okay so I’m supposed to be talking about family etiquette and domestic violence I
family etiquette and domestic violence I
family etiquette and domestic violence I will start by saying that I have a deep
will start by saying that I have a deep
will start by saying that I have a deep love for family and as family as we know
love for family and as family as we know
love for family and as family as we know is the bedrock and the foundation of
is the bedrock and the foundation of
is the bedrock and the foundation of society when we get things right and the
society when we get things right and the
society when we get things right and the family everything finds its place and
family everything finds its place and
family everything finds its place and because these three topics are
because these three topics are
because these three topics are interconnected I will see our starts
interconnected I will see our starts
interconnected I will see our starts with family because that’s the basis of
with family because that’s the basis of
with family because that’s the basis of everything that’s where we learn
everything that’s where we learn
everything that’s where we learn etiquette that’s where if domestic
etiquette that’s where if domestic
etiquette that’s where if domestic violence also occurs so I’ll start by
violence also occurs so I’ll start by
violence also occurs so I’ll start by saying that the hand that rocks the
saying that the hand that rocks the
saying that the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world because women
cradle rules the world because women
cradle rules the world because women because of our physiological buildup and
because of our physiological buildup and
because of our physiological buildup and the way we are created we tend to be
the way we are created we tend to be
the way we are created we tend to be closer and bond more with the children
closer and bond more with the children
closer and bond more with the children and so there’s a need for us to raise
and so there’s a need for us to raise
and so there’s a need for us to raise strong women women who are strong in
strong women women who are strong in
strong women women who are strong in character and also in Lenin that can
character and also in Lenin that can
character and also in Lenin that can raise the future generation because the
raise the future generation because the
raise the future generation because the children really the future of this world
children really the future of this world
children really the future of this world not only our country so if we have women
not only our country so if we have women
not only our country so if we have women who are strong women who are disciplined
who are strong women who are disciplined
who are strong women who are disciplined women who are knowledgeable god-fearing
women who are knowledgeable god-fearing
women who are knowledgeable god-fearing you can imagine that our children to
you can imagine that our children to
you can imagine that our children to turn out right we do not have to leave
turn out right we do not have to leave
turn out right we do not have to leave everything for the teacher
everything for the teacher
everything for the teacher excuse me teachers in school because
excuse me teachers in school because
excuse me teachers in school because there’s just so much they can do and
there’s just so much they can do and
there’s just so much they can do and there’s just so much time the children
there’s just so much time the children
there’s just so much time the children spend in school that they can learn as
spend in school that they can learn as
spend in school that they can learn as much and a lot of things that are
much and a lot of things that are
much and a lot of things that are happening in society is indicated of the
happening in society is indicated of the
happening in society is indicated of the fact that you know we’ve really lost if
fact that you know we’ve really lost if
fact that you know we’ve really lost if experience we have not really cooked as
experience we have not really cooked as
experience we have not really cooked as we should have we are not on what we
we should have we are not on what we
we should have we are not on what we should do and should have done so our
should do and should have done so our
should do and should have done so our children are not turning out as well as
children are not turning out as well as
children are not turning out as well as we would have expected if we talk about
we would have expected if we talk about
we would have expected if we talk about etiquette you remember you will recall
etiquette you remember you will recall
etiquette you remember you will recall some of us were older that in times past
some of us were older that in times past
some of us were older that in times past we had codes we had rules that we
we had codes we had rules that we
we had codes we had rules that we followed in the village setting and
followed in the village setting and
followed in the village setting and cities wherever you find yourself you
cities wherever you find yourself you
cities wherever you find yourself you will not see an elderly person coming
will not see an elderly person coming
will not see an elderly person coming into a room
into a room
into a room and keep sitting down when there’s just
and keep sitting down when there’s just
and keep sitting down when there’s just maybe that chair that is available you
maybe that chair that is available you
maybe that chair that is available you will stand up you will greet your elders
will stand up you will greet your elders
will stand up you will greet your elders in fact it will be to pass by your elder
in fact it will be to pass by your elder
in fact it will be to pass by your elder and not greet and even at that time when
and not greet and even at that time when
and not greet and even at that time when we agreed we could see now the children
we agreed we could see now the children
we agreed we could see now the children look you square in their eyes you’re
look you square in their eyes you’re
look you square in their eyes you’re looking at them they’re looking at you
looking at them they’re looking at you
looking at them they’re looking at you like who is going to do it to first you
like who is going to do it to first you
like who is going to do it to first you know so it’s sad that we’re where we are
