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Achieve Your Visions and Dreams | J.Mathias Bennett | TEDxINPT


okay can you hear me okay

okay can you hear me okay yeah okay so what would it be like if

yeah okay so what would it be like if

yeah okay so what would it be like if you had if you knew you had what you

you had if you knew you had what you

you had if you knew you had what you truly need it in every moment to be able

truly need it in every moment to be able

truly need it in every moment to be able to complete your visions and dreams what

to complete your visions and dreams what

to complete your visions and dreams what would you think what would you do who

would you think what would you do who

would you think what would you do who would you be

my name is Mathias my background is in

my name is Mathias my background is in technology and web development I have a

technology and web development I have a

technology and web development I have a background in and also as a venture

background in and also as a venture

background in and also as a venture partner and I spent four years at Yale

partner and I spent four years at Yale

partner and I spent four years at Yale University and in 2012 I left it all

University and in 2012 I left it all

University and in 2012 I left it all behind I asked myself what do I truly

behind I asked myself what do I truly

behind I asked myself what do I truly need to be a happy human and so I I

need to be a happy human and so I I

need to be a happy human and so I I moved to an island off the Pacific coast

moved to an island off the Pacific coast

moved to an island off the Pacific coast of the United States to find out if you

of the United States to find out if you

of the United States to find out if you can go to

so so in the next slide please

so so in the next slide please okay so I ask myself well what do I

okay so I ask myself well what do I

okay so I ask myself well what do I truly need and and and what was

truly need and and and what was

truly need and and and what was preventing me from being able to ask

preventing me from being able to ask

preventing me from being able to ask what what I truly needed to be able to

what what I truly needed to be able to

what what I truly needed to be able to achieve my visions and and dreams and

achieve my visions and and dreams and

achieve my visions and and dreams and goals what’s what’s stopping me so I

goals what’s what’s stopping me so I

goals what’s what’s stopping me so I actually won one day I am I was on the

actually won one day I am I was on the

actually won one day I am I was on the land and I

land and I

land and I I even despite a pre-arranged agreement

I even despite a pre-arranged agreement

I even despite a pre-arranged agreement to be able to you know do work trade for

to be able to you know do work trade for

to be able to you know do work trade for food I felt uncomfortable asking even

food I felt uncomfortable asking even

food I felt uncomfortable asking even for you know a piece of bread for a

for you know a piece of bread for a

for you know a piece of bread for a friend of mine in his land I was on in

friend of mine in his land I was on in

friend of mine in his land I was on in our our the main kitchen was in here

our our the main kitchen was in here

our our the main kitchen was in here shared in her home because I was on if I

shared in her home because I was on if I

shared in her home because I was on if I was I didn’t want to inconvenience her

was I didn’t want to inconvenience her

was I didn’t want to inconvenience her and I thought you know I’ve had the

and I thought you know I’ve had the

and I thought you know I’ve had the experience that I’ve had if if this

experience that I’ve had if if this

experience that I’ve had if if this happened was something this small well

happened was something this small well

happened was something this small well this must not just be an issue that’s

this must not just be an issue that’s

this must not just be an issue that’s that’s with me so if you go back a

that’s with me so if you go back a

that’s with me so if you go back a couple of slides the there was a recent

couple of slides the there was a recent

couple of slides the there was a recent study in 2015 that looked at the death

study in 2015 that looked at the death

study in 2015 that looked at the death rates of middle of white Americans

rates of middle of white Americans

rates of middle of white Americans between ages 45 to 54 from from drugs

between ages 45 to 54 from from drugs

between ages 45 to 54 from from drugs from alcohol and suicide and they

from alcohol and suicide and they

from alcohol and suicide and they and basically it it the rates of those

and basically it it the rates of those

and basically it it the rates of those tests actually increased a half

tests actually increased a half

tests actually increased a half percentage from 2000 to 2014

percentage from 2000 to 2014

percentage from 2000 to 2014 even and it actually surpassed the death

even and it actually surpassed the death

even and it actually surpassed the death rates of african-american African

rates of african-american African

rates of african-american African Americans in that age group so why is

Americans in that age group so why is

Americans in that age group so why is this important well there is a lady by

this important well there is a lady by

this important well there is a lady by the name of a lady by the name of

the name of a lady by the name of

the name of a lady by the name of grenade round a few several slides back

grenade round a few several slides back

grenade round a few several slides back who who is a researcher in University of

who who is a researcher in University of

who who is a researcher in University of Houston and she’s been studying shame

Houston and she’s been studying shame

Houston and she’s been studying shame and vulnerability for 20 years and her

