[Applause] so I’m one of those people that like to
so I’m one of those people that like to
so I’m one of those people that like to analyze other people I like to observe
analyze other people I like to observe
analyze other people I like to observe their facial features vocal tones body
their facial features vocal tones body
their facial features vocal tones body language and most of the time I can see
language and most of the time I can see
language and most of the time I can see through personas remove masks and bring
through personas remove masks and bring
through personas remove masks and bring truth to light yep I’m a therapist I
truth to light yep I’m a therapist I
truth to light yep I’m a therapist I work in the area of engineering
work in the area of engineering
work in the area of engineering relationships and human development and
relationships and human development and
relationships and human development and for the past 10 years I’ve worked with
for the past 10 years I’ve worked with
for the past 10 years I’ve worked with couples to master their potential see
couples to master their potential see
couples to master their potential see most people think that love is all you
most people think that love is all you
most people think that love is all you need for a successful relationship but
need for a successful relationship but
need for a successful relationship but I’m here to tell you that it’s not it’s
I’m here to tell you that it’s not it’s
I’m here to tell you that it’s not it’s what I’d like to call erotic IQ but I’ll
what I’d like to call erotic IQ but I’ll
what I’d like to call erotic IQ but I’ll get to that a little bit later see
get to that a little bit later see
get to that a little bit later see relationships don’t come with a manual
relationships don’t come with a manual
relationships don’t come with a manual there’s no bachelor degree of love or
there’s no bachelor degree of love or
there’s no bachelor degree of love or masters of marriage and let’s face it
masters of marriage and let’s face it
masters of marriage and let’s face it most of us haven’t had great examples to
most of us haven’t had great examples to
most of us haven’t had great examples to go by either right now we fall in love
go by either right now we fall in love
go by either right now we fall in love we get married and we think we’re going
we get married and we think we’re going
we get married and we think we’re going to live happily ever after till death do
to live happily ever after till death do
to live happily ever after till death do us part
us part
us part but it generally doesn’t work that way
but it generally doesn’t work that way
but it generally doesn’t work that way does it we are constantly surrounded by
does it we are constantly surrounded by
does it we are constantly surrounded by love constantly it’s everywhere we go we
love constantly it’s everywhere we go we
love constantly it’s everywhere we go we see it in the movies we watch the song
see it in the movies we watch the song
see it in the movies we watch the song lyrics that we listen to it’s everywhere
lyrics that we listen to it’s everywhere
lyrics that we listen to it’s everywhere the internet social media so it makes us
the internet social media so it makes us
the internet social media so it makes us wish for it we’d live for it we long for
wish for it we’d live for it we long for
wish for it we’d live for it we long for it so love is set in our minds to be a
it so love is set in our minds to be a
it so love is set in our minds to be a certain way in effect we’re programmed
certain way in effect we’re programmed
certain way in effect we’re programmed from childhood so that as adults we hope
from childhood so that as adults we hope
from childhood so that as adults we hope that it plays out like a Disney movie
that it plays out like a Disney movie
that it plays out like a Disney movie see if we were Greek there are seven
see if we were Greek there are seven
see if we were Greek there are seven different types of love in Italian
different types of love in Italian
different types of love in Italian there’s over 10 different ways to say it
there’s over 10 different ways to say it
there’s over 10 different ways to say it in French over 15 but in English just
in French over 15 but in English just
in French over 15 but in English just one we use the same word to describe how
one we use the same word to describe how
one we use the same word to describe how we feel towards our partner as well as
we feel towards our partner as well as
we feel towards our partner as well as how we feel towards our morning
how we feel towards our morning
how we feel towards our morning Melbourne latte but let’s be honest the
Melbourne latte but let’s be honest the
Melbourne latte but let’s be honest the emotions around love are not only
emotions around love are not only
emotions around love are not only temporary but can be explained by basic
temporary but can be explained by basic
temporary but can be explained by basic science what we call moods or feelings
science what we call moods or feelings
science what we call moods or feelings science calls neuro chemicals sexual
science calls neuro chemicals sexual
science calls neuro chemicals sexual drive is dopamine and pheromones
drive is dopamine and pheromones
drive is dopamine and pheromones romantic love is oxytocin and serotonin
romantic love is oxytocin and serotonin
romantic love is oxytocin and serotonin and once attachment kicks in it’s
and once attachment kicks in it’s
and once attachment kicks in it’s bye-bye sanity
bye-bye sanity
bye-bye sanity [Laughter]
[Laughter]
[Laughter] so the future of love isn’t looking very
so the future of love isn’t looking very
