living brave living brave is a mindset its own methodology it’s an approach
its own methodology it’s an approach
its own methodology it’s an approach it’s a frame of reference for living a
it’s a frame of reference for living a
it’s a frame of reference for living a brave life it’s a way for individuals to
brave life it’s a way for individuals to
brave life it’s a way for individuals to be able to define themselves as living
be able to define themselves as living
be able to define themselves as living brave by being able to say i am living
brave by being able to say i am living
brave by being able to say i am living brave it’s a way for families and teams
brave it’s a way for families and teams
brave it’s a way for families and teams and different cultures and businesses to
and different cultures and businesses to
and different cultures and businesses to be able to say we are living brave it’s
be able to say we are living brave it’s
be able to say we are living brave it’s a way of navigating the complexity that
a way of navigating the complexity that
a way of navigating the complexity that we see in the world and it’s a little
we see in the world and it’s a little
we see in the world and it’s a little bit grand to say it but it is a way I
bit grand to say it but it is a way I
bit grand to say it but it is a way I believe of us being able to do our part
believe of us being able to do our part
believe of us being able to do our part in saving the world because we are the
in saving the world because we are the
in saving the world because we are the jigsaw pieces and we are the component
jigsaw pieces and we are the component
jigsaw pieces and we are the component parts that are the experiences that we
parts that are the experiences that we
parts that are the experiences that we have of each other and I believe if we
have of each other and I believe if we
have of each other and I believe if we can frame the world through a lens of
can frame the world through a lens of
can frame the world through a lens of living brave then the world becomes a
living brave then the world becomes a
living brave then the world becomes a better place for it now does the world
better place for it now does the world
better place for it now does the world need saving yes I think it pretty well
need saving yes I think it pretty well
need saving yes I think it pretty well does and at the very least what it
does and at the very least what it
does and at the very least what it requires from us is that help and that
requires from us is that help and that
requires from us is that help and that guidance in doing so so what is the
guidance in doing so so what is the
guidance in doing so so what is the world well the world is a beautiful
world well the world is a beautiful
world well the world is a beautiful place it officers things such as babies
place it officers things such as babies
place it officers things such as babies being born and puppies to fuss and
being born and puppies to fuss and
being born and puppies to fuss and friends that tell us silly jokes and
friends that tell us silly jokes and
friends that tell us silly jokes and even rude ones that we can’t then tell
even rude ones that we can’t then tell
even rude ones that we can’t then tell anybody else and sunsets that we can see
anybody else and sunsets that we can see
anybody else and sunsets that we can see and right now I’ve been watching a cat
and right now I’ve been watching a cat
and right now I’ve been watching a cat that the owner has dressed up as a shark
that the owner has dressed up as a shark
that the owner has dressed up as a shark that they have an electronic vacuum
that they have an electronic vacuum
that they have an electronic vacuum cleaner going round a kitchen which
cleaner going round a kitchen which
cleaner going round a kitchen which seems to serve no purpose whatsoever
seems to serve no purpose whatsoever
seems to serve no purpose whatsoever it’s got 12 million hits I might be 2
it’s got 12 million hits I might be 2
it’s got 12 million hits I might be 2 million of them and every time I watch
million of them and every time I watch
million of them and every time I watch it it just reminds me that the world is
it it just reminds me that the world is
it it just reminds me that the world is a beautiful crazy place but the world is
a beautiful crazy place but the world is
a beautiful crazy place but the world is also a complex place it’s a difficult
also a complex place it’s a difficult
also a complex place it’s a difficult place it’s a dark place in many ways we
place it’s a dark place in many ways we
place it’s a dark place in many ways we have illness and we have disease we have
have illness and we have disease we have
have illness and we have disease we have bullying we have abuse we have wars we
bullying we have abuse we have wars we
bullying we have abuse we have wars we have the things that say even though the
have the things that say even though the
have the things that say even though the world is beautiful it is also at
world is beautiful it is also at
world is beautiful it is also at sometimes quite beastly and as human
sometimes quite beastly and as human
sometimes quite beastly and as human beings what we’re trying to do is to
beings what we’re trying to do is to
beings what we’re trying to do is to find our path in the world what we’re
find our path in the world what we’re
find our path in the world what we’re trying to do is navigate to who it is
trying to do is navigate to who it is
trying to do is navigate to who it is that we’re trying to be and what it is
that we’re trying to be and what it is
that we’re trying to be and what it is that we want to become and if that’s not
that we want to become and if that’s not
that we want to become and if that’s not enough we have to do it while the world
enough we have to do it while the world
enough we have to do it while the world presents us with the beautiful things
presents us with the beautiful things
presents us with the beautiful things and the beastly things so how does the
