thank you so I’ve been in Fairbanks about a couple years now and I’ve
about a couple years now and I’ve
about a couple years now and I’ve learned in that time I have a very
learned in that time I have a very
learned in that time I have a very common Fairbanks story I came here
common Fairbanks story I came here
common Fairbanks story I came here expecting to stay a short amount of time
expecting to stay a short amount of time
expecting to stay a short amount of time and I’m still here and I think I thought
and I’m still here and I think I thought
and I’m still here and I think I thought a lot about like what is it about this
a lot about like what is it about this
a lot about like what is it about this place that really draws us in because my
place that really draws us in because my
place that really draws us in because my story is not unique
story is not unique
story is not unique you know whenever anyone asks me I
you know whenever anyone asks me I
you know whenever anyone asks me I always say well it’s the people here
always say well it’s the people here
always say well it’s the people here they’re really nice but really what it
they’re really nice but really what it
they’re really nice but really what it is is the people the way that we show up
is is the people the way that we show up
is is the people the way that we show up for one another
for one another
for one another the way that we take care of each other
the way that we take care of each other
the way that we take care of each other here and I’ve seen that in so many
here and I’ve seen that in so many
here and I’ve seen that in so many different ways the first time I saw that
different ways the first time I saw that
different ways the first time I saw that was when my car broke down on the
was when my car broke down on the
was when my car broke down on the Johanson and people stopped I’ve had a
Johanson and people stopped I’ve had a
Johanson and people stopped I’ve had a moment of panic but people stopped and
moment of panic but people stopped and
moment of panic but people stopped and helped me push it off the road and I see
helped me push it off the road and I see
helped me push it off the road and I see it excuse me when tragedy happens and we
it excuse me when tragedy happens and we
it excuse me when tragedy happens and we show up we fundraise we bring food we
show up we fundraise we bring food we
show up we fundraise we bring food we show up for our neighbors and that’s
show up for our neighbors and that’s
show up for our neighbors and that’s been really important for me here
been really important for me here
been really important for me here because I’m so far from my family in
because I’m so far from my family in
because I’m so far from my family in Scotland and it makes me feel safe here
Scotland and it makes me feel safe here
Scotland and it makes me feel safe here I know if I go on a ditch and it’s 40
I know if I go on a ditch and it’s 40
I know if I go on a ditch and it’s 40 below
below
below probably someone will help me I know
probably someone will help me I know
probably someone will help me I know that if my house burns down like people
that if my house burns down like people
that if my house burns down like people will show up for me in whatever way they
will show up for me in whatever way they
will show up for me in whatever way they can it’s just what we do here and so
can it’s just what we do here and so
can it’s just what we do here and so it’s been a really hard truth for me to
it’s been a really hard truth for me to
it’s been a really hard truth for me to sit in that not everyone is safe here
sit in that not everyone is safe here
sit in that not everyone is safe here that there are people being hurt you
that there are people being hurt you
that there are people being hurt you know whether we’ve seen statistics that
know whether we’ve seen statistics that
know whether we’ve seen statistics that tell us that the rate of domestic
tell us that the rate of domestic
tell us that the rate of domestic violence and sexual assault in Alaska is
violence and sexual assault in Alaska is
violence and sexual assault in Alaska is the highest in the nation whether we
the highest in the nation whether we
the highest in the nation whether we have watched the news and seeing that
have watched the news and seeing that
have watched the news and seeing that there have been several domestic
there have been several domestic
there have been several domestic violence homicides in Fairbanks in the
violence homicides in Fairbanks in the
violence homicides in Fairbanks in the last six months whether it’s affected
last six months whether it’s affected
last six months whether it’s affected people we know and we love it’s here and
people we know and we love it’s here and
people we know and we love it’s here and so I know this community is made up of
so I know this community is made up of
so I know this community is made up of good people who want to do something
good people who want to do something
good people who want to do something about that we all want to be safe we
about that we all want to be safe we
about that we all want to be safe we want our name
want our name
want our name to be safe and so doing something about
to be safe and so doing something about
to be safe and so doing something about that can seem completely overwhelming
that can seem completely overwhelming
that can seem completely overwhelming can seem like that’s the job of other
can seem like that’s the job of other
can seem like that’s the job of other people but the reality is that there are
people but the reality is that there are
people but the reality is that there are people working tirelessly Anor shelters
people working tirelessly Anor shelters
people working tirelessly Anor shelters and our law enforcement in our legal
and our law enforcement in our legal
and our law enforcement in our legal system in our counseling centers they’re
system in our counseling centers they’re
system in our counseling centers they’re working tirelessly to address this
working tirelessly to address this
working tirelessly to address this problem and they can’t do it alone if
problem and they can’t do it alone if
problem and they can’t do it alone if they could do it alone it would be done
they could do it alone it would be done
they could do it alone it would be done I know they need us to pitch in and so
I know they need us to pitch in and so
I know they need us to pitch in and so that’s why I want to talk about today is
