how many of you guys are in a romantic relationship alright I asked a a roomful
relationship alright I asked a a roomful
relationship alright I asked a a roomful of high performers hands shot up and I
of high performers hands shot up and I
of high performers hands shot up and I called on one of the guys and I said how
called on one of the guys and I said how
called on one of the guys and I said how long have you been in the relationship
long have you been in the relationship
long have you been in the relationship said we’ve been dating for about a year
said we’ve been dating for about a year
said we’ve been dating for about a year and a half so let me ask you this let’s
and a half so let me ask you this let’s
and a half so let me ask you this let’s say you guys are on your way to class
say you guys are on your way to class
say you guys are on your way to class and you’re about to separate for the day
and you’re about to separate for the day
and you’re about to separate for the day and you turn to her and you say to her I
and you turn to her and you say to her I
and you turn to her and you say to her I hope you have a good day today just not
hope you have a good day today just not
hope you have a good day today just not as good as mine how would that go over
as good as mine how would that go over
as good as mine how would that go over with her
with her
with her he started smiling so I would not be
he started smiling so I would not be
he started smiling so I would not be getting a goodbye kiss right so you
getting a goodbye kiss right so you
getting a goodbye kiss right so you would probably never say that if you
would probably never say that if you
would probably never say that if you want to have a good relationship can we
want to have a good relationship can we
want to have a good relationship can we agree with that now here’s what’s
agree with that now here’s what’s
agree with that now here’s what’s interesting
interesting
interesting he’s a good athlete so I want you to
he’s a good athlete so I want you to
he’s a good athlete so I want you to think about your team I want you to
think about your team I want you to
think about your team I want you to think about the teammate that plays your
think about the teammate that plays your
think about the teammate that plays your position tell me if you’ve ever had this
position tell me if you’ve ever had this
position tell me if you’ve ever had this thought I want you to have a really
thought I want you to have a really
thought I want you to have a really really good day today I really do just
really good day today I really do just
really good day today I really do just not quite as good as me because I kind
not quite as good as me because I kind
not quite as good as me because I kind of want the playing time same thing
of want the playing time same thing
of want the playing time same thing right so he looked at it me started this
right so he looked at it me started this
right so he looked at it me started this to end so when you have those thoughts
to end so when you have those thoughts
to end so when you have those thoughts it’s difficult for good relationships to
it’s difficult for good relationships to
it’s difficult for good relationships to exist can we agree with that so that’s
exist can we agree with that so that’s
exist can we agree with that so that’s something that I struggled with when I
something that I struggled with when I
something that I struggled with when I went on to play basketball in college I
went on to play basketball in college I
went on to play basketball in college I called it the freshman conflict I roomed
called it the freshman conflict I roomed
called it the freshman conflict I roomed with my teammate my teammate played the
with my teammate my teammate played the
with my teammate my teammate played the same position as me and every day in
same position as me and every day in
same position as me and every day in practice our coach would pit us against
practice our coach would pit us against
practice our coach would pit us against one another so that sounded like hey
one another so that sounded like hey
one another so that sounded like hey Brett if you don’t play better Mike’s
Brett if you don’t play better Mike’s
Brett if you don’t play better Mike’s going to take your spot so the way I
going to take your spot so the way I
going to take your spot so the way I looked at it is the only way I won is if
looked at it is the only way I won is if
looked at it is the only way I won is if what he lost and the only way he won is
what he lost and the only way he won is
what he lost and the only way he won is if I lost so it made it really difficult
if I lost so it made it really difficult
if I lost so it made it really difficult for me to root for him why because I
for me to root for him why because I
for me to root for him why because I felt like what I was rooting against
felt like what I was rooting against
felt like what I was rooting against myself right does anybody ever heard of
myself right does anybody ever heard of
myself right does anybody ever heard of Mike sous-chefs key okay where does he
Mike sous-chefs key okay where does he
Mike sous-chefs key okay where does he coach Duke University right now they
coach Duke University right now they
coach Duke University right now they have a pretty good program at Duke can
have a pretty good program at Duke can
have a pretty good program at Duke can we agree with that so a lot of the
we agree with that so a lot of the
we agree with that so a lot of the players that go there are the best from
