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imagine this you’re alone all alone in a

imagine this you’re alone all alone in a dark cold room the air is stagnant and

dark cold room the air is stagnant and

dark cold room the air is stagnant and smells foul the only sound you can hear

smells foul the only sound you can hear

smells foul the only sound you can hear how the voice is echoing in your head

and that bitter taste in your mouth

and that bitter taste in your mouth tastes like scorched coffee there are no

tastes like scorched coffee there are no

tastes like scorched coffee there are no doors there are no windows there’s no

doors there are no windows there’s no

doors there are no windows there’s no way out this is where it often feels

way out this is where it often feels

way out this is where it often feels like when people are in the throes of

like when people are in the throes of

like when people are in the throes of depression or suicidal despair on

depression or suicidal despair on

depression or suicidal despair on December 7th I was going to a party I

December 7th I was going to a party I

December 7th I was going to a party I had been on maternity leave for a number

had been on maternity leave for a number

had been on maternity leave for a number of months and that night I was going to

of months and that night I was going to

of months and that night I was going to go to a party with my students at Regis

go to a party with my students at Regis

go to a party with my students at Regis University and I was really looking

University and I was really looking

University and I was really looking forward to it and I had the Poinsettia

forward to it and I had the Poinsettia

forward to it and I had the Poinsettia on the front seat I was bringing the ham

on the front seat I was bringing the ham

on the front seat I was bringing the ham so the whole car smelled like clothes

so the whole car smelled like clothes

so the whole car smelled like clothes and I even remember what I was wearing a

and I even remember what I was wearing a

and I even remember what I was wearing a god-awful eighties Christmas sweater and

god-awful eighties Christmas sweater and

god-awful eighties Christmas sweater and some gingerbread earrings because I am a