that’s why I want to talk about today is
that’s why I want to talk about today is ways that we can do that but first I
ways that we can do that but first I
ways that we can do that but first I want to acknowledge that it’s hard it
want to acknowledge that it’s hard it
want to acknowledge that it’s hard it can be hard to address violence in our
can be hard to address violence in our
can be hard to address violence in our community there are things that stop us
community there are things that stop us
community there are things that stop us and I’m going to call them barriers
and I’m going to call them barriers
and I’m going to call them barriers hopefully my clicker works I’m going to
hopefully my clicker works I’m going to
hopefully my clicker works I’m going to call them barriers but really they are
call them barriers but really they are
call them barriers but really they are our personal boundaries they are things
our personal boundaries they are things
our personal boundaries they are things that stop us intervening so for personal
that stop us intervening so for personal
that stop us intervening so for personal safety
safety
safety you know I if I’m not safe intervening
you know I if I’m not safe intervening
you know I if I’m not safe intervening and violence and I’m probably not going
and violence and I’m probably not going
and violence and I’m probably not going to if you know maybe I’m not sure what
to if you know maybe I’m not sure what
to if you know maybe I’m not sure what I’m seeing maybe I’m not sure if it’s my
I’m seeing maybe I’m not sure if it’s my
I’m seeing maybe I’m not sure if it’s my place to intervene in violence maybe I’m
place to intervene in violence maybe I’m
place to intervene in violence maybe I’m not sure if you know maybe it’s not my
not sure if you know maybe it’s not my
not sure if you know maybe it’s not my business to intervene I don’t know so
business to intervene I don’t know so
business to intervene I don’t know so things we come up against things you
things we come up against things you
things we come up against things you know when we get that feeling in our gut
know when we get that feeling in our gut
know when we get that feeling in our gut that tells us something is not right
that tells us something is not right
that tells us something is not right here
here
here there are things that stop us so we
there are things that stop us so we
there are things that stop us so we really want to have tools to address
really want to have tools to address
really want to have tools to address violence when we see it and so I’m going
violence when we see it and so I’m going
violence when we see it and so I’m going to talk about these tools I’m going to
to talk about these tools I’m going to
to talk about these tools I’m going to call on the 3ds which I apologize for
call on the 3ds which I apologize for
call on the 3ds which I apologize for the slides here but there are three DS
the slides here but there are three DS
the slides here but there are three DS and they’re the three DS are distract
and they’re the three DS are distract
and they’re the three DS are distract delegate and direct and so they’re tools
delegate and direct and so they’re tools
delegate and direct and so they’re tools for when you see violence and you want
for when you see violence and you want
for when you see violence and you want to do something what are you going to do
to do something what are you going to do
to do something what are you going to do and so direct it’s going to be I’m going
and so direct it’s going to be I’m going
and so direct it’s going to be I’m going to directly intervene maybe I see
to directly intervene maybe I see
to directly intervene maybe I see something I’m
something I’m
something I’m and about and I’m gonna go over and say
and about and I’m gonna go over and say
and about and I’m gonna go over and say like you know this making me
like you know this making me
like you know this making me uncomfortable or I’m gonna go over to a
uncomfortable or I’m gonna go over to a
uncomfortable or I’m gonna go over to a person I’m worried about and say just
person I’m worried about and say just
person I’m worried about and say just check in with them I’m gonna say do you
check in with them I’m gonna say do you
check in with them I’m gonna say do you need help
need help
need help but maybe I’m that’s not appropriate for
but maybe I’m that’s not appropriate for
but maybe I’m that’s not appropriate for me at that time so I’m gonna delegate
me at that time so I’m gonna delegate
me at that time so I’m gonna delegate and delegate is when I’m gonna ask for
and delegate is when I’m gonna ask for
and delegate is when I’m gonna ask for someone else to help me you know we can
someone else to help me you know we can
someone else to help me you know we can call 9-1-1 that’s a good delegate but we
call 9-1-1 that’s a good delegate but we
call 9-1-1 that’s a good delegate but we can also call law enforcement to check
can also call law enforcement to check
can also call law enforcement to check on someone we can also you know ask your
on someone we can also you know ask your
on someone we can also you know ask your pastor
pastor
pastor to check on someone for you you can also
to check on someone for you you can also
to check on someone for you you can also ask your neighbor or you know a
ask your neighbor or you know a
ask your neighbor or you know a bartender
bartender
bartender someone who might be able to intervene
someone who might be able to intervene
someone who might be able to intervene when you can or it’s not safe
when you can or it’s not safe
when you can or it’s not safe there’s also distract so distract is a
there’s also distract so distract is a
there’s also distract so distract is a way that we can address violence without
way that we can address violence without
way that we can address violence without really acknowledging it so perhaps I’m
really acknowledging it so perhaps I’m
really acknowledging it so perhaps I’m going to start a completely unrelated
going to start a completely unrelated
going to start a completely unrelated conversation when I see something
conversation when I see something
conversation when I see something perhaps I’m going to come in my car and
perhaps I’m going to come in my car and
perhaps I’m going to come in my car and I see something happening I could honk
I see something happening I could honk
I see something happening I could honk my horn really loudly something that
