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Picking Experiences of Seashells | Chamendra Amarasinghe | TEDxSIM


so I grew up on a small island now in

so I grew up on a small island now in this island there was a beach that I’d

this island there was a beach that I’d

this island there was a beach that I’d used to go to

used to go to

used to go to now this Beach was filled with seashells

now this Beach was filled with seashells

now this Beach was filled with seashells and some of those seashells but very

and some of those seashells but very

and some of those seashells but very interesting and those ones I’d pick up

interesting and those ones I’d pick up

interesting and those ones I’d pick up you see every seashell that I picked up

you see every seashell that I picked up

you see every seashell that I picked up was like learning something new gaining

was like learning something new gaining

was like learning something new gaining a new experience if you will of course I

a new experience if you will of course I

a new experience if you will of course I was only a little kid back then so that

was only a little kid back then so that

was only a little kid back then so that Beach that I’d used to go to as a child

Beach that I’d used to go to as a child

Beach that I’d used to go to as a child was as far as I was concerned it my

was as far as I was concerned it my

was as far as I was concerned it my border if you will of course I’ve grown

border if you will of course I’ve grown

border if you will of course I’ve grown a lot since then and as I’ve grown I’ve

a lot since then and as I’ve grown I’ve

a lot since then and as I’ve grown I’ve learned and as I’ve learned I’ve been

learned and as I’ve learned I’ve been

learned and as I’ve learned I’ve been able to erase a lot of these

able to erase a lot of these

able to erase a lot of these misconceptions so today ladies and gents

misconceptions so today ladies and gents

misconceptions so today ladies and gents I’d like to take you all through a

I’d like to take you all through a

I’d like to take you all through a journey across some of the borders that

journey across some of the borders that

journey across some of the borders that I have been privileged to cross now I

I have been privileged to cross now I

I have been privileged to cross now I use the word privileged because it’s not

use the word privileged because it’s not

use the word privileged because it’s not easy for someone like me to travel of

easy for someone like me to travel of

easy for someone like me to travel of course there’s a big problem of getting

course there’s a big problem of getting

course there’s a big problem of getting across that big blue sea but there’s

across that big blue sea but there’s

across that big blue sea but there’s also this which is my passport

also this which is my passport

also this which is my passport you see I hold a Sri Lankan passport and

you see I hold a Sri Lankan passport and

you see I hold a Sri Lankan passport and if you rank this passport amongst all

if you rank this passport amongst all

if you rank this passport amongst all the other types it comes in at 186 now

the other types it comes in at 186 now

the other types it comes in at 186 now the problems worse because there’s only

the problems worse because there’s only

the problems worse because there’s only about 200 countries out there so it

about 200 countries out there so it

about 200 countries out there so it doesn’t help me much at all if I want to

doesn’t help me much at all if I want to

doesn’t help me much at all if I want to travel there’s often a long tedious visa