players that go there are the best from
players that go there are the best from where they come from
where they come from
where they come from so no one really goes into Duke thinking
so no one really goes into Duke thinking
so no one really goes into Duke thinking you know what I’m going to go there I’m
you know what I’m going to go there I’m
you know what I’m going to go there I’m going to sit the bench I’m going to wait
going to sit the bench I’m going to wait
going to sit the bench I’m going to wait my turn
my turn
my turn and will be a really good teammate what
and will be a really good teammate what
and will be a really good teammate what do they think I’m going to go there I’m
do they think I’m going to go there I’m
do they think I’m going to go there I’m going to kill it I’m going to figure out
going to kill it I’m going to figure out
going to kill it I’m going to figure out how to get on the floor immediately
how to get on the floor immediately
how to get on the floor immediately right so this is something that Coach K
right so this is something that Coach K
right so this is something that Coach K tells all of his freshmen when they come
tells all of his freshmen when they come
tells all of his freshmen when they come to Duke I would have benefited greatly
to Duke I would have benefited greatly
to Duke I would have benefited greatly if I would have heard his advice they
if I would have heard his advice they
if I would have heard his advice they told me earlier we tell every player
told me earlier we tell every player
told me earlier we tell every player that comes into our program each of you
that comes into our program each of you
that comes into our program each of you run your own individual race and then
run your own individual race and then
run your own individual race and then collectively we’re running a team race
collectively we’re running a team race
collectively we’re running a team race I’ll give you an example Elton Brand and
I’ll give you an example Elton Brand and
I’ll give you an example Elton Brand and Shane Battier came in on the same year
Shane Battier came in on the same year
Shane Battier came in on the same year Shane Battier was the national high
Shane Battier was the national high
Shane Battier was the national high school player of the year Elton Brand
school player of the year Elton Brand
school player of the year Elton Brand was ranked he’s McDonald’s all-american
was ranked he’s McDonald’s all-american
was ranked he’s McDonald’s all-american was ranked about 18th to 20th Elton
was ranked about 18th to 20th Elton
was ranked about 18th to 20th Elton Brand was more ready to play though than
Brand was more ready to play though than
Brand was more ready to play though than Shane you know as far as his future and
Shane you know as far as his future and
Shane you know as far as his future and so Elton Brand by the end of his
so Elton Brand by the end of his
so Elton Brand by the end of his sophomore year was the National Player
sophomore year was the National Player
sophomore year was the National Player of the Year and the number-one draft
of the Year and the number-one draft
of the Year and the number-one draft pick in the NBA if Shane Battier was
pick in the NBA if Shane Battier was
pick in the NBA if Shane Battier was running Elton Brand race he’d be
running Elton Brand race he’d be
running Elton Brand race he’d be disappointed he and what’s happening to
disappointed he and what’s happening to
disappointed he and what’s happening to me I’m Shane had a different race to run
me I’m Shane had a different race to run
me I’m Shane had a different race to run two years later he was the National
two years later he was the National
two years later he was the National Player of the Year he’s the sixth pick
Player of the Year he’s the sixth pick
Player of the Year he’s the sixth pick in the NBA Draft I’m not saying
in the NBA Draft I’m not saying
in the NBA Draft I’m not saying everybody will be National Player of the
everybody will be National Player of the
everybody will be National Player of the Year or be in the NBA Draft I’m just
Year or be in the NBA Draft I’m just
Year or be in the NBA Draft I’m just saying that kids mature and come along
saying that kids mature and come along
saying that kids mature and come along some faster and then stop some slower
some faster and then stop some slower
some faster and then stop some slower and then faster and some who never stop
and then faster and some who never stop
and then faster and some who never stop you know don’t gauge yourself with what
you know don’t gauge yourself with what
you know don’t gauge yourself with what another kid is doing gauge yourself and
another kid is doing gauge yourself and
another kid is doing gauge yourself and how you are doing the word compete
how you are doing the word compete
how you are doing the word compete here’s where it comes from competative
here’s where it comes from competative
here’s where it comes from competative and it means to strive together to look
and it means to strive together to look
and it means to strive together to look at competition as a partnership now I’m
at competition as a partnership now I’m
at competition as a partnership now I’m going to ask you a question how would
going to ask you a question how would
going to ask you a question how would you answer this
you answer this
you answer this when would you run faster by yourself or
when would you run faster by yourself or
when would you run faster by yourself or with someone else with someone else
