so I want to ask you which of the two came first the chicken or the egg you
came first the chicken or the egg you
came first the chicken or the egg you know that existed chicken and egg
know that existed chicken and egg
know that existed chicken and egg problem today in relation to jobs and
problem today in relation to jobs and
problem today in relation to jobs and experience you need a job in order to
experience you need a job in order to
experience you need a job in order to get experience and you need experience
get experience and you need experience
get experience and you need experience in order to get a job I’m pretty sure
in order to get a job I’m pretty sure
in order to get a job I’m pretty sure everyone early on in the carriers faces
everyone early on in the carriers faces
everyone early on in the carriers faces this problem like how do you get
this problem like how do you get
this problem like how do you get experience without having any experience
experience without having any experience
experience without having any experience what comes first a job or experience you
what comes first a job or experience you
what comes first a job or experience you know in many cases networking comes
know in many cases networking comes
know in many cases networking comes first I had absolutely no experience in
first I had absolutely no experience in
first I had absolutely no experience in writing two years ago I had not even
writing two years ago I had not even
writing two years ago I had not even written a blog post and I was in The
written a blog post and I was in The
written a blog post and I was in The Wall Street line back then I was
Wall Street line back then I was
Wall Street line back then I was shutting finance in New York and I used
shutting finance in New York and I used
shutting finance in New York and I used to spend most of my time watching comedy
to spend most of my time watching comedy
to spend most of my time watching comedy videos of AIB and reading philosophy
videos of AIB and reading philosophy
videos of AIB and reading philosophy articles written by logical Indian and I
articles written by logical Indian and I
articles written by logical Indian and I ended up writing out of nowhere a comedy
ended up writing out of nowhere a comedy
ended up writing out of nowhere a comedy and philosophy combined book called self
and philosophy combined book called self
and philosophy combined book called self phenomics and I was very passionate
phenomics and I was very passionate
phenomics and I was very passionate about it and I decided to leave my job
about it and I decided to leave my job
about it and I decided to leave my job and I came to India to get it published
and I came to India to get it published
and I came to India to get it published and I realized that in India most things
and I realized that in India most things
and I realized that in India most things work according to not what what you know
work according to not what what you know
work according to not what what you know according to who you know and I had
according to who you know and I had
according to who you know and I had absolutely zero contacts in the
absolutely zero contacts in the
absolutely zero contacts in the publishing industry like most of my
publishing industry like most of my
publishing industry like most of my friends and family they don’t read books
friends and family they don’t read books
friends and family they don’t read books in fact most of my friends and family
in fact most of my friends and family
in fact most of my friends and family they haven’t read a book so I had
they haven’t read a book so I had
they haven’t read a book so I had absolutely zero contacts in the industry
absolutely zero contacts in the industry
absolutely zero contacts in the industry I didn’t know where to begin and what I
I didn’t know where to begin and what I
I didn’t know where to begin and what I did was I just googled like how to
did was I just googled like how to
did was I just googled like how to publish a book in India and all the
publish a book in India and all the
publish a book in India and all the links that came up in on the first page
links that came up in on the first page
links that came up in on the first page second page third page they were all
second page third page they were all
second page third page they were all asking me to pay them the publishers to
asking me to pay them the publishers to
asking me to pay them the publishers to publish my book and interestingly my
publish my book and interestingly my
publish my book and interestingly my book would only be available on Amazon
book would only be available on Amazon
book would only be available on Amazon not in the bookstores but as an author I
not in the bookstores but as an author I
not in the bookstores but as an author I wanted to be paid to write the book and
wanted to be paid to write the book and
wanted to be paid to write the book and I wanted my book to be available in the
I wanted my book to be available in the
I wanted my book to be available in the bookstores so I actually made a trip to
bookstores so I actually made a trip to
bookstores so I actually made a trip to the book stores like crossford Oxford
the book stores like crossford Oxford
the book stores like crossford Oxford stomach and stuff like that and I picked
stomach and stuff like that and I picked
stomach and stuff like that and I picked out over the course of few days I picked
out over the course of few days I picked
out over the course of few days I picked out more than hundred books from the
out more than hundred books from the
out more than hundred books from the nonfiction category and I realized that
nonfiction category and I realized that
nonfiction category and I realized that most authors they always hang
most authors they always hang
