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they are cool my sneakers
I love my sneakers yet it is enough
of a criticism and I find myself at
next to my pumps
immediately I can roadways and
I can not even land in
godasses of each other and there you as much
to say it’s not my size is not my
color and it’s not my style
I adopt I adopt his point of view and
you face criticism or health
how to think a little
at home at work
a criticism when you feel face
to a criticism offered a small poll
we will check if like me when you
receive a review
you feel a little cut in
your moose raise your hand if you are
like me I feel less alone lifting the
hand if you smell like a little
discomfort with a criticism
that’s me then facing a criticism
I have something to make my life more
beautiful and tonight I came to you
present and share you a little
nonviolent communication process
because his wife helps to find
my sneakers and the peace that goes with
to explain how it works
I will tell you how I have
walked with a criticism that I
received about my show
so it was a year ago two years ago
maybe finally two in two years the
start of my second show
representation
I invite Jul and I am hyper
confident I’m sure it’s okay
please because I’m told that my
show he ‘ll be able to be reimbursed
by social security
it feels a bit like a
antidepressant see then I tell him me
I think he counts for me when
even huh I often work with her
I love what she does this girl I
even tells me that on this occasion we
could become girlfriends both
except at the exit and guarana
the yonne what took you to do
something like that
anything to do that
so on the spot there I could not at all
listened to him and then I was as stunned
I had become the shadow of myself
I was out of myself I had
Canton roadways things like that
immediately we can adopt a vision
binary of the world
we play a little game bowling
wrongly who is right
so right now I said no no no
man then and this girl is
completely crazy said anything
and then surely go jealous so I have
thought a little bit then the next day
well i landed in his sneakers
see I took his point of view there
it sure is a for sure if there
no one like that, I can I can stop
so we can also like that of a
day to day but also a second
to water must solve them and the reason
and no it’s wrong here and it’s like
that we lose foot
This is what happened to me
it was the beginning of my tour myself
I was so ashamed that I told you
more about my show to anyone
for weeks
and then I preferred to avoid julie and her
friends because I had it just
want to tell him his four truths to
julie remember that at this point in
to mean to the other his four
truths
that’s how we trigger
wars there me it was not my preference
so here it was really I was
really happy to have discovered the
nonviolent communication process
with marshall rosenberg this process
it’s an art of living with oneself
with the others
in benevolence the art of good
live together and when we practice this
little process we know that living next door
of his pumps because of a criticism and
did not think a fatality
so how did I do it but the day
where I decided to find a little bit
my shoes
I took my notebook on the shelf in
the kitchen I sat down I got
did my little coffee and there I noticed all
my judgments
yeah you could have said that you would have said
there isabelle sends heavy on julie and
Yes that’s it
at this stage by ruminating one buckles against
the other one will make images
of enemies then the process of
nonviolent communication but what is
what it is these 5 4 steps first
step
observation of mixtures we
observations of our judgments
we objectively observe what we
let’s see what we mean second
step the feelings then there we
welcome our feelings our emotions
and our moods and what is
interesting is to see them a little
little like flashers on a board
because it gives you keys
to decode our frustrations third
step need I connect to my
deep aspirations to my values to
my dreams 4th step
that’s how I’m going to be able
take action in conscience and I
am going to make a request to the other to me at
someone else
so how does it work it gives a
example with julie because there there
had matter I could translate my
judgments about her and me in
deep aspiration I judge her of a
scratch there julie it makes a judgment so
I observe
first step what am I hearing
I hear it’s useless to do his ba
yes, but when I hear that, I’m
feeling upset because finally I
need some recognition there I need
of recognition for all efforts
that it asked me you arrived for
to get there
I need recognition for all
the supports that encouraged me to
go there
and then and so much to tell you that my
children they still agreed to
share their room so we can
or part of the house to finance
the project so I also needed to
recognition for my children
I was grateful to discover
that’s why I asked myself I
I told myself but your dealer
children thank you for all the heart tone and
that’s with this process 11th ‘four
steps it’s simple we can walk to
over days except that in real life
once it’s been tough because it made me
took time it took me almost everything
a summer of doing that so obviously I
received from the empathy of my entourage he
counted a lot for me at that moment
there but I also liked to remember
from what thomas told me in this
handsome him 1 c1 but trainer at the
nonviolent communication
he had told me isabelle to be happy
it’s not necessarily comfortable
it’s also the title of one of his books
but frankly it gave me
courage to take back my notebook and
give me my task to practice this
process I give you another example
at this point there judged null julie but yes
but I judged her had but what
I’m watching the first step
I observe what I’m trying to
run away while I hoped we were going
become copy I feel so disappointed
because I wish I needed
complicity with her so I did a
ask a girlfriend
jude go there
organize a little dinner with julie we go
redo the connection together that’s with
this benevolence process with me
it is the first step towards peace
kindness with the other I find
Gently peace in my sneakers of
tranquility inside and so at this
stage one can also accommodate the other
with his feelings and needs
except me in my story
she was never able to come to dinner
I could not talk to him at the same time
the advantage with this process is that
people are there or not we can
connect from chorus to heart
I did it with her she said it serves
nothing to do that yeah that’s surely
that she was disappointed because she did not
not find what she was hoping for and by
she has the right to have dreams
to dream is a universal need me
also I have the hand and then another
example she had not said she had
need consistency on three points
but finally I was pretty touched
to hear that because I had the same
aspiration then I went to
the action I went he had read
read your text you check the consistency
text with departure intentions
and then you take the opportunity to add
sources by the way I even realize
finally that if she had not come
it’s probably because they were
overwhelmed and then I remembered that
people do not often measure
the impact that their words can know
on us as a stimulus on our
injury
that’s good with me
kindness with each other with this
process we find peace in its
sneakers and it’s from this place
where we can see the criticism as a
gift the gift of what is alive
at the other the gift of what is
important for him just a bad gift
packed then I’m happy
to have known all that because I
found peace in my sneakers and
I contacted me again landouar that it
allowed me to play I believe that 45
dates until today is to cumulate
6000 spectators in total
I had plenty of support and I’m all
excited so to write my second
show
so I tell you people I’m more afraid
of criticism but I feel a whole
little bit more equipped but still a
little vulnerable then in the end
I do not think anyone
request to be somewhere else than in our
sneakers it’s not easy to cross
the trials of life
but it’s possible it’s possible to
to open your heart if you know
welcome life that we go through
in kindness
it’s possible if, like me, we learned
to do it then the good news is
to live peace in his sneakers and
Well, it’s like cycling and
there is no age to start
thank you
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