and the beastly things so how does the
and the beastly things so how does the world feel right now
world feel right now
world feel right now well better than it’s ever been
well better than it’s ever been
well better than it’s ever been historically and statistically the world
historically and statistically the world
historically and statistically the world has never been so good we have life
has never been so good we have life
has never been so good we have life expectancy longer than it’s ever been
expectancy longer than it’s ever been
expectancy longer than it’s ever been before we have less deaths less Wars
before we have less deaths less Wars
before we have less deaths less Wars less disease and with that comes a kind
less disease and with that comes a kind
less disease and with that comes a kind of a question as to why we have a
of a question as to why we have a
of a question as to why we have a situation where actually what it feels
situation where actually what it feels
situation where actually what it feels like is that there’s more doubt there’s
like is that there’s more doubt there’s
like is that there’s more doubt there’s more anxiety there’s more fear for a lot
more anxiety there’s more fear for a lot
more anxiety there’s more fear for a lot of people in the world where does that
of people in the world where does that
of people in the world where does that come from I’m a firm believer that it’s
come from I’m a firm believer that it’s
come from I’m a firm believer that it’s the digital age that it’s the
the digital age that it’s the
the digital age that it’s the Information Age that we’re living in
Information Age that we’re living in
Information Age that we’re living in that is having that impact for me if you
that is having that impact for me if you
that is having that impact for me if you can think back to when if the Vikings
can think back to when if the Vikings
can think back to when if the Vikings invaded they would have come in they
invaded they would have come in they
invaded they would have come in they would have destroyed a village burned it
would have destroyed a village burned it
would have destroyed a village burned it to the ground stolen everything but
to the ground stolen everything but
to the ground stolen everything but you’ve got to hear about that dependent
you’ve got to hear about that dependent
you’ve got to hear about that dependent on your proximity to it it may very well
on your proximity to it it may very well
on your proximity to it it may very well have been that it would have taken hours
have been that it would have taken hours
have been that it would have taken hours days weeks months even years dependent
days weeks months even years dependent
days weeks months even years dependent on where you were in relation to that to
on where you were in relation to that to
on where you were in relation to that to find out but now of course what happens
find out but now of course what happens
find out but now of course what happens is straight through to your smartphone
is straight through to your smartphone
is straight through to your smartphone there is now no sacred space for you to
there is now no sacred space for you to
there is now no sacred space for you to be safe so you can regenerate you’re in
be safe so you can regenerate you’re in
be safe so you can regenerate you’re in your bed before you go to sleep you’re
your bed before you go to sleep you’re
your bed before you go to sleep you’re having a moment on the loo and there it
having a moment on the loo and there it
having a moment on the loo and there it is straight through onto your mobile
is straight through onto your mobile
is straight through onto your mobile phone it used to be that when work
phone it used to be that when work
phone it used to be that when work wanted to make contact with you they had
wanted to make contact with you they had
wanted to make contact with you they had to wait for you to go back to work but
to wait for you to go back to work but
to wait for you to go back to work but now of course you don’t get that it’s
now of course you don’t get that it’s
now of course you don’t get that it’s straight through onto your smartphone
straight through onto your smartphone
straight through onto your smartphone and not only is it about the proximity
and not only is it about the proximity
and not only is it about the proximity it’s about the abundance it’s about the
it’s about the abundance it’s about the
it’s about the abundance it’s about the amount it’s about the acceleration of it
amount it’s about the acceleration of it
amount it’s about the acceleration of it from 1980 to 2008 there’s been a 350
from 1980 to 2008 there’s been a 350
from 1980 to 2008 there’s been a 350 percent increase in the amount of
percent increase in the amount of
percent increase in the amount of information that we take onboard we now
information that we take onboard we now
information that we take onboard we now each day take on board on average 34
each day take on board on average 34
each day take on board on average 34 gigabytes of data that’s the equivalent
gigabytes of data that’s the equivalent
gigabytes of data that’s the equivalent of 22 feature films plus a hundred
of 22 feature films plus a hundred
of 22 feature films plus a hundred thousand words as we come into contact
thousand words as we come into contact
thousand words as we come into contact with other people and that has had in my
with other people and that has had in my
with other people and that has had in my mind a huge impact on our relationship
mind a huge impact on our relationship
mind a huge impact on our relationship with the world I liken it to cows
with the world I liken it to cows
with the world I liken it to cows strangely enough which is that 10,000
strangely enough which is that 10,000
strangely enough which is that 10,000 years ago we demystified
years ago we demystified
years ago we demystified the cat and we did that so we could have
the cat and we did that so we could have
the cat and we did that so we could have milk now actually 75 percent of the