most authors they always hang deterrent agents in the acknowledgement
deterrent agents in the acknowledgement
deterrent agents in the acknowledgement section of the book so what I did was I
section of the book so what I did was I
section of the book so what I did was I made a list of all these editors and
made a list of all these editors and
made a list of all these editors and hydrants and notice that the same five
hydrants and notice that the same five
hydrants and notice that the same five to seven agents names kept coming up
to seven agents names kept coming up
to seven agents names kept coming up again and again and again so I send them
again and again and again so I send them
again and again and again so I send them a personalized email saying that you
a personalized email saying that you
a personalized email saying that you know I loved all the books that you’ve
know I loved all the books that you’ve
know I loved all the books that you’ve worked on previously even though I
worked on previously even though I
worked on previously even though I hadn’t read the books I decide the
hadn’t read the books I decide the
hadn’t read the books I decide the acknowledgement section of those books
acknowledgement section of those books
acknowledgement section of those books and since it was a personalized email
and since it was a personalized email
and since it was a personalized email they took me seriously one thing led to
they took me seriously one thing led to
they took me seriously one thing led to the other and eventually I signed up
the other and eventually I signed up
the other and eventually I signed up with Bloomsbury the publishers of Harry
with Bloomsbury the publishers of Harry
with Bloomsbury the publishers of Harry Potter at the age of 23 so this entire
Potter at the age of 23 so this entire
Potter at the age of 23 so this entire networking experience like was very I
networking experience like was very I
networking experience like was very I cannot change my perspective on
cannot change my perspective on
cannot change my perspective on networking and I think some of the
networking and I think some of the
networking and I think some of the learnings which I have I want to share
learnings which I have I want to share
learnings which I have I want to share with you which will be relevant not only
with you which will be relevant not only
with you which will be relevant not only to a professional network but also a
to a professional network but also a
to a professional network but also a personal network you know networking is
personal network you know networking is
personal network you know networking is always associated with connecting with
always associated with connecting with
always associated with connecting with others but I believe networking begins
others but I believe networking begins
others but I believe networking begins with connecting with your own self try
with connecting with your own self try
with connecting with your own self try to understand your own self do you
to understand your own self do you
to understand your own self do you prefer talking about certain topics are
prefer talking about certain topics are
prefer talking about certain topics are you uncomfortable talking about certain
you uncomfortable talking about certain
you uncomfortable talking about certain things
things
things do you prefer texting do you prefer
do you prefer texting do you prefer
do you prefer texting do you prefer emails do you prefer meeting someone
emails do you prefer meeting someone
emails do you prefer meeting someone face-to-face are you an introvert or are
face-to-face are you an introvert or are
face-to-face are you an introvert or are you an extraordinary I’m an introvert I
you an extraordinary I’m an introvert I
you an extraordinary I’m an introvert I hate making small talk like I completely
hate making small talk like I completely
hate making small talk like I completely hit it and I love spending time alone
hit it and I love spending time alone
hit it and I love spending time alone but according to me you don’t have to be
but according to me you don’t have to be
but according to me you don’t have to be a loner in order to be happy alone you
a loner in order to be happy alone you
a loner in order to be happy alone you can be an introvert you can be someone
can be an introvert you can be someone
can be an introvert you can be someone who loves to spend time alone but still
who loves to spend time alone but still
who loves to spend time alone but still have a great Network now you may wonder
have a great Network now you may wonder
have a great Network now you may wonder how can an introvert have a great
how can an introvert have a great
how can an introvert have a great network but before answering that I want
network but before answering that I want
network but before answering that I want to first ask you a couple of questions
to first ask you a couple of questions
to first ask you a couple of questions how many friends do you have think about
how many friends do you have think about
how many friends do you have think about it how many friends do you have and
it how many friends do you have and
it how many friends do you have and secondly how big is your network now
secondly how big is your network now
secondly how big is your network now most people get confused when I talk
most people get confused when I talk
most people get confused when I talk about these two and ask them these two
about these two and ask them these two
about these two and ask them these two questions because I think it’s the same
questions because I think it’s the same
questions because I think it’s the same question being repeated but these are
question being repeated but these are
question being repeated but these are two very different questions and your
