the best way to predict the future is to create it Abraham Lincoln change will
create it Abraham Lincoln change will
create it Abraham Lincoln change will not come if we wait for some other
not come if we wait for some other
not come if we wait for some other person or some other time
person or some other time
person or some other time Barack Obama grab them by the pussy
Barack Obama grab them by the pussy
Barack Obama grab them by the pussy Donald Trump I stand in front of you
Donald Trump I stand in front of you
Donald Trump I stand in front of you here today to talk about the epidemic
here today to talk about the epidemic
here today to talk about the epidemic that is sexual assault and how we can
that is sexual assault and how we can
that is sexual assault and how we can put an end to it I’m not going to lie
put an end to it I’m not going to lie
put an end to it I’m not going to lie this is not an easy subject to talk
this is not an easy subject to talk
this is not an easy subject to talk about and actually a lot of people
about and actually a lot of people
about and actually a lot of people question my choice to speak here today
question my choice to speak here today
question my choice to speak here today not because they think that it’s not an
not because they think that it’s not an
not because they think that it’s not an important subject to talk about but
important subject to talk about but
important subject to talk about but because they know that speaking openly
because they know that speaking openly
because they know that speaking openly about sexual assault always bears a risk
about sexual assault always bears a risk
about sexual assault always bears a risk the risk to make people uncomfortable
the risk to make people uncomfortable
the risk to make people uncomfortable the risk to be judged or even attacked
the risk to be judged or even attacked
the risk to be judged or even attacked the risk to be associated with this
the risk to be associated with this
the risk to be associated with this topic forever oh look here comes that
topic forever oh look here comes that
topic forever oh look here comes that sexual assault girl I’m not telling you
sexual assault girl I’m not telling you
sexual assault girl I’m not telling you this to toot my own horn or because I
this to toot my own horn or because I
this to toot my own horn or because I want to be told how great and brave it
want to be told how great and brave it
want to be told how great and brave it is that I’m still doing it even though
is that I’m still doing it even though
is that I’m still doing it even though you know if you want to to be completely
you know if you want to to be completely
you know if you want to to be completely honest I was one heartbeat away from
honest I was one heartbeat away from
honest I was one heartbeat away from backing out of this talk and saving the
backing out of this talk and saving the
backing out of this talk and saving the battle for another day spending the day
battle for another day spending the day
battle for another day spending the day in bed watching Gilmore Girls instead
in bed watching Gilmore Girls instead
in bed watching Gilmore Girls instead but on November 9th I was giving a
but on November 9th I was giving a
but on November 9th I was giving a reminder of why it is absolutely
reminder of why it is absolutely
reminder of why it is absolutely essential that I give this talk on
essential that I give this talk on
essential that I give this talk on November 9th of this year Donald J Trump
November 9th of this year Donald J Trump
November 9th of this year Donald J Trump was chosen as the president-elect of the
was chosen as the president-elect of the
was chosen as the president-elect of the United States a man who has been caught
United States a man who has been caught
United States a man who has been caught on tape bragging about grabbing women’s
on tape bragging about grabbing women’s
on tape bragging about grabbing women’s genitals without their consent it’s not
genitals without their consent it’s not
genitals without their consent it’s not the intention of this talk to target
the intention of this talk to target
the intention of this talk to target Trump or his politics
Trump or his politics
Trump or his politics Trump apologized for his comments and
Trump apologized for his comments and
Trump apologized for his comments and Talos said he never acted on them and we
Talos said he never acted on them and we
Talos said he never acted on them and we have to give him the benefit of the
have to give him the benefit of the
have to give him the benefit of the doubt but what I do want to talk about
doubt but what I do want to talk about
doubt but what I do want to talk about is the fact that for millions of
is the fact that for millions of
is the fact that for millions of American voters bragging about sexually
American voters bragging about sexually
American voters bragging about sexually assaulting women was not a deal breaker
assaulting women was not a deal breaker
assaulting women was not a deal breaker and more precisely I want to talk about
and more precisely I want to talk about
and more precisely I want to talk about the specific reason why it was not
the specific reason why it was not
the specific reason why it was not because I believed that by examining
because I believed that by examining
because I believed that by examining this reason we can find not only the
this reason we can find not only the
this reason we can find not only the root of the problem but also the
