all good people hear me okay good I want to start today off with a really simple
to start today off with a really simple
to start today off with a really simple question actually by a show of hands how
question actually by a show of hands how
question actually by a show of hands how many of you guys would consider yourself
many of you guys would consider yourself
many of you guys would consider yourself to be a perfectionist at one point or
to be a perfectionist at one point or
to be a perfectionist at one point or another in your lives a couple people
another in your lives a couple people
another in your lives a couple people okay okay I’m I mean you’re not alone
okay okay I’m I mean you’re not alone
okay okay I’m I mean you’re not alone I’m one of those people too and for
I’m one of those people too and for
I’m one of those people too and for probably 20 of the 21 years I’ve been on
probably 20 of the 21 years I’ve been on
probably 20 of the 21 years I’ve been on this earth I would consider myself to be
this earth I would consider myself to be
this earth I would consider myself to be a perfectionist and roughly about a year
a perfectionist and roughly about a year
a perfectionist and roughly about a year ago I had this realization about what
ago I had this realization about what
ago I had this realization about what perfection really meant to me and I’m
perfection really meant to me and I’m
perfection really meant to me and I’m really excited to share that with all of
really excited to share that with all of
really excited to share that with all of you tonight so let’s start with the
you tonight so let’s start with the
you tonight so let’s start with the actual classic definition of what
actual classic definition of what
actual classic definition of what perfection is this is straight out of
perfection is this is straight out of
perfection is this is straight out of Webster’s dictionary perfection is the
Webster’s dictionary perfection is the
Webster’s dictionary perfection is the condition or state of being free from
condition or state of being free from
condition or state of being free from all flaws or defects corresponding to an
all flaws or defects corresponding to an
all flaws or defects corresponding to an ideal standard or abstract concept I
ideal standard or abstract concept I
ideal standard or abstract concept I really have two issues with what they’re
really have two issues with what they’re
really have two issues with what they’re saying here the first being free from
saying here the first being free from
saying here the first being free from all flaws that essentially means that
all flaws that essentially means that
all flaws that essentially means that perfection is impossible for all of us
perfection is impossible for all of us
perfection is impossible for all of us because as humans were inherently flawed
because as humans were inherently flawed
because as humans were inherently flawed and that’s what makes us beautiful the
and that’s what makes us beautiful the
and that’s what makes us beautiful the other part that I don’t really like
other part that I don’t really like
other part that I don’t really like about this is this abstract concept for
about this is this abstract concept for
about this is this abstract concept for all of you that raise your hands that
all of you that raise your hands that
all of you that raise your hands that means that you’ve created your own
means that you’ve created your own
means that you’ve created your own definition based off your experiences of
definition based off your experiences of
definition based off your experiences of what perfection really means to you I
what perfection really means to you I
what perfection really means to you I think that a lot of these definitions
think that a lot of these definitions
think that a lot of these definitions come from models of perfection
come from models of perfection
come from models of perfection throughout media through social media
throughout media through social media
throughout media through social media through news articles and and online
through news articles and and online
through news articles and and online sources a couple of my favorite models
sources a couple of my favorite models
sources a couple of my favorite models of perfection is my man crush right here
of perfection is my man crush right here
of perfection is my man crush right here mr. Zac Efron I don’t really think I
mr. Zac Efron I don’t really think I
mr. Zac Efron I don’t really think I need to explain why I think he’s perfect
need to explain why I think he’s perfect
need to explain why I think he’s perfect he just kind of is if you’ve seen
he just kind of is if you’ve seen
he just kind of is if you’ve seen Baywatch you know what I’m talking about
Baywatch you know what I’m talking about
Baywatch you know what I’m talking about along with people just like kendall
along with people just like kendall
along with people just like kendall Jenner who are models of perfection for
Jenner who are models of perfection for
Jenner who are models of perfection for fashion beauty and celebrity and also
fashion beauty and celebrity and also
fashion beauty and celebrity and also people just like Mark Zuckerberg who
people just like Mark Zuckerberg who
people just like Mark Zuckerberg who many of people that are in the business
many of people that are in the business
many of people that are in the business world see is this model of perfectionist
world see is this model of perfectionist
world see is this model of perfectionist somebody who’s built a billion dollar
somebody who’s built a billion dollar
somebody who’s built a billion dollar company out of essentially starting in
company out of essentially starting in
company out of essentially starting in his dorm room I want to share with you
his dorm room I want to share with you
his dorm room I want to share with you though the dark side of her factionism I
though the dark side of her factionism I
though the dark side of her factionism I would like to introduce to you Madison
would like to introduce to you Madison
would like to introduce to you Madison hollering Madison was an all-star
hollering Madison was an all-star
hollering Madison was an all-star athlete in both track and soccer
athlete in both track and soccer
athlete in both track and soccer straight-a student accepted into
straight-a student accepted into
straight-a student accepted into numerous numerous Ivy League schools
numerous numerous Ivy League schools
numerous numerous Ivy League schools and her quest for perfection ended up
and her quest for perfection ended up
and her quest for perfection ended up leading her to take her own life by
leading her to take her own life by
leading her to take her own life by jumping out of a parking garage after
jumping out of a parking garage after
jumping out of a parking garage after one year at UPenn UC Madison got caught
one year at UPenn UC Madison got caught
one year at UPenn UC Madison got caught in this never-ending pressure and cycle
in this never-ending pressure and cycle
in this never-ending pressure and cycle of regret stress and fear that ended up
of regret stress and fear that ended up
of regret stress and fear that ended up being more detrimental to her quest for
being more detrimental to her quest for
being more detrimental to her quest for perfection than good
perfection than good
perfection than good so to battle this I’ve decided let’s
so to battle this I’ve decided let’s
