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Creating Eco-Friendly Families | Elaine J. Cole, Ph.D. | TEDxPortlandCommunityCollegeRockCreek


I’m often asked how can I make a

I’m often asked how can I make a difference I’m just one person as a

difference I’m just one person as a

difference I’m just one person as a sustainability coordinator I can come up

sustainability coordinator I can come up

sustainability coordinator I can come up with all sorts of reasons for you to

with all sorts of reasons for you to

with all sorts of reasons for you to make a difference like riding your bike

make a difference like riding your bike

make a difference like riding your bike to work buying in bulk at the grocery

to work buying in bulk at the grocery

to work buying in bulk at the grocery store and not releasing your exotic pet

store and not releasing your exotic pet

store and not releasing your exotic pet Burmese python into the wild when it

Burmese python into the wild when it

Burmese python into the wild when it gets too big there are all sorts of

gets too big there are all sorts of

gets too big there are all sorts of things that we can do and just imagine

things that we can do and just imagine

things that we can do and just imagine that you are one of a hundred a thousand

that you are one of a hundred a thousand

that you are one of a hundred a thousand or a million people doing the same

or a million people doing the same

or a million people doing the same action small actions do matter but there

action small actions do matter but there

action small actions do matter but there are things that have a greater impact on

are things that have a greater impact on

are things that have a greater impact on the planet I got to thinking about this

the planet I got to thinking about this

the planet I got to thinking about this when I was early in my youth and I saw

when I was early in my youth and I saw

when I was early in my youth and I saw pictures of kids that didn’t have a

pictures of kids that didn’t have a

pictures of kids that didn’t have a family or a house or even a place to

family or a house or even a place to

family or a house or even a place to live and then as a college student when

live and then as a college student when

live and then as a college student when I was studying environmental education

I was studying environmental education

I was studying environmental education in the 80s I learned that the earth has

in the 80s I learned that the earth has

in the 80s I learned that the earth has a limited carrying capacity before the

a limited carrying capacity before the

a limited carrying capacity before the intricate balance begins to Teeter so

intricate balance begins to Teeter so

intricate balance begins to Teeter so what’s up with the Earth’s population

what’s up with the Earth’s population

what’s up with the Earth’s population today well a United Nations Department

today well a United Nations Department

today well a United Nations Department of Economic and Social Affairs report

of Economic and Social Affairs report

of Economic and Social Affairs report recently released has our population at

recently released has our population at

recently released has our population at 7.3 billion it’s predicted to increase

7.3 billion it’s predicted to increase

7.3 billion it’s predicted to increase to eight point five billion by 2030 nine

to eight point five billion by 2030 nine

to eight point five billion by 2030 nine point seven billion by 2050 and over

point seven billion by 2050 and over

point seven billion by 2050 and over eleven billion by the middle of the

eleven billion by the middle of the

eleven billion by the middle of the centre by the 22nd century with this

centre by the 22nd century with this

centre by the 22nd century with this number of people how will this impact

number of people how will this impact

number of people how will this impact our planet well the International Center

our planet well the International Center

our planet well the International Center for Strategic Studies wanted to consider

