AL: It shows, Fabrice. FdB: We said we would do like this.
A: I know, but it shows. F: We are not going to change now.
A: Please. Thank you.
We are bored.
(Laughter)
F: We’re bored because we realized
that we had exactly the problem of the subject of which we came to speak to you.
It’s too bad.
A: My name is Axel Lattuada
and right now, I’m an author and comedian.
F: My name is Fabrice de Boni
and right now, I’m an author and director.
A: I do not know what I’m doing here.
(Laughter)
In fact, I think I am an impostor.
F: But no.
A: That is to say, most of the time, I tell myself that, anyway,
there must be someone somewhere who is much more interesting than me
and who should be in my place.
F: And me – I think I’m going to throw up.
(Laughter)
Because here, when I speak to you, I am extremely uncomfortable.
Because, actually, the thing is, I have the belief that when I’m filmed,
Well, I’m always ugly on the screen.
You see.
Has watched. F: So, as a good director,
well, I always hide behind the camera.
A: Yes, well, what he does not tell you,
he is also a coach specializing in applied neuroscience.
And he does not say it, because he thinks that if he tells you that, well, he’s skulling.
It happens to you to believe things like this
who make you unhappy?
F: What he wants to ask you,
it’s when the last time you gave up something,
finding you a good reason like this:
A: “No, no, I am like that. “?
F: Because in fact, frankly, I’m going to ask you a question:
do you find it relevant to believe in your life
things that you do not agree with already,
and then, will prevent you from doing what you want.
A: But if, you know,
it’s all the sentences that begin with:
AL & F: “No, but I’m too old to do that. “
A: “No, I do not have time. “
F: “No, I do not have enough confidence in myself. “
A: “I can not do a TEDx because I’m ugly to the camera. “
(Laughter)
F: “No, I can not do TEDx, because I’m not interesting. “
A: You say it, it’s not me. (Laughter)
F: You see, all of this is called beliefs.
A: For those who take notes, it’s written cro y …
F: It’s good, it’s good, they know how it is written.
A: That’s a belief.
F: One belief in fact, to summarize, is all thoughts,
it’s all the opinions you have in your head
and that you consider the truth.
And after a while, all those thoughts,
Well, we will end up believing that they become our identity.
Me, for example, I am not photogenic.
It is because of the distribution … –
A: Yes, you already said that. F: Yes, sorry, sorry. (Laughter)
A: There are people in the room who believe like Fabrice
that they are ugly to the camera, all that they are not photogenic?
There are people or not? Raise your hand.
Ah, well, for example, miss.
(Laughter)
Do you want to come with us on the stage for two minutes?
We are not bad, come on.
Your first name ? Spectator: Karina.
A: Karina.
(Applause)
Go with Fabrice. Go stand up there.
F: What’s your name? K: Karina.
F: Can you say it again? Spectator: Karina.
A: Yeah, I should have taken someone with a simpler name.
(Applause)
So, can anyone tell me why Karina is pretty?
It’s easy, though.
Publuc: The smile.
Buckles.
The attitude. She has sparkling eyes.
She is graceful.
She is smiling.
F: Me, I find it vulnerable.
I do not know what you think about it ?
(Laughter)
No, but wait, because what I want to say to you there,
I, personally, find it rare.
It is rare that someone shows his vulnerability like that.
It takes courage, actually.
Me, it makes me something when I see people like that,
who stage themselves and who show their vulnerability.
Me, I find it beautiful.
So, from my point of view, right now, I find you extremely pretty actually.
K: Thank you. F: I beg you.
A: Do you want us to continue?
F: Do you want us to continue?
A: They are 400, it will take time.
F: Well, well, ok, we’ll stop there,
otherwise it’s too long, there are 400 people.
A: Thank you very much. He is applauded.
(Applause)
F: Because in fact, what to understand,
the secret,
A: Listen well.
F: It’s just the brain, it’s a little stupid.
Because in fact, the more you believe something,
and the more your brain is going to look in the real world for details,
that he will isolate like that and that he will put end to end
to make you believe that what you believe is the truth.
A: In fact, one of his brain tasks is to confirm our beliefs.
F: Exactly. For example, right now,
your conscious thoughts have a speed of 2,000 bits / second.
It’s like having about 2,000 information
who spent every second in your head.
A: Count them to see.
(Laughter)
F: And at the same time I’m talking to you,
your unconscious thoughts have a speed of 400 billion bits per second.
A: Go ahead, count them.
(Laughter)
F: So, you realize, in fact, that your conscious thoughts,
that is to say, your beliefs,
it’s just a tiny selection of reality.
F: Hey. Thank you.
So, by dint of believing the same things in a loop,
we do the same things, and by doing the same thing,
A & F: Well, we get the same results.