root of the problem but also the
root of the problem but also the solution to it the number-one argument
solution to it the number-one argument
solution to it the number-one argument used in Donald Trump’s defense was that
used in Donald Trump’s defense was that
used in Donald Trump’s defense was that he simply is not the kind of the person
he simply is not the kind of the person
he simply is not the kind of the person who would ever commit a crime as serious
who would ever commit a crime as serious
who would ever commit a crime as serious as sexual assault that because he was a
as sexual assault that because he was a
as sexual assault that because he was a successful smart well-liked person he
successful smart well-liked person he
successful smart well-liked person he just wouldn’t be capable of it
just wouldn’t be capable of it
just wouldn’t be capable of it talk about it yes joke about it
talk about it yes joke about it
talk about it yes joke about it apparently but do it no way this defense
apparently but do it no way this defense
apparently but do it no way this defense is based on the belief that because you
is based on the belief that because you
is based on the belief that because you know someone because someone might be a
know someone because someone might be a
know someone because someone might be a well-liked funny nice cool successful
well-liked funny nice cool successful
well-liked funny nice cool successful person who has daughters and a wife it
person who has daughters and a wife it
person who has daughters and a wife it means that they are incapable of sexual
means that they are incapable of sexual
means that they are incapable of sexual assault this is a dangerous
assault this is a dangerous
assault this is a dangerous misconception and the most dangerous
misconception and the most dangerous
misconception and the most dangerous part about it is that is it is a very
part about it is that is it is a very
part about it is that is it is a very common one and it is not at all limited
common one and it is not at all limited
common one and it is not at all limited to supporters of Donald Trump the belief
to supporters of Donald Trump the belief
to supporters of Donald Trump the belief that to commit sexual assault
that to commit sexual assault
that to commit sexual assault it needs intent and viciousness that it
it needs intent and viciousness that it
it needs intent and viciousness that it needs brute physical force and most of
needs brute physical force and most of
needs brute physical force and most of all that it needs a truly evil person is
all that it needs a truly evil person is
all that it needs a truly evil person is deeply ingrained in many of us because
deeply ingrained in many of us because
deeply ingrained in many of us because many of us have been taught to imagine
many of us have been taught to imagine
many of us have been taught to imagine sexual assault as one thing and one
sexual assault as one thing and one
sexual assault as one thing and one thing alone a dark alley at night
thing alone a dark alley at night
thing alone a dark alley at night a savage violent perpetrator
a savage violent perpetrator
a savage violent perpetrator a defenseless weak victim this image
a defenseless weak victim this image
a defenseless weak victim this image does not align with reality I’m not
does not align with reality I’m not
does not align with reality I’m not saying that this never happens it does
saying that this never happens it does
saying that this never happens it does but even though it’s the first image
but even though it’s the first image
but even though it’s the first image that pops into our minds when we hear
that pops into our minds when we hear
that pops into our minds when we hear the word sexual assault or rape a
the word sexual assault or rape a
the word sexual assault or rape a stranger attacking another stranger is
stranger attacking another stranger is
stranger attacking another stranger is proven to be the least likely scenario
proven to be the least likely scenario
proven to be the least likely scenario for this crime between 65 and 85 percent
for this crime between 65 and 85 percent
for this crime between 65 and 85 percent of victims are assaulted by someone they
of victims are assaulted by someone they
of victims are assaulted by someone they know and often trust over 60 percent of
know and often trust over 60 percent of
know and often trust over 60 percent of sexual assaults take place at the
sexual assaults take place at the
sexual assaults take place at the victims own home or the home of a
victims own home or the home of a
victims own home or the home of a neighbor friend or relative and 50
neighbor friend or relative and 50
neighbor friend or relative and 50 percent of female victims were assaulted
percent of female victims were assaulted
percent of female victims were assaulted by an intimate partner a boyfriend a
by an intimate partner a boyfriend a
by an intimate partner a boyfriend a husband but the stereotype that people
husband but the stereotype that people
husband but the stereotype that people who commit sexual assault are soulless
who commit sexual assault are soulless
who commit sexual assault are soulless ogres lurking in the dark is not only a
ogres lurking in the dark is not only a
ogres lurking in the dark is not only a misrepresentation it is one of the main
misrepresentation it is one of the main
misrepresentation it is one of the main reasons why a sexual assault is persists
reasons why a sexual assault is persists
