good evening good evening I’m fine
because I put myself the same
pressure to live up to your
expectations tonight is there like
usually when I show myself
others I have as a doubt
because I am
enough as it should and this doubt
in fact it’s a varnish it’s a small
layer over a fear a fear that
has been there for a long time
fear of being criticized deemed rejected and
to find myself here now in front of
everyone
only one in the world is here again
time I found a source at this
scared my first day of school
very interesting
I remember a lot of faces
strangers who look at me a bit like
now
roughly speaking then I remember having
was scared and then sad
like nothing happen I stole a
big tantrum and then I got
caught by the bottom of my pants and
I was put under the water tap
cold until I shut up this
day there I learned that being like he
do not show your emotions in
public
so I kept silent for 35 years 35
years spent in my mind to do in
so that no emotion goes beyond
during that time obviously I
captured begins to work at
the school to be like it is to be
a good little wise student like that
we have peace of respect
needless to say I have carded to
the primary school actually it was
simple in the end I was first of
school and that day the day I
received my newsletter remember
to be found in the yard of
recreation with a weird thing
I should have been proud and happy
I was alive
completely dissatisfied I told myself
inside it’s nice to be like
it is necessary but me in there
good it was unconscious so I
continued and during my teenage years
I was a nice ideal son-in-law
smiling nice I was trying to do in
kind of to be like I thought that
the other waited for me to be brief I
wearing full masks and I
did not think it was too much and
it worked until one of my
friends tell me it’s great listening is great
everyone has found clever
it’s a shame he could also have to
find nice and the snow told me
stop
what happened
how did she come to no longer
dare to show who I really was
how did she come to no longer
to be free to be me the answer
in three words thirst for
recognition
so that was it was a part of
my story but I would have just as
well could talk about your stories
different stories even fight us
we all crave recognition because
that we are human beings
and it lasts like that since two hundred
thousand years let’s take a man and a woman
standard let’s look closer at no
fangs no claws no venom in
their natural environment and that
other wild beasts
no competitive advantage except one
brain and it’s on him that they have
bet we can not win a fight at a
against a no problem we go in
organize one to ten against one if the being
human reigns on the planet
today it’s because he was
able to develop a collaboration
like no other
and to collaborate there is a step
fundamental important and essential
must realize that we are facing
another human being
and then crowd let him know
through a if that’s the rebirth
a sign of recognition
it’s human exchange unit a
sign that we recognize that the other
exists and in addition
that it has value then they do not have
all the same energy value them
signs of recognition
there are some who are weak as a like
on facebook or a weak salute
recognition there are some who have a big
energy value as a compliment
a love word a hug and then has
which are potentially destructive
as a reprimand a remark a
gesture of rejection but that we will come back
for now we will stay in a
ideal world and in this ideal world
everyone exchange full of signs
positive recognition and is growing in
energy that’s the wow effect
like in war I love what you do
wow it’s great like your clothes
years inspires thoroughly waouh
you’re all here tonight ben me
it touches me thank you so for what
is awesome in this story it’s
that it’s a new economic order
based on an economy
abundance the signs of recognition
are free we can give as many
we want when we receive it we win
energy and we do not lose it when we
in revolutionary gives so why
are not we all filled with a
super and nice positive energy because
that the signs of recognition that
receives he speaks to our mask
social the social mask that’s what we
show to others for is accepted he
are two forces that pushes us to sort
a little what we show the first
the desire to collaborate
dixit the hamlets sapiens the second
it’s fear the fear of rejection because
we humans understood that
there is 7500 generation be rejected
it’s a bit like dying take a
homo sapiens child between 0 and 3 years old
imagine that his lab clan are giving their
forgiveness efforts leave him alone in
nature
no chance of survival is clear so
for a child to be accepted by his
clan is not a luxury
it’s an obligation it’s a
need it must be recognized and at
from there they exist
and in addition he has a place on this
earth then in an ideal world because
I really like the world
be video and good reasons small
sapiens flourishes in five stages
on the one hand there are two people in the
clan who specifically take care
of him and who surround him with their love
that’s his parents thanks to
that he will understand that he is kind
and that he can trust
the other one and all the relationships that’s going
to live from that one must be
based on this trust and this
relationship
then he will learn because his
parents are pushing him to
unravel alone he will learn
autonomy and will remember that he can
to trust him he knows how to do it
clan valve does the congratulate each
once he succeeds in a tricky trick
who makes his first fire that picks his
first fruit and of that he holds that
he’s worth he has the estimate for
him the clan is on the lookout for all
information swans to their little
sapiens we propose him first
to express everything he feels and then
once we have a thousand languages
point to say everything they think of
there he learns that in fact he is free
to express themselves and finally the clan enacts
rules because in life
wild
we do not survive no matter how he
must be careful and his little sister
piaf learns that there are limits to this
who can do and in the end we have a small
sapiens who is big a big capital
personal trust by mimicry he
interacts with everyone he sends
positive signs of recognition
with a high energy value and