so the future of love isn’t looking very promising if anything the social
promising if anything the social
promising if anything the social conditioning of love is now also a
conditioning of love is now also a
conditioning of love is now also a global problem
global problem
global problem 50% of marriages are ending in divorce
50% of marriages are ending in divorce
50% of marriages are ending in divorce divorce is costing the Australian
divorce is costing the Australian
divorce is costing the Australian economy 14 billion dollars a year in the
economy 14 billion dollars a year in the
economy 14 billion dollars a year in the u.s. it’s 112 billion dollars a year
u.s. it’s 112 billion dollars a year
u.s. it’s 112 billion dollars a year workplace productivity decreases
workplace productivity decreases
workplace productivity decreases significantly when there’s problems at
significantly when there’s problems at
significantly when there’s problems at home that in turn affects the economy
home that in turn affects the economy
home that in turn affects the economy and those same problems contribute to
and those same problems contribute to
and those same problems contribute to what the World Health Organization
what the World Health Organization
what the World Health Organization States is going to be the leading cause
States is going to be the leading cause
States is going to be the leading cause of disability worldwide depression the
of disability worldwide depression the
of disability worldwide depression the failure of love in itself is a
failure of love in itself is a
failure of love in itself is a multi-billion dollar industry so the
multi-billion dollar industry so the
multi-billion dollar industry so the future isn’t looking promising for
future isn’t looking promising for
future isn’t looking promising for relationships but there is something we
relationships but there is something we
relationships but there is something we can do about it so let me tell you a
can do about it so let me tell you a
can do about it so let me tell you a little bit about erotica IQ so erotic IQ
little bit about erotica IQ so erotic IQ
little bit about erotica IQ so erotic IQ isn’t about sex arousal excitement no
isn’t about sex arousal excitement no
isn’t about sex arousal excitement no its intelligence brought into our
its intelligence brought into our
its intelligence brought into our attitudes our aptitudes our perceptions
attitudes our aptitudes our perceptions
attitudes our aptitudes our perceptions our projections around how we think
our projections around how we think
our projections around how we think relate and behave in our relationships
relate and behave in our relationships
relate and behave in our relationships it’s a system a spectrum of cultivating
it’s a system a spectrum of cultivating
it’s a system a spectrum of cultivating a relationship so that it’s at its
a relationship so that it’s at its
a relationship so that it’s at its optimal best so how does erotic IQ work
optimal best so how does erotic IQ work
optimal best so how does erotic IQ work the foundations lie in reverse
the foundations lie in reverse
the foundations lie in reverse engineering what Jung calls the shadow
engineering what Jung calls the shadow
engineering what Jung calls the shadow and what ray calls the body armor the
and what ray calls the body armor the
and what ray calls the body armor the shadow is that unconscious deeper part
shadow is that unconscious deeper part
shadow is that unconscious deeper part of yourself that still holds on to past
of yourself that still holds on to past
of yourself that still holds on to past memories resentments disappointments
memories resentments disappointments
memories resentments disappointments mistakes and failures that in turn
mistakes and failures that in turn
mistakes and failures that in turn become part of your current attitudes
become part of your current attitudes
become part of your current attitudes and behaviors in relationships so for
and behaviors in relationships so for
and behaviors in relationships so for example you may have been in a
example you may have been in a
example you may have been in a relationship years ago that ended maybe
relationship years ago that ended maybe
relationship years ago that ended maybe because of some sort of betrayal you
because of some sort of betrayal you
because of some sort of betrayal you think you’re over it’s done and dusted
think you’re over it’s done and dusted
think you’re over it’s done and dusted but today it still shows up as major
but today it still shows up as major
but today it still shows up as major trust issues the body armor is the
trust issues the body armor is the
trust issues the body armor is the physical manifestation of emotions
physical manifestation of emotions
physical manifestation of emotions related to that shadow self sometimes
related to that shadow self sometimes
related to that shadow self sometimes appearing as an unexplainable pain a
appearing as an unexplainable pain a
appearing as an unexplainable pain a psychosomatic
psychosomatic
psychosomatic symptom or an emotional blockage so once
symptom or an emotional blockage so once
symptom or an emotional blockage so once you’ve worked through the baggage that
you’ve worked through the baggage that
you’ve worked through the baggage that you’re carrying and you’ve moving your
you’re carrying and you’ve moving your
you’re carrying and you’ve moving your way up at the erotic IQ spectrum you
way up at the erotic IQ spectrum you
way up at the erotic IQ spectrum you come to a clean slate so you can begin
come to a clean slate so you can begin
come to a clean slate so you can begin again here you can start to reprogram
