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Embracing My Authenticity | Brooke Clariday | TEDxStevensonU


I want all of you to visualize a story

I want all of you to visualize a story something that you remember it could

something that you remember it could

something that you remember it could either be a story you heard when you

either be a story you heard when you

either be a story you heard when you were a kid a great book childhood memory

were a kid a great book childhood memory

were a kid a great book childhood memory it could be a snapchat story that’s fine

it could be a snapchat story that’s fine

it could be a snapchat story that’s fine it could also be a great novel but I

it could also be a great novel but I

it could also be a great novel but I want you to keep that in the back of

want you to keep that in the back of

want you to keep that in the back of your head as we go through this

your head as we go through this

your head as we go through this presentation today I remember when I

presentation today I remember when I

presentation today I remember when I went to college I was promised that you

went to college I was promised that you

went to college I was promised that you are going to go to college and you’re

are going to go to college and you’re

are going to go to college and you’re going to get a great degree and that

going to get a great degree and that

going to get a great degree and that means that you’re going to get a job and

means that you’re going to get a job and

means that you’re going to get a job and what we’ve learned in this postmodern

what we’ve learned in this postmodern

what we’ve learned in this postmodern era is that unfortunately takes a lot

era is that unfortunately takes a lot

era is that unfortunately takes a lot more than having a college degree it

more than having a college degree it

more than having a college degree it takes having a fantastic piece of paper

takes having a fantastic piece of paper

takes having a fantastic piece of paper that is supposed to say who you are what

that is supposed to say who you are what

that is supposed to say who you are what your career strengths are going to be

your career strengths are going to be

your career strengths are going to be and why you’d be a good employer or

and why you’d be a good employer or

and why you’d be a good employer or employee it’s this little piece of paper

employee it’s this little piece of paper

employee it’s this little piece of paper a resume it’s a daunting task and I know