know so it’s sad that we’re where we are
know so it’s sad that we’re where we are now in fact that is why Hillary Clinton
now in fact that is why Hillary Clinton
now in fact that is why Hillary Clinton wrote this book that it takes a village
wrote this book that it takes a village
wrote this book that it takes a village because at one time and maybe now still
because at one time and maybe now still
because at one time and maybe now still in the rural areas hopefully I hope it
in the rural areas hopefully I hope it
in the rural areas hopefully I hope it is still the same way everyone persist
is still the same way everyone persist
is still the same way everyone persist excuse me child is everybody’s child
excuse me child is everybody’s child
excuse me child is everybody’s child everybody joins and contributes in
everybody joins and contributes in
everybody joins and contributes in raising the child so that if you’re not
raising the child so that if you’re not
raising the child so that if you’re not punished by your own parents some other
punished by your own parents some other
punished by your own parents some other parents will punish you for something
parents will punish you for something
parents will punish you for something you didn’t before your parents come back
you didn’t before your parents come back
you didn’t before your parents come back and they will report you for more
and they will report you for more
and they will report you for more punishment so you know times have
punishment so you know times have
punishment so you know times have changed yes with more modernized living
changed yes with more modernized living
changed yes with more modernized living in society many cities now so it’s
in society many cities now so it’s
in society many cities now so it’s different but I would like to see us go
different but I would like to see us go
different but I would like to see us go back to those times when we you know did
back to those times when we you know did
back to those times when we you know did more for our children so etiquette is
more for our children so etiquette is
more for our children so etiquette is defined as the customary code of polite
defined as the customary code of polite
defined as the customary code of polite behavior in society or among members of
behavior in society or among members of
behavior in society or among members of a particular profession or group so it’s
a particular profession or group so it’s
a particular profession or group so it’s not only in the family you find
not only in the family you find
not only in the family you find etiquette not only in society also in
etiquette not only in society also in
etiquette not only in society also in different professions like you say like
different professions like you say like
different professions like you say like in the medicine you have the etiquette
in the medicine you have the etiquette
in the medicine you have the etiquette of the medical profession just like we
of the medical profession just like we
of the medical profession just like we have in the legal profession and in all
have in the legal profession and in all
have in the legal profession and in all other kinds of profession and in society
other kinds of profession and in society
other kinds of profession and in society at large so I want to sum it all by
at large so I want to sum it all by
at large so I want to sum it all by saying you know that etiquette in my
saying you know that etiquette in my
saying you know that etiquette in my mind can be defined as doing unto others
mind can be defined as doing unto others
mind can be defined as doing unto others as you wish them to talk to you which is
as you wish them to talk to you which is
as you wish them to talk to you which is the golden rule if we treat people the
the golden rule if we treat people the
the golden rule if we treat people the way we would like to be treated that is
way we would like to be treated that is
way we would like to be treated that is a very simplistic description you find
a very simplistic description you find
a very simplistic description you find out that the world would be a happier
out that the world would be a happier
out that the world would be a happier place people will be more confident
place people will be more confident
place people will be more confident people will be you know more trusting
people will be you know more trusting
people will be you know more trusting people will get along better because you
people will get along better because you
people will get along better because you feel the pain of what you’re giving out
feel the pain of what you’re giving out
feel the pain of what you’re giving out and you will realize that you wouldn’t
and you will realize that you wouldn’t
and you will realize that you wouldn’t want it to come back to you so you won’t
want it to come back to you so you won’t
want it to come back to you so you won’t do it to the next person what can we
do it to the next person what can we
do it to the next person what can we really do without etiquette domestic
really do without etiquette domestic
really do without etiquette domestic violence can be avoided
violence can be avoided
violence can be avoided and of course people always say the best
and of course people always say the best
and of course people always say the best thing to do in response to it is to
thing to do in response to it is to
thing to do in response to it is to leave the environment but you know
leave the environment but you know
leave the environment but you know there’s just so much that can happen
there’s just so much that can happen
there’s just so much that can happen when you talk about domestic violence
when you talk about domestic violence
when you talk about domestic violence you know in the criminal code Penal Code
you know in the criminal code Penal Code
you know in the criminal code Penal Code there were provisions for offenses
there were provisions for offenses
there were provisions for offenses that’s talk that deal with them and
that’s talk that deal with them and
that’s talk that deal with them and violence but you see the violence
violence but you see the violence
violence but you see the violence against persons prohibition act has now
against persons prohibition act has now
against persons prohibition act has now extended it to not be only within the
extended it to not be only within the