for Strategic Studies wanted to consider

for Strategic Studies wanted to consider how planet with nine billion people by

how planet with nine billion people by

how planet with nine billion people by the middle of the century would would

the middle of the century would would

the middle of the century would would affect and you know we’re gonna need

affect and you know we’re gonna need

affect and you know we’re gonna need more of lots of things like fresh water

more of lots of things like fresh water

more of lots of things like fresh water more fresh food housing and let’s be

more fresh food housing and let’s be

more fresh food housing and let’s be real enough Legos for all those kids to

real enough Legos for all those kids to

real enough Legos for all those kids to play with and slippers for the parents

play with and slippers for the parents

play with and slippers for the parents that step on them in the middle of the

that step on them in the middle of the

that step on them in the middle of the night to just try and imagine the

night to just try and imagine the

night to just try and imagine the increased demand on all the resources

increased demand on all the resources

increased demand on all the resources you know as Americans we love to buy

you know as Americans we love to buy

you know as Americans we love to buy stuff

stuff

stuff and we love to throw away stuff and

and we love to throw away stuff and

and we love to throw away stuff and before you know it our kids will be

before you know it our kids will be

before you know it our kids will be snowboarding down a mountain of garbage

snowboarding down a mountain of garbage

snowboarding down a mountain of garbage and the snow could be made of plastic

and the snow could be made of plastic

and the snow could be made of plastic pellets instead of the real powder that

pellets instead of the real powder that

pellets instead of the real powder that we get up on Mount Hood well that’s a

we get up on Mount Hood well that’s a

we get up on Mount Hood well that’s a global snapshot for you but what are we

global snapshot for you but what are we

global snapshot for you but what are we seeing closer to home according to the

seeing closer to home according to the

seeing closer to home according to the 2016 US census we’ve got a population of

2016 US census we’ve got a population of

2016 US census we’ve got a population of over 323 million in the States it’s

over 323 million in the States it’s

over 323 million in the States it’s estimated that a child is born every

estimated that a child is born every

estimated that a child is born every eight seconds and here in the Portland

eight seconds and here in the Portland

eight seconds and here in the Portland metro region our comprehensive plan

metro region our comprehensive plan

metro region our comprehensive plan update recently adopted by our City

update recently adopted by our City

update recently adopted by our City Council estimates that over 260 thousand

Council estimates that over 260 thousand

Council estimates that over 260 thousand more people will arrive here 2035

more people will arrive here 2035

more people will arrive here 2035 that’ll bring our population up to about

that’ll bring our population up to about

that’ll bring our population up to about eight hundred and eighty thousand in the