travel there’s often a long tedious visa

travel there’s often a long tedious visa process that often ends with me pulling

process that often ends with me pulling

process that often ends with me pulling a few hairs but why was this the case

a few hairs but why was this the case

a few hairs but why was this the case why was my Sri Lankan passport rank so

why was my Sri Lankan passport rank so

why was my Sri Lankan passport rank so poorly you see to answer this we rewind

poorly you see to answer this we rewind

poorly you see to answer this we rewind back a bit to when I was born so I was

back a bit to when I was born so I was

back a bit to when I was born so I was born in the midst of a civil war a

born in the midst of a civil war a

born in the midst of a civil war a gruesome war that endured for 30 long

gruesome war that endured for 30 long

gruesome war that endured for 30 long years and entire industries like tourism

years and entire industries like tourism

years and entire industries like tourism in which both my parents happen to work

in which both my parents happen to work

in which both my parents happen to work in suffered and life became hard see the

in suffered and life became hard see the

in suffered and life became hard see the war was essentially

war was essentially

war was essentially about drawing a line within the country

about drawing a line within the country

about drawing a line within the country building a wall but what it did

building a wall but what it did

building a wall but what it did inadvertently was made the existing line

inadvertently was made the existing line

inadvertently was made the existing line my seashell field Beach thicker and

my seashell field Beach thicker and

my seashell field Beach thicker and harder to cross but what could we do

harder to cross but what could we do

harder to cross but what could we do about it how could we make life better

about it how could we make life better

about it how could we make life better to give you an idea of what life was

to give you an idea of what life was

to give you an idea of what life was like back then let me tell you about a

like back then let me tell you about a

like back then let me tell you about a birthday present that I once received

birthday present that I once received

birthday present that I once received for my birthday I received an eraser now

for my birthday I received an eraser now

for my birthday I received an eraser now that’s all my parents could afford at

that’s all my parents could afford at

that’s all my parents could afford at the time and I didn’t know its cost but

the time and I didn’t know its cost but

the time and I didn’t know its cost but its value was immeasurable to me it

its value was immeasurable to me it

its value was immeasurable to me it could have just as easily been a

could have just as easily been a

could have just as easily been a PlayStation 4 and it didn’t seem to do

PlayStation 4 and it didn’t seem to do

PlayStation 4 and it didn’t seem to do much but oh it could erase lines so I

much but oh it could erase lines so I

much but oh it could erase lines so I was a pretty excited kid back then but

was a pretty excited kid back then but

was a pretty excited kid back then but luckily things did get better so before

luckily things did get better so before

luckily things did get better so before long I had an opportunity to go overseas

long I had an opportunity to go overseas

long I had an opportunity to go overseas and this is when I met with this strange

and this is when I met with this strange

and this is when I met with this strange yet amazing machine it was big it was

yet amazing machine it was big it was

yet amazing machine it was big it was white ladies and gents I had seen an

white ladies and gents I had seen an

white ladies and gents I had seen an aircraft for the first time in my life

aircraft for the first time in my life

aircraft for the first time in my life now being the little kid I still didn’t

now being the little kid I still didn’t

now being the little kid I still didn’t understand how this works so how does it

understand how this works so how does it

understand how this works so how does it work how does it fly

work how does it fly

work how does it fly wait a second can I fly it I would ask

wait a second can I fly it I would ask

wait a second can I fly it I would ask my mom and her trying to explain to me

my mom and her trying to explain to me

my mom and her trying to explain to me she would tell me that this large bus of

she would tell me that this large bus of

she would tell me that this large bus of sorts would be able to take us places

sorts would be able to take us places

sorts would be able to take us places places where the food was different I

places where the food was different I

places where the food was different I was told places where the people were

was told places where the people were

was told places where the people were different places where life was better

different places where life was better

different places where life was better because there was no war so it’s then

because there was no war so it’s then

because there was no war so it’s then that I realized that no matter how great

that I realized that no matter how great

that I realized that no matter how great a wall someone builds this aircraft

a wall someone builds this aircraft

a wall someone builds this aircraft thing could simply hop over so drawing

thing could simply hop over so drawing

thing could simply hop over so drawing the link there I kind of knew what I

the link there I kind of knew what I

the link there I kind of knew what I wanted for my next birthday so in all of

wanted for my next birthday so in all of

wanted for my next birthday so in all of this we were boarding the aircraft and I

