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Always keep the drive | NISREEN AHMED JAFFAR | TEDxMuscatWomen


it’s a great pleasure and honor to be

it’s a great pleasure and honor to be part of this platform and it’s it’s

part of this platform and it’s it’s

part of this platform and it’s it’s really overwhelming to see so many

really overwhelming to see so many

really overwhelming to see so many ladies around because I’m used to being

ladies around because I’m used to being

ladies around because I’m used to being the only lady speaker or let alone

the only lady speaker or let alone

the only lady speaker or let alone the only lady participant I’ll start by

the only lady participant I’ll start by

the only lady participant I’ll start by what bill already said I’m a consultant

what bill already said I’m a consultant

what bill already said I’m a consultant at a government organization by day and

at a government organization by day and

at a government organization by day and by night I’m a wife of a very supportive

by night I’m a wife of a very supportive

by night I’m a wife of a very supportive and loving husband who’s sitting right

and loving husband who’s sitting right

and loving husband who’s sitting right on the back and a mother of four

on the back and a mother of four

on the back and a mother of four children and a grandmother of a grand

children and a grandmother of a grand

children and a grandmother of a grand daughter all of which have been always

daughter all of which have been always

daughter all of which have been always inspiring to me I will share with you

inspiring to me I will share with you

inspiring to me I will share with you today perspectives of my professional

today perspectives of my professional

today perspectives of my professional and personal achievements with the hopes

and personal achievements with the hopes

and personal achievements with the hopes of inspiring you and leaving a positive

of inspiring you and leaving a positive

of inspiring you and leaving a positive footprint and I will start by quoting

footprint and I will start by quoting

footprint and I will start by quoting what is our leader His Majesty has said

what is our leader His Majesty has said

what is our leader His Majesty has said back in the early 90s very wisely said

back in the early 90s very wisely said

back in the early 90s very wisely said very simply said but this is what has

very simply said but this is what has

very simply said but this is what has shaped me how I feel and how I do with

shaped me how I feel and how I do with

shaped me how I feel and how I do with my work and with my life to execute

my work and with my life to execute

my work and with my life to execute women from playing meaningful roles in

women from playing meaningful roles in

women from playing meaningful roles in the life of their country amounted

the life of their country amounted

the life of their country amounted innocence to excluding half the

innocence to excluding half the

innocence to excluding half the country’s potential you can see there is

country’s potential you can see there is

country’s potential you can see there is a great determination of change and this

a great determination of change and this

a great determination of change and this has always inspired me the way I will do

