I would argue that there’s no real difference between being dead and not
difference between being dead and not
difference between being dead and not living and I want you to hold that
living and I want you to hold that
living and I want you to hold that thought for just a second now the CDC
thought for just a second now the CDC
thought for just a second now the CDC tells us that heart disease takes more
tells us that heart disease takes more
tells us that heart disease takes more life every single year in America than
life every single year in America than
life every single year in America than any other ailment but what if i told you
any other ailment but what if i told you
any other ailment but what if i told you that i might have discovered something
that i might have discovered something
that i might have discovered something that actually takes more life and heart
that actually takes more life and heart
that actually takes more life and heart disease and the crazy thing about it is
disease and the crazy thing about it is
disease and the crazy thing about it is not too many people are aware of it the
not too many people are aware of it the
not too many people are aware of it the way i came across this is I found some
way i came across this is I found some
way i came across this is I found some information from the Harris group that
information from the Harris group that
information from the Harris group that reported that two out of three Americans
reported that two out of three Americans
reported that two out of three Americans are admitting that they’re not very
are admitting that they’re not very
are admitting that they’re not very happy and this didn’t sit right with me
happy and this didn’t sit right with me
happy and this didn’t sit right with me two out of three Americans in a place
two out of three Americans in a place
two out of three Americans in a place where where you can learn and grow and
where where you can learn and grow and
where where you can learn and grow and progress where you can live where you
progress where you can live where you
progress where you can live where you want to live where you can do what you
want to live where you can do what you
want to live where you can do what you want to do where you can be whoever you
want to do where you can be whoever you
want to do where you can be whoever you want to be two out of three of us are
want to be two out of three of us are
want to be two out of three of us are reporting that we’re not very happy I
reporting that we’re not very happy I
reporting that we’re not very happy I couldn’t wrap my mind around this
couldn’t wrap my mind around this
couldn’t wrap my mind around this because we have a population of 320
because we have a population of 320
because we have a population of 320 million people and sixty-seven percent
million people and sixty-seven percent
million people and sixty-seven percent of that that’s a lot of people who are
of that that’s a lot of people who are
of that that’s a lot of people who are unhappy so I built a little graphic now
unhappy so I built a little graphic now
unhappy so I built a little graphic now this represents the u.s. population
this represents the u.s. population
this represents the u.s. population there are 320 figures with each figure
there are 320 figures with each figure
there are 320 figures with each figure representing a million of us so if this
representing a million of us so if this
representing a million of us so if this is the entire US population then this
is the entire US population then this
is the entire US population then this would be the population who are
would be the population who are
would be the population who are admitting that they’re not very happy
admitting that they’re not very happy
admitting that they’re not very happy and again this didn’t sit right with me
and again this didn’t sit right with me
and again this didn’t sit right with me because of the opportunities that we
because of the opportunities that we
because of the opportunities that we have so I thought how why what’s causing
have so I thought how why what’s causing
have so I thought how why what’s causing this unhappiness and so naturally i
this unhappiness and so naturally i
this unhappiness and so naturally i looked at my own life I looked at times
looked at my own life I looked at times
looked at my own life I looked at times when maybe I wasn’t as happy as I could
when maybe I wasn’t as happy as I could
when maybe I wasn’t as happy as I could have been or I should have been really
have been or I should have been really
have been or I should have been really and that’s when I discovered this
and that’s when I discovered this
and that’s when I discovered this epidemic this disease that I argue takes
epidemic this disease that I argue takes
epidemic this disease that I argue takes more life and stops us from living more
more life and stops us from living more
more life and stops us from living more than any other ailment we’ve ever seen
than any other ailment we’ve ever seen
than any other ailment we’ve ever seen now before I tell you exactly what it is
now before I tell you exactly what it is
now before I tell you exactly what it is I
I
I share with you kind of what it looks
share with you kind of what it looks
share with you kind of what it looks like when I was 14 15 years old I was
like when I was 14 15 years old I was
like when I was 14 15 years old I was one of the youngest kids in high school
one of the youngest kids in high school
one of the youngest kids in high school it was my first year of high school I
it was my first year of high school I
it was my first year of high school I didn’t have a car I didn’t have a
didn’t have a car I didn’t have a