two very different questions and your
two very different questions and your answer to them will probably determine
answer to them will probably determine
answer to them will probably determine how strong your network is and whether
how strong your network is and whether
how strong your network is and whether you are whether or not you understand
you are whether or not you understand
you are whether or not you understand networking as a whole
networking as a whole
networking as a whole so we already said I studied almost in
so we already said I studied almost in
so we already said I studied almost in both school as well as college and this
both school as well as college and this
both school as well as college and this is what my network map looked like till
is what my network map looked like till
is what my network map looked like till a couple of years ago so since I was a
a couple of years ago so since I was a
a couple of years ago so since I was a passive introvert most of the friends I
passive introvert most of the friends I
passive introvert most of the friends I made with those who were sitting around
made with those who were sitting around
made with those who were sitting around me and since I was in commerce they
me and since I was in commerce they
me and since I was in commerce they ended up all my friends ended up being
ended up all my friends ended up being
ended up all my friends ended up being in the commerce stream and what happened
in the commerce stream and what happened
in the commerce stream and what happened was that since most of them kind of knew
was that since most of them kind of knew
was that since most of them kind of knew each other and they didn’t have too many
each other and they didn’t have too many
each other and they didn’t have too many friends outside of the stream so even
friends outside of the stream so even
friends outside of the stream so even though I had seven friends my network
though I had seven friends my network
though I had seven friends my network was just limited to those seven people
was just limited to those seven people
was just limited to those seven people since they kind of all knew each other
since they kind of all knew each other
since they kind of all knew each other and I wanted to make more friends so I
and I wanted to make more friends so I
and I wanted to make more friends so I made the mistake which every single
made the mistake which every single
made the mistake which every single person who want begins networking tries
person who want begins networking tries
person who want begins networking tries to make I try to be friends with anyone
to make I try to be friends with anyone
to make I try to be friends with anyone and everyone so I push myself outside my
and everyone so I push myself outside my
and everyone so I push myself outside my comfort zone I made small talk and I
comfort zone I made small talk and I
comfort zone I made small talk and I made five new friends so instead of
made five new friends so instead of
made five new friends so instead of having just seven friends now I had 12
having just seven friends now I had 12
having just seven friends now I had 12 friends but all of them were in the
friends but all of them were in the
friends but all of them were in the commerce stream and they all kind of
commerce stream and they all kind of
commerce stream and they all kind of knew each other so my network was still
knew each other so my network was still
knew each other so my network was still limited to just 12 people so my network
limited to just 12 people so my network
limited to just 12 people so my network was still limited to those people and
was still limited to those people and
was still limited to those people and you know as an introvert it’s very
you know as an introvert it’s very
you know as an introvert it’s very exhaustive to have 12 friends even 12
exhaustive to have 12 friends even 12
exhaustive to have 12 friends even 12 friends is a lot for an introvert you
friends is a lot for an introvert you
friends is a lot for an introvert you have to remember their birthdays you
have to remember their birthdays you
have to remember their birthdays you have to call them up once in a while you
have to call them up once in a while you
have to call them up once in a while you have to meet them every two to three
have to meet them every two to three
have to meet them every two to three weeks this gets annoying to make the
weeks this gets annoying to make the
weeks this gets annoying to make the same conversation again and again and
same conversation again and again and
same conversation again and again and again and at the end of the day you just
again and at the end of the day you just
again and at the end of the day you just your network is limited to 12 people in
your network is limited to 12 people in
your network is limited to 12 people in fact some extroverts also have a twenty
fact some extroverts also have a twenty
fact some extroverts also have a twenty thirty friends but if all of them belong
thirty friends but if all of them belong
thirty friends but if all of them belong to the same social circle the network
to the same social circle the network
to the same social circle the network will still be limited to only twenty to
will still be limited to only twenty to
will still be limited to only twenty to thirty people and this brings me to the
thirty people and this brings me to the
thirty people and this brings me to the wingman theory a wingman is someone who
wingman theory a wingman is someone who
wingman theory a wingman is someone who connects you to a group of people
connects you to a group of people
connects you to a group of people different from who you already know so a
different from who you already know so a