reasons why a sexual assault is persists to be the most underreported crime world
to be the most underreported crime world
to be the most underreported crime world wide and why 90% of perpetrators will
wide and why 90% of perpetrators will
wide and why 90% of perpetrators will never spend one single day in jail 97
never spend one single day in jail 97
never spend one single day in jail 97 because while it doesn’t change anything
because while it doesn’t change anything
because while it doesn’t change anything about the horrendous nosov the crime or
about the horrendous nosov the crime or
about the horrendous nosov the crime or the impact it has on a survivor it does
the impact it has on a survivor it does
the impact it has on a survivor it does change how we as a society perceive and
change how we as a society perceive and
change how we as a society perceive and react to sexual assault believing that
react to sexual assault believing that
react to sexual assault believing that only an openly violent in stable person
only an openly violent in stable person
only an openly violent in stable person could ever commit sexual assault makes
could ever commit sexual assault makes
could ever commit sexual assault makes us turn our backs on victims when their
us turn our backs on victims when their
us turn our backs on victims when their perpetrator doesn’t fit our idea of an
perpetrator doesn’t fit our idea of an
perpetrator doesn’t fit our idea of an assailant it makes us turn a blind eye
assailant it makes us turn a blind eye
assailant it makes us turn a blind eye when people are bragging and joking
when people are bragging and joking
when people are bragging and joking about it because we believe that they
about it because we believe that they
about it because we believe that they would never do such a thing right but
would never do such a thing right but
would never do such a thing right but worst of all it makes us feel
worst of all it makes us feel
worst of all it makes us feel powerless against it because we feel
powerless against it because we feel
powerless against it because we feel like evil people will always exist right
like evil people will always exist right
like evil people will always exist right so just pack your pepper spray and watch
so just pack your pepper spray and watch
so just pack your pepper spray and watch your drink and hope for the best
your drink and hope for the best
your drink and hope for the best well I have good news for you we are not
well I have good news for you we are not
well I have good news for you we are not powerless actually we have the power to
powerless actually we have the power to
powerless actually we have the power to end this we just have to claim it and
end this we just have to claim it and
end this we just have to claim it and the first and most important step of
the first and most important step of
the first and most important step of claiming our power is to stop putting
claiming our power is to stop putting
claiming our power is to stop putting all the blames on beasts and demons and
all the blames on beasts and demons and
all the blames on beasts and demons and shadows that no one can catch and
shadows that no one can catch and
shadows that no one can catch and allowing ourselves to see perpetrators
allowing ourselves to see perpetrators
allowing ourselves to see perpetrators of sexual assault as what they are human
of sexual assault as what they are human
of sexual assault as what they are human beings not Hollywood movie villains not
beings not Hollywood movie villains not
beings not Hollywood movie villains not soulless a social Psychopaths just
soulless a social Psychopaths just
soulless a social Psychopaths just normal everyday people I realized that
normal everyday people I realized that
normal everyday people I realized that this is easier sad than it is done first
this is easier sad than it is done first
this is easier sad than it is done first of all because sexual assault is a
of all because sexual assault is a
of all because sexual assault is a horrifying crime and it’s hard to
horrifying crime and it’s hard to
horrifying crime and it’s hard to acknowledge the humanity of people who
acknowledge the humanity of people who
acknowledge the humanity of people who commit horrifying crimes but I don’t
commit horrifying crimes but I don’t
commit horrifying crimes but I don’t think that’s the main reason I think the
think that’s the main reason I think the
think that’s the main reason I think the number one reason why we don’t like to
number one reason why we don’t like to
number one reason why we don’t like to acknowledge the full humanity of
acknowledge the full humanity of
acknowledge the full humanity of perpetrators of sexual assault is
perpetrators of sexual assault is
perpetrators of sexual assault is because it means acknowledging the
because it means acknowledging the
because it means acknowledging the possibility that people we know people
possibility that people we know people
possibility that people we know people we love people we might have brought
we love people we might have brought
we love people we might have brought into this world and yes even ourselves
into this world and yes even ourselves
into this world and yes even ourselves are capable of this crime this is a hard
are capable of this crime this is a hard
are capable of this crime this is a hard realization to swallow but just like
realization to swallow but just like
realization to swallow but just like with most hard realizations it’s also