didn’t have a car I didn’t have a driver’s license and I I kept getting
driver’s license and I I kept getting
driver’s license and I I kept getting swirlies all too often they dip your
swirlies all too often they dip your
swirlies all too often they dip your head in the toilet and flush I heard
head in the toilet and flush I heard
head in the toilet and flush I heard somebody go oh you got him too I feel my
somebody go oh you got him too I feel my
somebody go oh you got him too I feel my pain now jokes aside 14 15 years old
pain now jokes aside 14 15 years old
pain now jokes aside 14 15 years old first year high school and I kept
first year high school and I kept
first year high school and I kept telling myself I’ll be happy when I’m a
telling myself I’ll be happy when I’m a
telling myself I’ll be happy when I’m a senior because when i’m a senior I’m
senior because when i’m a senior I’m
senior because when i’m a senior I’m talked about top dog at the school I
talked about top dog at the school I
talked about top dog at the school I have a car I’ll be able to do what I
have a car I’ll be able to do what I
have a car I’ll be able to do what I want to do fingers crossed swirlies will
want to do fingers crossed swirlies will
want to do fingers crossed swirlies will stop and I kept telling myself I’ll be
stop and I kept telling myself I’ll be
stop and I kept telling myself I’ll be happy when I become a senior well my
happy when I become a senior well my
happy when I become a senior well my senior year came and it wasn’t
senior year came and it wasn’t
senior year came and it wasn’t everything I thought it was going to be
everything I thought it was going to be
everything I thought it was going to be so I started telling myself you know
so I started telling myself you know
so I started telling myself you know what I’ll be happy when I graduate
what I’ll be happy when I graduate
what I’ll be happy when I graduate that’s when i’ll be happy when i
that’s when i’ll be happy when i
that’s when i’ll be happy when i graduated started working that got
graduated started working that got
graduated started working that got really old really quick and I started
really old really quick and I started
really old really quick and I started telling myself man i’ll be happy when i
telling myself man i’ll be happy when i
telling myself man i’ll be happy when i get to college cuz then I that’s when
get to college cuz then I that’s when
get to college cuz then I that’s when the fun starts I can start to be my own
the fun starts I can start to be my own
the fun starts I can start to be my own person when I got to college and I was
person when I got to college and I was
person when I got to college and I was stressed from exams and studying and
stressed from exams and studying and
stressed from exams and studying and having very little money and I started
having very little money and I started
having very little money and I started telling myself I’ll be happy when I get
telling myself I’ll be happy when I get
telling myself I’ll be happy when I get into my career and you very easily start
into my career and you very easily start
into my career and you very easily start to recognize this pattern of constantly
to recognize this pattern of constantly
to recognize this pattern of constantly saying i will be happy when and that’s
saying i will be happy when and that’s
saying i will be happy when and that’s when I discovered this epidemic this
when I discovered this epidemic this
when I discovered this epidemic this disease that stops us from living it’s
disease that stops us from living it’s
disease that stops us from living it’s something i call happy when itís
I’m not kidding I’ve defined it as the
I’m not kidding I’ve defined it as the subtle aggressive lie we tell ourselves
subtle aggressive lie we tell ourselves
subtle aggressive lie we tell ourselves that we will be happy when some future
that we will be happy when some future
that we will be happy when some future event takes place and the terrifying
event takes place and the terrifying
event takes place and the terrifying thing about happy when itís is that it
thing about happy when itís is that it
thing about happy when itís is that it actually doesn’t explicitly make us
actually doesn’t explicitly make us
actually doesn’t explicitly make us unhappy happy when I just is not what
unhappy happy when I just is not what
unhappy happy when I just is not what makes you this can fill discontent
makes you this can fill discontent
makes you this can fill discontent matter of fact happy when I just says
matter of fact happy when I just says
matter of fact happy when I just says you know what you can be happy you will
you know what you can be happy you will
you know what you can be happy you will be happy just not right now happy when
be happy just not right now happy when
be happy just not right now happy when itís says the feeling of sadness that
itís says the feeling of sadness that
itís says the feeling of sadness that feeling of anger that feeling again of
feeling of anger that feeling again of
feeling of anger that feeling again of discontent that’s all justified and it’s
discontent that’s all justified and it’s
discontent that’s all justified and it’s okay that you feel that way you should
okay that you feel that way you should
okay that you feel that way you should feel that way because happiness it’s
feel that way because happiness it’s
feel that way because happiness it’s it’s in the future for you the problem
it’s in the future for you the problem
it’s in the future for you the problem with putting our happiness off into the
with putting our happiness off into the
with putting our happiness off into the future is that the future never really
