hello everyone today for the first time globally on a platform like this so I
globally on a platform like this so I
globally on a platform like this so I want to confess how I fell in love with
want to confess how I fell in love with
want to confess how I fell in love with my hair once again when I was in school
my hair once again when I was in school
my hair once again when I was in school I looked something like this
if you’re not guessing Who am I
if you’re not guessing Who am I let me make it easier for you when I was
let me make it easier for you when I was
let me make it easier for you when I was at school I looked something like this
at school I looked something like this
at school I looked something like this but ever since I always and always had a
but ever since I always and always had a
but ever since I always and always had a desire to have rolled short hair I was
desire to have rolled short hair I was
desire to have rolled short hair I was into sports I played cricket at a
into sports I played cricket at a
into sports I played cricket at a national level I played carom at a
national level I played carom at a
national level I played carom at a national level and I saw always think
national level and I saw always think
national level and I saw always think wow shorter would be so cool but I
wow shorter would be so cool but I
wow shorter would be so cool but I didn’t know I didn’t know that life
didn’t know I didn’t know that life
didn’t know I didn’t know that life would take me too short hair in a way it
would take me too short hair in a way it
would take me too short hair in a way it did on 27th of November 2007 I did
did on 27th of November 2007 I did
did on 27th of November 2007 I did something like this I went ahead I got
something like this I went ahead I got
something like this I went ahead I got this done I always wanted to shave off
this done I always wanted to shave off
this done I always wanted to shave off my head and I went ahead I did that and
my head and I went ahead I did that and
my head and I went ahead I did that and you know all of you all who had very
you know all of you all who had very
you know all of you all who had very little hair when your hair starts
little hair when your hair starts
little hair when your hair starts growing back after you shave it off it
growing back after you shave it off it
growing back after you shave it off it looks something like this
and in order to not have my hair all
and in order to not have my hair all around like a porcupine
around like a porcupine
around like a porcupine I started gelling my head and this is
I started gelling my head and this is
I started gelling my head and this is where my real story began one day when I
where my real story began one day when I
where my real story began one day when I was just touching and feeling the
was just touching and feeling the
was just touching and feeling the texture of my hair I happen to pluck out
texture of my hair I happen to pluck out
texture of my hair I happen to pluck out one of the hill it happened only once I
one of the hill it happened only once I
one of the hill it happened only once I thought it’s okay it must be happening
thought it’s okay it must be happening
thought it’s okay it must be happening to a lot of people a week past two weeks
to a lot of people a week past two weeks
to a lot of people a week past two weeks past three weeks past a month past and
past three weeks past a month past and
past three weeks past a month past and after two months when I was studying for
after two months when I was studying for
after two months when I was studying for my finals here I’m studying and I don’t
my finals here I’m studying and I don’t
my finals here I’m studying and I don’t realize that my hand is in my head after
realize that my hand is in my head after
realize that my hand is in my head after 15 minutes when I looked down everywhere
15 minutes when I looked down everywhere
15 minutes when I looked down everywhere it’s only here it’s only here one day
it’s only here it’s only here one day
it’s only here it’s only here one day I told myself that this has to be
I told myself that this has to be
I told myself that this has to be something why not look into Google I
something why not look into Google I
something why not look into Google I remember that night very clearly I was
remember that night very clearly I was
remember that night very clearly I was wearing my shorts t-shirt sitting at
wearing my shorts t-shirt sitting at
wearing my shorts t-shirt sitting at home physiology was down was not feeling
home physiology was down was not feeling
home physiology was down was not feeling very good about myself and I looked at
very good about myself and I looked at
very good about myself and I looked at it and I typed in plucking hair in
it and I typed in plucking hair in
it and I typed in plucking hair in Google and this came out
trichotillomania trick is your hair
trichotillomania trick is your hair pillo listable
pillo listable
pillo listable mania as you know is a disorder it’s are
mania as you know is a disorder it’s are
mania as you know is a disorder it’s are their impulse disorder to pluck your
their impulse disorder to pluck your