this we were boarding the aircraft and I

this we were boarding the aircraft and I realized my mom actually failed to

realized my mom actually failed to

realized my mom actually failed to explain to me how it actually flew so I

explain to me how it actually flew so I

explain to me how it actually flew so I kept pestering her and then she kind of

kept pestering her and then she kind of

kept pestering her and then she kind of settled for the easier answer it’s a lot

settled for the easier answer it’s a lot

settled for the easier answer it’s a lot of very important magic now shut up and

of very important magic now shut up and

of very important magic now shut up and buckle up

buckle up

buckle up stake

stake

stake right you I said okay I had to listen to

right you I said okay I had to listen to

right you I said okay I had to listen to Mum anyway

Mum anyway

Mum anyway undeterred to find this magic behind

undeterred to find this magic behind

undeterred to find this magic behind flight many years later I got my

flight many years later I got my

flight many years later I got my passport stamped I hopped on an aircraft

passport stamped I hopped on an aircraft

passport stamped I hopped on an aircraft and I flew off to Melbourne Australia

and I flew off to Melbourne Australia

and I flew off to Melbourne Australia now of course when you travel at such a

now of course when you travel at such a

now of course when you travel at such a young age you’d have people calling you

young age you’d have people calling you

young age you’d have people calling you up and saying beware of culture shock so

up and saying beware of culture shock so

up and saying beware of culture shock so I said okay and what did I do

I said okay and what did I do

I said okay and what did I do I downloaded an app on my phone and all

I downloaded an app on my phone and all

I downloaded an app on my phone and all it did it was it converted Sri Lankan

it did it was it converted Sri Lankan

it did it was it converted Sri Lankan rupees to Australian dollars that should

rupees to Australian dollars that should

rupees to Australian dollars that should do it I thought to myself and luckily

do it I thought to myself and luckily

do it I thought to myself and luckily for the most part it did it was okay

for the most part it did it was okay

for the most part it did it was okay going to Australia was essentially like

going to Australia was essentially like

going to Australia was essentially like little me going to a whole new beach

little me going to a whole new beach

little me going to a whole new beach there were so many opportunities and

there were so many opportunities and

there were so many opportunities and experiences lying there ready for me to

experiences lying there ready for me to

experiences lying there ready for me to just pick up like seashells whether it

just pick up like seashells whether it

just pick up like seashells whether it was the simple things that fascinated me

was the simple things that fascinated me

was the simple things that fascinated me like waterproof plastic money or the

like waterproof plastic money or the

like waterproof plastic money or the more serious stuff like the strict gun

more serious stuff like the strict gun

more serious stuff like the strict gun laws they’re enforced which have been

laws they’re enforced which have been

laws they’re enforced which have been very successful

very successful

very successful they had a brilliant legal system and it

they had a brilliant legal system and it

they had a brilliant legal system and it truly earned its rank as the second

truly earned its rank as the second

truly earned its rank as the second highest in human development but after

highest in human development but after

highest in human development but after this experience I was hungry for more so

this experience I was hungry for more so

this experience I was hungry for more so I gathered a bunch of my friends or

I gathered a bunch of my friends or

I gathered a bunch of my friends or other mates and signed up for a study

other mates and signed up for a study

other mates and signed up for a study program abroad so you know the drill I

program abroad so you know the drill I

program abroad so you know the drill I have to staff my past but every single

have to staff my past but every single

have to staff my past but every single time I hop on a plane and this time I

time I hop on a plane and this time I

time I hop on a plane and this time I was off to Nanjing in China of course I

was off to Nanjing in China of course I

was off to Nanjing in China of course I had met more people by now so more

had met more people by now so more

had met more people by now so more people would call me up to say beware of

people would call me up to say beware of

people would call me up to say beware of culture shock and it was three times

culture shock and it was three times

culture shock and it was three times loud I kid you not so what did I do

loud I kid you not so what did I do

loud I kid you not so what did I do I do what I did last time but instead of

I do what I did last time but instead of

I do what I did last time but instead of one i download three translation apps