extended it to not be only within the home not only in the society but in
home not only in the society but in
home not only in the society but in every different kinds of respects that’s
every different kinds of respects that’s
every different kinds of respects that’s you know we have not even thought about
you know we have not even thought about
you know we have not even thought about some of us now in River State here we
some of us now in River State here we
some of us now in River State here we have a law that is against female
have a law that is against female
have a law that is against female circumcision we also have a law that is
circumcision we also have a law that is
circumcision we also have a law that is against harmful widowhood practices
against harmful widowhood practices
against harmful widowhood practices these are also considered and if
these are also considered and if
these are also considered and if violence against persons in fact I’m
violence against persons in fact I’m
violence against persons in fact I’m glad that’s mister enemy olavo is here
glad that’s mister enemy olavo is here
glad that’s mister enemy olavo is here of the House of Assembly maybe you would
of the House of Assembly maybe you would
of the House of Assembly maybe you would take this back to the assembly and get
take this back to the assembly and get
take this back to the assembly and get them you legislators to not domestically
them you legislators to not domestically
them you legislators to not domestically what’s that word now to pass that law or
what’s that word now to pass that law or
what’s that word now to pass that law or adopt the law if we can adopt that law
adopt the law if we can adopt that law
adopt the law if we can adopt that law in Reverse so that they can be more
in Reverse so that they can be more
in Reverse so that they can be more protection for every one of us and it
protection for every one of us and it
protection for every one of us and it will be good to see that also happen in
will be good to see that also happen in
will be good to see that also happen in other states too so that you know the
other states too so that you know the
other states too so that you know the thought that came behind the essence of
thought that came behind the essence of
thought that came behind the essence of the violence against percent Robuchon at
the violence against percent Robuchon at
the violence against percent Robuchon at will be fulfilled or achieved so a
will be fulfilled or achieved so a
will be fulfilled or achieved so a little introduction of this violence
little introduction of this violence
little introduction of this violence against can be said to be that the
against can be said to be that the
against can be said to be that the violence against persons excuse me
violence against persons excuse me
violence against persons excuse me violence against persons prohibition ads
violence against persons prohibition ads
violence against persons prohibition ads which is the web that was passed into
which is the web that was passed into
which is the web that was passed into law in May 2015 they act was a result of
law in May 2015 they act was a result of
law in May 2015 they act was a result of agitations of protection of people or
agitations of protection of people or
agitations of protection of people or persons against the different forms of
persons against the different forms of
persons against the different forms of violence and we know this violence like
violence and we know this violence like
violence and we know this violence like we talk in domestic violence usually
we talk in domestic violence usually
we talk in domestic violence usually between spouses but the other violent
between spouses but the other violent
between spouses but the other violent situations that can come up you know
situations that can come up you know
situations that can come up you know between siblings and even maybe people
between siblings and even maybe people
between siblings and even maybe people from the extended family and it doesn’t
from the extended family and it doesn’t
from the extended family and it doesn’t necessarily mean that the wife or the
necessarily mean that the wife or the
necessarily mean that the wife or the woman is always the victim some men have
woman is always the victim some men have
woman is always the victim some men have you know victims of violence too
you know victims of violence too
you know victims of violence too because some men have whites who
because some men have whites who
because some men have whites who actually beat them it does happen now
actually beat them it does happen now
actually beat them it does happen now the violence against violence both are
the violence against violence both are
the violence against violence both are the homefront and the larger society is
the homefront and the larger society is
the homefront and the larger society is fast becoming its trend in recent days
fast becoming its trend in recent days
fast becoming its trend in recent days Nigeria in fact my own understanding of
Nigeria in fact my own understanding of
Nigeria in fact my own understanding of violence domestic violence is that
violence domestic violence is that
violence domestic violence is that children who watch their parents
children who watch their parents
children who watch their parents violating themselves you know the the
violating themselves you know the the
violating themselves you know the the sea and they learn from what I do there
sea and they learn from what I do there
sea and they learn from what I do there are victims themselves but in the end
are victims themselves but in the end
are victims themselves but in the end they turn out to grow up to be violators
they turn out to grow up to be violators
they turn out to grow up to be violators themselves so they become you know
themselves so they become you know
themselves so they become you know violence even in their own marriages so
violence even in their own marriages so
violence even in their own marriages so it’s a case of you know monkey see
it’s a case of you know monkey see
it’s a case of you know monkey see monkey do and the Lenox you know it’s
monkey do and the Lenox you know it’s
monkey do and the Lenox you know it’s just like a default position and you
just like a default position and you
just like a default position and you know it just it becomes a part of them
know it just it becomes a part of them
