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Talking to each other is the only way to heal our divided nation | Sheryl Winarick | TEDxMidAtlantic


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[Applause] as an immigration lawyer I have a unique

as an immigration lawyer I have a unique

as an immigration lawyer I have a unique perspective of our country through the

perspective of our country through the

perspective of our country through the eyes of my clients who come from all

eyes of my clients who come from all

eyes of my clients who come from all over the world not to change America but

over the world not to change America but

over the world not to change America but to realize their full potential as

to realize their full potential as

to realize their full potential as humans Esther came from Haiti 10 years

humans Esther came from Haiti 10 years

humans Esther came from Haiti 10 years ago when she was in high school and now

ago when she was in high school and now

ago when she was in high school and now she’s one of the top nurses at

she’s one of the top nurses at

she’s one of the top nurses at Georgetown University Hospital Lauda is

Georgetown University Hospital Lauda is

Georgetown University Hospital Lauda is an Italian who fell in love with Chris

an Italian who fell in love with Chris

an Italian who fell in love with Chris and American whose parents came from

and American whose parents came from

and American whose parents came from Iceland to do research at NIH now Lauda

Iceland to do research at NIH now Lauda

Iceland to do research at NIH now Lauda is a doctor at Mount Sinai in New York

is a doctor at Mount Sinai in New York

is a doctor at Mount Sinai in New York and aquat is a doctor from Iraq who

and aquat is a doctor from Iraq who

and aquat is a doctor from Iraq who devotes his life to finding ways to

devotes his life to finding ways to

devotes his life to finding ways to prevent and cure cancer something that’s

prevent and cure cancer something that’s

prevent and cure cancer something that’s become even more important to him since

become even more important to him since

become even more important to him since his wife and mother were diagnosed he’s

his wife and mother were diagnosed he’s

his wife and mother were diagnosed he’s a research scientist at Johns Hopkins

a research scientist at Johns Hopkins

a research scientist at Johns Hopkins Hospital all of the people that I’ve had

Hospital all of the people that I’ve had

Hospital all of the people that I’ve had the privilege to serve reinforce the

the privilege to serve reinforce the

the privilege to serve reinforce the values that we consider American and the

values that we consider American and the

values that we consider American and the work they do benefits all of us but

work they do benefits all of us but

work they do benefits all of us but that’s not the narrative about

that’s not the narrative about

that’s not the narrative about immigrants that we get from the news and

immigrants that we get from the news and

immigrants that we get from the news and social media so what to do about this

social media so what to do about this

social media so what to do about this growing gap between rhetoric and reality

growing gap between rhetoric and reality

growing gap between rhetoric and reality over the next year I’m traveling around

over the next year I’m traveling around

over the next year I’m traveling around the United States on a listening tour to

the United States on a listening tour to

the United States on a listening tour to engage communities in conversations

engage communities in conversations

engage communities in conversations about culture and identity change and

about culture and identity change and

about culture and identity change and the challenges that we all face together

the challenges that we all face together

the challenges that we all face together just a few weeks ago I was in mcpherson

just a few weeks ago I was in mcpherson

just a few weeks ago I was in mcpherson Kansas for their annual scottish

Kansas for their annual scottish

Kansas for their annual scottish festival to celebrate the town’s

festival to celebrate the town’s

festival to celebrate the town’s cultural heritage Kansas is

cultural heritage Kansas is

cultural heritage Kansas is predominantly white rural conservative

predominantly white rural conservative

predominantly white rural conservative and Christian tight-knit friendly

and Christian tight-knit friendly

and Christian tight-knit friendly communities where most people feel safe

communities where most people feel safe

communities where most people feel safe and have job security so navigating

and have job security so navigating

and have job security so navigating change in the form of new residents from

change in the form of new residents from

change in the form of new residents from cultures and countries that appear

cultures and countries that appear

cultures and countries that appear different is challenging we were talking

different is challenging we were talking

different is challenging we were talking through that when I left Kansas I had a

through that when I left Kansas I had a

through that when I left Kansas I had a layover at the airport in chicago and

layover at the airport in chicago and

layover at the airport in chicago and this man sat next to me