one i download three translation apps

one i download three translation apps that should surely do it that should

that should surely do it that should

that should surely do it that should make me a Chinese scholar I thought oh

make me a Chinese scholar I thought oh

make me a Chinese scholar I thought oh boy was I wrong

boy was I wrong

boy was I wrong see this is what happened on my first

see this is what happened on my first

see this is what happened on my first night there so I ran across the road to

night there so I ran across the road to

night there so I ran across the road to the grocery store I typed what I wanted

the grocery store I typed what I wanted

the grocery store I typed what I wanted in English press play it set it out in

in English press play it set it out in

in English press play it set it out in Chinese before you know it I’m back in

Chinese before you know it I’m back in

Chinese before you know it I’m back in my room with three essential

my room with three essential

my room with three essential items bread butter and milk so let’s

items bread butter and milk so let’s

items bread butter and milk so let’s dine right I open up the box of butter

dine right I open up the box of butter

dine right I open up the box of butter and I realized something the butter is

and I realized something the butter is

and I realized something the butter is liquid see I had bought oil didn’t do

liquid see I had bought oil didn’t do

liquid see I had bought oil didn’t do too well it’s okay

too well it’s okay

too well it’s okay so I just took the bread out try to

so I just took the bread out try to

so I just took the bread out try to slice Oh I had bought cake not bread no

slice Oh I had bought cake not bread no

slice Oh I had bought cake not bread no I wasn’t doing too well but I still had

I wasn’t doing too well but I still had

I wasn’t doing too well but I still had the good ole wholesome milk to get me

the good ole wholesome milk to get me

the good ole wholesome milk to get me through the night so I opened up the

through the night so I opened up the

through the night so I opened up the carton take a big gulp see it was a lot

carton take a big gulp see it was a lot

carton take a big gulp see it was a lot thicker than milk I had bought yogurt

thicker than milk I had bought yogurt

thicker than milk I had bought yogurt thinking it was milk luckily I had

thinking it was milk luckily I had

thinking it was milk luckily I had swiped and I pulled from the aircraft on

swiped and I pulled from the aircraft on

swiped and I pulled from the aircraft on the way so I didn’t actually starve that

the way so I didn’t actually starve that

the way so I didn’t actually starve that night but it was evident that me and my

night but it was evident that me and my

night but it was evident that me and my friends had to get basic Mandarin

friends had to get basic Mandarin

friends had to get basic Mandarin lessons and this is interesting because

lessons and this is interesting because

lessons and this is interesting because this is the first time that I was forced

this is the first time that I was forced

this is the first time that I was forced to learn a new skill or pick up a

to learn a new skill or pick up a

to learn a new skill or pick up a seashell of that sort I was it was

seashell of that sort I was it was

seashell of that sort I was it was necessary for survival but it was

necessary for survival but it was

necessary for survival but it was interesting because before you know it

interesting because before you know it

interesting because before you know it we were out in the market screaming tie

we were out in the market screaming tie

we were out in the market screaming tie gala it’s too expensive and trying to

gala it’s too expensive and trying to

gala it’s too expensive and trying to bargain down the prices or in our spare

bargain down the prices or in our spare

bargain down the prices or in our spare time we’d be learning more useful

time we’d be learning more useful

time we’d be learning more useful phrases for day-to-day life like Neha or

phrases for day-to-day life like Neha or

phrases for day-to-day life like Neha or sequin vain you anyway

sequin vain you anyway

sequin vain you anyway it’s interesting how all this ties up

it’s interesting how all this ties up

it’s interesting how all this ties up because in learning Chinese I had a

because in learning Chinese I had a

because in learning Chinese I had a local friend and one day as friends do

local friend and one day as friends do

local friend and one day as friends do we sat down to share a meal now during

we sat down to share a meal now during

we sat down to share a meal now during this time I was trying to tell her about

this time I was trying to tell her about

this time I was trying to tell her about that beach that I’d used to go to as a

that beach that I’d used to go to as a

that beach that I’d used to go to as a little child all those three shells that

little child all those three shells that

little child all those three shells that I’d pick up but I realized something she

I’d pick up but I realized something she

I’d pick up but I realized something she wasn’t quite getting the picture you see