some gingerbread earrings because I am a

some gingerbread earrings because I am a child of the eighties and I even

child of the eighties and I even

child of the eighties and I even remember what I was thinking in my

remember what I was thinking in my

remember what I was thinking in my boredom being at home I had alphabetized

boredom being at home I had alphabetized

boredom being at home I had alphabetized my spice rack and I thought I have

my spice rack and I thought I have

my spice rack and I thought I have become my mother

become my mother

become my mother and I was totally okay with that and

and I was totally okay with that and

and I was totally okay with that and then my mother called hey mom what’s up

then my mother called hey mom what’s up

then my mother called hey mom what’s up and she said Sally pull over

and she said Sally pull over

and she said Sally pull over and it was probably just a matter of

and it was probably just a matter of

and it was probably just a matter of moments but it felt like an eternity

moments but it felt like an eternity

moments but it felt like an eternity I found the the side of the road and

I found the the side of the road and

I found the the side of the road and they pulled over and I said mom you’re

they pulled over and I said mom you’re

they pulled over and I said mom you’re killing me what is it

killing me what is it

killing me what is it and she said our worst fears have been

and she said our worst fears have been

and she said our worst fears have been confirmed your brother has died of

confirmed your brother has died of

confirmed your brother has died of suicide no no no not not Carson not my

suicide no no no not not Carson not my

suicide no no no not not Carson not my my only sibling all of these memories

my only sibling all of these memories

my only sibling all of these memories and emotions flood in he was my first

and emotions flood in he was my first

and emotions flood in he was my first memory he was born Christmas Eve when

memory he was born Christmas Eve when

memory he was born Christmas Eve when they when they caught him home they told

they when they caught him home they told

they when they caught him home they told me he was my Christmas present I I

me he was my Christmas present I I

me he was my Christmas present I I really took that seriously not not

really took that seriously not not

really took that seriously not not Carson we had danced together at my

Carson we had danced together at my

Carson we had danced together at my wedding to Whitney Houston’s I will

wedding to Whitney Houston’s I will

wedding to Whitney Houston’s I will always love you

always love you

always love you no not Carson not Carson four days

no not Carson not Carson four days

no not Carson not Carson four days before my brother and I had sat down to

before my brother and I had sat down to

before my brother and I had sat down to have a chat myself and several of his

have a chat myself and several of his

have a chat myself and several of his friends and family members we all read

friends and family members we all read

friends and family members we all read this book the unquiet mind by Kay

this book the unquiet mind by Kay

this book the unquiet mind by Kay Redfield Jamison when she shared this

Redfield Jamison when she shared this

Redfield Jamison when she shared this her own story about living through

her own story about living through

her own story about living through bipolar condition and I said Carson look

bipolar condition and I said Carson look

bipolar condition and I said Carson look here’s this other really accomplished

here’s this other really accomplished

here’s this other really accomplished public person who has found her way to

public person who has found her way to

public person who has found her way to recovery like we’re gonna figure this

recovery like we’re gonna figure this

recovery like we’re gonna figure this out together

out together

out together then he said but Sally it’s madness and

then he said but Sally it’s madness and

then he said but Sally it’s madness and four days later he was gone now he’s not

four days later he was gone now he’s not

four days later he was gone now he’s not here for me to ask him what he meant by

here for me to ask him what he meant by

here for me to ask him what he meant by that comment but I have a pretty good

that comment but I have a pretty good

that comment but I have a pretty good idea my brother was a very determined

idea my brother was a very determined

idea my brother was a very determined and persevering man and so I believe in

and persevering man and so I believe in

and persevering man and so I believe in my heart of hearts that he would have

my heart of hearts that he would have

my heart of hearts that he would have persisted to find something to help him

persisted to find something to help him

persisted to find something to help him through this long dark night of the soul

through this long dark night of the soul

through this long dark night of the soul of this fight against his bipolar

of this fight against his bipolar

of this fight against his bipolar condition I don’t believe my brother

condition I don’t believe my brother

condition I don’t believe my brother lost hope that he couldn’t get well

lost hope that he couldn’t get well

lost hope that he couldn’t get well again I believe my brother lost hope

again I believe my brother lost hope

again I believe my brother lost hope that he couldn’t get his life back again

that he couldn’t get his life back again

that he couldn’t get his life back again but his business partners wouldn’t trust

but his business partners wouldn’t trust

but his business partners wouldn’t trust him anymore

him anymore

him anymore his friends wouldn’t look at him funny

his friends wouldn’t look at him funny

his friends wouldn’t look at him funny and that’s the part of the story that

and that’s the part of the story that

and that’s the part of the story that makes me so angry

makes me so angry

makes me so angry makes me angry the people who are

makes me angry the people who are

makes me angry the people who are fighting for their lives with these

fighting for their lives with these

fighting for their lives with these treatable health conditions have also

treatable health conditions have also

treatable health conditions have also got to deal with all kinds of

got to deal with all kinds of

got to deal with all kinds of discrimination and Prejudice

discrimination and Prejudice

discrimination and Prejudice misinformation and myths I also didn’t

misinformation and myths I also didn’t

misinformation and myths I also didn’t fully appreciate what he meant by the

fully appreciate what he meant by the

fully appreciate what he meant by the experience of feeling like you were

experience of feeling like you were

experience of feeling like you were losing your mind it was several years

losing your mind it was several years

losing your mind it was several years later when I had a perfect storm of life

later when I had a perfect storm of life

later when I had a perfect storm of life experiences that descended upon me and I