milk now actually 75 percent of the
milk now actually 75 percent of the population in the world is lactose
population in the world is lactose
population in the world is lactose so that stomach cramps bloating nausea
so that stomach cramps bloating nausea
so that stomach cramps bloating nausea diarrhea all those lovely things that we
diarrhea all those lovely things that we
diarrhea all those lovely things that we get with lactose intolerance so you
get with lactose intolerance so you
get with lactose intolerance so you would have thought that what we would
would have thought that what we would
would have thought that what we would have done is recalibrated our
have done is recalibrated our
have done is recalibrated our relationship with milk and we’ve had
relationship with milk and we’ve had
relationship with milk and we’ve had 10,000 years to do it and we haven’t
10,000 years to do it and we haven’t
10,000 years to do it and we haven’t done that now in terms of the digital
done that now in terms of the digital
done that now in terms of the digital age and the Information Age we haven’t
age and the Information Age we haven’t
age and the Information Age we haven’t had 10,000 years if you take that as a
had 10,000 years if you take that as a
had 10,000 years if you take that as a metaphor for how we’ve domestic move
metaphor for how we’ve domestic move
metaphor for how we’ve domestic move domestic we’ve only had about 30 years
domestic we’ve only had about 30 years
domestic we’ve only had about 30 years the really since the 1990s when the
the really since the 1990s when the
the really since the 1990s when the internet really came into full flow and
internet really came into full flow and
internet really came into full flow and this has had a huge impact I believe on
this has had a huge impact I believe on
this has had a huge impact I believe on politicians who speak to us in sound
politicians who speak to us in sound
politicians who speak to us in sound bytes because they don’t believe that we
bytes because they don’t believe that we
bytes because they don’t believe that we can take the long-form message we have
can take the long-form message we have
can take the long-form message we have business leaders who are forcing a set
business leaders who are forcing a set
business leaders who are forcing a set of actions and activities from the
of actions and activities from the
of actions and activities from the workforce to move faster because of
workforce to move faster because of
workforce to move faster because of their own fear of innovation and what
their own fear of innovation and what
their own fear of innovation and what the next challenge to their business
the next challenge to their business
the next challenge to their business model will be and that’s demoing a
model will be and that’s demoing a
model will be and that’s demoing a direct impact on workforces and the
direct impact on workforces and the
direct impact on workforces and the media is feeding us a 24-hour stream of
media is feeding us a 24-hour stream of
media is feeding us a 24-hour stream of data it is predominantly in the negative
data it is predominantly in the negative
data it is predominantly in the negative but it’s now more important to be first
but it’s now more important to be first
but it’s now more important to be first than it is to be right and this is
than it is to be right and this is
than it is to be right and this is impacting on us as humans and as a
impacting on us as humans and as a
impacting on us as humans and as a society and the impact is quite obvious
society and the impact is quite obvious
society and the impact is quite obvious we have 14 million days work days lost
we have 14 million days work days lost
we have 14 million days work days lost to stress in the UK each year in the
to stress in the UK each year in the
to stress in the UK each year in the u.s. we have 40% of the workforce not
u.s. we have 40% of the workforce not
u.s. we have 40% of the workforce not taking their full holiday entitlement
taking their full holiday entitlement
taking their full holiday entitlement because the fear of what will happen if
because the fear of what will happen if
because the fear of what will happen if they’re away from the work space in
they’re away from the work space in
they’re away from the work space in terms of fairness we have 50% of
terms of fairness we have 50% of
terms of fairness we have 50% of household wealth sitting with 1% of the
household wealth sitting with 1% of the
household wealth sitting with 1% of the population and in terms of trust the
population and in terms of trust the
population and in terms of trust the Edelman Trust Barometer this year says
Edelman Trust Barometer this year says
Edelman Trust Barometer this year says the trust is at an all-time low
the trust is at an all-time low
the trust is at an all-time low globally against four major indicators
globally against four major indicators
globally against four major indicators so that’s government that’s business
so that’s government that’s business
so that’s government that’s business that’s not for profit and the media so
that’s not for profit and the media so
that’s not for profit and the media so that means that the lowest amount of
that means that the lowest amount of
that means that the lowest amount of trust in the recorded history of that
trust in the recorded history of that
trust in the recorded history of that document is that we don’t trust our
document is that we don’t trust our
document is that we don’t trust our politicians we don’t trust our leaders
politicians we don’t trust our leaders
politicians we don’t trust our leaders we don’t trust our news and we don’t
we don’t trust our news and we don’t
we don’t trust our news and we don’t even trust the charity
even trust the charity
even trust the charity so what does that mean to us well the
so what does that mean to us well the
so what does that mean to us well the story for me of living brave means that
story for me of living brave means that
