how many people here know how to create change within yourself within your
change within yourself within your
change within yourself within your families and within your communities
families and within your communities
families and within your communities raise your hand there’s a few but not
raise your hand there’s a few but not
raise your hand there’s a few but not many the reason I start with that
many the reason I start with that
many the reason I start with that question is because the one thing that
question is because the one thing that
question is because the one thing that we will all need to do and continue to
we will all need to do and continue to
we will all need to do and continue to do is we need to know how to create
do is we need to know how to create
do is we need to know how to create change and hopefully positive change but
change and hopefully positive change but
change and hopefully positive change but when you think about it that’s one of
when you think about it that’s one of
when you think about it that’s one of the things that we hardly ever talk
the things that we hardly ever talk
the things that we hardly ever talk about in education we learn facts we
about in education we learn facts we
about in education we learn facts we learn figures we learn methods we learn
learn figures we learn methods we learn
learn figures we learn methods we learn tools but really we don’t really learn
tools but really we don’t really learn
tools but really we don’t really learn what it means to create change
what it means to create change
what it means to create change so I’m obsessed with that question I
so I’m obsessed with that question I
so I’m obsessed with that question I sort of grab to hold me many years ago
sort of grab to hold me many years ago
sort of grab to hold me many years ago and I’m going to tell you and share with
and I’m going to tell you and share with
and I’m going to tell you and share with you some discoveries I’ve made along the
you some discoveries I’ve made along the
you some discoveries I’ve made along the way so about 15 years ago I was working
way so about 15 years ago I was working
way so about 15 years ago I was working at the University of Michigan I was a
at the University of Michigan I was a
at the University of Michigan I was a graduate student and I was studying how
graduate student and I was studying how
graduate student and I was studying how students become leaders and change
students become leaders and change
students become leaders and change agents there’s lots of higher education
agents there’s lots of higher education
agents there’s lots of higher education institute who work to educate students
institute who work to educate students
institute who work to educate students in that way but there wasn’t anybody
in that way but there wasn’t anybody
in that way but there wasn’t anybody really studying what that process looks
really studying what that process looks
really studying what that process looks like and I had the privilege of working
like and I had the privilege of working
like and I had the privilege of working with a professional school one of the
with a professional school one of the
with a professional school one of the top professional schools in the world
top professional schools in the world
top professional schools in the world and they actually had a reputation for
and they actually had a reputation for
and they actually had a reputation for creating these leaders and change agents
creating these leaders and change agents
creating these leaders and change agents and so I really wanted to know what
and so I really wanted to know what
and so I really wanted to know what happens inside of the students when they
happens inside of the students when they
happens inside of the students when they go from I want to know how to create
go from I want to know how to create
go from I want to know how to create change to actually being able to do so
change to actually being able to do so
change to actually being able to do so and so in this school they had what’s
and so in this school they had what’s
and so in this school they had what’s called a really wonderful action based
called a really wonderful action based
called a really wonderful action based curriculum the students spent time every
curriculum the students spent time every
curriculum the students spent time every week in academic courses but then 10 to
week in academic courses but then 10 to
week in academic courses but then 10 to 20 hours a week in field experiences out
20 hours a week in field experiences out
20 hours a week in field experiences out in the community in some organization
in the community in some organization
in the community in some organization that was working to create change and so
that was working to create change and so
that was working to create change and so the first thing I did was I wanted to go
the first thing I did was I wanted to go
the first thing I did was I wanted to go and observe the students in the
and observe the students in the
and observe the students in the classroom and what I saw was students
classroom and what I saw was students
classroom and what I saw was students looking like they were on fire like all
looking like they were on fire like all
looking like they were on fire like all kinds of epiphanies all kinds of wicked
kinds of epiphanies all kinds of wicked
kinds of epiphanies all kinds of wicked you could see those lightbulbs just
you could see those lightbulbs just
you could see those lightbulbs just popping along and they were learning
popping along and they were learning
popping along and they were learning concepts and methods that really
concepts and methods that really
concepts and methods that really fundamentally challenged the way they
fundamentally challenged the way they
fundamentally challenged the way they saw themselves and their role in the
saw themselves and their role in the
saw themselves and their role in the world and they seem to be taking it in
world and they seem to be taking it in
world and they seem to be taking it in because any classroom I went and
because any classroom I went and
because any classroom I went and witnessed you know the students were
witnessed you know the students were
witnessed you know the students were literally like alive I rarely saw the
literally like alive I rarely saw the