experiences that descended upon me and I

experiences that descended upon me and I found my mental health circle in the

found my mental health circle in the

found my mental health circle in the toilet bowl I couldn’t eat I couldn’t

toilet bowl I couldn’t eat I couldn’t

toilet bowl I couldn’t eat I couldn’t sleep I had overwhelming sense of

sleep I had overwhelming sense of

sleep I had overwhelming sense of anxiety I couldn’t taste food

anxiety I couldn’t taste food

anxiety I couldn’t taste food I couldn’t hear birds chirp and in the

I couldn’t hear birds chirp and in the

I couldn’t hear birds chirp and in the throes of that all I could do to think

throes of that all I could do to think

throes of that all I could do to think to get through it was just work harder

to get through it was just work harder

to get through it was just work harder now I’m a psychologist I should have

now I’m a psychologist I should have

now I’m a psychologist I should have known better

known better

known better I knew facts I knew theory I knew

I knew facts I knew theory I knew

I knew facts I knew theory I knew treatment but when I was in the darkness

treatment but when I was in the darkness

treatment but when I was in the darkness of my own depression I didn’t know how

of my own depression I didn’t know how

of my own depression I didn’t know how to climb out of it it wasn’t until my

to climb out of it it wasn’t until my

to climb out of it it wasn’t until my father reached out and said sweetheart

father reached out and said sweetheart

father reached out and said sweetheart why don’t you take some of your own

why don’t you take some of your own

why don’t you take some of your own advice and go get some help and then I

advice and go get some help and then I

advice and go get some help and then I showed up at my national conference

showed up at my national conference

showed up at my national conference where I had all these professional roles

where I had all these professional roles

where I had all these professional roles and all of my colleagues that I disclose

and all of my colleagues that I disclose

and all of my colleagues that I disclose to came to me and said Sally you matter

to came to me and said Sally you matter

to came to me and said Sally you matter just as you are you don’t need to do all

just as you are you don’t need to do all

just as you are you don’t need to do all this in some way I found my way through

this in some way I found my way through

this in some way I found my way through now my family is not alone in this about

now my family is not alone in this about

now my family is not alone in this about 44,000 people die of suicide each year

44,000 people die of suicide each year

44,000 people die of suicide each year that’s enough to fill up Wrigley Stadium

that’s enough to fill up Wrigley Stadium

that’s enough to fill up Wrigley Stadium with another 2,000 people on the outside

with another 2,000 people on the outside

with another 2,000 people on the outside in a line to get in about a fifth of our