A: And as we get the same results,
we reinforce our basic beliefs.
When you break a plate, you say:
“You see, I told you, I’m awkward, it’s like that. “
So, why are we freaking out?
Why are we afraid to change our beliefs?
You want to remain clumsy all your life, that’s the idea?
In fact, we think that if we change our beliefs,
we will lose our identity.
F: And the confusion,
it is to think that our identity rests on our beliefs.
Our identity is based on our values.
So, what is a value?
A value, that’s why I do something.
For example, right now in your life, there,
I would like to know,
what motivates you in your life now, right now?
What’s this ? It’s love ? Freedom ? I do not know, security?
A & F: Joy, beauty, pleasure, pleasure?
F: All that is values.
And what’s magic is that all these values that we are talking about,
me, you and all the people on the planet, we all share the same.
To all.
F: And to make that identity, what are we going to do?
We are going to take all these values, and make a top 10 of these values.
A: And where value is why I do things,
a belief is just how I do things.
A belief is just a way to express your values.
It’s strategies.
For example, there are many different ways to express love.
I can choose to be a libertine,
to be exclusive or to be married or to be pacsé,
to become a priest and to give my love to God.
F: There are plenty of ways to express freedom too.
One can imagine someone saying:
“So, right now, I do not work.
Like that, I have all my time and I am free.
I can do what I want. “
A: “Me, I work a lot, like that, I have a lot of money,
like that, I do what I want, and therefore, I am free. “
You see, sometimes you have the same value as someone
and you put yourself on the face because you have opposite beliefs.
It’s not clear, even with the gesture, we do not understand that. (Laughter)
F: Wait, I have a great example to make it clear.
I explain, a great example, it’s like an example but with a cape.
(Laughter)
A: Wait, wait. F: Is it good?
(Ukulele sound) A: It’s good.
F: This is the story of Robin Hood.
OK ? So, Robin Hood, his belief,
it is necessary to steal from the rich to give to the poor.
But its value, well, it’s justice.
We agree, that’s why he does that.
And the Sheriff of Nottingham, his opponent, he, his belief,
it is necessary to protect the rich of Robin Hood.
And there, once again, what is its value? It’s justice.
You see that these two characters,
they beat each other because they have opposite beliefs,
whereas they have exactly the same values.
I will give you another example.
When we go to war – A: We do not have time for war.
(Laughter)
Talking about war in the ukulele …
F: Well, you see, that’s a belief, for example.
A: What you have to understand is that if you have developed a belief,
is that at some point in your life, she helped you,
she served you for something.
F: But as you evolve during your life,
that belief that has helped you at some point in your life,
at another time, in another context, it can become limiting.
That is to say, it will become an obstacle in fact for your evolution.
And from there, it’s a bit like if you decide
to spend your life driving with a handbrake.
A: It’s a good idea, right?
(Laughter)
F: The good news is that your beliefs belong to you.
So, you understand that if your beliefs come from you,
it is that you are responsible for what you believe,
and therefore, you can choose your beliefs.
Is it clear for everyone?
A: No, it’s not clear there. F: I also find there.
Do you understand there?
I want it to be clear,
because if there are people who still have doubts about what we are talking about,
you have been brought back evidence.
Look, look.
A: Me, it’s been about ten minutes that I’m on the scene of a TEDx,
in front of 400 people.
Nobody has fallen asleep a priori.
So, maybe it’s pretty interesting
and that I am in my place in fact.
F: Me, it’s exactly the same time that I’m on this stage,
and a priori, the cameraman did not vomit, he did not run away, (laughs)
he did not erase the memory card, saying, “Ah, my God. “
So that’s the proof that I’m filmable.
The proof is that I’m filmed.
A: What we want to tell you in fact is that, as we wanted to be here
and share that with you,
Well, we had to start believing stuff
who were going to help us do it in fact.
So me, I decide, there, now,
before you, with you, thanks to you a little too,
to believe that I am legitimate.
And that I am in my place, and that my place, it is me who chose it,
therefore, I am necessarily legitimate in fact.
F: Logic.
F: And I choose to believe that beauty,
it depends on the way you look at things.
In fact, it’s not the things in themselves that are beautiful,
it’s the way you look at them that makes them beautiful.
A: And what’s crazy is that in fact, to believe all that,
we did not have to question our identities.
F: That is our values.
A & F: Who are: humor, creativity, friendship and sharing.
F: So, now, before finishing this short TEDx,
and before, eventually your applause,
(Laughter)
we just want you to leave with a question
and you ask it sincerely,
and this question is: “Does what you believe of yourself,
does it make you happy every day? “
A: Even on Tuesdays.
(Laughter)
F: Thank you.
(Applause)
(Ukulele sound)
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