literally like alive I rarely saw the professors talking and so then I went
professors talking and so then I went
professors talking and so then I went and talked
and talked
and talked to the faculty I was like you know how
to the faculty I was like you know how
to the faculty I was like you know how do you think they’re doing how does this
do you think they’re doing how does this
do you think they’re doing how does this happen do you have evidence of their
happen do you have evidence of their
happen do you have evidence of their learning
learning
learning yep they could show evidence and their
yep they could show evidence and their
yep they could show evidence and their field instructors some of them had been
field instructors some of them had been
field instructors some of them had been teaching the students for over 20 years
teaching the students for over 20 years
teaching the students for over 20 years would say I don’t know what y’all are
would say I don’t know what y’all are
would say I don’t know what y’all are doing at that school but whatever just
doing at that school but whatever just
doing at that school but whatever just keep it up because they’re amazing and
keep it up because they’re amazing and
keep it up because they’re amazing and they would show me the things that they
they would show me the things that they
they would show me the things that they were doing in their communities to
were doing in their communities to
were doing in their communities to create change so I was really excited to
create change so I was really excited to
create change so I was really excited to go talk to the students and so at the
go talk to the students and so at the
go talk to the students and so at the end of that first year I did focus
end of that first year I did focus
end of that first year I did focus groups with a hundred and twenty
groups with a hundred and twenty
groups with a hundred and twenty students and ah the first question I
students and ah the first question I
students and ah the first question I asked was alright what are you learning
asked was alright what are you learning
asked was alright what are you learning what are the most important things
what are the most important things
what are the most important things you’ve learned in this last year that
you’ve learned in this last year that
you’ve learned in this last year that really helped you do this change
really helped you do this change
really helped you do this change business and what I was met with was
business and what I was met with was
business and what I was met with was pretty much blank stares
pretty much blank stares
pretty much blank stares like huh I think you one of the most
like huh I think you one of the most
like huh I think you one of the most important things you’re learning and
important things you’re learning and
important things you’re learning and like I learned a lot about diversity
like I learned a lot about diversity
like I learned a lot about diversity good great whatwhat about diversity now
good great whatwhat about diversity now
good great whatwhat about diversity now they couldn’t tell me I’m like okay so
they couldn’t tell me I’m like okay so
they couldn’t tell me I’m like okay so what else doing over learning that you
what else doing over learning that you
what else doing over learning that you know change can be hard okay say more
know change can be hard okay say more
know change can be hard okay say more and I really couldn’t say more it was
and I really couldn’t say more it was
and I really couldn’t say more it was like pulling teeth it was completely
like pulling teeth it was completely
like pulling teeth it was completely different than what I had witnessed I
different than what I had witnessed I
different than what I had witnessed I said okay so how are you doing in terms
said okay so how are you doing in terms
said okay so how are you doing in terms of becoming this leader in changing what
of becoming this leader in changing what
of becoming this leader in changing what does that like for you do you identify
does that like for you do you identify
does that like for you do you identify as that and overwhelmingly they were
as that and overwhelmingly they were
as that and overwhelmingly they were like nope I don’t see myself that way
like nope I don’t see myself that way
like nope I don’t see myself that way and so what I was experiencing with this
and so what I was experiencing with this
and so what I was experiencing with this incredible disconnection between how
incredible disconnection between how
incredible disconnection between how they were perceived and what I saw and
they were perceived and what I saw and
they were perceived and what I saw and their understanding of their own
their understanding of their own
their understanding of their own learning they couldn’t identify as a
learning they couldn’t identify as a
learning they couldn’t identify as a leader or change agent and nor could
leader or change agent and nor could
leader or change agent and nor could they tell me what they were learning and
they tell me what they were learning and
they tell me what they were learning and so and when I pushed harder to say well
so and when I pushed harder to say well
so and when I pushed harder to say well what is this that’s happening what I
what is this that’s happening what I
what is this that’s happening what I came upon was this fragmentation and
came upon was this fragmentation and
came upon was this fragmentation and what they said to me is like we have all
what they said to me is like we have all
what they said to me is like we have all these transformative moments we have all
these transformative moments we have all
these transformative moments we have all these epiphanies but we have no way to
these epiphanies but we have no way to
these epiphanies but we have no way to put it together so what I learned was
put it together so what I learned was
put it together so what I learned was that transformation without integration
that transformation without integration
that transformation without integration was fragmentation and so in the next
was fragmentation and so in the next
was fragmentation and so in the next phase of research I set out to
phase of research I set out to
phase of research I set out to understand and to help them integrate
understand and to help them integrate
understand and to help them integrate their learning and so what I designed
