good morning thank you for coming for me
is very important to share a
an idea that somehow makes some
years that accompany me today I wanted
explain a little bit where this
this concept of negative positivity
all that starts about ten years ago
with a disease that came to visit me
consult and that he had lost his baby
the baby died within a few hours
to be born
as you can imagine after several
days she was mired in a deep
pain well to my query and he told me
bitterly as he had lost that
creature and how his family was trying
cheer up telling her come woman has
these children more you have to fight for
the other two children and as their
family and people around the
I tried to cheer each time she cried
more and more bitterly
then I started, I thought it was
happening something people have a
intention we people have the
intention to help others and
many times we try to do it from a
positive way but not always not
always what is positive is better
what it means means that you have to be
Negative input does not mean that
you have to be a pre and be all the
bad day does not mean that no
you can have a wonderful day, but not
Many times when people have pain
when people suffer when people
That’s wrong
maybe the worst thing you can do is
try to be positive
I know I will not give fall for
for having put this and how is this
conference is going to go around the world
and they will see millions of visits
I will probably receive sticks from
all the followers of Pablo Coello de
that there is in the earth paulo costs
coelho
not for nothing simply because I think
which is the best known but with him
begins a whole wave of positivity not
a wave of positive thinking a wave
of we would say the dawn of coaching the
Dawn of inspirational leaders
not from the leaders of inspiration
host up
cheer up think in positive visualize
all this roll that has done a lot
hurt people who simply do not
comes out
I do not know if it’s ever happened to you
a bad day you have a fatal day and
someone says
and of course you cheer up super fast no
you have a day that you are nervous I
himself was about to enter here
like these I’m a little nervous good
quite quiet not well as
psychologist I realize that life
it is a concatenation of moments
difficult
what does this mean that the
life is sprinkled with bad rolls
life is born a child and the couple
sometimes it breaks down
how many people that we know that when
has had a creature that is that couple
javier many people
if already in the births there may be
difficulties as they go by
the life cycles and the stages we
we married, we divorced, we have
losses we have jobs we lose the
job
we have investments, we lose our
investments life is what happens
between bad roll and bad roll and out there
there are a lot of people who claim to be
positive taking taken with calm
breathe behind a crisis this is
very good
there is always an opportunity when one
is in the middle of the crisis does not see the
opportunity no city or not me
I came this morning, I put my
super fast pants and suddenly I
a glob of
of glue imedio here was the only
pants available today and tells me the
people
good quiet , nothing happens, nobody is going
to fix another important fact is that the
positivity has to be spontaneous
Some people spend anything and
they take it positive we do not all have
some friend like that a happy flower that
Suddenly it happens to anything amira –
the leg does not happen anything if I have the
opportunity to rest or to be able
write that book that caresses
after so much time but that’s a
spontaneous thing comes out like that or look
I have three children two hyperactive and 1
alcoholic
well nothing happens if I have the time to
can not clean me up as a father
improve grow as a good father there
people that come out of the soul and was already
we can not deny it but when one is
wrong
do not pretend it ‘s different
you have ever had an orgasm one
orgasm if that thing suddenly
traffic has a very high upload
what ever the hand is raised
have ever had any although in
Catalan we say that even Fusi is
some because when you have had the
orgasm did something to manage it
you have your orgasm and then there is and
it is not right to have orgasm
there I ‘m going to dose or mere cast
a little for tomorrow so they do not take out
or you just have it and it’s already
sometimes with negative emotions with
Being bad happens the same
does not have to manage so much
often tries to manage what
does is perpetuate the problem not
I should be more animated people than you
they tell no I do not know what’s wrong with me
They say everything is going well I have good job
a good couple
I have wonderful children, he won well
life and yet I am fatal never
you heard that nobody has been told
that or someone who complains because I’m
wrong because such a thing happens to me and you
admires because you say yes of a life
wonderful
I would even steal her husband if
you could when a person we
do not accept this that is happening do not
he says I should cheer up he starts me
be worse
when I was little my mother and my
aunt sewed my earth dressmaker my mom
it helped him then it was common that
some afternoon when they were going to sew
in my grandmother’s house my mother took me
He took me and I accompanied them
they talked about women’s things in
that era told us about the years
70
in fact it should be the late 60’s
I have black and white memory there
between coffees with milk and corn and
cupcakes my mother and my aunt used to
talk about diets that we do not have
It is left or were not fat
hello rocio jurado is doing I do not know
what diet the artichoke diet or the
diet and eggplant through the
things that are spoken in I remember being
ever listening to the arrival to me
grandmother who was the one who looked after the
Intendance and my grandmother came with two or
three glasses of latte I
I remember having a glass of coffee
with milk at six in the evening at 7
a sack of coffee with milk and some
cupcakes and then my grandmother
they said to my aunt and my mother if it were
so easy daughters of mine we would all be
thin
if it were so easy to cheer up we would be
more animated
if it were so easy to not be afraid
none would be afraid I do not know if I am
able to explain how important it is
East
this phrase I consider my grandfather
he invented psychotherapy with that phrase
If it were so easy, we would all be
thin
good psychotherapists and
psychologists we are not big
scientists
There are yes but I would not qualify
one of them
then there are times that I do study is
a bit like being at home and I have my
I study being at home too
regarding that
we would say that 70% of the people I see
in our query reacts well to what
what I call a rational protocol
standard is to say the person is
discouraged or are afraid and you say
good woman do not be so afraid that
neither is it for so much you know about these
things that I have to do a
presentation
I have a tête a I am very nervous not
breathe does not visualize it a 70 percent