in a line to get in about a fifth of our

in a line to get in about a fifth of our of those people are veterans it’s the

of those people are veterans it’s the

of those people are veterans it’s the second leading cause of death for our

second leading cause of death for our

second leading cause of death for our youth and young adults from 10 to 39

youth and young adults from 10 to 39

youth and young adults from 10 to 39 second leading cause of death

second leading cause of death

second leading cause of death for every person who dies of suicide

for every person who dies of suicide

for every person who dies of suicide let’s just say this guy there are at

let’s just say this guy there are at

let’s just say this guy there are at least on average about a hundred and

least on average about a hundred and

least on average about a hundred and fifteen people exposed to that suicide

fifteen people exposed to that suicide

fifteen people exposed to that suicide and 25 of them will have major life

and 25 of them will have major life

and 25 of them will have major life disruptions after that suicide death

disruptions after that suicide death

disruptions after that suicide death divorce losing a job getting kicked out

divorce losing a job getting kicked out

divorce losing a job getting kicked out of school financial ruin

of school financial ruin

of school financial ruin for every suicide death there are 25

for every suicide death there are 25

for every suicide death there are 25 people that survived 25 people who live

people that survived 25 people who live

people that survived 25 people who live through their attempts they hold the

through their attempts they hold the

through their attempts they hold the black box

black box

black box they hold the answers of what it feels

they hold the answers of what it feels

they hold the answers of what it feels like to experience that level of

like to experience that level of

like to experience that level of suicidal despair and more importantly

suicidal despair and more importantly

suicidal despair and more importantly how to get through it

how to get through it

how to get through it many of these people go on to the full

many of these people go on to the full

many of these people go on to the full lives full of invigorating and

lives full of invigorating and

lives full of invigorating and interesting things and often that’s a

interesting things and often that’s a

interesting things and often that’s a suicide crisis that’s the turning point

suicide crisis that’s the turning point

suicide crisis that’s the turning point to help them get back into life so why

to help them get back into life so why

to help them get back into life so why don’t we know about this about each

don’t we know about this about each

don’t we know about this about each other because most families keep these

other because most families keep these

other because most families keep these stories in the closet full of shame and

stories in the closet full of shame and

stories in the closet full of shame and anger and guilt and because we don’t

anger and guilt and because we don’t

anger and guilt and because we don’t share our stories we don’t have that

share our stories we don’t have that

share our stories we don’t have that fire in the belly that political will to

fire in the belly that political will to

fire in the belly that political will to say something is wrong here

say something is wrong here

say something is wrong here I believe that suicide prevention and

I believe that suicide prevention and

I believe that suicide prevention and mental health promotion are some of the

mental health promotion are some of the

mental health promotion are some of the most unaddressed cross-cultural

most unaddressed cross-cultural

most unaddressed cross-cultural multi-generational social justice issues

multi-generational social justice issues

multi-generational social justice issues of our times what do I mean by social

of our times what do I mean by social

of our times what do I mean by social justice I’m talking about fundamental

justice I’m talking about fundamental

justice I’m talking about fundamental human rights the right to have a job the

human rights the right to have a job the

human rights the right to have a job the right to have homes and relationships

right to have homes and relationships

right to have homes and relationships and be a parent and it’s about our

and be a parent and it’s about our

and be a parent and it’s about our personal responsibility in community for

personal responsibility in community for

personal responsibility in community for the common good

the common good

the common good well what am I talking about social

well what am I talking about social

well what am I talking about social justice with suicide prevention and

justice with suicide prevention and

justice with suicide prevention and mental health we must as my friend

mental health we must as my friend

mental health we must as my friend Eduardo Vega says demand dignity now we

Eduardo Vega says demand dignity now we

Eduardo Vega says demand dignity now we must stop with the quick fixes of just

must stop with the quick fixes of just

must stop with the quick fixes of just pill-popping and forced treatment and

pill-popping and forced treatment and

pill-popping and forced treatment and short hospital stays and treatment that

short hospital stays and treatment that

short hospital stays and treatment that often feels more like punishment than

often feels more like punishment than

often feels more like punishment than something really helpful and instead

something really helpful and instead

something really helpful and instead what if we saw people instead of

what if we saw people instead of

what if we saw people instead of diagnosis what if we met people with

diagnosis what if we met people with

diagnosis what if we met people with compassion during their worst days what

compassion during their worst days what

compassion during their worst days what if we put more research

if we put more research

if we put more research to the so called alternative therapies

to the so called alternative therapies

to the so called alternative therapies like peer support animal assisted

like peer support animal assisted

like peer support animal assisted therapy spiritual practices and so long

therapy spiritual practices and so long

therapy spiritual practices and so long we can do better so how are we gonna do

we can do better so how are we gonna do

we can do better so how are we gonna do this stories at the heart of all social

this stories at the heart of all social

this stories at the heart of all social movements are stories stories that go

movements are stories stories that go

movements are stories stories that go something like this

something like this

something like this this is me this is how my life and other

this is me this is how my life and other

this is me this is how my life and other people like mine have been

people like mine have been

people like mine have been systematically destroyed and this is how

systematically destroyed and this is how

systematically destroyed and this is how I see that change is possible stories

I see that change is possible stories

I see that change is possible stories are good for the storyteller narrative

are good for the storyteller narrative

are good for the storyteller narrative psychologists would tell us that when we

