I remember being young in elementary school and having a presenter come talk
school and having a presenter come talk
school and having a presenter come talk to us about why if we ever saw a
to us about why if we ever saw a
to us about why if we ever saw a refrigerator on the side of the road we
refrigerator on the side of the road we
refrigerator on the side of the road we should not go inside of it being young I
should not go inside of it being young I
should not go inside of it being young I often thought I knew the reason behind
often thought I knew the reason behind
often thought I knew the reason behind things and often thought I was right as
things and often thought I was right as
things and often thought I was right as many children do i disregarded people in
many children do i disregarded people in
many children do i disregarded people in an authority as being unable to
an authority as being unable to
an authority as being unable to contribute much to my strong opinions
contribute much to my strong opinions
contribute much to my strong opinions and so as I was listening to this
and so as I was listening to this
and so as I was listening to this presenter speak about the dangers of
presenter speak about the dangers of
presenter speak about the dangers of discarded fridges all I kept thinking
discarded fridges all I kept thinking
discarded fridges all I kept thinking was of course I want to go on a
was of course I want to go on a
was of course I want to go on a refrigerator on the side of the road I
refrigerator on the side of the road I
refrigerator on the side of the road I wonder what the garbage man to
wonder what the garbage man to
wonder what the garbage man to accidentally pick me up and throw me
accidentally pick me up and throw me
accidentally pick me up and throw me away you see the closer I listened to
away you see the closer I listened to
away you see the closer I listened to this presenter speak
this presenter speak
this presenter speak the sooner I realized the real reason I
the sooner I realized the real reason I
the sooner I realized the real reason I should never go inside of a refrigerator
should never go inside of a refrigerator
should never go inside of a refrigerator inside a fridge air is limited and if
inside a fridge air is limited and if
inside a fridge air is limited and if you become stuck you would suffocate you
you become stuck you would suffocate you
you become stuck you would suffocate you see often when you were young you form
see often when you were young you form
see often when you were young you form misconceptions and little stories in
misconceptions and little stories in
misconceptions and little stories in your head to piece together things you
your head to piece together things you
your head to piece together things you don’t quite understand this is often
don’t quite understand this is often
don’t quite understand this is often seen in victims of sexual abuse in
seen in victims of sexual abuse in
seen in victims of sexual abuse in elementary schools it’s often not talked
elementary schools it’s often not talked
elementary schools it’s often not talked about enough the detrimental effects of
about enough the detrimental effects of
about enough the detrimental effects of sexual abuse on children in elementary
sexual abuse on children in elementary
sexual abuse on children in elementary schools the fact that 90% of children
schools the fact that 90% of children
schools the fact that 90% of children who have been sexually abused know their
who have been sexually abused know their
who have been sexually abused know their perpetrators is simply skipped or
perpetrators is simply skipped or
perpetrators is simply skipped or skimmed over you see I remember being
skimmed over you see I remember being
skimmed over you see I remember being young and sitting in class and learning
young and sitting in class and learning
young and sitting in class and learning about sexual abuse but I remember very
about sexual abuse but I remember very
about sexual abuse but I remember very little we maybe had a class here and one
little we maybe had a class here and one
little we maybe had a class here and one there but was always an awkward
there but was always an awkward
there but was always an awkward conversation and not much was said
conversation and not much was said
conversation and not much was said nobody mentioned you possibly could and
nobody mentioned you possibly could and
nobody mentioned you possibly could and most often would know your perpetrator
most often would know your perpetrator
most often would know your perpetrator and so I grew up forming the
and so I grew up forming the
and so I grew up forming the misconception that sex offenders are
misconception that sex offenders are
misconception that sex offenders are strangers people on the side of the
strangers people on the side of the
strangers people on the side of the street or people that pull up in the big
street or people that pull up in the big
street or people that pull up in the big white van with the free candy sign you
white van with the free candy sign you
white van with the free candy sign you see this is rarely the case
see this is rarely the case
see this is rarely the case as in my story you see my perpetrator
as in my story you see my perpetrator
as in my story you see my perpetrator wasn’t known to the police he didn’t
wasn’t known to the police he didn’t
wasn’t known to the police he didn’t have a criminal record or an uneasy
have a criminal record or an uneasy
have a criminal record or an uneasy smile no my perpetrator was someone I
smile no my perpetrator was someone I
smile no my perpetrator was someone I saw every single day someone put in
saw every single day someone put in
saw every single day someone put in place to care for me he was my
place to care for me he was my
place to care for me he was my stepfather this is not uncommon in fact
stepfather this is not uncommon in fact
stepfather this is not uncommon in fact this most often is the case children in
this most often is the case children in
this most often is the case children in this situation don’t know how to handle