eight hundred and eighty thousand in the

eight hundred and eighty thousand in the city wow you know we’re already seeing

city wow you know we’re already seeing

city wow you know we’re already seeing the growing pains of increased

the growing pains of increased

the growing pains of increased population here can’t you feel it more

population here can’t you feel it more

population here can’t you feel it more cars on the road right rising rental

cars on the road right rising rental

cars on the road right rising rental prices increase water demands but you

prices increase water demands but you

prices increase water demands but you know what thankfully in Portland

know what thankfully in Portland

know what thankfully in Portland there’ll be enough microbreweries for

there’ll be enough microbreweries for

there’ll be enough microbreweries for everybody don’t have to worry so what

everybody don’t have to worry so what

everybody don’t have to worry so what does this mean for us we can talk about

does this mean for us we can talk about

does this mean for us we can talk about sustainability from the perspective of

sustainability from the perspective of

sustainability from the perspective of how far food travels or what our

how far food travels or what our

how far food travels or what our products are made of or maybe what kind

products are made of or maybe what kind

products are made of or maybe what kind of toxins are found in our home but we

of toxins are found in our home but we

of toxins are found in our home but we rarely talk about it from a cultural or

rarely talk about it from a cultural or

rarely talk about it from a cultural or family perspective so what might this

family perspective so what might this

family perspective so what might this mean for living a sustainable lifestyle

mean for living a sustainable lifestyle

mean for living a sustainable lifestyle one of the things that makes humans

one of the things that makes humans

one of the things that makes humans unique is language and culture but I

unique is language and culture but I

unique is language and culture but I think one of the roadblocks that we have

think one of the roadblocks that we have

think one of the roadblocks that we have when we’re talking about overpopulation

when we’re talking about overpopulation

when we’re talking about overpopulation is culture we think it might cause too

is culture we think it might cause too

is culture we think it might cause too much tension to talk about the personal

much tension to talk about the personal

much tension to talk about the personal aspects that our choices create we feel

aspects that our choices create we feel

aspects that our choices create we feel it might cause us to be uncomfortable

it might cause us to be uncomfortable

it might cause us to be uncomfortable for us to want to wade into the unspoken

for us to want to wade into the unspoken

for us to want to wade into the unspoken expectation that you will reproduce if

expectation that you will reproduce if

expectation that you will reproduce if we were to think the old advice think

we were to think the old advice think

we were to think the old advice think globally while acting locally how much

globally while acting locally how much

globally while acting locally how much more local can we get than talking about

more local can we get than talking about

more local can we get than talking about eggs and sperm

eggs and sperm

eggs and sperm how does this population growth affect

how does this population growth affect

how does this population growth affect our sense of self and culture around us

our sense of self and culture around us

our sense of self and culture around us you know even for me coming from a

you know even for me coming from a

you know even for me coming from a blue-collar family I felt as if as if I

blue-collar family I felt as if as if I

blue-collar family I felt as if as if I could achieve the American Dream by one

could achieve the American Dream by one

could achieve the American Dream by one day getting a decent job maybe buying a

day getting a decent job maybe buying a

day getting a decent job maybe buying a home and reproducing those 2.5 children

home and reproducing those 2.5 children

home and reproducing those 2.5 children and being a 21st century career focused

and being a 21st century career focused

and being a 21st century career focused Portland mom I thought I’d just split

Portland mom I thought I’d just split

Portland mom I thought I’d just split that 0.5 kid with another free range

that 0.5 kid with another free range

that 0.5 kid with another free range supporting neighborhood neighbor they

supporting neighborhood neighbor they

supporting neighborhood neighbor they wanted to it’s not just the statistics

wanted to it’s not just the statistics

wanted to it’s not just the statistics that need to be revised as we grow but

that need to be revised as we grow but

that need to be revised as we grow but the way we think about the impact of our

the way we think about the impact of our

the way we think about the impact of our behaviors and the way we live our values

behaviors and the way we live our values

behaviors and the way we live our values I think this is a perfect time for us to

I think this is a perfect time for us to

I think this is a perfect time for us to start to reconsider our our previous

start to reconsider our our previous

start to reconsider our our previous paradigms but how this great opportunity

paradigms but how this great opportunity

paradigms but how this great opportunity for us to rethink our vision of

for us to rethink our vision of

for us to rethink our vision of community as humans we do well in

community as humans we do well in

community as humans we do well in community I mean we like to do sports

community I mean we like to do sports

community I mean we like to do sports together we have hobbies a lot of us

together we have hobbies a lot of us

together we have hobbies a lot of us practice our faith with friends family

practice our faith with friends family

practice our faith with friends family and our social groups but visualize a

and our social groups but visualize a

and our social groups but visualize a world in which we were to reconsider and

world in which we were to reconsider and

world in which we were to reconsider and rethink family and culture and how this

rethink family and culture and how this

rethink family and culture and how this might affect the livability of our

might affect the livability of our

might affect the livability of our planet we can go to world watch

planet we can go to world watch

planet we can go to world watch Institute’s website to study the nine

Institute’s website to study the nine

Institute’s website to study the nine population strategies to stop short of

population strategies to stop short of

population strategies to stop short of nine billion by the middle of century

nine billion by the middle of century

nine billion by the middle of century some of those include providing

some of those include providing

some of those include providing universal safe and effective

universal safe and effective

universal safe and effective contraceptive options for all

contraceptive options for all

contraceptive options for all guaranteeing education through secondary

guaranteeing education through secondary

guaranteeing education through secondary school for both sexes especially girls

school for both sexes especially girls

school for both sexes especially girls and eradicating gender bias from law

and eradicating gender bias from law

and eradicating gender bias from law economic opportunity and education well

economic opportunity and education well

economic opportunity and education well that’s kind of heady stuff of NGOs and

that’s kind of heady stuff of NGOs and

that’s kind of heady stuff of NGOs and international aid workers again I’m

international aid workers again I’m

international aid workers again I’m somebody asked me Elaine what can I do

somebody asked me Elaine what can I do

somebody asked me Elaine what can I do today well there are some things that

today well there are some things that

today well there are some things that you can do today and one of those is the

you can do today and one of those is the

you can do today and one of those is the choices you make in creating a family so