know it just it becomes a part of them because that’s what they are used to
because that’s what they are used to
because that’s what they are used to that’s what they have been seen so we
that’s what they have been seen so we
that’s what they have been seen so we have to be careful what we do in the
have to be careful what we do in the
have to be careful what we do in the presence of our children and especially
presence of our children and especially
presence of our children and especially how we how we talk to each other because
how we how we talk to each other because
how we how we talk to each other because you know there are different kinds of
you know there are different kinds of
you know there are different kinds of violence there’s verbal violence you
violence there’s verbal violence you
violence there’s verbal violence you know and that one I would say is
know and that one I would say is
know and that one I would say is psychological verbal abuse I meant to
psychological verbal abuse I meant to
psychological verbal abuse I meant to say in psychological and it’s emotional
say in psychological and it’s emotional
say in psychological and it’s emotional and that seems to be even the worst kind
and that seems to be even the worst kind
and that seems to be even the worst kind of you know abuse you can give to
of you know abuse you can give to
of you know abuse you can give to anybody because you know one it is
anybody because you know one it is
anybody because you know one it is physical a lot of times you can heal you
physical a lot of times you can heal you
physical a lot of times you can heal you may heal because I mean sometimes you
may heal because I mean sometimes you
may heal because I mean sometimes you get the treatment and you you can heal
get the treatment and you you can heal
get the treatment and you you can heal fast some people actually die from you
fast some people actually die from you
fast some people actually die from you know domestic violence someone means
know domestic violence someone means
know domestic violence someone means some lose a part of their body or just
some lose a part of their body or just
some lose a part of their body or just have something that is destroyed that
have something that is destroyed that
have something that is destroyed that can never be cut some back in their
can never be cut some back in their
can never be cut some back in their bodies so this violence against persons
bodies so this violence against persons
bodies so this violence against persons protection provision as expanded this
protection provision as expanded this
protection provision as expanded this scope you know to even economic abuse
scope you know to even economic abuse
scope you know to even economic abuse economic violence in the sense that a
economic violence in the sense that a
economic violence in the sense that a man who has a wife and does not allow
man who has a wife and does not allow
man who has a wife and does not allow her to work and she wishes to work it’s
her to work and she wishes to work it’s
her to work and she wishes to work it’s not like she doesn’t want to work she
not like she doesn’t want to work she
not like she doesn’t want to work she wants to like maybe have a career
wants to like maybe have a career
wants to like maybe have a career growing it and then you prevent her from
growing it and then you prevent her from
growing it and then you prevent her from doing it because you know you have all
doing it because you know you have all
doing it because you know you have all the money you can actually look after
the money you can actually look after
the money you can actually look after her what does she need to work for you
her what does she need to work for you
her what does she need to work for you know it’s
know it’s
know it’s there is something from the woman
there is something from the woman
there is something from the woman because a woman who doesn’t express
because a woman who doesn’t express
because a woman who doesn’t express herself doesn’t go out and do something
herself doesn’t go out and do something
herself doesn’t go out and do something and it’s achieving you know it’s it
and it’s achieving you know it’s it
and it’s achieving you know it’s it doesn’t allow you to have this
doesn’t allow you to have this
doesn’t allow you to have this self-confidence and that the feeling of
self-confidence and that the feeling of
self-confidence and that the feeling of self-worth that you also ordinarily have
self-worth that you also ordinarily have
self-worth that you also ordinarily have in fact even covers up to violence now
in fact even covers up to violence now
in fact even covers up to violence now called during political times I said
called during political times I said
called during political times I said like poutine you know and I’m sure the
like poutine you know and I’m sure the
like poutine you know and I’m sure the politicians would like this if it
politicians would like this if it
politicians would like this if it happens to you you can actually sue and
happens to you you can actually sue and
happens to you you can actually sue and then get compensation and somebody can
then get compensation and somebody can
then get compensation and somebody can get punished so let me just read out
get punished so let me just read out
get punished so let me just read out some of the areas spousal battery
some of the areas spousal battery
some of the areas spousal battery forceful ejection from home first full
forceful ejection from home first full
forceful ejection from home first full marriage first financial dependence or
marriage first financial dependence or
marriage first financial dependence or economic abuse harmful widowhood
economic abuse harmful widowhood
economic abuse harmful widowhood practices female circumcision or genital
practices female circumcision or genital
practices female circumcision or genital mutilation harmful traditional practices
mutilation harmful traditional practices
mutilation harmful traditional practices harmful substance attacks
harmful substance attacks
harmful substance attacks we’re cases of acid baths and all the
we’re cases of acid baths and all the
we’re cases of acid baths and all the kinds of chemicals that is con lover or
kinds of chemicals that is con lover or
kinds of chemicals that is con lover or a rejected husband or wife will do you