and vulnerability for 20 years and her

and vulnerability for 20 years and her TED talk the power of vulnerability has

TED talk the power of vulnerability has

TED talk the power of vulnerability has been seen now over twenty nine million

been seen now over twenty nine million

been seen now over twenty nine million times and what she found out is that

times and what she found out is that

times and what she found out is that vulnerability is required for connection

vulnerability is required for connection

vulnerability is required for connection so back back on the island after

so back back on the island after

so back back on the island after trimming some bamboo and having what

trimming some bamboo and having what

trimming some bamboo and having what turns out to be a tasty piece of

turns out to be a tasty piece of

turns out to be a tasty piece of whole-grain bread yeah I did muster up

whole-grain bread yeah I did muster up

whole-grain bread yeah I did muster up the courage to ask for it I thought well

the courage to ask for it I thought well

the courage to ask for it I thought well you know what is it true need and then

you know what is it true need and then

you know what is it true need and then what came through was a true need is

what came through was a true need is

what came through was a true need is simply that which is required for a

simply that which is required for a

simply that which is required for a satisfying life and that which is

satisfying life and that which is

satisfying life and that which is required to understand and to use your

required to understand and to use your

required to understand and to use your full

full

full potential so I knew this had to do with

potential so I knew this had to do with

potential so I knew this had to do with leadership somehow I asked myself you

leadership somehow I asked myself you

leadership somehow I asked myself you know what connect the great leaders of

know what connect the great leaders of

know what connect the great leaders of all time people like Mahatma Gandhi

all time people like Mahatma Gandhi

all time people like Mahatma Gandhi Martin Luther King Nelson Mandela or

Martin Luther King Nelson Mandela or

Martin Luther King Nelson Mandela or even you know modern day business

even you know modern day business

even you know modern day business leaders like Oprah Winfrey or Richard

leaders like Oprah Winfrey or Richard

leaders like Oprah Winfrey or Richard Branson or Elon Musk

Branson or Elon Musk

Branson or Elon Musk but more importantly what is the thing

but more importantly what is the thing

but more importantly what is the thing that each of us can do to embody that

that each of us can do to embody that

that each of us can do to embody that sense of leadership – so then I see this

sense of leadership – so then I see this

sense of leadership – so then I see this distinction a definition of a true

distinction a definition of a true

distinction a definition of a true leader which I shared in the workshop in

leader which I shared in the workshop in

leader which I shared in the workshop in the spring of 2013 there was a retired

the spring of 2013 there was a retired

the spring of 2013 there was a retired Army commander named Gregory stone that

Army commander named Gregory stone that

Army commander named Gregory stone that was present and he appreciated what I

was present and he appreciated what I

was present and he appreciated what I had to say I however I did not expect

had to say I however I did not expect

had to say I however I did not expect him to stand up in front of 250 leaders

him to stand up in front of 250 leaders

him to stand up in front of 250 leaders at the closing ceremony of that weekend

at the closing ceremony of that weekend

at the closing ceremony of that weekend gathering

gathering

gathering and said in Chariton that I would put

and said in Chariton that I would put

and said in Chariton that I would put mathias definition of a true leader on

mathias definition of a true leader on

mathias definition of a true leader on page 1 of the army manual and I was

page 1 of the army manual and I was

page 1 of the army manual and I was floored because and this was really

floored because and this was really

floored because and this was really important because to me this signified

important because to me this signified

important because to me this signified is that this was tapping into something

is that this was tapping into something

is that this was tapping into something more universal here I was a kind of a

more universal here I was a kind of a

more universal here I was a kind of a tech technical mystic type guy and this

tech technical mystic type guy and this

tech technical mystic type guy and this message resonated with a leader

message resonated with a leader

message resonated with a leader seemingly on the other end of the scale

seemingly on the other end of the scale

seemingly on the other end of the scale or the spectrum so if you’re ready to

or the spectrum so if you’re ready to

or the spectrum so if you’re ready to write here it is the definition of a

write here it is the definition of a

write here it is the definition of a true leaders that came to me is simply

true leaders that came to me is simply

true leaders that came to me is simply next slide someone who is authentically

next slide someone who is authentically

next slide someone who is authentically aligned with themselves there we go

aligned with themselves there we go

aligned with themselves there we go someone who has a vision and someone who

someone who has a vision and someone who

someone who has a vision and someone who knows what they truly need and is able

knows what they truly need and is able

knows what they truly need and is able to ask for it and receive from both

to ask for it and receive from both