with most hard realizations it’s also
with most hard realizations it’s also the key to change because acknowledging
the key to change because acknowledging
the key to change because acknowledging a perpetrators full humanity means that
a perpetrators full humanity means that
a perpetrators full humanity means that there is a necessity to teach our
there is a necessity to teach our
there is a necessity to teach our children to not sexually assault in the
children to not sexually assault in the
children to not sexually assault in the same way we’re teaching them not to
same way we’re teaching them not to
same way we’re teaching them not to steal not to lie not to bully and not to
steal not to lie not to bully and not to
steal not to lie not to bully and not to physically assault because we don’t just
physically assault because we don’t just
physically assault because we don’t just expect them to know that this is
expect them to know that this is
expect them to know that this is unacceptable
unacceptable
unacceptable it also means calling out our friends or
it also means calling out our friends or
it also means calling out our friends or acquaintances or coworkers when they do
acquaintances or coworkers when they do
acquaintances or coworkers when they do what Donald Trump would call locker room
what Donald Trump would call locker room
what Donald Trump would call locker room talk and glorify sexual assault as some
talk and glorify sexual assault as some
talk and glorify sexual assault as some kind of game sex as some kind of trophy
kind of game sex as some kind of trophy
kind of game sex as some kind of trophy because it means recognizing the fact
because it means recognizing the fact
because it means recognizing the fact that their words or someone who hears
that their words or someone who hears
that their words or someone who hears those words might actually follow
those words might actually follow
those words might actually follow through acknowledging the perpetrators
through acknowledging the perpetrators
through acknowledging the perpetrators full humanity means believing victims of
full humanity means believing victims of
full humanity means believing victims of sexual assaults even when their
sexual assaults even when their
sexual assaults even when their assailant does not seem like the type it
assailant does not seem like the type it
assailant does not seem like the type it also means recognizing that victims are
also means recognizing that victims are
also means recognizing that victims are not always weak that they are not always
not always weak that they are not always
not always weak that they are not always female and that they don’t always have
female and that they don’t always have
female and that they don’t always have bruises to show for acknowledging the
bruises to show for acknowledging the
bruises to show for acknowledging the perpetrators full humanity means
perpetrators full humanity means
perpetrators full humanity means accounting them responsibility for their
accounting them responsibility for their
accounting them responsibility for their actions instead of just blaming it on
actions instead of just blaming it on
actions instead of just blaming it on their evilness
their evilness
their evilness they are brutish sex drive or a disease
they are brutish sex drive or a disease
they are brutish sex drive or a disease just them in all the humanity and the
just them in all the humanity and the
just them in all the humanity and the society that has raised them
society that has raised them
society that has raised them acknowledging a perpetrators humanity
acknowledging a perpetrators humanity
acknowledging a perpetrators humanity also means keeping ourselves in check
also means keeping ourselves in check
also means keeping ourselves in check and always making sure that we have the
and always making sure that we have the
and always making sure that we have the clear and wholehearted consent of the
clear and wholehearted consent of the
clear and wholehearted consent of the people we are about to have sex with
people we are about to have sex with
people we are about to have sex with that they are in this just as much as we
that they are in this just as much as we
that they are in this just as much as we are last but definitely not least
are last but definitely not least
are last but definitely not least acknowledging a perpetrators humanity
acknowledging a perpetrators humanity
acknowledging a perpetrators humanity also means owning up to what you did if
also means owning up to what you did if
also means owning up to what you did if you sexually assaulted someone it means
you sexually assaulted someone it means
you sexually assaulted someone it means acknowledging the hurt you cost
acknowledging the hurt you cost
acknowledging the hurt you cost apologizing for it instead of blaming it
apologizing for it instead of blaming it
apologizing for it instead of blaming it on your victim or causing them any
on your victim or causing them any
on your victim or causing them any further hurt because sex is never owed
further hurt because sex is never owed
further hurt because sex is never owed and it’s never mandatory sex is not a
and it’s never mandatory sex is not a
and it’s never mandatory sex is not a trophy and it’s not a reward and most of
trophy and it’s not a reward and most of
trophy and it’s not a reward and most of sex is never your right sex is one thing
sex is never your right sex is one thing
sex is never your right sex is one thing two people or more who want to be