their impulse disorder to pluck your hair and I thought I was alone you know
hair and I thought I was alone you know
hair and I thought I was alone you know I thought I was really alone but when I
I thought I was really alone but when I
I thought I was really alone but when I looked into statistics 2 to 5% of the
looked into statistics 2 to 5% of the
looked into statistics 2 to 5% of the world’s population that is around 150 to
world’s population that is around 150 to
world’s population that is around 150 to 350 million people all across the globe
350 million people all across the globe
350 million people all across the globe go through this every single year you
go through this every single year you
go through this every single year you know what’s worse it red 95% of the
know what’s worse it red 95% of the
know what’s worse it red 95% of the people who have trichotillomania never
people who have trichotillomania never
people who have trichotillomania never get out of it
get out of it
get out of it my heart broke I was shattered at the
my heart broke I was shattered at the
my heart broke I was shattered at the same time I was determined I said no
same time I was determined I said no
same time I was determined I said no nothing doing you know I’m gonna be
nothing doing you know I’m gonna be
nothing doing you know I’m gonna be amongst that 5% and I’m going to change
amongst that 5% and I’m going to change
amongst that 5% and I’m going to change myself so I did a lot of things to give
myself so I did a lot of things to give
myself so I did a lot of things to give you a little about how I looked from the
you a little about how I looked from the
you a little about how I looked from the front if you see my hair would be all
front if you see my hair would be all
front if you see my hair would be all proper but if you come next to me in a
proper but if you come next to me in a
proper but if you come next to me in a slight way it would look something like
slight way it would look something like
slight way it would look something like this chartered accountant working with
this chartered accountant working with
this chartered accountant working with one of the best MNCs also a trainer
one of the best MNCs also a trainer
one of the best MNCs also a trainer addressing thousands of people together
addressing thousands of people together
addressing thousands of people together and having hair like this I thought I
and having hair like this I thought I
and having hair like this I thought I was alone but when I read up more I
was alone but when I read up more I
was alone but when I read up more I realize that so many people go through
realize that so many people go through
realize that so many people go through it and I was thinking then why don’t
it and I was thinking then why don’t
it and I was thinking then why don’t people come up and talk about it
people come up and talk about it
people come up and talk about it shameful guilt fear embarrassment people
shameful guilt fear embarrassment people
shameful guilt fear embarrassment people go to all expense to hide it and I went
go to all expense to hide it and I went
go to all expense to hide it and I went to when I would sit down and my hand
to when I would sit down and my hand
to when I would sit down and my hand would be ideal what I would do is I
would be ideal what I would do is I
would be ideal what I would do is I would tape my fingers I would tape my
would tape my fingers I would tape my
would tape my fingers I would tape my fingers so that I don’t feel the texture
fingers so that I don’t feel the texture
fingers so that I don’t feel the texture of my head I would wear a cap it went to
of my head I would wear a cap it went to
of my head I would wear a cap it went to an extent where when my dad told me for
an extent where when my dad told me for
an extent where when my dad told me for every
every
every hey you pluck I will lose one day of my
hey you pluck I will lose one day of my
hey you pluck I will lose one day of my life I stopped I stopped for two days
life I stopped I stopped for two days
life I stopped I stopped for two days and I came back I came back and I
and I came back I came back and I
and I came back I came back and I thought about how could I come out of
thought about how could I come out of
thought about how could I come out of trichotillomania as I was reading
trichotillomania as I was reading
trichotillomania as I was reading further and knowing further twenty
further and knowing further twenty
further and knowing further twenty percent of the people who have
percent of the people who have
percent of the people who have trichotillomania a trick of a jerk that
trichotillomania a trick of a jerk that
trichotillomania a trick of a jerk that means they not only pluck their hair
means they not only pluck their hair
means they not only pluck their hair their eyebrows must touch hair all over
their eyebrows must touch hair all over
their eyebrows must touch hair all over your body
your body
your body sometimes your pets head and it doesn’t
sometimes your pets head and it doesn’t
sometimes your pets head and it doesn’t stop there they eat it I’m gonna eat
stop there they eat it I’m gonna eat
