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The embrace of discomfort | Iris Angelopoulou | TEDxUCLA


have you ever lived in a foreign country

have you ever lived in a foreign country or moved away from your hometowns and

or moved away from your hometowns and

or moved away from your hometowns and have you ever dealt with known Americans

have you ever dealt with known Americans

have you ever dealt with known Americans most of you live in Los Angeles one of

most of you live in Los Angeles one of

most of you live in Los Angeles one of the most culturally diverse cities in

the most culturally diverse cities in

the most culturally diverse cities in the world

the world

the world so chances are that you have but for

so chances are that you have but for

so chances are that you have but for those of you who haven’t well you’re

those of you who haven’t well you’re

those of you who haven’t well you’re about to because I’m clearly not from

about to because I’m clearly not from

about to because I’m clearly not from here

here

here and while interacting with people from

and while interacting with people from

and while interacting with people from other cultures would you say you felt

other cultures would you say you felt

other cultures would you say you felt excited and energized or challenged and

excited and energized or challenged and

excited and energized or challenged and slightly uncomfortable or maybe all of

slightly uncomfortable or maybe all of

slightly uncomfortable or maybe all of the above what you’ve experienced is

the above what you’ve experienced is

the above what you’ve experienced is pretty usual and totally acceptable and

pretty usual and totally acceptable and

pretty usual and totally acceptable and is commonly known as culture shock

is commonly known as culture shock

is commonly known as culture shock culture shock is the feeling of

culture shock is the feeling of

culture shock is the feeling of disorientation experienced by someone

disorientation experienced by someone

disorientation experienced by someone who is suddenly subjected to an

who is suddenly subjected to an

who is suddenly subjected to an unfamiliar culture way of life or set of

unfamiliar culture way of life or set of

unfamiliar culture way of life or set of attitudes it can take many forms and

attitudes it can take many forms and

attitudes it can take many forms and consist of multiple stages but it

consist of multiple stages but it

consist of multiple stages but it usually starts with a honeymoon when

usually starts with a honeymoon when

usually starts with a honeymoon when cultural differences are seen in a

cultural differences are seen in a

cultural differences are seen in a romantic light this is when I first

romantic light this is when I first

romantic light this is when I first moved to Los Angeles and I only saw palm

moved to Los Angeles and I only saw palm

moved to Los Angeles and I only saw palm trees and silhouettes against the cherry

trees and silhouettes against the cherry

trees and silhouettes against the cherry sky or when you think that my Greek

sky or when you think that my Greek

sky or when you think that my Greek accent is kind of cute but like most

accent is kind of cute but like most

accent is kind of cute but like most honeymoon periods this stage eventually

honeymoon periods this stage eventually

honeymoon periods this stage eventually ends and this is when things get serious

ends and this is when things get serious

ends and this is when things get serious excitement gives way to frustration and

excitement gives way to frustration and

excitement gives way to frustration and anger and small discrepancies feel like

anger and small discrepancies feel like

anger and small discrepancies feel like major catastrophes like asking for chips

major catastrophes like asking for chips

major catastrophes like asking for chips and England and getting back french

and England and getting back french

and England and getting back french fries language barriers stereotypes but

fries language barriers stereotypes but

fries language barriers stereotypes but also generation and technology gaps are

also generation and technology gaps are

also generation and technology gaps are only a few of the obstacles hindering

only a few of the obstacles hindering

only a few of the obstacles hindering good communication among people from

good communication among people from

good communication among people from different backgrounds imagine being at

different backgrounds imagine being at

different backgrounds imagine being at your office’s annual Christmas party and

your office’s annual Christmas party and

your office’s annual Christmas party and being sat next to that lonely kind of

being sat next to that lonely kind of

being sat next to that lonely kind of misfit tech guy who you’ve never

misfit tech guy who you’ve never

misfit tech guy who you’ve never exchanged a good morning with before or

exchanged a good morning with before or

exchanged a good morning with before or visiting Los Angeles from Europe

visiting Los Angeles from Europe

visiting Los Angeles from Europe and being on Sunset Boulevard at 1:00

and being on Sunset Boulevard at 1:00

and being on Sunset Boulevard at 1:00 a.m. with your phone dead only to

a.m. with your phone dead only to

a.m. with your phone dead only to realize that raising your hand to stop a

realize that raising your hand to stop a

realize that raising your hand to stop a cab is pointless what do you do you

cab is pointless what do you do you

cab is pointless what do you do you first take a deep breath and then you

first take a deep breath and then you

first take a deep breath and then you adapt now unless you’ve been an

adapt now unless you’ve been an

adapt now unless you’ve been an international student a relocated

international student a relocated

international student a relocated employee or some sort of cultural

employee or some sort of cultural

employee or some sort of cultural sciences expert you’ve probably never

sciences expert you’ve probably never

sciences expert you’ve probably never thought of adapting as something you’re

thought of adapting as something you’re

thought of adapting as something you’re dealing with every day you might have

dealing with every day you might have

dealing with every day you might have considered it a last resort a compromise

considered it a last resort a compromise

considered it a last resort a compromise something we’re forced to do rather than