this man sat next to me

this man sat next to me middle-eastern looking not smiling I

middle-eastern looking not smiling I

middle-eastern looking not smiling I thought he looks a little suspicious

thought he looks a little suspicious

thought he looks a little suspicious really Cheryl like all of my personal

really Cheryl like all of my personal

really Cheryl like all of my personal experience tells me that people are

experience tells me that people are

experience tells me that people are people and we all have way more in

people and we all have way more in

people and we all have way more in common than we differ but those toxic

common than we differ but those toxic

common than we differ but those toxic images that we constantly consume not to

images that we constantly consume not to

images that we constantly consume not to mention the physical reality of being

mention the physical reality of being

mention the physical reality of being surrounded by people who appear the same

surrounded by people who appear the same

surrounded by people who appear the same have an impact even on me someone with

have an impact even on me someone with

have an impact even on me someone with so much personal exposure to real live

so much personal exposure to real live

so much personal exposure to real live humans from every walk of life it’s so

humans from every walk of life it’s so

humans from every walk of life it’s so easy to forget that stories are

easy to forget that stories are

easy to forget that stories are newsworthy because they’re not normal

newsworthy because they’re not normal

newsworthy because they’re not normal our reality is shaped by our perception

our reality is shaped by our perception

our reality is shaped by our perception of the truth and our perception is based

of the truth and our perception is based

of the truth and our perception is based on our exposure if our exposure is

on our exposure if our exposure is

on our exposure if our exposure is limited to the things that we read and

limited to the things that we read and

limited to the things that we read and see on TV well that’s the problem that

see on TV well that’s the problem that

see on TV well that’s the problem that we face and I’m painfully aware of this

we face and I’m painfully aware of this

we face and I’m painfully aware of this not just because of my work with

not just because of my work with

not just because of my work with immigrants I grew up in Waco Texas and

immigrants I grew up in Waco Texas and

immigrants I grew up in Waco Texas and my family’s still in Waco it was just 30

my family’s still in Waco it was just 30

my family’s still in Waco it was just 30 years ago in the fall of 1986 when the

years ago in the fall of 1986 when the

years ago in the fall of 1986 when the high schools were finally consolidated

high schools were finally consolidated

high schools were finally consolidated under desegregation orders my class was

under desegregation orders my class was

under desegregation orders my class was the first class to go through all four

the first class to go through all four

the first class to go through all four years of high school together Waco is

years of high school together Waco is

years of high school together Waco is still largely segregated if not by race

still largely segregated if not by race

still largely segregated if not by race than by class and Waco like Kansas is

than by class and Waco like Kansas is

than by class and Waco like Kansas is solid red I love this picture of my dad

solid red I love this picture of my dad

solid red I love this picture of my dad he’s very funny and the Hat is a joke to

he’s very funny and the Hat is a joke to

he’s very funny and the Hat is a joke to be clear

but the reality is we have very

but the reality is we have very different world views and sometimes our

different world views and sometimes our

different world views and sometimes our disagreements feel very personal and

disagreements feel very personal and

disagreements feel very personal and painful and it’s hard to work through

painful and it’s hard to work through

painful and it’s hard to work through that we do it because we care the

that we do it because we care the

that we do it because we care the challenge for all of us is to recognize

challenge for all of us is to recognize

challenge for all of us is to recognize when our beliefs and our feelings are

when our beliefs and our feelings are

when our beliefs and our feelings are grounded in personal experience and when

grounded in personal experience and when

grounded in personal experience and when we’re letting the rhetoric shape our

we’re letting the rhetoric shape our

we’re letting the rhetoric shape our reality so there was my opportunity back

reality so there was my opportunity back

reality so there was my opportunity back at the airport in chicago to be brave

at the airport in chicago to be brave

at the airport in chicago to be brave and reach through that implicit bias i

and reach through that implicit bias i

and reach through that implicit bias i started talking to the man next to me

started talking to the man next to me

started talking to the man next to me and he’s amazing he’s a PhD his wife has

and he’s amazing he’s a PhD his wife has

and he’s amazing he’s a PhD his wife has a master’s degree they’re from Nepal and