to ask for it and receive from both themselves and others

so January 13 2013 I woke up cold

so January 13 2013 I woke up cold freezing my tent I’ve been in a year for

freezing my tent I’ve been in a year for

freezing my tent I’ve been in a year for had mold it out and I realized I had

had mold it out and I realized I had

had mold it out and I realized I had been a hypocrite

been a hypocrite

been a hypocrite I hadn’t really told anybody I had slept

I hadn’t really told anybody I had slept

I hadn’t really told anybody I had slept in a tent for a year I mean why would

in a tent for a year I mean why would

in a tent for a year I mean why would people think

people think

people think right but more importantly more

right but more importantly more

right but more importantly more importantly I hadn’t asked for what I

importantly I hadn’t asked for what I

importantly I hadn’t asked for what I truly needed and so one agonizing

truly needed and so one agonizing

truly needed and so one agonizing blogpost later I did and I was really

blogpost later I did and I was really

blogpost later I did and I was really floored by the response from different

floored by the response from different

floored by the response from different friends on social media

friends on social media

friends on social media and one of those responses actually

and one of those responses actually

and one of those responses actually included an offer for a new tent go

included an offer for a new tent go

included an offer for a new tent go figure

figure

figure so you know I was clear that at that

so you know I was clear that at that

so you know I was clear that at that point I needed to take these principles

point I needed to take these principles

point I needed to take these principles and embody them myself

and embody them myself

and embody them myself first before I would share them in the

first before I would share them in the

first before I would share them in the rest of the rest of the world so I did I

rest of the rest of the world so I did I

rest of the rest of the world so I did I you could say I took risks I put my

you could say I took risks I put my

you could say I took risks I put my reputation on the line and I was

reputation on the line and I was

reputation on the line and I was unreasonable with myself and others in

unreasonable with myself and others in

unreasonable with myself and others in my requests I was able to crowdfund my

my requests I was able to crowdfund my

my requests I was able to crowdfund my way from the northwest to the southwest

way from the northwest to the southwest

way from the northwest to the southwest and I tell you miracle

and I tell you miracle

and I tell you miracle happened which I sheriff out in my

happened which I sheriff out in my

happened which I sheriff out in my upcoming memoir about this time which

upcoming memoir about this time which

upcoming memoir about this time which would be available later on this year so

would be available later on this year so

would be available later on this year so I made it across the desert from the

I made it across the desert from the

I made it across the desert from the southwest to San Diego I gave my last

southwest to San Diego I gave my last

southwest to San Diego I gave my last three dollars on an offering plate and

three dollars on an offering plate and

three dollars on an offering plate and ended up penniless on the beach that was

ended up penniless on the beach that was

ended up penniless on the beach that was actually a hundred and forty four days

actually a hundred and forty four days

actually a hundred and forty four days later exactly as I found out looking

later exactly as I found out looking

later exactly as I found out looking back to when I woke up from the you know

back to when I woke up from the you know

back to when I woke up from the you know freezing on the island intent and

freezing on the island intent and

freezing on the island intent and through that experience I really had the

through that experience I really had the

through that experience I really had the visceral knowledge of hat that I had

visceral knowledge of hat that I had

visceral knowledge of hat that I had what I truly needed in every moment to

what I truly needed in every moment to

what I truly needed in every moment to fulfill my visions and dreams even when

fulfill my visions and dreams even when

fulfill my visions and dreams even when it felt the hardest maybe if maybe

it felt the hardest maybe if maybe

it felt the hardest maybe if maybe you’ve felt something like that too

you’ve felt something like that too

you’ve felt something like that too so the next day I woke up and I actually

so the next day I woke up and I actually

so the next day I woke up and I actually received my first Swiss client so you

received my first Swiss client so you

received my first Swiss client so you may know I have actually been here in

may know I have actually been here in

may know I have actually been here in Morocco for based here for over a year

Morocco for based here for over a year

Morocco for based here for over a year now I’ve had the opportunity to support

now I’ve had the opportunity to support

now I’ve had the opportunity to support you know leaders and young entrepreneurs

you know leaders and young entrepreneurs

you know leaders and young entrepreneurs of in open innovation worked with

of in open innovation worked with

of in open innovation worked with companies like cih Bank and Lee deck and

companies like cih Bank and Lee deck and

companies like cih Bank and Lee deck and HPS and I’ve shared this message in

HPS and I’ve shared this message in

HPS and I’ve shared this message in various forums and I’m really really

various forums and I’m really really

various forums and I’m really really grateful that it has

grateful that it has

grateful that it has well received you know there’s an