psychologists would tell us that when we

psychologists would tell us that when we place the structure of story over the

place the structure of story over the

place the structure of story over the chaos of our lives we start to make

chaos of our lives we start to make

chaos of our lives we start to make meaning about it we start to feel we

meaning about it we start to feel we

meaning about it we start to feel we have ownership and empowerment over

have ownership and empowerment over

have ownership and empowerment over what’s been happening to us and when we

what’s been happening to us and when we

what’s been happening to us and when we share our stories and community we

share our stories and community we

share our stories and community we gather people around us because people

gather people around us because people

gather people around us because people start to lean in and say meet you so

start to lean in and say meet you so

start to lean in and say meet you so it’s not just good for the storyteller

it’s not just good for the storyteller

it’s not just good for the storyteller it’s also good for the listener the

it’s also good for the listener the

it’s also good for the listener the listener who feels all kinds of emotions

listener who feels all kinds of emotions

listener who feels all kinds of emotions and connection will let be much more

and connection will let be much more

and connection will let be much more likely to remember information and were

likely to remember information and were

likely to remember information and were much more likely to change attitudes and

much more likely to change attitudes and

much more likely to change attitudes and behaviors because of it now business

behaviors because of it now business

behaviors because of it now business leaders and politicians have known for a

leaders and politicians have known for a

leaders and politicians have known for a long time that stories are super

long time that stories are super

long time that stories are super powerful to change attitudes and

powerful to change attitudes and

powerful to change attitudes and behavior but instead of winning our

behavior but instead of winning our

behavior but instead of winning our dollars and our votes we’re gonna win

dollars and our votes we’re gonna win

dollars and our votes we’re gonna win culture and we’re going to shift the

culture and we’re going to shift the

culture and we’re going to shift the culture from the bias and discrimination

culture from the bias and discrimination

culture from the bias and discrimination we currently have to one of empowerment

we currently have to one of empowerment

we currently have to one of empowerment and dignity one story at a time there’s

and dignity one story at a time there’s

and dignity one story at a time there’s also research behind us dr. Patrick

also research behind us dr. Patrick

also research behind us dr. Patrick Corrigan who studies stigma in mental

Corrigan who studies stigma in mental

Corrigan who studies stigma in mental health found that it wasn’t just good

health found that it wasn’t just good

health found that it wasn’t just good enough to raise awareness by talking

enough to raise awareness by talking

enough to raise awareness by talking about stigma or even talking about

about stigma or even talking about

about stigma or even talking about mental health conditions what really

mental health conditions what really

mental health conditions what really shifted stigma was what he called the

shifted stigma was what he called the

shifted stigma was what he called the contact experience when we had personal

contact experience when we had personal

contact experience when we had personal relationships with people who are living

relationships with people who are living

relationships with people who are living with mental health conditions we were

with mental health conditions we were

with mental health conditions we were far more likely to see the humanity and

far more likely to see the humanity and

far more likely to see the humanity and the similarities than the differences

the similarities than the differences

the similarities than the differences and that is how we change culture so I

and that is how we change culture so I

and that is how we change culture so I invite you all because we are all

invite you all because we are all

invite you all because we are all touched by this in some way or another

touched by this in some way or another

touched by this in some way or another to join me on a social justice journey

to join me on a social justice journey

to join me on a social justice journey to use your stories to leverage your

to use your stories to leverage your

to use your stories to leverage your stories for systems and cultural change

stories for systems and cultural change

stories for systems and cultural change this is daunting work so we got a pack a

this is daunting work so we got a pack a

this is daunting work so we got a pack a backpack and in that backpack we need to

backpack and in that backpack we need to

backpack and in that backpack we need to prepare ourselves for this journey we

prepare ourselves for this journey we

prepare ourselves for this journey we have to ask ourselves am I really ready

have to ask ourselves am I really ready

have to ask ourselves am I really ready is this the right time

is this the right time

is this the right time am i solid enough in my healing have I

am i solid enough in my healing have I

am i solid enough in my healing have I come through my own suicide grief

come through my own suicide grief

come through my own suicide grief despair and if I have have I told my

despair and if I have have I told my

despair and if I have have I told my therapist my sponsor my peers that I’m

therapist my sponsor my peers that I’m

therapist my sponsor my peers that I’m doing this about to engage in this

doing this about to engage in this

doing this about to engage in this really hard work of cultivating my story

really hard work of cultivating my story

really hard work of cultivating my story am I prepared for potential backlash

am I prepared for potential backlash

am I prepared for potential backlash maybe some discrimination of prejudice

maybe some discrimination of prejudice

maybe some discrimination of prejudice am I prepared to weigh the balance of

am I prepared to weigh the balance of

am I prepared to weigh the balance of facing back hardship versus paving the

facing back hardship versus paving the

facing back hardship versus paving the way for others behind me so they don’t

way for others behind me so they don’t

way for others behind me so they don’t have to feel it so bad and if there are

have to feel it so bad and if there are

have to feel it so bad and if there are other people in my story am I prepared

other people in my story am I prepared

other people in my story am I prepared for their reactions do I know the safe

for their reactions do I know the safe

for their reactions do I know the safe and effective ways to tell these stories

and effective ways to tell these stories

and effective ways to tell these stories and with suicide prevention there are

and with suicide prevention there are

and with suicide prevention there are some very specific guidelines because we

some very specific guidelines because we

some very specific guidelines because we don’t want to increase vulnerability for