a resume it’s a daunting task and I know

a resume it’s a daunting task and I know some of you might be thinking what does

some of you might be thinking what does

some of you might be thinking what does this 22 year old know about resumes well

this 22 year old know about resumes well

this 22 year old know about resumes well in the course of my time at Stephenson

in the course of my time at Stephenson

in the course of my time at Stephenson and the course of when I’ve been a

and the course of when I’ve been a

and the course of when I’ve been a student employee or if the right

student employee or if the right

student employee or if the right internships I’ve had a total of 10 jobs

internships I’ve had a total of 10 jobs

internships I’ve had a total of 10 jobs in three years I have gotten the

in three years I have gotten the

in three years I have gotten the privilege and the honor of sitting in on

privilege and the honor of sitting in on

privilege and the honor of sitting in on job resumes of hearing about what

job resumes of hearing about what

job resumes of hearing about what employers want and also working with my

employers want and also working with my

employers want and also working with my friends and I remember when I sat down

friends and I remember when I sat down

friends and I remember when I sat down to write my resume this is what I kept

to write my resume this is what I kept

to write my resume this is what I kept thinking what is it right how’s the

thinking what is it right how’s the

thinking what is it right how’s the layout supposed to look like everyone

layout supposed to look like everyone

layout supposed to look like everyone has a different idea of a set of rules

has a different idea of a set of rules

has a different idea of a set of rules should I put my address on it what’s

should I put my address on it what’s

should I put my address on it what’s going to be actually on it can you

going to be actually on it can you

going to be actually on it can you please explain it to me and I found that

please explain it to me and I found that

please explain it to me and I found that throughout the time that I’ve been

throughout the time that I’ve been

throughout the time that I’ve been working on my resume or helping other

working on my resume or helping other

working on my resume or helping other people with theirs the only rule I can

people with theirs the only rule I can

people with theirs the only rule I can really tell you that works and is what

really tell you that works and is what

really tell you that works and is what you need to remember when you go home

you need to remember when you go home

you need to remember when you go home today is to be authentic that’s a

today is to be authentic that’s a

today is to be authentic that’s a daunting word authenticity or authentic

daunting word authenticity or authentic

daunting word authenticity or authentic what does it actually mean because for

what does it actually mean because for

what does it actually mean because for everyone here what’s so cool is that

everyone here what’s so cool is that

everyone here what’s so cool is that it’s a different story for all of you

it’s a different story for all of you

it’s a different story for all of you and the most important narrative you’re

and the most important narrative you’re

and the most important narrative you’re probably going to leave from college

probably going to leave from college

probably going to leave from college with is this little piece of paper your

with is this little piece of paper your

with is this little piece of paper your resume and it’s a three step process

resume and it’s a three step process

resume and it’s a three step process that we’re going to go through on how to

that we’re going to go through on how to

that we’re going to go through on how to achieve authenticity in resumes its to

achieve authenticity in resumes its to

achieve authenticity in resumes its to know

know

know Oh your story right know who you are

Oh your story right know who you are

Oh your story right know who you are know what you’re going to talk about

know what you’re going to talk about

know what you’re going to talk about realizing that style unfortunately does

realizing that style unfortunately does

realizing that style unfortunately does speak a little bit higher than maybe it

speak a little bit higher than maybe it

speak a little bit higher than maybe it should and the third and the hardest

should and the third and the hardest

should and the third and the hardest unfortunately is owning it making sure

unfortunately is owning it making sure

unfortunately is owning it making sure that you know who you are and that

that you know who you are and that

that you know who you are and that you’re capable of going out and being

you’re capable of going out and being

you’re capable of going out and being okay with it so the first the easiest

okay with it so the first the easiest

okay with it so the first the easiest one right knowing your story it seems

one right knowing your story it seems

one right knowing your story it seems like it would be a simple answer but

like it would be a simple answer but

like it would be a simple answer but what we know about the way that humans

what we know about the way that humans

what we know about the way that humans remember facts and the way that we all

remember facts and the way that we all

remember facts and the way that we all process information is that a story or a

process information is that a story or a

process information is that a story or a narrative is more memorable than fact

narrative is more memorable than fact

narrative is more memorable than fact meaning that the way that you pronounce

meaning that the way that you pronounce

meaning that the way that you pronounce a fact or what you memorize things for

a fact or what you memorize things for

a fact or what you memorize things for classes whether it’s that story I

classes whether it’s that story I

classes whether it’s that story I mentioned earlier you remember it

mentioned earlier you remember it

mentioned earlier you remember it because it was told to you in a

because it was told to you in a

because it was told to you in a meaningful way it was told to you in a

meaningful way it was told to you in a

meaningful way it was told to you in a way that made sense and what we know

way that made sense and what we know

way that made sense and what we know about memorization these three words up

about memorization these three words up

about memorization these three words up here if I were to ask you to please

here if I were to ask you to please

here if I were to ask you to please memorize these three words when you

memorize these three words when you

memorize these three words when you leave here today most of you might be

leave here today most of you might be

leave here today most of you might be able to probably half the room right

able to probably half the room right

able to probably half the room right Harry Potter horse and table but let’s

Harry Potter horse and table but let’s

Harry Potter horse and table but let’s say that these are going on your resume

say that these are going on your resume

say that these are going on your resume I know they wouldn’t but practical I

I know they wouldn’t but practical I

I know they wouldn’t but practical I love Harry Potter I love horses and I

love Harry Potter I love horses and I

love Harry Potter I love horses and I like to draw on tables so that’s why we

like to draw on tables so that’s why we

like to draw on tables so that’s why we picked those words instead of just

picked those words instead of just

picked those words instead of just listing them make them have context

listing them make them have context

listing them make them have context that’s the most important thing you can

that’s the most important thing you can

that’s the most important thing you can do it needs to have context or to tell a

do it needs to have context or to tell a

do it needs to have context or to tell a story so instead of just trying to

story so instead of just trying to

story so instead of just trying to remember Harry Potter Horse table make

remember Harry Potter Horse table make

remember Harry Potter Horse table make it a story Harry Potter drew a horse on

it a story Harry Potter drew a horse on

it a story Harry Potter drew a horse on the table is something that you’ll be

the table is something that you’ll be

the table is something that you’ll be able to remember and take away from and

able to remember and take away from and

able to remember and take away from and we think about a resume that’s essential

we think about a resume that’s essential

we think about a resume that’s essential when I was 18 I took a writing class was