different from who you already know so a wingman is sort of like a broker you
wingman is sort of like a broker you
wingman is sort of like a broker you know in finance you have a broker who
know in finance you have a broker who
know in finance you have a broker who connects a buyer and a seller similarly
connects a buyer and a seller similarly
connects a buyer and a seller similarly a wingman is like a broker who connects
a wingman is like a broker who connects
a wingman is like a broker who connects you to his friends and thereby grows
you to his friends and thereby grows
you to his friends and thereby grows your personal Network and the
your personal Network and the
your personal Network and the key to having a vast network is to have
key to having a vast network is to have
key to having a vast network is to have diverse wingmen so what I did was I
diverse wingmen so what I did was I
diverse wingmen so what I did was I joined a sports team a sports club
joined a sports team a sports club
joined a sports team a sports club I made some I joined a couple of
I made some I joined a couple of
I made some I joined a couple of internships and through that I made
internships and through that I made
internships and through that I made friends outside of the common stream I
friends outside of the common stream I
friends outside of the common stream I made friends in Liberal Arts I made
made friends in Liberal Arts I made
made friends in Liberal Arts I made friends and engineering I made friends
friends and engineering I made friends
friends and engineering I made friends in medical school and I what I did was I
in medical school and I what I did was I
in medical school and I what I did was I cut down on some of the friends I had in
cut down on some of the friends I had in
cut down on some of the friends I had in the Commerce stream cuqui Herick friends
the Commerce stream cuqui Herick friends
the Commerce stream cuqui Herick friends the routine here there and whatever if
the routine here there and whatever if
the routine here there and whatever if you notice majority of my friends are
you notice majority of my friends are
you notice majority of my friends are still in the comma stream so it’s
still in the comma stream so it’s
still in the comma stream so it’s natural for you whatever you’re studying
natural for you whatever you’re studying
natural for you whatever you’re studying or whatever ever you’re working to make
or whatever ever you’re working to make
or whatever ever you’re working to make more friends in that stream so what I
more friends in that stream so what I
more friends in that stream so what I had was I had four friends and comas but
had was I had four friends and comas but
had was I had four friends and comas but I had one friend each in liberal arts
I had one friend each in liberal arts
I had one friend each in liberal arts engineering and medical school and they
engineering and medical school and they
engineering and medical school and they about my big man they connected me to
about my big man they connected me to
about my big man they connected me to their friends who are very different
their friends who are very different
their friends who are very different from me and even though I had much fewer
from me and even though I had much fewer
from me and even though I had much fewer friends I just had seven friends and
friends I just had seven friends and
friends I just had seven friends and earlier in the previous example at 12
earlier in the previous example at 12
earlier in the previous example at 12 friends my network was wider because
friends my network was wider because
friends my network was wider because they were connecting me to their friends
they were connecting me to their friends
they were connecting me to their friends and I had 15 friends so the key to
and I had 15 friends so the key to
and I had 15 friends so the key to having a vast network is to have diverse
having a vast network is to have diverse
having a vast network is to have diverse wingmen instead of just building a
wingmen instead of just building a
wingmen instead of just building a network of those people who are around
network of those people who are around
network of those people who are around you build a networking plan the people
you build a networking plan the people
you build a networking plan the people who are great at networking are not just
who are great at networking are not just
who are great at networking are not just lucky enough to bump into the right
lucky enough to bump into the right
lucky enough to bump into the right people at the right place at the right
people at the right place at the right
people at the right place at the right time they make the proactive measure to
time they make the proactive measure to
time they make the proactive measure to know the right people who are at the
know the right people who are at the
know the right people who are at the right place and on the right time for
right place and on the right time for
right place and on the right time for them instead of just focusing on knowing
them instead of just focusing on knowing
them instead of just focusing on knowing a lot of people focus on knowing the
a lot of people focus on knowing the
a lot of people focus on knowing the right people who can connect you to
right people who can connect you to
right people who can connect you to those who matter you know looks like a
those who matter you know looks like a
those who matter you know looks like a manager delegate some of his
manager delegate some of his
manager delegate some of his responsibilities to his employees or to
responsibilities to his employees or to
responsibilities to his employees or to his subordinates you should delegate
his subordinates you should delegate
his subordinates you should delegate some of your networking responsibilities