stop there they eat it I’m gonna eat that head it forms a lump forms cancer
that head it forms a lump forms cancer
that head it forms a lump forms cancer and people die people time and I said I
and people die people time and I said I
and people die people time and I said I won’t die I’m not gonna do this to be
won’t die I’m not gonna do this to be
won’t die I’m not gonna do this to be very honest I suffered this disorder for
very honest I suffered this disorder for
very honest I suffered this disorder for eight long years of my life and trust me
eight long years of my life and trust me
eight long years of my life and trust me eight long growing years of your life is
eight long growing years of your life is
eight long growing years of your life is a huge time then I decided to do
a huge time then I decided to do
a huge time then I decided to do something I decided to stand one day and
something I decided to stand one day and
something I decided to stand one day and I decided I’m going to decode myself
I decided I’m going to decode myself
I decided I’m going to decode myself instead of working on my behavior why
instead of working on my behavior why
instead of working on my behavior why don’t I look at what is going on within
don’t I look at what is going on within
don’t I look at what is going on within me what is this impulse
me what is this impulse
me what is this impulse you know people bite their nails some
you know people bite their nails some
you know people bite their nails some people bring their eyes when they talk
people bring their eyes when they talk
people bring their eyes when they talk you know some people snap I said this is
you know some people snap I said this is
you know some people snap I said this is one of that and I should come out of it
one of that and I should come out of it
one of that and I should come out of it so instead of thinking about why I’m
so instead of thinking about why I’m
so instead of thinking about why I’m doing this behavior I went to what is my
doing this behavior I went to what is my
doing this behavior I went to what is my code why am I doing this
code why am I doing this
code why am I doing this what is the language which I am using
what is the language which I am using
what is the language which I am using what am i focusing on and that came my
what am i focusing on and that came my
what am i focusing on and that came my first thing which I want to ask you
first thing which I want to ask you
first thing which I want to ask you today I want to ask you do you know
today I want to ask you do you know
today I want to ask you do you know which is one of the most used words in
which is one of the most used words in
which is one of the most used words in English one of the most recognized words
English one of the most recognized words
English one of the most recognized words one of the most understood words in
one of the most understood words in
one of the most understood words in English and this is the word we use very
English and this is the word we use very
English and this is the word we use very often take a moment think to yourself
often take a moment think to yourself
often take a moment think to yourself what could be this one word which you
what could be this one word which you
what could be this one word which you use every single day of your life and
use every single day of your life and
use every single day of your life and that word is the word okay do you use it
that word is the word okay do you use it
that word is the word okay do you use it often
often
often right most often than not we use it to
right most often than not we use it to
right most often than not we use it to tell people if they ask us can I do this
tell people if they ask us can I do this
tell people if they ask us can I do this can I do that and you say okay but my
can I do that and you say okay but my
can I do that and you say okay but my trouble comes not when people ask you
trouble comes not when people ask you
trouble comes not when people ask you not when people ask you okay when people
not when people ask you okay when people
not when people ask you okay when people ask you how are you feeling and you say
ask you how are you feeling and you say
ask you how are you feeling and you say okay people ask you how is your life
okay people ask you how is your life
okay people ask you how is your life going and you say okay how is your
going and you say okay how is your
going and you say okay how is your relationship going and you say okay now
relationship going and you say okay now
relationship going and you say okay now say okay once again and tell me what
say okay once again and tell me what
say okay once again and tell me what emotion do you feel what emotion do you
emotion do you feel what emotion do you
emotion do you feel what emotion do you feel when you say the word okay do you
feel when you say the word okay do you
feel when you say the word okay do you feel happy you feel excited do you feel
feel happy you feel excited do you feel
feel happy you feel excited do you feel enthusiastic or do you feel sad you feel
enthusiastic or do you feel sad you feel
enthusiastic or do you feel sad you feel compromised do you feel sacrificed and
compromised do you feel sacrificed and