this situation don’t know how to handle
this situation don’t know how to handle their emotions it’s not talked about at
their emotions it’s not talked about at
their emotions it’s not talked about at home and if it is parents don’t usually
home and if it is parents don’t usually
home and if it is parents don’t usually discuss the likelihood of you knowing
discuss the likelihood of you knowing
discuss the likelihood of you knowing your abuser children in this situation
your abuser children in this situation
your abuser children in this situation have a sense of ashamed feeling have
have a sense of ashamed feeling have
have a sense of ashamed feeling have ashamed feelings because they feel they
ashamed feelings because they feel they
ashamed feelings because they feel they did something wrong
did something wrong
did something wrong thus giving way to three reasons they do
thus giving way to three reasons they do
thus giving way to three reasons they do not seek help
not seek help
not seek help the first is fear of retaliation they
the first is fear of retaliation they
the first is fear of retaliation they are afraid this person that’s been close
are afraid this person that’s been close
are afraid this person that’s been close to their family and intertwined in their
to their family and intertwined in their
to their family and intertwined in their lives will find a way to get back at
lives will find a way to get back at
lives will find a way to get back at them for exposing the monster they are
them for exposing the monster they are
them for exposing the monster they are or even hurt the people they love the
or even hurt the people they love the
or even hurt the people they love the most another reason they do not tell is
most another reason they do not tell is
most another reason they do not tell is they are afraid they’re going to ruin
they are afraid they’re going to ruin
they are afraid they’re going to ruin the relationship in many cases including
the relationship in many cases including
the relationship in many cases including mine I loved that person as children you
mine I loved that person as children you
mine I loved that person as children you were taught to trust the people put in
were taught to trust the people put in
were taught to trust the people put in place to protect you
place to protect you
place to protect you thus conflicting with the very emotions
thus conflicting with the very emotions
thus conflicting with the very emotions of being betrayed by someone you trusted
of being betrayed by someone you trusted
of being betrayed by someone you trusted children believe they will not be
children believe they will not be
children believe they will not be listened to they are afraid because they
listened to they are afraid because they
listened to they are afraid because they have been so close to this person that
have been so close to this person that
have been so close to this person that they will not be listened to if they
they will not be listened to if they
they will not be listened to if they cannot tell their parents who can they
cannot tell their parents who can they
cannot tell their parents who can they tell kids are at school roughly 6 hours
tell kids are at school roughly 6 hours
tell kids are at school roughly 6 hours a day 6 hours worth of opportunity the
a day 6 hours worth of opportunity the
a day 6 hours worth of opportunity the problem isn’t the lack of availability
problem isn’t the lack of availability
problem isn’t the lack of availability on the teachers part it’s the door seems
on the teachers part it’s the door seems
on the teachers part it’s the door seems closed the conversation isn’t open and
closed the conversation isn’t open and
closed the conversation isn’t open and the child does not feel it is a topic
the child does not feel it is a topic
the child does not feel it is a topic worth discussing children who have been
worth discussing children who have been
worth discussing children who have been sexually abused cannot escape the
sexually abused cannot escape the
sexually abused cannot escape the negative connotations that follow
negative connotations that follow
negative connotations that follow something they are not responsible for
something they are not responsible for
something they are not responsible for if we do not discuss the problem at a
if we do not discuss the problem at a
if we do not discuss the problem at a young age we miss the chance to protect
young age we miss the chance to protect
young age we miss the chance to protect our children our brain is a crazy
our children our brain is a crazy
our children our brain is a crazy machine that does in imaginable things
machine that does in imaginable things
machine that does in imaginable things and one of those things is to protect
and one of those things is to protect
and one of those things is to protect yourself children who have been sexually
yourself children who have been sexually
yourself children who have been sexually abused often block out memories to cope
abused often block out memories to cope
abused often block out memories to cope with pain they endured and later in life
with pain they endured and later in life
with pain they endured and later in life they will have a relapse or breaking
they will have a relapse or breaking
they will have a relapse or breaking point
point
point this can cause their life in all aspects
this can cause their life in all aspects
this can cause their life in all aspects to fall apart children who are teachers
to fall apart children who are teachers
to fall apart children who are teachers having open conversations with students
having open conversations with students
having open conversations with students about the necessary steps to seek help
about the necessary steps to seek help
about the necessary steps to seek help will save their future you see I hated
will save their future you see I hated
will save their future you see I hated counseling I didn’t want to talk about
counseling I didn’t want to talk about
counseling I didn’t want to talk about how I felt I was so anxious about it I’d