with someone else with someone else
with someone else with someone else right I talk to a lot of athletes and
right I talk to a lot of athletes and
right I talk to a lot of athletes and they pick this one
they pick this one
they pick this one why competition many different reasons
why competition many different reasons
why competition many different reasons right but what does this show us that we
right but what does this show us that we
right but what does this show us that we need other people to push us to a
need other people to push us to a
need other people to push us to a level that we could not get to on our
level that we could not get to on our
level that we could not get to on our own right so I want to show you an
own right so I want to show you an
own right so I want to show you an example of another philosopher little
example of another philosopher little
example of another philosopher little Kanye West action okay now what’s
Kanye West action okay now what’s
Kanye West action okay now what’s interesting is Kanye is often times
interesting is Kanye is often times
interesting is Kanye is often times compared to Drake so he’s going to talk
compared to Drake so he’s going to talk
compared to Drake so he’s going to talk about how he views Drake but also how he
about how he views Drake but also how he
about how he views Drake but also how he views competition I look at Drake is
views competition I look at Drake is
views competition I look at Drake is like an amazing sparring partner well I
like an amazing sparring partner well I
like an amazing sparring partner well I feel blessed you know someone’s like
feel blessed you know someone’s like
feel blessed you know someone’s like come on man get that Cup
come on man get that Cup
come on man get that Cup Wow get back up what’s up what’s up
Wow get back up what’s up what’s up
Wow get back up what’s up what’s up problem what you doing cuz you know you
problem what you doing cuz you know you
problem what you doing cuz you know you sit there I was sitting there getting
sit there I was sitting there getting
sit there I was sitting there getting fat you know sitting back just knocked
fat you know sitting back just knocked
fat you know sitting back just knocked everybody out and then it’s got history
everybody out and then it’s got history
everybody out and then it’s got history em he’s just like running around I’m
em he’s just like running around I’m
em he’s just like running around I’m about 14 hits same is Paul McCarthy back
about 14 hits same is Paul McCarthy back
about 14 hits same is Paul McCarthy back you know I’m like well okay let me go to
you know I’m like well okay let me go to
you know I’m like well okay let me go to studio then let’s see what’s happening
studio then let’s see what’s happening
studio then let’s see what’s happening let me get these lyrics up let me see
let me get these lyrics up let me see
let me get these lyrics up let me see what’s happening so that’s that’s where
what’s happening so that’s that’s where
what’s happening so that’s that’s where we at right now that’s where you’re
we at right now that’s where you’re
we at right now that’s where you’re getting these records from yeah is it
getting these records from yeah is it
getting these records from yeah is it still one of the greatest values in the
still one of the greatest values in the
still one of the greatest values in the hip-hop is the competition I think it’s
hip-hop is the competition I think it’s
hip-hop is the competition I think it’s an important part of it yeah I think
an important part of it yeah I think
an important part of it yeah I think it’s bored important everything I think
it’s bored important everything I think
it’s bored important everything I think in fashion architecture anything that
in fashion architecture anything that
in fashion architecture anything that has to be a competition you know I think
has to be a competition you know I think
has to be a competition you know I think healthy competition is better than
healthy competition is better than
healthy competition is better than rivalry I think rivalry becomes a cancer
rivalry I think rivalry becomes a cancer
rivalry I think rivalry becomes a cancer is they becomes like termites in your
is they becomes like termites in your
is they becomes like termites in your house
house
house I think healthy competition is something
I think healthy competition is something
I think healthy competition is something where you appreciate how hard this
where you appreciate how hard this
where you appreciate how hard this person goes you know like I I think that
person goes you know like I I think that
person goes you know like I I think that Mike will need it Prince everybody needs
Mike will need it Prince everybody needs
Mike will need it Prince everybody needs somebody to kick the ass a little bit
somebody to kick the ass a little bit
somebody to kick the ass a little bit what you guys think right so we said
what you guys think right so we said
what you guys think right so we said there’s two types of ways you can view
there’s two types of ways you can view
there’s two types of ways you can view competition what are they healthy and
competition what are they healthy and
competition what are they healthy and rivalry if you view it as rivalry what
rivalry if you view it as rivalry what
rivalry if you view it as rivalry what do you say becomes a cancer and it grows
do you say becomes a cancer and it grows
do you say becomes a cancer and it grows inside you it’s negative we all
inside you it’s negative we all