a rejected husband or wife will do you
a rejected husband or wife will do you know or use in attacking the spouse or
know or use in attacking the spouse or
know or use in attacking the spouse or divorced spouse first isolation and
divorced spouse first isolation and
divorced spouse first isolation and separation from family and friends
separation from family and friends
separation from family and friends indecent exposure and violence by state
indecent exposure and violence by state
indecent exposure and violence by state actors and other was imagine that you
actors and other was imagine that you
actors and other was imagine that you have an issue and maybe you get rough
have an issue and maybe you get rough
have an issue and maybe you get rough handled by the police or the soldier you
handled by the police or the soldier you
handled by the police or the soldier you know it covers that also covers the
know it covers that also covers the
know it covers that also covers the provisions of persons of their liberty
provisions of persons of their liberty
provisions of persons of their liberty incensed and so many others rip is also
incensed and so many others rip is also
incensed and so many others rip is also part of it too so like I was saying
part of it too so like I was saying
part of it too so like I was saying women you know a lot falls on us I know
women you know a lot falls on us I know
women you know a lot falls on us I know that may sound traditional but you know
that may sound traditional but you know
that may sound traditional but you know the fact that the woman has a job or a
the fact that the woman has a job or a
the fact that the woman has a job or a career is not a reason to not be
career is not a reason to not be
career is not a reason to not be responsible you know where natural
responsible you know where natural
responsible you know where natural Naturals
Naturals
Naturals where the caregivers the homemakers and
where the caregivers the homemakers and
where the caregivers the homemakers and a lot depends on us so we can most check
a lot depends on us so we can most check
a lot depends on us so we can most check our responsibilities yes they meant to I
our responsibilities yes they meant to I
our responsibilities yes they meant to I mean I was happy to hear
mean I was happy to hear
mean I was happy to hear was it mr. Ross Oliver George said
was it mr. Ross Oliver George said
was it mr. Ross Oliver George said something about his him his child and no
something about his him his child and no
something about his him his child and no no it was the artist and the warning he
no it was the artist and the warning he
no it was the artist and the warning he was giving them for wasting food that’s
was giving them for wasting food that’s
was giving them for wasting food that’s training that’s still part of etiquette
training that’s still part of etiquette
training that’s still part of etiquette that he’s teaching his children you know
that he’s teaching his children you know
that he’s teaching his children you know we learn it’s more at home so home is
we learn it’s more at home so home is
we learn it’s more at home so home is the best place where we can raise
the best place where we can raise
the best place where we can raise children that are godly children who
children that are godly children who
children that are godly children who respect themselves and respect each
respect themselves and respect each
respect themselves and respect each other children who support each other
other children who support each other
other children who support each other and you know at one time it was a good
and you know at one time it was a good
and you know at one time it was a good thing to send the children to boarding
thing to send the children to boarding
thing to send the children to boarding school because you feel like it does
school because you feel like it does
school because you feel like it does allow them to learn communal living and
allow them to learn communal living and
allow them to learn communal living and how to get along with other people that
how to get along with other people that
how to get along with other people that are outside their families but is this
are outside their families but is this
are outside their families but is this you know because of the way things have
you know because of the way things have
you know because of the way things have been and the way education has been
been and the way education has been
been and the way education has been sliding downwards you know it’s not it
sliding downwards you know it’s not it
sliding downwards you know it’s not it you have to be very circumspect about
you have to be very circumspect about
you have to be very circumspect about sending your children through to put in
sending your children through to put in
sending your children through to put in schools you have to really check this
schools you have to really check this
schools you have to really check this school and be sure you know one time
school and be sure you know one time
school and be sure you know one time bullying was not allowed all these
bullying was not allowed all these
bullying was not allowed all these things that happen you know that of
things that happen you know that of
things that happen you know that of course goes against the rule of
course goes against the rule of
course goes against the rule of etiquette the child rise at teaches it
etiquette the child rise at teaches it
etiquette the child rise at teaches it gives you it tells us the rights of the
gives you it tells us the rights of the
gives you it tells us the rights of the children it also tells us their own
children it also tells us their own
children it also tells us their own responsibility so it’s two ways you know
responsibility so it’s two ways you know
responsibility so it’s two ways you know that was you don’t seek to have rights
that was you don’t seek to have rights
that was you don’t seek to have rights without responsibilities there are
without responsibilities there are
without responsibilities there are responsibilities and I would like to see
responsibilities and I would like to see
responsibilities and I would like to see if a point or a return of civics and
if a point or a return of civics and
if a point or a return of civics and history to a school curriculum I think
history to a school curriculum I think
history to a school curriculum I think it’s very important that we should learn