future is that the future never really
future is that the future never really gets here so before we know it or 40 50
gets here so before we know it or 40 50
gets here so before we know it or 40 50 60 years old having spent the last 30
60 years old having spent the last 30
60 years old having spent the last 30 years of our life saying I will be happy
years of our life saying I will be happy
years of our life saying I will be happy when and that’s why I argued that this
when and that’s why I argued that this
when and that’s why I argued that this disease takes more life than any ailment
disease takes more life than any ailment
disease takes more life than any ailment we’ve ever seen and if there is truly no
we’ve ever seen and if there is truly no
we’ve ever seen and if there is truly no difference between being dead and not
difference between being dead and not
difference between being dead and not living then we have to do something
living then we have to do something
living then we have to do something about it so that’s the bad news the good
about it so that’s the bad news the good
about it so that’s the bad news the good news is I I also think I might have
news is I I also think I might have
news is I I also think I might have found the cure and it’s three simple
found the cure and it’s three simple
found the cure and it’s three simple ingredients that if we employ we can
ingredients that if we employ we can
ingredients that if we employ we can fight happy when itís and the reason
fight happy when itís and the reason
fight happy when itís and the reason why these are the three remedies is
why these are the three remedies is
why these are the three remedies is because every instance every scenario
because every instance every scenario
because every instance every scenario every problem that is tied back to happy
every problem that is tied back to happy
every problem that is tied back to happy at when itís can be traced back to one
at when itís can be traced back to one
at when itís can be traced back to one of these three things and they are
of these three things and they are
of these three things and they are perspective action and relationships so
perspective action and relationships so
perspective action and relationships so to finish I want to talk about these
to finish I want to talk about these
to finish I want to talk about these three things quickly and I want us to
three things quickly and I want us to
three things quickly and I want us to understand first what are they second
understand first what are they second
understand first what are they second why are they relevant and third how do
why are they relevant and third how do
why are they relevant and third how do they combat the disease so first
they combat the disease so first
they combat the disease so first perspective and what I mean by
perspective and what I mean by
perspective and what I mean by perspective is the way we view the world
perspective is the way we view the world
perspective is the way we view the world see perspective is is
see perspective is is
see perspective is is the lens by which we view life through
the lens by which we view life through
the lens by which we view life through and much like much like my glasses
and much like much like my glasses
and much like much like my glasses they’re the proper prescription for me
they’re the proper prescription for me
they’re the proper prescription for me so they allow me to see my life more
so they allow me to see my life more
so they allow me to see my life more clearly if I have a proper perspective
clearly if I have a proper perspective
clearly if I have a proper perspective if you have a proper perspective it
if you have a proper perspective it
if you have a proper perspective it allows you to see life more clearly and
allows you to see life more clearly and
allows you to see life more clearly and the reason why this is still relevant is
the reason why this is still relevant is
the reason why this is still relevant is because it keeps small problems small
because it keeps small problems small
because it keeps small problems small and when we’re faced with a big problem
and when we’re faced with a big problem
and when we’re faced with a big problem perspective says yes acknowledge there’s
perspective says yes acknowledge there’s
perspective says yes acknowledge there’s a big problem but a proper perspective
a big problem but a proper perspective
a big problem but a proper perspective says don’t focus on the problem focus on
says don’t focus on the problem focus on
says don’t focus on the problem focus on what’s my next step an unhealthy
what’s my next step an unhealthy
what’s my next step an unhealthy perspective says I’ll be happy when my
perspective says I’ll be happy when my
perspective says I’ll be happy when my significant other or my immediate family
significant other or my immediate family
significant other or my immediate family change I’ll be happy when my boss or my
change I’ll be happy when my boss or my
change I’ll be happy when my boss or my colleagues change i’ll be happy when you
colleagues change i’ll be happy when you
colleagues change i’ll be happy when you know what i’ll be happy when i get that
know what i’ll be happy when i get that
know what i’ll be happy when i get that new marble countertop in my house that’s
new marble countertop in my house that’s
new marble countertop in my house that’s when i’ll be happy but a healthy
when i’ll be happy but a healthy
when i’ll be happy but a healthy perspective says i’m happy i don’t have
perspective says i’m happy i don’t have
perspective says i’m happy i don’t have to go through life alone a healthy
to go through life alone a healthy