their learning and so what I designed
their learning and so what I designed was this one credit course where we’re
was this one credit course where we’re
was this one credit course where we’re going to experiment with different ways
going to experiment with different ways
going to experiment with different ways of doing this but there was two problems
of doing this but there was two problems
of doing this but there was two problems number one is that
number one is that
number one is that nobody had ever done this before not
nobody had ever done this before not
nobody had ever done this before not integration in the way that we were
integration in the way that we were
integration in the way that we were thinking about it and number two I was
thinking about it and number two I was
thinking about it and number two I was really really really sick I had lupus
really really really sick I had lupus
really really really sick I had lupus and I had Crohn’s disease and I had gone
and I had Crohn’s disease and I had gone
and I had Crohn’s disease and I had gone through four miscarriages and I could
through four miscarriages and I could
through four miscarriages and I could barely get out of bed most days in fact
barely get out of bed most days in fact
barely get out of bed most days in fact the only thing I was doing at that time
the only thing I was doing at that time
the only thing I was doing at that time was dragging myself to campus once a
was dragging myself to campus once a
was dragging myself to campus once a week so I could try to teach facilitate
week so I could try to teach facilitate
week so I could try to teach facilitate this integrative course which I really
this integrative course which I really
this integrative course which I really didn’t know anything how to do and so
didn’t know anything how to do and so
didn’t know anything how to do and so about six weeks into the course I
about six weeks into the course I
about six weeks into the course I noticed something I noticed that
noticed something I noticed that
noticed something I noticed that sometimes after class I felt great and
sometimes after class I felt great and
sometimes after class I felt great and even for a few minutes I almost forgot
even for a few minutes I almost forgot
even for a few minutes I almost forgot like I was sick and at other times after
like I was sick and at other times after
like I was sick and at other times after class I felt awful I could barely
class I felt awful I could barely
class I felt awful I could barely breathe I could barely walk and I could
breathe I could barely walk and I could
breathe I could barely walk and I could hardly get to my car and back in those
hardly get to my car and back in those
hardly get to my car and back in those days within a three-month period I went
days within a three-month period I went
days within a three-month period I went to the emergency room at least 11 times
to the emergency room at least 11 times
to the emergency room at least 11 times I was really sick but it occurred to me
I was really sick but it occurred to me
I was really sick but it occurred to me to think I wonder if something’s
to think I wonder if something’s
to think I wonder if something’s happening in the classroom but I’m not
happening in the classroom but I’m not
happening in the classroom but I’m not noticing that sometimes I’m getting
noticing that sometimes I’m getting
noticing that sometimes I’m getting better and sometimes not I don’t know
better and sometimes not I don’t know
better and sometimes not I don’t know the one so I began to pay attention and
the one so I began to pay attention and
the one so I began to pay attention and what I noticed was pretty exciting so
what I noticed was pretty exciting so
what I noticed was pretty exciting so what I notice is that when students
what I notice is that when students
what I notice is that when students would talk about their experiences
would talk about their experiences
would talk about their experiences because that was the purpose of class to
because that was the purpose of class to
because that was the purpose of class to come together talk about what they were
come together talk about what they were
come together talk about what they were learning in the field and sort of
learning in the field and sort of
learning in the field and sort of connect and sort of you know reflect and
connect and sort of you know reflect and
connect and sort of you know reflect and write things down when students would
write things down when students would
write things down when students would talk in this very surface way right
talk in this very surface way right
talk in this very surface way right we’ve all had boring classroom
we’ve all had boring classroom
we’ve all had boring classroom discussions right when they were talking
discussions right when they were talking
discussions right when they were talking that surface way the inflammation and
that surface way the inflammation and
that surface way the inflammation and the pain and my body would go up and if
the pain and my body would go up and if
the pain and my body would go up and if they if I got them to talk in this what
they if I got them to talk in this what
they if I got them to talk in this what I call this embodied way a way where
I call this embodied way a way where
I call this embodied way a way where they really talk about their experiences
they really talk about their experiences
they really talk about their experiences like in first person like I was in my
like in first person like I was in my
like in first person like I was in my field experiences and suddenly I was
field experiences and suddenly I was
field experiences and suddenly I was working with this woman who just learned
working with this woman who just learned
working with this woman who just learned that her son had autism and she was
that her son had autism and she was
that her son had autism and she was freaking you know they but they would
freaking you know they but they would
freaking you know they but they would speak in detail and they didn’t never be
speak in detail and they didn’t never be
speak in detail and they didn’t never be positive experiences but when they would
positive experiences but when they would
positive experiences but when they would speak with this detail I suddenly would
speak with this detail I suddenly would