so to battle this I’ve decided let’s change what perfection means to us so
change what perfection means to us so
change what perfection means to us so I’ve come up with this new definition
I’ve come up with this new definition
I’ve come up with this new definition here perfection to me is actually the
here perfection to me is actually the
here perfection to me is actually the ability to identify and appreciate
ability to identify and appreciate
ability to identify and appreciate progress in times of fear and stress to
progress in times of fear and stress to
progress in times of fear and stress to find the beauty in the entirety of the
find the beauty in the entirety of the
find the beauty in the entirety of the journey not only the end result I also
journey not only the end result I also
journey not only the end result I also see it as being able to establish
see it as being able to establish
see it as being able to establish momentum let’s make this a tangible
momentum let’s make this a tangible
momentum let’s make this a tangible example imagine I asked you how could
example imagine I asked you how could
example imagine I asked you how could you get to the top of this mountain I
you get to the top of this mountain I
you get to the top of this mountain I don’t think any of you would come up to
don’t think any of you would come up to
don’t think any of you would come up to me and say Sam I could get there in one
me and say Sam I could get there in one
me and say Sam I could get there in one leap not even Michael Jordan would be
leap not even Michael Jordan would be
leap not even Michael Jordan would be able to say something like that so most
able to say something like that so most
able to say something like that so most of you probably come to me and say you
of you probably come to me and say you
of you probably come to me and say you know what Sam I probably have to do it a
know what Sam I probably have to do it a
know what Sam I probably have to do it a couple months of training in preparation
couple months of training in preparation
couple months of training in preparation to get ready for this quest now I want
to get ready for this quest now I want
to get ready for this quest now I want you to imagine this mountain as your
you to imagine this mountain as your
you to imagine this mountain as your personal ideal of perfection how are you
personal ideal of perfection how are you
personal ideal of perfection how are you going to get there I’ve really broken it
going to get there I’ve really broken it
going to get there I’ve really broken it down into four steps first we need to be
down into four steps first we need to be
down into four steps first we need to be able to identify goals and and by goals
able to identify goals and and by goals
able to identify goals and and by goals I don’t mean saying I want to be the
I don’t mean saying I want to be the
I don’t mean saying I want to be the next Zac Efron it’s saying something as
next Zac Efron it’s saying something as
next Zac Efron it’s saying something as simple as I want to get to the gym for
simple as I want to get to the gym for
simple as I want to get to the gym for the next 30 days in a row and once
the next 30 days in a row and once
the next 30 days in a row and once you’ve established that goal then you
you’ve established that goal then you
you’ve established that goal then you have to be able to accept the struggles
have to be able to accept the struggles
have to be able to accept the struggles that come with that knowing that for the
that come with that knowing that for the
that come with that knowing that for the next 30 days when you wake up in the
next 30 days when you wake up in the
next 30 days when you wake up in the morning you’re not gonna want to get out
morning you’re not gonna want to get out
morning you’re not gonna want to get out of bed to go to the gym I I know I don’t
of bed to go to the gym I I know I don’t
of bed to go to the gym I I know I don’t but once I know that that’s going to
but once I know that that’s going to
but once I know that that’s going to happen it’s much better and easier for
happen it’s much better and easier for
happen it’s much better and easier for me to be able to handle those situations
me to be able to handle those situations
me to be able to handle those situations as they come and once you’re able to
as they come and once you’re able to
as they come and once you’re able to handle it you’re able to embrace the
handle it you’re able to embrace the
handle it you’re able to embrace the moments where you beat those struggles
moments where you beat those struggles
moments where you beat those struggles those moments when you get out of the
those moments when you get out of the
those moments when you get out of the out of the bed and go work out anyways
out of the bed and go work out anyways
out of the bed and go work out anyways and you walk out doing 15 extra push-ups
and you walk out doing 15 extra push-ups
and you walk out doing 15 extra push-ups and what happens is all these small
and what happens is all these small
and what happens is all these small moments start to build up and you’re
moments start to build up and you’re
moments start to build up and you’re really able to start to establish and
really able to start to establish and
really able to start to establish and achieve momentum that is this new
achieve momentum that is this new
achieve momentum that is this new definition of perfection to all of us so
definition of perfection to all of us so
definition of perfection to all of us so that you can end up reaching your goal I
that you can end up reaching your goal I
that you can end up reaching your goal I want to share a quote with you it’s one
want to share a quote with you it’s one
want to share a quote with you it’s one of my favorite quotes of all time from
of my favorite quotes of all time from
of my favorite quotes of all time from John C Maxwell and he says the only one
John C Maxwell and he says the only one
John C Maxwell and he says the only one you should compare yourself to is you
you should compare yourself to is you
you should compare yourself to is you your mission is to become better today
your mission is to become better today
your mission is to become better today than you were yesterday instead of
than you were yesterday instead of
than you were yesterday instead of holding yourself to these stanzas of
holding yourself to these stanzas of
holding yourself to these stanzas of standards of perfection that you see in
standards of perfection that you see in
standards of perfection that you see in the media you should really look at who
the media you should really look at who
the media you should really look at who you were yesterday and how you improved
you were yesterday and how you improved
you were yesterday and how you improved upon that to become who you are today I
upon that to become who you are today I
upon that to become who you are today I urge all of you to not try to be the
urge all of you to not try to be the
urge all of you to not try to be the next best next Zac Efron but instead be
next best next Zac Efron but instead be
next best next Zac Efron but instead be the best version of yourself because the
the best version of yourself because the
the best version of yourself because the best version of yourself is actual
best version of yourself is actual
best version of yourself is actual perfection thank you
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