it’s very important that we should learn
it’s very important that we should learn were coming from so that we can know
were coming from so that we can know
were coming from so that we can know where we are going and we civics it
where we are going and we civics it
where we are going and we civics it teaches us how to be good citizens it
teaches us how to be good citizens it
teaches us how to be good citizens it will teach the children how to be
will teach the children how to be
will teach the children how to be responsible citizens how to look after
responsible citizens how to look after
responsible citizens how to look after government property with belief and
government property with belief and
government property with belief and knowledge that this property belongs to
knowledge that this property belongs to
knowledge that this property belongs to a government actually is their own so
a government actually is their own so
a government actually is their own so now in domestic violence now we have a
now in domestic violence now we have a
now in domestic violence now we have a plan here present administration Dante’s
plan here present administration Dante’s
plan here present administration Dante’s excellency to build a women’s
excellency to build a women’s
excellency to build a women’s development center and in that center
development center and in that center
development center and in that center there will be a safe home for my trans
there will be a safe home for my trans
there will be a safe home for my trans women is that that you know it has not
women is that that you know it has not
women is that that you know it has not been taught about it before now you know
been taught about it before now you know
been taught about it before now you know where where do these women go when they
where where do these women go when they
where where do these women go when they are battered
are battered
are battered if they have any incidents
if they have any incidents
if they have any incidents and the abuses within the same home as
and the abuses within the same home as
and the abuses within the same home as they are I’m looking forward to a time
they are I’m looking forward to a time
they are I’m looking forward to a time where really we would not have any need
where really we would not have any need
where really we would not have any need for women to leave homes because our
for women to leave homes because our
for women to leave homes because our husbands have a better and you know I
husbands have a better and you know I
husbands have a better and you know I need to stress this point here you
need to stress this point here you
need to stress this point here you cannot beat somebody into submission you
cannot beat somebody into submission you
cannot beat somebody into submission you can’t beat somebody into loving you you
can’t beat somebody into loving you you
can’t beat somebody into loving you you have to love the person into submission
have to love the person into submission
have to love the person into submission also in Reverse states we’re going to
also in Reverse states we’re going to
also in Reverse states we’re going to have a family courts United Nations
have a family courts United Nations
have a family courts United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child
Convention on the Rights of the Child
Convention on the Rights of the Child and the African conventional Convention
and the African conventional Convention
and the African conventional Convention excuse me of the welfare the rights of
excuse me of the welfare the rights of
excuse me of the welfare the rights of the child reports brought in together
the child reports brought in together
the child reports brought in together and different parts were taken from it’s
and different parts were taken from it’s
and different parts were taken from it’s too sweet Pappas’s
too sweet Pappas’s
too sweet Pappas’s in Nigeria and that was not domesticated
in Nigeria and that was not domesticated
in Nigeria and that was not domesticated in a child Rights Act which now has now
in a child Rights Act which now has now
in a child Rights Act which now has now been adopted as the child rights law in
been adopted as the child rights law in
been adopted as the child rights law in Reverse states but it’s sad to know that
Reverse states but it’s sad to know that
Reverse states but it’s sad to know that this child rights law is not in every
this child rights law is not in every
this child rights law is not in every state of Nigeria and you know it’s
state of Nigeria and you know it’s
state of Nigeria and you know it’s especially in the northern part of the
especially in the northern part of the
especially in the northern part of the country that you will find that possibly
country that you will find that possibly
country that you will find that possibly because there is a stated age for
because there is a stated age for
because there is a stated age for marriage there which is 18 years old and
marriage there which is 18 years old and
marriage there which is 18 years old and maybe some people don’t agree with that
maybe some people don’t agree with that
maybe some people don’t agree with that but you know I have a daughter who is
but you know I have a daughter who is
but you know I have a daughter who is going to be 13 next February I look at
going to be 13 next February I look at
going to be 13 next February I look at her and I wonder when I look at her like
her and I wonder when I look at her like
her and I wonder when I look at her like what will the man see in this child you
what will the man see in this child you
what will the man see in this child you know that would be exciting for him I
know that would be exciting for him I
know that would be exciting for him I don’t know it makes me wonder I mean why
don’t know it makes me wonder I mean why
don’t know it makes me wonder I mean why not wait for the child to mature and be
not wait for the child to mature and be
not wait for the child to mature and be ready to look after herself she’s yet to
ready to look after herself she’s yet to
ready to look after herself she’s yet to even understand herself how can she know
even understand herself how can she know
even understand herself how can she know you know give care to another child and
you know give care to another child and
you know give care to another child and this breeds you know child widows