story for me of living brave means that living brave has to operate for us as
living brave has to operate for us as
living brave has to operate for us as individuals for families for teams for
individuals for families for teams for
individuals for families for teams for businesses in that platform it’s always
businesses in that platform it’s always
businesses in that platform it’s always been complex but now it’s just such an
been complex but now it’s just such an
been complex but now it’s just such an accelerated rate but if we don’t have a
accelerated rate but if we don’t have a
accelerated rate but if we don’t have a way of directly pushing back on the
way of directly pushing back on the
way of directly pushing back on the pressure of the world it starts to
pressure of the world it starts to
pressure of the world it starts to dictate to us the way things are as
dictate to us the way things are as
dictate to us the way things are as opposed to us dictating to the world now
opposed to us dictating to the world now
opposed to us dictating to the world now my story for living brave started to be
my story for living brave started to be
my story for living brave started to be with the catalyst for meters of speaking
with the catalyst for meters of speaking
with the catalyst for meters of speaking to you now my father was married four
to you now my father was married four
to you now my father was married four times and my mother was married three
times and my mother was married three
times and my mother was married three times
times
times my father’s fourth wife was the mistress
my father’s fourth wife was the mistress
my father’s fourth wife was the mistress he had with his second wife so you can
he had with his second wife so you can
he had with his second wife so you can see no trust issues or relationship
see no trust issues or relationship
see no trust issues or relationship issues for me in any way I once came
issues for me in any way I once came
issues for me in any way I once came home to find that out of a set of three
home to find that out of a set of three
home to find that out of a set of three bedrooms my bedroom had being moved from
bedrooms my bedroom had being moved from
bedrooms my bedroom had being moved from the end into the middle bedroom and my
the end into the middle bedroom and my
the end into the middle bedroom and my father now was with his partner in the
father now was with his partner in the
father now was with his partner in the one end room and my mother was in the
one end room and my mother was in the
one end room and my mother was in the other bedroom with her new partner again
other bedroom with her new partner again
other bedroom with her new partner again no damage done to me in any way at all
no damage done to me in any way at all
no damage done to me in any way at all because of that I’m having a slight
because of that I’m having a slight
because of that I’m having a slight flashback now just thinking about it
flashback now just thinking about it
flashback now just thinking about it getting slightly warm one day I came
getting slightly warm one day I came
getting slightly warm one day I came home from school and found unfortunately
home from school and found unfortunately
home from school and found unfortunately I found that my mother had tried to kill
I found that my mother had tried to kill
I found that my mother had tried to kill herself by taking an overdose and one
herself by taking an overdose and one
herself by taking an overdose and one day my father took me into the garage
day my father took me into the garage
day my father took me into the garage and with a rope with me now I share that
and with a rope with me now I share that
and with a rope with me now I share that knowing that that was my catalyst for
knowing that that was my catalyst for
knowing that that was my catalyst for trying to find what living brave might
trying to find what living brave might
trying to find what living brave might mean to me I know that other people
mean to me I know that other people
mean to me I know that other people would look at that and say guy you had
would look at that and say guy you had
would look at that and say guy you had it really easy I wish I’d have had it
it really easy I wish I’d have had it
it really easy I wish I’d have had it that easy other people may look at it
that easy other people may look at it
that easy other people may look at it and go gosh that was horrific
and go gosh that was horrific
and go gosh that was horrific everybody’s context everybody’s volume
everybody’s context everybody’s volume
everybody’s context everybody’s volume control is on a spectrum and it’s all
control is on a spectrum and it’s all
control is on a spectrum and it’s all set differently for the things and the
set differently for the things and the
set differently for the things and the challenges that will occur to us for me
challenges that will occur to us for me
challenges that will occur to us for me I was directly trying to understand what
I was directly trying to understand what
I was directly trying to understand what was happening to me I felt weak I felt
was happening to me I felt weak I felt
was happening to me I felt weak I felt that I was a coward I was challenging
that I was a coward I was challenging
that I was a coward I was challenging myself to say where is your bravery why
myself to say where is your bravery why
myself to say where is your bravery why aren’t you being brave why don’t you
aren’t you being brave why don’t you
aren’t you being brave why don’t you live bright while in livin’ grave why
live bright while in livin’ grave why
live bright while in livin’ grave why aren’t you living brave what would that
aren’t you living brave what would that
aren’t you living brave what would that look like am i living brave so I found
look like am i living brave so I found
look like am i living brave so I found that vocabulary that mindset that was
that vocabulary that mindset that was
that vocabulary that mindset that was for me about wanting to be somebody that