speak with this detail I suddenly would feel so much better and if we did that
feel so much better and if we did that
feel so much better and if we did that for the full two hours by the end of
for the full two hours by the end of
for the full two hours by the end of class I would leave and I would feel
class I would leave and I would feel
class I would leave and I would feel better than I’d felt all week and so I
better than I’d felt all week and so I
better than I’d felt all week and so I began to really look into what is this
began to really look into what is this
began to really look into what is this phenomenon what is happening here and
phenomenon what is happening here and
phenomenon what is happening here and that’s when I discovered the following
that’s when I discovered the following
that’s when I discovered the following that one of the things that we that’s
that one of the things that we that’s
that one of the things that we that’s been going on for like 50
been going on for like 50
been going on for like 50 is actually people have known about this
is actually people have known about this
is actually people have known about this for 50 years but we haven’t talked about
for 50 years but we haven’t talked about
for 50 years but we haven’t talked about it in higher ed is this thing called
it in higher ed is this thing called
it in higher ed is this thing called disembodied knowledge and use other
disembodied knowledge and use other
disembodied knowledge and use other forms of knowledge right what was
forms of knowledge right what was
forms of knowledge right what was happening when students were talk and
happening when students were talk and
happening when students were talk and they would share their experience in
they would share their experience in
they would share their experience in this really a live way is they were
this really a live way is they were
this really a live way is they were connecting to their embodied knowledge
connecting to their embodied knowledge
connecting to their embodied knowledge embodied knowledge is not that we gain
embodied knowledge is not that we gain
embodied knowledge is not that we gain from our life experience
from our life experience
from our life experience turns out it’s what drives us it’s what
turns out it’s what drives us it’s what
turns out it’s what drives us it’s what drives and motivates our decisions and
drives and motivates our decisions and
drives and motivates our decisions and actions most of the time but what we
actions most of the time but what we
actions most of the time but what we deal with in higher ed most the time is
deal with in higher ed most the time is
deal with in higher ed most the time is disembodied knowledge right facts
disembodied knowledge right facts
disembodied knowledge right facts figures definitions and so what happens
figures definitions and so what happens
figures definitions and so what happens is that when we’re in disembodied realm
is that when we’re in disembodied realm
is that when we’re in disembodied realm is that the learning often becomes wrote
is that the learning often becomes wrote
is that the learning often becomes wrote it can get boring and we leave classes
it can get boring and we leave classes
it can get boring and we leave classes not knowing what we know and so I
not knowing what we know and so I
not knowing what we know and so I discover oh okay we need to actually get
discover oh okay we need to actually get
discover oh okay we need to actually get at this embodied knowledge and so what I
at this embodied knowledge and so what I
at this embodied knowledge and so what I began to do was basically learn to ask
began to do was basically learn to ask
began to do was basically learn to ask much better questions right so remember
much better questions right so remember
much better questions right so remember those focus groups I did part of the
those focus groups I did part of the
those focus groups I did part of the reason that they were pretty awful was
reason that they were pretty awful was
reason that they were pretty awful was because I was asking the wrong questions
because I was asking the wrong questions
because I was asking the wrong questions instead of asking what did you learn or
instead of asking what did you learn or
instead of asking what did you learn or what was important to you I needed to
what was important to you I needed to
what was important to you I needed to ask an embodied question which is tell
ask an embodied question which is tell
ask an embodied question which is tell me about a time when you’re seeing a
me about a time when you’re seeing a
me about a time when you’re seeing a classroom and all of a sudden boom
classroom and all of a sudden boom
classroom and all of a sudden boom you’re engaged and you’re alive and you
you’re engaged and you’re alive and you
you’re engaged and you’re alive and you heard something that really stuck with
heard something that really stuck with
heard something that really stuck with you or tell me about a time in your
you or tell me about a time in your
you or tell me about a time in your field later in your class where you felt
field later in your class where you felt
field later in your class where you felt really challenged or frustrated and then
really challenged or frustrated and then
really challenged or frustrated and then you work through it and you got to the
you work through it and you got to the
you work through it and you got to the other side because it turns out where
other side because it turns out where
other side because it turns out where learning happens is in those challenges
learning happens is in those challenges
learning happens is in those challenges and in those frustrations and in those
and in those frustrations and in those
and in those frustrations and in those aha moments that happen unconsciously
aha moments that happen unconsciously
aha moments that happen unconsciously and so as I got into this invited
and so as I got into this invited
and so as I got into this invited questions and they got into it our class
questions and they got into it our class
questions and they got into it our class became a lot more fun a lot more
became a lot more fun a lot more
became a lot more fun a lot more interesting and I would say we became
interesting and I would say we became
interesting and I would say we became more interesting people because we were