don’t want to increase vulnerability for

don’t want to increase vulnerability for people to think about suicide and and do

people to think about suicide and and do

people to think about suicide and and do the copycat thing there’s some evidence

the copycat thing there’s some evidence

the copycat thing there’s some evidence that shows what we copycat when we share

that shows what we copycat when we share

that shows what we copycat when we share information that’s unsafe then we

information that’s unsafe then we

information that’s unsafe then we increase that vulnerability so if you’re

increase that vulnerability so if you’re

increase that vulnerability so if you’re unfamiliar with the safe guidelines on

unfamiliar with the safe guidelines on

unfamiliar with the safe guidelines on how to talk about suicide I encourage

how to talk about suicide I encourage

how to talk about suicide I encourage you to read things like reporting on

you to read things like reporting on

you to read things like reporting on suicide org or the framework by the

suicide org or the framework by the

suicide org or the framework by the National Action Alliance for suicide

National Action Alliance for suicide

National Action Alliance for suicide prevention or visit the webinars and

prevention or visit the webinars and

prevention or visit the webinars and courses by the United suicide survivors

courses by the United suicide survivors

courses by the United suicide survivors international so if you’re ready let’s

international so if you’re ready let’s

international so if you’re ready let’s go let’s leverage our stories for

go let’s leverage our stories for

go let’s leverage our stories for cultural and systems change there’s many

cultural and systems change there’s many

cultural and systems change there’s many things that we can do number one we can

things that we can do number one we can

things that we can do number one we can engage the media we can meet with our

engage the media we can meet with our

engage the media we can meet with our journalists and we can say there are

journalists and we can say there are

journalists and we can say there are better ways to tell this story you can

better ways to tell this story you can

better ways to tell this story you can do it through an op-ed piece or even a

do it through an op-ed piece or even a

do it through an op-ed piece or even a blog you can engage

blog you can engage

blog you can engage state and federal legislators they want

state and federal legislators they want

state and federal legislators they want to serve their communities they need to

to serve their communities they need to

to serve their communities they need to hear from you that this isn’t important

hear from you that this isn’t important

hear from you that this isn’t important this is a massively important public

this is a massively important public

this is a massively important public health issue so meet with them talk with

health issue so meet with them talk with

health issue so meet with them talk with them and when they have bill that need

them and when they have bill that need

them and when they have bill that need to be passed get up there and testify

to be passed get up there and testify

to be passed get up there and testify and then you can also influence other

and then you can also influence other

and then you can also influence other influencers I’m talking about business

influencers I’m talking about business

influencers I’m talking about business leaders faith leaders community leaders

leaders faith leaders community leaders

leaders faith leaders community leaders you can get their up there at the rotary

you can get their up there at the rotary

you can get their up there at the rotary meetings in the Chamber of Commerce

meetings in the Chamber of Commerce

meetings in the Chamber of Commerce meeting in the school board meetings and

meeting in the school board meetings and

meeting in the school board meetings and with that shaking mic in your hands you

with that shaking mic in your hands you

with that shaking mic in your hands you can say this is me this is how my life

can say this is me this is how my life

can say this is me this is how my life and other people’s like mine has been

and other people’s like mine has been

and other people’s like mine has been systematically destroyed and this is how

systematically destroyed and this is how

systematically destroyed and this is how I see change is possible now there are

I see change is possible now there are

I see change is possible now there are many heroes on this journey in fact a

many heroes on this journey in fact a

many heroes on this journey in fact a few years ago I found myself at a Breast

few years ago I found myself at a Breast

few years ago I found myself at a Breast Cancer Walk it was a three-day 60 mile

Cancer Walk it was a three-day 60 mile

Cancer Walk it was a three-day 60 mile walk and I signed up for it

walk and I signed up for it

walk and I signed up for it so that I would get fit I had just had a

so that I would get fit I had just had a

so that I would get fit I had just had a child and I wanted to get in this walk

child and I wanted to get in this walk

child and I wanted to get in this walk to work out regularly I had no

to work out regularly I had no

to work out regularly I had no connection to breast cancer zero but I

connection to breast cancer zero but I

connection to breast cancer zero but I showed up for that walk that morning and

showed up for that walk that morning and

showed up for that walk that morning and there were thousands of other people

there were thousands of other people

there were thousands of other people around me

around me

around me many women wearing handkerchiefs to

many women wearing handkerchiefs to

many women wearing handkerchiefs to cover their hair from loss of chemo I

cover their hair from loss of chemo I

cover their hair from loss of chemo I had people walking with balloons of

had people walking with balloons of

had people walking with balloons of stars and butterflies honoring those

stars and butterflies honoring those

stars and butterflies honoring those people that have been lost and when I

people that have been lost and when I

people that have been lost and when I looked back at those experiences I

looked back at those experiences I

looked back at those experiences I thought the breast cancer movement has a

thought the breast cancer movement has a

thought the breast cancer movement has a lot to teach us in the suicide

lot to teach us in the suicide

lot to teach us in the suicide prevention and mental health movement we

prevention and mental health movement we

prevention and mental health movement we can walk shoulder-to-shoulder with

can walk shoulder-to-shoulder with

can walk shoulder-to-shoulder with people who are fighting for their lives

people who are fighting for their lives

people who are fighting for their lives and we can honor those that we have lost

and we can honor those that we have lost

and we can honor those that we have lost with dignity here are a few of my heroes

with dignity here are a few of my heroes

with dignity here are a few of my heroes this is Kevin Hines Kevin Hines survived