compromised do you feel sacrificed and idolized I used to say it’s okay it’s
idolized I used to say it’s okay it’s
idolized I used to say it’s okay it’s okay that I pluck my hair in fact you
okay that I pluck my hair in fact you
okay that I pluck my hair in fact you know you get very defensive and I say
know you get very defensive and I say
know you get very defensive and I say tell people all geniuses had a problem I
tell people all geniuses had a problem I
tell people all geniuses had a problem I have one and I realize this is such bad
have one and I realize this is such bad
have one and I realize this is such bad use of language to my own self I thought
use of language to my own self I thought
use of language to my own self I thought it said it’s okay it will grow back and
it said it’s okay it will grow back and
it said it’s okay it will grow back and that came to the next point
that came to the next point
that came to the next point every time you say okay to yourself you
every time you say okay to yourself you
every time you say okay to yourself you are in your comfort zone you’re in your
are in your comfort zone you’re in your
are in your comfort zone you’re in your comfort zone but you don’t want to take
comfort zone but you don’t want to take
comfort zone but you don’t want to take any action because you’ve already told
any action because you’ve already told
any action because you’ve already told yourself it’s okay to have unsatisfying
yourself it’s okay to have unsatisfying
yourself it’s okay to have unsatisfying couriers it’s okay to have incomplete
couriers it’s okay to have incomplete
couriers it’s okay to have incomplete dreams it’s okay to have relations which
dreams it’s okay to have relations which
dreams it’s okay to have relations which have no soul no love no empathy I didn’t
have no soul no love no empathy I didn’t
have no soul no love no empathy I didn’t change I didn’t change the day I stopped
change I didn’t change the day I stopped
change I didn’t change the day I stopped plucking my hair I changed the day I
plucking my hair I changed the day I
plucking my hair I changed the day I stopped being okay with not being okay
stopped being okay with not being okay
stopped being okay with not being okay when I stood up to myself and I said I
when I stood up to myself and I said I
when I stood up to myself and I said I am NOT here to live a life which is
am NOT here to live a life which is
am NOT here to live a life which is mediocre I am NOT here to live a life
mediocre I am NOT here to live a life
mediocre I am NOT here to live a life which is average I am here to make a
which is average I am here to make a
which is average I am here to make a difference I was having a very handsome
difference I was having a very handsome
difference I was having a very handsome salary earning really well working with
salary earning really well working with
salary earning really well working with a global giant but when I used to come
a global giant but when I used to come
a global giant but when I used to come back home I had no personal fulfillment
back home I had no personal fulfillment
back home I had no personal fulfillment I quit my job to become perhaps the
I quit my job to become perhaps the
I quit my job to become perhaps the world’s first chartered accountant
world’s first chartered accountant
world’s first chartered accountant turned happiness
turned happiness
turned happiness coach I started working with people to
coach I started working with people to
coach I started working with people to understand what is the code like I
understand what is the code like I
understand what is the code like I started working with people to
started working with people to
started working with people to understand if I could help them and
understand if I could help them and
understand if I could help them and assist them change the language in which
assist them change the language in which
assist them change the language in which they talk to themselves made them aware
they talk to themselves made them aware
they talk to themselves made them aware of the words they use for themselves
of the words they use for themselves
of the words they use for themselves make them aware that everyone is capable
make them aware that everyone is capable
make them aware that everyone is capable enough to achieve whatever they want to
enough to achieve whatever they want to
enough to achieve whatever they want to life would be a better place and people
life would be a better place and people
life would be a better place and people often ask me but sure you think you did
often ask me but sure you think you did
often ask me but sure you think you did it because you had the determination and
it because you had the determination and
it because you had the determination and I tell people I didn’t do it because I
I tell people I didn’t do it because I
I tell people I didn’t do it because I had the determination I did it because I
had the determination I did it because I
had the determination I did it because I decoded myself and this is what I do
decoded myself and this is what I do
decoded myself and this is what I do today I have worked with more than
today I have worked with more than
