happy
that is one of the questions that most
we do in recent times and the most
studied by modern psychology the
modern psychology was very oriented
to study
sorry but he did not
and
let’s go again that makes us happy
is one of the most studied questions
by modern psychology psychology
traditional was very used to
study what is wrong
what is wrong and how can we
fix it
modern psychology instead deals with
focus that is fine and how can we
apply it to other areas of our life
so after many investigations
years trying to find that thread
driver who makes people
happy and successful
they discovered that the common thread that
common theme in all those people who
have been able to combine successes like in their
personal life was in aspects not
related to your knowledge or with
what has academic training or
with the achievements that he made he was very much
more related to something we call
mindset mindset how we receive and how
we interpret every part of our life
how do we receive the positive news and
negative we do and how
we interpret the life that has touched us
I heard this phrase a long time ago
think wrong and be right
and this is the kind of phrase that says a
person getting up in the morning
being a little bit of cold air and says
today I am going to refer and declares that
day is going to get sick or is it kind of
reaction that we have when we get to
class to the classroom or we get to the
work and we see a person who is
our friend who greeted us a little
weird and we spent all day
chewing the idea that we will have done
us to annoy that person
When the day ends and after having
created a theory absolutely
ridiculous about what happened
That friend confesses that he forgot his
contact lenses that were sick or
that he just did not see us
happily the opposite is also
true
think well and you will be right
Carol Dweck created this concept of corn
set where we differentiate a mentality
fixed that is probably with which
we act sometimes most of the time
when we think that friend that we do not
wrote the whatsapp is taking
too much and we start to think or a
growth mentality in which
we are clear that we can change that the
reaction to what happens to us can change
and can improve
this was the phrase that I wrote almost
19 years when I arrived in Mexico I came from
Peru write my name on the board in
his house had the name of the semester and
bolt and then write that to the room as well
like here and I asked them please
someone knows where the speck tone is
It was like you missed ie
a look said this Peruvian arrived
what came today said maybe not
I asked well and I looked back to the living room
I told them well who is the one in charge of
the weed
the worst is that they started pointing to
one I approached that person and he and I
we understood that I was looking for the draft
of the pizarro and here it means something
different is history started long before
in the Peruvian Andes
I finished my engineering career
industrial being the first of the class
he was 21 years old he was one of the engineers
young people in my country and decide to
leave my small town arequipa go
encourages me to try my luck of I do not know
how many hundreds of resumes and not
I received a single response received
that I thought things were going to be
different
I taught math while
I studied and teaches English too
so I decided to do it while he has not
found a better opportunity when
I was doing this I was offered a
opportunity to go to the Andes
Peruvians to give English classes to a
mining company and that that company
mining and one of those afternoons where I had
have to travel six hours on the road
Panamericana lost the last bus
I had to combine behind a
truck and then ask for raid to get
to the Pan-American Highway take a bus
with the slight hope that someone
I could stop that day it rained like never before
and I was sitting
this probably looks like I was that
day totally disappointed to have a
industrial engineering career
have fought so much and dedicate myself to giving
English classes and the only hope
what I had for the weekend was to give
math classes students who had
problems I did not know what to do
I arrived but for some time I decided without
know how to apply that mentality of
growth say something has to change
I arrived in my city they lost a few days
free and I started sending letters to all
American universities that I could to
the three weeks received a response
totally unexpected the tec
monterrey offered an opportunity to
teaching was surprised that they were
written in English
in that moment I remembered a university
that said monterrey tec the villa pearson
and I imagined that the university of
california so I threw myself with everything
he said we are very surprised that we have
written in English but we need a
teacher that calculus classes
integral calculus in English
if you can combine both things you can
be here in a week
so I came to Mexico for people
with a growth mindset
the failure that is something of what we
it’s hard to talk
failure is temporary failure does not last
I always travel a lot and I do not receive
from here my suitcase is back there
I have to go to Brazil
every time
who took a plane and every time there is a
storm or the weather is weird in the