this is Kevin Hines Kevin Hines survived

this is Kevin Hines Kevin Hines survived a jump from the Golden Gate Bridge he

a jump from the Golden Gate Bridge he

a jump from the Golden Gate Bridge he has gone on to rut write a number of

has gone on to rut write a number of

has gone on to rut write a number of books and his BuzzFeed video has upwards

books and his BuzzFeed video has upwards

books and his BuzzFeed video has upwards of a hundred million views this is

of a hundred million views this is

of a hundred million views this is Desiree stage she’s also a suicide

Desiree stage she’s also a suicide

Desiree stage she’s also a suicide attempt survivor and a photographer who

attempt survivor and a photographer who

attempt survivor and a photographer who takes portraits of other suicide attempt

takes portraits of other suicide attempt

takes portraits of other suicide attempt survivors and she has them

survivors and she has them

survivors and she has them look directly into the lens of her

look directly into the lens of her

look directly into the lens of her camera because she wants the viewer to

camera because she wants the viewer to

camera because she wants the viewer to see into the humanity into the soul into

see into the humanity into the soul into

see into the humanity into the soul into the resilience of these survivors this

the resilience of these survivors this

the resilience of these survivors this is lisa kline a two-time loss survivor

is lisa kline a two-time loss survivor

is lisa kline a two-time loss survivor who was an award-winning documentary

who was an award-winning documentary

who was an award-winning documentary filmmaker she’s made films on bipolar

filmmaker she’s made films on bipolar

filmmaker she’s made films on bipolar condition and her latest film the S word

condition and her latest film the S word

condition and her latest film the S word just started screening in September and

just started screening in September and

just started screening in September and it’s about opening that closet and

it’s about opening that closet and

it’s about opening that closet and sharing stories about suicide attempt

sharing stories about suicide attempt

sharing stories about suicide attempt recovery and healing through suicide

recovery and healing through suicide

recovery and healing through suicide grief and these three are not the only

grief and these three are not the only

grief and these three are not the only my heroes there are many many many more

my heroes there are many many many more

my heroes there are many many many more now to close up this amazing event I

now to close up this amazing event I

now to close up this amazing event I want you to do something with me would

want you to do something with me would

want you to do something with me would everybody pull out their phones for me

everybody pull out their phones for me

everybody pull out their phones for me hold them in your hand and when i cue

hold them in your hand and when i cue

hold them in your hand and when i cue you with the question I want you to

you with the question I want you to

you with the question I want you to raise your phones up high okay here we

raise your phones up high okay here we

raise your phones up high okay here we go if you have lost a loved one to

go if you have lost a loved one to

go if you have lost a loved one to suicide go ahead and light your lights

suicide go ahead and light your lights

suicide go ahead and light your lights and raise them high you are shining

and raise them high you are shining

and raise them high you are shining lights of hope in the darkness keep them

lights of hope in the darkness keep them

lights of hope in the darkness keep them up because when everything goes on and

up because when everything goes on and

up because when everything goes on and everybody forgets about this issue you

everybody forgets about this issue you

everybody forgets about this issue you stand there and you hold the flag and

stand there and you hold the flag and

stand there and you hold the flag and you says my loved ones life mattered my

you says my loved ones life mattered my

you says my loved ones life mattered my loved one didn’t die in vain I will

loved one didn’t die in vain I will

loved one didn’t die in vain I will continue this fight thank you put your

continue this fight thank you put your

continue this fight thank you put your phones down if you have ever walked