more interesting people because we were
more interesting people because we were always then sort of speaking from the
always then sort of speaking from the
always then sort of speaking from the authentic experiences of what was going
authentic experiences of what was going
authentic experiences of what was going on but I also had the sense oh and they
on but I also had the sense oh and they
on but I also had the sense oh and they suddenly became able to say oh yeah this
suddenly became able to say oh yeah this
suddenly became able to say oh yeah this is what I’m learning the program they
is what I’m learning the program they
is what I’m learning the program they became much more excited about the
became much more excited about the
became much more excited about the program so it is great so integration is
program so it is great so integration is
program so it is great so integration is happening everyone’s happy
happening everyone’s happy
happening everyone’s happy but I had a sense that there was more
but I had a sense that there was more
but I had a sense that there was more and so I decided to experiment and so
and so I decided to experiment and so
and so I decided to experiment and so one day I went to class and I said okay
one day I went to class and I said okay
one day I went to class and I said okay today what we’re going to do is we’re
today what we’re going to do is we’re
today what we’re going to do is we’re going to do things in threes so I had
going to do things in threes so I had
going to do things in threes so I had students tell excited it’s too
students tell excited it’s too
students tell excited it’s too to stand in front of me and have her
to stand in front of me and have her
to stand in front of me and have her tell me three experiences in a row of
tell me three experiences in a row of
tell me three experiences in a row of times where she was struggling or
times where she was struggling or
times where she was struggling or frustrated or challenged in some way in
frustrated or challenged in some way in
frustrated or challenged in some way in her field experience in the classroom
her field experience in the classroom
her field experience in the classroom and then she worked through it right
and then she worked through it right
and then she worked through it right that’s when those embodied questions
that’s when those embodied questions
that’s when those embodied questions should give this embodied answer and
should give this embodied answer and
should give this embodied answer and somewhere along the beginning of the her
somewhere along the beginning of the her
somewhere along the beginning of the her third story something amazing started
third story something amazing started
third story something amazing started happening is that I suddenly felt this
happening is that I suddenly felt this
happening is that I suddenly felt this like joy bomb come crawling up inside of
like joy bomb come crawling up inside of
like joy bomb come crawling up inside of me and Alison it hit me awake
me and Alison it hit me awake
me and Alison it hit me awake unbelievable clarity and peace and then
unbelievable clarity and peace and then
unbelievable clarity and peace and then suddenly I heard these words like master
suddenly I heard these words like master
suddenly I heard these words like master of complexity and all these things that
of complexity and all these things that
of complexity and all these things that are like running through me and I dream
are like running through me and I dream
are like running through me and I dream write them down I intuitively knew that
write them down I intuitively knew that
write them down I intuitively knew that what I was hearing were her strengths
what I was hearing were her strengths
what I was hearing were her strengths strengths that she hadn’t even said in
strengths that she hadn’t even said in
strengths that she hadn’t even said in the story and so when she was done I
the story and so when she was done I
the story and so when she was done I would say let me tell you what I just
would say let me tell you what I just
would say let me tell you what I just heard and I looked down the little piece
heard and I looked down the little piece
heard and I looked down the little piece of paper I’d scratch these notes and I
of paper I’d scratch these notes and I
of paper I’d scratch these notes and I started to feed him back to her and
started to feed him back to her and
started to feed him back to her and before I could get into the second
before I could get into the second
before I could get into the second sentence everybody else who was
sentence everybody else who was
sentence everybody else who was listening in like 12 other people jumped
listening in like 12 other people jumped
listening in like 12 other people jumped in and they started saying the same
in and they started saying the same
in and they started saying the same thing so wait a minute what just
thing so wait a minute what just
thing so wait a minute what just happened here a whole roomful of people
happened here a whole roomful of people
happened here a whole roomful of people just heard and felt the same thing that
just heard and felt the same thing that
just heard and felt the same thing that was never ever spoken think about that
was never ever spoken think about that
was never ever spoken think about that is it because we’re psychic no because
is it because we’re psychic no because
is it because we’re psychic no because what we heard and what we felt was
what we heard and what we felt was
what we heard and what we felt was literally the truth of the matter the
literally the truth of the matter the
literally the truth of the matter the truth of her matter the truth of the
truth of her matter the truth of the
truth of her matter the truth of the thing that I next discovered the thing I
thing that I next discovered the thing I
thing that I next discovered the thing I next discovered was inside of this
next discovered was inside of this
next discovered was inside of this embodied knowledge we have all these
embodied knowledge we have all these
embodied knowledge we have all these habits right we have tactical knowledge
habits right we have tactical knowledge
habits right we have tactical knowledge like how to ride a bike but what we also
like how to ride a bike but what we also