well received you know there’s an

well received you know there’s an interesting connection with with Arabic

interesting connection with with Arabic

interesting connection with with Arabic actually I was on the train for a

actually I was on the train for a

actually I was on the train for a Marrakech to Casablanca and I met a new

Marrakech to Casablanca and I met a new

Marrakech to Casablanca and I met a new friend his name is Mabuse Hadi he was a

friend his name is Mabuse Hadi he was a

friend his name is Mabuse Hadi he was a communication lecturer at Edinburgh

communication lecturer at Edinburgh

communication lecturer at Edinburgh University for many years and he was

University for many years and he was

University for many years and he was sharing with me about the meanings of

sharing with me about the meanings of

sharing with me about the meanings of sounds of the letters in Arabic so don’t

sounds of the letters in Arabic so don’t

sounds of the letters in Arabic so don’t take what I’m about to say is true just

take what I’m about to say is true just

take what I’m about to say is true just take it like it might be useful cook go

take it like it might be useful cook go

take it like it might be useful cook go back is life so you know we were talking

back is life so you know we were talking

back is life so you know we were talking about the letter O and really this is

about the letter O and really this is

about the letter O and really this is it’s like this in a way this sound this

it’s like this in a way this sound this

it’s like this in a way this sound this vibration communicates this energy of

vibration communicates this energy of

vibration communicates this energy of intense emotion which requires

intense emotion which requires

intense emotion which requires vulnerability you could also say it

vulnerability you could also say it

vulnerability you could also say it might be more feminine and then he

might be more feminine and then he

might be more feminine and then he shared about the letter Cobb which

shared about the letter Cobb which

shared about the letter Cobb which really communicates the energy of power

really communicates the energy of power

really communicates the energy of power or confidence and you could say a more

or confidence and you could say a more

or confidence and you could say a more masculine energy next slide so what

masculine energy next slide so what

masculine energy next slide so what happens when you put those together you

happens when you put those together you

happens when you put those together you get Hawk the right or truth and if you

get Hawk the right or truth and if you

get Hawk the right or truth and if you flip them around you get ha

flip them around you get ha

flip them around you get ha sense of purity or originality so I just

sense of purity or originality so I just

sense of purity or originality so I just got back from Dakar is my first time I

got back from Dakar is my first time I

got back from Dakar is my first time I attended a I was invited to attend a

attended a I was invited to attend a

attended a I was invited to attend a Sufi gathering of the tiga Nia

Sufi gathering of the tiga Nia

Sufi gathering of the tiga Nia Brotherhood or terra-cotta Jenny M and

Brotherhood or terra-cotta Jenny M and

Brotherhood or terra-cotta Jenny M and that despite cultural differences I was

that despite cultural differences I was

that despite cultural differences I was able to make make fast friends and was

able to make make fast friends and was

able to make make fast friends and was really grateful to sit in on forums and

really grateful to sit in on forums and

really grateful to sit in on forums and conversations where where where the

conversations where where where the

conversations where where where the conversation was about how to integrate

conversation was about how to integrate

conversation was about how to integrate things like art like creativity like

things like art like creativity like

things like art like creativity like entrepreneurship like the awareness of

entrepreneurship like the awareness of

entrepreneurship like the awareness of the environment to create a positive

the environment to create a positive

the environment to create a positive message for you in contrast to religious

message for you in contrast to religious

message for you in contrast to religious extremism

so regardless of who you are where you

so regardless of who you are where you live or what you believe what would it

live or what you believe what would it

live or what you believe what would it be like if you had what you if you knew

be like if you had what you if you knew

be like if you had what you if you knew you had what you truly needed in every

you had what you truly needed in every

you had what you truly needed in every moment to achieve your visions and

moment to achieve your visions and

moment to achieve your visions and dreams what what if a hundred million

dreams what what if a hundred million

dreams what what if a hundred million people heard this message what if just 1

people heard this message what if just 1

people heard this message what if just 1 million people committed to doing their

million people committed to doing their

million people committed to doing their best to live by these principles you

know what would happen if you committed

know what would happen if you committed to leading your own life with confident

to leading your own life with confident

to leading your own life with confident vulnerability as an example for your

vulnerability as an example for your

vulnerability as an example for your family your business your country and

family your business your country and

family your business your country and the leaders of the world

let’s walk together share this message

let’s walk together share this message and let’s find out

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