has always inspired me the way I will do

has always inspired me the way I will do with my life my talk will be in

with my life my talk will be in

with my life my talk will be in spreading him in four milestones for

spreading him in four milestones for

spreading him in four milestones for turning over points that has helped

turning over points that has helped

turning over points that has helped shape me who I am today

shape me who I am today

shape me who I am today 19 18 1997 2013 2016 I’m sure you’ll

19 18 1997 2013 2016 I’m sure you’ll

19 18 1997 2013 2016 I’m sure you’ll agree we all go through stages and

agree we all go through stages and

agree we all go through stages and moments that shape us throughout our

moments that shape us throughout our

moments that shape us throughout our life and to me there these are the four

life and to me there these are the four

life and to me there these are the four stages that has shaped me 1990 before I

stages that has shaped me 1990 before I

stages that has shaped me 1990 before I get into the Year 1980 I was in Iraq and

get into the Year 1980 I was in Iraq and

get into the Year 1980 I was in Iraq and you may you may ask why in Iraq this is

you may you may ask why in Iraq this is

you may you may ask why in Iraq this is because my father has used to have

because my father has used to have

because my father has used to have asthma very sick but then you’re talking

asthma very sick but then you’re talking

asthma very sick but then you’re talking of early 50s and 60s where there’s no

of early 50s and 60s where there’s no

of early 50s and 60s where there’s no medical resources and this made things

medical resources and this made things

medical resources and this made things very difficult for him so he had to

very difficult for him so he had to

very difficult for him so he had to really create in a country where there

really create in a country where there

really create in a country where there is better facilities and also that

is better facilities and also that

is better facilities and also that shared

shared

shared language and caramel culture so he moved

language and caramel culture so he moved

language and caramel culture so he moved to Iraq made met my Woodman and my

to Iraq made met my Woodman and my

to Iraq made met my Woodman and my mother sorry who is within always

mother sorry who is within always

mother sorry who is within always inspiration to me and my sisters she was

inspiration to me and my sisters she was

inspiration to me and my sisters she was always pushing us to educate ourselves

always pushing us to educate ourselves

always pushing us to educate ourselves to be self dependent and sufficient and

to be self dependent and sufficient and

to be self dependent and sufficient and of course these ideals couldn’t have

of course these ideals couldn’t have

of course these ideals couldn’t have been more important especially if you

been more important especially if you

been more important especially if you know that my father passed away on an

know that my father passed away on an

know that my father passed away on an early age and she was all alone

early age and she was all alone

early age and she was all alone unemployed charming relatively young

unemployed charming relatively young

unemployed charming relatively young looking after seven children wherein she

looking after seven children wherein she

looking after seven children wherein she has to educate she has to bath she has

has to educate she has to bath she has

has to educate she has to bath she has to look after and it was a during the

to look after and it was a during the

to look after and it was a during the first Gulf War as at its worst firstly

first Gulf War as at its worst firstly

first Gulf War as at its worst firstly unfortunately we lost our mother fuel a

unfortunately we lost our mother fuel a

unfortunately we lost our mother fuel a few years later but her perseverance her

few years later but her perseverance her

few years later but her perseverance her strength continue to echo through us so

strength continue to echo through us so

strength continue to echo through us so back to 1980 I decided to study

back to 1980 I decided to study

back to 1980 I decided to study petroleum and minerals engineering and

petroleum and minerals engineering and

petroleum and minerals engineering and this you might be puzzled why petroleum

this you might be puzzled why petroleum

this you might be puzzled why petroleum engineering especially if you know that

engineering especially if you know that

engineering especially if you know that math was my weakest subject and I used

math was my weakest subject and I used

math was my weakest subject and I used to tell my family my sisters I would

to tell my family my sisters I would

to tell my family my sisters I would never go near a career where it has the

never go near a career where it has the

never go near a career where it has the slightest relation to math and look at

slightest relation to math and look at

slightest relation to math and look at me I study engineering which is another

me I study engineering which is another

me I study engineering which is another word for math we all agree but because

word for math we all agree but because

word for math we all agree but because it was my motto I always challenge

it was my motto I always challenge

it was my motto I always challenge myself so I studied petroleum

myself so I studied petroleum

myself so I studied petroleum engineering why because I thought this

engineering why because I thought this

engineering why because I thought this was very little what I can do to the

was very little what I can do to the

was very little what I can do to the country too as a payback because it’s

country too as a payback because it’s

country too as a payback because it’s that has willingly sponsored my studies

that has willingly sponsored my studies

that has willingly sponsored my studies and so this is the little thing I can do

and so this is the little thing I can do

and so this is the little thing I can do and also because it was and it still is

and also because it was and it still is

and also because it was and it still is economic economically dependent on oil

economic economically dependent on oil

economic economically dependent on oil and the highest contributor to our GDP

and the highest contributor to our GDP

and the highest contributor to our GDP ok so back to take my certificate 1980

ok so back to take my certificate 1980

ok so back to take my certificate 1980 and I was the first lady petroleum

and I was the first lady petroleum

and I was the first lady petroleum engineer in Oman

actually I was among the very few

actually I was among the very few University graduates back then in 1980

University graduates back then in 1980

University graduates back then in 1980 so I take my certificate I check my

so I take my certificate I check my

so I take my certificate I check my papers to the concerned Ministry and I

papers to the concerned Ministry and I

papers to the concerned Ministry and I need to be the person in charge of

need to be the person in charge of

need to be the person in charge of employees affairs

employees affairs

employees affairs looking for a job and he takes my papers

looking for a job and he takes my papers

looking for a job and he takes my papers without even looking at them placing

without even looking at them placing

without even looking at them placing them in the drawer and he says you can

them in the drawer and he says you can

them in the drawer and he says you can start right away I wish things were that

start right away I wish things were that

start right away I wish things were that easy right now okay so I go to this

easy right now okay so I go to this

easy right now okay so I go to this ministry and then they sent me for a

ministry and then they sent me for a

ministry and then they sent me for a petroleum company for training and that

petroleum company for training and that

petroleum company for training and that this petroleum company was predominantly

this petroleum company was predominantly

this petroleum company was predominantly males predominantly expats and I

males predominantly expats and I

males predominantly expats and I remember the looks they were giving me

remember the looks they were giving me

remember the looks they were giving me what is she doing here and the language

what is she doing here and the language

what is she doing here and the language of communication was English and you can

of communication was English and you can

of communication was English and you can see them here all men and the the men

see them here all men and the the men

see them here all men and the the men language of communication was English

language of communication was English

language of communication was English and this was a great problem for me but

and this was a great problem for me but

and this was a great problem for me but I didn’t shy away I insisted on learning

I didn’t shy away I insisted on learning

I didn’t shy away I insisted on learning the languages speaking the language and

the languages speaking the language and

the languages speaking the language and making so many embarrassing mistakes

making so many embarrassing mistakes

making so many embarrassing mistakes believe me but I insisted because after

believe me but I insisted because after

believe me but I insisted because after all practice makes it perfect and this

all practice makes it perfect and this

all practice makes it perfect and this went on until the night the year 1986

went on until the night the year 1986

went on until the night the year 1986 where I felt I was pursuing a career

where I felt I was pursuing a career

where I felt I was pursuing a career that didn’t make me happy being the

that didn’t make me happy being the

that didn’t make me happy being the first lady engineer has come up with

first lady engineer has come up with

first lady engineer has come up with many challenges professionally and

many challenges professionally and

many challenges professionally and personally and I couldn’t pursue

personally and I couldn’t pursue

personally and I couldn’t pursue something that didn’t make me happy so I

something that didn’t make me happy so I

something that didn’t make me happy so I resigned and this was when I realized my