this breeds you know child widows
this breeds you know child widows because most times people who marry
because most times people who marry
because most times people who marry these very young girls are you know much
these very young girls are you know much
these very young girls are you know much much older than they are and of course
much older than they are and of course
much older than they are and of course as nature goes the older will always be
as nature goes the older will always be
as nature goes the older will always be this is the younger so when these men
this is the younger so when these men
this is the younger so when these men die these little girls are not really
die these little girls are not really
die these little girls are not really come out of there at all ascent years
come out of there at all ascent years
come out of there at all ascent years and if they have you know it’s still a
and if they have you know it’s still a
and if they have you know it’s still a struggle and that continues that cycle
struggle and that continues that cycle
struggle and that continues that cycle of poverty you know because I mean what
of poverty you know because I mean what
of poverty you know because I mean what does that child know she may know it
does that child know she may know it
does that child know she may know it would have gone to school so now how can
would have gone to school so now how can
would have gone to school so now how can she fend for this child especially if
she fend for this child especially if
she fend for this child especially if she loses her husband and then of course
she loses her husband and then of course
she loses her husband and then of course she turns poor because she cannot cope
she turns poor because she cannot cope
she turns poor because she cannot cope and this other child may still go
and this other child may still go
and this other child may still go through the same process and in the
through the same process and in the
through the same process and in the child rights as it teaches such things
child rights as it teaches such things
child rights as it teaches such things as you know respect for elders peaceful
as you know respect for elders peaceful
as you know respect for elders peaceful communal living and you know everything
communal living and you know everything
communal living and you know everything good as it used to be in the past that’s
good as it used to be in the past that’s
good as it used to be in the past that’s still deals with etiquette so I um well
still deals with etiquette so I um well
still deals with etiquette so I um well I say blessed really to be the job that
I say blessed really to be the job that
I say blessed really to be the job that has been appointed as a family called
has been appointed as a family called
has been appointed as a family called church and I know it’s going to get busy
church and I know it’s going to get busy
church and I know it’s going to get busy so there’ll be a time thanks there’ll be
so there’ll be a time thanks there’ll be
so there’ll be a time thanks there’ll be a time when we will need to have other
a time when we will need to have other
a time when we will need to have other judges to still because one judge
judges to still because one judge
judges to still because one judge country is on two levels the
country is on two levels the
country is on two levels the magistrate’s court level as well as a
magistrate’s court level as well as a
magistrate’s court level as well as a high court level and this is a way of
high court level and this is a way of
high court level and this is a way of announcing that courts and to enlighten
announcing that courts and to enlighten
announcing that courts and to enlighten us that really you can actually go there
us that really you can actually go there
us that really you can actually go there because issues such as custody of
because issues such as custody of
because issues such as custody of children and in fact the whole essence
children and in fact the whole essence
children and in fact the whole essence of the child rights law is to know to
of the child rights law is to know to
of the child rights law is to know to handle cases that would be in the best
handle cases that would be in the best
handle cases that would be in the best interest of the child so the judge will
interest of the child so the judge will
interest of the child so the judge will seat with Assessors and the judge comes
seat with Assessors and the judge comes
seat with Assessors and the judge comes with a legal background the Assessors
with a legal background the Assessors
with a legal background the Assessors come with the welfare background and
come with the welfare background and
come with the welfare background and together they will look at a case and
together they will look at a case and
together they will look at a case and then see what is best for the child so
then see what is best for the child so
then see what is best for the child so by the grace of God we are going to have
by the grace of God we are going to have
by the grace of God we are going to have better for our children but I always say
better for our children but I always say
better for our children but I always say you know you have to know your rights
you know you have to know your rights
you know you have to know your rights before you can actually enforce it if
before you can actually enforce it if
before you can actually enforce it if you don’t know your rights if you’re
you don’t know your rights if you’re
you don’t know your rights if you’re ignorant of what your right is you
ignorant of what your right is you
ignorant of what your right is you cannot know how to enforce it so it is
cannot know how to enforce it so it is
cannot know how to enforce it so it is important that we need to educate our
important that we need to educate our
important that we need to educate our children by way of printed materials and
children by way of printed materials and
children by way of printed materials and even going on the radio talking having
even going on the radio talking having
even going on the radio talking having different television activities and even
different television activities and even
different television activities and even going to schools is important and as
going to schools is important and as
going to schools is important and as parents telling our children at home