something we’re forced to do rather than

something we’re forced to do rather than choose to do in Natural Sciences

choose to do in Natural Sciences

choose to do in Natural Sciences adaptation is first and foremost a

adaptation is first and foremost a

adaptation is first and foremost a matter of survival Darwin and his theory

matter of survival Darwin and his theory

matter of survival Darwin and his theory of evolution implies that only the

of evolution implies that only the

of evolution implies that only the organisms that maintain and evolve

organisms that maintain and evolve

organisms that maintain and evolve certain traits in response to the

certain traits in response to the

certain traits in response to the imposed conditions will be the ones able

imposed conditions will be the ones able

imposed conditions will be the ones able to survive and reproduce Bactrian camels

to survive and reproduce Bactrian camels

to survive and reproduce Bactrian camels for instance are a stunning example of

for instance are a stunning example of

for instance are a stunning example of resource conservation in response to the

resource conservation in response to the

resource conservation in response to the imposed conditions there – humps are

imposed conditions there – humps are

imposed conditions there – humps are filled with fat which can be converted

filled with fat which can be converted

filled with fat which can be converted into energy and water and they can

into energy and water and they can

into energy and water and they can forego sweating until their body

forego sweating until their body

forego sweating until their body temperature reaches a hundred Fahrenheit

temperature reaches a hundred Fahrenheit

temperature reaches a hundred Fahrenheit humans in turn face the same adaptive

humans in turn face the same adaptive

humans in turn face the same adaptive challenges as all other organisms

challenges as all other organisms

challenges as all other organisms it was adaptation to climate change that

it was adaptation to climate change that

it was adaptation to climate change that made tropical people tall and lean to

made tropical people tall and lean to

made tropical people tall and lean to lose heat whereas our takin mountain

lose heat whereas our takin mountain

lose heat whereas our takin mountain people short and white to conserve heat

people short and white to conserve heat

people short and white to conserve heat when it comes to biological evolution

when it comes to biological evolution

when it comes to biological evolution therefore there’s no question that

therefore there’s no question that

therefore there’s no question that adaptation is a matter of life and death

adaptation is a matter of life and death

adaptation is a matter of life and death what differentiates us from camels

what differentiates us from camels

what differentiates us from camels however is that we can be conscious

however is that we can be conscious

however is that we can be conscious about our ability to evolve we can

about our ability to evolve we can

about our ability to evolve we can choose to resist change and risk

choose to resist change and risk

choose to resist change and risk becoming obsolete or we can use

becoming obsolete or we can use

becoming obsolete or we can use hereditability to grow even stronger and

hereditability to grow even stronger and

hereditability to grow even stronger and this decision is not an easy one four

this decision is not an easy one four

this decision is not an easy one four years ago I moved from Greece a

years ago I moved from Greece a

years ago I moved from Greece a culturally speaking homogeneous country

culturally speaking homogeneous country

culturally speaking homogeneous country to

to

to than from a master’s degree and I found

than from a master’s degree and I found

than from a master’s degree and I found myself within a class of 38 different

myself within a class of 38 different

myself within a class of 38 different nationalities 38 different cultures

nationalities 38 different cultures

nationalities 38 different cultures among 120 students add this to London’s

among 120 students add this to London’s

among 120 students add this to London’s overall multiculturalism it was

overall multiculturalism it was

overall multiculturalism it was exhilarating but also extremely

exhilarating but also extremely

exhilarating but also extremely stressful demanding discomforting and in

stressful demanding discomforting and in

stressful demanding discomforting and in the end exhausting suddenly

the end exhausting suddenly

the end exhausting suddenly understanding someone was no longer

understanding someone was no longer

understanding someone was no longer effortless speaking out was no longer

effortless speaking out was no longer

effortless speaking out was no longer safe even telling a joke was impossible

safe even telling a joke was impossible

safe even telling a joke was impossible I had to explain it so what was

I had to explain it so what was

I had to explain it so what was happening to me and probably to many

happening to me and probably to many

happening to me and probably to many other students was that I couldn’t

other students was that I couldn’t

other students was that I couldn’t relate to my surroundings the way I did

relate to my surroundings the way I did

relate to my surroundings the way I did back home so I had to either find a way

back home so I had to either find a way

back home so I had to either find a way to cope with his new situation I’ll go

to cope with his new situation I’ll go

to cope with his new situation I’ll go back I decided to stay and this is when

back I decided to stay and this is when

back I decided to stay and this is when something interesting happened I started

something interesting happened I started

something interesting happened I started to listen more intently and to

to listen more intently and to

to listen more intently and to articulate my thoughts more precisely

articulate my thoughts more precisely

articulate my thoughts more precisely and through this two-way process I was

and through this two-way process I was

and through this two-way process I was able to rediscover myself new

able to rediscover myself new

able to rediscover myself new environments demand new adapted

environments demand new adapted

environments demand new adapted responses for instance I quickly started

responses for instance I quickly started

responses for instance I quickly started imitating my surroundings saying cheers

imitating my surroundings saying cheers

imitating my surroundings saying cheers to Londoners and that’s awesome to

to Londoners and that’s awesome to

to Londoners and that’s awesome to Californians but how does this help us

Californians but how does this help us

Californians but how does this help us grow well um in a way that we may not

grow well um in a way that we may not

grow well um in a way that we may not even notice we start seeing things from

even notice we start seeing things from

even notice we start seeing things from different perspectives and that makes us

different perspectives and that makes us

different perspectives and that makes us inevitably straights or horizons because

inevitably straights or horizons because

inevitably straights or horizons because when exposed to different worlds after

when exposed to different worlds after

when exposed to different worlds after this initial phase of imitation we start

this initial phase of imitation we start

this initial phase of imitation we start questioning ourselves we start realizing