for me about wanting to be somebody that
for me about wanting to be somebody that would be living brave in life too
would be living brave in life too
would be living brave in life too to hate myself for an emotionally
to hate myself for an emotionally
to hate myself for an emotionally damaging situation and I was able to do
damaging situation and I was able to do
damaging situation and I was able to do that but I didn’t have the parts of the
that but I didn’t have the parts of the
that but I didn’t have the parts of the mechanic that meant I could go and help
mechanic that meant I could go and help
mechanic that meant I could go and help others and it always stuck with me as
others and it always stuck with me as
others and it always stuck with me as something I wanted to achieve I wanted
something I wanted to achieve I wanted
something I wanted to achieve I wanted to be able to take to other people the
to be able to take to other people the
to be able to take to other people the ability to be living brave because when
ability to be living brave because when
ability to be living brave because when we had that anxiety that doubt that fear
we had that anxiety that doubt that fear
we had that anxiety that doubt that fear that frustration when we feel pressure
that frustration when we feel pressure
that frustration when we feel pressure or threatened in the world then to have
or threatened in the world then to have
or threatened in the world then to have a direct way of approaching that I feel
a direct way of approaching that I feel
a direct way of approaching that I feel can be very powerful we have maybe
can be very powerful we have maybe
can be very powerful we have maybe friends that gossip or a boss who’s a
friends that gossip or a boss who’s a
friends that gossip or a boss who’s a bully or maybe we have a sense of our
bully or maybe we have a sense of our
bully or maybe we have a sense of our own doubt around whether or not we’re
own doubt around whether or not we’re
own doubt around whether or not we’re attractive enough or intelligent enough
attractive enough or intelligent enough
attractive enough or intelligent enough or capable enough to do a TED talk or
or capable enough to do a TED talk or
or capable enough to do a TED talk or something along those lines or maybe the
something along those lines or maybe the
something along those lines or maybe the world just feels a little bit heavy and
world just feels a little bit heavy and
world just feels a little bit heavy and we feel it in ourselves or we see it in
we feel it in ourselves or we see it in
we feel it in ourselves or we see it in others so the component parts for me was
others so the component parts for me was
others so the component parts for me was what I was looking for so I would think
what I was looking for so I would think
what I was looking for so I would think about people like Claudette Colvin who
about people like Claudette Colvin who
about people like Claudette Colvin who as a black 15 year old girl on a bus in
as a black 15 year old girl on a bus in
as a black 15 year old girl on a bus in Montgomery Alabama in 1955 the law was
Montgomery Alabama in 1955 the law was
Montgomery Alabama in 1955 the law was that if a white person wanted the seat
that if a white person wanted the seat
that if a white person wanted the seat that she had to give it up and 15 years
that she had to give it up and 15 years
that she had to give it up and 15 years old she said no so I wanted to know
old she said no so I wanted to know
old she said no so I wanted to know where that bravery came from I think
where that bravery came from I think
where that bravery came from I think about Malala you survey at 2012 who was
about Malala you survey at 2012 who was
about Malala you survey at 2012 who was shot in the head by the Taliban because
shot in the head by the Taliban because
shot in the head by the Taliban because as a woman she wanted an education so I
as a woman she wanted an education so I
as a woman she wanted an education so I wanted to understand where did that
wanted to understand where did that
wanted to understand where did that bravery come from and it’s something I
bravery come from and it’s something I
bravery come from and it’s something I couldn’t really I mean understand what
couldn’t really I mean understand what
couldn’t really I mean understand what it was but I didn’t have the parts
it was but I didn’t have the parts
it was but I didn’t have the parts behind it and then one day rather secure
behind it and then one day rather secure
behind it and then one day rather secure Cicely I was in a car park and came
Cicely I was in a car park and came
Cicely I was in a car park and came across a gentleman called James I didn’t
across a gentleman called James I didn’t
across a gentleman called James I didn’t know his name at the time but we’d
know his name at the time but we’d
know his name at the time but we’d arrived in the car park at the same time
arrived in the car park at the same time
arrived in the car park at the same time I was going to visit an office and as I
I was going to visit an office and as I
I was going to visit an office and as I was walking across the carpark and this
was walking across the carpark and this
was walking across the carpark and this gentleman was walking beside me was a
gentleman was walking beside me was a
gentleman was walking beside me was a young man smoking a cigarette back when
young man smoking a cigarette back when
young man smoking a cigarette back when you could and he had the cigarette took
you could and he had the cigarette took
you could and he had the cigarette took his last puff and he flicked it and it
his last puff and he flicked it and it
his last puff and he flicked it and it went onto the floor and I remember to
went onto the floor and I remember to
went onto the floor and I remember to this day James going excuse me fella
this day James going excuse me fella
this day James going excuse me fella would you mind picking that cigarette
would you mind picking that cigarette