choices you make in creating a family so

choices you make in creating a family so let’s talk about sex

let’s talk about sex

let’s talk about sex okay now that I’ve got your attention

okay now that I’ve got your attention

okay now that I’ve got your attention here are some ways that you can make a

here are some ways that you can make a

here are some ways that you can make a difference one make a plan for yourself

difference one make a plan for yourself

difference one make a plan for yourself with your partner for your future to

with your partner for your future to

with your partner for your future to wait or practice a lot before starting a

wait or practice a lot before starting a

wait or practice a lot before starting a family right enjoy being single take

family right enjoy being single take

family right enjoy being single take that trip on your bucket list do your

that trip on your bucket list do your

that trip on your bucket list do your dating homework but please use

dating homework but please use

dating homework but please use contraceptives number three do the math

contraceptives number three do the math

contraceptives number three do the math yikes do you know that a married couple

yikes do you know that a married couple

yikes do you know that a married couple middle-income with two kids is estimated

middle-income with two kids is estimated

middle-income with two kids is estimated to spend over two hundred and thirty

to spend over two hundred and thirty

to spend over two hundred and thirty three thousand dollars to raise a child

three thousand dollars to raise a child

three thousand dollars to raise a child born in 2015 according to a US

born in 2015 according to a US

born in 2015 according to a US Department of Ag report released in

Department of Ag report released in

Department of Ag report released in January and that’s just from birth to 17

January and that’s just from birth to 17

January and that’s just from birth to 17 it doesn’t even include college yeah

it doesn’t even include college yeah

it doesn’t even include college yeah number four make a choice to be child

number four make a choice to be child

number four make a choice to be child free okay now some of you may recall

free okay now some of you may recall

free okay now some of you may recall this old acronym was around a while ago

this old acronym was around a while ago

this old acronym was around a while ago Dinks not what you’re thinking

Dinks not what you’re thinking

Dinks not what you’re thinking dual income no kids there’s a new one

dual income no kids there’s a new one

dual income no kids there’s a new one ginks stands for green inclination no

ginks stands for green inclination no

ginks stands for green inclination no kids so you know this one’s already

kids so you know this one’s already

kids so you know this one’s already being socially normed so you don’t have

being socially normed so you don’t have

being socially normed so you don’t have to feel like a weirdo with this with

to feel like a weirdo with this with

to feel like a weirdo with this with this choice number five make a choice to

this choice number five make a choice to

this choice number five make a choice to port a child by being a mentor in some

port a child by being a mentor in some

port a child by being a mentor in some way you could be a auntie and uncle a TR

way you could be a auntie and uncle a TR

way you could be a auntie and uncle a TR tio or big brother or big sister this

tio or big brother or big sister this

tio or big brother or big sister this has a very low commitment right you can

has a very low commitment right you can

has a very low commitment right you can take the kids to movies you can go to

take the kids to movies you can go to

take the kids to movies you can go to corn mazes in the fall maybe take them

corn mazes in the fall maybe take them

corn mazes in the fall maybe take them on a college visit and all the while you

on a college visit and all the while you

on a college visit and all the while you get to miss out on the late-night vomit

get to miss out on the late-night vomit

get to miss out on the late-night vomit fest full-on puberty and vetting those

fest full-on puberty and vetting those

fest full-on puberty and vetting those prom dates number six you could create

prom dates number six you could create

prom dates number six you could create your chosen family right you know those

your chosen family right you know those

your chosen family right you know those people that you want in your life that

people that you want in your life that

people that you want in your life that don’t all have to be biologically

don’t all have to be biologically

don’t all have to be biologically related it’s okay those people that you

related it’s okay those people that you

related it’s okay those people that you want sitting around the Thanksgiving

want sitting around the Thanksgiving

want sitting around the Thanksgiving table and

table and

table and front of a large juicy tofurkey seven

front of a large juicy tofurkey seven

front of a large juicy tofurkey seven consider limiting your child to just one

consider limiting your child to just one

consider limiting your child to just one birth child now if you start waffling on