the clan he is super plaintiffs because
that it increases the general energy and
in addition better people collaborate more
the clan is likely to survive in
this ideal world
everyone is fulfilled and all the
the world is free to be himself or
excellent so here I was not
homo sapiens in any case not to
the time I am right now and
no one would ever really
what was happening at that time
I could have taken it now
before taking now as
example I have four small questions
three four questions to ask yourself is
what you know about people who are
find ugly it does not interest
useful because you know people
which we never know what they think
really or they do not express their
emotion
do you know people who
similarly doubt a point that even he
sometimes have to reassure them a little bit
time
well these people they just did not have the
chance of little sapiens worse they live
the paradox of rejection out of fear of being
rejected they rejected themselves
left of themselves like that they are
not judged they are not bad
in these people there in these people there
no longer speaks of thirst for recognition
we talk about lack of recognition
because these parties that they miss
it’s gone they projected it
their lack there are several reasons
possible at its the first this poses the
family in the family we all have a
role we are the eldest we are the case of e
one and the intello on is the manual the
terrestrial lectra darling it’s a role
and in that role maybe we can
not express who really needed it
a nice school head the school a
beautiful mold in which we must return
and that makes me well we are
indicates all our mistakes in red
it’s the left part for the same
price we are told everything we know
to do is just best for
children’s self-esteem
it can also come from society
current with its models and
models that make us think that everything
in fact I’m too big I come back
to play sports if I do not buy the
last smartphone I was going for a
sucks
there are many other possibilities but
I just wanted to get your attention
on the fact that the look we’re wearing
on people and our expectations have a
weight they have power over them they
can start their beautiful their handsome
capital the personal trust capital
each mode and valuing each
notice each criticism
every rejection gesture has an impact on
the people who receive it is
maybe after bach they go over to
enamels show all they are they
will lose confidence in themselves they will get themselves
find null
that’s what it’s all about
joke
so nobody is responsible
parties that took her away from him for
to be accepted but it belongs to us
now to take care of it like
said jean paul sartre you ‘re not
responsible for what we did with you
but you are responsible for what you do
what we did with you so here we go
the time has come to recognize our
qualities of human beings and not
quality just short for that I
am coach me i do work people
the best way is a small
experience
so I will offer you if the means
turning the second room
I will propose to all people
at the end of the row to turn towards the
king than right or their neighbor’s
right is to train fathers like
that until the end disturb me I you
pray
if ever at the end of the row you
find everything alone
well you can make a pair with the
person in front of or behind you ok
you are there
the setpoint it’s going to be very simple
wait until I finish before you
launch i invite all people to
left to make a compliment to the
right person and all
right people are entitled and
the obligation but in right to a single and
single word thank you please
It’s perfect
it was the first part of
experience the second part she
is called reciprocal one freezes prompt
the people who have just received
a compliment to make a compliment to
the person who just hiked with
the same instruction the person who
this time is entitled to only one
and unique word thanks second rank
you are super there so now I
simply invite you if you have
found this experience comfortable to
raise the hand that found this
comfortable experience
super it’s great it’s even
downright encouraging who found
this experience confronting you lift
the hand also
it’s nice thanks for your
courage and it’s really fun
great and I just have two questions to
to ask you
am I used to finally that I would like
you asked yourself are used to giving
and to receive signs of
positive recognition what effect it makes me
do we go one step further and I
will invite you to contact
with the parts of yourself that you
have bought over time and for that
we are going to make super simple we will take
a model is what works best
so I invite you to guess the
person I’m talking to
it has the following qualities has them
qualities to continue without but
it has the following qualities
he is someone who trusts him
and who is autonomous here is
someone who tries things that
interest him and when it does not work
who gets up pretty quickly
he is someone who is close to his
emotions that express them easily
because they listen to them
it’s someone who can say no but
who is on his way who is who has
all the skills you have
visualize this person
when I do the exercise with my
coaches and I answer them this this
nobody is you at two years old
so here are all the parts that we
have repressed self over time
they are there in us for the
to re-master must simply change
the look we have on ourselves
and for his last question for the
road
I will invite you to remember
who was the hero of your childhood
the person or the person to whom you
really wanted to look like and
what was his main value his
competence its quality
you remember from
today I invite you to change
things to reclaim you all
your being in full to be an actor
of your lives and not part time actor or
half shadow actors actors of your
lives it starts here and now and
it starts with a few sentences
simple
I invite you all to tell you I have my
place here I can express myself what I
think and what I feel I trust
in me I am autonomous and I have some
value I have qualities and the
first of them if you ever
need a base to get started
the first of them is the one
that you recognized in the hero of
your childhood
from the moment you saw it
at his place thanks
[Applause]
”
Be First to Comment