when I was 18 I took a writing class was

when I was 18 I took a writing class was actually songwriting and it has stuck

actually songwriting and it has stuck

actually songwriting and it has stuck with me ever since and it’s the idea

with me ever since and it’s the idea

with me ever since and it’s the idea that instead of just being very broad

that instead of just being very broad

that instead of just being very broad you should be specific mr. Bishop would

you should be specific mr. Bishop would

you should be specific mr. Bishop would say this to me all the time and it’s the

say this to me all the time and it’s the

say this to me all the time and it’s the more specific you are the more memorable

more specific you are the more memorable

more specific you are the more memorable and relatable it actually is and I think

and relatable it actually is and I think

and relatable it actually is and I think often unfortunately we think the

often unfortunately we think the

often unfortunately we think the opposite we think broad terms and forms

opposite we think broad terms and forms

opposite we think broad terms and forms of writing

of writing

of writing are going to be more memorable broad

are going to be more memorable broad

are going to be more memorable broad terms and form of speaking and thinking

terms and form of speaking and thinking

terms and form of speaking and thinking about your hashtags and things that we

about your hashtags and things that we

about your hashtags and things that we use they’re very broad term but when you

use they’re very broad term but when you

use they’re very broad term but when you make it relatable and make it super

make it relatable and make it super

make it relatable and make it super specific people actually remember more

specific people actually remember more

specific people actually remember more and I always talk about the Beatles one

and I always talk about the Beatles one

and I always talk about the Beatles one of my favorite and inspirational music

of my favorite and inspirational music

of my favorite and inspirational music groups growing up their lyrics really

groups growing up their lyrics really

groups growing up their lyrics really speak well so I don’t know how many of

speak well so I don’t know how many of

speak well so I don’t know how many of you know a guy named Jude maybe you do

you know a guy named Jude maybe you do

you know a guy named Jude maybe you do maybe you don’t but it’s still specific

maybe you don’t but it’s still specific

maybe you don’t but it’s still specific it’s a very specific lyric in this song

it’s a very specific lyric in this song

it’s a very specific lyric in this song but somehow someway all of us find a way

but somehow someway all of us find a way

but somehow someway all of us find a way to relate ourselves into it not all of

to relate ourselves into it not all of

to relate ourselves into it not all of us are in a band and all of us are

us are in a band and all of us are

us are in a band and all of us are singing not all of us are performing but

singing not all of us are performing but

singing not all of us are performing but those lyrics and why they’re memorable

those lyrics and why they’re memorable

those lyrics and why they’re memorable or because they’re specific they paint a

or because they’re specific they paint a

or because they’re specific they paint a picture they don’t just tell you they

picture they don’t just tell you they

picture they don’t just tell you they show you so when we talk about resumes

show you so when we talk about resumes

show you so when we talk about resumes specifically because that’s what I’m

specifically because that’s what I’m

specifically because that’s what I’m here to talk about this is actually from

here to talk about this is actually from

here to talk about this is actually from a student that I helped with a resume so

a student that I helped with a resume so

a student that I helped with a resume so she went away to New Orleans and worked

she went away to New Orleans and worked

she went away to New Orleans and worked on a home rebuilding project and she had

on a home rebuilding project and she had

on a home rebuilding project and she had this up on her resume and it was a it

this up on her resume and it was a it

this up on her resume and it was a it was very minimal but it’s still specific

was very minimal but it’s still specific

was very minimal but it’s still specific but it’s still a little bit broad

but it’s still a little bit broad

but it’s still a little bit broad because what’s this missing is context

because what’s this missing is context

because what’s this missing is context so instead of saying managed a team of

so instead of saying managed a team of

so instead of saying managed a team of students to rebuild homes you can say

students to rebuild homes you can say

students to rebuild homes you can say coordinated 20 students to complete 15%

coordinated 20 students to complete 15%

coordinated 20 students to complete 15% of a home rebuild project over the

of a home rebuild project over the

of a home rebuild project over the course of one week a little bit more

course of one week a little bit more

course of one week a little bit more powerful because you can visualize it

powerful because you can visualize it

powerful because you can visualize it you see exactly what that context is and

you see exactly what that context is and

you see exactly what that context is and that is what puts you way ahead of those

that is what puts you way ahead of those

that is what puts you way ahead of those five second resume clips so not everyone

five second resume clips so not everyone

five second resume clips so not everyone obviously has as much experience or is

obviously has as much experience or is

obviously has as much experience or is gone a home rebuild project but that

gone a home rebuild project but that

gone a home rebuild project but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have context