like how to ride a bike but what we also have is what I call generative knowledge
have is what I call generative knowledge
have is what I call generative knowledge and generative knowledge is the
and generative knowledge is the
and generative knowledge is the knowledge that we need in order to feel
knowledge that we need in order to feel
knowledge that we need in order to feel purposeful and to know what our
purposeful and to know what our
purposeful and to know what our strengths are and to know what I call
strengths are and to know what I call
strengths are and to know what I call our superpowers right so inside there is
our superpowers right so inside there is
our superpowers right so inside there is this template what I call up fundamental
this template what I call up fundamental
this template what I call up fundamental wholeness a living template and that
wholeness a living template and that
wholeness a living template and that when it’s activated we literally become
when it’s activated we literally become
when it’s activated we literally become in some ways entirely different people
in some ways entirely different people
in some ways entirely different people we have capacities and intelligence that
we have capacities and intelligence that
we have capacities and intelligence that we literally did not know that we had
we literally did not know that we had
we literally did not know that we had and so as we did this in the class
and so as we did this in the class
and so as we did this in the class that first day instead of going to ours
that first day instead of going to ours
that first day instead of going to ours that day we went for hours because after
that day we went for hours because after
that day we went for hours because after we saw what happened her were like oh me
we saw what happened her were like oh me
we saw what happened her were like oh me next me next right and even I had them
next me next right and even I had them
next me next right and even I had them unpack me that day because I want to
unpack me that day because I want to
unpack me that day because I want to know what my strengths what my
know what my strengths what my
know what my strengths what my superpowers were because I didn’t know
superpowers were because I didn’t know
superpowers were because I didn’t know either and as I worked with those
either and as I worked with those
either and as I worked with those students
students
students I developed a method called the
I developed a method called the
I developed a method called the integrative knowledge portfolio process
integrative knowledge portfolio process
integrative knowledge portfolio process and generative dialogue and these
and generative dialogue and these
and generative dialogue and these methods that pull out these superpowers
methods that pull out these superpowers
methods that pull out these superpowers these capacities and our purpose so that
these capacities and our purpose so that
these capacities and our purpose so that we can use them more intentionally and
we can use them more intentionally and
we can use them more intentionally and when the students did that process in in
when the students did that process in in
when the students did that process in in under a semester they went from not
under a semester they went from not
under a semester they went from not knowing who they were what they wanted
knowing who they were what they wanted
knowing who they were what they wanted to do to being able to say this is who I
to do to being able to say this is who I
to do to being able to say this is who I am this is what I can do and this is how
am this is what I can do and this is how
am this is what I can do and this is how I make a difference so that was great
I make a difference so that was great
I make a difference so that was great and so what I spent the next couple of
and so what I spent the next couple of
and so what I spent the next couple of years doing is continuing to hone this
years doing is continuing to hone this
years doing is continuing to hone this method because I started to understand
method because I started to understand
method because I started to understand that it wasn’t just drinks that we could
that it wasn’t just drinks that we could
that it wasn’t just drinks that we could find but there was more and so the first
find but there was more and so the first
find but there was more and so the first thing that I found after the strength
thing that I found after the strength
thing that I found after the strength was a purpose so I’m going to give you a
was a purpose so I’m going to give you a
was a purpose so I’m going to give you a little hint if you want to go around and
little hint if you want to go around and
little hint if you want to go around and if you’re wondering what your purpose is
if you’re wondering what your purpose is
if you’re wondering what your purpose is if you want to help other people find
if you want to help other people find
if you want to help other people find their purpose then here’s a little
their purpose then here’s a little
their purpose then here’s a little exercise you can do with your friends is
exercise you can do with your friends is
exercise you can do with your friends is share with each other three times in a
share with each other three times in a
share with each other three times in a row
row
row somebody who’s motivated and inspired
somebody who’s motivated and inspired
somebody who’s motivated and inspired you in some way and while you’re
you in some way and while you’re
you in some way and while you’re listening to each other make sure that
listening to each other make sure that
listening to each other make sure that you can get really clear examples and if
you can get really clear examples and if
you can get really clear examples and if you listen deeply enough you’ll get that
you listen deeply enough you’ll get that
you listen deeply enough you’ll get that joy balm and that joy balm when it goes
joy balm and that joy balm when it goes
joy balm and that joy balm when it goes off you’ll hear that person’s part of
off you’ll hear that person’s part of
off you’ll hear that person’s part of their purpose what makes them whole and
their purpose what makes them whole and
their purpose what makes them whole and what makes them strong and here’s the
what makes them strong and here’s the
what makes them strong and here’s the most extraordinary thing of all a lot of