would you mind picking that cigarette backed up and popping it in the bin and
backed up and popping it in the bin and
backed up and popping it in the bin and this young guy looked at James and I
this young guy looked at James and I
this young guy looked at James and I think he was making a judgment call as
think he was making a judgment call as
think he was making a judgment call as to how senior he was in the business and
to how senior he was in the business and
to how senior he was in the business and whether or not he should actually pick
whether or not he should actually pick
whether or not he should actually pick it up and put it in the bin but he did
it up and put it in the bin but he did
it up and put it in the bin but he did so made the decision that he was he
so made the decision that he was he
so made the decision that he was he picked it up put it in the bin James
picked it up put it in the bin James
picked it up put it in the bin James went thanks very much we went into
went thanks very much we went into
went thanks very much we went into research
research
research of these offices and I signed the
of these offices and I signed the
of these offices and I signed the visitors book and I was expecting James
visitors book and I was expecting James
visitors book and I was expecting James to show his passion you know be sent
to show his passion you know be sent
to show his passion you know be sent through because he obviously worked for
through because he obviously worked for
through because he obviously worked for the company and he didn’t and I was
the company and he didn’t and I was
the company and he didn’t and I was really surprised he signed the visitors
really surprised he signed the visitors
really surprised he signed the visitors book in fact I was more than surprised I
book in fact I was more than surprised I
book in fact I was more than surprised I was absolutely shocked because this is
was absolutely shocked because this is
was absolutely shocked because this is somebody that had just taken issue with
somebody that had just taken issue with
somebody that had just taken issue with somebody in a car park in a business he
somebody in a car park in a business he
somebody in a car park in a business he had no span of control in but he
had no span of control in but he
had no span of control in but he obviously felt it was something that he
obviously felt it was something that he
obviously felt it was something that he needed to do and it came to me about
needed to do and it came to me about
needed to do and it came to me about where my personal bravery was because my
where my personal bravery was because my
where my personal bravery was because my personal bravery had been linked back to
personal bravery had been linked back to
personal bravery had been linked back to when I was trying to extricate myself
when I was trying to extricate myself
when I was trying to extricate myself from a very personal situation which I
from a very personal situation which I
from a very personal situation which I had been able to do but my bravery had
had been able to do but my bravery had
had been able to do but my bravery had been very isolated to my personal need
been very isolated to my personal need
been very isolated to my personal need so when I started to think about people
so when I started to think about people
so when I started to think about people like Claudette Colvin and Malloy you
like Claudette Colvin and Malloy you
like Claudette Colvin and Malloy you survey and and James I recognized that
survey and and James I recognized that
survey and and James I recognized that they’re living brave actually sat
they’re living brave actually sat
they’re living brave actually sat outside of their particular need I mean
outside of their particular need I mean
outside of their particular need I mean they had a personal driver that drove
they had a personal driver that drove
they had a personal driver that drove them but it was also about being brave
them but it was also about being brave
them but it was also about being brave in the world which was something that I
in the world which was something that I
in the world which was something that I recognized that mine was very kind of
recognized that mine was very kind of
recognized that mine was very kind of local to me and I have been brave as
local to me and I have been brave as
local to me and I have been brave as I’ve gone through life but quite
I’ve gone through life but quite
I’ve gone through life but quite selfishly for my own need so I was able
selfishly for my own need so I was able
selfishly for my own need so I was able to take some time to have a conversation
to take some time to have a conversation
to take some time to have a conversation with James and he was able to point out
with James and he was able to point out
with James and he was able to point out some of the component parts to me not
some of the component parts to me not
some of the component parts to me not because he had the language I then kinda
because he had the language I then kinda
because he had the language I then kinda had the language to ask the questions
had the language to ask the questions
had the language to ask the questions and I was able to ask him questions that
and I was able to ask him questions that
and I was able to ask him questions that were able to tell me what is it that
were able to tell me what is it that
were able to tell me what is it that made up living brave and what became
made up living brave and what became
made up living brave and what became apparent was first of all I have the
apparent was first of all I have the
apparent was first of all I have the question I already had living brave and
question I already had living brave and
question I already had living brave and wanting to live brave wanting to be
wanting to live brave wanting to be
wanting to live brave wanting to be living brave as a mindset I already had
living brave as a mindset I already had
living brave as a mindset I already had the question which was and it’s
the question which was and it’s