wasn’t quite getting the picture you see

wasn’t quite getting the picture you see in all her life she had never seen a

in all her life she had never seen a

in all her life she had never seen a beach this is a map of Sri Lanka and if

beach this is a map of Sri Lanka and if

beach this is a map of Sri Lanka and if you put this outline to scale against

you put this outline to scale against

you put this outline to scale against the outline of China that’s what it

the outline of China that’s what it

the outline of China that’s what it looks like from where she was she could

looks like from where she was she could

looks like from where she was she could have traveled for days on end and not

have traveled for days on end and not

have traveled for days on end and not reached her own country’s border let

reached her own country’s border let

reached her own country’s border let alone a beach on the East Coast see it’s

alone a beach on the East Coast see it’s

alone a beach on the East Coast see it’s only then that I gained a true sense of

only then that I gained a true sense of

only then that I gained a true sense of appreciation

appreciation

appreciation for that Beach that had so easily go to

for that Beach that had so easily go to

for that Beach that had so easily go to as a child eventually she did manage to

as a child eventually she did manage to

as a child eventually she did manage to overcome her country’s borders and I had

overcome her country’s borders and I had

overcome her country’s borders and I had returned back to Melbourne and finally

returned back to Melbourne and finally

returned back to Melbourne and finally learnt the magic behind flight so then I

learnt the magic behind flight so then I

learnt the magic behind flight so then I thought I’d done it when I scored an

thought I’d done it when I scored an

thought I’d done it when I scored an internship to yet another country so of

internship to yet another country so of

internship to yet another country so of course stamped my passport hop on a

course stamped my passport hop on a

course stamped my passport hop on a plane and this time I was off to Hamburg

plane and this time I was off to Hamburg

plane and this time I was off to Hamburg in Germany and much to my surprise I was

in Germany and much to my surprise I was

in Germany and much to my surprise I was told that I’d be working there on the

told that I’d be working there on the

told that I’d be working there on the world’s largest passenger jet that’s it

world’s largest passenger jet that’s it

world’s largest passenger jet that’s it right there

right there

right there so if the aircraft were like erases I

so if the aircraft were like erases I

so if the aircraft were like erases I was thinking this is as big as they come

was thinking this is as big as they come

was thinking this is as big as they come but that’s when something interesting

but that’s when something interesting

but that’s when something interesting happened see a fellow bunch of interns

happened see a fellow bunch of interns

happened see a fellow bunch of interns and I we took a trip to a small town

and I we took a trip to a small town

and I we took a trip to a small town called started one day it was a

called started one day it was a

called started one day it was a beautiful day and I remember taking this

beautiful day and I remember taking this

beautiful day and I remember taking this picture after spending some time there

picture after spending some time there

picture after spending some time there we made our way to share a meal as

we made our way to share a meal as

we made our way to share a meal as friends do so we sat down had a meal and

friends do so we sat down had a meal and

friends do so we sat down had a meal and the waitress noticed us and at the end

the waitress noticed us and at the end

the waitress noticed us and at the end of it she walked over and said you lot

of it she walked over and said you lot

of it she walked over and said you lot look like a lovely bunch where are you

look like a lovely bunch where are you

look like a lovely bunch where are you guys from so then we took a step back to

guys from so then we took a step back to

guys from so then we took a step back to scan our faces figure out where each and

scan our faces figure out where each and

scan our faces figure out where each and every one of us was from when we

every one of us was from when we

every one of us was from when we realized something there were eight of

realized something there were eight of

realized something there were eight of us from 8 different countries no repeats

us from 8 different countries no repeats

us from 8 different countries no repeats that means we had 8 different childhoods

