today as I was coming here I was I got my train from Toronto I stood my seat
my train from Toronto I stood my seat
my train from Toronto I stood my seat and some girl came to me and she said
and some girl came to me and she said
and some girl came to me and she said hello you’re on the wrong seat
hello you’re on the wrong seat
hello you’re on the wrong seat I said I sure she said yes it’s 70 and
I said I sure she said yes it’s 70 and
I said I sure she said yes it’s 70 and I’m here say okay let me check and I got
I’m here say okay let me check and I got
I’m here say okay let me check and I got my phone out and I started looking and
my phone out and I started looking and
my phone out and I started looking and she said give me your phone
she said give me your phone
she said give me your phone I’m gonna check that she looked and she
I’m gonna check that she looked and she
I’m gonna check that she looked and she said yes your train was yesterday you’re
said yes your train was yesterday you’re
said yes your train was yesterday you’re on the wrong train said what said yes
on the wrong train said what said yes
on the wrong train said what said yes you’re on the wrong train I was just
you’re on the wrong train I was just
you’re on the wrong train I was just like I started laughing and I remember
like I started laughing and I remember
like I started laughing and I remember building on what Ryan was saying like
building on what Ryan was saying like
building on what Ryan was saying like situations and her subconscious mind
situations and her subconscious mind
situations and her subconscious mind idealized I was planning to come on the
idealized I was planning to come on the
idealized I was planning to come on the 23rd something did not shift in my mind
23rd something did not shift in my mind
23rd something did not shift in my mind and when I went straight to buy my
and when I went straight to buy my
and when I went straight to buy my ticket I got the wrong ticket so the
ticket I got the wrong ticket so the
ticket I got the wrong ticket so the ticket control came and she I was like
ticket control came and she I was like
ticket control came and she I was like really all over the place laughing I
really all over the place laughing I
really all over the place laughing I said listen I just want to get on this
said listen I just want to get on this
said listen I just want to get on this train I have something that I really
train I have something that I really
train I have something that I really need to be in Ottawa and she started
need to be in Ottawa and she started
need to be in Ottawa and she started looking at me and I think laughing is
looking at me and I think laughing is
looking at me and I think laughing is contagious and she started that I said
contagious and she started that I said
contagious and she started that I said no what what come aboard just come in
no what what come aboard just come in
no what what come aboard just come in and no problem we take care of that
and no problem we take care of that
and no problem we take care of that via via rail is taking care of it thank
via via rail is taking care of it thank
via via rail is taking care of it thank you
you
you so today I am here to talk about the big
so today I am here to talk about the big
so today I am here to talk about the big question and as a life coach it’s always
question and as a life coach it’s always
question and as a life coach it’s always fascinating how the breakthrough happens
fascinating how the breakthrough happens
fascinating how the breakthrough happens after a question and it is the right
after a question and it is the right
after a question and it is the right question for that person before we go
question for that person before we go
question for that person before we go into the question I would like to spend
into the question I would like to spend
into the question I would like to spend some time and explain you know the inner
some time and explain you know the inner
some time and explain you know the inner world the journey how our thoughts our
world the journey how our thoughts our
world the journey how our thoughts our situations our emotions our behavior
situations our emotions our behavior
situations our emotions our behavior really control our life and probably as
really control our life and probably as
really control our life and probably as Ryan was also talking as the hurdles
Ryan was also talking as the hurdles
Ryan was also talking as the hurdles it’s the situation we are always stuck
it’s the situation we are always stuck
it’s the situation we are always stuck thinking that I need my situation to
thinking that I need my situation to
thinking that I need my situation to change
change
change I need my relationships
I need my relationships
I need my relationships to change and it’s basically a
to change and it’s basically a
to change and it’s basically a completely different area that needs to
completely different area that needs to
completely different area that needs to change my thoughts myself so some time
change my thoughts myself so some time
change my thoughts myself so some time ago
ago
ago someone called me and we call her Sarah
someone called me and we call her Sarah
someone called me and we call her Sarah today she said that I wanted to share
