oldest sibling
weren’t together as the oldest sibling
weren’t together as the oldest sibling I’d to bring up my younger siblings you
I’d to bring up my younger siblings you
I’d to bring up my younger siblings you know there was things that was very
know there was things that was very
know there was things that was very challenging in my life and some of that
challenging in my life and some of that
challenging in my life and some of that just came into the classroom not saying
just came into the classroom not saying
just came into the classroom not saying that I was being rude and I was being
that I was being rude and I was being
that I was being rude and I was being loud he’s just at times I won’t do my
loud he’s just at times I won’t do my
loud he’s just at times I won’t do my homework
homework
homework because other stuff was going on so I
because other stuff was going on so I
because other stuff was going on so I had to get out of this mindset because I
had to get out of this mindset because I
had to get out of this mindset because I thought I’m an academic I’m not good at
thought I’m an academic I’m not good at
thought I’m an academic I’m not good at English I’m not good at maths I’m at
English I’m not good at maths I’m at
English I’m not good at maths I’m at would it listen and for years that’s
would it listen and for years that’s
would it listen and for years that’s what I thought so I created that mindset
what I thought so I created that mindset
what I thought so I created that mindset to say this is me now this is me and
to say this is me now this is me and
to say this is me now this is me and that had to be broken and it was broken
that had to be broken and it was broken
that had to be broken and it was broken when I got an opportunity to write a
when I got an opportunity to write a
when I got an opportunity to write a book and it was one of the most
book and it was one of the most
book and it was one of the most challenging things in my life I can’t
challenging things in my life I can’t
challenging things in my life I can’t even explain to you how challenging it
even explain to you how challenging it
even explain to you how challenging it was to finish the book but a person that
was to finish the book but a person that
was to finish the book but a person that was coaching me said only 5% of people
was coaching me said only 5% of people
was coaching me said only 5% of people that start books conclude them and I can
that start books conclude them and I can
that start books conclude them and I can understand why but had to be broken to
understand why but had to be broken to
understand why but had to be broken to enter that place
enter that place
enter that place the next one is being mentored my whole
the next one is being mentored my whole
the next one is being mentored my whole world is mentioned I mentor young people
world is mentioned I mentor young people
world is mentioned I mentor young people I train people to become mentors or
I train people to become mentors or
I train people to become mentors or train people on the corporate sector to
train people on the corporate sector to
train people on the corporate sector to become mentors all that kind of stuff
become mentors all that kind of stuff
become mentors all that kind of stuff are out people to be broken and
are out people to be broken and
are out people to be broken and transform out of their their lifestyles
transform out of their their lifestyles
transform out of their their lifestyles and their jobs to be able to give back
and their jobs to be able to give back
and their jobs to be able to give back to young people and so forth that’s what
to young people and so forth that’s what
to young people and so forth that’s what I do yeah
I do yeah
I do yeah and I am also a person that has been
and I am also a person that has been
and I am also a person that has been mentored now I was mentored by this man
mentored now I was mentored by this man
mentored now I was mentored by this man and he was the person in the 90s you had
and he was the person in the 90s you had
and he was the person in the 90s you had a mercury phone or or one-to-one he was
a mercury phone or or one-to-one he was
a mercury phone or or one-to-one he was a person that was a CEO of that company
a person that was a CEO of that company
a person that was a CEO of that company mercury communications he was a CEO and
mercury communications he was a CEO and
mercury communications he was a CEO and found in that the founder of egg Bank
found in that the founder of egg Bank
found in that the founder of egg Bank and the CEO and founder of first direct
and the CEO and founder of first direct
and the CEO and founder of first direct and he’s been my mentor for many years
and he’s been my mentor for many years
and he’s been my mentor for many years and I had to be broken to be able to
and I had to be broken to be able to
and I had to be broken to be able to work with him to be able to talk to him
work with him to be able to talk to him
work with him to be able to talk to him you know his mindset is his life is
you know his mindset is his life is
you know his mindset is his life is experience just how he is and he’s one
experience just how he is and he’s one
experience just how he is and he’s one of the most humble people you’d meet you
of the most humble people you’d meet you
of the most humble people you’d meet you would if he came in this room you
would if he came in this room you
would if he came in this room you probably wouldn’t even know who he is