doesn’t mean that you can’t have context

doesn’t mean that you can’t have context now the second little piece of this

now the second little piece of this

now the second little piece of this process of authenticity

process of authenticity

process of authenticity the first was know your story and now

the first was know your story and now

the first was know your story and now second we’re going to talk about style

second we’re going to talk about style

second we’re going to talk about style and I’m talking about style in terms of

and I’m talking about style in terms of

and I’m talking about style in terms of in terms of layout but also in terms of

in terms of layout but also in terms of

in terms of layout but also in terms of your personal style

your personal style

your personal style so another theater I was a theater nerd

so another theater I was a theater nerd

so another theater I was a theater nerd growing up loved theater and my

growing up loved theater and my

growing up loved theater and my professor at the time

professor at the time

professor at the time when I was 18 had each of our theater

when I was 18 had each of our theater

when I was 18 had each of our theater students walk into the room and sit down

students walk into the room and sit down

students walk into the room and sit down silently on a chair and the idea was we

silently on a chair and the idea was we

silently on a chair and the idea was we were supposed to gather what who that

were supposed to gather what who that

were supposed to gather what who that person was just based on how they walked

person was just based on how they walked

person was just based on how they walked into the room I will never forget that

into the room I will never forget that

into the room I will never forget that because it was the most memorable

because it was the most memorable

because it was the most memorable experience of how who you are when the

experience of how who you are when the

experience of how who you are when the second you walk into a room is not just

second you walk into a room is not just

second you walk into a room is not just more valuable but it’s what people

more valuable but it’s what people

more valuable but it’s what people remember most and the same goes with

remember most and the same goes with

remember most and the same goes with your resume because yes you might have

your resume because yes you might have

your resume because yes you might have great content but if it doesn’t look

great content but if it doesn’t look

great content but if it doesn’t look good doesn’t sound good then people are

good doesn’t sound good then people are

good doesn’t sound good then people are not going to forget it so what does it

not going to forget it so what does it

not going to forget it so what does it say about who you are as far as terms of

say about who you are as far as terms of

say about who you are as far as terms of layout I’m a really big proponent I

layout I’m a really big proponent I

layout I’m a really big proponent I don’t agree with the rule that a good

don’t agree with the rule that a good

don’t agree with the rule that a good resume has to be super colorful and

resume has to be super colorful and

resume has to be super colorful and energetic because if you’re not

energetic because if you’re not

energetic because if you’re not energetic colorful person then why is

energetic colorful person then why is

energetic colorful person then why is your resume looking like that

your resume looking like that

your resume looking like that it shouldn’t if your analytical that’s

it shouldn’t if your analytical that’s

it shouldn’t if your analytical that’s okay it doesn’t have to be full of color

okay it doesn’t have to be full of color

okay it doesn’t have to be full of color in order to be meaningful if you’re

in order to be meaningful if you’re

in order to be meaningful if you’re someone who does not like to have it

someone who does not like to have it

someone who does not like to have it that way don’t put it on there it’s okay

that way don’t put it on there it’s okay

that way don’t put it on there it’s okay think about in terms of style when

think about in terms of style when

think about in terms of style when you’re online through various streams of

you’re online through various streams of

you’re online through various streams of content that come out as all the time

content that come out as all the time

content that come out as all the time the people that you probably most relate

the people that you probably most relate

the people that you probably most relate to on if it’s snapchat and Instagram is

to on if it’s snapchat and Instagram is

to on if it’s snapchat and Instagram is that layout the way that it looks from a

that layout the way that it looks from a

that layout the way that it looks from a second that you go on to that page

second that you go on to that page

second that you go on to that page that’s what’s most member like memorable

that’s what’s most member like memorable

that’s what’s most member like memorable to you and meaningful so this is an

to you and meaningful so this is an

to you and meaningful so this is an example of a resume that is a little bit

example of a resume that is a little bit

example of a resume that is a little bit different which is why I picked it as an