that means we had 8 different childhoods

that means we had 8 different childhoods different accents different passports

different accents different passports

different accents different passports but we hadn’t even realized it we were

but we hadn’t even realized it we were

but we hadn’t even realized it we were all there at one table over a common

all there at one table over a common

all there at one table over a common language and that’s when I realized that

language and that’s when I realized that

language and that’s when I realized that one common language was a bigger eraser

one common language was a bigger eraser

one common language was a bigger eraser of cultural borders than that large

of cultural borders than that large

of cultural borders than that large aircraft hard-working day in and day out

aircraft hard-working day in and day out

aircraft hard-working day in and day out with this great revelation I had to

with this great revelation I had to

with this great revelation I had to return back to Melbourne and of course

return back to Melbourne and of course

return back to Melbourne and of course when I travel I have to stab my passport

when I travel I have to stab my passport

when I travel I have to stab my passport hop on a plane but this time was

hop on a plane but this time was

hop on a plane but this time was different this time I didn’t get a call

different this time I didn’t get a call

different this time I didn’t get a call no one warned me about culture shock

no one warned me about culture shock

no one warned me about culture shock because of course I traveled a lot by

because of course I traveled a lot by

because of course I traveled a lot by then no one thought it was necessary

then no one thought it was necessary

then no one thought it was necessary but that’s the funny thing about culture

but that’s the funny thing about culture

but that’s the funny thing about culture shock you never know when it will shock

shock you never know when it will shock

shock you never know when it will shock you and this time it hit me hard because

you and this time it hit me hard because

you and this time it hit me hard because as I was going I was thinking to myself

as I was going I was thinking to myself

as I was going I was thinking to myself if I was molded and shaped by all these

if I was molded and shaped by all these

if I was molded and shaped by all these experiences from all these countries

experiences from all these countries

experiences from all these countries which one of them was I to pick where

which one of them was I to pick where

which one of them was I to pick where was home it’s a deep and difficult

was home it’s a deep and difficult

was home it’s a deep and difficult question to answer and one that I

question to answer and one that I

question to answer and one that I encourage all of you to think about what

encourage all of you to think about what

encourage all of you to think about what frustrates you about where you are right

frustrates you about where you are right

frustrates you about where you are right now what do you think you can do to

now what do you think you can do to

now what do you think you can do to change it if home could be anywhere you

change it if home could be anywhere you

change it if home could be anywhere you wanted it to be where would that be so

wanted it to be where would that be so

wanted it to be where would that be so in trying to pick one of these lines I

in trying to pick one of these lines I

in trying to pick one of these lines I came to realize I didn’t have to stop at

came to realize I didn’t have to stop at

came to realize I didn’t have to stop at for experiences there was a whole world

for experiences there was a whole world

for experiences there was a whole world out there so many other lines to pick

out there so many other lines to pick

out there so many other lines to pick from to continue on and learn some more

from to continue on and learn some more

from to continue on and learn some more things but in that very literal answer I

things but in that very literal answer I

things but in that very literal answer I realized that these were all lines that

realized that these were all lines that

realized that these were all lines that we drew on a map see it’s not often that

we drew on a map see it’s not often that

we drew on a map see it’s not often that we get to look at a map like this where

we get to look at a map like this where

we get to look at a map like this where we have erased all those lines this is

we have erased all those lines this is

we have erased all those lines this is Earth’s landmass exactly for what it is

Earth’s landmass exactly for what it is

Earth’s landmass exactly for what it is the only borders here are those fish are

the only borders here are those fish are

the only borders here are those fish are filled beaches all over the world so

filled beaches all over the world so

filled beaches all over the world so here’s my question to you what limits

here’s my question to you what limits

here’s my question to you what limits you what are the invisible lines holding

you what are the invisible lines holding

you what are the invisible lines holding you back

you back

you back it could be geographical but it could

it could be geographical but it could

it could be geographical but it could also be physical or psychological and

also be physical or psychological and

also be physical or psychological and it’s different for each and every one of

it’s different for each and every one of

it’s different for each and every one of us but the thing is you need a variety

us but the thing is you need a variety

us but the thing is you need a variety of experiences to even realize these

of experiences to even realize these

of experiences to even realize these limitations and you need those erases

limitations and you need those erases

limitations and you need those erases that clear the way for you to make you

that clear the way for you to make you

that clear the way for you to make you go out and get those experiences I was

go out and get those experiences I was

go out and get those experiences I was lucky to have found mine in my passion

lucky to have found mine in my passion

lucky to have found mine in my passion for aviation but we’ve seen today that

for aviation but we’ve seen today that

for aviation but we’ve seen today that that’s not the only eraser out there it

that’s not the only eraser out there it

that’s not the only eraser out there it could have just as easily been that

could have just as easily been that

could have just as easily been that language that song that meal so there

language that song that meal so there

language that song that meal so there are so many beaches out there there are

are so many beaches out there there are

are so many beaches out there there are so many places so many experiences that

so many places so many experiences that

so many places so many experiences that you can get these seashells are all out

you can get these seashells are all out

you can get these seashells are all out there waiting for you

there waiting for you

there waiting for you to pick them up I’m not saying you have

to pick them up I’m not saying you have

to pick them up I’m not saying you have to break the rules or even color outside

to break the rules or even color outside

to break the rules or even color outside the lines but realize one thing that

the lines but realize one thing that

the lines but realize one thing that these lines are there and just as they

these lines are there and just as they

these lines are there and just as they were made they can be changed through

were made they can be changed through

were made they can be changed through experiences thank you

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