probably wouldn’t even know who he is
probably wouldn’t even know who he is his name’s Mike Harris and he’s one of
his name’s Mike Harris and he’s one of
his name’s Mike Harris and he’s one of them I am so fond of him
them I am so fond of him
them I am so fond of him and you know he would say the same with
and you know he would say the same with
and you know he would say the same with me and I call him old man and you know I
me and I call him old man and you know I
me and I call him old man and you know I get along with his wife and everything
get along with his wife and everything
get along with his wife and everything but to me to be able to exit my
but to me to be able to exit my
but to me to be able to exit my lifestyle and that mindset I had of
lifestyle and that mindset I had of
lifestyle and that mindset I had of living in Ann’s Worthen what I thought I
living in Ann’s Worthen what I thought I
living in Ann’s Worthen what I thought I could become and what I thought I could
could become and what I thought I could
could become and what I thought I could be and what I thought I could do for me
be and what I thought I could do for me
be and what I thought I could do for me to be able to exit and go past all that
to be able to exit and go past all that
to be able to exit and go past all that I had to be broken to go to the next
I had to be broken to go to the next
I had to be broken to go to the next place in my life the final one is my
place in my life the final one is my
place in my life the final one is my greatest one is my greatest one that I
greatest one is my greatest one that I
greatest one is my greatest one that I want to share is my wife isn’t he
want to share is my wife isn’t he
want to share is my wife isn’t he oh sorry oh so oh oh gosh oh gosh sorry
oh sorry oh so oh oh gosh oh gosh sorry
oh sorry oh so oh oh gosh oh gosh sorry sorry darling
sorry darling
sorry darling so darling it’s funny she’s not here
so darling it’s funny she’s not here
so darling it’s funny she’s not here with me right now but I put my gloves
with me right now but I put my gloves
with me right now but I put my gloves there right there because those in my
there right there because those in my
there right there because those in my back pocket and I just heard her voice
back pocket and I just heard her voice
back pocket and I just heard her voice why don’t you do with those things in
why don’t you do with those things in
why don’t you do with those things in your back pocket take them out and my
your back pocket take them out and my
your back pocket take them out and my wife has been one of the most beautiful
wife has been one of the most beautiful
wife has been one of the most beautiful blessings that I bet to embrace to be
blessings that I bet to embrace to be
blessings that I bet to embrace to be broke oh my gosh be married the breaking
broke oh my gosh be married the breaking
broke oh my gosh be married the breaking for a man I think women are more refined
for a man I think women are more refined
for a man I think women are more refined you know they say man was made from the
you know they say man was made from the
you know they say man was made from the dust and woman was made from the man I’m
dust and woman was made from the man I’m
dust and woman was made from the man I’m telling you you know the toilet seat
telling you you know the toilet seat
telling you you know the toilet seat that is that you know like it’s like
that is that you know like it’s like
that is that you know like it’s like sometimes I feel like I’m I don’t feel
sometimes I feel like I’m I don’t feel
sometimes I feel like I’m I don’t feel like it but sometimes I feel like I’m on
like it but sometimes I feel like I’m on
like it but sometimes I feel like I’m on another children but I’m not I’m an
another children but I’m not I’m an
another children but I’m not I’m an equal over together way but just how a
equal over together way but just how a
equal over together way but just how a man has to be molded to be ready for
man has to be molded to be ready for
man has to be molded to be ready for life that’s that’s my view yours are
life that’s that’s my view yours are
life that’s that’s my view yours are probably different but I could see the
probably different but I could see the
probably different but I could see the power and partnership of marriage and I
power and partnership of marriage and I
power and partnership of marriage and I can see the reason why it’s valuable to
can see the reason why it’s valuable to
can see the reason why it’s valuable to be married I see I get it it’s
be married I see I get it it’s
be married I see I get it it’s complimentary what’s the other area
complimentary what’s the other area
complimentary what’s the other area brokenness that I’ve found join so I’m
brokenness that I’ve found join so I’m
brokenness that I’ve found join so I’m going to leave you with this picture and
going to leave you with this picture and
going to leave you with this picture and what I want to say to you is embrace the
what I want to say to you is embrace the
what I want to say to you is embrace the joy are being broken or whatever you go
joy are being broken or whatever you go
joy are being broken or whatever you go through now whatever your transition you
through now whatever your transition you
through now whatever your transition you go through now just embrace it god bless
go through now just embrace it god bless
go through now just embrace it god bless and thank you
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