different which is why I picked it as an

different which is why I picked it as an example so the number one thing that I

example so the number one thing that I

example so the number one thing that I always tend to talk about is that these

always tend to talk about is that these

always tend to talk about is that these rules break a lot of things that are

rules break a lot of things that are

rules break a lot of things that are told about resumes it’s not supposed to

told about resumes it’s not supposed to

told about resumes it’s not supposed to be flipped right it’s always supposed to

be flipped right it’s always supposed to

be flipped right it’s always supposed to be straightforward this kind of makes

be straightforward this kind of makes

be straightforward this kind of makes the employer have to kind of tilt their

the employer have to kind of tilt their

the employer have to kind of tilt their head if they were going through a bunch

head if they were going through a bunch

head if they were going through a bunch of them which is a great thing because

of them which is a great thing because

of them which is a great thing because it makes them take a second look at your

it makes them take a second look at your

it makes them take a second look at your resume but also the way that she has her

resume but also the way that she has her

resume but also the way that she has her name played out makes our experience

name played out makes our experience

name played out makes our experience more valuable than her education because

more valuable than her education because

more valuable than her education because that’s where your eye goes first and

that’s where your eye goes first and

that’s where your eye goes first and what’s so valuable about that is that

what’s so valuable about that is that

what’s so valuable about that is that every one of us has a different way of

every one of us has a different way of

every one of us has a different way of how organization should be based on your

how organization should be based on your

how organization should be based on your experience your education your skills

experience your education your skills

experience your education your skills and what’s more meaningful to you and

and what’s more meaningful to you and

and what’s more meaningful to you and that’s what’s most important there’s

that’s what’s most important there’s

that’s what’s most important there’s always been the saying in that education

always been the saying in that education

always been the saying in that education should be the first thing on your resume

should be the first thing on your resume

should be the first thing on your resume I don’t agree with that because if you

I don’t agree with that because if you

I don’t agree with that because if you have more experience or more valuable

have more experience or more valuable

have more experience or more valuable experience than you think not to say

experience than you think not to say

experience than you think not to say that education is not valuable because

that education is not valuable because

that education is not valuable because it is thank you Stevenson but what’s

it is thank you Stevenson but what’s

it is thank you Stevenson but what’s most valuable it could be your

most valuable it could be your

most valuable it could be your experience or it could be your skills

experience or it could be your skills

experience or it could be your skills and when we look at my resume I haven’t

and when we look at my resume I haven’t

and when we look at my resume I haven’t laid out in a very specific meeting like

laid out in a very specific meeting like

laid out in a very specific meeting like meaningful way to me I do use color I

meaningful way to me I do use color I

meaningful way to me I do use color I use purple because I want it to say that

use purple because I want it to say that

use purple because I want it to say that I am a confident person I use lowercase

I am a confident person I use lowercase

I am a confident person I use lowercase letters on purpose because I wanted to

letters on purpose because I wanted to

letters on purpose because I wanted to have a different look to it it’s very

have a different look to it it’s very

have a different look to it it’s very very valuable meaningful choices for

very valuable meaningful choices for

very valuable meaningful choices for everything I’m doing the reason that the

everything I’m doing the reason that the

everything I’m doing the reason that the Y goes into skills is because I want you

Y goes into skills is because I want you

Y goes into skills is because I want you to notice that first and then make your

to notice that first and then make your

to notice that first and then make your way down and just to show a little bit

way down and just to show a little bit

way down and just to show a little bit closer of an example we talked about

closer of an example we talked about

closer of an example we talked about experience not everyone is going to have

experience not everyone is going to have

experience not everyone is going to have a whole row of experience and that’s

a whole row of experience and that’s

a whole row of experience and that’s completely okay

completely okay

completely okay I’ve been lucky enough to have that but

I’ve been lucky enough to have that but

I’ve been lucky enough to have that but if you don’t have that put your

if you don’t have that put your

if you don’t have that put your education first or find ways to make

education first or find ways to make

education first or find ways to make your experience have context so now

your experience have context so now

your experience have context so now thirdly probably the hardest and that is

thirdly probably the hardest and that is

thirdly probably the hardest and that is let’s say you’ve done that you’ve gone

let’s say you’ve done that you’ve gone

let’s say you’ve done that you’ve gone through your resume you have your layout

through your resume you have your layout

through your resume you have your layout and you have the thing that speaks to

and you have the thing that speaks to

and you have the thing that speaks to you most you have your story but now you

you most you have your story but now you

you most you have your story but now you have the hard task of taking that and

have the hard task of taking that and

have the hard task of taking that and putting it out there to employers and

putting it out there to employers and

putting it out there to employers and hearing no often or or hearing yes

hearing no often or or hearing yes

hearing no often or or hearing yes hopefully but still you still have to

hopefully but still you still have to

hopefully but still you still have to take it and make it yourself and make it

take it and make it yourself and make it

take it and make it yourself and make it who you are and be okay with it if it is