some of your networking responsibilities
some of your networking responsibilities to your friends instead of doing it all
to your friends instead of doing it all
to your friends instead of doing it all by ourselves
by ourselves
by ourselves but just to make one thing clear this is
but just to make one thing clear this is
but just to make one thing clear this is an oversimplified version of any network
an oversimplified version of any network
an oversimplified version of any network map in real life there are lot more
map in real life there are lot more
map in real life there are lot more complications and the engineering
complications and the engineering
complications and the engineering department never has so many girls a
department never has so many girls a
department never has so many girls a real-life networking the map looks
real-life networking the map looks
real-life networking the map looks somewhat something like this it’s the
somewhat something like this it’s the
somewhat something like this it’s the lot more overlaps and lot more
lot more overlaps and lot more
lot more overlaps and lot more complexity
complexity
complexity but I just wanted to make it simple but
but I just wanted to make it simple but
but I just wanted to make it simple but now you may wonder why is the big man
now you may wonder why is the big man
now you may wonder why is the big man here is so important because India is a
here is so important because India is a
here is so important because India is a country of 1.2 billion people we are
country of 1.2 billion people we are
country of 1.2 billion people we are thousand plus languages we have with the
thousand plus languages we have with the
thousand plus languages we have with the birthplace of multiple religions India’s
birthplace of multiple religions India’s
birthplace of multiple religions India’s perhaps the most diverse country in the
perhaps the most diverse country in the
perhaps the most diverse country in the planet but for some reason all our
planet but for some reason all our
planet but for some reason all our friends seem to know each other for some
friends seem to know each other for some
friends seem to know each other for some reason our social circles are so
reason our social circles are so
reason our social circles are so interlinked because India even though it
interlinked because India even though it
interlinked because India even though it has 1.2 billion people is still divided
has 1.2 billion people is still divided
has 1.2 billion people is still divided into a million small clusters of
into a million small clusters of
into a million small clusters of homogeneous people we prefer to be
homogeneous people we prefer to be
homogeneous people we prefer to be friends with those who are the same
friends with those who are the same
friends with those who are the same address as those who have the same car
address as those who have the same car
address as those who have the same car same religion those who speak the same
same religion those who speak the same
same religion those who speak the same language as us those who share the same
language as us those who share the same
language as us those who share the same political beliefs those who have the
political beliefs those who have the
political beliefs those who have the same thought process and those who have
same thought process and those who have
same thought process and those who have the same wealth no actually I made a
the same wealth no actually I made a
the same wealth no actually I made a mistake the only place that we make an
mistake the only place that we make an
mistake the only place that we make an exception is that we prefer to be with
exception is that we prefer to be with
exception is that we prefer to be with those who have same or more wealth you
those who have same or more wealth you
those who have same or more wealth you know when I was in school back in
know when I was in school back in
know when I was in school back in Calcutta I noticed that they were
Calcutta I noticed that they were
Calcutta I noticed that they were distinct Marathi and Bengali groups
distinct Marathi and Bengali groups
distinct Marathi and Bengali groups right from the eight-six just imagine
right from the eight-six just imagine
right from the eight-six just imagine the kind of social conditioning that
the kind of social conditioning that
the kind of social conditioning that goes on in our brain that even when we
goes on in our brain that even when we
goes on in our brain that even when we are 6 years old
are 6 years old
are 6 years old we have that divisive mindset that you
we have that divisive mindset that you
we have that divisive mindset that you know this person is different from me so
know this person is different from me so
know this person is different from me so I don’t want to hang it on with a person
I don’t want to hang it on with a person
I don’t want to hang it on with a person and I know the same thing happens in
and I know the same thing happens in
and I know the same thing happens in most other schools and colleges in India
most other schools and colleges in India
most other schools and colleges in India where we try to stick around to those
where we try to stick around to those
where we try to stick around to those who have a similar nature to us you know
who have a similar nature to us you know
who have a similar nature to us you know most every year there are a bunch of
most every year there are a bunch of
most every year there are a bunch of students who go to US and UK for studies
students who go to US and UK for studies
students who go to US and UK for studies and then when they go that you know the
and then when they go that you know the
and then when they go that you know the reason they give is one of the top