the question which was and it’s something that we can use at any point
something that we can use at any point
something that we can use at any point in our lives when you feel that anxiety
in our lives when you feel that anxiety
in our lives when you feel that anxiety that pressure that threat that may be
that pressure that threat that may be
that pressure that threat that may be upon you which is am i living brave and
upon you which is am i living brave and
upon you which is am i living brave and in speaking to James what I realized was
in speaking to James what I realized was
in speaking to James what I realized was he had a compass bearing he had an
he had a compass bearing he had an
he had a compass bearing he had an absolutely vivid strong representation
absolutely vivid strong representation
absolutely vivid strong representation of where he was trying to go and the
of where he was trying to go and the
of where he was trying to go and the person he wanted to be in the world and
person he wanted to be in the world and
person he wanted to be in the world and I recognized that I’d inadvertently done
I recognized that I’d inadvertently done
I recognized that I’d inadvertently done the same thing I knew what bad was
the same thing I knew what bad was
the same thing I knew what bad was because I was in bad what I wanted to do
because I was in bad what I wanted to do
because I was in bad what I wanted to do was move to a strong representation of
was move to a strong representation of
was move to a strong representation of something that was more
something that was more
something that was more loitering to me emotionally wouldn’t
loitering to me emotionally wouldn’t
loitering to me emotionally wouldn’t damage me so I was looking for that add
damage me so I was looking for that add
damage me so I was looking for that add a strong compass bearing and of course
a strong compass bearing and of course
a strong compass bearing and of course when I reflected on people like
when I reflected on people like
when I reflected on people like Claudette Colvin you reflect on people
Claudette Colvin you reflect on people
Claudette Colvin you reflect on people like the Marley you survey they had a
like the Marley you survey they had a
like the Marley you survey they had a strong sense of wanting that personal
strong sense of wanting that personal
strong sense of wanting that personal bravery so they could apply and move
bravery so they could apply and move
bravery so they could apply and move towards a strong vision so having that
towards a strong vision so having that
towards a strong vision so having that compass
compass
compass what does good look like James also was
what does good look like James also was
what does good look like James also was accountable that was absolutely clear in
accountable that was absolutely clear in
accountable that was absolutely clear in conversation with him he put no
conversation with him he put no
conversation with him he put no responsibility on to somebody else even
responsibility on to somebody else even
responsibility on to somebody else even if the responsibility actually should be
if the responsibility actually should be
if the responsibility actually should be with somebody else he recognized that he
with somebody else he recognized that he
with somebody else he recognized that he had to be the person that did it and I
had to be the person that did it and I
had to be the person that did it and I was able to make that link back to my
was able to make that link back to my
was able to make that link back to my life and recognize that I’d been
life and recognize that I’d been
life and recognize that I’d been accountable even though somebody else
accountable even though somebody else
accountable even though somebody else maybe because of the age I was should
maybe because of the age I was should
maybe because of the age I was should have been being responsible for me in
have been being responsible for me in
have been being responsible for me in different ways I take him accountability
different ways I take him accountability
different ways I take him accountability to extract myself from a situation so
to extract myself from a situation so
to extract myself from a situation so it’s about having that compass bearing
it’s about having that compass bearing
it’s about having that compass bearing it was about being accountable I also
it was about being accountable I also
it was about being accountable I also could see that James was present he
could see that James was present he
could see that James was present he didn’t defer to a later time he wasn’t
didn’t defer to a later time he wasn’t
didn’t defer to a later time he wasn’t bewitched by an agenda of getting to a
bewitched by an agenda of getting to a
bewitched by an agenda of getting to a meeting or going to meet somebody else
meeting or going to meet somebody else
meeting or going to meet somebody else or whatever it is that he had he
or whatever it is that he had he
or whatever it is that he had he recognized for him to be able to
recognized for him to be able to
recognized for him to be able to defining himself as a living brave when
defining himself as a living brave when
defining himself as a living brave when something happened in front of him that
something happened in front of him that
something happened in front of him that he wanted to apply his thinking to and
he wanted to apply his thinking to and
he wanted to apply his thinking to and his perspective to it had to be done in
his perspective to it had to be done in
his perspective to it had to be done in the moment and of course that was
the moment and of course that was
the moment and of course that was exactly the same for me he couldn’t wait
exactly the same for me he couldn’t wait
exactly the same for me he couldn’t wait years he couldn’t wait months it had to
years he couldn’t wait months it had to
years he couldn’t wait months it had to be something that happened in the
be something that happened in the
be something that happened in the present or as near to it as was possible