who you are and be okay with it if it is

who you are and be okay with it if it is you on a page then it’s authentic if

you on a page then it’s authentic if

you on a page then it’s authentic if it’s you at a meeting and you feel

it’s you at a meeting and you feel

it’s you at a meeting and you feel confident in who you are then it’s

confident in who you are then it’s

confident in who you are then it’s authentic the hardest lesson I think I

authentic the hardest lesson I think I

authentic the hardest lesson I think I ever had was when I was 19 I was an IT

ever had was when I was 19 I was an IT

ever had was when I was 19 I was an IT consultant and I had an employer yell at

consultant and I had an employer yell at

consultant and I had an employer yell at me first time it ever happened and he

me first time it ever happened and he

me first time it ever happened and he told me that I was incompetent at my job

told me that I was incompetent at my job

told me that I was incompetent at my job and that I had no business being

and that I had no business being

and that I had no business being consultant at this company I cried I

consultant at this company I cried I

consultant at this company I cried I mean I really cried and what was

mean I really cried and what was

mean I really cried and what was shocking to me most though is that

shocking to me most though is that

shocking to me most though is that everyone at that company that I went to

everyone at that company that I went to

everyone at that company that I went to whether was HR whether it was to my

whether was HR whether it was to my

whether was HR whether it was to my co-workers to my managers is that the

co-workers to my managers is that the

co-workers to my managers is that the reaction was kind of like get over it it

reaction was kind of like get over it it

reaction was kind of like get over it it happens people are going to Yeley and

happens people are going to Yeley and

happens people are going to Yeley and while I disagree with that

while I disagree with that

while I disagree with that somewhat because I don’t think it’s ever

somewhat because I don’t think it’s ever

somewhat because I don’t think it’s ever reasonable for a vice president to yell

reasonable for a vice president to yell

reasonable for a vice president to yell at you owning it means yes they yelled

at you owning it means yes they yelled

at you owning it means yes they yelled at me but I know I did my the right

at me but I know I did my the right

at me but I know I did my the right thing that it’s my job that I handled it

thing that it’s my job that I handled it

thing that it’s my job that I handled it correctly so when I think about my

correctly so when I think about my

correctly so when I think about my resume and I’ve been told multiple times

resume and I’ve been told multiple times

resume and I’ve been told multiple times it the way I have it laid out is wrong

it the way I have it laid out is wrong

it the way I have it laid out is wrong with the way that I speak about it is

with the way that I speak about it is

with the way that I speak about it is incorrect but it’s worked for me it’s

incorrect but it’s worked for me it’s

incorrect but it’s worked for me it’s gotten me the job it’s got me the

gotten me the job it’s got me the

gotten me the job it’s got me the interview and that’s what’s most

interview and that’s what’s most

interview and that’s what’s most important so when you leave here today I

important so when you leave here today I

important so when you leave here today I want all of you to think about your

want all of you to think about your

want all of you to think about your story whether you’ve worked five jobs

story whether you’ve worked five jobs

story whether you’ve worked five jobs whether you are graduating from college

whether you are graduating from college

whether you are graduating from college whether you’re just starting out as a

whether you’re just starting out as a

whether you’re just starting out as a freshman the idea is to be fearless with

freshman the idea is to be fearless with

freshman the idea is to be fearless with it because who you are is what’s most

it because who you are is what’s most

it because who you are is what’s most important on a page that’s what’s going

important on a page that’s what’s going

important on a page that’s what’s going to stand you out from everyone else in

to stand you out from everyone else in

to stand you out from everyone else in the competition so what I want to leave

the competition so what I want to leave

the competition so what I want to leave you with is be fearless Leo thent ‘ok

you with is be fearless Leo thent ‘ok

you with is be fearless Leo thent ‘ok thank you

thank you

thank you [Applause]

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