two people or more who want to be
two people or more who want to be intimate with each other the reasons are
intimate with each other the reasons are
intimate with each other the reasons are not important the genuine wanting is
not important the genuine wanting is
not important the genuine wanting is what counts but then again it’s not that
what counts but then again it’s not that
what counts but then again it’s not that simple right because I do understand
simple right because I do understand
simple right because I do understand that doing all the things I just listed
that doing all the things I just listed
that doing all the things I just listed is a lot it requires a lot of
is a lot it requires a lot of
is a lot it requires a lot of uncomfortable conversations it requires
uncomfortable conversations it requires
uncomfortable conversations it requires energy and dialogue and education
energy and dialogue and education
energy and dialogue and education self-reflection and sometimes rubbing
self-reflection and sometimes rubbing
self-reflection and sometimes rubbing people the wrong way
people the wrong way
people the wrong way so why the hassle right well because
so why the hassle right well because
so why the hassle right well because just like perpetrators of sexual
just like perpetrators of sexual
just like perpetrators of sexual assaults are real human beings with real
assaults are real human beings with real
assaults are real human beings with real feelings so are the victims and
feelings so are the victims and
feelings so are the victims and survivors of this crime and there are a
survivors of this crime and there are a
survivors of this crime and there are a lot sexual assaults and rape are not the
lot sexual assaults and rape are not the
lot sexual assaults and rape are not the rare tragedies that we like to believe
rare tragedies that we like to believe
rare tragedies that we like to believe they are they are not things that happen
they are they are not things that happen
they are they are not things that happen once in a while one in five female and
once in a while one in five female and
once in a while one in five female and one in 13 male college students is
one in 13 male college students is
one in 13 male college students is sexually assaulted 600 people are raped
sexually assaulted 600 people are raped
sexually assaulted 600 people are raped every day in the United States alone you
every day in the United States alone you
every day in the United States alone you can do the math on how many it were
can do the math on how many it were
can do the math on how many it were since I started talking and when more
since I started talking and when more
since I started talking and when more than one in ten girls worldwide girls
than one in ten girls worldwide girls
than one in ten girls worldwide girls not women have experienced forced sexual
not women have experienced forced sexual
not women have experienced forced sexual acts at some point in their lives it’s
acts at some point in their lives it’s
acts at some point in their lives it’s not something that only happens in
not something that only happens in
not something that only happens in certain countries it’s also not
certain countries it’s also not
certain countries it’s also not something that often ends with the
something that often ends with the
something that often ends with the assault ninety-four percent of women who
assault ninety-four percent of women who
assault ninety-four percent of women who were sexually assaulted experienced
were sexually assaulted experienced
were sexually assaulted experienced post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms
post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms
post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms and 33 percent contemplate suicide the
and 33 percent contemplate suicide the
and 33 percent contemplate suicide the physical and mental repercussions of
physical and mental repercussions of
physical and mental repercussions of sexual assault
sexual assault
sexual assault and last years even lifetimes and this
and last years even lifetimes and this
and last years even lifetimes and this is why we need to start acknowledging
is why we need to start acknowledging
is why we need to start acknowledging perpetrators and victims of sexual
perpetrators and victims of sexual
perpetrators and victims of sexual assault as the very real everyday human
assault as the very real everyday human
assault as the very real everyday human beings they are because it gives us
beings they are because it gives us
beings they are because it gives us power because it gives us power to save
power because it gives us power to save
power because it gives us power to save ourselves and everyone around us from
ourselves and everyone around us from
ourselves and everyone around us from becoming one or the other the best way
becoming one or the other the best way
becoming one or the other the best way to predict the future is to create it
to predict the future is to create it
to predict the future is to create it change will not come if we wait for some
change will not come if we wait for some
change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time now more
other person or some other time now more
other person or some other time now more than ever is the time to finally claim
than ever is the time to finally claim
than ever is the time to finally claim our power thank you
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