phones down if you have ever walked

phones down if you have ever walked through the long dark night of the soul

through the long dark night of the soul

through the long dark night of the soul yourself go ahead and raise your lights

yourself go ahead and raise your lights

yourself go ahead and raise your lights and hold them high I’m talking about

and hold them high I’m talking about

and hold them high I’m talking about depression anxiety eating disorders

depression anxiety eating disorders

depression anxiety eating disorders overwhelming stress OCD weighs your

overwhelming stress OCD weighs your

overwhelming stress OCD weighs your height I hold them up you are shining

height I hold them up you are shining

height I hold them up you are shining lights of hope in the darkness because

lights of hope in the darkness because

lights of hope in the darkness because when other people are struggling you can

when other people are struggling you can

when other people are struggling you can say I don’t know exactly what she’s been

say I don’t know exactly what she’s been

say I don’t know exactly what she’s been going through but I may have gone

going through but I may have gone

going through but I may have gone through something similar and I am here

through something similar and I am here

through something similar and I am here to walk with you put your lights down if

to walk with you put your lights down if

to walk with you put your lights down if you support suicide prevention and

you support suicide prevention and

you support suicide prevention and mental health promotion of one of the

mental health promotion of one of the

mental health promotion of one of the most important social justice issues of

most important social justice issues of

most important social justice issues of our day you can fight for this cause

our day you can fight for this cause

our day you can fight for this cause raise your lights and hold them high

raise your lights and hold them high

raise your lights and hold them high everybody’s like should be up at this

everybody’s like should be up at this

everybody’s like should be up at this point there you go now look around right

point there you go now look around right

point there you go now look around right and now hold them up because this is a

and now hold them up because this is a

and now hold them up because this is a beautiful thing and imagine that you are

beautiful thing and imagine that you are

beautiful thing and imagine that you are that person in the darkness and you look

that person in the darkness and you look

that person in the darkness and you look up and you see a light hey I’m here for

up and you see a light hey I’m here for

up and you see a light hey I’m here for you and then you look up when you see an

you and then you look up when you see an

you and then you look up when you see an eye for light hey I have some ideas I’ll

eye for light hey I have some ideas I’ll

eye for light hey I have some ideas I’ll walk with you

here’s my call to action to you be the

here’s my call to action to you be the beacon for people who are struggling and

beacon for people who are struggling and

beacon for people who are struggling and bring other people into this movement we

bring other people into this movement we

bring other people into this movement we need everybody here illuminate the way

need everybody here illuminate the way

need everybody here illuminate the way for those whose ideas of mental health

for those whose ideas of mental health

for those whose ideas of mental health and suicide prevention are in the dark

and suicide prevention are in the dark

and suicide prevention are in the dark ages and if you are struggling dig into

ages and if you are struggling dig into

ages and if you are struggling dig into yourself and radiate that resilience and

yourself and radiate that resilience and

yourself and radiate that resilience and if you cannot find that resilience in

if you cannot find that resilience in

if you cannot find that resilience in yourself

yourself

yourself let your lights be held by someone else

let your lights be held by someone else

let your lights be held by someone else until you can be claiming so be the

until you can be claiming so be the

until you can be claiming so be the light or hold the light because light is

light or hold the light because light is

light or hold the light because light is life

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