Saturday, six in the morning.
The house phone interrupts the silence.
My son answers.
Come in, stupefied, and tell me, smiling:
“I think it’s a match, it says it’s the Sábato.”
Without questions or good days in the middle, to explain the call, I am told:
“Mirta, can you explain to me why, at the age of 16, I wanted to commit suicide?”
I started out as a pediatrician, but when my clients grew up,
I noticed that I spent more on tissues than on low-tongues.
The stethoscope was not enough to hide so many problems that put me.
Leaks from home and life, as happened on the Sabbath.
induced anorexias and the “bullying” that already existed,
anguishes and strange symptoms
that made me feel everything I did not know.
I started being a hebiatra. Few people know this word.
It’s the part of medicine that takes care of the teenager
and how difficult it is!
The consultations followed.
Some were tragic, some tragic-comic,
but all were urgent.
Telephone calls, especially on Sundays,
it was the parents who made them or else themselves.
“Mirta, how’s that tomorrow morning pill?”
“Oh, you already engaged?”
“No, I do not even remember the face of the guy I was with tonight.”
A 14-year-old girl confirmed she was engaged,
One day he informed me – the fiance was younger –
informed me: “I was with him.”
I held on to impatience until I reached the question:
“Have they taken precautions?”
He did not listen to me or he did not want to respond.
And he continued: “My father came and set a scandal.”
“After all, it’s the same thing as putting on a cap.”
A 12-year-old girl called me
because I had not hit the antibiotic to cure her angina.
Of course, the microbiologist had investigated the common bacteria of the mouth.
I suspected her rituals and made a gesture that she noticed
because he told me:
“Before you talk, I’ll tell you.
“I do not do a brooch to anyone, only those who are years,”
(Laughs)
A college student came in excited and happy at the appointment.
I ask her what has happened and she tells me:
“I was with my friend’s fiancé!”
“They got engaged and already separated, what happened?”
– because the friend was also my patient.
“No, otherwise, what’s the difference?” He said.
The problems of adolescents were becoming more and more complicated
and I decided to ask the Dean of Medicine, Dr. Gonzalo del Cerro, for help.
I proposed to create a transdisciplinary area
to address their problems.
I invited sports doctors,
sociologists, psychologists, traumatologists, whatever “logos” there might be.
Remembering that call, I invited him on the Sabbath.
Of course, he did not refuse.
He was the most read young writer in those days.
But when we campaigned for signatures for anorexia
he immediately gave us his unconditional support.
Every human being has his amorous ephemeris.
Usually, it starts with kisses, the first kiss.
Precisely, puberty begins with a princely kiss.
But it is the medium that sculpts the body,
feelings, feelings and beliefs
that drive behavior.
But when the call of the hormones takes command of body and soul,
everything is revolutionized,
conflicts and aggressions appear to others and to themselves.
I started in 1969 to give sex education.
It’s been so long, has not it?
At that time, I regretted
that the word puberty referred only to the pubis
and that our culture highlighted the genital areas
and reduced the wide repertoire that configures the sexual relation.
Opportunistic market benefits
and offers places like this:
the “bowling”.
I’m already known to fight it.
This young man, with a drunken conscience, dazed,
with intermittent, nocturnal,
this is what I call the fateful triad,
restricts your eyesight, only sees what advertising signals
and the market chooses to be seen.
The rest does not exist.
Hardly the next day he remembers what he lived,
or the face of the “partenaire” or the “partenaire”
with whom it had its possible genital, not sexual relationship.
When I started giving sex education,
I suspected the brain was in charge of all our relationships.
And it was difficult, I drew on paper, on transparencies, on the walls.
They were schemes invented to explain
that we can love each other with all the cells of our body.
Luckily, technology now lends me images
that make visible what we said at that time.
This is an MRI.
I will superimpose images to explain that we have millions of cells
in the body to interconnect.
That we can put ourselves in agreement and we can combine
times of waiting and enjoyment.
Of course! Orgasms too.
All to get to a sexual relationship that is much more than a genital relationship.
I painted the reptilian brain zone yellow,
the most archaic area that is the only one that reptiles have.
With this brain, the basic instincts – eating, drinking, copulating –
must be met immediately and violently.
Sadly, there are human beings who attack and rape.
They only use this part of the brain.
And I superimposed a green part that is that of mammals.
With zones that modulate the instincts – the emotion, the memory, the affection.
With this brain, with prizes and punishments, domesticated, not educated.
But, sadly, there are people who confuse them.
We humans have a more developed zone,
we do not dispense with the others, but we have an area where we can think,
reflect, symbolize, sublimate.
We can use verbal, spoken and written language.
We can be ethical, feel empathy,
not doing to others what we do not want them to do to us.
On the positive side, we do to others what we want them to do to us.
With this brain, we can plan the future,
know the consequences that await us after each act.
With this brain, we can relate to each other peacefully and lovingly.
We can love with every cell in our body.
This pair is the opposite of the previous “bowling” image.
This pair elects distinct places, projecting themselves in the morning,
they use the main zone of the brain, which is the prefrontal cortex.
This one we have behind the forehead.
It is the last of the human acquisitions.
This pair does not suppress their instincts, sublimate them,
reads poems like Tejada’s:
“Love is with you when you are with me
“and we say ‘we’ in the same sense.”
Once, a student who came to consult me,
because he had difficulties in finishing the course,
told me in passing:
“I solved my problems of erection and ejaculation
“with the girls of the movies”.
With the bride, they persisted.
These calls from now are not real, they are fictitious,
They are not live, the looks and caresses are intercepted by the screens.
They are in vitro, could form a pair with false data, without even combining
what are the basic qualities – ethics, responsibility, empathy.
This suits the market.
They promote so much fear to form minimally lasting pairs
which are changing our social fabric.
Marcelo Rinesi warns: the computerized data of our emotions
how fear and sadness increase consumption
and its mixture of interests causes that the puberty ahead
and likewise, that it be delayed
the transition from adolescence to adulthood.
And that the cortex-frontal cortex eventually develops
only about 25-30 years old.
Listen well, after that age,
adolescent behaviors have to be eradicated.
I want to mark this difference between educating and domesticating
because if we have a dog, we feed him, he follows us, he obeys us
even if he is attracted to a bitch.
But the human being is different.
I would like to end by inviting you
to relate autonomously to your stories,
unprecedented relationships, unique, preventing the invasion of your intimacy.
Therefore, I would
that avoid all these promotions
of mobile phone applications, from the millennium kamasutra,
or fashion sexologists, would be better.
Be as you are, not like everyone else.
At least in the hour of full-body love.
Thanks.
(Applause)
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