again here you can start to reprogram
again here you can start to reprogram yourself with new ways of connection
yourself with new ways of connection
yourself with new ways of connection through intimacy and learning new ways
through intimacy and learning new ways
through intimacy and learning new ways of passion and desire for one another
of passion and desire for one another
of passion and desire for one another while still maintaining the safety and
while still maintaining the safety and
while still maintaining the safety and the security of your relationship and
the security of your relationship and
the security of your relationship and from here as you progress higher up the
from here as you progress higher up the
from here as you progress higher up the erotic IQ spectrum you enter into the
erotic IQ spectrum you enter into the
erotic IQ spectrum you enter into the advanced levels now these advanced
advanced levels now these advanced
advanced levels now these advanced levels on the erotic IQ spectrum is a
levels on the erotic IQ spectrum is a
levels on the erotic IQ spectrum is a type of symbiosis it’s called the
type of symbiosis it’s called the
type of symbiosis it’s called the symbiotic flow State so when you’re in
symbiotic flow State so when you’re in
symbiotic flow State so when you’re in the symbiotic flow State neuroscience
the symbiotic flow State neuroscience
the symbiotic flow State neuroscience calls it neuro synchronicity physics
calls it neuro synchronicity physics
calls it neuro synchronicity physics calls it quantum entanglement you may
calls it quantum entanglement you may
calls it quantum entanglement you may call it being on that same wavelength
call it being on that same wavelength
call it being on that same wavelength now this brings your relationship to
now this brings your relationship to
now this brings your relationship to being at its optimal best and when your
being at its optimal best and when your
being at its optimal best and when your relationship is at its best you’re
relationship is at its best you’re
relationship is at its best you’re amongst the happiest people in the world
amongst the happiest people in the world
amongst the happiest people in the world but what’s most exciting is that from
but what’s most exciting is that from
but what’s most exciting is that from here erotic IQ goes that one step
here erotic IQ goes that one step
here erotic IQ goes that one step further than flow States entering into
further than flow States entering into
further than flow States entering into what’s called the plateau experience the
what’s called the plateau experience the
what’s called the plateau experience the plateau experience as coined by Maslow
plateau experience as coined by Maslow
plateau experience as coined by Maslow and Mazda called it a transcendent state
and Mazda called it a transcendent state
and Mazda called it a transcendent state which is always turned on so unlike flow
which is always turned on so unlike flow
which is always turned on so unlike flow state where you go in and out of peak in
state where you go in and out of peak in
state where you go in and out of peak in altered states when you enter the
altered states when you enter the
altered states when you enter the plateau experience your optimal self is
plateau experience your optimal self is
plateau experience your optimal self is maintained and sustained and when
maintained and sustained and when
maintained and sustained and when synchronized in with your partner your
synchronized in with your partner your
synchronized in with your partner your relationship lifts up to be at its
relationship lifts up to be at its
relationship lifts up to be at its supreme best so the Douro plasticity of
supreme best so the Douro plasticity of
supreme best so the Douro plasticity of the brain means that identity is not
the brain means that identity is not
the brain means that identity is not hardwired we can take the plunge into
hardwired we can take the plunge into
hardwired we can take the plunge into mastering this human potential we can
mastering this human potential we can
mastering this human potential we can make a change
make a change
make a change we can evolve our relationships to be at
we can evolve our relationships to be at
we can evolve our relationships to be at its supreme best erotic IQ is an
its supreme best erotic IQ is an
its supreme best erotic IQ is an evolution of love this is the future
evolution of love this is the future
evolution of love this is the future this is in itself a revolution so let’s
this is in itself a revolution so let’s
this is in itself a revolution so let’s buy a hack into our own biotechnology
buy a hack into our own biotechnology
buy a hack into our own biotechnology and bring our relationships to be
and bring our relationships to be
and bring our relationships to be successful once again and in flat
successful once again and in flat
successful once again and in flat intelligence be the primary core value
intelligence be the primary core value
intelligence be the primary core value of your relationship let’s do this for
of your relationship let’s do this for
of your relationship let’s do this for ourselves let’s do this for the future
ourselves let’s do this for the future
ourselves let’s do this for the future generations let’s do it for the world
generations let’s do it for the world
generations let’s do it for the world because erotic IQ has never been as
because erotic IQ has never been as
because erotic IQ has never been as important or as needed as it is today
important or as needed as it is today
important or as needed as it is today [Applause]
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