a master’s degree they’re from Nepal and

a master’s degree they’re from Nepal and vegetarian this man would not even hurt

vegetarian this man would not even hurt

vegetarian this man would not even hurt an animal it’s it’s I’m not trying to

an animal it’s it’s I’m not trying to

an animal it’s it’s I’m not trying to convince you that all migrants and

convince you that all migrants and

convince you that all migrants and refugees are awesome and you should

refugees are awesome and you should

refugees are awesome and you should welcome them into your communities

welcome them into your communities

welcome them into your communities that’s my opinion but my challenge to

that’s my opinion but my challenge to

that’s my opinion but my challenge to you is to challenge the sources that

you is to challenge the sources that

you is to challenge the sources that shape your reality don’t let the media

shape your reality don’t let the media

shape your reality don’t let the media have so much control over your actions

have so much control over your actions

have so much control over your actions and beliefs even if everybody around you

and beliefs even if everybody around you

and beliefs even if everybody around you has the same opinions think about it

has the same opinions think about it

has the same opinions think about it you’re all getting your information from

you’re all getting your information from

you’re all getting your information from the same sources and my challenge to

the same sources and my challenge to

the same sources and my challenge to migrants and refugees is to make an

migrants and refugees is to make an

migrants and refugees is to make an extra effort to interact with your new

extra effort to interact with your new

extra effort to interact with your new communities think of yourselves as

communities think of yourselves as

communities think of yourselves as ambassadors share your food and music

ambassadors share your food and music

ambassadors share your food and music and stories about home and ask questions

and stories about home and ask questions

and stories about home and ask questions we have so much to learn from one

we have so much to learn from one

we have so much to learn from one another and my challenge to everyone for

another and my challenge to everyone for

another and my challenge to everyone for all of us is to keep the big picture in

all of us is to keep the big picture in

all of us is to keep the big picture in mind everybody wants to feel safe and

mind everybody wants to feel safe and

mind everybody wants to feel safe and secure divisions based on politics race

secure divisions based on politics race

secure divisions based on politics race and religion do not make us feel safer

and religion do not make us feel safer

and religion do not make us feel safer it’s the opposite polarization breeds

it’s the opposite polarization breeds

it’s the opposite polarization breeds fear and talking about people instead of

fear and talking about people instead of

fear and talking about people instead of talking to people

talking to people

talking to people only reinforces stereotypes and fans the

only reinforces stereotypes and fans the

only reinforces stereotypes and fans the flames of fear even if we disagree on

flames of fear even if we disagree on

flames of fear even if we disagree on policy issues like immigration can we be

policy issues like immigration can we be

policy issues like immigration can we be brave enough to separate the policy from

brave enough to separate the policy from

brave enough to separate the policy from the person that lives next door people

the person that lives next door people

the person that lives next door people that come to this country want the same

that come to this country want the same

that come to this country want the same things as the people that I met in

things as the people that I met in

things as the people that I met in Kansas and the my family and friends

Kansas and the my family and friends

Kansas and the my family and friends back home in Texas after risking and

back home in Texas after risking and

back home in Texas after risking and sacrificing so much to come to this

sacrificing so much to come to this

sacrificing so much to come to this country the last thing that they want to

country the last thing that they want to

country the last thing that they want to do is change those very features that

do is change those very features that

do is change those very features that make America attractive like freedom and

make America attractive like freedom and

make America attractive like freedom and opportunity and to that end immigrants

opportunity and to that end immigrants

opportunity and to that end immigrants are doing their part one-fourth of all

are doing their part one-fourth of all

are doing their part one-fourth of all US businesses are now started by

US businesses are now started by

US businesses are now started by immigrants and forty percent of Fortune

immigrants and forty percent of Fortune

immigrants and forty percent of Fortune 500 companies are founded by immigrants

500 companies are founded by immigrants

500 companies are founded by immigrants or the children of immigrants the

or the children of immigrants the

or the children of immigrants the greatest fear to our country does not

greatest fear to our country does not

greatest fear to our country does not come from the outside it’s hard to wrap

come from the outside it’s hard to wrap

come from the outside it’s hard to wrap your head around that when appearances

your head around that when appearances

your head around that when appearances tend to be more emotional than rational

tend to be more emotional than rational

tend to be more emotional than rational but appearances are only skin deep and

but appearances are only skin deep and

but appearances are only skin deep and values are deeper if we really want the

values are deeper if we really want the

values are deeper if we really want the United States to stay united then it’s

United States to stay united then it’s

United States to stay united then it’s time for every one of us to make America

time for every one of us to make America

time for every one of us to make America brave again thank you

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