questioning ourselves we start realizing

questioning ourselves we start realizing that we don’t know everything and that

that we don’t know everything and that

that we don’t know everything and that consequently there is room for

consequently there is room for

consequently there is room for improvement and this is the key point in

improvement and this is the key point in

improvement and this is the key point in the process that’s when we start to

the process that’s when we start to

the process that’s when we start to really listen and each conversation

really listen and each conversation

really listen and each conversation becomes a stimulus for change we

becomes a stimulus for change we

becomes a stimulus for change we gradually develop new

gradually develop new

gradually develop new teens challenge our existing points of

teens challenge our existing points of

teens challenge our existing points of view and adopt new and unexpected ways

view and adopt new and unexpected ways

view and adopt new and unexpected ways of seeing the world it’s a long and

of seeing the world it’s a long and

of seeing the world it’s a long and laborious process it surely was for me

laborious process it surely was for me

laborious process it surely was for me but resisting change felt far more

but resisting change felt far more

but resisting change felt far more painful and adapting to it turned out to

painful and adapting to it turned out to

painful and adapting to it turned out to be far more favorable and the benefits

be far more favorable and the benefits

be far more favorable and the benefits of adaptation go beyond personal

of adaptation go beyond personal

of adaptation go beyond personal development beyond overcoming the

development beyond overcoming the

development beyond overcoming the discomfort of having a non-american

discomfort of having a non-american

discomfort of having a non-american colleague or learning to use the iPad so

colleague or learning to use the iPad so

colleague or learning to use the iPad so you can feel closer to your grandchild

you can feel closer to your grandchild

you can feel closer to your grandchild adaptation is vital to the advancement

adaptation is vital to the advancement

adaptation is vital to the advancement of an entire community or even a whole

of an entire community or even a whole

of an entire community or even a whole nation in the United States in the early

nation in the United States in the early

nation in the United States in the early nineteen hundreds thousands of people

nineteen hundreds thousands of people

nineteen hundreds thousands of people from around the world came to an

from around the world came to an

from around the world came to an unfamiliar environment with the sole

unfamiliar environment with the sole

unfamiliar environment with the sole hope of making their dreams come true

hope of making their dreams come true

hope of making their dreams come true Italian cooks brother craft to the new

Italian cooks brother craft to the new

Italian cooks brother craft to the new world and suddenly the states became the

world and suddenly the states became the

world and suddenly the states became the number one country in pizza consumption

number one country in pizza consumption

number one country in pizza consumption and of course this is about much more

and of course this is about much more

and of course this is about much more than pizza or sushi or tackles the

than pizza or sushi or tackles the

than pizza or sushi or tackles the identity of an entire country as the

identity of an entire country as the

identity of an entire country as the land of countless possibilities known

land of countless possibilities known

land of countless possibilities known the worldwide as the great melting pot

the worldwide as the great melting pot

the worldwide as the great melting pot is formed on the basis of individual

is formed on the basis of individual

is formed on the basis of individual aspirations being mixed together and

aspirations being mixed together and

aspirations being mixed together and adapted to one another in new previously

adapted to one another in new previously

adapted to one another in new previously unexplored ways adaptation is a process

unexplored ways adaptation is a process

unexplored ways adaptation is a process a process of change by which we become

a process of change by which we become

a process of change by which we become better suited to our environment

better suited to our environment

better suited to our environment camels did humans do it even companies

camels did humans do it even companies

camels did humans do it even companies do it all the time when I was working as

do it all the time when I was working as

do it all the time when I was working as a communications consultant and

a communications consultant and

a communications consultant and researcher in London I saw that the

researcher in London I saw that the

researcher in London I saw that the companies which were able to maintain

companies which were able to maintain

companies which were able to maintain the edge over time were the ones willing

the edge over time were the ones willing

the edge over time were the ones willing to change and this could mean adjusting

to change and this could mean adjusting

to change and this could mean adjusting their products to the needs of different

their products to the needs of different

their products to the needs of different markets or refreshing their visual

markets or refreshing their visual

markets or refreshing their visual identity to look modern or incorporating

identity to look modern or incorporating