to go through life alone a healthy perspective says i’m glad that i get a
perspective says i’m glad that i get a
perspective says i’m glad that i get a work with a diverse group of people that
work with a diverse group of people that
work with a diverse group of people that undoubtedly make me a better person a
undoubtedly make me a better person a
undoubtedly make me a better person a healthy perspective says that marble
healthy perspective says that marble
healthy perspective says that marble countertop it will look nice in my house
countertop it will look nice in my house
countertop it will look nice in my house but i’m just happy that i have a roof
but i’m just happy that i have a roof
but i’m just happy that i have a roof over my head every night I go to sleep
that’s the first ingredient the first
that’s the first ingredient the first step to combating happy when itís
step to combating happy when itís
step to combating happy when itís second is action and what I mean by
second is action and what I mean by
second is action and what I mean by action is working towards something of
action is working towards something of
action is working towards something of value for you or in the words of my
value for you or in the words of my
value for you or in the words of my mentor he said working towards something
mentor he said working towards something
mentor he said working towards something that’s going to outlive you and the
that’s going to outlive you and the
that’s going to outlive you and the reason why this is so important is
reason why this is so important is
reason why this is so important is because the wall street journal just
because the wall street journal just
because the wall street journal just recently reported and this is fantastic
recently reported and this is fantastic
recently reported and this is fantastic news this is a great news Wall Street
news this is a great news Wall Street
news this is a great news Wall Street Journal said job satisfaction is higher
Journal said job satisfaction is higher
Journal said job satisfaction is higher than it’s been in a decade right now job
than it’s been in a decade right now job
than it’s been in a decade right now job satisfaction has hit its peak in 10
satisfaction has hit its peak in 10
satisfaction has hit its peak in 10 years which is great news until you hear
years which is great news until you hear
years which is great news until you hear that that great news is forty-eight
that that great news is forty-eight
that that great news is forty-eight percent which means that over half of
percent which means that over half of
percent which means that over half of working Americans are unhappy with the
working Americans are unhappy with the
working Americans are unhappy with the way that they’re spending over half of
way that they’re spending over half of
way that they’re spending over half of their day I would argue that we are not
their day I would argue that we are not
their day I would argue that we are not working towards something of value for
working towards something of value for
working towards something of value for us we’re not working towards something
us we’re not working towards something
us we’re not working towards something that will outlive us because if we were
that will outlive us because if we were
that will outlive us because if we were forty-eight percent of us sorry
forty-eight percent of us sorry
forty-eight percent of us sorry fifty-two percent of us wouldn’t be
fifty-two percent of us wouldn’t be
fifty-two percent of us wouldn’t be dissatisfied with our job satisfaction
dissatisfied with our job satisfaction
dissatisfied with our job satisfaction now how do we do that how do we
now how do we do that how do we
now how do we do that how do we accomplish this what will leave us
accomplish this what will leave us
accomplish this what will leave us satisfied and Forbes magazine they
satisfied and Forbes magazine they
satisfied and Forbes magazine they looked at all the factors of job
looked at all the factors of job
looked at all the factors of job satisfaction they looked at pay benefits
satisfaction they looked at pay benefits
satisfaction they looked at pay benefits who your bosses where you work who you
who your bosses where you work who you
who your bosses where you work who you work with and none of those were the
work with and none of those were the
work with and none of those were the number one factor of job satisfaction
number one factor of job satisfaction
number one factor of job satisfaction the number one factor was simply
the number one factor was simply
the number one factor was simply interest in the work you’re involved in
interest in the work you’re involved in
interest in the work you’re involved in so it doesn’t matter if you’re a first
so it doesn’t matter if you’re a first
so it doesn’t matter if you’re a first responder or an educator or a
responder or an educator or a
responder or an educator or a stay-at-home mom or you work at a bakery
stay-at-home mom or you work at a bakery
stay-at-home mom or you work at a bakery if you find interest in the work that is
if you find interest in the work that is
if you find interest in the work that is working towards something of value for
working towards something of value for
working towards something of value for you that’s the second ingredient third
you that’s the second ingredient third
you that’s the second ingredient third and finally arguably the most important
and finally arguably the most important
and finally arguably the most important are our relationships now one of my
are our relationships now one of my
are our relationships now one of my favorite speaker authors another small
favorite speaker authors another small