reason they give is one of the top
reason they give is one of the top reasons is exposure that they want to go
reasons is exposure that they want to go
reasons is exposure that they want to go to us in UK for exposure and then when
to us in UK for exposure and then when
to us in UK for exposure and then when they go there they just hang around with
they go there they just hang around with
they go there they just hang around with Indians so we have a tendency to just
Indians so we have a tendency to just
Indians so we have a tendency to just hang around with those people who we
hang around with those people who we
hang around with those people who we feel comfortable with we have a 10 our
feel comfortable with we have a 10 our
feel comfortable with we have a 10 our nature is to be friends with those who
nature is to be friends with those who
nature is to be friends with those who share similar nature to us and when
share similar nature to us and when
share similar nature to us and when India is such a diverse country with
India is such a diverse country with
India is such a diverse country with people from different natures I never
people from different natures I never
people from different natures I never understand why we never try to find
understand why we never try to find
understand why we never try to find exposure within our own country you know
exposure within our own country you know
exposure within our own country you know a great man had once said
a great man had once said
a great man had once said and I’m not talking about myself a great
and I’m not talking about myself a great
and I’m not talking about myself a great man had once said become friends with
man had once said become friends with
man had once said become friends with those people who are of a different age
those people who are of a different age
those people who are of a different age from you hang around with those people
from you hang around with those people
from you hang around with those people who have belong to a different social
who have belong to a different social
who have belong to a different social class speak to people who speak a
class speak to people who speak a
class speak to people who speak a different first language this is how you
different first language this is how you
different first language this is how you see the world this is how you grow this
see the world this is how you grow this
see the world this is how you grow this is how you can make your network into
is how you can make your network into
is how you can make your network into your net worth you know in the example I
your net worth you know in the example I
your net worth you know in the example I use here
use here
use here I used college majors as the source of
I used college majors as the source of
I used college majors as the source of filter to categorize my ringman but it
filter to categorize my ringman but it
filter to categorize my ringman but it can be applied in any networking field
can be applied in any networking field
can be applied in any networking field that’s best part about this so this is
that’s best part about this so this is
that’s best part about this so this is how my network looks like when I divide
how my network looks like when I divide
how my network looks like when I divide it according to cities when I divide my
it according to cities when I divide my
it according to cities when I divide my friends according to city then I make a
friends according to city then I make a
friends according to city then I make a proactive measure to try and make more
proactive measure to try and make more
proactive measure to try and make more friends outside of Calcutta so you know
friends outside of Calcutta so you know
friends outside of Calcutta so you know last night I stayed at my friend’s place
last night I stayed at my friend’s place
last night I stayed at my friend’s place and Bombay instead of staying in a hotel
and Bombay instead of staying in a hotel
and Bombay instead of staying in a hotel so the ping machine is already helping
so the ping machine is already helping
so the ping machine is already helping me always save money on the hotel just
me always save money on the hotel just
me always save money on the hotel just because I made an effort to make friends
because I made an effort to make friends
because I made an effort to make friends from the different feel if definitive
from the different feel if definitive
from the different feel if definitive different cities I’ve started now taking
different cities I’ve started now taking
different cities I’ve started now taking the HR department more seriously because
the HR department more seriously because
the HR department more seriously because I understand how much how they can play
I understand how much how they can play
I understand how much how they can play a crucial role in connecting different
a crucial role in connecting different
a crucial role in connecting different departments this is how Harry Potter’s
departments this is how Harry Potter’s
departments this is how Harry Potter’s brief version of a Harry Potter’s
brief version of a Harry Potter’s
brief version of a Harry Potter’s Network map Ron Weasley was the best
Network map Ron Weasley was the best
Network map Ron Weasley was the best wingman in every way the best part about
wingman in every way the best part about
wingman in every way the best part about the wingman theory is how it lays a
the wingman theory is how it lays a
the wingman theory is how it lays a crucial role in our own of personal life
crucial role in our own of personal life
crucial role in our own of personal life in our relationships and our family
in our relationships and our family
in our relationships and our family setting you know when people talk about