today I have worked with more than 15,000 people in the last two years to
15,000 people in the last two years to
15,000 people in the last two years to help them and support them to decode
help them and support them to decode
help them and support them to decode themselves to understand and identify
themselves to understand and identify
themselves to understand and identify what drives them to do what they do to
what drives them to do what they do to
what drives them to do what they do to identify how can this stop being okay
identify how can this stop being okay
identify how can this stop being okay with not being okay and people often ask
with not being okay and people often ask
with not being okay and people often ask me if he stopped being okay what should
me if he stopped being okay what should
me if he stopped being okay what should we be what should we do and I always
we be what should we do and I always
we be what should we do and I always tell them life has given you a choice we
tell them life has given you a choice we
tell them life has given you a choice we awesome when people ask you how will you
awesome when people ask you how will you
awesome when people ask you how will you say I’m awesome even if you are not
say I’m awesome even if you are not
say I’m awesome even if you are not because that will Fossey
because that will Fossey
because that will Fossey to raise your life to where it deserves
to raise your life to where it deserves
to raise your life to where it deserves do you agree with me yes and I have one
do you agree with me yes and I have one
do you agree with me yes and I have one more thing which I really want to stand
more thing which I really want to stand
more thing which I really want to stand here and share with you
here and share with you
here and share with you I lost my dad three years ago and I
I lost my dad three years ago and I
I lost my dad three years ago and I think that is the most painful thing I
think that is the most painful thing I
think that is the most painful thing I ever ever ever went through once when I
ever ever ever went through once when I
ever ever ever went through once when I was walking back from office I met a
was walking back from office I met a
was walking back from office I met a girl and she would always talk to her
girl and she would always talk to her
girl and she would always talk to her dad and she kept talking to her dad and
dad and she kept talking to her dad and
dad and she kept talking to her dad and I used to tell myself you know it’s not
I used to tell myself you know it’s not
I used to tell myself you know it’s not okay it’s not fair that I lost my dad
okay it’s not fair that I lost my dad
okay it’s not fair that I lost my dad and people can hear talk to their
and people can hear talk to their
and people can hear talk to their fathers and that’s the day when I was
fathers and that’s the day when I was
fathers and that’s the day when I was talking to her she told me yeah my dad
talking to her she told me yeah my dad
talking to her she told me yeah my dad is very protective about me because I
is very protective about me because I
is very protective about me because I lost my mom when I was in the 6th
lost my mom when I was in the 6th
lost my mom when I was in the 6th pandered and I felt so bad and that’s
pandered and I felt so bad and that’s
pandered and I felt so bad and that’s the day I decided
the day I decided
the day I decided and I’m gonna bless everyone who comes
and I’m gonna bless everyone who comes
and I’m gonna bless everyone who comes across because everyone is coded
across because everyone is coded
across because everyone is coded differently everyone’s journey is coded
differently everyone’s journey is coded
differently everyone’s journey is coded differently and I am sure that if each
differently and I am sure that if each
differently and I am sure that if each one of us today can stop being okay with
one of us today can stop being okay with
one of us today can stop being okay with not being okay we can all be one thing
not being okay we can all be one thing
not being okay we can all be one thing and that is be awesome so all I want you
and that is be awesome so all I want you
and that is be awesome so all I want you to do right now is look to your neighbor
to do right now is look to your neighbor
to do right now is look to your neighbor and say be awesome look to your other
and say be awesome look to your other
and say be awesome look to your other neighbor and say be was him and said
neighbor and say be was him and said
neighbor and say be was him and said with conviction look to people behind
with conviction look to people behind
with conviction look to people behind you and say be awesome
you and say be awesome
you and say be awesome and can you now all my dear friends as I
and can you now all my dear friends as I
and can you now all my dear friends as I come to the end of my talk look at me
come to the end of my talk look at me
come to the end of my talk look at me and say be awesome thank you so much
and say be awesome thank you so much
and say be awesome thank you so much thank you no ask you thank you very much
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