favorite speaker authors another small town Idaho boy the late Jim Rohn he
town Idaho boy the late Jim Rohn he
town Idaho boy the late Jim Rohn he would argue that were the average of the
would argue that were the average of the
would argue that were the average of the five people that we spend the most time
five people that we spend the most time
five people that we spend the most time with so when I say relationships I don’t
with so when I say relationships I don’t
with so when I say relationships I don’t mean just our significant others I don’t
mean just our significant others I don’t
mean just our significant others I don’t mean just our immediate family I mean
mean just our immediate family I mean
mean just our immediate family I mean everybody around us the people that
everybody around us the people that
everybody around us the people that influence us the most and I happen to
influence us the most and I happen to
influence us the most and I happen to agree with Jim Rohn that we are the
agree with Jim Rohn that we are the
agree with Jim Rohn that we are the average of the people that we come in
average of the people that we come in
average of the people that we come in contact with the most and the reason why
contact with the most and the reason why
contact with the most and the reason why this is so relevant is because we can’t
this is so relevant is because we can’t
this is so relevant is because we can’t help but be affected by those who we
help but be affected by those who we
help but be affected by those who we invest in and who we allowed to invest
invest in and who we allowed to invest
invest in and who we allowed to invest in us i have this sign up in my
in us i have this sign up in my
in us i have this sign up in my classroom i’m a high school teacher and
classroom i’m a high school teacher and
classroom i’m a high school teacher and this is something i share with my
this is something i share with my
this is something i share with my students you can’t stay dry in a pool
students you can’t stay dry in a pool
students you can’t stay dry in a pool it’s pretty obvious thought and as it
it’s pretty obvious thought and as it
it’s pretty obvious thought and as it relates to relationships is you can’t
relates to relationships is you can’t
relates to relationships is you can’t expect to jump into a pool and not get
expect to jump into a pool and not get
expect to jump into a pool and not get away so we can’t expect it if we’re
away so we can’t expect it if we’re
away so we can’t expect it if we’re always hanging around negative angry
always hanging around negative angry
always hanging around negative angry complaining people that we’re not going
complaining people that we’re not going
complaining people that we’re not going to be negative angry complainers and
to be negative angry complainers and
to be negative angry complainers and that’s an idea that I share with my
that’s an idea that I share with my
that’s an idea that I share with my students which is so obvious to us from
students which is so obvious to us from
students which is so obvious to us from the outside looking in but if we’re
the outside looking in but if we’re
the outside looking in but if we’re surrounded by it sometimes it’s hard to
surrounded by it sometimes it’s hard to
surrounded by it sometimes it’s hard to see
see
see so ladies and gentlemen I don’t share
so ladies and gentlemen I don’t share
so ladies and gentlemen I don’t share this idea with you just for the sake of
this idea with you just for the sake of
this idea with you just for the sake of sharing an idea I share this idea with
sharing an idea I share this idea with
sharing an idea I share this idea with you because I believe that there is an
you because I believe that there is an
you because I believe that there is an epidemic actually not just in our
epidemic actually not just in our
epidemic actually not just in our country but in the world and I do
country but in the world and I do
country but in the world and I do believe it takes more life away than any
believe it takes more life away than any
believe it takes more life away than any other ailment we’ve ever seen and our
other ailment we’ve ever seen and our
other ailment we’ve ever seen and our first speaker steven hatch he said he
first speaker steven hatch he said he
first speaker steven hatch he said he said listen we’re always finding
said listen we’re always finding
said listen we’re always finding ourselves in a place of either
ourselves in a place of either
ourselves in a place of either fulfilling our needs fulfilling our
fulfilling our needs fulfilling our
fulfilling our needs fulfilling our wants or trying to leave a legacy I
wants or trying to leave a legacy I
wants or trying to leave a legacy I honestly believe that if we ask
honestly believe that if we ask
honestly believe that if we ask ourselves what perspective am i keeping
ourselves what perspective am i keeping
ourselves what perspective am i keeping what action am i working towards what
what action am i working towards what
what action am i working towards what relationships am i working on we can
relationships am i working on we can
relationships am i working on we can very easily go from the first or second
very easily go from the first or second
very easily go from the first or second step to the third step of leaving a
step to the third step of leaving a
step to the third step of leaving a legacy and if there truly is no
legacy and if there truly is no
legacy and if there truly is no difference between being dead and not
difference between being dead and not
difference between being dead and not living what are you gonna do about it
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