birth child now if you start waffling on

birth child now if you start waffling on this one because you think I might have

this one because you think I might have

this one because you think I might have a tendency to raise a spoiled kid well

a tendency to raise a spoiled kid well

a tendency to raise a spoiled kid well find those aunties and uncles plan lots

find those aunties and uncles plan lots

find those aunties and uncles plan lots of playdates and maybe set up in an

of playdates and maybe set up in an

of playdates and maybe set up in an expensive rental kit program for your

expensive rental kit program for your

expensive rental kit program for your child-free fans that might work

child-free fans that might work

child-free fans that might work number eight last one consider adoption

number eight last one consider adoption

number eight last one consider adoption there are many ways that you could adopt

there are many ways that you could adopt

there are many ways that you could adopt via international adoption domestic

via international adoption domestic

via international adoption domestic adoption or foster care well I know this

adoption or foster care well I know this

adoption or foster care well I know this list might seem overwhelming to some of

list might seem overwhelming to some of

list might seem overwhelming to some of you but uh you know what I’m living

you but uh you know what I’m living

you but uh you know what I’m living proof that you can manifest something

proof that you can manifest something

proof that you can manifest something off of this list and I want to share

off of this list and I want to share

off of this list and I want to share briefly how it showed up in my life when

briefly how it showed up in my life when

briefly how it showed up in my life when I was a young adult I’d always kind of

I was a young adult I’d always kind of

I was a young adult I’d always kind of considered I might create my family

considered I might create my family

considered I might create my family through adoption then I met my husband

through adoption then I met my husband

through adoption then I met my husband and you know we took those trips on the

and you know we took those trips on the

and you know we took those trips on the bucket list and we had a lot of fun and

bucket list and we had a lot of fun and

bucket list and we had a lot of fun and by the time I got serious about a family

by the time I got serious about a family

by the time I got serious about a family as a mature couple in our late 30s my

as a mature couple in our late 30s my

as a mature couple in our late 30s my eggs were getting pretty tired and his

eggs were getting pretty tired and his

eggs were getting pretty tired and his sperm needed life preservers so after my

sperm needed life preservers so after my

sperm needed life preservers so after my husband’s common fears about adoption

husband’s common fears about adoption

husband’s common fears about adoption were demystified we don’t head long into

were demystified we don’t head long into

were demystified we don’t head long into our journey a brave thoughtful pregnant

our journey a brave thoughtful pregnant

our journey a brave thoughtful pregnant birth mother in our area made it an

birth mother in our area made it an

birth mother in our area made it an adoption plan and chose us to parent

even though we had met her and agreed

even though we had met her and agreed upon our open adoption plan we were

upon our open adoption plan we were

upon our open adoption plan we were still floored to get the call a month

still floored to get the call a month

still floored to get the call a month later that she had gone into labor and

later that she had gone into labor and

later that she had gone into labor and there we were

there we were

there we were a day later with this five-pound little

a day later with this five-pound little

a day later with this five-pound little bundle of joy and I could still recall

bundle of joy and I could still recall

bundle of joy and I could still recall crying uncontrollably as we left the

crying uncontrollably as we left the

crying uncontrollably as we left the hospital I’m trying to fathom what our

hospital I’m trying to fathom what our

hospital I’m trying to fathom what our birth mother was going through knowing

birth mother was going through knowing

birth mother was going through knowing that she’d made the best

that she’d made the best

that she’d made the best vision of her life at that time for

vision of her life at that time for

vision of her life at that time for herself and her child and that was

herself and her child and that was

herself and her child and that was really tough well a year later our child

really tough well a year later our child

really tough well a year later our child number two pro and con list written out

number two pro and con list written out

number two pro and con list written out and fully vetted by my scientist husband

and fully vetted by my scientist husband

and fully vetted by my scientist husband and I we decided we could dedicate our

and I we decided we could dedicate our

and I we decided we could dedicate our life to another tile with this

life to another tile with this

life to another tile with this international adoption we were gifted

international adoption we were gifted

international adoption we were gifted into our life a foster family a birth

into our life a foster family a birth

into our life a foster family a birth family and a 15 month old toddler to

family and a 15 month old toddler to

family and a 15 month old toddler to love amazing way to build a family yeah

love amazing way to build a family yeah

love amazing way to build a family yeah exhausting oh yeah

exhausting oh yeah

exhausting oh yeah transformative you bet yeah but you know

transformative you bet yeah but you know

transformative you bet yeah but you know I wouldn’t trade this in for anything

I wouldn’t trade this in for anything

I wouldn’t trade this in for anything different and things in life that are

different and things in life that are

different and things in life that are difficult and hard can be further

difficult and hard can be further

difficult and hard can be further supported when you’ve got a great

supported when you’ve got a great

supported when you’ve got a great partner and community around you and

partner and community around you and

partner and community around you and something like overpopulation population

something like overpopulation population

something like overpopulation population growth can be supported in a community

growth can be supported in a community

growth can be supported in a community so for a moment please close your eyes

so for a moment please close your eyes

so for a moment please close your eyes take a breath and consider what you

take a breath and consider what you

take a breath and consider what you would like for your future with your

would like for your future with your

would like for your future with your family think about freshwater lakes to

family think about freshwater lakes to

family think about freshwater lakes to swim in schools that have green spaces

swim in schools that have green spaces

swim in schools that have green spaces to play soccer in large mature majestic

to play soccer in large mature majestic

to play soccer in large mature majestic trees to gaze up at and fresh air to

trees to gaze up at and fresh air to

trees to gaze up at and fresh air to breathe now open your eyes and look at

breathe now open your eyes and look at

breathe now open your eyes and look at somebody to your right make eye contact

somebody to your right make eye contact

somebody to your right make eye contact with them feel the love because you know

with them feel the love because you know

with them feel the love because you know what these people are a part of your

what these people are a part of your

what these people are a part of your community and together our collective

community and together our collective

community and together our collective actions can make a big difference on

actions can make a big difference on

actions can make a big difference on this one planet with that we have so

this one planet with that we have so

this one planet with that we have so never underestimate the power that your

never underestimate the power that your

never underestimate the power that your actions can have one child at a time

actions can have one child at a time

actions can have one child at a time thank you

thank you

thank you [Applause]

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