how I felt I was so anxious about it I’d
how I felt I was so anxious about it I’d ask my mom to not tell me of my
ask my mom to not tell me of my
ask my mom to not tell me of my appointments until the very day before
appointments until the very day before
appointments until the very day before so I would only have a single day to
so I would only have a single day to
so I would only have a single day to worry as much as I hated three years of
worry as much as I hated three years of
worry as much as I hated three years of counseling and numerous excuses as to
counseling and numerous excuses as to
counseling and numerous excuses as to why I was absent so often it built me
why I was absent so often it built me
why I was absent so often it built me into a stronger person if I saw my
into a stronger person if I saw my
into a stronger person if I saw my abuser today I could honestly tell him I
abuser today I could honestly tell him I
abuser today I could honestly tell him I forgive him I couldn’t have done
forgive him I couldn’t have done
forgive him I couldn’t have done counseling without my teacher as he shot
counseling without my teacher as he shot
counseling without my teacher as he shot down my peers numerous questions as to
down my peers numerous questions as to
down my peers numerous questions as to why was absent so often and helped
why was absent so often and helped
why was absent so often and helped support me through those triggers and
support me through those triggers and
support me through those triggers and struggles that first year 55% of
struggles that first year 55% of
struggles that first year 55% of children who have been sexually abused
children who have been sexually abused
children who have been sexually abused they’ve been abused in their homes
they’ve been abused in their homes
they’ve been abused in their homes claiming the one place everybody should
claiming the one place everybody should
claiming the one place everybody should feel safe teachers have a greater impact
feel safe teachers have a greater impact
feel safe teachers have a greater impact on students lives than they could ever
on students lives than they could ever
on students lives than they could ever know school was my safe place I wish I
know school was my safe place I wish I
know school was my safe place I wish I would have realized sooner that friends
would have realized sooner that friends
would have realized sooner that friends could love and support me through that
could love and support me through that
could love and support me through that hard time I was convinced it was easier
hard time I was convinced it was easier
hard time I was convinced it was easier to hide my story and this made me feel
to hide my story and this made me feel
to hide my story and this made me feel like an outsider this feeling of
like an outsider this feeling of
like an outsider this feeling of isolation was not something I needed to
isolation was not something I needed to
isolation was not something I needed to feel as there were so many people who
feel as there were so many people who
feel as there were so many people who wanted to love and support me you never
wanted to love and support me you never
wanted to love and support me you never need to feel ashamed about being
need to feel ashamed about being
need to feel ashamed about being sexually abused because you did nothing
sexually abused because you did nothing
sexually abused because you did nothing wrong I cannot stress this enough no
wrong I cannot stress this enough no
wrong I cannot stress this enough no matter what the case you did not deserve
matter what the case you did not deserve
matter what the case you did not deserve it and you did absolutely nothing wrong
it and you did absolutely nothing wrong
it and you did absolutely nothing wrong you do deserve to get to a place in
you do deserve to get to a place in
you do deserve to get to a place in which you are happy and thriving seeking
which you are happy and thriving seeking
which you are happy and thriving seeking help shows the word
help shows the word
help shows the word old and your perpetrator how strong you
old and your perpetrator how strong you
old and your perpetrator how strong you really are I urge you to never fear
really are I urge you to never fear
really are I urge you to never fear sharing your story with your friends
sharing your story with your friends
sharing your story with your friends although it may feel hard to talk about
although it may feel hard to talk about
although it may feel hard to talk about at first your friends can then
at first your friends can then
at first your friends can then understand why you act certain ways you
understand why you act certain ways you
understand why you act certain ways you do through opening up this difficult
do through opening up this difficult
do through opening up this difficult conversation we are helping children who
conversation we are helping children who
conversation we are helping children who have been sexually abused to not fall
have been sexually abused to not fall
have been sexually abused to not fall into a category or a statistic education
into a category or a statistic education
into a category or a statistic education systems that focus on the dangers of
systems that focus on the dangers of
systems that focus on the dangers of familiar faces are paving a safer future
familiar faces are paving a safer future
familiar faces are paving a safer future in which everyone has the right to be
in which everyone has the right to be
in which everyone has the right to be protected by those in authority this is
protected by those in authority this is
protected by those in authority this is coming from someone who was once a
coming from someone who was once a
coming from someone who was once a victim and is now a Victoire
victim and is now a Victoire
victim and is now a Victoire my name’s jasmine your image and I’m
my name’s jasmine your image and I’m
my name’s jasmine your image and I’m unstoppable thank you
unstoppable thank you
unstoppable thank you [Applause]
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