my horn really loudly something that
my horn really loudly something that just interrupts that moment of violence
just interrupts that moment of violence
just interrupts that moment of violence or potential violence when I see it and
or potential violence when I see it and
or potential violence when I see it and so these are going to be our reactive
so these are going to be our reactive
so these are going to be our reactive tools that we can equip herself with
tools that we can equip herself with
tools that we can equip herself with these tools to help keep our community
these tools to help keep our community
these tools to help keep our community safe but it’s not really enough you know
safe but it’s not really enough you know
safe but it’s not really enough you know we need to be addressing violence before
we need to be addressing violence before
we need to be addressing violence before it’s in front of us we need to really be
it’s in front of us we need to really be
it’s in front of us we need to really be proactive about addressing violence
proactive about addressing violence
proactive about addressing violence because when we’re proactive we’re
because when we’re proactive we’re
because when we’re proactive we’re telling the people around us that we
telling the people around us that we
telling the people around us that we don’t tolerate violence here and we get
don’t tolerate violence here and we get
don’t tolerate violence here and we get everyone to do their part so I’m going
everyone to do their part so I’m going
everyone to do their part so I’m going to throw out some ideas for ways that
to throw out some ideas for ways that
to throw out some ideas for ways that you can be involved in proactively
you can be involved in proactively
you can be involved in proactively addressing violence and I’m going to be
addressing violence and I’m going to be
addressing violence and I’m going to be outside during the break so please come
outside during the break so please come
outside during the break so please come talk to me about it if you want to
talk to me about it if you want to
talk to me about it if you want to follow up on any of these so we can
follow up on any of these so we can
follow up on any of these so we can start talking about violence normalize
start talking about violence normalize
start talking about violence normalize that conversation we can talk to our
that conversation we can talk to our
that conversation we can talk to our kids about healthy boundaries we can
kids about healthy boundaries we can
kids about healthy boundaries we can talk to our partners we can look at our
talk to our partners we can look at our
talk to our partners we can look at our own relationships and see if they’re
own relationships and see if they’re
own relationships and see if they’re healthy and if they’re not there are
healthy and if they’re not there are
healthy and if they’re not there are ways we can find out how
ways we can find out how
ways we can find out how to make them healthy we can get involved
to make them healthy we can get involved
to make them healthy we can get involved in violence prevention work there’s
in violence prevention work there’s
in violence prevention work there’s really cool things happening in this
really cool things happening in this
really cool things happening in this community that keep us safe get involved
community that keep us safe get involved
community that keep us safe get involved do something it gave you kind of a taste
do something it gave you kind of a taste
do something it gave you kind of a taste a little taste with our tools but take a
a little taste with our tools but take a
a little taste with our tools but take a greendot training there are ways that we
greendot training there are ways that we
greendot training there are ways that we can really look at those tools and how
can really look at those tools and how
can really look at those tools and how we’re going to intervene when we have an
we’re going to intervene when we have an
we’re going to intervene when we have an opportunity to do that come as a
opportunity to do that come as a
opportunity to do that come as a workplace come as a family you can come
workplace come as a family you can come
workplace come as a family you can come to community events there’s some really
to community events there’s some really
to community events there’s some really fun awareness events that your
fun awareness events that your
fun awareness events that your participation really shows the people
participation really shows the people
participation really shows the people around you that you that this matters to
around you that you that this matters to
around you that you that this matters to you and that you’re going to be a part
you and that you’re going to be a part
you and that you’re going to be a part of the solution in whatever way that you
of the solution in whatever way that you
of the solution in whatever way that you can you can know your resources that
can you can know your resources that
can you can know your resources that keep people safe in this community you
keep people safe in this community you
keep people safe in this community you can bring them with you bring them to
can bring them with you bring them to
can bring them with you bring them to your workplace bring them to your gym
your workplace bring them to your gym
your workplace bring them to your gym put them in the bathroom or the locker
put them in the bathroom or the locker
put them in the bathroom or the locker room at your gym so that people can ask
room at your gym so that people can ask
room at your gym so that people can ask for help if they need it
for help if they need it
for help if they need it no matter what you do make a personal
no matter what you do make a personal
no matter what you do make a personal commitment to do something because this
commitment to do something because this
commitment to do something because this work is going to take all of us it’s
work is going to take all of us it’s
work is going to take all of us it’s going to take me it’s going to take you
going to take me it’s going to take you
going to take me it’s going to take you so just do something whatever that makes
so just do something whatever that makes
so just do something whatever that makes sense for you thank
sense for you thank
sense for you thank [Applause]
you
you [Applause]
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