today she said that I wanted to share
today she said that I wanted to share with you that I had the best sleep in
with you that I had the best sleep in
with you that I had the best sleep in ten years
ten years
ten years and I had a weight of ten years like was
and I had a weight of ten years like was
and I had a weight of ten years like was on my chest that was lifted I said Wow
on my chest that was lifted I said Wow
on my chest that was lifted I said Wow how did that happen and she said I read
how did that happen and she said I read
how did that happen and she said I read that blog and it was a blog I had about
that blog and it was a blog I had about
that blog and it was a blog I had about my move I just moved recently from
my move I just moved recently from
my move I just moved recently from Ottawa to Toronto and I’m most of my
Ottawa to Toronto and I’m most of my
Ottawa to Toronto and I’m most of my life I was born into nature more into
life I was born into nature more into
life I was born into nature more into white places and I so much enjoyed
white places and I so much enjoyed
white places and I so much enjoyed Ottawa and I was to my surprise when I
Ottawa and I was to my surprise when I
Ottawa and I was to my surprise when I did the pre move when I went to Toronto
did the pre move when I went to Toronto
did the pre move when I went to Toronto I realized that I was so much I just
I realized that I was so much I just
I realized that I was so much I just noticed I was observing and I was like
noticed I was observing and I was like
noticed I was observing and I was like really enjoying my life there you know
really enjoying my life there you know
really enjoying my life there you know like accessibility no cars no this no I
like accessibility no cars no this no I
like accessibility no cars no this no I don’t have to drive anywhere and it was
don’t have to drive anywhere and it was
don’t have to drive anywhere and it was just like so interesting and I thought
just like so interesting and I thought
just like so interesting and I thought oh maybe when I go back to Ottawa and I
oh maybe when I go back to Ottawa and I
oh maybe when I go back to Ottawa and I start packing all these emotions with
start packing all these emotions with
start packing all these emotions with rice but I was drunk I went back to
rice but I was drunk I went back to
rice but I was drunk I went back to Ottawa a week later and again there was
Ottawa a week later and again there was
Ottawa a week later and again there was no really emotions rising about like a
no really emotions rising about like a
no really emotions rising about like a loss or anything and I was like a little
loss or anything and I was like a little
loss or anything and I was like a little bit kind of like confused so what’s
bit kind of like confused so what’s
bit kind of like confused so what’s happening here maybe I changed like I’m
happening here maybe I changed like I’m
happening here maybe I changed like I’m not really into what I was I liked in
not really into what I was I liked in
not really into what I was I liked in the past and it was not true because I
the past and it was not true because I
the past and it was not true because I looked around and I still enjoyed
looked around and I still enjoyed
looked around and I still enjoyed everything I realized it was the lack of
everything I realized it was the lack of
everything I realized it was the lack of attachment it was I was not into the the
attachment it was I was not into the the
attachment it was I was not into the the kind of like thought of I am losing
kind of like thought of I am losing
kind of like thought of I am losing Ottawa it was more an addition it was an
Ottawa it was more an addition it was an
Ottawa it was more an addition it was an addition to my life it was not a
addition to my life it was not a
addition to my life it was not a subtraction Ottawa’s not subtractive it
subtraction Ottawa’s not subtractive it
subtraction Ottawa’s not subtractive it was Toronto that was being added with
was Toronto that was being added with
was Toronto that was being added with everything that is coming from Ottawa so
everything that is coming from Ottawa so
everything that is coming from Ottawa so that night Sara read that blog
that night Sara read that blog
that night Sara read that blog she said for the last ten years I
she said for the last ten years I
she said for the last ten years I labeled my moving story my change in
labeled my moving story my change in
labeled my moving story my change in relationship my changing path in career
relationship my changing path in career
relationship my changing path in career as a failure
as a failure
as a failure she made it mean to herself that I am a
she made it mean to herself that I am a
she made it mean to herself that I am a failure in my case it was I was free I’m
failure in my case it was I was free I’m
failure in my case it was I was free I’m choosing my life one year one day I’m
choosing my life one year one day I’m
choosing my life one year one day I’m here the other day I’m there I’m this
here the other day I’m there I’m this
here the other day I’m there I’m this I’m out in I’m a free person she labeled