resigned and this was when I realized my

resigned and this was when I realized my first milestone dealing with change life

first milestone dealing with change life

first milestone dealing with change life doesn’t go the way you plan it and I

doesn’t go the way you plan it and I

doesn’t go the way you plan it and I remember my mother used to tell us if

remember my mother used to tell us if

remember my mother used to tell us if you face a curveball in your life you

you face a curveball in your life you

you face a curveball in your life you must be always flexible embrace change

must be always flexible embrace change

must be always flexible embrace change and be optimistic so I chose another

and be optimistic so I chose another

and be optimistic so I chose another path a path of motherhood for the next

path a path of motherhood for the next

path a path of motherhood for the next 11

11

11 years about much admire and appreciate

years about much admire and appreciate

years about much admire and appreciate so I became a I took this path for I

so I became a I took this path for I

so I became a I took this path for I said the next 11 years but then my

said the next 11 years but then my

said the next 11 years but then my passion my thrill for self-development

passion my thrill for self-development

passion my thrill for self-development never stopped don’t get me wrong

never stopped don’t get me wrong

never stopped don’t get me wrong motherhood is a full-time job it’s quite

motherhood is a full-time job it’s quite

motherhood is a full-time job it’s quite rewarding but I always missed the the

rewarding but I always missed the the

rewarding but I always missed the the thrill of being part of the professional

thrill of being part of the professional

thrill of being part of the professional life that’s why I kept on doing studies

life that’s why I kept on doing studies

life that’s why I kept on doing studies helping women my husband with partner

helping women my husband with partner

helping women my husband with partner with his work in part-time job until the

with his work in part-time job until the

with his work in part-time job until the year 1997 this is when my youngest was

year 1997 this is when my youngest was

year 1997 this is when my youngest was sitting right there please your

sitting right there please your

sitting right there please your restaurant this is when she reached the

restaurant this is when she reached the

restaurant this is when she reached the age of five and this is when I felt it

age of five and this is when I felt it

age of five and this is when I felt it is the right time to go back to a

is the right time to go back to a

is the right time to go back to a full-time job so I was looking enough to

full-time job so I was looking enough to

full-time job so I was looking enough to be employed by the same government

be employed by the same government

be employed by the same government organization that I still worked for and

organization that I still worked for and

organization that I still worked for and I joined on their starting year so we

I joined on their starting year so we

I joined on their starting year so we literally grow up together but then

literally grow up together but then

literally grow up together but then being away from the professional life

being away from the professional life

being away from the professional life again I had to restructure my thinking I

again I had to restructure my thinking I

again I had to restructure my thinking I had to adopt to the technology shift

had to adopt to the technology shift

had to adopt to the technology shift back then which is nothing like now took

back then which is nothing like now took

back then which is nothing like now took over my job survival so I went to the

over my job survival so I went to the

over my job survival so I went to the organization and believe me when I was

organization and believe me when I was

organization and believe me when I was requested for the first time to address

requested for the first time to address

requested for the first time to address an international delegation I was

an international delegation I was

an international delegation I was shivering like this I I didn’t have any

shivering like this I I didn’t have any

shivering like this I I didn’t have any public speaking skills and lots and lots

public speaking skills and lots and lots

public speaking skills and lots and lots of insecurities but then I did it and I

of insecurities but then I did it and I

of insecurities but then I did it and I still do it I’ve engaged myself in so

still do it I’ve engaged myself in so

still do it I’ve engaged myself in so many workshops training courses seminars

many workshops training courses seminars

many workshops training courses seminars that will add on to my skill set and but