most extraordinary thing of all a lot of
most extraordinary thing of all a lot of times people have been saying to me give
times people have been saying to me give
times people have been saying to me give me the questions give me these great and
me the questions give me these great and
me the questions give me these great and body questions so I can uncover all
body questions so I can uncover all
body questions so I can uncover all these dimensions my purpose my strengths
these dimensions my purpose my strengths
these dimensions my purpose my strengths ah and the big one might change
ah and the big one might change
ah and the big one might change resources right
resources right
resources right so the change resources are the
so the change resources are the
so the change resources are the resources that you have very specific
resources that you have very specific
resources that you have very specific set of resources that are internal and
set of resources that are internal and
set of resources that are internal and external that you need in order to
external that you need in order to
external that you need in order to create change in your life so I can
create change in your life so I can
create change in your life so I can write a self-help book based on mine but
write a self-help book based on mine but
write a self-help book based on mine but that’s not going to help you because
that’s not going to help you because
that’s not going to help you because yours are different than mine what we
yours are different than mine what we
yours are different than mine what we can do is we can
can do is we can
can do is we can unleash these resources in each other
unleash these resources in each other
unleash these resources in each other and what happens when we don’t know what
and what happens when we don’t know what
and what happens when we don’t know what these resources are is that a lot of us
these resources are is that a lot of us
these resources are is that a lot of us go around hitting ourselves because I
go around hitting ourselves because I
go around hitting ourselves because I don’t know about you but there’s been
don’t know about you but there’s been
don’t know about you but there’s been plenty of things in my life that I wish
plenty of things in my life that I wish
plenty of things in my life that I wish I could change and I didn’t know how to
I could change and I didn’t know how to
I could change and I didn’t know how to change them and the reason for that is
change them and the reason for that is
change them and the reason for that is because I had no idea what my change
because I had no idea what my change
because I had no idea what my change resources were so the important thing
resources were so the important thing
resources were so the important thing that I’ve learned here is that we can
that I’ve learned here is that we can
that I’ve learned here is that we can never do this process alone so I now
never do this process alone so I now
never do this process alone so I now know kind of like the keys to the
know kind of like the keys to the
know kind of like the keys to the kingdom I have all the great embodied
kingdom I have all the great embodied
kingdom I have all the great embodied questions to get at all these different
questions to get at all these different
questions to get at all these different dimensions but I absolutely need my
dimensions but I absolutely need my
dimensions but I absolutely need my friends like when I get stuck I call up
friends like when I get stuck I call up
friends like when I get stuck I call up and say hey can you do the thing with me
and say hey can you do the thing with me
and say hey can you do the thing with me and they’re like yeah we can do the
and they’re like yeah we can do the
and they’re like yeah we can do the thing with you because in order to hear
thing with you because in order to hear
thing with you because in order to hear that embodied knowledge we need other
that embodied knowledge we need other
that embodied knowledge we need other people to unpack us and fluff us out so
people to unpack us and fluff us out so
people to unpack us and fluff us out so fluff you out is there very much a
fluff you out is there very much a
fluff you out is there very much a technical term okay okay so fast forward
technical term okay okay so fast forward
technical term okay okay so fast forward eight years and then I had the pleasure
eight years and then I had the pleasure
eight years and then I had the pleasure of being invited here to UC oh and
of being invited here to UC oh and
of being invited here to UC oh and that’s I actually consider a quite an
that’s I actually consider a quite an
that’s I actually consider a quite an honor to be considered a member of your
honor to be considered a member of your
honor to be considered a member of your community and I began working with
community and I began working with
community and I began working with several groups here on campus black male
several groups here on campus black male
several groups here on campus black male initiative the Hispanic Student Success
initiative the Hispanic Student Success
initiative the Hispanic Student Success Initiative stellar and gear up and what
Initiative stellar and gear up and what
Initiative stellar and gear up and what I’ve discovered is that the
I’ve discovered is that the
I’ve discovered is that the extraordinary changes that were
extraordinary changes that were
extraordinary changes that were happening with students at Michigan have
happening with students at Michigan have
happening with students at Michigan have happened at many other institutions but
happened at many other institutions but
happened at many other institutions but the way that they happen here is like
the way that they happen here is like
the way that they happen here is like nowhere else on earth and that’s because
nowhere else on earth and that’s because
nowhere else on earth and that’s because it’s not just that they learned this
it’s not just that they learned this
it’s not just that they learned this method that I have provided but more
method that I have provided but more
method that I have provided but more importantly that what you’ve taught me
importantly that what you’ve taught me
importantly that what you’ve taught me is that what you need to really set
is that what you need to really set