parents telling our children at home
parents telling our children at home what to expect what not to accept what
what to expect what not to accept what
what to expect what not to accept what to speak up about because you know if
to speak up about because you know if
to speak up about because you know if the children don’t know
the children don’t know
the children don’t know not even realize that something wrong is
not even realize that something wrong is
not even realize that something wrong is actually happening to them
actually happening to them
actually happening to them to seek help so it’s important that we
to seek help so it’s important that we
to seek help so it’s important that we should enlighten our children how not to
should enlighten our children how not to
should enlighten our children how not to be touched you know how not to be spoken
be touched you know how not to be spoken
be touched you know how not to be spoken to so that you know with that
to so that you know with that
to so that you know with that understanding there we’ll be in a better
understanding there we’ll be in a better
understanding there we’ll be in a better position to protect themselves because
position to protect themselves because
position to protect themselves because the parents will not be there all the
the parents will not be there all the
the parents will not be there all the time so the children need to know no
time so the children need to know no
time so the children need to know no matter how small your child is it’s not
matter how small your child is it’s not
matter how small your child is it’s not teaching them sex education is very
teaching them sex education is very
teaching them sex education is very important let them know that the private
important let them know that the private
important let them know that the private part is private it is private it’s not
part is private it is private it’s not
part is private it is private it’s not for anybody they need to understand that
for anybody they need to understand that
for anybody they need to understand that because if they don’t a lot of times you
because if they don’t a lot of times you
because if they don’t a lot of times you know it will rip the definition of rape
know it will rip the definition of rape
know it will rip the definition of rape also talks about you know getting
also talks about you know getting
also talks about you know getting consent by means of fraud or
consent by means of fraud or
consent by means of fraud or misrepresentation in the sense that you
misrepresentation in the sense that you
misrepresentation in the sense that you deceive the person to understand that
deceive the person to understand that
deceive the person to understand that act as something else than what it is so
act as something else than what it is so
act as something else than what it is so that you know that qualifies to as rape
that you know that qualifies to as rape
that you know that qualifies to as rape so we need to do more as parents for our
so we need to do more as parents for our
so we need to do more as parents for our children and as fast domestic violence
children and as fast domestic violence
children and as fast domestic violence is concerned we need to of course like I
is concerned we need to of course like I
is concerned we need to of course like I said be more loving be you know I mean I
said be more loving be you know I mean I
said be more loving be you know I mean I don’t think that’s there’s anybody that
don’t think that’s there’s anybody that
don’t think that’s there’s anybody that kind of a managed I don’t think so
kind of a managed I don’t think so
kind of a managed I don’t think so everybody can be understood and money
everybody can be understood and money
everybody can be understood and money and there’s no need for violence because
and there’s no need for violence because
and there’s no need for violence because you know when you do that you actually
you know when you do that you actually
you know when you do that you actually robbed the victim of their self-worth
robbed the victim of their self-worth
robbed the victim of their self-worth and self-esteem you sometimes make them
and self-esteem you sometimes make them
and self-esteem you sometimes make them if they’re walking presence they can’t
if they’re walking presence they can’t
if they’re walking presence they can’t go to court I mean walk because it’s
go to court I mean walk because it’s
go to court I mean walk because it’s funny I said that loving a victim anyway
funny I said that loving a victim anyway
funny I said that loving a victim anyway so I’m saying you know the person stays
so I’m saying you know the person stays
so I’m saying you know the person stays at home to you and maybe has defended me
at home to you and maybe has defended me
at home to you and maybe has defended me I have to like engage a doctor to take
I have to like engage a doctor to take
I have to like engage a doctor to take care of them so monies are going out to
care of them so monies are going out to
care of them so monies are going out to pay this doctor that could happen I’ve
pay this doctor that could happen I’ve
pay this doctor that could happen I’ve avoided money’s not could have been put
avoided money’s not could have been put
avoided money’s not could have been put to better use economically we suffer
to better use economically we suffer
to better use economically we suffer when people who are abused stay at home
when people who are abused stay at home
when people who are abused stay at home and don’t go to work you know so in
and don’t go to work you know so in
and don’t go to work you know so in everything family is everything
everything family is everything
everything family is everything and we all need to get back to the
and we all need to get back to the
and we all need to get back to the basics we all need to go back to how
basics we all need to go back to how
basics we all need to go back to how things used to be how it was working
things used to be how it was working
things used to be how it was working and all need to encourage each other and
and all need to encourage each other and
and all need to encourage each other and of course support each other in every
of course support each other in every
of course support each other in every way we can thank you
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