that will add on to my skill set and but

that will add on to my skill set and but then again in 2001 I felt this is not

then again in 2001 I felt this is not

then again in 2001 I felt this is not enough I need to challenge myself with

enough I need to challenge myself with

enough I need to challenge myself with something more and capacity building is

something more and capacity building is

something more and capacity building is a requirement especially when you’re

a requirement especially when you’re

a requirement especially when you’re Roman Olin so I decided to do Masters in

Roman Olin so I decided to do Masters in

Roman Olin so I decided to do Masters in Business Administration very different

Business Administration very different

Business Administration very different from what I studied in university and

from what I studied in university and

from what I studied in university and feels like modules like organizational

feels like modules like organizational

feels like modules like organizational learning scenario planning ecommerce and

learning scenario planning ecommerce and

learning scenario planning ecommerce and all taught in British curriculum which

all taught in British curriculum which

all taught in British curriculum which is again not familiar with me and to add

is again not familiar with me and to add

is again not familiar with me and to add on to it I did it during the worst

on to it I did it during the worst

on to it I did it during the worst personal conditions you can think of my

personal conditions you can think of my

personal conditions you can think of my husband wasn’t around I had and I had a

husband wasn’t around I had and I had a

husband wasn’t around I had and I had a finance instability and I had to look

finance instability and I had to look

finance instability and I had to look after my four children in addition to my

after my four children in addition to my

after my four children in addition to my degree and I was lucky enough that my my

degree and I was lucky enough that my my

degree and I was lucky enough that my my organisation offered me a sabbatical

organisation offered me a sabbatical

organisation offered me a sabbatical leave for two years and this is where I

leave for two years and this is where I

leave for two years and this is where I realized oh here you can see me publicly

realized oh here you can see me publicly

realized oh here you can see me publicly attribute by one of the very famous

attribute by one of the very famous

attribute by one of the very famous journalists in Brussels this is how

journalists in Brussels this is how

journalists in Brussels this is how training over and over made me and this

training over and over made me and this

training over and over made me and this is how I’m here in front of your

is how I’m here in front of your

is how I’m here in front of your speaking and my second milestone was

speaking and my second milestone was

speaking and my second milestone was realising my inner strength working out

realising my inner strength working out

realising my inner strength working out of my comfort zone and it’s paid off

of my comfort zone and it’s paid off

of my comfort zone and it’s paid off because I got a distinction for my

because I got a distinction for my

because I got a distinction for my thesis which was about introducing

thesis which was about introducing

thesis which was about introducing linearization into our exporting

linearization into our exporting

linearization into our exporting industries in 2013 this is where I

industries in 2013 this is where I

industries in 2013 this is where I reached my third milestone when my

reached my third milestone when my

reached my third milestone when my second son has graduated from leading

second son has graduated from leading

second son has graduated from leading University in the United States and he

University in the United States and he

University in the United States and he is now working for a reputed company as

is now working for a reputed company as

is now working for a reputed company as an electrical engineer this is where my

an electrical engineer this is where my

an electrical engineer this is where my third milestone is feeling of

third milestone is feeling of

third milestone is feeling of contentment an accomplishment that I

contentment an accomplishment that I

contentment an accomplishment that I have guided them to the best that they

have guided them to the best that they

have guided them to the best that they desire they deserve in life and I felt

desire they deserve in life and I felt

desire they deserve in life and I felt how my mother must have felt about us

how my mother must have felt about us

how my mother must have felt about us and this is him

[Applause]

[Applause] and then takes me to 2016 last but not

and then takes me to 2016 last but not

and then takes me to 2016 last but not least becoming a grandmother of a

least becoming a grandmother of a

least becoming a grandmother of a granddaughter which is a fear many women

granddaughter which is a fear many women

granddaughter which is a fear many women has but believe me embracing my age

has but believe me embracing my age

has but believe me embracing my age embracing my future my achievement

embracing my future my achievement

embracing my future my achievement through her eyes was a great eye opener

through her eyes was a great eye opener

through her eyes was a great eye opener and pleasing at once that’s her

and pleasing at once that’s her

and pleasing at once that’s her so as a takeaway message for you I must

so as a takeaway message for you I must

so as a takeaway message for you I must say that every one of us goes through

say that every one of us goes through

say that every one of us goes through challenges day by day challenge one

challenges day by day challenge one

challenges day by day challenge one after the other but we must always

after the other but we must always

after the other but we must always always learn to grow to rise to

always learn to grow to rise to

always learn to grow to rise to accommodate change and be optimistic and

accommodate change and be optimistic and

accommodate change and be optimistic and I would like to close and conclude by

I would like to close and conclude by

I would like to close and conclude by quoting what by what mr. Karl potion has

quoting what by what mr. Karl potion has

quoting what by what mr. Karl potion has said in one of the TED talks because his

said in one of the TED talks because his

said in one of the TED talks because his expresses excel is exactly what I want

expresses excel is exactly what I want

expresses excel is exactly what I want to achieve by this participation he said

to achieve by this participation he said

to achieve by this participation he said people might forget what you said but

people might forget what you said but

people might forget what you said but they will never forget how you made them

they will never forget how you made them

they will never forget how you made them feel so I hope if my words didn’t

feel so I hope if my words didn’t

feel so I hope if my words didn’t resonate with you the emotion does thank

resonate with you the emotion does thank

resonate with you the emotion does thank you

you

you [Applause]

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