I’m out in I’m a free person she labeled
I’m out in I’m a free person she labeled that as a failure and from failure she
that as a failure and from failure she
that as a failure and from failure she got into the kind of depression
got into the kind of depression
got into the kind of depression situation doesn’t have to change it’s
situation doesn’t have to change it’s
situation doesn’t have to change it’s what we tell ourselves about the
what we tell ourselves about the
what we tell ourselves about the situation the fiction as we call it so
that story will create the emotion
that story will create the emotion people are always kind of like missing
people are always kind of like missing
people are always kind of like missing that beautiful place between the
that beautiful place between the
that beautiful place between the situation and their emotion owning your
situation and their emotion owning your
situation and their emotion owning your emotion is basically owning your
emotion is basically owning your
emotion is basically owning your thoughts your fiction your story what
thoughts your fiction your story what
thoughts your fiction your story what you’re telling about your life and that
you’re telling about your life and that
you’re telling about your life and that will definitely be the main factor and
will definitely be the main factor and
will definitely be the main factor and how you show up in your life some people
how you show up in your life some people
how you show up in your life some people think that oh but I get motivated when
think that oh but I get motivated when
think that oh but I get motivated when I’m pushing myself hard that’s another
I’m pushing myself hard that’s another
I’m pushing myself hard that’s another question it’s choosing between being a
question it’s choosing between being a
question it’s choosing between being a leader in your life being a change maker
leader in your life being a change maker
leader in your life being a change maker or being somebody who’s just managing
or being somebody who’s just managing
or being somebody who’s just managing your life that’s where what happens when
your life that’s where what happens when
your life that’s where what happens when we have however these negative thoughts
we have however these negative thoughts
we have however these negative thoughts about ourself thinking that this is how
about ourself thinking that this is how
about ourself thinking that this is how I’m going to push myself forward
I’m going to push myself forward
I’m going to push myself forward actually the thoughts are having a life
actually the thoughts are having a life
actually the thoughts are having a life of their own in your subconscious mind
of their own in your subconscious mind
of their own in your subconscious mind they are looking for evidence to prove
they are looking for evidence to prove
they are looking for evidence to prove the thought right not to prove you right
the thought right not to prove you right
the thought right not to prove you right and you’re like struggling to put
and you’re like struggling to put
and you’re like struggling to put yourself forward with your life
yourself forward with your life
yourself forward with your life in my practice I discovered that there
in my practice I discovered that there
in my practice I discovered that there are two different twice a Y that can
are two different twice a Y that can
are two different twice a Y that can make it and the Y that
make it and the Y that
make it and the Y that I why that is more like the child like
I why that is more like the child like
I why that is more like the child like why and the childish why the why that
why and the childish why the why that
why and the childish why the why that kids used to learn and grow really with
kids used to learn and grow really with
kids used to learn and grow really with open mind and like wanting to know more
open mind and like wanting to know more
open mind and like wanting to know more and asking all these questions to find
and asking all these questions to find
and asking all these questions to find their answers and there is another why
their answers and there is another why
their answers and there is another why that is basically a wine coming from a
that is basically a wine coming from a
that is basically a wine coming from a place of anger place of resentment it’s
place of anger place of resentment it’s
place of anger place of resentment it’s it’s already–as the judgment has
it’s already–as the judgment has
it’s already–as the judgment has already been passed and the road is like
already been passed and the road is like
already been passed and the road is like blocked as I call it the why of the
blocked as I call it the why of the
blocked as I call it the why of the vector and the why of the victim why
vector and the why of the victim why
vector and the why of the victim why that I lived in for 30 years
that I lived in for 30 years
that I lived in for 30 years the victim why I was bringing everybody
the victim why I was bringing everybody
the victim why I was bringing everybody in my life I was dealing my kids my
in my life I was dealing my kids my
in my life I was dealing my kids my husband my parents everything had to
husband my parents everything had to