is that what you need to really set students on fire and really create
students on fire and really create
students on fire and really create incredible leaders and change agents is
incredible leaders and change agents is
incredible leaders and change agents is what I call a beloved community and you
what I call a beloved community and you
what I call a beloved community and you co has that I’ve worked with dozens of
co has that I’ve worked with dozens of
co has that I’ve worked with dozens of institutions that I’ve never seen
institutions that I’ve never seen
institutions that I’ve never seen beloved community like I’ve seen it here
beloved community like I’ve seen it here
beloved community like I’ve seen it here so as I was working for instance with
so as I was working for instance with
so as I was working for instance with Hispanic Student Success Initiative they
Hispanic Student Success Initiative they
Hispanic Student Success Initiative they went from I they were working with a
went from I they were working with a
went from I they were working with a groups of students that nationwide has
groups of students that nationwide has
groups of students that nationwide has about a 50 percent it’s called a
about a 50 percent it’s called a
about a 50 percent it’s called a retention rate or continuation rate from
retention rate or continuation rate from
retention rate or continuation rate from year one to year two
year one to year two
year one to year two in college and when the Hispanic Student
in college and when the Hispanic Student
in college and when the Hispanic Student Success Initiative worked with students
Success Initiative worked with students
Success Initiative worked with students as a pilot and use this method they got
as a pilot and use this method they got
as a pilot and use this method they got that all the way up to 90% as I say in
that all the way up to 90% as I say in
that all the way up to 90% as I say in the history of higher education that’s
the history of higher education that’s
the history of higher education that’s never happened before and the reason
never happened before and the reason
never happened before and the reason that happened wasn’t just the magic of
that happened wasn’t just the magic of
that happened wasn’t just the magic of the method it was also the magic of the
the method it was also the magic of the
the method it was also the magic of the place the laughs love story I’ll share
place the laughs love story I’ll share
place the laughs love story I’ll share is that a couple weeks ago my friend
is that a couple weeks ago my friend
is that a couple weeks ago my friend Karen was really sick she had been sick
Karen was really sick she had been sick
Karen was really sick she had been sick since Christmas we’ve been sick like
since Christmas we’ve been sick like
since Christmas we’ve been sick like three or four weeks and so I went over
three or four weeks and so I went over
three or four weeks and so I went over there I took her some turkey soup and I
there I took her some turkey soup and I
there I took her some turkey soup and I was like um she wanted know more about
was like um she wanted know more about
was like um she wanted know more about my work she want to know about these
my work she want to know about these
my work she want to know about these methods I said how about instead of
methods I said how about instead of
methods I said how about instead of telling you about them I demonstrate
telling you about them I demonstrate
telling you about them I demonstrate she’s like okay and I was like all right
she’s like okay and I was like all right
she’s like okay and I was like all right so tell me about someone who’s motivated
so tell me about someone who’s motivated
so tell me about someone who’s motivated inspired you in some way oh no before I
inspired you in some way oh no before I
inspired you in some way oh no before I said this I said on a scale of one to
said this I said on a scale of one to
said this I said on a scale of one to ten where one is like you feel great and
ten where one is like you feel great and
ten where one is like you feel great and ten is like you can’t get out of bed
ten is like you can’t get out of bed
ten is like you can’t get out of bed where would you put yourself right now
where would you put yourself right now
where would you put yourself right now and she said I put myself at a seven
and she said I put myself at a seven
and she said I put myself at a seven okay so I did this thing where tell me
okay so I did this thing where tell me
okay so I did this thing where tell me about someone that’s motivate inspired
about someone that’s motivate inspired
about someone that’s motivate inspired you she tells me one and make sure that
you she tells me one and make sure that
you she tells me one and make sure that I get that clear mental picture and she
I get that clear mental picture and she
I get that clear mental picture and she gives me examples and then two and then
gives me examples and then two and then
gives me examples and then two and then three and of course right around three I
three and of course right around three I
three and of course right around three I get that joy bomb because now I expect
get that joy bomb because now I expect
get that joy bomb because now I expect it and I say to her well what I heard
it and I say to her well what I heard
it and I say to her well what I heard was that you are actually really driven
was that you are actually really driven
was that you are actually really driven I overcome these obstacles I tell her
I overcome these obstacles I tell her
I overcome these obstacles I tell her what I heard in her superpowers she’s
what I heard in her superpowers she’s
what I heard in her superpowers she’s like that’s amazing I was like yeah
like that’s amazing I was like yeah
like that’s amazing I was like yeah so now on a scale of one to ten how do
so now on a scale of one to ten how do
so now on a scale of one to ten how do you feel now and she’s like oh my god
you feel now and she’s like oh my god
you feel now and she’s like oh my god that’s magic I feel like it’s a three
that’s magic I feel like it’s a three
that’s magic I feel like it’s a three and I was like honey that’s not my magic
and I was like honey that’s not my magic
and I was like honey that’s not my magic that’s your wholeness thank you
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