setting you know when people talk about
setting you know when people talk about networking it’s always from a courier
networking it’s always from a courier
networking it’s always from a courier angle but what about our relationships
angle but what about our relationships
angle but what about our relationships what about our family I noticed in
what about our family I noticed in
what about our family I noticed in college a lot of people made the mistake
college a lot of people made the mistake
college a lot of people made the mistake of making most of their friends through
of making most of their friends through
of making most of their friends through the girlfriend and boyfriend so when
the girlfriend and boyfriend so when
the girlfriend and boyfriend so when there was a breakup between a girlfriend
there was a breakup between a girlfriend
there was a breakup between a girlfriend and a boyfriend it led to a breakup
and a boyfriend it led to a breakup
and a boyfriend it led to a breakup between the group itself because they
between the group itself because they
between the group itself because they lost all their friends after having a
lost all their friends after having a
lost all their friends after having a breakup and while it’s possible in a
breakup and while it’s possible in a
breakup and while it’s possible in a girlfriend boyfriend still remain
girlfriend boyfriend still remain
girlfriend boyfriend still remain friends with some of their friends after
friends with some of their friends after
friends with some of their friends after a breakup in our marriage setting the
a breakup in our marriage setting the
a breakup in our marriage setting the things get much more complex you know
things get much more complex you know
things get much more complex you know even in the 21st century in India
even in the 21st century in India
even in the 21st century in India especially in towns and villages and
especially in towns and villages and
especially in towns and villages and even
even
even mainstream cities in India lot of women
mainstream cities in India lot of women
mainstream cities in India lot of women are not only financially dependent on
are not only financially dependent on
are not only financially dependent on the husbands but they are also socially
the husbands but they are also socially
the husbands but they are also socially dependent on their husbands and after
dependent on their husbands and after
dependent on their husbands and after marriage they often have a tendency to
marriage they often have a tendency to
marriage they often have a tendency to lose some kind of the connections which
lose some kind of the connections which
lose some kind of the connections which they had from before like some of the
they had from before like some of the
they had from before like some of the extended family or some of the friends
extended family or some of the friends
extended family or some of the friends they admit before and a lot of the
they admit before and a lot of the
they admit before and a lot of the social circle often becomes their
social circle often becomes their
social circle often becomes their husbands relatives or their husbands
husbands relatives or their husbands
husbands relatives or their husbands friends wives their husband becomes like
friends wives their husband becomes like
friends wives their husband becomes like their primary wingman and what happens
their primary wingman and what happens
their primary wingman and what happens is that this puts the women in a very
is that this puts the women in a very
is that this puts the women in a very detrimental position because I believe
detrimental position because I believe
detrimental position because I believe that a network is like a social capital
that a network is like a social capital
that a network is like a social capital and if you are socially dependent on one
and if you are socially dependent on one
and if you are socially dependent on one person and in case you have a divorce
person and in case you have a divorce
person and in case you have a divorce you can become socially bankrupt this is
you can become socially bankrupt this is
you can become socially bankrupt this is why as important as it is to have
why as important as it is to have
why as important as it is to have wingman is equally important not to be
wingman is equally important not to be
wingman is equally important not to be over dependent on any one wingman we
over dependent on any one wingman we
over dependent on any one wingman we should always strive to have diverse
should always strive to have diverse
should always strive to have diverse wingman the goal is always to be
wingman the goal is always to be
wingman the goal is always to be interdependent not over dependent and
interdependent not over dependent and
interdependent not over dependent and not even independent the goal is always
not even independent the goal is always
not even independent the goal is always to be interdependent who are the wingmen
to be interdependent who are the wingmen
to be interdependent who are the wingmen in your life who are the people who
in your life who are the people who
in your life who are the people who typically connect you to new people and
typically connect you to new people and
typically connect you to new people and how can you add more wingman to your
how can you add more wingman to your
how can you add more wingman to your life start focusing on building a
life start focusing on building a
life start focusing on building a network with your relationships and
network with your relationships and
network with your relationships and start building a relationship with your
start building a relationship with your
start building a relationship with your network thank you
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