husband my parents everything had to change for me to be happy
change for me to be happy
change for me to be happy and of course that I was totally out of
and of course that I was totally out of
and of course that I was totally out of my business out of my power when you
my business out of my power when you
my business out of my power when you start asking that I’d why why is this
start asking that I’d why why is this
start asking that I’d why why is this happening for me why is this really
happening for me why is this really
happening for me why is this really happening where is the opportunity here
happening where is the opportunity here
happening where is the opportunity here that’s coming back into your power
that’s coming back into your power
that’s coming back into your power that’s coming back into what will change
that’s coming back into what will change
that’s coming back into what will change your life for 30 years I was on the
your life for 30 years I was on the
your life for 30 years I was on the wrong side of the question and I was
wrong side of the question and I was
wrong side of the question and I was locked into that fog of being the victim
there is one person here in the audience
there is one person here in the audience five years ago when I came to Ottawa she
five years ago when I came to Ottawa she
five years ago when I came to Ottawa she first saved my body I came from Turkey
first saved my body I came from Turkey
first saved my body I came from Turkey and I forgot my meds and I was
and I forgot my meds and I was
and I forgot my meds and I was completely I was like half dead one year
completely I was like half dead one year
completely I was like half dead one year later she saved my soul she said you
later she saved my soul she said you
later she saved my soul she said you didn’t go and become a life coach your
didn’t go and become a life coach your
didn’t go and become a life coach your board vida
board vida
board vida and I started and it was the best thing
and I started and it was the best thing
and I started and it was the best thing that ever happened to me without her I
that ever happened to me without her I
that ever happened to me without her I would not be the same person today but
would not be the same person today but
would not be the same person today but he’s come yes it was it was that simple
he’s come yes it was it was that simple
he’s come yes it was it was that simple time that changed the whole paradigm
time that changed the whole paradigm
time that changed the whole paradigm from the victim to the victim it was
from the victim to the victim it was
from the victim to the victim it was that one simple line that allowed me to
that one simple line that allowed me to
that one simple line that allowed me to go beyond being the victim in my life
go beyond being the victim in my life
go beyond being the victim in my life start living my passion creating that
start living my passion creating that
start living my passion creating that practice holding workshops
practice holding workshops
practice holding workshops internationally clients in five
internationally clients in five
internationally clients in five continents just badly
yes it was serious
yes it was serious it’s dy why am I feeling the way of
it’s dy why am I feeling the way of
it’s dy why am I feeling the way of feeling identify your thoughts identify
feeling identify your thoughts identify
feeling identify your thoughts identify your power identify the opportunity in
your power identify the opportunity in
your power identify the opportunity in every single relationship and I think
every single relationship and I think
every single relationship and I think the way to really move from the victim Y
the way to really move from the victim Y
the way to really move from the victim Y to the victim a vector Y is as I call it
to the victim a vector Y is as I call it
to the victim a vector Y is as I call it the Stardust is compassion understanding
the Stardust is compassion understanding
the Stardust is compassion understanding that a plea and each one of us is in the
that a plea and each one of us is in the
that a plea and each one of us is in the process of really sorting out their
process of really sorting out their
process of really sorting out their facts and their fiction nobody is out
facts and their fiction nobody is out
facts and their fiction nobody is out there to bug you nobody is out there
there to bug you nobody is out there
there to bug you nobody is out there forgive you hard time nobody’s out there
forgive you hard time nobody’s out there
forgive you hard time nobody’s out there to really hurt you they’re just stuck
to really hurt you they’re just stuck
to really hurt you they’re just stuck somewhere like we are all stuck at some
somewhere like we are all stuck at some
somewhere like we are all stuck at some point and I believe that when I was able
point and I believe that when I was able
point and I believe that when I was able to go beyond for me and the ego and
to go beyond for me and the ego and
to go beyond for me and the ego and shift the Y – only the understanding
shift the Y – only the understanding
shift the Y – only the understanding what is the gift in every relationship