city and the cloud passed and I see the sky
blue again
I remember that the failure is temporary
we decided to move beyond
the storm or we decided to pass the
storm and see different things for
the people who have the mentality of
growth or growth mainz
failure is specific is applied to
certain parts of your life
the fact that you have done wrong with that
the person with that boyfriend girlfriend does not
means that all men and all
women are equal
that failure is specific
This is one of the scenes that most
He hated at the time of his school me going
very well in math as you can
imagine but it was not exactly the most
sportsman so the wait in that
list will be chosen in an honorable
second to last place
it was something I did not expect at all and
since then I decided with a
mentality fixed that the sport was not
for me until a good friend
psychologist asked me a question when
I said I would like to start doing something
sport but has never been able to continue
I always sign up like so many
of you and never managed to finish me
said what do you like to do that is
what motivates you and I told you I love
I love eating a good glass of
came
I love having energy I love it
traveling and seeing what you said
it seems if I tell you that doing sports
you will be able to do more of that
that is the motivation that I have all
the days I wake up the morning at
five thirty in the morning and first thing
I think that today I want to eat food
Brazilian tomorrow a good barbecue
if I do not get up besides bald and
I’m going to be short and I do not want that
that happen
the failure is specific our form
to see and our mentality is what
makes me change
another feature
if you fall from these people with
growths that failure always
represents a great opportunity after
of years in Mexico as a teacher and
start my corporate life
I worked many years in city then in ibm
and after ibm I was lucky that
give me a book bucks in follow 22
years studied send one of the
best universities in canada
finishing the shipment and ibm makes the offer
to stay in Canada
so I had my first date after
a week of induction we were at -30
degrees centigrade with some storm
of snow and I had the job of reaching
my appointment and boss had been to accompany me
which I did not expect
so while he was asking me which
are the customer objectives by voice
freezing alive i the only thing that said ‘is
I go
my goal is to get to that appointment alive
with the client and not die trying
you have to handle it better than I could but
that day I did not read the news and is us
yus
if there is snow you have to be with
watch out
I was not careful I was about to
miss the exit for my style that was
the mantra I was going with and suddenly
I said no
If I lose this exit, I will not be able to
come back so apply the technique
millenary of the swerve and between as
I could
of course it was a very maneuver
risky with snow
so after some klaxons I managed
finish the maneuver return turned to
look at my Canadian boss and he was
pale
his reaction was totally expected wild
on you doubt child cures go to the next
set before in bach and without knowing it
again a little mentality of
increase
I had several options or I was lying or
I invented something or I knelt
Say sorry or I injected something different
and I tried that something different
I tried to inject a dose of
reality to history
jamie novatt is my love was in
mexico siri and gave in peripheral and mexico
siri there is a month already ex & m your life
kuching tate your life can change if
you lose entry you’re going to be late
work you are going to be fired, your girlfriend is going
to give way to finish in a neighborhood that
I did not want to finish your life can change
that dose of humor that dose of reality
it was the one that provoked that caused
probably one of the best
relationships you had with a boss who did not
only create a mentor a person to
the one that followed and admired but also
will create a friend
so our next xxi can be a
opportunity does not have to be the xxi
forced we can create through a
failure of an error like the one he committed
in Canada a great opportunity to grow
and get better
now the big question is how how do you
we make everything sounds very good but but if
I am fuksman set for many things that
I can do to dump myself into a
open mindedness and there’s definitely
many things to do
There are many habits we can start
make such start
breathe at traffic lights in traffic
or try to react in a way
different when my son behaves
inadequate way or our friend
try to treat that is probably the
best way to book about this this is
a recent one that I highly recommend that you
they call chip how to make our mind
cam but far from thinking about how to
same as the question we ask ourselves
when we want to start doing sports
when I thought
we want to start making a change in
our life the main
question that stops us is why
what should we do so here
my advice is my reflection with which
I want to leave you every time you
want to make a change every time
decide to act with a mentality of
growth and change their lives if not
find an answer to this question
why
ask yourself for once because not many
Thank you
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me
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