Critical reflection: a road to empathy and growing relationships | Nirmal Nanayakkara | TEDxQUT

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[Music] empathy walk in another shoes and feel

empathy walk in another shoes and feel

empathy walk in another shoes and feel what the others would feel it’s a

what the others would feel it’s a

what the others would feel it’s a blessing that makes our relationships

blessing that makes our relationships

blessing that makes our relationships grow but too much could be a curse that

grow but too much could be a curse that

grow but too much could be a curse that ends in relationship how much can we

ends in relationship how much can we

ends in relationship how much can we afford to work in another shoes without

afford to work in another shoes without

afford to work in another shoes without feeling compromised and how far should

feeling compromised and how far should

feeling compromised and how far should we walk in another shoes anyway and how

we walk in another shoes anyway and how

we walk in another shoes anyway and how would we know this

would we know this

would we know this my answer is critical reflection

my answer is critical reflection

my answer is critical reflection critical thinking involves analyzing

critical thinking involves analyzing

critical thinking involves analyzing inferring and deducing reasons we can

inferring and deducing reasons we can

inferring and deducing reasons we can analyze a partner’s behavior or their

analyze a partner’s behavior or their

analyze a partner’s behavior or their responses through reflection then

responses through reflection then

responses through reflection then through inference and deduction we can

through inference and deduction we can

through inference and deduction we can identify the reasons why they behave the

identify the reasons why they behave the

identify the reasons why they behave the way they did by doing so we can find

way they did by doing so we can find

way they did by doing so we can find their comfort in their own shoes as we

their comfort in their own shoes as we

their comfort in their own shoes as we feel in other shoes reflection before

feel in other shoes reflection before

feel in other shoes reflection before response gives us an opportunity to

response gives us an opportunity to

response gives us an opportunity to choose an appropriate behavior because

choose an appropriate behavior because

choose an appropriate behavior because most often in our relationships we tend

most often in our relationships we tend

most often in our relationships we tend to base our responses on emotive

to base our responses on emotive

to base our responses on emotive reasoning because emotions and real and

reasoning because emotions and real and

reasoning because emotions and real and feelings direct our responses as they

feelings direct our responses as they

feelings direct our responses as they lack that level of critical reflection

lack that level of critical reflection

lack that level of critical reflection sometimes these responses tend to be

sometimes these responses tend to be

sometimes these responses tend to be inconsiderate

inconsiderate

inconsiderate in my life there was plenty of times

in my life there was plenty of times

in my life there was plenty of times where I went oh I should have waited for

where I went oh I should have waited for

where I went oh I should have waited for another minute before I you know

another minute before I you know

another minute before I you know responded to her the way I did should

responded to her the way I did should

responded to her the way I did should have taken another minute thought a

have taken another minute thought a

have taken another minute thought a moment and reflect upon it before I

moment and reflect upon it before I

moment and reflect upon it before I responded reflecting on own behavior at

responded reflecting on own behavior at

responded reflecting on own behavior at times might reveal our sheer stupidity

times might reveal our sheer stupidity

times might reveal our sheer stupidity but most often and most importantly it

but most often and most importantly it

but most often and most importantly it lets us find our human flows that we

lets us find our human flows that we

lets us find our human flows that we made up of as we stand on this floor

so my message is critical thinking and

so my message is critical thinking and critical reflection helps us find

critical reflection helps us find

critical reflection helps us find empathy and lets us manage our responses

empathy and lets us manage our responses

empathy and lets us manage our responses and most important it gives us an

and most important it gives us an

and most important it gives us an opportunity to avoid those human flows

opportunity to avoid those human flows

opportunity to avoid those human flows and respond with care compassion and

and respond with care compassion and

and respond with care compassion and sensitivity so if we can demonstrate

sensitivity so if we can demonstrate

sensitivity so if we can demonstrate this much of empathy and this level of

this much of empathy and this level of

this much of empathy and this level of understanding and care we through

understanding and care we through

understanding and care we through critical thinking and reflection we

critical thinking and reflection we

critical thinking and reflection we cultivate the room for our relationships

cultivate the room for our relationships

cultivate the room for our relationships to grow and flourish thank you

to grow and flourish thank you

to grow and flourish thank you [Applause]