identity to look modern or incorporating new technologies to improve their

new technologies to improve their

new technologies to improve their customers experience

customers experience

customers experience but what if instead of waiting for our

but what if instead of waiting for our

but what if instead of waiting for our environment to force us to change we

environment to force us to change we

environment to force us to change we could stimulate our own growth what if

could stimulate our own growth what if

could stimulate our own growth what if next time we go to work we try

next time we go to work we try

next time we go to work we try interacting more with our colleagues

interacting more with our colleagues

interacting more with our colleagues even if making small talk is not our

even if making small talk is not our

even if making small talk is not our greatest strength major Silicon Valley

greatest strength major Silicon Valley

greatest strength major Silicon Valley companies have already adopted unusual

companies have already adopted unusual

companies have already adopted unusual techniques to spark personal interaction

techniques to spark personal interaction

techniques to spark personal interaction and maximize chance encounters in the

and maximize chance encounters in the

and maximize chance encounters in the work space like putting all their

work space like putting all their

work space like putting all their employees into a single my long room as

employees into a single my long room as

employees into a single my long room as Facebook have done in their headquarters

Facebook have done in their headquarters

Facebook have done in their headquarters because they’re convinced that some of

because they’re convinced that some of

because they’re convinced that some of the best ideas and insights come from

the best ideas and insights come from

the best ideas and insights come from hallway in cafeteria discussions where

hallway in cafeteria discussions where

hallway in cafeteria discussions where people from across the company collide

people from across the company collide

people from across the company collide and adapt diversity and adaptation can

and adapt diversity and adaptation can

and adapt diversity and adaptation can be challenging and the times we’ve seen

be challenging and the times we’ve seen

be challenging and the times we’ve seen them bringing out the worst in us they

them bringing out the worst in us they

them bringing out the worst in us they can lead us to be fearful of the other

can lead us to be fearful of the other

can lead us to be fearful of the other angry even hostile toward each other but

angry even hostile toward each other but

angry even hostile toward each other but they may also bring out the best in us

they may also bring out the best in us

they may also bring out the best in us and if we want to really defend

and if we want to really defend

and if we want to really defend diversity and adaptation we need to

diversity and adaptation we need to

diversity and adaptation we need to accept them not just as inevitable

accept them not just as inevitable

accept them not just as inevitable natural processes but also as two very

natural processes but also as two very

natural processes but also as two very conscious paths because it is a choice

conscious paths because it is a choice

conscious paths because it is a choice to be adaptable and open to diversity

to be adaptable and open to diversity

to be adaptable and open to diversity especially here in the United States

especially here in the United States

especially here in the United States especially right now so don’t be afraid

especially right now so don’t be afraid

especially right now so don’t be afraid of change in all the forms it can take

of change in all the forms it can take

of change in all the forms it can take be ready to embrace the hostility of the

be ready to embrace the hostility of the

be ready to embrace the hostility of the buzzing city the exotic quirks of your

buzzing city the exotic quirks of your

buzzing city the exotic quirks of your neighbors the addition of new colleagues

neighbors the addition of new colleagues

neighbors the addition of new colleagues to your team every other month maybe

to your team every other month maybe

to your team every other month maybe even go and sit next to that lonely kind

even go and sit next to that lonely kind

even go and sit next to that lonely kind of misfit a guy who you’ve never

of misfit a guy who you’ve never

of misfit a guy who you’ve never exchanged a good morning with before at

exchanged a good morning with before at

exchanged a good morning with before at your office is next Christmas party do

your office is next Christmas party do

your office is next Christmas party do not be afraid of the changes that happen

not be afraid of the changes that happen

not be afraid of the changes that happen to yourself or to the environment around

to yourself or to the environment around

to yourself or to the environment around you because it is

you because it is

you because it is through this change that you will see

through this change that you will see

through this change that you will see yourself evolve adapting to this all but

yourself evolve adapting to this all but

yourself evolve adapting to this all but static world do that sit back and watch

static world do that sit back and watch

static world do that sit back and watch this world change and its turn after all

this world change and its turn after all

this world change and its turn after all it will be thanks to you okay

[Applause]

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