of people reacts well that kind of
focus
but there are 30 percent of people and a
30 percent of people are a lot that do not
reacts well to that approach that
You say I’m very nervous
put yourself at ease and tell you
and I have two problems because
They are nervous or idiot for sure
I will not put within that 30% the
moment in which positive people
it’s wrong that also happens to them
that is, you can be very good
roll you know I’m super strolls with your
old age the web is not going to me very much
good and it’s great
maybe sometimes you have a problem
when you have a problem you get into the
group even negative
temporarily as an example of my
daily work
I usually visit a lot of people who have
anxiety anxiety has the tendency
that the person takes over the
person and the person starts to see the
things like black starts thinking about
negative and start thinking and anticipating
everything that can and evil when someone
have anxiety
normally your environment asks you to
calm down or ask him to cheer or ask
relax
yes when the anxiety is moderate
we would say on a scale from 1 to 10 of
1 to 5 when the anxiety is moderate
the positive approach works a lot
well then you tell him what happens to you
what I think a lot I’m overwhelmed by
what I have to do a lot of work
I’m blocked and then good woman
mindfulness then the person leaves and
he does more flex and if he has an anxiety
moderate mindfulness help or do
yoga or goal to take a walk in the woods
or just breathe or listen to music
you know this kind of thing or do not think
that is silly do not think
well when you have that anxiety
we would say 34 japan I do not think so no
I think I shot so I have to
sorry for month I bring but when the
anxiety starts to rise and we no longer have
stress but that we have is 5 or 6 or
the 7 when we raise the level of anxiety
all those positive things that
They worked before suddenly worsen
problem wants to relax me but I do not
I can relax
I want to distract myself but I can not
distract tried to do meditation but
then all the bad guys come to me
rolls to the head
you know someone who has happened to him
something like that is horrible and we fall into
what my work we call the loop of
more of the same
we have a difficulty a
bad moment and suddenly we try
do something positive calmed everything will
well if that positive thinking does not
it works it keeps the fear with what
then instead of changing what I do
I think I will try to be more positive
still doing more of the same
that doing more positive still makes me
feel even worse because I’m still
distressed
I do not know if you have the misfortune of having
to someone nearby that happens to that
kinds of problems we call a problem
diabolical a diabolical problem that
that gets worse with the attempts of
solution is to say is how are the
quicksand
these are the moving areas and
you start trying to leave
the more you try to leave more than a month
but thank god the math
they will come to your aid who did
kill here who knows little about mates
who do you want eighth year I’m going to
remember is to remember again I do not know
if you have a positive number and what
multiply by a positive number that
listed you will have positive and or not very
well if you have a positive number and what
multiply by a negative number that
you will have a sneak
if you have a negative number and what
multiply by a positive number that
you’ll have as human thought
It works the same, I’m great
great of death and I think
superpositive i am positive this
great of death and begins to have
negative thoughts and I stay
negative
I feel bad I’m suffering and I’m
negative and I try to think thoughts
positive as I stay then we have
the final paradox like mathematics
when we multiply a negative number
for another negative number that we get
a positive number will happen the same
with this kind of people because I’m
very nervous because she is still nervous ham
works much better is that I have to
do it ted and I’m nervous because I do not
I know if I remember I do not forget what I do
go there with your nerves even
announces difficulty is possible that gave me
the conference I went blank and I
I fainted
but you do not worry that before
that the 15 minutes pass
would raise head conference
this of the tdt is a very thing here and
then people do not behave well
what words so to the trick with the
logic
let’s see how we solve this issue
if we have a negative close I want that
you think that a negative is wonderful
part of that 30 percent of
different people is like a kind of
southpaw of the 21st century
a year ago 40 years ago the left-handed
it looked like they finished the hand that forced
write with the right but even
I had a priest from my school who said he is
you sinister a good negative
placed in a good place can not be
excellent imagine a project we have
design a project we are going to make a
press conference that we designed the
draft
the positives and then we give it to
that the negative control of
quality
this is not this, this did not work
not going well
this is a very good roll we take the
positive all the information and
we redesigned the product and it
we return to give negative or very negative
well placed serves for a lot
one of my best friends considered a
philosopher john knows about life says there is
to know how high you fly because
so when you fall streets from the height
expected
I think a wonderful phrase is to say
If something can go wrong, it will go wrong
let’s keep that in mind I brought the
presentation in five pen drive in case
fail pendrive I have it in five pen
drives I bring the computer I say the same
the computer of my wife does not work
He came out of the shower and he says good but
if you leave the host light this did not have
thought-out
when one has discomfort caused the
psychologist in the end I have to say
if one has discomfort
I’m left with the discomfort as when
you have the orgasm, I’ll take the
orgasm the data that I can I stay
with my discomfort and I do things with the
discomfort not passed either nothing has
dead nobody if I have someone who
is suffering in my environment
nothing happens either if he left it with his
discomfort
neither is it necessary and carrying the cross of
everyone good as a final corollary
tell us forget about self-help is
say do not try to cheer yourself up if you ‘re
discouraged
ten years after having visited
I found that disease
long ago in a in a congress was a
congress of psychologists and I tell you what
do you here tell me I ‘m a psychologist says
meters and with colleague I work with children
who have terminal illnesses do not
with cancer and after these ten
I have another child and life is not
bad and everything that probably the
people told him
in the first weeks of his duel
she had needed ten years in
do that’s why we’re not in a hurry to
times to run and run makes us go
slower we are not in a hurry and
just reflect
you have to be positive here many
Thank you
me
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