what is the gift in every relationship
what is the gift in every relationship in my life and I found out that the most
in my life and I found out that the most
in my life and I found out that the most difficult relationships were the biggest
difficult relationships were the biggest
difficult relationships were the biggest gifts in my life that changed also my
gifts in my life that changed also my
gifts in my life that changed also my life and my kid’s life and my clients
life and my kid’s life and my clients
life and my kid’s life and my clients life one of the things that as parents
life one of the things that as parents
life one of the things that as parents we struggle with when we step too much
we struggle with when we step too much
we struggle with when we step too much into our kids business because
into our kids business because
into our kids business because unconsciously we think we don’t want
unconsciously we think we don’t want
unconsciously we think we don’t want them to struggle but I realized that the
them to struggle but I realized that the
them to struggle but I realized that the best thing that ever happened to me was
best thing that ever happened to me was
best thing that ever happened to me was this struggle and now I really had to
this struggle and now I really had to
this struggle and now I really had to work on myself first especially with
work on myself first especially with
work on myself first especially with with my kids I have four kids I used to
with my kids I have four kids I used to
with my kids I have four kids I used to be a control freak I used to believe
be a control freak I used to believe
be a control freak I used to believe that you know what it’s my way or the
that you know what it’s my way or the
that you know what it’s my way or the highway and I have the best ideas and I
highway and I have the best ideas and I
highway and I have the best ideas and I mean
mean
mean smart and you don’t listen to me you’re
smart and you don’t listen to me you’re
smart and you don’t listen to me you’re in trouble and I’m here to save you
in trouble and I’m here to save you
in trouble and I’m here to save you nonsense it was not true I had to first
nonsense it was not true I had to first
nonsense it was not true I had to first believe that whatever I’m thinking is
believe that whatever I’m thinking is
believe that whatever I’m thinking is just thoughts and it’s my opinion it is
just thoughts and it’s my opinion it is
just thoughts and it’s my opinion it is not the truth it is not the reality it’s
not the truth it is not the reality it’s
not the truth it is not the reality it’s my own opinion and when I started really
my own opinion and when I started really
my own opinion and when I started really believing that it transformed
believing that it transformed
believing that it transformed relationship with my kids because they
relationship with my kids because they
relationship with my kids because they didn’t feel my pressure
didn’t feel my pressure
didn’t feel my pressure it didn’t feel much me pushing all the
it didn’t feel much me pushing all the
it didn’t feel much me pushing all the way they were born now coming to me
way they were born now coming to me
way they were born now coming to me without me kind of like reading one
without me kind of like reading one
without me kind of like reading one thing anything to happen there’s no
thing anything to happen there’s no
thing anything to happen there’s no agenda
agenda
agenda there is no I’m going to save you know
there is no I’m going to save you know
there is no I’m going to save you know they’re just coming willingly also and
they’re just coming willingly also and
they’re just coming willingly also and we release all these negative thoughts
we release all these negative thoughts
we release all these negative thoughts are energy changes and in your life who
are energy changes and in your life who
are energy changes and in your life who do you want to be around somebody who’s
do you want to be around somebody who’s
do you want to be around somebody who’s stressed and anxious for somebody who’s
stressed and anxious for somebody who’s
stressed and anxious for somebody who’s calm but you cannot fake it you really
calm but you cannot fake it you really
calm but you cannot fake it you really have to work on your thoughts on your
have to work on your thoughts on your
have to work on your thoughts on your why’s here all these why’s the victim
why’s here all these why’s the victim
why’s here all these why’s the victim wise and allow the vector to come in so
wise and allow the vector to come in so
wise and allow the vector to come in so the big question here is today which why
the big question here is today which why
the big question here is today which why are you going to choose I hope you
are you going to choose I hope you
are you going to choose I hope you choose the Y that helps you in your
choose the Y that helps you in your
choose the Y that helps you in your journey of finding your facts not the
journey of finding your facts not the
journey of finding your facts not the fiction finding your truth and finding
fiction finding your truth and finding
fiction finding your truth and finding joy
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