present or as near to it as was possible
present or as near to it as was possible and also James was fully willing to be
and also James was fully willing to be
and also James was fully willing to be somebody who would contribute and that
somebody who would contribute and that
somebody who would contribute and that was absolutely key he recognized that he
was absolutely key he recognized that he
was absolutely key he recognized that he was the catalyst he was the action and
was the catalyst he was the action and
was the catalyst he was the action and he would be the power behind it so he
he would be the power behind it so he
he would be the power behind it so he had to be the one who was willing to
had to be the one who was willing to
had to be the one who was willing to contribute and again I recognized within
contribute and again I recognized within
contribute and again I recognized within myself that that was exactly the same
myself that that was exactly the same
myself that that was exactly the same thing nobody would come and save me
thing nobody would come and save me
thing nobody would come and save me there was no white knight to come and
there was no white knight to come and
there was no white knight to come and take me away I had to be the
take me away I had to be the
take me away I had to be the contributing force to make the changes
contributing force to make the changes
contributing force to make the changes that I wanted to make so for me why now
that I wanted to make so for me why now
that I wanted to make so for me why now had was a clear sense of what it is that
had was a clear sense of what it is that
had was a clear sense of what it is that it might be for us as individuals as
it might be for us as individuals as
it might be for us as individuals as families as
families as
families as zaz work environments to be able to say
zaz work environments to be able to say
zaz work environments to be able to say do we want to operate with a mindset
do we want to operate with a mindset
do we want to operate with a mindset that he’s living brave if we are then
that he’s living brave if we are then
that he’s living brave if we are then when things are not going in our way and
when things are not going in our way and
when things are not going in our way and we find that we have those tensions that
we find that we have those tensions that
we find that we have those tensions that we want to challenge ourselves again if
we want to challenge ourselves again if
we want to challenge ourselves again if you want to be able to say am i living
you want to be able to say am i living
you want to be able to say am i living brave and the answer to be yes you need
brave and the answer to be yes you need
brave and the answer to be yes you need to have a clear compass bearing you need
to have a clear compass bearing you need
to have a clear compass bearing you need to have absolutely the commitment to
to have absolutely the commitment to
to have absolutely the commitment to being accountable you have to be
being accountable you have to be
being accountable you have to be absolutely present with the moment that
absolutely present with the moment that
absolutely present with the moment that you’re in and not defer it and be
you’re in and not defer it and be
you’re in and not defer it and be willing to be the person that is
willing to be the person that is
willing to be the person that is actually going to do the contribution if
actually going to do the contribution if
actually going to do the contribution if you can say yes to those things even if
you can say yes to those things even if
you can say yes to those things even if you’re not getting what you want you are
you’re not getting what you want you are
you’re not getting what you want you are living brave because living brave isn’t
living brave because living brave isn’t
living brave because living brave isn’t about it going your way
about it going your way
about it going your way living brave is about defining yourself
living brave is about defining yourself
living brave is about defining yourself as a living brave well what happens to
as a living brave well what happens to
as a living brave well what happens to happens to you and that’s absolutely key
happens to you and that’s absolutely key
happens to you and that’s absolutely key for you if you’re not doing any one of
for you if you’re not doing any one of
for you if you’re not doing any one of those things then you need to make the
those things then you need to make the
those things then you need to make the adjustment towards it to be able to
adjustment towards it to be able to
adjustment towards it to be able to define yourself as being able to do that
define yourself as being able to do that
define yourself as being able to do that and to maybe help or guide others to do
and to maybe help or guide others to do
and to maybe help or guide others to do the same so for me what I hope is it’s
the same so for me what I hope is it’s
the same so for me what I hope is it’s an offering for you to be able to take
an offering for you to be able to take
an offering for you to be able to take on a way of thinking about living brave
on a way of thinking about living brave
on a way of thinking about living brave to maybe ask yourself the questions am i
to maybe ask yourself the questions am i
to maybe ask yourself the questions am i living brave and to be able to have
living brave and to be able to have
living brave and to be able to have those component parts that or maybe work
those component parts that or maybe work
those component parts that or maybe work for you in the future so on that note I
for you in the future so on that note I
for you in the future so on that note I leave you with a question which I’m sure
leave you with a question which I’m sure
leave you with a question which I’m sure you can guess which is am i living brave
you can guess which is am i living brave
you can guess which is am i living brave thank
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