inside you it’s negative we all experience that can we agree how can we
experience that can we agree how can we
experience that can we agree how can we view it as healthy competition by
view it as healthy competition by
view it as healthy competition by looking at it at what appreciating how
looking at it at what appreciating how
looking at it at what appreciating how hard someone else goes how did you Drake
hard someone else goes how did you Drake
hard someone else goes how did you Drake as a sparring partner a partner and
as a sparring partner a partner and
as a sparring partner a partner and challenge right now what’s interesting
challenge right now what’s interesting
challenge right now what’s interesting is do you guys know who Abby Wambach is
is do you guys know who Abby Wambach is
is do you guys know who Abby Wambach is arguably one of the best soccer players
arguably one of the best soccer players
arguably one of the best soccer players of all time
of all time
of all time when I first met with Abby the very
when I first met with Abby the very
when I first met with Abby the very first thing I did
first thing I did
first thing I did I showed her this video clip of Kanye
I showed her this video clip of Kanye
I showed her this video clip of Kanye and I asked her what are your thoughts
and I asked her what are your thoughts
and I asked her what are your thoughts on it
on it
on it here’s what you told me as as an athlete
here’s what you told me as as an athlete
here’s what you told me as as an athlete and as a person we have all these things
and as a person we have all these things
and as a person we have all these things that go on in and around whether it’s on
that go on in and around whether it’s on
that go on in and around whether it’s on the field or off the field endorsements
the field or off the field endorsements
the field or off the field endorsements and playing time and goals scored and
and playing time and goals scored and
and playing time and goals scored and assists scored and oh the crowd cheered
assists scored and oh the crowd cheered
assists scored and oh the crowd cheered louder for her and not me and you know
louder for her and not me and you know
louder for her and not me and you know there’s all these these opportunities to
there’s all these these opportunities to
there’s all these these opportunities to compete against each other but the
compete against each other but the
compete against each other but the reality is there’s a very slight thing
reality is there’s a very slight thing
reality is there’s a very slight thing that that I always say with our forward
that that I always say with our forward
that that I always say with our forward group is we need to compete with each
group is we need to compete with each
group is we need to compete with each other you know we need to keep pushing
other you know we need to keep pushing
other you know we need to keep pushing each other and pushing each other’s
each other and pushing each other’s
each other and pushing each other’s limits and in my opinion that is the
limits and in my opinion that is the
limits and in my opinion that is the only way to continually evolve
only way to continually evolve
only way to continually evolve positively as a human race over all
positively as a human race over all
positively as a human race over all aspects of things so as Abby went along
aspects of things so as Abby went along
aspects of things so as Abby went along as she was often compared especially
as she was often compared especially
as she was often compared especially towards the end of her career to Alex
towards the end of her career to Alex
towards the end of her career to Alex Morgan right and so she started to view
Morgan right and so she started to view
Morgan right and so she started to view competition a little bit different
competition a little bit different
competition a little bit different here’s how I think she viewed it instead
here’s how I think she viewed it instead
here’s how I think she viewed it instead of looking at it as me verse you she
of looking at it as me verse you she
of looking at it as me verse you she changed the middle word what she changed
changed the middle word what she changed
changed the middle word what she changed it to me with you and in my contest is
it to me with you and in my contest is
it to me with you and in my contest is against myself from yesterday and your
against myself from yesterday and your
against myself from yesterday and your contest is against yourself from
contest is against yourself from
contest is against yourself from yesterday if we all looked at
yesterday if we all looked at
yesterday if we all looked at competition like that how would that
competition like that how would that
competition like that how would that help teams you’ve changed the enemy
help teams you’ve changed the enemy
help teams you’ve changed the enemy right your teammates no longer the enemy
right your teammates no longer the enemy
right your teammates no longer the enemy they’re your partner in challenge and
they’re your partner in challenge and
they’re your partner in challenge and you guys are both trying to be yesterday
you guys are both trying to be yesterday
you guys are both trying to be yesterday and to me that’s what it looks like to
and to me that’s what it looks like to
and to me that’s what it looks like to strive together thank you guys very much
strive together thank you guys very much
strive together thank you guys very much [Applause]
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